What an ADHD Shutdown looks like

Wanted to show off just a few ways I make accommodations for myself in my own home!
I’m curious if there’s anything here you haven’t tried OR if there’s something I should try! Let me know in the comments!
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[@tinka6468]

How do you cope while on the edge of a breakdown? For me that phase is worse than the breakdown because it takes so much energy and I’m constantly worrying and have to motivate me to do stuff I have to do instead of just crawling in my bed

[@pandapuffzee8255]

I bring them on to quicken it up. If you can clear some space for yourself. Get microwave meals and something sweet or soup.

[@pandapuffzee8255]

I will sit in bed and turn on something like UP. I know I’ll be a total mess and I allow it more than if I just fall apart.

[@tinka6468]

@@pandapuffzee8255 I'll try to bring them on quicker, and allowing myself to be a mess seems like a pretty healthy thing to do. Thank you

[@4376annaface]

I force myself to exercise. Just taking my dog for a walk helps get that anxious butterfly feeling to a non consuming level.

[@chaifaerie]

@@pandapuffzee8255 I PUT UP ON TOO HAHAH

[@stargazer7733]

You have an incredibly organized and productive shut-down! My shut-down: sit on couch / lie on couch / curl up on couch

[@olderuglierandwiser]

Mine too...staring at yesterday's mess like it doesn't have anything to do with me, Hey maybe shut down no longer means actually shutting down...

[@anonamouse.p4115]

Shutdown in motion, sat on bed, lay down on covers, tucked into bed. Hayley, have you a new place? That fireplace is lovely. Your shutdown is very productive as well x!

[@CazHbokbok]

This sounds a lot more genuine. Hers just sounds like a cosy productive indoors day.

[@jeffreybollman6186]

Part 2. Me too

[@autumn5852]

That’s what I was thinking. I can’t do anything during a shut down other than scroll social media. If I could manage to go for a walk, I’d be good 👍🏽

[@rylynnmcbride929]

I hear you. I have ADHD as well and I get these awful things that I called shut downs where I can’t move or speak and they can last from 10 minutes to a few hours and they suck. Unfortunately, I am currently a teenager so I can’t just like take a day off when I feel one coming. It really sucks. Thank you so much for posting. I really love your videos.

[@user-zu5um2vo4w]

Look into the 'tism aswell

[@MJFish]

@@user-zu5um2vo4w although that isn’t bad advice, I’m definitely not in the spectrum, but I have moments as Rylynn described because of ADHD. @Rylynn, make sure you ask for help! Do you have an IEP? A therapist? Someone with expertise that can help you? I am a special Ed teacher and I know that some teachers are useless when it comes to this kind of thing, but this should be something that you can speak in person to someone about that can help you! Let me know if you don’t, I’ll find you some resources!

[@sophiesmith7116]

Check out adhd paralysis ❤️

[@rylynnmcbride929]

Thank you all so much for the replies. I really appreciate your advice.

[@ashleymoise9967]

Also consider looking into overstimulation 👍🏽

[@firebrand420]

Hey sweetie. I'm a 50 year-old ADHD+Autism granny. I'm like you and have these horrible freezes. There's multiple things that I do for self care. Number one, I switched from coffee to Crio Bru. It's cacao that is brewed and enjoyed exactly like a cup of coffee but without the caffeine anxiety and acid nausea. Yes, it's a little expensive but because it helps me personally in multiple ways, the cost is worth it. Other things I do to help with meltdowns/shutdowns/freezes (I get the whole range. I never know which will be the one to rear its ugly head until too late) are listening to binaural music, crying, walking barefoot in my yard, sitting under a tree and leaning against it, talking to my cats and most importantly, I am lucky enough to have what I call my anchor person. He's not only my husband, he's my friend, and my emotional anchor. Having a trusted, caring person, be it friend, partner, or family member helps me feel less alone and the struggle isn't as bad as those forced to fight this alone. I also like to touch water in some way: I sometimes go stand in ankle-deep water and splish-splash. Other times I turn on warm or hot water and let it run over my hands and at the same time, I let my mind drift. Same thing with the shower. I don't have just one self-soothe. It's taken me a lifetime to learn how to cope. I'm *still* learning how to manage these things. My therapist has been a godsend. She gave me some tools like the 4-7-8 breathing method (can be used as a sleep aid too!) and "I see, I feel, I hear". Please remember that you are not alone, that you are NOT damaged goods, and that there are many ways of managing these hard days.

[@znab7610]

Hey there, thank you for your comment. I don't have ADHD or Autism women in my life who are older than me. This leads me to feeling like my behavior is juvenile and I just need to "get it together". I appreciate hearing about your anchor partner ❤️ and the things you do to cope.

[@sweetypsycho4895]

It's not fair...

[@maryhill3948]

I also walk barefoot in the yard. I move a lot. Lately I have been reading/investigating vagal tone resetting

[@SnowCatKroe]

It's really comforting to hear a woman older than 30 talking about these things. I'm almost thirty, and when I'm hit by, well, everything, I feel like I've failed as an adult and that maybe I look like a dysfunctional child to others. Imagining you using your coping mechanisms and talking to your therapist in the way that I try to, makes me feel like I'm not a failure, because I don't think anyone else is. You seem like a really kind person, thank you for sharing your experience. ❤❤❤

[@thereseb85]

When I shut down I actually shut down. Like I sit and cannot get up to do any of the things I know I need to do. I think about the things. I mull over the things. I feel guilt about not doing the things. I tell myself to go do the things. I may even write lists to prioritise the things that I will not be doing that day. After several hours I nowadays accept that I am having what I call a "brain rest" day. I try not to heap anger or guilt onto myself. I let those around me that I'm struggling that day so they're aware. And I focus on nourishing myself and my children, and do lots of reading and documentaries. In my inactivity I am "doing" things that require no movement or organisation whatsoever. By days end I've summoned the energy and ability to do a couple things. Maybe a load of washing and a small tidy up. Then I'm done again and it's off to bed. Tomorrow is always a new day. ADHD inattentive is so invasive sometimes. I'm glad it's not every day. But I have had bouts of 4 day long brain rests, stages in life where it happens to me twice a week. These seasons are debilitating yet I can't take meds for it because I'm breastfeeding or pregnant when these extra trying times emerge.

[@23respectme]

For me when I shut down I can't do anything, I just lay there. Sometimes I can watch a show on my tablet, that's it.

[@ashicks]

same. i lay in bed bingewatching one series or another.

[@Joyfillied]

And then people think you’re lazy, and then you feel lazy, and it’s just lovely…😅😢 But on the bright side, some people really get it…❤❤❤

[@WitchlingFairyelle]

That’s called adhd paralysis, it can come out in different ways but one way is what you just described-you’re definitely not alone in that

[@susanseven7]

That's an actual shut down. This lady should stop

[@MuchToDoAboutNowt]

​@@susanseven7 Every single "shutdown" or bout of executive dysfunction that she shares is followed by "so I magically got out of it by doing a dozen things, just do things to combat not being able to do anything!" She's selling her ADHD coaching services and I guess nobody would hire her if she wasn't a walking unrealistic advertisement for just willing yourself out of being disabled.

[@user-rs4ex9lt4n]

My shut downs look like me sitting with my tablet all day watching KZbin videos about my special interests . I won’t do anything besides eat and watch videos for about 7 hours until I go to bed . Then go to work in the morning come home and watch videos and do the cycle for weeks on until I realize that I’m in this trap cycle. I’m calling it a trap cycle.

[@Mazygolucky]

I’m constantly on the edge of breaking down and it’s exhausting.

[@boinkadoinkk]

I’m sorry :( it really is

[@antonia4722]

I had an ADHD meltdown this new year. It was the worst ever! I cried for 2 days and actually couldn't keep my mind together at all. I was completely burned out after and it has taken me 2 weeks to feel healthy again! They can be really really bad and have been getting worse as I get older. Im 64 now.

[@robokaos69]

It's always interesting hearing perspectives from people who are a little older, as they're a little underrepresented online. Thanks for sharing :D

[@ForeverTogether219]

I will pray for you.. If you can .. call out to Jesus.. he will help💯

[@julielasyonekerry2185]

I will be 55 this year & just recently got a diagnosis but neither my primary doctor nor my psychologist will prescribe me a stimulant medication only Non Stimulant which do nothing for me😔 Hope you don't have to face another melt down any time soon 💜

[@savedbygrace8445]

@@ForeverTogether219I say to Jesus most mornings : I have no strength of my own, help me to want to do this, I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me, let the weak say I am strong, you are all my righteousness……. It makes a lot of difference. I’m 61 and masking is too much, therefore I try not to.

[@ForeverTogether219]

@@savedbygrace8445 Sounds like you are on the Right Track for healing 🙏

[@Crcmvnt]

I’m 38, was diagnosed at 35. Shutdowns are the worst. Sadly there is no days off being dad. Happy others have found solace.

[@chuu3u]

u must be the best dad ever

[@onlinemusicuniversity4114]

Exactly, mother of 5 stay at home and have always homeschooled them. It’s crippling and I can’t get away.

[@panthercat38]

Im here in my bed in thr dark, no dopamine hit is satisfying and i cant accomplish anything i wanted to today. I came back to find this vid to help me cope. ❤ Ty

[@juancena1259]

You could do a body weight workout

[@samanthaschoonover1493]

Wondering how you get through a work week. When I feel this way I just want to quit my job and hide in a cave for the rest of my life. How do I…not do that

[@danielbarry63415]

I agree, i work in education. When it's great, it's great! But there are times I have to hide away because I'm on the verge of mental collapse and there isn't really any where I can go, only exacerbating the issue!

[@user-sz5ky8jv8z]

Work for yourself, in a way that works for you 😊

[@uniquechannelnames]

Idk even though I'm ADHD i only got officially. diagnosed a few years ago, in mid 30s... i never differentiated between shutdowns etc.. cause i just never thought of it. But... my advice, maybe do really deep gratitude list, a forgiveness list,(things you forgive yourself for), and do some balancing exercises whether on one-foot, or on a big balance ball, or find a straight line on your floor ans walk it.back and forth, on the balls ofnyoir feet. Good focus tool. Is an ADHD shutdown a complete breaking of your ability to do any productive tasks??

[@Thatlillthing]

Omg, same here

[@user-th2fl3te5j]

I'm the same way. I hate my job but I only work 3 days a week. Yes fitting a whole work week of hours into 3 days is an endurance event and can be miserable during the times you don't like your coworkers but it's less than half the week so I get my sanity back and still some days off. TL;DR maybe a schedule change will help.

[@toadfingers]

God I miss having my own space. I’m confined to a tiny bedroom during meltdowns now and basically just have to sit in bed

[@jacobhigins9312]

That's not ADHD. I have that too, technically. I have Hyperthyroid, ADHD, and did, and autism. God forgot to add the focus with me. If it having a meltdown, you need to break the habit that led to it for 60 days.

[@shinydiamonds0458]

I didn’t realize this was an ADHD thing, I just always thought something was wrong and I couldn’t figure out what, nice to know now though 😊

[@camsavvva6102]

Yea..... don't self diognose

[@shinydiamonds0458]

@@camsavvva6102 I’m not-

[@camsavvva6102]

@@shinydiamonds0458 you litterally just did but ok

[@shinydiamonds0458]

@@camsavvva6102 I didn’t know that this specific thing was an ADHD thing, I do in fact have ADHD-

[@camsavvva6102]

@shinydiamonds0458 good for you ?

[@PURE_DAnK_MEMES]

When I have a breakdown I just cry a lot like a lot a lot

[@inariokami6696]

I like how you didn’t give up and kept trying to do things to help.

[@talyar04]

Does anyone else deal with uncontrollable intense daydreams during their ADHD/Autism breakdowns?

[@YeahOk8]

When I was younger I couldn’t control them or how long they would last but now I get up and do something different and it brings me back to reality

[@katebrandnew-davies5872]

Yes, totally insane, random weird images that feel like I’m being taken over, makes no sense whatsoever but I’m not freaky out about them because I know it’s just my crazy brain.

[@jameskittrell6486]

Thank you!. I've heard of ADHD but had no idea what it's like. I'm learning, including how bad it is. No, I'm not in medical field. Best wishes

[@harrietwilhelminadevos5154]

Use glycolic acid pads on the areas where you struggle with ingrown hairs the couple days after you shave (not the day of). Before I knew this trick, I had just stopped for years because the ingrown hairs were far more gross than anyone could make me feel for having natural body hair. Thanks for the shutdown tips. Your content is so helpful to so many. You're a total star!!

[@Jelleybean18]

Also try trimming instead of shaving :) For an example: Hydro Silk® 5 TrimStyle Razor

[@julieyoung8551]

Similarly, I use a bha or aha toner. It helps with the in grown hairs and bo. I rarely have to use deodorant anymore which is handy during those times when hygiene isn’t happening.

[@godshelpinghand5425]

One thing I do is set a bunch of timers and manage my time like I will do my homework for an hour unless I finish before if I don’t then after that hour I get a 30 min break and things like that.

[@jacobhigins9312]

U lucky. Imagine having hyperthyroid, autism, SEVERE ADHD, DID, and symptoms of narcolepsy. I'm on doses of Adderall at 25 that would send u into a psych ward. It's still not enough.

[@fjordpitsky4486]

Must be nice having the discipline to actually adhere to the timers 😂

[@seraphimssounds]

when you said “I am happy girl” with that / :D / *eye twitch* face… I felt that in my BONES. 😂😂 I say that all the time phahahah. glad i’m not alone. fake it til you make it 🥴

[@leocervidae]

Ingrown hairs anywhere: 1) Use a sharp razor, 2) Rinse razor after every pass, 3) Use decent shaving cream and warm water, 4) Cleanse and gently exfoliate directly before shaving and the next day.

[@Jelleybean18]

Also try trimming instead of shaving :) For an example: Hydro Silk® 5 TrimStyle Razor

[@MJFish]

That’s helpful for preventing, but not treating once you have them

[@JoTheAnomaly]

Treatment for ingrown armpit hairs: 1) acquire a bobby pin 2) put head of pin over ingrown hair and press 3) owwww oiwwww owwwie 4) tweeze infected hair when it shows itself 5) clean and swab with alcohol

[@cherry817]

​@@JoTheAnomaly actually you should never pull out the ingrown hair. You should leave it until it heals itself and then you can remove it but if you pull it out it'll just come back typically because you're opening up the follicle.

[@mollyb8136]

Use a single blade razor too!

[@morganmiller6284]

I go for a short walk around the block if I can, listen to certain music that calms me or energizes me depending on what I need, and I try to get physical contact or pet my cat. Then I cry and usually feel better enough to go through a list of needs to take care of that might fix the issue (food, hydration, shower, sleep, etc)

[@jacobhigins9312]

Imagine having severe ADHD, autism, DID, symptoms of hyperthyroidism and narcolepsy. Ppl often think I'm skitzo when I'm off my meds. That's how Unfocused and hyper I am.

[@claireschweizer4765]

And you FILMED it and edited and PUBLISHED it afterwards to a social media platform... that's fucking impressive to me.

[@VestaJ17]

Because she doesnt actually have ADHD, its not that she cant pay attention, its that she cant get enough of it

[@Crazyboy-lz7sr]

Heat compression and tree tea oil is good for ingrown hairs

[@Jelleybean18]

Also try trimming instead of shaving :) For an example: Hydro Silk® 5 TrimStyle Razor

[@abbygurl1313]

I lay in bed or on my couch with my weighted blanket until It passes and I can continue my day. Not the best system but it works like the idea of doodling I should try it out.

[@greilus4535]

I can't relate to any of that. Everytime i feel like I might have a mental breakdown I start isolating myself as much as possible because I don't want to hurt anyone and all I wanna do is to go somewhere far away from other humans and just scream. Or take a mental health walk at 4 AM lmao

[@emilysmith2965]

I recently took several PTO days for my birthday - the first one I’ve had since breaking all contact with my overbearing parents. I’m very proud of myself for having managed to do laundry, go to the DMV, and do groceries. But other than that cumulative three to four hours, I’ve spent the entire time nearly catatonic, watching comfort shows while cocooned up in blankets. Thank you for validating the struggle - and thank you for your three-tier food system that really helped me decide what to buy at the store today!

[@erinneagles1455]

I’m a single mom of two kids with my own business. I’m not allowed to shut down… ever. Take the small wins of the day, close to none, and keep marching on. If we all needed to shut down for self care through world wars, I don’t think many would have lasted. Resilience builds life. Build yourself in positive ways, be humble in the good times and blast through the bad times 💪

[@bryanalvarado2203]

The way she used edging in that first sentence took me out😂💀😭

[@go_on_git]

Ingrown armpit hairs: Active- warm saltwater compresses when you can. Preventative- salicylic/glycolic acid before deodorant, make sure to let fully dry

[@pariahmouse7794]

I had mine the other day, haha... Unfortunately my body forced it on me in the form of a migraine, so I had no choice, but I needed the reset...

[@50shadesofskittles9]

You can act. I am soooooo jealous!!!

[@PossumMedic]

"Going for his morning poop 🫡" 😂🤣🤣🤣

[@rachelcrabbyassedriskind2228]

Literally sitting here watching this with my cold coffee & my cat’s poops are the most rank. (salutes you)

[@sinsitysinderella790]

Thank you as always for your honesty and exposing your struggles for the benefit of the rest of us. Your videos help me, but also help me communicate to my loved ones what is in my head. Ingrown hair tip from Dermatologists, warm compresses.

[@Wolf-hg7uh]

My work involves extensive cardio and heavy lifting. It can also be quite frustrating as it often involves quite a few mind games left behind by previous workers that I have to fix. Sometimes, between the aches, bleeding hands, and headache, all I want to do when I get home is crash. I've found, however, that the 'runner's high,' like feeling I get puts me in a fairly chipper mood. Sometimes, while it may seem overwhelming to exercise after such a stressful day, even something light can make all the difference. I some days refuse to push to failure in these moments, and it will actually have quite a positive effect on my mental health and overall productivity. The only disclaimer is that when you're so used to pushing to failure, not allowing yourself to may make one feel like they're being lazy for not upholding that. In these scenarios, it's best to focus on what's been done, and what's getting done, as opposed to what could've been done.

[@stephanien106]

I have to thank you for all of you open honesty about your AUDHD! I have been struggling so bad lately that it's hard to want to be here some days.... Anyhow ingrown armpit hairs... I know it sounds crazy but alcohol on the area helps...

[@polarbearrevolution]

Ingrown hairs: make baking soda paste or other exfoliation, black tea wash, witch hazel after shaving, let the hair grow naturally is what l do tho 😊

[@Idk-nv7ze]

I have a story about an ADHD shutdown i had in 5th grade, I was missing an assignment I needed to do and I was really overwhelmed, and then the lunch room was really loud so I shutdown at lunch. My mind was scattered and I couldn’t move with being ordered to or having my hand held. I wasn’t supposed to go outside but my friends didn’t know that so she held my hand and walked me outside, I was just about to calm down, (I was also so stressed I couldn’t talk) until one of the 5th grade teachers came running out and grabbed me and sat me down and watched me do the work, I could barely do what I was doing and I was trying to take deep breaths they heard me and just laughed. Few years later I’m realizing I may also be autistic and have self diagnosed ADHD because I had no other choice and pretty much all the symptoms👍

[@blueeyedbatman]

When I know I'm edging on a breakdown I try to get as prepared as possible and then allow it to happen instead of fighting it. Because I know that either way I'm not going to be able to stop it. So I'd rather get it over with rather than stress about it for weeks at a time. Doesn't always work, but most of the time it does for me.

[@papermason]

I had mine last week, I'm getting back into the swing of things.

[@iriszee129]

Light exfoliation with a body scrub the few days after shaving helps with ingrown hairs!

[@theiviachine]

Bro just described boredom

[@julietteferrars3097]

When you said you heated up your coffee it reminded me that I have two fully cooked potatoes waiting for me in the microwave! I love~ my brain. Literally sitting here hungry. 💀

[@morganwillow]

Girl you’re doing better than me. I literally spent the entirety of Saturday in my bed

[@nana-fi6vl]

Got distracted with the headphones. Now I want one 😂

[@iamstateofbeing7330]

When I have a “shutdown” (I say burnout instead so it’s easier for others to understand) it basically looks like I’m depressed. My body forces me to slow down and sometimes I become pretty annoying to be around because I don’t like to talk when I feel that way and I certainly don’t like to put on a “mask” for others. So, I end up just looking more unemotional than I already feel. I kind of become a recluse and just play video games and sometimes I’ll drink a bit. It’s not super healthy, but thankfully it doesn’t last too long. It used to happen way more before I started taking my meds 3 times a day so now it’s much less often and when it does happen it’s less severe and easier to cruise through the day!

[@RebeccaCarter88]

I relate so hard to your videos. Thank you for making them! 😊

[@badzeemadzee43]

I usually ALMOST litraly tell my besti(who I do actuallylike) I like them and then I try to stop myself but we have a good besti relationship

[@andreionisie168]

I had a phase where I actually embraced the shutdown without trying to delay it. This somehow made it pass easier and actually helped me with focus and motivation. I used to sit on the floor with my back propped on the couch and just let all the emotions and thoughts wash over me. Usually, only the good ones remain. But I need to remind myself every time to do it without a phone or music or any other type of distraction, or else it just gets delayed and amplified.

[@42218102742]

These are really good coping strategies. I have to get better at implementing them when I feel I'm starting to get overwhelmed or burnt out because then I can keep the momentum going. If I wait too long and let the breakdown set it, I go into ADHD paralysis of some sort and shut down. Then I just end up sitting/laying around scrolling or staring into space while feeling like I should be doing something productive and then the guilt sets in and I have to pull myself out of a hole all over again. It's exhausting, but I'm getting better at it. Love seeing this type of content, thank you for this.

[@ILoveMilkingWhales]

OMG UR HEADPHONES LOOKS SO COMFY

[@grocksauce7422]

36 dude diagnosed at 3. We have a very very similar way of dealing with the shutdown. I end up doing a lot of standing “in-between” tasks though, that’s why I’ll go on so many walks to try and break me out of being stuck. Can’t help you on the armpit in-grown. Although I get them on my face/neck if I use a razor 🪒 🤷🏻‍♂️ haha. Oh ya! I have movies from my childhood on in the background a lot to try and make me feel… more at home? Safe? I don’t know what it is, but it helps .

[@avanalie]

For the ingrown armpit hair, I use an exfoliating glove and give it a quick scrub whenever I shower and that helps remove excees dead skin that prevents them from getting stuck

[@proxzi]

felt like if u went inside my head

[@5ashley_yelhsa5]

I’m in shutdown mode right now because I just got back from a fun trip with my friend group and I have work tomorrow which means I have a lot to do but I physically cannot so I’m just gonna stay in bed for the rest of the day.

[@CalypsoRose333]

Thank you for this I know I have ADHD but I didn’t realize the shut downs were apart of it. I feel really relieved knowing I’m not the only one. ❤

[@AmnRavenloft]

AuDHD here. I have one of those sebum sucky vacuum thingies for zits and stuff. Sometimes I use that to help empty the pore of an ingrown (because the armpit is tender!). They dont cost a lot and they can also be really helpful if you have a stim where youre constantly picking blemishes. For me, an empty pore is a non-desirable stim target. While I dont get a lot of body acne, I do get a lot of skin issues, and for me a nice scented soap with hyloronic acid helps my skin not produce those issues (or acne!) to begin with, so I'm a lot less likely to pick-stim.

[@valeriehartman3705]

On the edge of a breakdown? What happens when you are no longer on the edge? I guess I should make a video.

[@ladashiacleary-tucci6610]

I recomend sugar scrubs for the armpits❣️

[@TyroHuman]

Maybe a gentle exfoliant? You can take a bit of your body wash or an oil and mix sugar or used coffee grounds with it (safer for water systems and the fishies than the tiny plastic beads) I used to have that issue frequently. I switched to using a cleanser that came with a deodorant/antiperspirant (i was tired of sweating through my antiperspirant every night at work) and I haven't had any since (when i use it regularly). I did also switch to using a safety razor too though (havent nicked myself once- which schocked me!) But the company for the wash stuff is called Duradry.

[@circusbear5354]

Use the gel type deodorant instead of the chalk like ones. Haven't had ingrown since I've switch. avoid antiperspirants as well

[@HeliKomulainen]

This is so helpful. Thanks. ❤

[@Angeee119]

Girl i got a scrub you could use if you want ill send you a link, its helped me with my ingrown hairs A TON. Embarassing as hell. Used to be a regular thing in multiple areas, tight clothes, shaving or waxing just not good. But this changed my life.

[@Jelleybean18]

Also try trimming instead of shaving :) For an example: Hydro Silk® 5 TrimStyle Razor

[@jeffreybollman6186]

I totally understand. Erasable colorful pens are fun too. Crying happens.

[@always0tired415]

Honestly almost had a meltdown because I hadn’t slept and my sisters cat kept waking me up by scratching at the walls and doors

[@krazyexploitz4048]

Literally me lol

[@xenabellarosepoolreedzilla4405]

So greatful that you have these in place to take of yourself, it is ok to cry, we can cry together if you would like 😢

[@QueenCami_123]

When I shut down ai feel really bad because I love drawing but I can’t bring myself too :(

[@adhdelightful]

Witch Hazel for ingrown hairs. Works on razor burn too.

[@greenshambroc]

Tips for the ingrown hair, tea tree oil scrub, daily in the shower till it goes away

[@adriennefehr4516]

Sending love. Incredibly familiar and relatable.

[@MountainPearls]

Armpit hair: Glycolic acid cleanser (leave on 2 arm pits for minutes) then salicylic acid promote treatment stuff. You can get a spray kind for the body. You may also want to change deodorants and razors.

[@karmasmatic5074]

for ingrowns i tweeze them, apply rubbing alcohol after and use exfoliating pads next time i shower to close the pores

[@Rogue136]

I feel you. I've had one rumbling for a number of weeks... I finally boiled over into a meltdown on Monday. The strange part was Tuesday when I just got up and went to work like nothing happened. Once I got home I crashed and was basically the walking dead until just this morning. It really sucked because yesterday was my birthday and with everyone over I was in sensory overload the whole time.

[@chandler_martian]

Today I literally felt like doing nothing and just letting myself rot because I had no executive function. Somehow I convinced myself to shower and that really helped but it took a lot of willpower. Im convinced I deal with something but so far I’ve been told nothing.

[@Isaiahcollins-rk2lk]

I do the same thing! I have Brack downs all the time.

[@socialdeviant13]

Use a trimmer instead of a razor. You only get the "silky smooth" for a day, maybe 2, before you get regrowth, and not even that if you get razor burn or nicks. I don't shave often, but when I do, I just use an electric razor. I don't get the razor burn, nicks, or ingrown hairs, but my [body part] still LOOKS shaved.

[@10hm18]

Neosporin helps with ingrown hairs!

[@savannahcheek4802]

Baby powder on the armpits after the shower and before deodorant! The struggle is real.

[@kizziezizzler8080]

how are you developing armpit ingrown hairs? do you use a razor blade to shave? usually an ingrown hair comes from shaving without doing enough exfoliating! 2 options that help would be to shave using an electric razor like a phillips norelco which will give a slightly less smooth shave which will prevent the hair from being trapped under a layer of dead skin thus growing in the incorrect direction, the other tip is to get a loofa and pour some body wash directly into it then squeeze and smush it around in your hand until it's VERY sudsy bubbly and then give a good 45 second swirling scrub under your armpits 1 or 2 days before shaving, then also for 1 or 2 days after. i have had to deal with a lot of ingrown hairs being trans and this advice has helped me so much!!! i hope it can help you

[@Cappello101]

I watched this for like 15-20 seconds and could automatically relate lol

[@brysonalbertchapman]

I have these headphones yet they are black. I love them I should have got the white ones like you they look great as well!

[@ZadenMershon]

Do you ever go through phases? I go through a childish phase, adult phase, and elderly phase, like the wiccan idol hecate, the maiden mother and crone.

[@nineredberries]

Ingrown armpit hair is the Kosas deodorant... I don't know what they put in that stuff but it helped me. I also recently started waxing.

[@Jelleybean18]

Also try trimming instead of shaving :) For an example: Hydro Silk® 5 TrimStyle Razor

[@molly.d]

Electric trimmer. I only use electric trimmers on my underarm hair (which I mostly grow out now bc why not) and it’s made a huge difference in the health of my skin under my arms. No more bumps, ingrowns, rashes, nothing.

[@abby2946]

Old spice Volcano deodorant with charcoal is a great exfoliant

[@boperez2841]

Honestly. Same with the headphones

[@Bellllllz]

Use an after shave after shaving, I use extremely diluted apple cider vinegar on everywhere that I shave, I use to have HORRIBLE little red zits everywhere even after using a sanitized, new, and good quality razor. I use native brand deodorant and it has really helped as well. Moisturizing after showers is your best friend. My body skin is like my finest dream since i started using acv, I still get zits on my face but that's my pcos

[@absuredangel]

I have adhd shut downs to. I feel no good at things i enjoy. Much more irritable at family. Feel like i cant do anything right. Either over eat anything i can find or dont eat anything at all. To cope i lay on couch with favorite blanket and watch true crime shows and horror movies and have lots of tea wether its hot or cold.

[@marilynmonroe6130]

Neosporin cream, not ointment, directly on just shaved skin will prevent ingrown hair and bumps caused by infection.

[@maximefcom]

I can feel this video.

[@pistachoo.]

Thank you for sharing this side

[@navygirlchristina2561]

Hahaha I will make coffee on the stove cause I got used to that in PR and it tastes so yummy. Okay. Sorry. Squirreled it for a sec. When I use the keurig I will literally walk by it hours later and see my coffee chillin right there cold as can be! Haha and I have been known to leave it on my table and wake up and drink it! Jaja and my bed is covered in journals and pretty colored pen and highlighters and vapes and laptop hahaha and maybe some snacks. 😂😂😂 so accurate for me why I hyper focus. But my shut downs won’t allow me out of bed. Or they will make me rearrange the entire room! Smh no middle area. All or nothing it seems.

[@nicolefloof]

You have my respect for the sheer amount of guts it takes to have a fireplace when you have ADHD… 🤗🤗🤗🤗🫂🫂🤗🤗🤗🫂🤗🤗💜💜💜🫂🤗 also cuddles to you and your cat 🤗🤗🫂💜💜🫂🫂🤗🤗💜🤗🤗

[@FiatVentusCreations]

My solution for ingrown armpit hair was scrubbing and not shaving anymore. It got very itchy and bumpy and I just put the razor away. This solution may not work for everyone.

[@Jelleybean18]

Also try trimming instead of shaving :) For an example: Hydro Silk® 5 TrimStyle Razor

[@st4r_lily.]

lots of coloring supplies gives me dopamine. 10/10 rec

[@yupitskam]

Slap some witch hazel on your ingrowns! It'll help with the irritation! Id also recommend looking into a trimmer, i got my trans girlfriend the meridian trimmer bc she has really dense hair growth and gets terrible razor burn. It can be used in the shower or dry and can get pretty close to the skin (:

[@rotay701]

Y’all, let me tell you. Self heating mugs CHANGED MY LIFE. I still use my old mugs cause they’re cuter but still, on days I know I might forget my hot beverage and don’t want to bother microwaving. I just use my self heating mug 😌 best gift to an adhd person