We need to talk about Sex

[@J_Elizabeth2]

I went to a Christian private school and if couples hugged on campus it was considered a trip to the principals office… I think that even though their intentions were good, it did cause a lot of rebellion within that school. And while I’m not shaming the school, because it taught me so so much, it also didn’t teach me quite enough. Teenagers NEED NEED NEED to talk about sexuality and the importance of how powerful and wonderful it is within God’s covenant, not the shame and fear!!

[@neptunianvibes]

The shame/fears lust can bring to your life need to be explained in depth as well. A part of why it’s so tempting is because people don’t know the truth about it, not because they can’t hug each other. It can also corrupt how we view & value other human beings. A lot of people are only told about the pleasures & not the problems it can bring because people are too ashamed to share their story.

[@neptunianvibes]

We also need to address the real roots of lustful desires. A lot of people don’t want to admit they learned about it through perversions.

[@Yard_Machine]

Yes, with their parents.

[@lavender_calico7260]

I believe that in High school they should have sex ed classes. Especially in Christian schools. This is how the devil uses confusion and addiction to trap people.

[@andreawithgod]

Amen

[@bunny_0288]

Trust me when I say, it is NOT just a man's issue. In my singleness I struggled with porn and masturbation. Now, for women a lot of times it looks different. It wasn't always pornographic videos. Romance/erotic novels with very descriptive scenes are HUGE temptations for many women and definitely were for me. And it was easy to justify at times because the book wasn't just the sexual scenes. It was an entire story and characters. And because you're reading instead of watching you can easily fall into the... well at least I'm not watching it. At least real people aren't involved and being exploited, etc. At least it's a story about people in love. The list goes on. It can be sooo easy to justify things when we want. And I think the same justifications can happen with masturbation. "At least I'm not actually having sex with someone else." The reason romance novels are such a temptation for women is that instead of just the sexual act itself, there is also a vicarious emotional side that we get from reading about the characters falling in love. So for many of us, we get more out of reading a story vs watching a video. I know that's how it was for me. Sexuality for women is typically more than just the physical. We really like the intimacy and emotional connection. But again, everyone is different and for some women it is the videos. As a single woman, I knew my sex drive was extremely high from the time I was a young teen. I was "burning with passion" as Paul put it, and I prayed that the Lord would send me a husband soon because I knew I was NOT made for singleness. I truly love that verse in the Bible. I clung to it in my singleness because it made me feel seen and understood. And it made me understand that that sexual drive/desire wasn't wrong. It just needed to be channeled appropriately within the confines of a marriage relationship. And in the meantime, I knew it was going to be an ongoing struggle and something I would have to rely on the Lord to help me with. I struggled and tried my best in my singleness to overcome those temptations and I sought the Lord often to help me, but I have to admit I was still struggling up until I got married. It was tough, and I failed often. But it's interesting to hear about people who grew up in purity culture. I didn't. I wasn't raised going to church. My parents taught me about Jesus and raised me to wait until marriage to have sex, but we weren't attending church other than occasional vacation Bible schools/church camps. I didn't regularly start attending church until college. Because of that, I missed out on a lot of the shame that was part of the purity culture within youth groups. So for me, I looked at my struggle with pornography/masturbation the same as any other sin struggle. And I knew that shame/guilt wasn't from the Lord. Conviction yes, but that isn't the same as shame/guilt. I'm grateful that I don't deal with any guilt/shame with sex in marriage. I know that within marriage it's all fine and good and right, and if anything I view sex within marriage as something beautiful and sacred. And one way I honor God is by having sex with my husband. Because the Bible tells us not to withhold from one another. That our bodies belong to our spouse. But I do know that for some people, they do struggle to differentiate between the sinful sexual behaviors before marriage and the sacred act of having sex in marriage. And that must be really hard.

[@CelestialCB]

I never really thought about those kinds of books like that but you have a really good point! I stopped reading those books a few years ago but I totally understand how those kinds of descriptive romance novels can be addictive. It's easy easy to say to yourself, we'll I'm only reading it, it's not the same as actually doing it...

[@bunny_0288]

@@CelestialCB It really is! I justified it for far too long myself.

[@dyanimoriah]

I feel this comment. I’ve struggled with porn and masturbation on and off for 9 years. Basically all of my adult life, and while I’ve not been falling into temptation for a few weeks now. Thanks to God’s strength. But the last time I did give into temptation was because of a new book that I had picked up. I love romance books. Fantasy and historical romance are my favorite sub genres. The thing about these genres is how much smut is in them! The new book that I had just boughten did not mention any smut when I was reading the back cover. And I couldn’t even get past chapter 3 without there being smut. I was so bummed, because the plot seemed so interesting but the smut was too much for me. So I avoid any kind of smut since it’s a huge temptation for me. Which is really hard right now in the romance genre.

[@holyexperience1976]

​@@dyanimoriah Praise Jesus for faith based romance novels.

[@butdoyouknowjesus4121]

Must say very well explained, I believe most women fall into this category of sexual temptation within romance films or books, myself included.

[@tracealyea5841]

I’m 26 days clean of masturbation and pornography and I feel amazing. I’ve always struggled with it and fell back into it more and more even though I wanted to quit but I feel so much stronger and Jesus has really helped me through this. Keep me in your prayers y’all and God Bless!!!

[@JesusWillRescue]

I pray for your deliverance❤! It will be tough, but the battle’s already won because Jesus is on your side. Stay strong!

[@tracealyea5841]

@@JesusWillRescue Thanks so much!! God Bless you!

[@moana4549]

Um that is so cool!!!!! Happy for you :D will keep you in prayers

[@tracealyea5841]

@@moana4549 Thanks a bunch!!

[@bliblablupp5616]

I feel you. I always managed to stop for about a month but then in some way, I fell back into sin and did it again. I am now 1 month and 2 weeks clean and I feel awesome. I am so happy that I finally did it through this one month.

[@Kiki-fe2le]

I agree, as a woman, I was addicted to porn from 11 years old to 30 years old. I'm about to turn 37 years old and only Jesus set me free. I have a friend from church, a woman, who still struggles with temptations to watch porn. Sadly, many Pastors claim women don't have high sex drives or don't have these struggles. It's sad and lonely.

[@Pbcvl]

19 years wow. Good job on quitting. But really I've been brainwashed into thinking women don't have high sex drives, compared to men at least.

[@holyexperience1976]

Some women got higher drive than some men.

[@lobsterlogic]

I'm so sad for you that you struggled for so many years without having that difficulty acknowledged. That's so so hard to deal with. Praising Jesus with you that he has (and will continue to) set you free!

[@May52525]

I was 11 when I was exposed to porn! It's only been recently in my 30s that I don't feel the same "need" to watch it.

[@RoyDontHugMeImScared]

I can be your husband

[@one2much7700]

I am a woman. I fell into lust at a very young age and fought against it for years. I had a very simmular mindset where I would try and justify myself because at least I wasn't doing (x and y). It took over my mindset and at the time turned my outlook on what a relationship should look like. After trying to stop several times, two of of the times I went 6 months clean and fell again. I finally broke free from my bad habits over a year ago and have never felt better. I still struggle with thoughts and my gaze every now and then but I have been doing my best to stay as pure as I can be. Sometimes it takes everything you got to fight off this addictive and deadly sin. "Reconize the patterns". Respect to some of the guys who are fighting against it right now. Keep going. it can be hard to see beyond what you are dealing right now but it is worth it in the end to break free.

[@adrianagilar]

One of the dudes that is currently fighting it. Appreciate you coming out and sharing your experience. Gives me and a lot of other people hope that we can overcome lust and temptation through Christ Jesus. God bless! ❤✝️

[@colorlessoz]

Woman here with kinda the same story, started young and fought it for years. Being married has definitely helped for sure. Paul wrote about it actually that if you lusted so much to just get married and it would be better for you. I told my husband recently when he told me he was having a hard time one day that my favorite song is " paint it black" because he said what I do all the time if I see someone attractive: " I see the girls go by dressed in their summer clothes, I have to turn my head until my darkness goes" and this is one of the reasons why I hardly look at people ( and just my ADHD ) anywhere I go or if I do I never stare for long.

[@amaturetech3048]

I cannot tell you how dangerous it is for kids at a young age to stumble across porn. At that age when I was curious, my grandmother shamed me for it. She said I should be ashamed of myself for what I did. It's a whole story but I was 12 almost Maybe 13. She was a wonderful lady don't get me wrong but her approach was terrible. Got grounded for a month. After that I came across porn and master b a t I o n. (Note I wasn't playing doctor but pretend with my cousin and I mentioned something sexual.)

[@JakeZR7]

Thanks for being open and sharing. As a guy, I would always say that I wish I never stumbled across porn at a young age but as I got older, I had to deal with it and it became something that I would be shameful of and full of guilt for a very long time. It's something I still have to overcome being 10 yrs later but I'm glad I now have brothers in my Church that I can be open with and a God that forgives when you repent to him! Glory to God!

[@Pbcvl]

are you talking about lust for porn?

[@Identityinchrist_]

I just fell back to the same sin 🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️💔😓. It's scary how I've seen comments long ago saying it's hard to stop, but I'm the one now in that position to say that

[@remayoung-kd9tb]

Bro look it not easy but listen Don’t stay at your phone too much everyday. That is how I quit watching it

[@Chikwendumiracle2020]

Bro think about what it could do to your health , I have been going to hospital for 2yrs now because of the damages it has had to my health and am like if I knew I would not have started it in the first place. It showed me sin is both deadly physically and also spiritually.

[@Identityinchrist_]

​@@Chikwendumiracle2020Thanks bro God restores your health in Jesus name 🙏🏼

[@neptunianvibes]

Do you believe the wages of sin is “death”? Or misery & shame?

[@emmawold7083]

Check out the book the porn myth by Matt Fradd. God has a plan for you. Lust did not attack you because you can’t love, Lust attacked you because your love is meant to change the world.

[@mlwilson2956]

The purpose of dating is to find the person you want to marry. If you're not ready for marriage, you're not ready to date. Dating without the intention of marriage is just inviting unnecessary temptation into your life

[@nevrastir1084]

I think you make a good point, but I can’t totally agree with you. I thinking dating is the pursuit of being ready. I think we need a lot of life lessons, especially of the opposite sex and recognizing our differences, before we can be a suitable partner for our future spouse.

[@Daniel-hs5eo]

@@nevrastir1084on point man

[@frankyb583]

Thank you for speaking about this! Lust is a massive struggle for many Christians, myself included. However, this never receives the proper attention to discuss. I've been falling in and out of this sin lately. I'm currently about a week strong and I pray to God to guide me through it all. I appreciate that you opened up about this and I hope to open up about it someday.

[@chainuser1774]

I as well fall in and out of lustful sin which eventually leads to porn. I'm about a month free from its grasp only thanks to God. It's amazing how faithful he is to strengthen us even when we give in to our flesh. I pray He continues to empower you to fight off temptations. "Greater is He who is in you than he who is in the world." - 1 John 4:4

[@sierrarose1013]

Oh, wow! Praying for you, brother!!

[@carltz1523]

Same here. It's a struggle everyday. We are only human. We just need to be strong and ask God for guidance and forgiveness🙏

[@Seekingchristdaily]

This is so true. I grew up in church being told “just don’t do it until marriage”… guess where my first 3 premarital sex partners came from? You guessed it… the church.

[@ΑντρέαςΣωτηρίου-π8γ]

holy fuck

[@MickeyMousevD]

Usually what happens. I have a long past with sex, and it got worse before I turned to God In church you're taught not to do it as you said till marriage and I'm ashamed to say I've caused some of my exes to stumble. I don't want to go into to much detail because it's very private and I'm shy and ashamed to talk about it. I'm so thankful it stopped, in thankful that every day with my bf is not about anything sexual, it's just God's love and comfort and sometimes fights. It's hard to stop when it started, it becomes a drug almost, but with God it can be beaten 🙂

[@patricklewis9787]

First three out of how many premarital sex partners

[@Seekingchristdaily]

@@patricklewis9787 let’s just say I’m thankful for the blood. I’m now married and faithful to my wife.

[@DrewLabz]

I used to be addicted to pornography after discovering it in middle school all the way up until at least a few years ago. I didn’t find it attractive at first, but I came back to it as my body was developing, and eventually I became so ensnared that I watched it everyday, sometimes multiple times. I share this because Jesus Christ freed me from this. Even after I heard the Good News and became a believer, I failed badly to confess my weakness to others, but God is patient and gentle, and now there’s too much light on my sin for it have any hold on me. If you’re tired of carrying the weight of your struggle, come to Jesus, because he will give you rest, just like he has given it to me and countless others!

[@JesusChristislord372]

Amen

[@osonocapitalventures193]

Don't know how old you are but it sounds like your still at an age that ends in teen...my advice...run from it like it's the zombie horde from World War Z Apart from that I'm so glad to hear that!!

[@danielreed3718]

I struggle with lust, masturbation, isolation, and same sex attraction. It’s a daily fight. I know God’s way is better but it’s just been so challenging to find the will to keep on going. I’m so thankful He hasn’t and will never let me go.

[@ozzyb6595]

Lust is my biggest problem. Better to say it in the light than to keep it hidden. I was introduced to pornography at age 8. I didn’t know fully what it was but it did make me feel aroused. It got so bad when I got my first computer I would use google to find videos. I didn’t know it was sex at the time, but Google provided references based on the generic words I used. Thus started my chronic unhealthy relationship of how I viewed sex. I started watching porn daily like literally never missed a single day. What I watched got worse from role to then animation. During my therapy session I found out because of my living environment I used porn as escapism. Here’s what’s crazy I knew in my gut it was wrong that I watched this. I always watched in private. It messed up my mind on my view of women. It wasn’t until my late teens that God entered my life. And I started being honest with myself that this isn’t freedom. For years I bend the knee to porn. Here I was a fool thinking I was making these choices on my own. If not by the influence of my sin and flesh. Please know I still struggle with lust. I fight to make sure I don’t view women sexually and I have a good support system with my wife and my church. Because they know my brokenness. To those who struggle like me. Tell someone, don’t feel ashamed, what you bring into the light will deliver you from those chains. You can do it and I know you can. ❤🙏🏻 love and prayers to you my brothers and sisters.

[@JanW51]

Thanks for the comment and best wishes to you and your family🙏🏻 i like that you pointed out, that watching porn isn‘t a choice but an addiction. Its not necessary in life.

[@albertodove4125]

Ik about animated material. Stuff is way more powerful than real porn. I fell a few days ago. Glad you married tho. I'm still waiting for a wife tho

[@djvn229]

10th avenue has a song hallelujah we are free to struggle, were not struggling to be free...

[@Mewic1]

This was so relatable man. The fact you mentioned talking about sex when I was thinking about preaching at my youth service about the same thing is insane. I want to share my story if sexual immorality with everyone to show that people aren’t alone battling the struggles of pornography and masturbation. I want to show people this double life you mentioned because I live that double life. I try and be the perfect Christian on the outside but secretly am indulging in masturbation and pornography. Its such a stark contrast when you see someone on the outside vs on the inside. Someone might be happy and excited to be at church on the outside but might be struggling on the inside with problems that aren’t talked about. That is exactly why I want to preach about it: to bring light on a topic that many people need to hear to find sexual healing. God bless everybody.

[@Yuki-qs5mt]

Jesus loves you

[@itszecowgirl]

I was exposed to softcore porn from the age of 11 and I thought it was ok, but it got worsed. At age 17 Jesus freed me from pornography and I'm so very Thankful ❤ Thanks for making this video ❤

[@osonocapitalventures193]

So glad to hear that..keep it up. You have no idea the absolute awesomesauce it is to be freed from that!!!

[@IVrazzy]

How did that happen. I’m still struggling w it. I don’t know weather 2 fight it, pray, humble my self. I want the urge 4 it 2 just go away. And also I do good 4 a week or 2 or 3 then I fall back into it

[@sageart4771]

​@@IVrazzy same thing I'm struggling with. I was introduced to porn at a young age maybe when I was 5-8 when my father watched a movie and there was a sex scene in it. After that anytime I would see a kiss scene even in a cartoon I would remember the sex scene and I would get aroused. Eventually I started looking up porn on the web around when I was about 11 and have been struggling to get free from it for the past 6 years. I turn 18 in October and I don't want to start my 18th year of life with this problem in my life.

[@Knsoms]

⁠@@sageart4771pray to Jesus and He will heal you! I am so sorry to hear that you’re struggling with this, I know how it feels! Healing and deliverance is possible but you have to put the effort in. I recommend talking to your pastor or trusted adult and begin reading the Bible. Take things a day at a time and pray pray pray.

[@itszecowgirl]

@@IVrazzy it led me to hardcore porn (torture) then it struck me. I was in tears. I promised God to never ever watch it again 🙏🏽

[@fiastiefrederika9082]

Isaac, thank you for sharing your story. This is the first time in my 15 years old life that I hear somebody talk about sex in such a personal and vulnerable way. This will definitely help change parts in my life❤

[@emilyrobesonvids]

As a 17 yr girl who has had an addiction to porn and masturbation for over a year(I was first exposed to it when I was 13 or so) this is too true, I would say if you’re young and struggling find a youth group or a couple of good school friends that you can talk to. Talking about my struggle (and praying of course) is the only thing that keeps me going on my mission to get rid of my addiction.

[@emilytracy495]

I'm glad you have people you can talk to, praise God that He never lets us give up because of His grace. I'm 18 and still struggle with masturbation even though I don't watch porn anymore. I find it so hard to tell people, and I feel like I don't have a friend I could tell. Just about everyone in my youth group and church knows I've struggled with it because I've shared my testimony, but it's still my own battle I guess. I feel so weak that I don't take the right steps to fight a temptation.

[@brayden1104]

As a guy with same-sex attraction (18) I’ve indulged in so much sexual sin (I.e. pornography, Grindr hookups, masturbation). I didn’t (and still don’t) know how to channel my sexuality in a healthy, godly way. I’ve felt so much shame and guilt for disobeying gods wishes. I’ve been so hard on myself for making the mistakes I’ve made. I’m constantly trying to repent but I always end up failing.

[@BurgerBoyda3rd]

Hey man. I've been there. It's extremely difficult but I overcame it through God. From the age of 14 to the age of 22 I struggled with so much confusion. I started doing stuff at age 20 with men and after two years of digging really deep in the why felt this way I figured it out. I was always into girls but then at the age of 13 I had sexual experience with a guy. We were just curious about sex. This opened the door. I started watching gay porn, along with how much society is ramming LGBTQ culture down our throats it led me down the wrong path. I was so confused for so long. It's a journey that you have to walk with God. You need to ask for his help. I felt exactly the same way as you. You feeling the way you do is a good thing. It means you are on your way out of it. I will admit that sometimes the temptations do come through but I can fight them off. I kinda laugh now about how far I've come from it. Just remember God loves you❤❤ If you got questions fire away

[@architecturehnsdk5298]

Hey brother. Feel you. I was in that state a while ago, but through His grace and Spirit and the supportive church community, I have overcome this issue from time to time. Would be glad to connect with you if you're up for it. Lmk! God be your redeemer.

[@jasminedavid2756]

Praying for you Brayden 🌹

[@moniquediyani6333]

5:16 Purity culture is the worst! My family had a very harsh view towards sexuality and made me feel extremely shameful of even being around someone of the opposite sex. This caused me to believe that ALL men were lustful which made me extremely self conscious and fearful! It caused a lot of trauma and made me see all men in a sexual light.

[@antonioflores4240]

The christian hug thing was so real XD Wild to think about it looking back sometimes. Well articulated video! Thank you for making this!

[@LaKymana]

I have been pure for four years and have been waiting because I love and fear God. It is going to take a miracle to meet someone who is also willing to wait until marriage.

[@eritert]

No, you will find your husband and he will compliment you perfectly. Be careful with your words. Be in prayer.

[@ayahoo16]

I tried hard to be a good person sexually and failed miserably. It got so bad that i felt irredeemable. I was sure i was going to take my struggles to my grave. I was sure i would die lonely and miserable. God rocked my world about a year ago and shook me to the core. I confessed to both my pastors about my darkest struggles, and believe me it was bad. I was shocked when i was met with grace and understanding. I had livved in fear for so long. It is nice to finally live on the surface again.

[@DolioFoilio]

Thank you, DD, I think this was long overdue, it's not just your job but other Christian's influencers & people within the church need to wake up & realign. Instead of shutting down anything remotely "sexual". I'm so done & tired with the church's almost stubborn reluctance to engage, if our youth had some freedom (not a license to sin) but a freedom to discuss healthily, understand, be accountable to gracious mentors, make mistakes without being slapped across the face or shamed or judged... things would've been different. The generation is only getting more sexual(+ly active)... the temptations are mounting up without any help. God designed sex & sexuality; we need to learn to be good stewards of this powerful gift with the HS every step of the way. We need help.

[@geekyogurtcup]

The newest generation are having less sex according to research.

[@Allin1Xavi]

@@geekyogurtcup Yeah I think the sexual revolution has poisoned society enough with the sexualization over everything it’s desensitized the later generations to even bother caring about sex

[@NESShadows]

Thank you for posting this, I really needed it this morning, was feeling particularly down yesterday and today because of my addiction that I’m fighting, half of my life I have been bound by chains of lust and I don’t want to keep running back to it when things get tough just because I got so used to that captivity. It reminds me of the Israelites telling Moses that they’d rather go back to Egypt than wonder the desert even though it was really bad back in Egypt, but God was leading then through the tough times to reach the Promised Land. I don’t think we ever look ahead to see that what’s in store is so much greater than where we’re struggling now

[@MrKittyhead]

I’m very thankful for my church. Our first mid-week service of every month is split between men and women, and whoever is teaching has a better opportunity to speak about these topics. I’ve grown up in this church, and having my dad and these other men that I look up to to talk about these things has kept me out of a lot of trouble, and I couldn’t be more thankful. Not to say things have always been perfect, but I honestly think being able to talk about these topics with others can be a huge help.

[@sandrac9520]

This is soooo good! For a long time I felt like I was in bondage in other areas because I had believed the lie that I COULD NOT come to God straight up. I felt like I wasn’t good enough or that (like you) I had to come before the Holy God in the purest form. In my deepest thoughts and feelings I thought that I needed to be accepted, and I could not dare come before the Holy God with my brokenness. But that’s why being rooted in the Gospel is soooo crucial!! Once we start living in the truth of the Gospel, we can actually find freedom from these lies that we believe. I am now coming to realize I can come with a contrite spirit before the Lord without hiding or suppressing those sinful parts of myself because truly Christ already overcame for me. And that truth within itself is so powerful!! It is walking in that truth that Christ overcame, that I can truly be set free. Love it! P. S. Thank God for your vulnerability! Many of us would not confess these messy and deep things within ourselves and you’re putting ourself out here. Thank you. ❤️

[@kpd6060]

Thank you so much for opening up this conversation. It’s a conversation that is needed. As always, God bless you and praise the Lord for your ministry.

[@timsters5381]

I completely and totally agree, that "at least" is a very bad word to use, and remembering the pharisee and the tax collector is something that is slowly changing my thoughts. Probably why I listen to you often is mostly because we are both unmarried, seems we are both single and to hear a fellow Christian brother struggling is uplifting in a way that deters the thoughts that I am the only one with these struggles. The desire for a woman is natural, and I simply wait, hoping for the day I can "know" a wife. Not only that I could show her the love of God, and die for her daily, as I die to sin, for the Glory of God.

[@theandrejohnsonshow2574]

I’m so glad you’ve decided to open up about this. Too many people, including myself, suffer in silence with their sexual sin. Community is one of the greatest weapons we as Christian’s can wield against the devil in this area of our lives. Keep up the good work.

[@ShortQuizes234]

Timely message.

[@iloveGod1105]

THANK YOU FOR THIS! God bless you brother!!! 💛 I appreciate you bringing up the women too. Many women and some guys hold trauma from being molested or abused. This introduced us to sexuality much earlier than others. God is just and I know He is merciful, but that is another layer That makes the healing more complex.

[@zach13mlb1]

Great video Isaac. Love that you talk about the things so many people avoid.

[@fearfullyfaithful]

I have struggled with pornography for majority of my life. I fell across it when I was an extremely young age (before double digits) and it became an addiction. I would go periods of being clean and then I would watch it again. God brought this video to me as just earlier today I was praying on this topic. A lot of young woman suffer in silence and never have an outlet to talk to about this type of stuff so thank you Issac for bringing this topic up for discussion. there is such a toxic culture around sex I hope more opportunity for talking about it finally opens up.

[@BethelGreeen]

Thank you, Isaac, for speaking on this and creating friendly and open spaces for everyone to share and find encouragement! God bless!

[@clipsmasterproductions7479]

This really speaks to me. Thank you for discussing this hard topic. I’m growing in faith that I can bring all my concerns to God without fear of rejection.

[@joemamashouse]

Thank you for talking about this! Those of us who experienced these issues growing up (or even as adults) are the ones who've got to step up and speak passionately about it, so we can help others through it too.

[@AndreaRenwick]

I've been reading through the Old Testament, and as I finished Ezekiel, I realized it does NOT hold back on listing the multiple sins of Israel/Judah/Jerusalem in a sexual way. It is literally so explicit, and Gods not even explaining the good covenantal marriage like in songs of songs, God is going into detail on prostitution and the many forms in sexual immortality. Even mentioning sex toys, masturbation and porn... This is all in Ezekiel. It is crazy. And I am sitting back like, "And I have been fed such a watered down, pg version? And this is partly why I feel so much shame and awkwardness? Because we never want to talk about it?" I went on social media the other day talking about in my instagram story because I'm real like that and I embarrass myself all the time so why not embarrass myself for the kingdom yk. And its crazy cuz ever since, I been seeing videos on sex pop up here and there from preachers and then I see your video posted AFTER the fact. I think it is evident that God really wants to shine a light on the church and correct us for how we have treated His most beloved symbol of love for the past few decades.

[@chick_nuggs9318]

What chapter?

[@AndreaRenwick]

Ezekiel 23 but there are more throughout the OT in general, I think that was just the most *out there*

[@red_phoenix0570]

old comment, but i have a question. where is the sex toys, masturbation, and porn? I read through ezekiel 22 and 23 and didn't find anything on it

[@AndreaRenwick]

@red_phoenix0570 16:20-21 - Also relatable today with abortion and how prevalent sexual immorality is 16:51 - Sodom and Samaria are refferenced in this chapter (who have committed such profane acts of sexual immorality and other immoralities) and Jerusalem is said to have had been worse and even make them look righteous in comparison 23:3 - women who acted like prostitutes and young women behaving promiscuously in their youth. The entire chapter goes into it the perversion of these women and I see it repeating today. Ezekiel 20:30 - Prostitution with abhorent things Ezekiel 7:20 - Detestable images from beautiful ornaments Ezekiel 8:10 - Pornographic images and dark images I imagine it to be in such context because the entirety of ezekiel is either violent or sexual and looking at history, it lines up with the sexual practices of that day. I mean, corinthians were known as a las vegas of that day. The bible also says that there is nothing new under the sun in the beginning of ecclesiastes (specifically the first few chapters and if I am not mistaken, the very 1st or 2nd chapter of ecclesiastes follows that theme that nothing is new despite how old it may seem). So if Sodom and Samaria looked righteous in comparison to jerusalem at that time (assuming that you are aware of how deep their sin goes as far as sexual immorality stated throuout the old and possibly new testament, it is safe to say porn, sex images and such was definately involved. I cannot remember for the life of me where it was, it could have been in revelation, but it does specifically mention a woman masturbating. Porn is very clearly prostitution of ones self. Masturbation is sex with yourself or to/with an image of something. This is why it is constant that God uses the word prostitution to describe demonic covenants and etc to images/ beliefs of idols. It is mentioned in the bible that they made images of specific body parts and looking at the ancient beliefs and religions that some still practice today, without a doubt, these were some of the things that were encompassed witht heir sexual immorality.

[@red_phoenix0570]

@@AndreaRenwick thank you. I do agree the things you mentioned are wrong but the last one, sex toys you didn't mention. (and i speak in the context of marriage because outside, that's just masturbation) I have heard people say that it's wrong to use sex toys in the marriage bed but I have never found or been shown any biblical context that goes against it.

[@OftheWordReactions]

I agree Isaac. It's hard to be open and vulnerable sometimes with these topics. Deep down I think a lot of us who struggled with this sin or one like it are actually longing for a spouse like God designed it. We just need to continue to ask him to change us to make sure we're going about it the right way and not doing something sinful.

[@daughter-ofzion1370]

Thank you , thank you Issac. 🙏Yes, we need to talk about this without shame but with respect. If people can't find explanations for it in the church then they will find someone else to explain it to them! I think you hit it spot on with the connection of feeling shame from condemnation from people groups who put shame on anything sexual and then carrying that shame into marriage. that is something the Holy Spirit has shown me, so instead of feeling shame when getting those 'peeks' of feeling I like to redirect that energy into doing something for my future spouse like buying a gift or writing a letter. I'd encourage others to do the same. ❤ I'm sure you've already read have you read ? It's awesome because it's full of really questions form real people. Highly recommend for anyone!!😉

[@ShayShayRecovery]

Thank you so much for this video. This came across my feed right on time as I was invited to speak about sexual sin to another church's Womens Fellowship end of this month. Gave me good insights.!

[@JakeZR7]

I'm glad this video is out cause growing up Christian, Nothing was ever really mentioned even from my parents tbh. Kinda sad that many of us that grow up in a Christian household have to learn ourselves about all this.

[@gabrielestebanrosalesredon1525]

Thanks for taking about this with such freeness. God knows, you are one of my favorite preachers; and yeah, to let you know, you are a preacher, indeed. And a young and wise one. God bless, you. And please keep doing these videos, they sure help lots of people, as it has with me.

[@thumbuddee9015]

Thank you for talking about this. I have never felt understood on the subject, but you described it perfectly. Thank you

[@KHolt22]

As our culture subjects children to sexual depravity at younger and younger ages, its important that parents teach their kids Christian sexual ethics before a kid from school shows them pornhub or some creepy teacher tells them all about the "wonders" of homosexuality

[@AliceInWonderlandWasHigh2020]

Thank you for being open and sharing this. God bless you!

[@ModelJames13]

Avoiding sexual sin is hard. Finding somebody to marry is even harder. It's a no-win situation.

[@jeanellecortez1422]

Something I want to share. Lust is a very powerful sin but not more powerful than Jesus. I’ve struggled with sexual sin myself for a long time. The Holy Spirit gave me great conviction of this sin. When I have moments of temptation with sexual sin and lust, I rebuke those temptations in the name of Jesus and it HAS WORKED EVERY SINGLE TIME. I’m still in shock and amazement of how our Lord delivers me when I call out to him. On days when the temptations get overwhelming I get on my knees and pray. I tell Jesus that I don’t want to sin against him and again HE DELIVERS ME EVERY SINGLE TIME. Run to Jesus and put your faith in him and he will rescue you. I’ll pray for you my brother.

[@alyssafriesen9632]

Thank you sooo much for talking about this!!!!We need more conversations around this topic🙏

[@benjaminwoodman]

While I can see the issue with purity culture, I will say they were onto something. If you give yourself up before marriage it will cut off a lot of potential suitors. And the more you do it the more potential suitors you cut off. I have struggled with lust but never had sex and therefore want a girl who is also a virgin. I think there was a massive overcorrection to the purity culture. It’s important to make note of that and bring it up. Which you have. Thank you for talking about all this Isaac! I love your work!

[@RachZen99]

True. It's not just an issue that men face. As a 24 year old, I fell into masturbation at a very young age and then came pornography. It's fair to say that I've been struggling silently my entire life cause people didn't know I was facing this issue. On the outside I seemed all good, well put up but on the inside I was dying. My parents are the best, I was never influenced by them to fall into these sins. Neither did they know about any of it. There were many nights where I was so sick and tired of life because of these secret sins, that I would pray to God to help me through these things cause honestly we don't have the strength without God. After years of struggle, I finally got the courage to talk about it with them this year and to ask them to pray for me to get out of these chains that were holding me down. I'm grateful for them. I'm grateful that God has placed people in our lives so that we can open up without fear. Thank you for sharing your experience and thoughts. It is good that these matters are talked about more and that people are made fully aware that they aren't struggling alone and that there is a way out.

[@ninjisaac3268]

I feel lost and unheard. I've been struggling with lust for years. I was exposed to a sexual scene in a TV show as a 7 or 8 year old, which planted the seed for my later battle with porn and masturbation that would start when I was 12 and very depressed. I'll be 20 in a few weeks. My struggle with lust seems to go hand in hand with my depression and now anxiety (the later of which has been getting worse as of late). I don't feel like I can talk to anyone, no one really listens to me. It feels like I'm on my own. I cry out to God, and I've seen some small changes for the better (which I'm very grateful for), but I still feel so far from being free or redeemed. My family doesn't go to a sound church and they won't let me go to a different church (despite telling me I can days before), so I try to stay home (I usually watch a sermon from another pastor. Recently I've been watching Mike Winger's Mark series) to avoid the heartbreak I experience when I hear some of the false teachings and see the unbiblical practices of that church. I feel stuck. I just want to live a life that brings glory to God, not just on the outside or in public, but also on the inside and in private. I'm so ashamed of all I've done, it's so hard for me to really grasp God's grace and love for me. There's so much more, I could go into more specifics but I won't here. Just please keep me in your prayers. Thank you Isaac for this video, some of the feelings you described are exactly how I've felt and some I feel daily. I want to overcome this, that I may be a better servant of Christ and that I might use my experiences to help others going through similar things. I want to be a good godly husband and a good father one day (Lord willing), but my struggles with lust make that seem so impossible. I'm terrified of dating (but I want to at the same time) because I've not yet overcome this. Sorry for the wall of text. I watched this video and felt a strong compelling to write a comment describing some of my struggles.

[@angarielthalion7867]

I love watching Mike Winger too! ☺️ It seems suspicious that your family tells you you can’t leave that church. I don’t know what kind of situation you’re in, if you are able to get a ride to visit other churches… but I think with you as an adult they don’t get to have a say in where you go to fellowship. It starts to sound a bit like a cult to me. And the fact that they’re fine with you staying home and not going to church at all over visiting a different church? That’s also weird to me. 🚩🚩🚩

[@Ryan07665]

I hope your situation gets better. Try your best to expose the false teachings from your church to your family. God being all-knowing also means he’s all-understanding. He understands your struggle and he’s there for you.

[@ninjisaac3268]

@@angarielthalion7867 they tell me on Sunday after church that I can go to a different church if I don't like the church they go to. One of my managers has invited me to his church and so has one of my bestfriends, but on Friday or Saturday when I tell them I plan on going with my manager or friend to one of the churches they go to, I'm told by my parents that I need or have to go with them. Talking to my parents about my concerns with the church they go to is hard, as in this kind of church there's this whole "you have a religious spirit." or "you're too religious." response when you question how biblical the teachings and/or practices are. Now don't get me wrong, I don't really care if other members of the church say those things to me or about me, but the thought of hearing that from my parents breaks me. They're not fine with me not going with them, but they also don't seem to want me to go anywhere else. Sometimes just knowing I'm going to that church will give me panic attacks, especially the mornings of. That started after one of the pastors said "Bethel and Bill Johnson is the real move of God." So yeah big red flags... but I still live with my parents so I feel kinda trapped 🙃

[@ninjisaac3268]

@@Ryan07665 that's hard, as the kind if church they go to tells you you're "too religious" or that you "have a 'religious spirit' " if you point out any of their false teachings or practices. I don't care if others in that church say that to me, but the thought of hearing that from my parents kinda breaks me.

[@biancadukes5311]

Bro i was thinking of this issue. You hit the nail on the head 😮.

[@Ariia206]

Thank you Isaac! I could talk about it with my pastor but sadly we didn't have the same conviction about this topic. Thank God the Holy Spirit always convicted me. But I can tell you this following verse is really true, of course because it's God's Word!: 𝙏𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙚, 𝙘𝙤𝙣𝙛𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙨𝙞𝙣𝙨 𝙩𝙤 𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙥𝙧𝙖𝙮 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧, 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙢𝙖𝙮 𝙗𝙚 𝙝𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙚𝙙. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working. James 5,16 The Holy Spirit will convict you. Conviction is good, but condemnation is bad. Don't condemn and isolate yourself: 𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝗻𝗼 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗺𝗻𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘀𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝗖𝗵𝗿𝗶𝘀𝘁 𝗝𝗲𝘀𝘂𝘀. Romans 8,11 Also I would advice to have those conversations with the same gender 😊 God bless you ✝️

[@rachellarisey]

Preach it bro! Wow. This is such a needed conversation. My husband confessed his struggles to his dad when he was a preteen and if his father had actually helped him to fight lust and p***,. He would not have struggled with it for years and brought it into our marriage and still be struggling with it now. I'm so frustrated that his dad just told him to stop, and that was the end of the conversation. Men need other men to help them fight. I need other women to help me fight in my unique ways.

[@ivikohli01]

Thank you for talking about this topic and sharing a part of your journey! Please talk more about it! We should normalize talking about this!

[@Qwerzxcv954]

Thank you for this video Isaac, this needed to be said

[@yimmyrawr]

Great Video! super relatable! I need strength to talk about my sexual side to others as I struggle through this, It's a shame how hard it is to talk about, I totally agree with like everythig you said.

[@vanillasalt8284]

This is the problem with most institutional religions, this is why I define as a Christian with no denomination. The Church is so inhuman and disconnected from human reality, especially for young people. As a child the church was so repulsive to me and never connected with me on a personal level, it honestly did more to push me away from God than closer to him. I was a legit Agnostic at one point because of how disillusioned I was with the church. I think in today’s society the Catholic, Eastern Orthodox and Protestant churches and institutions do more to push people away from God than closer, they are antithetical to their purpose, it’s like Satan has entered the heads of the leaders of these churches and has pushed them in a direction that has made them disconnected from people and hence push them away from Jesus. I am so glad I rediscovered my faith and found resolve in Christ by myself but I know that most people my age who were repulsed by the church struggle to find God and remain atheist or agnostic or they end up worshipping some other dogma. I pray that people in my generation rediscover God but we need to address the attitude of the Christian institutionalized churches and how disconnected it is from the ordinary people.

[@amaturetech3048]

You know what, I honestly don't know what to do when I have urges to mastur ba t e. I have talked to the elders and pastor of my church and nobody was able to help me. I am a woman. I need a spirtual counseler that is of the christian faith. Unfortunately thats not avaliable to me. Now im stuck in a loop of watching porn and feeling guilty. AS A WOMAN I THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO!!

[@Bmmrl]

Culture Project has missionaries that go to high schools and does retreats talking about saving sex for marriage. They’re also a great resource on KZbin.

[@AAGRACE]

This video is a big help for me as i have a friend struggling with this issue and i am preparing tio talk to them about it and help them

[@joshstormin6580]

200k on the way!

[@Jonathan_McConnell]

I don’t know how the previous generation dealt with porn and the like, but I know that my generation will be dealing with it for a long time.

[@bunny_0288]

It wasn't as accessible before the internet. Think about it, before the internet you had to go out and physically buy certain magazines or go into certain seedy video stores to buy VHS tapes. Or physically go to a club. And it's not like those video stores were everywhere. It was potentially a pretty long drive to get to them. And then you had to buy it from an actual person which would have been embarrassing for a lot of people. Or be in a club around other people. It was so much harder to do this in secret. Because it was harder to get access to, that created resistance and it's easier to fight temptations when it can be difficult to have access to stuff. And then there was the physical magazine/video that could be found, which was also a deterrent because of the potential trouble/embarrassment it could cause. Now pornography is a click away. Incognito mode means there is no evidence, etc. We literally carry the internet around with us at all time meaning our generation always has access to it. It has made it sooo much more difficult to stop compared with older generations.

[@antoniomere]

Great convo!! Loved the video, i just wanna add, and i truly don’t mean to be that person, but.. imagine for 2 seconds how it feels to feel shameful about these things and also being gay or “same sex attracted” as people say.. and Having people constantly talking about how evil you are. Its like condemnation times 2.. I encourage everyone who reads this to think about how some in different circumstances than u are might be affected and try to reason with them instead of judge.

[@jaaade03]

Yes, thank you so much for talking about this

[@amandaweldon9022]

Thank You So Much for talking about Isaac ! Sex is something that is not spoke about in Church. It’s taboo. We need more honest conversations about this topic. Thank You So Much.

[@EdDrow]

I'm off from Pornhub and such, but KZbin provides now and then content(random recommendations) that gets me excited. It's a constant struggle I fail unfortunatly sometimes and the only thing I can tell myself is that it's not as bad as it used to be. I hope God forgives me, lifts me back up and makes me stronger.

[@gabrielseth5142]

We are all going to fail. Most of us at some point or another, probably all of us will have an on again/off again tragic relationship with this sin. I've failed, you've failed, most people watching this will have failed, those who either overcome this sin in their lives permenantly or even never have given into it are either married, live in another part of the world or are just so spectacularly blessed by God in such matters of discipline that they truly are one in a million who can resist while being a normal human being, living in the west. We are failures, we do sin, but the great part is that we have forgiveness for it. We can fail a million times a day and God will still forgive us. But we, as Christians have a duty. We know the word, we know what is expected so we MUST try, we have no other choice but to put in the effort because that is what God has set us to do and we cannot refuse him because we are Christians and we love Christ and we love God and so we try, if not for our own sake than for the sake of our Lord. I see it as an eternal siege. Our bodies the fortress, our soul the garrison. We try and try to fight back the assaulting sin, whatever form it may take. Sometimes the walls are cracked, sometimes a breach forms and the sin rushes in to take advantage of our defenses, to come to grips with our soul in savage glee and try to kill it. Try to deny it immortality and eternal peace and deny God the love and loyalty of one more soul. But we must rally our soul, push back out the sin, repair the breach and man the walls once again and we are only able to push out the sin and repair the walls with Gods forgiveness

[@akushika6143]

The Christian faith and walk is a never ending struggle trust me, and that is the beauty of it. Knowing that it possible to break free by first acknowledge what your struggles are and believing God for a miracle to be set free. Good content brother 😊😊😊

[@Itsmeyourfriend84]

It’s a war, a war with me against myself. Let’s fight the good fight, let’s finish the race, let’s use our anger, our disappointment, our frustration with ourselves against our sin. Always praying for deliverance.

[@thisisalsojudith]

I love this channel because of the honesty and willingness to have the uncomfortable conversations too. God bless you Isaac 🙏

[@aheartonfire7191]

But those thumbnails tho

[@May52525]

As a young Christian woman what irritated me about youth group, purity talks, and the like I was never given an alternative to sexual acts. It was ALWAYS "don't do this" "pray" "read these scriptures on how wrong it is" etc. If someone had told me Hey have you considered going to take a walk, have you thought about going to exercise, do you like crafts, etc. There were times I was so horny I would read my bible, pray, cry, fall asleep and then wake up feeling the same way just to masturbate and everything I did to try and prevent it just go down the drain! It's shameful but I feel like I must be real about this. We have to do better for this next generation of Christians. Tell that young sister get up out of the bed Saturday morning! Lying around like that will stir up nothing but trouble in your head. Idk I'm not ashamed of what I did necessarily if I can prevent problems for someone else.

[@livrigmornetland]

Thank you for talking about it!

[@sierrarose1013]

Amen! Thanks for this amazing video. My story is too long to get into in a comment, but I’ve had a journey to get healing from anxiety because of abuse and things. I’m thankful God is teaching me what is natural about sex that I don’t have to be afraid of abuse anymore 😅 sorry this sounds really depressing, but basically He’s been making me whole and healing me so much from things that happened to me and things that I did myself that don’t line up with His design for sex ❤️ God is good, and if you are holding in secrets and fears about abuse or sin, let somebody know, and the healing can develop by leaps and bounds ❤️ God bless

[@jordanfoulkrod]

I've struggled with these things, and I agree that this is a very important topic to talk about with Christian teenagers. I'm a Christian teenager, and I wish I was able to talk about this before because it's very important.

[@carennrodrigues7631]

I was raised in church and i love Jesus and i am watching this video in tears because its so hard to be a nearly third single woman in a world that judges us for aging and having nothing or getting married " a litle late" os "too late". Sometimes i just want a partner to talk, share interests and be hugged with tender. I always struggled to have friends and boyfriends and its still a struggle to not feel misfitted and lonely most part of the time. My family is amazing and i have good mates at church but fighting this loneliness and worthlessness feelings are my battles. I cry secretly and say prayers to god because all i need is having someone to bound genuinelly and Sometimes its where the temptations finds place

[@The_Kings_Rose]

This is important which is why i wrote a sermon on purity for the church. I have teach it three times and it has been a blessing to the groups that heard it.

[@daniebelle23]

Very relatable! Thanks for sharing!

[@Christiansstillstruggle]

Thank you for this video brother 🙏 🫡. You are literally doing Gods works. Your right!!! I never told my parents about I was struggling through because even though they may not have judged me, there just wasn't an open space for those kind of conversations 😔

[@GeneSysFNLT]

I'm one of those women who grew up in purity culture. My parents wouldn't even DARE give me "the talk." I grew up not knowing how to navigate these issues, and instead the internet was my teacher. A horrible one, though, because I'm now 32 with deep seeded self-image problems. Porn broke me as a little girl, and now not only do I suffer shame in silence, but I also struggle with the way I view myself and how I relate to the people around me. To me, even the thought of marriage is an impossible fantasy. After all, porn taught me at a young age that men like certain kinds of women, and I don't fit the criteria. I'll be honest, even putting these thoughts out there feels like a noose around my neck. I've tried to get myself out of this mess, but I've failed at every turn. I desperately cling to Jesus, because he's the only one who can get me out of this. I'm glad that this video exists, because it helped me realize that I'm not the only one that's been there.

[@butdoyouknowjesus4121]

Don’t believe the lie sister. If it is in Gods will He will bring a man that loves everything about you. those corn stars are not natural, and the things they do are a perversion of Gods design. Continue to remind yourself about this truth. And also pray that the Lord would deliver you from the issue, like Isaac said having a sister in Christ that you can confess this to really does help, because it shines light on the sin. Praying for you, and continue to cling on to the Lord.

[@justagirl1732]

Finally someone speaks up! I really needed to hear this, and to see im not alone. In february i had an encounter with Jesus, i desided to follow Him (again) and even though i failed sometimes, i could talk about it with Jesus. but this week my past came up, and i have never felt this bad since i got born again. i started running from Jesus, i believed the devils lies and i fell into sexual sin. i feal empty, dark, ... wicked.. i try to find my way back to God... but .. somethings wrong with me. I want God, i cant live without Him, but... i cant even read the bible. i cant focus, i cant understand what i read. i have never felt this way.. I hate sexual sin, masturbation, and i got to a point when i dont enjoy it doing at all, i feel sick of it, but i still cant get out of my vomit. Thank you for this video, and the reminders. Lord, meet me in my lowest

[@JDthegamer209]

I've had a very similar struggle, and I continue to struggle greatly every day. When you feel ashamed because of it, think about the fact that Jesus died on the cross for you so that those sins wouldn't cause you to be eternally separated from God. Then think about the fact that Jesus himself was tempted, yet he stood strong without even having to use supernatural power to defeat that temptation. This shows you 2 things: 1. God still loves you, regardless of the fact that you committed sin. Confess those sins to God, ask for forgiveness, and you will be able to move on. 2. Know that no matter what, you can resist those temptations and do what is right. If you're at a point where you feel like you can't handle it anymore, ask God to deliver you from that temptation and help you find freedom from it. Confess to God exactly what you feel tempted to do, and ask him to protect you from further temptation.

[@rolandos8758]

I sometimes feel like masturbation is my only way to find sexual pleasure because I might be single forever. Ik its a lie but after stressful times I give in just so I can have some relief, instead of going to God in those moments.

[@davidordaz5251]

Yeah same..

[@thegospelcallTGC]

This is definitely the kind of content that most Christians need to be doing. I struggled with porn for three years, and a lot of the aftereffects, but I praise God, He pushed me to go to my parents and now I have my family to go to when I am struggling. I have no need to feel ashamed anymore, I now have freedom from sin, and I pray every day that God would keep my mind pure. Thank God for His goodness and thank God for your openness.

[@eveclosson3333]

Hi! I'm Catholic, and I enjoy watching your videos and the thought you put into all of these matters. Something you said at the very beginning of this video caught my attention, which is when you said the church doesn't talk about sex enough. I'm sure you have, but just in case you haven't, you should really look into, or read, "Theology of the Body" by Christopher West, or even Theology of the Body by Pope John Paul II. I've heard a lot about sex and the body in religious context from these things, and its been very insightful, and goes way beyond "save sex for marriage and here is the physical boundaries", but explains how our bodies reflect God and why so many parts of our bodies are the way we are and why we believe what we believe. It's very interesting, I'd highly recommend it!

[@lildu0p]

thank you so much for sharing this!

[@beebeeboohoo]

This is so good! You’re a very concise and eloquent speaker; I can see Christ has been doing a lot of sanctifying with you! Girl Defined is another Christian KZbin channel I watch that talks about sexuality and masturbation. I appreciate it so much, especially right now, since the only Christian person I know and am close with is my dad (we just started settling in a church so we haven’t made roots yet, let alone have vulnerable convos like this). Anyways, for me, I noticed that my fall is pride. I stopped masturbating despite having temptations when I was saved in 2020. Sometimes I’d think subtly and proudly how I didn’t feel tempted and how I was “pure” as compared to others because I haven’t done it. Well, that pride made me vulnerable as I didn’t give God credit and I fell into sin. Embarrassing and shameful. I’m forgiven by our patient Lord and so grateful you and the commenters here all get it.

[@SandiBaize]

Thank you for talking about this!!

[@positivelypurposeful8522]

THIS! I feel like not having adequate sex talks was the reason I was so confused about sex and craved it so much. I just wish we could have sex classes in the church because then it would give people a more well rounded view when going out into the world. Because from what I have seen, a lot of christian have conflicting views on sex.

[@Pro-j4q]

Its not the "sexual sin" that kills you, its declaring sex as a "sin" that kills you.

[@Becky12348]

I still struggle a lot with that, I became a Christian for real ( going to church and baptizing ) about 2 years ago, and that’s the biggest struggle for a new converted Christian coming from a worldly super stimulating life. For me as a woman, doesn’t matter if I’m not using dating apps, going on dates , etc there is always someone trying to sleep with you or take you out, no one understands that God has a purpose for your life and sex is a gift given from him when ur time finally comes to be with the one. The devil always uses the same tricks to try to make you fall , but I try to think with myself - just one more day god will give me strength! Don’t let him and the World fools you into that emotional / spiritual prison of sexual sin. Nowadays I try to be surrounded by my church friends that pass trough the same and it helps a lot.

[@Becky12348]

Hello Tyler, thanks for sharing your testimony and yes the world will certainly praise you for living under its rules, we see that in entertainment industry for example, the most sensual, sexual content written for songs , movies, etc is the one that sells more. As a women I used to treat myself as an object as well, thank God I found my true value trough the Word of God and it’s a constant battle, but still as you said : is the best decision you can have given the fact that this world is already condemned and one bad day with the Lord is better than your best days without Him 🙏🏻 I’m a Brazilian, living in the Middle East

[@Becky12348]

@Tyler Lee we can be friends :) email for me is just for work 😂 you are an old Christian ! @beccadianali

[@JasonMercer1998]

He has point. I respect your veiws and morals sir! You just earned a subscriber! 👍🏻🙏🏻

[@janaijunewanbah]

Thank you.🙏🏻

[@megamamab333]

This is soooo good brother!!

[@abelee709]

Thank you. Great Video God Bless

[@princessjackeywesley]

am single and battling with love addiction , pornography addiction coupled with musturbation.... been inspired with this video.

[@theultimatefool3655]

It started for me when I was 11 heard old from, of all things, these ads spam messages online. Ive been struggling with this addiction for so many years, but ive finally found peace with god! Even though no one in my church ever talked about these things, god sent me videos like this. Thank you!

[@njwhite6460]

I’m glad you pointed this out. We need to make it a point in the church to talk about these things, because if the church don’t teach our kids, the world will.

[@lorin15]

thank you so much for this video. it hit different for me

[@bmccoy78]

You should look into theology of the body and Christoper West

[@RebornNade]

God bless you, great message

[@VendijaKalniņa]

Hey! Since you said at the end we need community, let me ask you this, and I’m asking since I truly want to hear your opinion - what is a sincere repentance of sins? Multiple times I will pray, sincerely repenting, yet I still will fall into the same sin short time later. I honestly sometimes don’t even want to repent if I know I’ll do it again. And does God really forgive everything I asked to be forgiven about if I don’t even mean it? How do I repent sincerely? To be completely honest, and if talking about masturbation, even when I catch myself seeking pleasure and understand that what I’m doing is wrong, I often don’t stop. Now how do I ask forgiveness afterwards if I know that I sinned even after being convicted? I sinned knowing that I’m going against God. How do you go to God and pray after that? At least I feel an awful lot of shame and fear praying afterwards.

[@p.c1892]

I can relate to you with the exact same situation. The enemy wants you to feel shame and to feel like you can’t keep asking for forgiveness. We are born with sin. We will always fall short, it’s just our nature. The beauty of gods grace is that if you keep asking for forgiveness he will give you that. Ask him to mold you to be better and to eventually overcome. You will eventually overcome the sin just don’t the give up. The enemy wants you to give up, but do not! Keep pouring your heart out to Yahweh.

[@sasharodriguez2494]

I completely agree with the comment above^ keep being honest with Him, and I would encourage you to evaluate where you’re spending your time, delete what you need to delete, unfollow who you need to unfollow, and get as close as you can to the Lord. Get deep into the word, increase prayer time and be really honest with yourself and with Him. At the end of the day He knows everything, you can’t tell Him something He doesn’t know already. He chose to die knowing everything we would think, say and do. Something that helped me was after falling back into it, I started writing down how I felt. I felt even more lonely than before, I felt dirty, disgusting, ashamed, far from God, etc. I also read that going back to the same sin is like a dog going back to eat its own vomit and whenever I felt that urge I’d think about vomit (disgusting, I know, but was effective for me). Don’t give up, whatever you do don’t give up. I’ll be praying for you🙏🏼

[@kellychery8367]

I completely understand. There are times where I feel like why should I repent if there is a chance I will do it again. Maybe it’s an issue with trusting God will change that part of me.

[@averosc9890]

If you do happen to read this, I'd like to elaborate my understanding of your so situation so that I may address your questions properly. If I happen to be correct, I encourage you to read the rest of my post and if not, feel free to explain your position further. So from what I understand about your situation: You happen to be struggling with a particular sin. You constantly succumb to it but, you believe in the need to repent of it so you attempt to do so in prayer. However, after repeating this process multiple times you begin to wonder if your prayers are empty or not. After all, one might reason if one is truly repentant of a sin they see the severity of it and will make visible progress toward fighting it. But, you don’t see such progress in regards to the sin you struggle with and begin to wonder about, and maybe even doubt, the sincerity of your prayers. Furthermore, there is a part of you that feels convicted about the sin you struggle with but, another part of you questions that conviction based on the lack of visible progress towards resisting this sin. These things considered you almost feel like a failure as a believer in God and fear that not only God is angry with you about this but, also maybe your faith in God is empty as well. Again if I am correct in my assumptions please read on. Your situation sounds nearly identical to mine as I struggled with certain sins in this particular way. I’d like to break this into some key points for ease of reading but, know that they do coincide with each other. 1) Your will, Your emotions After thinking about this over the years I determined that all thoughts a person might have can be seen as comprising of varying degrees of two categories: the will and the emotions. The will is what you believe and is often based in logic and reasoning. An example would be you believing it is a good act to help an old lady cross the street and as such might go help. The emotions are what we feel and could be for, neutral towards or in opposition to the will. Continuing the example, the old lady you go to help happens to be one who is particularly mean and as such your emotions might work against your will to prevent helping her. Now in your particular situation, it seems like your will believes that you should repent of your sins and this is a great thing! If your will believes in Jesus Christ as Lord and propitiation of the sins of those who believe, I confidently say that you are saved and spiritual growth will follow no matter how long it seems to take. Returning to your situation, if you are like me, you lack the emotional motivation to pursue the stance of your will especially when the emotional temptation of the sin you struggle with is very strong. This makes it kinda feel like you are spinning your wheels in the mud when it comes to spiritual growth. But these things being said, how do you go about finding the emotional motivation to pursue the beliefs of your will? Well, this brings me to my next point... 2) Passion for God Again I’d like to point out my assumption is your struggle with sin is identical to mine. That being said, it seems your lack of emotional motivation toward the righteous beliefs of your will stems from your relationship with God. It seems you have no problem seeing Him as the all-righteous, all-knowing, all-powerful God that He is(this a good thing) but, you struggle to see Him as a father. This is key in establishing an emotional connection with God. In order to see Him as a father, I ask you: what, be it anything at all, do feel strongly about… and how do you see this in God as a father figure? For example: Is it that the fact that He loves us unconditionally no matter how far we stray? Is it that He blesses us with good tasting food? Is it that He knows the pain we may endure and looks upon us with compassion? Etc. For me, I had a passion for justice and reasoning. It drove me absolutely up a wall when someone would do wrongful things to me, especially when they appeared to have no reason behind it. But looking at God and how much I did wrong to him, He had every right to be mad at me enact justice on me consigning me to eternal damnation because the just wages for sin is death. But, He had the loving compassion of a father for me and sent His Son, The Lord Jesus Christ, to die for my sins and save me from such a terrible fate. Side note: this renewed relationship converted my passion for justice and reasoning to righteousness and wisdom. This was unfathomably joyous to me so much so that I couldn’t help but, love and respect for Him as a father. Once you see His fatherly love for you God turns from a distant rule maker to a father seeks to raise you in righteousness. As such you will have no problem having that emotional motivation to any righteous beliefs your will holds. But what after this? Well… 3) Resistance of Evil through fierce spiritual discipline Once you have the emotional motivation to pursue any righteous beliefs your will holds, you find yourself pursuing such beliefs more consistently. This is great for two reasons. The type of sin you struggle with acts very similar to an addictive drug (ie The less you use it, the less you depend on it and are more free from its manipulative control). Since you will reject the sin constantly by following the righteous beliefs of your will, the strength of it’s emotional temptation it has toward you will diminish more and more. This is the first reason. *The second reason is a strange phenomena that I wish I could explain the inner workings of, but, I can only tell you with confidence how it operates and that it does occur.* As emotional motivation drives you to the righteous beliefs of your will, in your case the desire to overcome the sin and sincerely repent when you slip, _you will automatically start following these beliefs with less and less reliance on emotional motivation._ Now are you gonna be perfect at some point? No. But, you will see that this sin has lost it’s crushing control on you. If I were to give a name to this phenomena, I would call it spiritual discipline and it is a strong tool against the satan when he tries to deceive us into sin. This is because God can bring us to His loving presence through the truth and/or our emotions but, the satan can only deceive us into his side by manipulating our emotions as he hates the truth. This process of overcoming sin and acting in accordance with righteousness is a part of what sanctification is I believe. And sanctification is the process in which God makes us more and more like Christ as it is a good thing and all good things come from God. Will you be perfectly like Christ at some point in this side of life? Again, no. I hope this has been some help to you, and whoever is reading, and please remember I’m basing this off the assumptions I made in the beginning which is identical to what I went through and as such am speaking from a place of humility.

[@kellychery8367]

@@averosc9890 I am not the original poster, but am in a very similar boat. Thank you for allowing God to use you to write this. I read it not long after you replied and the second point really hit me. I have this fear of God saying "That's enough, I'm done with you." I realized that I at times I still think of God on an earthly level, when he is so much more. I was born and raised in church so I knew him on the intellectual level this is who he is because my Pastor said. It wasn't until more recently that I let God tell me who he is. There is also the matter of dying to myself daily. After a while of not entertaining this sin I get overly confident because "I" am doing it. And I have been good for x amount of days or months. The Holy Spirit compared it to running from the killer in scary movies and looking back. I keep looking back to see if the sin is there or make sure that it is far behind me, but in looking back I run into a tree branch of pride and fall back where the original sin captures me. I. know that I am not perfect, not while in this body, but it is frustrating falling into the same mistake over and over again.

[@lizzimini_]

i would love to have friends that have the same worldview as you cause id love to have someone to talk to about these things