Weekend in my Life: Self-Care & going home

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Frequently Asked Questions:
😇 How old are you? 23
📝 What are you studying? I am set to start my MA in English Literature at Oxford this autumn.
📚What are your favourite books? • 200 book recommendatio...
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📝 Have you written a book? My life goal is to be a published author and make a living from writing and I am using this year to gain experience, build up a portfolio and work on a book with my agent. I have just finished the final draft of that book, as you can see in this video. I did self-publish a book about bullying when I was seventeen which is available on Amazon (amzn.to/3mdJKLm), but I'm slightly embarrassed by it now!
🎃 Do you have merch? I don't have merch in the traditional sense (I can't imagine selling something with my face or name on haha!), but I do have a stationery company where I sell planners for students. These are all designed with students in mind and follow models which I've used when planning my studying. Our products are printed in pastel colours on recycled paper: bit.ly/3wgsR85
0:00 intro
0:32 Saturday
16:23 Sunday

[@justwatching2428]

The most impressive thing I in this vlog is popping to the library to do a bit of work when you have a train to catch in about an hour, I’d sit around and stress about getting to the station on time.

[@ila9063]

honestly lol I could never keep up with that level of task switching

[@yiwen7587]

yeah @@ila9063

[@sofielamy]

same

[@nicolad8822]

Probably cut for dramatic effect.

[@emmajanusky3707]

Hi Ruby! Barista here - when you’re making your coffee, that metal thing you use to press the coffee grounds into the portafilter (the handled thing that holds the grounds) is called a tamper and you’re actually supposed to press it into the coffee grounds to compress them. I noticed that your espresso shot was pulling pretty watery and quite quickly, and it’s actually supposed to be slower and appear “thicker” in consistency. The shot should pour for around 20-30 seconds! Anyway, if you can find a surface to sort of balance your portafilter so you can really tamp the grounds (quite hard, give it a good oomph when you press it), your espresso shot will pull slower and will taste a lot better!!! Just wanted to give a tip in case you wanted it. If I didn’t make any sense but you’re still interested, there are plenty of KZbin videos haha. Of course, if you like it your way, then by all means do it as such! Love from Canada ❤️

[@paulas7414]

I was wondering about the coffee, too :)

[@victoriamctaggart]

As former barista, I agree!

[@zerosilver87]

Her coffee making was embarrassing

[@victoriamctaggart]

@@zerosilver87 There is no need to be mean about it; she’s not a trained barista. I’d rather have her coffee over yours any day (as a former barista). 💕

[@chocopie1033]

Well aren’t you just a little bundle of joy 🥰🥰

[@kairangicox1562]

Once I spontaneously travelled home during the uni semester (missing lectures to do so) to see my family. My dad died three weeks later and this turned out to be the last time I would see him. I'm 23 as well and I am so glad that I didn't miss that chance, you are never too old for a visit home.

[@infoesit7399]

I used to watch her when I was in 7th grade. I'm in 12 grade now and honestly coming back to her channel gives me a feeling of home.

[@J.C-L73]

Where are you from

[@samanthajean790]

The best thing about being an adult is that YOU get to decide how to spend YOUR time - it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. You do you, Ruby. When I was at uni I quite often went home at weekends, it was great to have some peace and a change of scenery. Keep on doing what you do 😃

[@samanthajean790]

Can I ask where you buy the Chamberlain coffee from? 😊

[@rhythmicelegance4670]

Enjoyed the wellness theme and thinking of new ways to implement some solutions. So good to see your integrity in standing firm in what is best for you despite the protests of other people against your preferences. “Know your own happiness.” - Jane Austen 🕯️🏡📚♥️☕️🐙👨‍👩‍👧‍👧

[@RubyGranger8]

What a lovely comment! ♥️🥰

[@user-rv1ot1ch9x]

@@RubyGranger8 we can wear corduroy trousers to horseback riding

[@paulinapawlikowska]

Some of my friends didn't understand why I spent a lot of my time at home while I was at uni. I tried to explain it to them but they didn't listen. I love spending time with my family and I'm not ashamed of that. And I love watching you do the same. Really, there is nothing wrong with that xxx

[@camilaallende3999]

Something I find curious is that in my experience as a Latina (I'm from Chile), I felt more pressured to come home every weekend after college. I suppose that although we go to other cities to study, we do not have university dormitories like in Europe or the United States, and we are also a culture that highly values ​​family, physical union, contact, etc. Many times I wanted to stay studying or go out with my friends but I felt guilty for not going to see my parents or grandparents, etc. Over time I improved it, but it's funny how we put pressure on ourselves.

[@nicolad8822]

British students are often doing plenty of the “physical union” bit.

[@rawlyroo5975]

So glad you decided to spend time with your family

[@RubyGranger8]

It’s so important x

[@Aysglu]

When I first saw your channel, I was very surprised. I said 'wow? Is it Granger? I watch you from Turkey. Your channel is very nice.

[@joelharris4399]

Self-care, my dear, is just the beginning of a road called a fulfilling life🥰

[@actgirl1234567]

❤

[@katarawashigtonwest]

❤

[@mikewingert5521]

What utter weak and woke nonsense.

[@coffee7374]

@@mikewingert5521guess you need some self care

[@annap.974]

Darling, there is no fulfilling life without service to others.

[@Marymooau]

Love your videos they are part of my self care. As well as journaling. Walking. Spending time outside in nature. Reading classic novels. All help me refresh. Thankyou Ruby for helping so many people. ❤❤❤

[@lellymills]

Just watched your Oxford Union Society speech, Ruby. You spoke very well and raised some very pertinent points. Well done! X

[@karinvandenberg1961]

I always love going home during weekends. It just feels so much more like 'weekend' when I change scenery. I find that if I stay at uni I just do the same things as during the week and I don't feel like I can switch to a weekend mindset, spend time with my family and go outside.

[@bluebutterfly288]

I've never heard that there is a stigma about going home! Most ppl I know in school go home as often as possible.

[@albatrozz3058]

At times I find people saying Ruby is alone most of the time. Lol, plz give it a break. She is alone but not lonely. If you love the company of yourself, then you're never alone. Friendship is overrated bs. She is doing her future self a favor❤❤❤

[@sofielamy]

Some people can't understand introverts. It's like you said, alone but not lonely. That doesn't mean she doesn't have good friendships tho.

[@aishanixon8960]

Just because she doesn’t film being around people doesn’t mean she’s alone. Just because she’s a you tuber doesn’t mean everyone around her should or wants to be filmed.

[@hansikaaju3413]

Ruby’s videos are so calming and relaxing to watch. Every one of her videos just motivate me to keep studying even if it isn’t a study vlog. Thank you Ruby for motivating me. (Literally for the past 5 years ♥️)

[@angelakneller2880]

Looking after yourself is important, spending time with family and friends is precious too. Our family has recently gone through a very sad loss of a young relative (not illness or accident)but we can’t be with the family as they’re overseas, it just makes u realise it’s important to create memories and touch base with the ppl you love xx but also to look after yourself no matter what stage of life u are going through.

[@alodiah2422]

I really like that you didn't use bg/ambient music in each shot especially the library clip, the serenity and rawness of not only seeing but hearing the surroundings as you did, like you typing on keyboard and when you showed us the view from the window, so lovely, there is something about the quiet melancholy that I find so precious. I like that you were honest with yourself and your needs, you managed to heal and enjoy yourself whilst also doing the work you needed. No judging here, honestly, what "we should, have to do" is such an abstract nonsense rule that keeps us from our true self and what we truly want in life. You do YOU! Wish you best in all!

[@rozminhall]

I usually watch my videos at 2x but when you upload it’s at normal spread. It’s like savouring a nice cozy hot chocolate🤍🧣

[@RubyGranger8]

Oh that’s so lovely 🥰

[@ruthfuller2105]

Your mum and Dad are lovely. So is Lola. Thanks for another calming enjoyable blog.

[@mariahdeedra3399]

It's so lovely how close you are with your parents, I wish I had a relationship like that with mine. I'm also a college student and lots of times I procrastinate and don't spend my time wisely, but watching your videos always helps me work more efficiently. Thank you Ruby. I hope you have a good rest of the school year.

[@wonderwoman5528]

Early mornings to carve out time, is great advice, Ruby - Loved your coat from vinted, too. Take care of your mental health every one and don’t be afraid to seek help. X

[@robincarroll1477]

This video is beautiful and wholesome and really lifted my spirits

[@line.s]

This video felt like a warm hug for my soul (that is currently struggling mental health-wise). Thank you, Ruby☀️ I'm always so glad to see a new video of yours!🌸🌷

[@CharlotteTaylorr]

I wish KZbinrs would talk about mental health and self care without it being a subtle advert for something.

[@AndNowIJustSitInSilence]

please tell me if you find any youtuber with a decent following who doesn't do anything without getting paid by irrelevant companies. I only know one successful channel that never did any sponsored videos or showcased gifted products. The last few videos Ruby uploaded were all sponsored (I think it was the last ten or so), she clearly only uploads for the money and then never mentions using the products or services again.

[@paulas7414]

I felt the same. But her other tips sounded very genuin to me. And to be fair, i think there are a lot worse things to advertise than a relatively cheap app for meditation.

[@TinoouMusic]

Hi Ruby I’ve been watching you since 2018. Back then I was figuring out what academic journey I wanted to pursue. Now Im in third year of vet school and you still motivate me 🤍 keep going ☀️

[@ElizabethWeinfield]

Thank you for bringing self-care into the academic space! We need it- and we need people like YOU! Xo

[@AndNowIJustSitInSilence]

paid self-care

[@SpiderSpidr]

Always excited when I see you uploaded lol!!

[@TG81]

Great video, your positivity and confidence are apparent and appreciated! 🥰

[@user-rj6dw6eo6r]

I usually don't comment on KZbin videos but I just wanna thank you, for these amazing videos! They give me so much motivation to work on my thesis and to take time for me as well, thank you, Ruby !!

[@katomagel8071]

This was the video that I really needed at the moment. At my university we have deadline season coming up, so I feel really stressed. I'm so glad you posted this !!

[@carolynmarshall1968]

Spending time with family is soo special ❤

[@marieinabersh]

Love the atmosphere 🌌

[@linaisar9505]

I always love academic life...and this vlogs motives me...I had a office job and I started to study by my own...courses had become so expensive...thanks to ruby i never quit study

[@msushi98]

Watching your videos is like having a nice warm mug of coffee/tea on a cold rainy day 😌

[@livana9458]

This was enthralling to view!!💗💗

[@sophiesworldofnature3987]

WoW, the way your face lit up in a huge smile when you're about to go on a walk in nature.. Love it! It's so wonderful that you have a loving family to go home to. I hope you go home as much as you want/NEED to! Take care, we are the only one who can take care of ourselfs the way we want to and like...is a life long learning path to understand ourselfs .. Virtual hugs and lots of inspiration, greetings Sophie.

[@RubyGranger8]

Oh Sophie, this is so lovely. Thank you! And there really is nothing like a walk in nature with your family 🥺🤍

[@Haajjeerr]

Oh i really liked it when you didn't put background music when you were the library, that was so relaxing for some reason

[@Nate1975]

I just love your videos. Seriously thinking about doing that short course in Oxford I always wanted as an adult ❤

[@RubyGranger8]

You absolutely should!

[@anajustin5164]

In Slovenia, when I'm from, almost all students go home most weekends, and we even bring suitcases to wash laundry at home. ;)

[@naurafadiya]

Love this vlog, Ruby!

[@purpletiger9313]

The dynamics of having two living spaces. For five years I had an apartment in Berkeley, and my little house in the wine country, and traveled back and forth on weekends sometimes to do work "in the country", and sometimes just to be with my brothers (who live on the same property). It's a fun feeling isn't it to have two homes? Berkeley wore off after five years and covid was the impetus to let go of the Berkeley apartment and live only in the country. Sometimes I miss it because it's so busy and also such a bookish place, it was honestly inspiring for my writing. I'd never have written my novel without that two-home dynamic. Now I'm trying to figure out how to write the next novel in my one-home situation. Harder than you might think, why? Because environment is everything? Maybe.

[@essentiallyann2650]

What a wonderfully cosy vlog, it's so good to see you so happy and relaxed! I loved the bit about the AWA exhibition!!Your outfit was totally appropriate for the occasion too!!

[@RubyGranger8]

I was definitely intentional about that outfit! Truly it was such a wonderful exhibition!

[@KB-bx9ui]

To be apart of a family like yours... your parents are soooo cute.

[@parcalibulutlu]

your voice sounds darker than usual but it's really comforting and calm

[@cherry2619]

right? i haven't watched her in a while but i feel like her voice and even accent has changed quite a bit

[@crystaledwards8854]

She’s speaking in a deeper voice

[@aram8899]

I just came home for the weekend purely because I missed it during term, too! So glad I have this video to watch

[@humanistastv]

I think that listening to classical music everyday is really good for periods of stress!!

[@ana-mariaalrasul9231]

Hi Ruby, can you make a video on how you keep yourself healthy? Not just mental health but also physical health (eating, sleeping, exercise). Love your content :)

[@mrsbertimus2645]

Such a lovely video (as always!) thank you!

[@avishekdatta7908]

Dear Ruby Gringer, You do have a Wonderful Mind who always portray her Self centered Motive &Whose Inspiration lies on Self Care & Do not care ..

[@yuliya_fastenkova]

Thanks for video❤ it's so cozy 😍

[@Jambers_]

love ur vids! could u do video about your favorite stationary? it's some times hard to find the right pen. ❤

[@BSyn-ei4uv]

Request/ idea: Updated note-taking routine when reading from a book? 🥰

[@user-qu5lt9yj7h]

hi ruby! honestly i have no idea how to start this, but at first i want to say you are living my dream! watching your videos realy inspires me to work harder for what i deeply want. God i wish i can see you in person and ask everything about your university...🤩

[@ValancyStirling2297]

Hi, Ruby! I just recently started watching your channel, and I wanted to thank you for all of the great tips and motivation you've given throughout your videos! No pressure to answer this, but I was also wondering if you had any good tips on how to make writing essays fun, especially when you don't know what to write. I would say this is the task I dread the most in school, but I want to get to the point where I feel confident in them and am able to have more fun writing them. Thanks again for all the inspiration, and good luck with the rest of your time at Oxford! ❤

[@isysmith]

oh my gawdddd your awa outfit is so gorgeous

[@danny98js]

Just a fun fact about Catechism, a lot of Christian denominations still use them today to teach children and those new to faith, to help them understand the basis of our faith as well as certain understandings and texts that may be hard to understand. We also still use them in certain denominations as a second Sermon teaching that a bit less formal.

[@DaisyGrayBlue]

Love the Dvořák in the background😍❤️🎶

[@amyybee]

Hi Ruby! Love the vlog as always ❤ would you ever do a video on how to read more vs phone/screen time? I need some tips on how to read instead of being on my phone 😅

[@ambarrose]

The Harry Potter book was a nice touch. I'm rewatching the movies, my annual event.

[@buci5]

Ruby, amazing video! Unrelated: your voice in this video sounds deeper than usual. At one point I thought it was your sister speaking, you sounded just like her😄

[@rhythmicelegance4670]

It’s a bit like the coat she mentioned. The deeper voice sounds matured and sophisticated. 💎

[@laurendownie2710]

I noticed this too. The difference between the footage and the voiceovers was astounding.

[@alexismarie3211]

Ruby, you inspire me every day thank you for posting!

[@heatherrogozinski3390]

The exhibition soundtrack was on point😄

[@rachaelbird9250]

The Wes Anderson Exhibition looks so cool.

[@SobirovaMadinabonu]

I love this music when the video begins.......🤍

[@mariaheaney1956]

Barrys tea 😊. Good Irish Tea.

[@MariaMedeiros]

Ruby I am so happy you went home and spent time with family. It's so nice to see you have lovely family time. Thanks for sharing!

[@32446]

Hi Ruby, I love your videos and am a bookworm too! I am getting an IPad for my Masters degree and wonder if you could include some content on how you use your IPad and how it’s beneficial to studying. Thanks x

[@reganstandlick7520]

that breakfast looks amazing

[@morcellemorcelle618]

I am a 33 yo woman My favorite thing to do during the weekend, after a hectic week with a full time job, is to go to my moms. She lives in the middle of the woods, has a huge bookshelf, lots if tea and an adorable dog. Idc that I'm turning 34 in 8 months, why would I not spend my weekends in a cabin in the woods, cuddling a dog and reading books, just because "it's at my moms house, and I'm an adult"? That mindset is just ridicilous

[@rachm2811]

Ruby I just love your vlogs. I’m a mature student studying part time and your videos always help to motivate me to do better so I’m thankful. Also just wondering where you got your smeg coffee cup? Thank you

[@shuchisingh6808]

Watching ruby's videos are like spending time with a childhood friend who you love a lot . I've been watching ruby for over 4 years now .Last year I graduated high school and took a drop for a competitive engineering entrance exam, it's in 1 month wish me luck hehe.

[@CrazyBeautiful621]

I really love your videos ☕📚📑📖🩷

[@paulas7414]

I really liked the music in this video!

[@user-rv1ot1ch9x]

@rubygranger I love your videos. I love corduroy trousers

[@RKhere97]

hey, can you do a latest 'How to' video on getting into focused study sessions and how to increase the duration over time? I love your vlogs also, but ive been looking forward to your tips/Concept Videos for a while haha

[@SuperStrangSshadow]

Last year I started rewatching The Simpsons and I've come to seson 10. Love Bart and the weirdness in that family.

[@mariabdxcardoso]

Your video is being lovely to watch while I crochet 🥰

[@mikewingert5521]

The charming life of the academic blue stocking. Deliciously smart and very Vita Sackville West.

[@user-fm7ts6vv4q]

Hey Ruby! I just wanted to say, that I love your videos and how they motivate me to do the things I have to do. When are you going to upload your next video ❤❤

[@sel_ina_]

highlight of my day ♥ Ruby, your mum has such ja beautiful smile! 23:40 is like Jade would call it just casual magic and made me smile! Your parents look so happy together!

[@RubyGranger8]

Doesn’t she just! My mum is just beautiful 🥺🤍

[@shawneemills]

Your parents are so cute!

[@RubyGranger8]

I agree!

[@TadParker]

Happy Women's Day!💐❤

[@alice-elizabeth]

I just love your vlogs Ruby 🥰

[@belqisanwari3642]

Hey Ruby, please make a video that how how much you study and struggle to get the oxford university. ❤

[@smiley32190art]

loving that green dress! (?) It's your color!

[@MelEgger]

I think I just got the same coat! Also from Vinted!! What a coincidence! :D I agree though, it’s a wonderful coat!

[@grachoderunwiderstehlichen]

coffee , oh ruby i try Hamburg Hafen Live (mürrische möwe and landratte) Hamburg 🇩🇪 habour live ( coffee grumpy gull and country-rat ) ...this coffee beans are intresting to change the weekly/monthly taste ...beside your regular products , i used white sugar cubes plus 12% coffee milk ...next i try brown sugar , i let you know 👋☘️

[@alejandrorodriguez4189]

Love your videos 💙 self-care is very important

[@pandyheart6108]

I know this is out of content but I would love to see Ruby create a video 'What's on my ipad' is just a suggestion though! Anyways like your videos!

[@ruebennomura9143]

You been doing good on your slefcare

[@librarian1701-D]

what is 'my costa'? or is it COA? sounds interesting but I'm out of the loop ☺ (@ 13:10 ish)

[@Lena28811]

Hi ruby ! I love so much your KZbin channel and I want so much your yearly planner but I don’t find it on pumpkin planner. How I have to do for have it ?

[@thepenguin553]

What a beautiful coat! 😍

[@ss9329]

Hi Ruby. I was wondering what brand was the raincoat that you wore when you went on your walk at 13:00. I've been looking for one like that and I love yours. 💐

[@nfj72]

Mental health is so important to our all our well-being if you are struggling talk to somebody take care x

[@GerPK1]

Barry’s Tea 👀 🇮🇪 😊

[@AFineFox]

Hi Ruby, can I ask what case / stand you have for your iPad? Thanks

[@jessicalowe4845]

I think the loudest people who make others feel lame or uncool for wanting to go home in the middle of the school year are the ones who secretly want friends and family they'd want to go home to. People who have good relationships with their family would never shame other people for wanting to visit and see them. Don't listen to the jealous haters