We Should All Know Less About Each Other

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@RachelOates Ай бұрын

Just to clarify because a few people have called me a dictator: I'm not trying to get this content taken down, I never once said they shouldn't post it, I'm even not angry about it. I just thought it would be an interesting discussion to have to try and understand the WHY behind bits of human behaviour. I can't cover dark, super serious, shocking topics all the time because it messes with my head. Sometimes I need a break and to talk about something interest but with less high stakes where there's no 'right' or 'wrong', just interesting discussions to be had.

@det7742 Ай бұрын

I really liked the tone of the video, Rachel. You did not seem like a dictator to me; you seemed as thoughtful and careful as always. I also liked your break from the dark, serious topics, as I am EXHAUSTED and also need a break!

@KatherineAcosta20 Ай бұрын

Someone had to say it, oversharing is getting wild. Not everything should be content.

@BeeKee404 Ай бұрын

I don't think you're coming off as a dictator. I personally do think specific types of oversharing should be taken down. Some things should just be private.

@elysiagoodson1463 Ай бұрын

@@RachelOates Yeah, I'm not sure why people are saying that about you. I thought it was a really interesting topic that should be discussed.

@MegJuniper Ай бұрын

As a fairly new viewer (~3 months), I can’t quite remember which exact video as I’ve binged them all together haha but even as a newbie I remember you saying you personally have boundaries about what you’re comfortable with people sharing with you/the public in terms of private *things, and you personally do not feel comfortable sharing your own *things, but you clearly distinguished that you don’t think everyone needs to have those exact boundaries, you’re just a commentary channel going to give commentary from your personal views and boundaries hahaha bc that’s why we’re here! To hear your perspective! so idk why anyone would be surprised you’ve made this video❤️❤️ it’s funny, it’s light, and I needed it after Thanksgiving dinner with extended family who all shared WAY too much information hahaha hope this made sense?

@radsaq Ай бұрын

Every time I see any clip of them I just think: have Paul and Morgan ever considered talking to each other instead of talking to a camera? 🤔

@lovelee5140 Ай бұрын

That one!! Lol

@nephthys0xa499 Ай бұрын

They seem to hate each other, why would they? Could you imagine trying to talk to that selfish manbaby?

@Lily-ok9lp Ай бұрын

Morgan needs to talk to literally anyone else but that awful man, he’s a disgusting person.

@BeeKee404 Ай бұрын

I think the same thing about a lot of influencers. It's honestly sad how they apparently would rather share these things to the public AKA complete strangers rather than with people in their personal life.

@radsaq Ай бұрын

@@nephthys0xa499 Fair point. I'm not sure it would really result in any sort of useful outcome. But I can't help but wonder.

@kiraveritas3060 Ай бұрын

I would rather they talk about accidentally eating poop or normalising bodily functions than any of their hateful opinions tbh. She probably posted it for engagement, with over sharing there’s a big grey area between maintaining your own privacy and shedding light on things other people may have also experienced either to teach them or to get advice. The outcome of Morgan’s post could be her feeling shamed if people call her a bad mother, happy at all the clicks and comments even if they’re mostly negative, or some comfort and solidarity from the few people who say “don’t worry that happened to me too and I did X to deal with it”

@PixelPenguin87212 Ай бұрын

It's funny because everything they put out intentionally is like "get married. have babies" and then the eating poop reminded me exactly why I never want to have kids or be like them 😂

@warlordofbritannia Ай бұрын

“People kept telling me to eat sh!t, and now that I’ve tried it I understand why.”

@septimaserpent Ай бұрын

Str8 Up!!!💀@@PixelPenguin87212

@Blake1720 Ай бұрын

Yep 100%

@alexanderh8129 Ай бұрын

yeah like. eating a bit of poop is a lot funnier and sillier than the rest of her deplorable content

@Goldenfur12698 Ай бұрын

the way she's still eating jerky while talking about confusing a piece of actual human shit for a piece of jerky is... a choice...

@aquabluerose7734 Ай бұрын

Ikr 🤢 🤮

@ugh712 Ай бұрын

As a chronic oversharer myself (and my own experience as an autistic woman could have something to do with it) I have no problem with other people sharing anything they want to as long as they put a little warning beforehand instead of just jumping right into it. i didnt used to realize how inappropriate my tendency to overshare could be until just a few years back when someone I really love had the decency to talk to me about it and I have made a conscious effort to be more mindful since then. just try to respect peoples boundaries by asking first or if its online, adding a warning.

@lemsip207 Ай бұрын

@ugh712 A lot of people overshare because of culture as either they were encouraged to or they weren't allowed opinions so they bottled it all up inside them so it came out later.

@kerisaltchannel3817 Ай бұрын

I’m autistic and overshare too

@lemsip207 Ай бұрын

@kerisaltchannel3817 Not everyone who overshares is autistic. Sometimes, they have become needy through trauma, or they just like the sound of their own voices. Some people overshare with only a few people in their life and not with others. Often they overshare because nobody told them not to. Autistic people in my experience were more likely to undershare.

@carriepinkduck Ай бұрын

Relatable

@ugh712 Ай бұрын

@@lemsip207 I also have some pretty bad trauma, I wonder if my tendency to overshare has more to do with that

@FishareFriendsNotFood972 Ай бұрын

Great and interesting point in how oversharing isolates people, which makes them even more lonely, which leads to even more over sharing.

@erika2m16 Ай бұрын

💯

@doggerybaw Ай бұрын

If I can offer a perspective from an ex-fundie who struggles with oversharing: Those of us raised female are often not given needed information and are also told that we need to keep things hidden(modesty culture, gossiping being sin, etc.). For me, I am still trying to regulate how much of who I am and what I've been through is ok and where it crosses the line into trauma dumping. Because I personally want to know as much information as possible(because I was raised so sheltered), I have a hard time recognizing that it can make people uncomfortable to hear my stories. As for Morgan sharing about eating poop(and Bethany farting stories), I think that can be seen as trying to normalize what they see as a normal(or accidental) wife/mother issues that they feel are just things they never heard about growing up. I have known a lot of parents who make the "is it chocolate or poop" kind of jokes if they have like a weird brown crumb or smear somewhere. And maybe that's more of an American thing? Idk, what the reasoning was behind it, but I just wanted to share a possible option💜

@hes3 Ай бұрын

Love your point!

@heysaras Ай бұрын

But you still don’t EAT the mystery crumb!

@taywatson894 Ай бұрын

I was going to say something similar to this. There are a LOT of joke about chocolate vs poop in terms of parenting and Bethany sharing normal bodily functions seem okay to me. Though, they definitely both overshare a lot, but I'm okay trying to normalize bodily functions (like someone else earlier said, rather that than their hatred).

@Techno-Wolf Ай бұрын

For real I was raised very similarly! Exfundie, creationist, and homeschooled. I wasn’t even taught or allowed to discuss what my period was, so when I had excessive bleeding due to being anemic, I didn’t know that wasn’t normal and so didn’t say anything. The 1 time I was taken to a gynecologist she recommended birth control, and my mom freaked out and I was never taken again 🫠

@Blake1720 Ай бұрын

I dislike their beliefs but as long as they aren’t exploiting their children it’s on them If they want share their own embarrassing stories lol

@Otterwaffle Ай бұрын

I rarely agree with Bethany, but the post about gas and pee, to me, is part of de-stigmatizing how bodies are sometimes. And it also helps with stopping others (especially women) from thinking they have to be perfect, to perform, when having s3x. I can't imagine how scared i would be if i had digestive issues like IBS to engage in some s3xual acts if no one was saying it's not a big deal if some gas occurs. But this is a great conversation to have, about how we engage with social media and oversharing :)

@stacyragland3123 Ай бұрын

Yeah I thought the exact same thing

@MohammedAli-hl4mr 29 күн бұрын

I don't know much about Paul and Morgan what is the racist thing they've done?

@amethystimagination3332 20 күн бұрын

I honestly feel like farting during your first time, while embarrassing, is nowhere near as bad as eating shit. Like there’s a time and place to talk about awkward stories about sex as most people have them, if I ever accidentally ate human excrement I would take that to my grave.

@yeet7463 Ай бұрын

I think a lot of it comes from a place of trying to be over relatable as a mom. So many influencers tried to be the perfect mom for so long, now they are swinging in the other direction

@CarrieNicole47 Ай бұрын

Cutting to Paul with the pickleball paddle is giving Uncle Rico "if coach woulda put me in... I'd take state"

@sarahallegra6239 Ай бұрын

😂😂😂

@moustik31 Ай бұрын

If I was his "trad" wife, I would be LIVID! Imagine depending on that overgrown spoiled brat to provide and lead the family into the next decades! Just get a 9-5 dude!

@DigitalStarry Ай бұрын

As someone who grew up in the online stranger danger of the early 2000s it amazes me how much people will overshare online in front of everyone. I rarely use my social media accounts for posting personal information. Its 99% retweeting cool art and maybe the occasional hobby related post about gaming or cats, nothing super personal. Anything personal related I talk about online is only with friends in private chats that I’ve known for years at this point, sometimes over a decade and trust them.

@cladthecrab Ай бұрын

You mentioned consent, and I think part of the problem is some people don't seem to understand that consent is a thing that extends beyond sexually touching someone into other aspects of people's personal boundaries. I'm in some online groups related to mental health, and people will often post VERY GRAPHIC things about their sex life without a content warning. For a while those same people got upset that a lot of us were asking for content warnings if they were gonna post that stuff, but it was like - I don't want to hop onto social media on the train and not have the choice of whether to opt into hyper-specific details about someone's sex life! I understand people wanting an outlet to share, especially if they don't have much of a support system they see face to face, and I don't even mind if they share inane or gross shit if that's what they feel they need to do to have a sense of community. But at least warning people about what they're getting into seems like the bare minimum IMO.

@roseaAlisu2000 Ай бұрын

I too have this habit of oversharing my vulnerabilities, practically handing out emotional baggage like free samples at a grocery store. Why do I do this? Honestly, I haven't fully psychoanalyzed myself, but I think it's my weird way of saying, "Hey, look at all my broken bits! You can totally share yours, too!" The problem? I suspect the recipient of my oversharing doesn't think, "Wow, how brave and inviting!" but more like, "Oh no, what have I stumbled into?" So now I'm actively trying to stop, because (a) it annoys me, (b) it's clearly not working, and (c) I want to be one of those intriguing, mysterious people who reveal their secrets in layers-like a terrific novel, not a pop-up book.

@willemijn3059 Ай бұрын

Oof, this hits more close to home than I would like to admit 😅

@alexanderh8129 Ай бұрын

lmao novel not a pop up book is so real😭😭

@emmanarotzky6565 Ай бұрын

I’m one of the people who gets called “mysterious” and it’s annoying because I want to share! I just don’t know what is shareable and what people want to know unless they ask very direct questions lmao

@OopsIDidItAgainUh Ай бұрын

I understand you. I grew up as a people pleaser and have social anxiety, so I overshare unnecessary things with people that needn't hear them, and not share what actually needs to be shared with people who care and are ready to listen. But I have been able to get a little better at it by journaling often. My goal for the coming year is to make it a daily habit because the rate at which I journal now has been very helpful. Due to the social anxiety I find it difficult to articulate even simple things. But through journaling I've learnt to collect my thoughts better, articulate better and in turn was able to figure out some of my underlying issues. I am not financially well enough to go to therapy but I know that when I could afford it I will be able to speak to my therapist better than I did years ago, thanks to this habit. I've journaled sporadically for several years before and never took it seriously. But it's only been a year since I began journaling at the rate at which I'm doing now and it is helping me already. Since you too are on your journey of recovering from oversharing, I suggest you try journaling.

@spiceupyourafterlife Ай бұрын

I do agree that some things *should* be kept private, but I would much rather parents talk openly about the difficult, scary, and even gross parts of parenthood than glorify it as a "blessing" the way people like Paul and Morgan do.

@morgianasartre6709 Ай бұрын

They don't glorify it as a blessing though, they have shared the hard parts quite readily and even kind of retracted some of their statements considering Morgan announced she is done having babies.

@spiceupyourafterlife Ай бұрын

@@morgianasartre6709 I said people *like* Paul and Morgan.

@morgianasartre6709 Ай бұрын

@@spiceupyourafterlife So people *like* them who are not actually like them...

@caseyc2497 Ай бұрын

Ehat makes me enraged is the ones that dont just overshare THEIR life, but overshare about their CHILDREN. Children that didnt consent and dont want people to hear these things. I had that mother and it was horrific.

@lemsip207 Ай бұрын

They do it in public too, not just online.

@teabee5397 Ай бұрын

At 12:55, "Your body is not your own anymore." YUCK

@c471 Ай бұрын

Exactly what I came to the comment section to react to. Sadly it is this kind of "religious thinking" that leads to nonconsentual/ forced relations in some marriages. It is disgusting and makes me want to scream and bellow for those women...

@Juli-bm7yl Ай бұрын

@@c471 yeah some of the things they were saying through their videos were making me think "this relationship sounds coercive as fuck" (paul's "it's nice knowing she can't go anywhere" and "we need to work on that" (about the going to bed snuggling). paul really sounds like he has a sense of entitlement over how he can treat his partner and what to expect from her, quite obviously not caring about if it's at her own expense. it's just absolutely disgusting behaviour

@MohammedAli-hl4mr 29 күн бұрын

I don't know much about Paul and Morgan what is the racist thing they've done?

@BeeBod Ай бұрын

Every clip i see of Morgan she looks so depressed and dissociated

@irisl4498 Ай бұрын

„Can I just say“ Morgan, please, don’t. You can. But you shouldn‘t.

@OopsIDidItAgainUh Ай бұрын

Is it just me or almost everytime I hear her talk she sounds high? Like not in a funny way but I find it concerning.

@celloafterdark4173 Ай бұрын

Paul seems super needy but doesn't know how to ask for hugs. Morgan seems super resentful and cruel and whiny. They both seem like they're not getting what they need and are lashing out at each other and everyone else.

@shilohgoes5544 Ай бұрын

They’re both cruel imo

@Nicgross Ай бұрын

I honestly think Morgan would be a lot happier if she got away from him. And got herself a REALLY good therapist.

@nikkio.9990 Ай бұрын

Yup, they barely knew one another when they got married and it shows

@soyevquirsefron990 Ай бұрын

She’s not as pure or as pretty as Paul and he never lets her forget it. I like her more tho

@Aelffwynn Ай бұрын

@@soyevquirsefron990I've never understood how anyone can find Paul attractive. But to each their own, I guess.

@TheMotherofBaggins Ай бұрын

I was a stay at home with two kids close in age and I promise you I never ate poop.

@cosmictraveler1146 Ай бұрын

Like girl what jerky looks nothing like feces huh 😭😭

@druelia9485 Ай бұрын

Same! Like, first of all, if you can mistake your child's poop for BEEF JERKY..... honey. Your kids are beyond dehydrated. Go to the ER for a saline IV now. Second, did she not smell it as it got closer to her face?? I mean I guess if it was so dried out it looked like jerky, maybe it didn't have a smell.... And third, wtf is she doing just picking up random bits of whatever and munching on them? Where was this? Was there random poop left on a table? Did she pick this "beef jerky" off the floor and eat it??? There are so many things wrong with this situation.

@TheMotherofBaggins Ай бұрын

@ one time when my oldest was potty training and someone came to the door, he proudly brought his turd out to prove he went in the toilet. So gross. BUT I DIDN’T EAT IT!

@Mortibella Ай бұрын

I don’t think she ate it either. Shocking, I know, but people tend to exaggerate or straight up lie for attention.

@rhi-y8d Ай бұрын

But sometimes people accidentally do, don't act like they're stupid or terrible. Honestly this is why I don't think her sharing this is bad - parents do embarrassing gross things sometimes and feel bad about it and people make them feel bad about it. My mom had a story about changing a diaper and then biting her long nails. Guess what was under a nail. Yep. it's gross but, y'know, sh*t happens lol. You not doing it doesn't mean no one reasonable made that mistake. I honestly think this example of sharing isn't nearly as egregious as people are making it seem.

@cindycaricos3379 Ай бұрын

As an ex-fundie I can understand the oversharing, as most (if not all of them) are raised very strict and isolated you just do not know normal social behaivor or what is normal to say or not. And when you are feeling more free from your upbringing you realized you are not socialized and you struggle with these things. You just don't know what is normal and everything had to be hidden. So yeah, I feel for them, I feel for Bethany because it takes YEARS AND YEARS AND YEARS!

@cindycaricos3379 Ай бұрын

Fundies never ever learned about boundries. So yeah, feel sorry for them and give them grace. It's hard...

@MohammedAli-hl4mr 29 күн бұрын

I don't know much about Paul and Morgan what is the racist thing they've done?

@AlexZiGeek Ай бұрын

Morgan saying that she ate poop didn't have a purpose and it's just gross. I will never forget about the bigotry that she and her husband has spewed. The part about them saying they wouldn't go to their son's wedding and they still love him, hit really close to home to me. my mom has said some similar things and I felt ashamed of my sexuality and identity for a very long time and it never changed me.

@kel1477 Ай бұрын

As a recovering oversharer can confirm that it's a defense mechanism so that you don't have to look more closely at the parts of yourself that you don't like

@neptiicism Ай бұрын

the title is so real

@mdxclark9988 Ай бұрын

Lol

@Furball891 Ай бұрын

Remember the times when were told to not share personal information like your full name, birthday or contact info on social media? Seeing people overshare everything with their own name and face and documenting online everything from their lunch to literal poop makes me miss those days. Not to mention people documenting their children from birth to puberty in all details. It's kinda insane actually the more you think about it.

@hannahp730 Ай бұрын

I see a lot of fundamental Christians (and was influenced growing up around fundamentalists/now I'm not in the church anymore) dissecting every part of their relationship and thoughts. It feels pretty compulsive sometimes and can be harmful for sure, the relationship ocd is so real and something I struggled with for a while. But I think it's actually encouraged in the church, at least ones like the church I grew up in (only about certain things, tho). I think there's a fear of "if I don't work through and share everything in my life, I'm being bad or dishonest". This feeling can naturally translate into being an influencer who overshares/telling ppl things you never really needed to

@Fruitytooty6969 Ай бұрын

Gives me that vibe, also the "need for confessing"

@warlordofbritannia Ай бұрын

Confessions like that are why God stays in Heaven

@hannahp730 Ай бұрын

@@Fruitytooty6969 100%!

@tacrewgirl Ай бұрын

Good point. I never thought about the confession to fundie influencer pipeline.

@didograce3531 Ай бұрын

Omg Morgan has *two* kids now?! I was already worried for her wellbeing when the first was born, but now I'm lowkey terrified.

@gnostic268 Ай бұрын

People happily throwing privacy and mystery to the wind is a signal that people miss and want to go back to Iron Age days when people lived communally in large roundhouses with their extended relatives and small animals for creature comfort and warmth during the cold times of winter. Lol

@warlordofbritannia Ай бұрын

Everyone wants the simple life, but what are you going to do when the Sea People attack?

@notnotneutral15 Ай бұрын

Exactly this. People are longing for community. In reference to the video: people bang on about oversharing all the time on here because it gets views, but most of the people I know irl, interact with and see online are so terrified of "oversharing", that they're actually extremely guarded to a fault. So it sucks to see this agenda being pushed even more. I wish our generation could stop pretending that we all enjoy being single, alone, childless etc etc. And stuck in the Stoicism mindset where you don't show any vulnerability to anyone whatsoever

@blkmagi Ай бұрын

@@notnotneutral15 I understand your point and I can respect it. But as a person who genuinely wants to isolate, stay single, be childless, etc it is for a good reason. People are petty, disingenuous, and cruel especially when they feel threatened and God forbid they feel threatened by you specifically. They will tell you they care for you and then as soon as you leave the room they drag your name through the mud. What is the point of even trying to find effective communication methods when the people you're trying to communicate with don't even genuinely want to connect with you in the first place? Relationships are completely transactional more often than not, and as soon as someone feels like you're not serving their purposes anymore they can and will just drop you with no explanation. And don't get me wrong, that is their prerogative 100%. I just think it is also my prerogative to not engage and so I don't. I don't date because I have trust issues that will never go away due to past trauma. I isolate because I have emotional trauma from being undiagnosed autistic and not understanding that the people I thought were my friends (for years sometimes) actually wished I would just go away the entire time. I don't want to have children because I don't believe it is fair or right to bring someone into this trash world with no recourse for how to minimize their suffering, and I won't force that person to take on the responsibility of giving my life meaning. Stoicism isn't like a religion to me or anything, but it has given me a lot of solace and a way to compartmentalize all of my feelings and experiences. Sorry if this is an overshare, but I just wanted to give my perspective as someone who is single, isolated, and childless and still very much living my life lol

@_aconite_cj_ Ай бұрын

Rachel... Rachel please... 😭 No amount of apologies could've prepared me for THAT video at the beginning- Nah I'm done... I'm done 😭 still gonna watch the whole video bc I love you and your vids and your makeup and outfits and also you're an amazin youtuber.

@KRMurdy Ай бұрын

Holy cow i am SOOOOO grateful for my husband. Whenever I see Paul and Morgan (or a lot of fundie couples honestly) and they are just so nasty to eachother and claim that that is marriage? And normal? No it isn't. I married my best friend. We hardly ever fight, honestly I can count on one hand, and they are more just...disagreements? Like we just talk about it and find a solution and there isn't yelling or hurling of cruel words or anything. It's just two people who love eachother and love being around eachother and the worst thing for each of us would be to hurt the other. We are eachothers Safe Space in everyway.

@imagine212 Ай бұрын

Only once have my husband and I left an argument saying we fundamentally disagree. It was a disagreement about highway logistics through city downtowns 😂

@animalxINSTINCT89 Ай бұрын

Why did you make me hear this with my good ears?!

@noblesshorts Ай бұрын

im writing the title onto a sticky note and framing it as a constant reminder of a good lesson.

@joshuasmith147 Ай бұрын

Saw the new Rachel Oates vid and clicked right away. 5 mins in, I have decided I will finish watching it after I've cooked and eaten dinner...

@user-unfriendly_-o- Ай бұрын

I deleted my twitter because I was at the time a teenager, an incredibly mentally ill one, and I, as many of us, experience intrusive thoughts. But I didn't know what they were. And one of the ways for me to get rid of an intrusive thought became sharing it. My account had 10k followers. And when I had violent or suicidal or irrational thoughts I would tweet them and get mocked for it. I accidentally made perfect ragebait. And when I finally understood my behaviour I immediately became uncomfortable with all of my biggest insecurities and fears and delusions being public and just deleted it. I have a diary now

@Shephardsatan Ай бұрын

Man I’m kinda doing this on Tumblr, but it’s pretty vague mind flow stuff abt how I have complex feelings about being alive. I think I’ll make it private now.

@VesperTime Ай бұрын

Social media makes people feel like they are the main character and everyone is desperate to hear what they have to say. There are a lot of positives about social media, but I know so many people who overshare graphic, unnecessary information and I believe this is a symptom of main character syndrome. I can't even count how many times I've seen a post somewhere online and thought "Why in the WORLD would you say that to all these strangers?" but here we are.

@peaches1535 Ай бұрын

I showed my older mom who knows a lil about these fundies and OH MY GOOOODNESSS, she has her jaw on the FLOOR! The one clip about the eggplant worshipping literally had her turning her head and she gave them the dirstest look. INSANE! Thank you for covering this. It gave me such a laugh but it’s such an important topic to talk about. Love your videos rachel!!

@warlordofbritannia Ай бұрын

Synagogue of Schlong Church of the Crotch I don’t know where I’m going with this

@warlordofbritannia Ай бұрын

The eggplant is a false prophet. Worship the peach!

@church_organ Ай бұрын

Completely unrelated to the video (which was great) but that is such a beautiful top, the lapels are sublime

@RachelOates Ай бұрын

Thank you! It’s a favourite! It’s from Hippie Shake :)

@KireiC Ай бұрын

I know this isn't the point of the video, but oh wow that first clip... all I could think (as a veteran pet owner and mom of 2) was: Morgan you should KNOW better!! When you have kids in diapers, or even just pets, you can NEVER trust a random nugget of something to be food (and even if it is food, trust it to be safe). Chances are high that it is NOT in fact food. Augh.

@stellablake6200 Ай бұрын

Thank you! I have two cats and was like girl, you had a dog before you had kids how do you not know this??

@moderndaymedusa Ай бұрын

You just reminded me of the time my niece almost ate a dog pebble. She was lucky she showed me the “wet raisin” first. 😂 It’s one thing for a kid to do it, but as an adult? It’s really just common sense. 🤦🏻‍♀️

@hanatemonstas4485 Ай бұрын

Mom-shaming and internalized misogyny be real

@Hyopomora Ай бұрын

I am honestly astounded by what is considered “normal” to share I’m a very private by nature so the idea of even telling a complete stranger my favorite color or food feels off to me. And [unfortunately] growing up in the era of social media I went the opposite direction, which was not share at all when the majority started to overshare. To the point where today so many people that used to know [ thank Buddha] woukd call me “secretive” or “weird” because I wouldn’t just trauma dump or over share to the first person who engaged with me. And I had to [and this is wild to me] explain to these people that, we are strangers there is supposed to be a progression in what we tell each other, AFTER we get to know each other. It’s very disturbing that someone call you secretive unless you tell them everything about you. I notice this a lot with influencers, and just have to wonder when are people going to remember that someone having a private life and being selective in what information about themselves they are willing to share is normal not shady

@thomaslawrence6353 Ай бұрын

Over sharing can also be a cry for help. Not that fundies necessarily deserve any sympathy. The over sharing could be some form of subconscious way for them to cry out for help without telling everyone that they are not happy in their situation.

@tianathegoose1691 Ай бұрын

For influencers there’s an angle of gaining attention, but I think for the average person/smaller creator, sharing something so embarrassing is almost cathartic because then you have people saying that it’s not that bad and validating your feelings, so you don’t have to hold that embarrassing experience inside and have it torture you

@globblin1734 Ай бұрын

You’re absolutely stunning. The yellow eye shadow brings out your eyes so beautifully. Great video ❤

@elysiagoodson1463 Ай бұрын

Watching Paul and Morgan makes me so uncomfortable, I swear

@warlordofbritannia Ай бұрын

The Room is less awkward.

@elysiagoodson1463 Ай бұрын

@warlordofbritannia For real!!

@brunetteartist24 Ай бұрын

What a title and what a start to the video😭

@Punkrockpenguin2 Ай бұрын

I was literally talking about this with my mom yesterday. It is okay to not tell everyone everything about your life. Like there's nothing wrong with privacy. People have no filter anymore and it's gross

@deapgriths1893 Ай бұрын

You are intelligent, beautiful and your video topics are always interesting! Never stop Rachel, we love your content :)

@xg2513 Ай бұрын

7:44 🥺I love hearing your sweet little pup in the background 🥰🥰🥰💓

@Mamaaaaaaaaaaaaa Ай бұрын

What bothers me is that Morgan will never ever ever ever be good enough for Paul because she wasn’t a virgin for him. Like…that is a canker that will always fester. It’s so sad.

@ruthbarr3159 Ай бұрын

I get the feeling Paul loves the "power" he's given himself over Morgan..

@MohammedAli-hl4mr 29 күн бұрын

I don't know much about Paul and Morgan what is the racist thing they've done?

@sashakononova8968 19 күн бұрын

@@MohammedAli-hl4mrthey have said multiple racist things including disapproval of interracial couples and comparing abortion to slavery (pretty sure they've made the argument that abortion is racist because black women disproportionately choose them when available, focusing on race there rather than actually relevant socioeconomic factors)

@theresea.k5749 Ай бұрын

I think this is an American thing. I am, like you, from Europe (Sweden) and we are more "private" than Americans. I have lived in Michigan and I recognized how much more open they were than what I was used to. With social media, the American way of oversharing has become global / made people from other countries overshare because they have seen so many clips with Americans oversharing.

@ka8544 Ай бұрын

I think it’s an attachment issue. I think a lot of over sharers (and probably a lot of people who make content online :P) grew up with parents who didn’t emotionally see them and didn’t emotionally validated them. It’s attachment trauma rearing its head imo. We see Paul and Morgan invalidate each other’s feelings ALL of the time. When a parent does that to a child, they will often shrink into themselves or get louder and more extreme to communicate their emotions in the hopes of their parent seeing them. Same happens for adults. I could imagine both Paul and Morgan have to tell the internet about their experiences, to the extreme, because they aren’t getting emotional validation in their day to day lives from each other and likely their parents and others. Obviously I’m super assuming a ton here and could be 100% wrong. But that’s my hypothesis based on what I know from their internet presence.

@emmadear3276 Ай бұрын

That's a great insight

@thewhitewolf442 Ай бұрын

Unironically, clips like the one where they were talking about how sexy a penis is helped me realize I was asexual. To some people they might be uncomfortable, but in the right context that kind of oversharing can be educational (Even if that's not the way they're intending lol).

@fionaWhatever Ай бұрын

i had the same feeling, as a lesbian! hetero women often talk about sex and men as if they (moderately) despise both, so someone saying so clearly how they actually feel, even if its graphic, is really helpful for me to realise..."oh *that's* what it means to be into men!"

@lithijohnston3222 Ай бұрын

There are so many people in my life that have a habit of over sharing every little thing in their lives. But then they wonder why people start having issues with them and don’t want to know everything. Like, if you want to do that, go ahead. But, in my opinion, if you overshare everything that happens, you can’t be surprised when people start saying things or questioning things, if that made any sense.

@user-zh9ff3pb3v Ай бұрын

I think Bethany's farting during sex meme does have a purpose of normalizing it by talking about it openly, relating to other women who experience it and that women aren't sexy dolls and we have bodily functions and awkward sex moments, for sure at least some people find it funny because they relate. Although I know Bethany has overshared on other ocassions which is sitll understable because for her it's like she wasn't allowed to talk about sex and now she does talk about it, so it's almost like a late bloomer thing where she's excited to talk about it a lot.

@ArrowOdenn Ай бұрын

This whole video I had a song from Schmigadoon running through my head: "Does that shock you? We hope it shocks you! Because we're really putting a lot of effort into it!" Shock and disgust are the easiest ways to get responses and the algorithms reward engagement, regardless of whether its positive or negative

@gondolagirl Ай бұрын

assuming she changes the kids’ nappies in the bathroom (i’ve never had a kid but) WHY would u eat what u think is beef jerky if u found it there. or ANYWHERE BRO i’m so baffled

@peopleeps4756 Ай бұрын

Nah fr I was confused too like how are you confusing food and poop unless you are changing the baby in the kitchen or eating where you shouldn't?

@Punkrockpenguin2 Ай бұрын

@@peopleeps4756yeah idk why someone would change a baby in the kitchen but I think that's what happened. Either way tmi didn't need to know lol

@spOOkytimes Ай бұрын

A lot of people change them on the floor (if safe and soft). Perhaps she ate something off the floor? 🤢 I am even a proponent of the five second rule, but with thorough inspection before eating it!

@Aelffwynn Ай бұрын

There isn't usually space to change a diaper in the bathroom. Usually it happens in the nursery/bedroom on a changing table, or on the floor if it's safe to do so. I'm guessing something got stuck to her shirt and she thought it was a "crumb" from eating jerky before the diaper change.

@lindseystein9676 Ай бұрын

I think Morgan posted that story for shock value and engagement. I don’t believe that is a typical, usual parenthood experience…

@alixjoco Ай бұрын

Grumplepig ♥️♥️♥️ I love how you interact with Kyra, it always warms my heart

@natalie_nicole_w Ай бұрын

As many problems as I have, I want to thank the universe I’m not in a relationship like theirs.

@kikinationforever Ай бұрын

Alizee: "I think I share way too much with you guys." Me: Eh. It's in context and you're trying to make a point. It's fine.

@charliethesquishywitch340 Ай бұрын

She doesn't strike me as a good person at all but damn. Morgan looks exhausted. She seems so miserable. I absolutely feel sorry for her. Nobody deserves to hate their life so much. It's like we're watching light living her eyes in real time.

@K-yp8tb Ай бұрын

I’ve been with my wife for ten years. I always felt we have had a very healthy communication dynamic, so all the clips of Morgan and her husband are so bizarre to me. My marriage is very easy! Theirs seems very hard. What’s the point of being together if you speak to each other like that?

@ghostfrequencies Ай бұрын

This is only adjacently related but I'm really grateful Rachel consistently used 'people giving birth'/people who menstruate/etc instead of using gendered terms. It's so easy to do but so many people don't do it

@tracylocking8364 7 күн бұрын

But only women bleed and give birth so this is nonsense.

@bready2crumble Ай бұрын

I don’t live where P&M live but I visit the city regularly to see friends. Every time I’m there I think to myself “any of these vehicles could contain Paul and Morgan arguing on the way to a pickleball tourney” small world. God I hope they either get better or just divorce. Their vibes smell like a slow festering resentment

@NelsonStJames Ай бұрын

The concept of “personal business” doesn’t seem to exist in recent generations, and since the advent of social media has almost become an antiquated term. People believe that sharing every moment of their daily lives no matter how mundane, or embarrassing gives them “authenticity and relatability”, and though I find it unmannerly, many who engage in it do seem to find a sizeable audience; that is until they share something that audience finds offensive or objectionable.

@precious3831 Ай бұрын

just woke up and there’s a new rachel video! hurray! 💖💖 i love listening to you!

@SystemFailing Ай бұрын

I think it can be cathartic when people “over share” their emotional interiority. Hearing someone explain depression or anxiety in a new way can be validating. But you have to be emotionally intelligent and a good storyteller to do that. And most people aren’t; they want to get CLOSE to that feeling. So they’ll just make a video about the time they eat poop!

@isaacbenrubi9613 Ай бұрын

I've been saying this for years. Why do some folks feel the need to tell us literally everything that happens in their day? Privacy is great. Embrace it.

@Punkrockpenguin2 Ай бұрын

The thing is a lot of people do it so it becomes more normalized and people don't feel ashamed. But you don't have to feel ashamed. Having privacy and having shame are very different.

@lemsip207 Ай бұрын

I agree. I don't need to hear what someone had for lunch.

@chaosvii Ай бұрын

A lot of folks tell stories w/o contemplating the storytellers’ fundamental question “why am I telling you this?”

@hansmuster1572 Ай бұрын

To be fair, what's considered oversharing is also dependent on the audience outside of larger societal norms like your Period example. For me that whole Poop Story was just a funny anecdote and one i could relate to. I mean, if you're a parent at some point you will get Poo or Pipi in your face. That is just what you have to deal with those beloved little disease Cauldrons. Does not mean that her MOTIVES in this case were not bad, i am willing to give those two crap for anything they do just because. But the story itself? No big thing, happens and after a little bit of time you can laugh about it.

@LiamODonovan-l6e Ай бұрын

Uou are awesome, rachel. Homophobia transphobia and all other phobias are rotten. Oversharing is so unnecessary. You are someone i always connect with. Your videos have saved me many tims

@moatrboat 27 күн бұрын

Maybe we should just…not have internet anymore. I think I’d be ok with it.

@pensivelyrebelling Ай бұрын

So, I have a different view of “oversharing” than what most people mean when they use that term. If someone other than me shares something that I wouldn’t be comfortable sharing, that’s entirely their choice. My viewing it as oversharing is a judgement of their decision to share that isn’t based in anything more than the somewhat arbitrary rules of what’s appropriate. Instead, I view oversharing as a personal feeling of discomfort about something I’ve shared. I’m not judging the actions of others that aren’t really causing any harm, even if I think it’s pointless. I just hope these fundies get to the point they see this stuff as oversharing eventually.

@elizabethj4450 Ай бұрын

Very good food for thought, but it may be quite a bit simpler-- parenthood can be extremely lonely and isolating at times, even more so when you're a mother in a conservative family. I never ate poop, but I did find myself sharing banal and idiotic things just to have something to say to somebody

@smilingjacks83 Ай бұрын

Ugh.... I feel sick. Understand why you shared it though.

@yeet7463 Ай бұрын

3:50 was a JUMPSCARE good lord

@Fruitytooty6969 Ай бұрын

Bethany always "uhmmm yeahh uhmm" kills me lmao

@Nastasyashanti Ай бұрын

I agree with this woman wouldn’t expect something like this on fundies channel. Such seggs positive vibes she even mentioned blowjob 😂

@TwiggysDollHospital Ай бұрын

Thank you for such a well spoken video on exactly how I've been feeling lately. We should all know way less. I was just saying to my husband how I thought oversharing online was something we all used to do (as a fellow millennial) because these platforms were all brand new and it was so exciting. But I really am shocked at the number of people who still overshare WAY too much online. I'm a mother to a 3 year old and the amount of DEEPLY personal things I have seen online is seriously alarming. It's so bad. I don't understand why they're not more cautious of the world that exist so easily on the internet. Thank you again for your content. I fall so in love with you every time I watch a new video. I am the Barbie girl and I LOVE seeing little peeks of your collection!!

@caseyw.6550 Ай бұрын

Yeah, I really don't get it. I've always been the type to post something completely innocuous on social media and then be embarrassed about it and delete it within hours. Lol!

@hannahkat9722 Ай бұрын

I absolutely love your outfits in this video, if you ever want a nice chill video idea talking about where you find clothes and how you learn to style yourself and find things you like would be really interesting! Obviously don't dox yourself but if there's any general/online recommendations I would love that

@EllinIsLivid Ай бұрын

I love your glittery eyeshadow Rachel!

@mikasa_sucasa Ай бұрын

She's not trying to deflect from her being a bigot, because that's not 'in front of her'. She's deflecting from the fact that her marriage is failing and that she's a main contributor to that failure. When they inevitably break up, she's going to focus on blowing up his reputation, she's going to move to an abusive husband who beats her, and she will completely absorb all the hate in her life and continue blaming everyone else. She's an irredeemable narcissist. She is worthy of love. As long as she's not capable of taking any accountability and work on herself, she will never be truly loved and never know how to truly love or have a meaningful human connection. It is tragic, but ultimately due to her own decisions

@sashakononova8968 19 күн бұрын

Curious, why do you think she's a main contributor to the failure? What makes you think she is more responsible than her partner or make assumptions about what she would do if the relationship ends?

@catis4 Ай бұрын

I don't have social media right now and even when I did I rarely shared personal stuff. Some of these people give out information for free that you could only get from me if you waterboarded me.

@the_SeaUrchin 15 күн бұрын

I just started the video so I'm not sure if you're going to mention it, but in fundie circles and especially Mormon circles, there's a lot of encouragement for oversharing-> confessions, bearing testimony, bearing witness, etc. Plus with the repression of many topics like sex that abruptly get unlocked upon marriage without a gradual development, can often lead to fundies seemingly talking so much about sex and/or talking about it like immature teenagers. Boundaries are also often crossed in fundie circles, aswell as invasion of privacy being very very common by authority (God, the church, parents, husbands etc.) Which leads to not having a good understanding of one's own or other people's boundaries.

@HelenaIsis616 Ай бұрын

I feel like people who overshare like this want to foster a sense of intimacy and relatability that’s ultimately rings false. And some of them, it’s also a substitute for having a personality.

@freyjathecat549 Ай бұрын

I think the issue isn't really the oversharing and more the people who are oversharing in most cases. Like I don't think there is anything wrong in sharing details of your sex life, especially to talk about how sex can be silly and messy and enjoyable for women too, even embarrassing stories like accidentally eating your childs poop because you're exhausted and your house is a mess. The issue in these cases to me is more the hypocrisy in not acknowledging the role your religion plays in making the topic a taboo and preaching about relationships when its very obvious you are not in a happy, healthy one yourself. I think people should be able to be as open as they are comfortable with. Especially on youtube, we don't have to click on their videos. However I think its interesting to consider people becoming addicted to oversharing or feeling like they need to share every detail of their lives for clicks. With the last person you talked about I think it might also be more an issue of mental health issues or drugs? But again, is the oversharing the problem or the addiction to views and attention?

@emilygoneferal Ай бұрын

i agree, with the example of morgan and bethany, i can genuinely see that sharing those kinds of stories may help mothers who are also exhausted or people who have just started having sex feel less worried and self-conscious. however, the thing i find weird is that as soon as these hyper-religious folks get married and start having sex, they somehow think that they have the most knowledge ever, so their oversharing feels a bit preachy from totally the wrong place

@olivergregory5093 Ай бұрын

I agree with this 100%. The clips from Morgan and Bethany in the beginning weren't things I'd find super objectionable from other people, they're just people this audience in particular is primed to have a negative reaction to. And I think the addiction to attention can be just as harmful when one isn't over sharing, eg the opposite of over sharing, where you're forcing your life into this pretty, perfect box for clicks. Both can be immensely harmful if they become an addiction. The harm is just more obvious when someone is sharing their mental health struggles instead of concealing them.

@GreenGorgeousness Ай бұрын

Thank you I agree with what you said.

@traumaeat3r Ай бұрын

Gonna be honest, i have overshared online on my channel but for me good things have sort of come out of it. For instance, i was a kid posting art videos, and at that time i didnt have anyone to vent to (ive very rarely had friends and when i did i didnt want to tell them my issues) but that let other people share their experience and let me get comforted, so good did come out of that (mind you there were a few hate comments that gave me issues but its gotten way better over the years)

@LAOVARA Ай бұрын

could this oversharing also lead to some sort of attemp of parasocial relationships? Because we know parasocial relationship sells a lot (taylor swift is a great exemple of using parasocial relationships to grown a carrier) this is a genuine question, no hate or sarcasm in it. By the way, as usual, a excellent and impecable video!

@frankensteinlives Ай бұрын

Questions are things you say to gain more information. I need a word for something I can say to LOSE information. I would absolutely *love* to know less, now and then.

@emilyharrington2219 Ай бұрын

37:47 didn’t expect GlitterForever to get brought up. I used to watch her videos until I started getting a very weird vibe from her videos. That was before the major change in her content.

@erika2m16 Ай бұрын

Her videos always had weird vibes! I miss her Breland channel, where she was actually herself.

@Punkrockpenguin2 Ай бұрын

I liked some of her hacks and diy videos just cause they were fun and that was the KZbin thing at the time, but yea she got really weird

@caseyc2497 Ай бұрын

@@Punkrockpenguin2she was addicted to drugs so... yeah

@nonfictionfeminist Ай бұрын

I'm assuming that Morgan thought it would be relatable to other moms, however, I would hope that most people would wash their hands after diaper changing

@JennaThePanda Ай бұрын

Why are so many Paul and Morgan clips like being transported to the dinner party episode of the office 🥴

@daviddavid1093 Ай бұрын

Clicked so fast, I just woke up like not even 2 min ago

@Yinananda Ай бұрын

Same😅

@nosir2758 Ай бұрын

I was gonna nap with this on and then wake up to replay but the things I'm hearing are too distressing😂😂😢😢

@lolgirl288 Ай бұрын

First minute into the video and I’ve already gagged.. Rachel I’m trying to eat

@warlordofbritannia Ай бұрын

First minute is amateur time. I didn’t start gagging until three minutes! 😂

@yamIhere420 Ай бұрын

That was a horrible clip to watch, but a good point to start the video. As always thanks for your work, Rachel. I'll hopefully finish this in one tomorrow:)

@vintagearisen Ай бұрын

To give Morgan's poop story the benefit of the doubt, maybe she thinks she's being encouraging and relatable to other hot mess moms? But I gotta say when I was an exhausted, frazzled mom of two little ones in diapers I still never ended up putting feces in my mouth. I have been in situations where it was like "is this stain poop or chocolate" but at that point you don't taste test the damn stain, you change the damn shirt. That's just common sense.