5 SIGNS THE INFJ IS TRULY HAPPY IN A RELATIONSHIP

[@Wenzes]

What are the most important aspects you are looking for in a romantic partner?

[@infjmale91]

Someone who can love themselves as much as I love me.

[@jodiforsythe3486]

I am looking for emotional maturity, stability and availability. I also understand my love languages, so that definitely helps.

[@CloudReaper468]

An equal. Someone who knows who they are. Our paths align and flow. I feel connected on an intellectual, physical, and emotional plane. I want us to feel comfortable/safe sharing our goals, and encourage/support each other (as a unit) toward achieving them. Self-acceptance and unconditional love are on the same continuum. Like you said, it’s not about changing someone (or yourself). Just looking to be myself and for them to be themselves. If it flows, it’s for me.

[@jessmason2112]

Relatable, personal space, mental, emotional, and financial stability. (They have things in order and have purpose of their own.) which if I'm into her I would be very supportive.

[@raft115]

Someone who has not backed off ✨ i hope 😁✨

[@sham9411]

An INFJ is happy in a relationship when: 1- 1:31 They’re on their own path in life 2- 4:01 Partner is emotionally stable 3- 4:54 Partner is self-aware 4- 7:48 Partner can listen & understand them 5- 10:35 Partner appreciates them for choosing themselves

[@Paul-eb2cl]

After a failed marriage, and a string of failed relationships, which all followed the same pattern, I finally decided enough was enough. I spent eight years alone, and in that time I discovered that I was a really great person. I mourned, I healed, and I grew. I am now in a strong relationship built on mutual trust and acceptance that we both bring our strengths and weaknesses to it. For te first time I feel like an equal. So if you're an INFJ who doesn't think they can do what Wnezes is suggesting, belive me when I say, out of all the personality types INFJ's are the ones who are mostly able to do this. Good luck to you all, and I hope you find that special person, i.e. You.

[@blueturquoisett8448]

I have just started my journey a year after divorce, still healing my trauma, worried about being alone though.

[@Paul-eb2cl]

@@blueturquoisett8448 A year is a very short time. It took me at least three minutes to get to a point where I was not reliving it in my head. What helped me were kind people who loved and supported me and time alone to process (not ruminate) to find the path forward. Also, try to find one thing (mine was running) that is healthy and gives you a natural lift, something that is your own and gives you a break from that whirlpool of grief in your head but lets you process the loss. You have to feel it to heal it, right?

[@R.S-1986]

You nailed it. We need to choose our partner carefully and take the time to do so. There are enough adults who are children in adult bodies. Great video. A very nice compliment to earlier topics. Ty ❤

[@underdoggys5415]

Wow, wow, wow. My goodness. Blown away. Depthberg straight ahead. Growing pains hard to take, was my previous mistake,not sure before yet overthrown, empath expanding, previous life was 2 tone. Thankyou from depth of heart, heart was shattered so now have to part. Ego diminishing, working on finishing , a life so devoted but rebuffed, just because injected poison away I thrust.Observing and listening , quietly glistening, bubbles forth expressions of myrth, how to go on conflict of worth😢. Tender, slowly gaining of strength, thanks to Wenzes filling thy tank. Keep spreading your wisdom amore, less forget us whose anguish flattened us and tore. 😢 Building a foundation with now mortar and brick, previous hurt will no longer stick. Again pray you prosper to train, we who are learning to grasp the bounty of heart needing to be trained. 🐻🤗

[@raft115]

Partner who is stable emotionaly ✨👌👏👏

[@e-va6433]

Wenzes your words hits right in the point that hurts and then it will be healing it 🥹✨🤍🤍🤍

[@naheenisapoet69]

The last point really hit. I was on an on-n-off relationship and trying my best to make my partner feel appreciated and doing things for him while also trying to grow as a person, but it seemed no matter what I did for them wasn't enough. I tried to communicate, but in the end could say none of it before he tore it all down and left. P.S. He wasn't self-aware, wasn't okay with who I was and was codependent, which means he was obsessed with me and wanted me to be obsessed with him as well.

[@naheenisapoet69]

@@bogdanlazar3278 ACCURATE. However, I do admit i as an INFJ am more leaning toward independence than servicing till I kill myself, maybe because its because i am more self aware, but the more self aware i have become the less attractive i am to this kind of selfish people, and instead be marked as selfish. I mean i too was like my ex once.I was obsessive and codependent, but i realised i was wrong and didn't channel my toxicity on my partner and tried to grow out of it and so now i m not so emotionally attached to people. TO insecure people, that's a threat. even emotionally secure people don't want an outlier like us, how will insecure people handle it? Sadly because i m so different i keep downplaying myself with my imposter syndrome and play to others needs and ignore my wants and needs

[@yuu_miran]

A narcissist?:)

[@naheenisapoet69]

@@yuu_miran perhaps... narcissism is not that simple to diagnose though

[@yuu_miran]

@@naheenisapoet69 indeed but its simple to spot once youve known one

[@naheenisapoet69]

@@yuu_miran I do sometimes wonder if he is one, he has tendencies alright that might become more narcissistic if he doesn't change in future

[@khaldon9711]

I don't care about looks or love or anything else at all. All i care about is a mind to understand me.

[@timbirchard]

My judgment: your message and approach are a beacon of light in this world. Thank you.

[@DonTrump-sv1si]

I'm happy single. I'm just not made for intimate, committed relationships

[@Unassuming_usernamer]

I love this video, all points hit true with my relationship. It was an incredible journey to learn all of these points- I feel as though I went through the opposite in each pairing up until now. It’s been 8 months into my relationship with an INTP male and we compliment each others energies so well, I pinch myself some days to be sure I’m actually FINALLY experiencing a healthy relationship.

[@jessjessbobessmess]

Interesting! My first relationship was with an INTP. We were together from 16-19. I think the only thing that ended it was our age/need for personal growth. Now I’m 30 but I’ll never forget my love for the INTP.. they are so deep and unique and complex and wonderful. Very much a kindred spirit to the INFJ imo 😊

[@DearYoungerSelf111]

So happy for you - glad you have found a healthy relationship!

[@sassytaf]

​​ I'm currently getting to know an INTP and we're both in our 30's. It's near intoxicating and delightful, I'm really praying it works out for us.​@@jessjessbobessmess

[@felixtownn]

So insightful and articulate.

[@jessmason2112]

She's very insightful.

[@Capernaum-zm2tz]

❤❤The truth, Many loves infj. but many of them are in different frequencies so infj choose selves where myself can handle my own pain, difficulties, joy happiness and I choose harmony and peace. Mental and emotional health are important Thank U Wenzes U nailed it God bless U

[@kimberlywrobel]

Holy hell I'm 55 years old and am just now finding this info. All my levels of understanding feel some how easier now 😂. Thank you so much for putting this info out there. You've shined a light for me. ❤

[@FluffyEmmy1116]

This is kinda the video i needed rn... I know I've been needing to work on this, and look more logically at the people I'm talking to and not go mainly on the emotional aspect. Thank you

[@andreatorluemke4982]

No one needs constant attention. But a relationship needs Intention time and effort. A partner does need attention affection and appreciation for being themselves too. A partner needs to know that they are chosen and you have their back. Both ways

[@byronryan4216]

Casting a cursory glance over my back myth & reality begin to merge in the mirror where like magic a double life exists … 🪞

[@JacoboDeLobo]

I can’t stress this enough, finding you and your page all those years ago has helped me so much. Thank you for everything you do, Wenzes! Much Love to you and everybody out there

[@markwilliams4489]

Thanks so much for this video, on a really important topic. Some of the 5 signs I'm nodding strongly at, and some helped me learn something that I think I was doing wrong in past relationships, eg. your point of an emotionally stable person, not a "project." Saved this for the future :D

[@Betscu.]

I shoukd have known these earlier.

[@augusthavince8909]

We're social creatures, and we can only heal so much on our own. Maybe a person is 90% healed, but will need the social part healed by human connection. I think that's where I'm at.

[@Mamasprincess-i9s]

Positive,loyal,honest,good looking,emotionally stable,more independent than I am basically an extrovert and someone who's able to be my hero I know sounds like a Disney fairytale

[@jessmason2112]

💯✌️😎 that is a major solid. 👊(knuckle bump.) 9:19

[@edenlikethegarden4663]

Fantastic info ❤️ extremely helpful

[@VINCENTROMANWRAY]

Thanks, they all told me I was insane.

[@suguntoliido1461]

Thank you 😊

[@raft115]

Someone who has not backed away ✨ i hope 😁✨

[@heladella]

Amazing content! Thank you

[@sassytaf]

I am currently getting to know an intj male and an intp male online. I can clearly see the differences in how they could potentially be in a relationship. I can already see how I would be with either of them. @Wenzes, what is your take on the most compatible mbti between an intp and intj male? I can tell you that so far, the intp understands me and melts my heart whereas the intj seems clueless or almost uninterested in terms of understanding me (even though he is consistent in his communication).

[@akferren1]

I can’t meet anyone..I’m 52 now and I’ve given up on finding my person. I think I’d rather be alone rather than waste time and energy on someone who can’t meet me on my level.. very depressing

[@lydiagrabner1571]

I am very sorry to hear that. I'm only 28 but feel the same way. I hope you can find another happiness in your life.

[@lucyannmcwilliams3889]

I am 62. 45 YEARS WITH NARCISSIST. MOVED OUT OF STATE AND O CONTACT. LOVING LEARNING HEALTHY BOUNDARIES. NOT READY READY FOR RELATIONSHIP. I AM HEALING AND HAVE SO MUCH MORE TO LEARN. THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH FOR SHARING ALL THE TRAININGS YOU SHARE!! BLESSINGS WENZE❤❤❤🎉🎉😢😊😅😮❤❤❤

[@22leggedsasquatch]

As they say in HR (Human Recycling) 'Be slow to hire and quick to fire.' 😉

[@TilikaVispute]

Thank you for this! ❤

[@takitakirumba22]

11:41 Wow Truth 👏👏👏

[@jaywheeler1062]

When/why did you start studying all of this, Wenzes?

[@CloudReaper468]

If you take the MBTI, INFJs are the most likely to buy the guidebook. Learning about my personality has helped me in so many areas of life. I wouldn’t know where to begin. Then finding a community, like Wenzes, has made me feel like I’m not alone in my experiences. I don’t know why she started, but I’m sure glad she did.

[@naheenisapoet69]

get attuned to your needs and wants, you will see its not that hard. no rocket science

[@crischansan]

@@CloudReaper468 Also very grateful. Discovering I'm an INFJ, that there is such a thing as INFJ/16 personalities is life changing for me, enlightening. Just knowing I'm not alone and there are others like me spread all-over the world-gave me a sense of peace I'll take with me to my deathbed.

[@trendsetter8138]

Great analysis absolutely true but can't find even one

[@KuldeepSingh-gg5kq]

Thank you❤🌹

[@TilikaVispute]

Ooooo this is going to be an interesting one…

[@ristaariani6178]

Does your husband is INTJ? I have a crush on INTJ, but this individual live in overseas, Asian and European. I feel like this person awesome and cool, like the way I imagine, smart, chill, cool, open minded, hopefully my crush is INTJ, because I'm an infj😊😂

[@philipsalomon6987]

Because iam happy

[@MegaCyberleader]

I dont knwo what that is.

[@seansollars70]

SSDI wheel chair

[@CC-fi8mc]

What are people here doing to feel whole?

[@serhumano2829]

Wow

[@raft115]

What has happened has happened now go ahead

[@JohnAnderson-xw3mq]

INF Gay just jokeing it rhymes though