We need to talk about MEN

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Okay, so we need to talk about men. Specifically how men interact with women in an excruciatingly binary way. And I don’t mean the percentage of men who are openly toxic and misogynist, I am talking about the misogyny that sort of routinely slips through the cracks without the man even being aware of it, and to be fair often without the woman noticing it either. One interesting aspect of having so many people giving me their reaction on me is that i get to see trends and patterns, almost sort of like a focus study or a small scale survey with feedback on me from just a whole lot of people.
I talk about:
- comments from men
- comments from women
- how i deal with misogyny
- mansplaining
- why men only consume content by men
- how men and women relate to each other
- romance books
- internalised sexism
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[@timp1389]

“Man, can you learn the basic skill of staying quiet” 👏 👏 👏

[@mirianakovachevic748]

Because women are quiet all the time😂 They never even talk😂

[@thebonniewong]

And to LISTEN. Not just listen for a rebuttal, but to actually hear what we are saying from our perspective...

[@blumenkranz-pb1gq]

it's an elegant way to say to shut up and i love it

[@TheDavidMustard]

is this video about me?

[@cathyjoy9214]

hahahaha ....... not from what I've seen in videos 🥰

[@JulieElisabethSinclair]

DAVID NOT YOU hahaha

[@MiraMistASMR]

Omg shut up

[@nelsannie]

Definitely

[@thereversepolarbear]

Haha

[@sophianachtigall3598]

I felt this, in my bones. I happen to be an expert in engineering- almost exclusively a male niche. And I also happen to be a woman interested in fashion. I got so many “advices” to tone down my appearance and fashion choices so my engineering expertise would not be judged based on my look. I am not dressed vulgar, or inappropriate. I am just dressed as a lady. But, apparently, if I plan to be “smart as man”, I also need to look like one.

[@blufaerie]

Same re:engineering…

[@Jamhael1]

As a man, I want to offer advice - and please, don't take this as demeaning or looking down in your job, just comraderie: Is not the matter of you "needing" for you to "not been seen as only pretty", or man wanting you to make "less feminine", it is just the matter that the job is that, in this type of jobs (Engineering, IT, and others of its kind) the important point to focus is the work itself - your appearence will be the LEAST important aspect in such field. And the demand for "proof of competence" is simply part of the job, and not simply because of gender (check how a newly hired person will be treated and you will be HORRIFIED). And in an area like Engineering (specially in Mechanical Engineering) the usage of any type of make-up or other "beautifying" arrangement will just be not only detrimental to your job, but DANGEROUS. I'm sorry if I came unnanounced, but I could not resist. I hope you can overcome the future.

[@d.-beck7205]

​@@Jamhael1​ If you were right and the looks were the least important, why do you make it so important? Why not just focus on the knowledge and experience? What does it say about you that you do *exactly* what Jenny and Sophia Nachtigall describe? Are you not aware that you are one of the well meaning but still condescending men they describe? I am absolutely speechless at the lack of self awareness you display. Jeez.

[@sophiakorner6865]

@@Jamhael1 If women would listen to your advice, how can there ever be change?

[@Jamhael1]

@@d.-beck7205 and what was the logic behind your argument?

[@BeatriceHurd]

I am a female teacher, and I will get male students interrupting me mid lecture and telling me what I am doing wrong or correcting facts...never once has a female student questioned my knowledge about art which I have a degree

[@thebonniewong]

Jeez... that is so annoying, having a student mansplaining to you, their teacher. I am an interior designer so I work with a lot of male contractors. A lot of them have to "educate" me on what can be done but I also know what my clients want and I have 10 years of knowledge in the field. In the end, most of the time they agreed that my way looks better. They just have to get their word in. Ugh.

[@johnsmith-gd6mt]

@@thebonniewong Maybe they just want you to appreciate the work they do.

[@elise9537]

@@johnsmith-gd6mt thank you for explaining to her the experience she had:)

[@rikardandersson5582]

And you wouldnt be OK with a male teacher makeup and expressive clothing at the workplace Women leave micro aggresions towards men who stick out and who hasnt "matured" (meaning "matured" by male standards) A feminist "friend" told me to cut my hair short and dress more "masculine"

[@toagoodhome46]

I recently saw a clip of Meryl Streep saying something along the lines of ‘women, throughout their lives, have to learn to speak ‘men’, men, however, never have to bother to speak ‘women’. We are/ were taught, unconsciously or otherwise, to put our needs last. So they don’t know any other way, as they are/ were taught the same thing. I loved this, thank you for sharing.

[@wenDesigner]

Don’t even get me started, I have been a woman in Medicine for 37 years. You and David are gems. ❤😊❤

[@estherestelle7920]

I can only imagine

[@bumblebee_mrs]

I agree, they are role models.

[@tracyguillemette6255]

OMG I so identify with this. I have 2 instances: I started rock climbing/bouldering when I was 40, did very well, could climb higher rated climbs then many others my age, including men. While I would be studying a climbing route in the gym, I would constantly be told how to do the climb! Even by men who were completely novice. I would be polite and say thanks, I will climb it like a girl, LOL. I have been a truck driver/bus driver for 35 years. When I was actively training people to get their truck driver and bus driver license, behind the wheel, I also trained my husband. Once he got his license, after a few years he also became a trainer. Guess how many men and women assumed he trained me?

[@Anne_mit__e]

😢 I find this interesting. My boyfriend boulders and he told me (he is very aware of mansplaining and sexist behaviour) that bouldering is kind of a safe space. Everybody is generally friendly and women don't get harassed or 'helped' (only if they ask). Generally with sports it is not like that. But we live in Germany, so maybe that's different.

[@tracyguillemette6255]

@@Anne_mit__e I love Germany, lived there for 7 years in my younger days. But Germans are just nicer all around in my experience

[@t.a.yeah.]

That's sad ... Another German here. 😂 Me and my boyfriend renovate our old half-timbered house for nearly 6 years and when I tell people, they ask if my boyfried is skilled in such things ... I do a lot here, too, but people don't think so. (I'm also very thin, they might think I can't do such work because of this. People SO often told me I should not lift xyz, but I always had fun in lifting things - which my boyfriend hates.) My mother even did an apprenticeship in such things like laying tiles, plastering ... so, I learned it from her and by trying and it's not just my boyfriend renovating ...

[@bl1776]

YESS THANK YOU. I'm so tired about men thinking they are not sexists because they don't sexually harass women and ask for consent. The point is to treat them as you would treat men Dylan, not just to help them with dishes wtf.

[@BlackRaven000]

They don't treat each other well either.

[@LittleKikuyu]

Also, I personally don’t want to be treated “like a man”. I just want to be treated as an adult human being, who has a right to make her own decisions and experiences and who has more to offer than being a man’s audience for his wisdom or his trying to impress me/be the “MAN”. I appreciate well-meaning help and advice when I ask for it, however. I feel a lot of men are really trying to engage with us but struggling to do it in a way that’s just human to human (I might be wrong of course) 😅

[@m.mccolgan2250]

Men in the US have created a culture that encourages them to remain adolescent, and adolescents rarely have mastered the skills of diplomacy and USING YOUR WORDS

[@tracyguillemette6255]

or babysit their own kids, to give their wife a break, who is also working a full time job..

[@isabellegenoud8410]

I am in my 50s, studied more than any men in my family, made far more money than any of my partners yet, YES ! Mansplaining’s part of my daily life ! And i just hit the « pompon » when my 18 yo son explained to me how i could be a better driver 😂 he doesnt even have his driving license 😊

[@BitesizePiano]

I receive EMAILS from men advising that I should paint my nails different colours which would help others when using my tutorials… I wonder if they email men the same suggestion? 🤔

[@eliali6484]

I would share the sad experience of a friend of mine: she was a literature critic, very gifted, rising star in the literature community, who married to a famous literature professor. After that moment none of her writings wasn't her own entirely and her colleagues always said she is so successful because her husband writes or at least edit her papers. This is the sad truth.

[@CL-rh8ti]

Some unsolicited advice from this male follower... Keep calling out subtle misogyny! While I do try to be a gender aware, the work is never complete. Wonderful video with words of truth, happy spring Jenny!

[@thebonniewong]

Thank you for being an evolved, gender aware, conscious human of the 21st century :)

[@PrettyBoots]

Thanks for saying this!

[@leahkrogers662]

Thank you for this! Those men you speak of may have forgotten that it was most likely a woman who taught them to read write and do math in elementary school so they really have women to thank for basic skills with which none of the rest would have been possible.

[@theforbiddenpoet]

Ah yes but women are expected to do this service (by society) so their labor is invisible.

[@johnsmith-gd6mt]

And likely as you say that men created most of the math, language/written word. We know that women want to be appreciated, it's your motivation here but how often do you hear of any woman showing any appreciation for our incredible accomplishments?

[@theforbiddenpoet]

@@johnsmith-gd6mt whatever men invented they were sure to deny access to their inventions to anyone who was not a man. And then they used their inventions to exploit the people to whom they denied access, especially in regard to the written word. So, no extra points. In fact, negative points.

[@albiesspace]

I _just_ watched half a seminar of a male undergrad TA talking down to a young female professor in a way that clearly he wasn't knowingly hostile to her, he just genuinely seemed to think what he had to say was more important for the whole class to hear than what she had to say, and that he was doing a favour explaining things to her. A professor. In her seminar. Not open misogyny, just a fundamental underappreciation and disregard of female excellence.

[@rikardandersson5582]

And you wouldnt be OK with a male professor wearing makeup and expressive clothing Women leave micro aggresions towards men who stick out and who hasnt "matured" (meaning "matured" by male standards) A feminist "friend" told me to cut my hair short and dress more "masculine"

[@LittleKikuyu]

I would like to add “dear men, before you give your unsolicited advice or opinion to a woman, pause and imagine it’s ANOTHER human being you’re speaking to. Like a man, but different 😉” Shocking, i know, but might help 😂😂😂

[@natnat_o3]

Yes

[@tracyguillemette6255]

men do it men too, it's a dominance thing

[@buki1007]

next time you use the computer and internet and cellphone, pause and remember that men invented those things. maybe be grateful to those men and not put them all in one box :)

[@d.-beck7205]

​@@buki1007Are you sure?

[@tracyguillemette6255]

@@buki1007 It's not that we don't love men, it's just we don't like to be discounted by men. Also check your facts, men and women have made many contributions on teams to bring us the tech we use today. One example: Grace Hopper, after programming Harvard’s Mark 1 computer during World War II, went on to develop the first program compiler and helped make software programming accessible to more people.

[@LittleKikuyu]

Oh man, the condescension 😫 I’ve had it up to freaking Oberkante Unterlippe with the mansplaining and the “lil girl, lemme show you how it’s REALLY done” 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@MartaMcCall]

Hugs to you. I agree. It's exhausting. And unrelenting.

[@anipapikyan]

A little off topic here, but can I just say how gorgeous your eyes are! The blue is popping out so beautifully in contrast of the black sweater and black eyeliner, it's just magical.

[@DianaCGarciaG]

Yes and… I think it is also the Orange Eyeshadow. Color theory working there… Orange and Blue are complementary colors! Mine are brown but when I use red eye makeup I manage to make the green in them pop. 😊 (I hope I am not “mansplanning” in this video of all videos…lol)

[@marinaljuboja3272]

As someone who is in math and computer science I agree it is everywhere. I or another woman classmate would point out an error in the programming assignment and professor says thank you in an email just to me and then if a man points it out he mentions his name in a class email thanking him in front of the whole class.

[@christinal3669]

We need to do this as women as well. Give compliments to other women, appreciate their work. We also need a shift in the advertisement/commercial sector too! Many times for women it is like: "Who is the prettiest, etc.?" Whereas men on the other hand need "the fast car". There is a lot of money making out of this gender - "game".

[@rikardandersson5582]

And you wouldnt be OK with a male wearing makeup and expressive clothing at the workplace Women leave micro aggresions towards men who stick out and who hasnt "matured" (meaning "matured" by male standards) A feminist "friend" told me to cut my hair short and dress more "masculine"

[@marinaljuboja3272]

@@christinal3669 That's very true!

[@annamoehagen3447]

I once had a male coworker whom I’ve never met IRL ask me why I was getting my hair cut because I “didn’t need it.” Didn’t realize he was my personal stylist!

[@oksanakaido8437]

On the hair topic...I was once talking to a coworker and mentioned that I used to have very long hair in the past but decided to cut it short a few years ago (I had a pixie cut at the time). His first reaction, "Oh, did you do it because of a guy?" Lol, really 🤨

[@DiMagnolia]

If men have nothing they will still have audacity.

[@alexandraglotova9219]

It is indeed extremely relatable 💔 as a female pianist i hear a lot of "oh, you play really well, you have such an agile fingers, good for you, since you a woman you can`t win in strength". Like dude, wtf, who asked for your pitty craptalk. Sorry, this topic really touched my sore spot😑 Ty though for bringing that up!

[@zuzanaspanikova5903]

When I was journalist, my topic was transport. I had all information and have been always prepaired. But I was 25y, all experts was males, usually 45-65y, politics, architects,projektants, technicians..They will never anwear my smart quesions and used to bullshitting. So I learn how to ask this man, how to play role i dont know nothing at all how im stupid, ask basic what i know, let them talk and ivest time to telling me, let them feel like expert...and then, when they are finally feel like, i already teach her basic, then I ask my smart question. It suprised them, how good teacher they are and they give me the best anwear. Sad, but really usefull in Prague. Thank you Jenny. ❤

[@nathaliefischer679]

I‘m working in the security field for many, many years. Still there are men with two month of experience who tell me how things are done. Or they try to convince me, they did this or that, which I know can‘t be true. It‘s annoying. I‘m too old for that. We can learn from each other. It‘s not a one direction thing.

[@womanonrails]

I can only add "Men Explain Things to Me" - Rebecca Solnit. Thank you Jenny for your voice on that topic! ❤

[@BlackRaven000]

Thank you💜

[@greenlandgem]

Yuuuup! With you 100%. The patronisation I’ve experienced professionally (let alone personally) has been just gobsmacking - was once told in a meeting that I ‘would be surprised’ when I tried to correct a projection…. The man had two months’ experience and I had 15 years. Guess who was right, and guess who else never acknowledged let alone apologised? So, so, so many instances like this, and I’ve literally never had it from a woman. The one thing I need to learn though: speaking up for myself in the moment. And for other women when I see it happen to them!

[@PoetryandPetrol]

So depressing because it's accurate... 😢

[@AnnavBF]

2017 Sweden, I visited a newly completed office space. For art on the walls, they printed and framed people that each employee named that they find inspiring. Of course, it was all men. Including one cartoon dog. THERE WAS A CARTOON DOG ON THE WALL OF INSPIRATION before there was a woman.

[@Mbeck621]

I feel seen ❤ thank you, literally was told at work today that my ideas were great but we need to “hire a guy so it will get implemented”…. to my face right after I explained the entire SOP and how it would be implemented. It felt like the twilight zone. 20 yrs in my industry and apparently we need a guy to mansplain it to the other men I work with. Awesome 🙄

[@Asoftenkameshee]

such an important topic to talk about. men don't seem to think about the fact that the world reolves around the, was built by them and for them - not just in media, but everything else - down to car seatbelts / crash dummies only being modelled after men. and don't even get me started about women's health issues and the fact we aren't actually 'small men'. the male gaze is everywhere, and it's exhausting. i'm glad it's finally being talked about.

[@christinal3669]

Or that we in fact still need women to grow babies...In Afghanistan they are recently shifting again to a "male babies are more worthy than female babies" - policy .....but yeah, maybe this problem will solve itself someday: No woman, no pregnancy, no babies....😅

[@Jamhael1]

As a man, I read your text here and... I wish to ask forgiveness. And seeing the problem you pointed, I feel overwhelmed by the titanic effort that would be needed to change to the point that I can't even see HOW to plan any change, much less from WHERE to start. GODDAMNIT, WHY IT IS SO DIFFICULT TO EXPRESS EMOTION?

[@sarahalani9155]

thank you for creating this video. it is politely laid out hopefully those who discriminate can learn something.

[@Greeningermany]

I completely agree. I have found this condescending attitude a constant in my life. I am a very tall, smart and knowledge-hungry woman. I find that all these things bring out the condescension from men who are not qualified to speak on the topic at hand, especially female body specific topics. I have often had it implied that the accomplishments that I have worked so incredibly hard to achieve, educating myself and working to improve my skills MUST have come from something else…an implication that I earned my achievements another way!! I love your content and your thoughts. Cheers!!

[@karenborowick5983]

Jenny, you're successful in everything you do. Keep doing what you're doing.

[@JennyMustard]

Thank you!

[@darelyndavid8554]

Hahaha the Great Gatsby as a romance is perfect - I think of it as a petty romance and an inability to take rejection well of rich bored people !

[@emmamemz6514]

Something a lot of men need to learn is to listen instead of always jumping in with advice, many straight men would be far less annoying and make better partners if they just listened and if they are desperate to help and offer advice; wait until they are asked for advice😅

[@nishasankaran]

I really don’t think that being a good partner is the goal for most men in partnerships…. Unfortunately

[@nishasankaran]

I don’t that being a good partner is a goal of many men who are in partnerships unfortunately 😬

[@Jamhael1]

Can I provide a man's perspective in this matter? We can't. No, there is no joke in this - we simply CAN'T. The reason is that man are taught since childhood to solve problems - from fix something broken to help others when they are distraught. When we see our girlfriends/wives in an emotionally disturbed state (raging, crying, exasperated, etc) the only way we man KNOW how to help is to FIX THE PROBLEM THAT IS CAUSING YOU TO SUFFER - we man had never been educated in how to just sit, see your suffering, and simply DO NOTHING - we, in fact, feel as if we are not helping.

[@emmamemz6514]

@@Jamhael1 It's coming from a good and kind place but often we already know the answer, feeling heard and seen and empathised with will help a lot more than sharing advice we've already heard. It can feel dismissive even if that's not the intention. I have to be aware of this myself as a virgo I'm quick to problem solve, but I know for myself I normally already know the answer

[@Jamhael1]

@@emmamemz6514 can I ask something for a better understanding of perspective based in how genders are taught to comprehend their enviroment: If you already know how to solve the problem, why the NEED to complain about it? I ask this because we man generally are educated to only ask for help when the individual have no way to solve it by himself - if I can solve the problem, then there is no need to worry others with it.

[@notaclue822]

People are generally unaware of a lot of underlying sexism and there is resistance to the facts whenever theyre pointed out...that goes for plenty of women too. Go to a buffet...the server gives men more food. It's everything and it's very deeply ingrained. I'm in my 60s and I'm convinced we're going backwards. Keep it up. Glad you've got an enlightened partner in David.

[@christinal3669]

We all should only choose the "enlighted" ones! Only surround yourself with people which treat you with respect. Sometimes it is impossible to avoid it in all places (i.e. work). But then you should get good money for it! Free time is respect-me time. All others miss out.

[@rikardandersson5582]

And women aim micro agressions towards men who wears makeup and alternative fashion as their daily style and who hasnt settled down all the time

[@winterburden]

Thanks Jenny Mustard!

[@franceshanna3724]

Loved your video Jenny, tell it like it is and don't be afraid of sounding pissed off. I loved hearing this from you!

[@marianamotabarroso6453]

Great discussion! Thanks for bring this topic up! ❤

[@60secondsofstyle1]

I needed this affirmation and confirmation.

[@ulrikedorothea1850]

Such good observations and so well put! Cheers!

[@claudiachirilescu9362]

Great video Jenny! I love when you talk about this kind of subiect. Its refreshing and very very true ❤❤❤

[@samandfee]

Thank you so much for this Video!!

[@LunaliciousLife]

Love it so much, thank you for telling what needs to be told ❤

[@queenofhearts1670]

Very good and super important video. Awesome that you share this very important topic. I totally agree with you. Tack snälla ❤💐

[@kitekatka18]

This is a very fascinating topic and I have to admit also surprisingly eye-opening for me! Once you see it you cannot unsee it!

[@helloworld8453]

You just found the words for what I am thinking for a long time! Thank you thank you thank you for this! I totally feel unterstand now!

[@SaraMdza]

THANK YOU, so well put

[@MiraMistASMR]

Yessss yes YES! LOVE that you’re bringing this up. And so nice video with all the aesthetic shoots👽

[@rikardandersson5582]

And you wouldnt be OK with a male wearing makeup and expressive clothing at the workplace Women leave micro aggresions towards men who stick out and who hasnt "matured" (meaning "matured" by male standards) A feminist "friend" told me to cut my hair short and dress more "masculine" You would deem a male narcsisstic if he did aestetic shoots of himself

[@startpage717]

Hummmm..I hadn't thought of the idea quite that way, but it's totally true.Thank you for this vlog...

[@likw9448]

So true. Thank you for this!

[@rikardandersson5582]

And you wouldnt be OK with a male wearing makeup and expressive clothing at the workplace Women leave micro aggresions towards men who stick out and who hasnt "matured" (meaning "matured" by male standards) A feminist "friend" told me to cut my hair short and dress more "masculine"

[@sabrinab7385]

Thank you so much for this video !

[@beiwind5548]

love it. Thank you!

[@cindym4946]

Very well stated. Thank you. im a 73 year old woman who endured the blatant sexism in magazine ads and television commercials in the 60's. Unbelievable. Of course it was everywhere but I especially rember those. Its better now but still there.

[@samatronn]

lol the photography one is sooooo relentless hah... feel that

[@missanyolette9272]

Muy bien dicho 👌🏻 Harta! De esto . 🫰🏻✨💖

[@MariTWC]

Great video! Love you!

[@lucieduquette645]

Well said Jenny!

[@alinefrazao_]

we love you lots, jenny 💜 mic drop

[@marianehamel3021]

What's your opinion on men writing women protagonists? I had a debate with another student (male, of course) about this in creative writing class and he was sooooo adamant that he SHOULD be allowed to write from a women's point of view without being criticized.

[@jeannettefernandez3711]

I must say, I simply love this video.

[@user-ll1ov1sl1d]

This is so good!❤

[@kimberlyayl3745]

Touché. Well said.

[@simonewilhelm2311]

Thank you for this video and thank you for your videos in general. In my opinion, you make a very big contribution to making the world a better place with your videos. You are never judgmental or pretentious, but always appreciative, fair and thereby give us all a suggestion on how to make the world a better place. Thank you for that! And thank you for giving me this window into the excitement of London city life, I live in the middle of nowhere and sometimes miss city life, so it's good to see your videos with snippets of city life. Thank you Jenny, please keep up the good work

[@zuhra2562]

Thanks for speaking about this fact and explaining it so well. These things have rooted in our societies and minds in a way that most of the times we don't even notice it. Thanks for bringing it up.

[@rikardandersson5582]

Women leave micro aggresions towards men who stick out and who hasnt "matured" (meaning "matured" by male standards) A feminist "friend" told me to cut my hair short and dress more "masculine"

[@amym9834]

I really enjoyed this video and psychologically it touched on some very interesting themes for me personally.( That will be for another video lol ) because it’s too lengthy for a comment on YT. What I want to say instead is how inspiring you are and how much I enjoy your content. I love how confident, creative and down right kick ass you are. Your content makes me dream about being brave enough to try new things, dare to be different, and believe in myself. Thank you! ❤

[@rikardandersson5582]

And you wouldnt be OK with a male wearing makeup and expressive clothing at the workplace Women leave micro aggresions towards men who stick out and who hasnt "matured" (meaning "matured" by male standards) A feminist "friend" told me to cut my hair short and dress more "masculine"

[@SingYourselfWell]

THANK YOU.

[@JessicaEmelye]

Thank you ❤

[@kalpic11]

omg so your video about going offline for a while makes more sense now. I thought you meant just something like commentary videos like I watch, but men dm you like that all condescendingly! I think I had a manager like this once. I would say a fact I knew and he always had a reason I was wrong or that he didn’t believe me. And when he found out I was vegan he started trying to warn me that my dark chocolate might not be vegan (even though I had been doing it for like 7 years at that point). so annoying. also early lol

[@eli19999]

Dear jenny, this video is amazing. I could relate a lot😍 An off topic question: can you tell me where your linen shirts are from? I always think they look so beautiful😍

[@nayel1mart]

From all languagues possible you decided to speak with the truth Jennie✨️👏👏👏✨️

[@rikardandersson5582]

And you wouldnt be OK with a male wearing makeup and expressive clothing at the workplace Women leave micro aggresions towards men who stick out and who hasnt "matured" (meaning "matured" by male standards) A feminist "friend" told me to cut my hair short and dress more "masculine"

[@maitai5560]

so important !

[@oooooo6074]

Thank you !!!!!!!

[@jazeyrazey4301]

👍👍👍 One of your best videos! 👏👏👏

[@JennyMustard]

Wow, thanks!

[@jazeyrazey4301]

@@JennyMustard You are very welcome. 🙂

[@jr1521]

Well said! (From an older woman who has seen it all.)

[@mariamilina8641]

Got an unsolicited advice from a male friend about BREASTFEEDING. Just because he saw his wife breastfeed their kids doesn’t make him an expert 🤯

[@BlackRaven000]

Oh wow but they sure as heck won't take advice from a woman about their own bodily issues 🙄

[@afraozturk8847]

As a content creator and as a artist OH MY GOD how true this is! Also I wanna add that men are soooo much likely to comment and share their thoughts then women do

[@emilydenny5276]

I could not even fathom trying to tell THE Jenny Mustard how to live her gorgeous and fulfilling life, seriously. I have learned so much from you in the 8 years I've been following your content (since I was 19, so during very formative years of my early adulthood!) and you've really helped influence - and even de-infulence - my ways of thinking about health, food, veganism, minimalism, mindfullness, and just what a happy life can look like, particularly as a woman who has always always known she did not want children. So from the bottom of my heart, thank you to the one and only Jenny Mustard for your content. (and bonus side thank you to David! :)

[@JennyMustard]

this just made my day. seriously, you’re the loveliest! xxx

[@thereversepolarbear]

I definitely have male friends who are self proclaimed feminists who do exactly this - my taste in music, books, my technical knowledge, banking / economics knowledge (even though I work in a bank for over ten years) all of it is basically wrong or should be corrected. Even specifically female experiences - such as the princess/ Prince Charming fairy tale or women as helpers in relationships - should be opined on/ is wrong.

[@rikardandersson5582]

And you wouldnt be OK with a male wearing makeup and expressive clothing at the workplace Women leave micro aggresions towards men who stick out and who hasnt "matured" (meaning "matured" by male standards) A feminist "friend" told me to cut my hair short and dress more "masculine" Your feminist male friends does this towards other men too

[@stefanieb.6212]

Bravo!

[@flofauna3207]

hi jenny :) thanks for sharing your thoughts very interesting! i would also be interested to know what kind of comments men write to david. Are they more appreciative or is there also this condescending tone? love your videos, thoughts and taste! greetings from berlin

[@soph13s]

i don't get enough feedback to see this type of pattern in my own life, but i definitely notice that women public figures get tons of "expert" advice! i also wonder if the fact that ordinary women don't typically see the pattern contributes to the success of alpha-male-type content creators who make dating advice videos geared towards women.

[@christinal3669]

My alpha-female advice: stay away from "alpha-males" 😂😂

[@user-ll2wf4ov3n]

first, this talk is perfect. second, it only gets worse as you get elder. BELOVED

[@artsybadboii]

oh myy i love the sassiness ⚡️⚡️

[@rikardandersson5582]

And you wouldnt be OK with a male wearing makeup and expressive clothing at the workplace Women leave micro aggresions towards men who stick out and who hasnt "matured" (meaning "matured" by male standards) A feminist "friend" told me to cut my hair short and dress more "masculine"

[@Aileenwasright]

Very sad that we all kind of expect these types of comments. I’m not an influencer but this type of communication and condescension by men is apparent in real life (I used to work in a male dominated field so I caught on quickly). It’s quite irritating and Im at an age where I have no issue with saying men do this in general, because the men that don’t engage in this behavior understand that they are not the issue and don’t take offense to it. I have no issue calling out sexism as I see it, and I wish other men would check each other but oh well…

[@luvlyrickle]

I wish more men participated in or initiated these conversations. What do they have to say for themselves? How aware are they and how are they helping themselves and other men to evolve? There's this dismal echo chamber when it comes to the subtleties of misogyny. 😕

[@catherinelodge4580]

very well said!

[@svetlanabeilschmit8847]

Id leave and ignore them . They would damage anything i plan or do . Its better to be single and childfree atm😅

[@christinal3669]

Keep growing, learning and never give your values away. One day there will be the "real" strong men, which are capable to handle a "strong" lady. One day the world will know that strong women are furthermore empowering men instead of wrecking their ego.

[@samatronn]

I edit what I say depending on the context... a very valuable skill lol

[@lenanayashkova]

Off topic but the footage of your coffee nearly sploshing onto your laptop stresses me out so much😂 I have spilled drink on my laptop SO many times in the past😬😬

[@KolwaR2011]

Very nice

[@KolwaR2011]

In India, law interferes a lot in many matters of personal life, hence in India, a man remains trapped in a sham relationship for his whole life and does not have complete freedom until he marries.Till the time he is completely free, a single mind can live with complete freedom as compared to any other country. If an Indian gets married in India, he will completely lose his freedom with his own hands.

[@rikardandersson5582]

You are just a simp and would tell a male in makeup and alternative fashion to "grow up"

[@PreciousMe]

Typical mansplaining. They are trying to "fix" what is presented to them. Not an excuse. I hate it myself and it happens all the time. Even when a man knows my education and skill set, they will "explain" my job and how to do it better even when they have no clue. Ugh.

[@rikardandersson5582]

And you wouldnt be OK with a male wearing makeup and expressive clothing at the workplace Women leave micro aggresions towards men who stick out and who hasnt "matured" (meaning "matured" by male standards) A feminist "friend" told me to cut my hair short and dress more "masculine"

[@mariateresastella8526]

the default mansplaining I get in all areas of life is something that grinds my gears more and more every time. Thank you so much for pointing this out!

[@inezgarcia3371]

lol I read tarot and I always find it hilarious when men pay for a reading and then try to show me how much they know about tarot and spend the whole time giving me their interpretation of the cards. Most of the men do listen though.

[@rikardandersson5582]

And you wouldnt be OK with a male wearing makeup and expressive clothing at the workplace Women leave micro aggresions towards men who stick out and who hasnt "matured" (meaning "matured" by male standards) A feminist "friend" told me to cut my hair short and dress more "masculine"

[@theforbiddenpoet]

Unsolicited, and yet solicited by the actions of most men, questions that men should ask themselves before they “chime in”: 1) did anyone ask? 2) how much have I been speaking compared to the other people in the space? 3) what is the purpose of my commentary? 3.1) did anyone ask? 4) if i am tempted to comment on a woman’s actions, what are the chances that she doesn’t have access to the internet? 5) what are the chances I look like someone who has already made condescending comments to this person about this very thing? 6) what’s the worst that can happen if I don’t comment? 7) does the devil really need an advocate and why do I deem myself qualified to fill the position? 8) what are 5 better uses of my time?

[@rikardandersson5582]

And you wouldnt be OK with a male wearing makeup and expressive clothing at the workplace Women leave micro aggresions towards men who stick out and who hasnt "matured" (meaning "matured" by male standards) A feminist "friend" told me to cut my hair short and dress more "masculine"

[@CrystalPlatt]

I’m 49 and have been single since I was 25. You just summed up exactly why I can’t stomach the company of men. I have noticed a big shift with the younger generation of men. However, being a Gen-X woman, I don’t see much difference to the men in my generation to most baby-boomers males. At least when it comes to dating them! This video is well said, and I LOVE it!

[@DavinaShefet]

Important to specify that this isn’t related to sexual preferences either. I have many gay male friends and they do this too. Sometimes in even more insidious ways actually.

[@rikardandersson5582]

And you wouldnt be OK with a male wearing makeup and expressive clothing at the workplace Women leave micro aggresions towards men who stick out and who hasnt "matured" (meaning "matured" by male standards) A feminist "friend" told me to cut my hair short and dress more "masculine"

[@ambarrose]

I was raised with little literature with gay themes or romances with different races as protagonists. It's something I'm working towards... Normalising, mentally. I love them but they always feel awkward to find because I had never seen them before. It's hard to explain, I think.

[@elijah-maechristensen1840]

Hi there, this is something a friend and I noticed a few months ago. Why are so many fantasy/scifi books written by women ending up in the YA (young adult - aka teen) book category? Many of these are books not for teens.

[@alicemcrafe]

the paul joke is hilarious

[@TamiMartins]

👏🏽 just yes

[@user-uc3ko6sj2h]

I’ve been driving for 15 years already and do it really well) but every time I get advices from my husband once he’s on passenger seat 😂 we have great relationships but he just cannot relax and enjoy the process ))) and I have just realized I DO not watch any content created by men… it wasn’t on purpose but I’ve found so many gorgeous and talented women to listen to ❤ probably I just don’t like when men teach me 😂😅

[@4.eva.21]

thank you for covering this. so important. makes me quite sad. sometimes i feel like i am in a lovely female empovering bubble most of the time. experiencing sexist moments all the time when outside my bubble, nevertheless ...