What Are The Downsides To Dating A Foreigner? | Koreans Answer

We asked Koreans what the potential downsides are to dating a foreigner in Korea, and here's what they had to say!
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[@leslyarmas356]

3:12 "Korea is full of Koreans". Knowledge is power.

[@lilboyme2771]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@wiam510]

Omg

[@theblackconservativewoman9824]

LESLY ARMAS oh wow 😂😂😂

[@Jade-xc7vt]

wow lol

[@user-cv2qt7dr8w]

LESLY ARMAS learning new things everyday 😍😍😍

[@xrm9774]

"so communication would be difficult especially when we fight" *WHOA AN INTELLECTUAL*

[@moonight_li]

Can't stop 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@ShiviRo]

😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 Without fight ain't no love😆😆😆🙄🙄🤦‍♀️ You know how Koreans says : 'fighting' ✊ Or.. Honey-bunny .. Fighting.. Time🤨🤔? 👊

[@albatros6679]

@Nicole Foster lmaooo same

[@Elizabeth-ud2ww]

You know that actually when we are angry language just flows

[@bibi84igot76]

I would "fight" with him in every "language" he will choose 😂😂😂

[@tteokbokki02]

I think the main problem is just the language barrier. But it's not impossible to learn another language.👍

[@woheni]

- Xenon - you are right... my boyfriend is chinese, we learn each others language

[@starrynights2482]

I’m learning Chinese even tho I want to go to Korea for a dance studio. But Chinese to me is so much easier than korean

[@Edwinc26]

There's another big problem, in East Asian countries the younger generation is more open minded about dating a foreigner than older generation (like they said in the video). Younger generation tend to have a lot of respect to elders (and obviously parents) so their opinion is really important & not only about dating but life decisions in general. Keep in mind that this doesn't apply to every east asian family out there.

[@henta1goddess7]

To me it’s religion & culture.

[@kimberly3076]

I’d say it’s the older generation. Koreans have a lot of respect for their elders. So if their parents don’t approve of the relationship its very possible it won’t last or it will be hard to get approval.

[@alexandrailies5916]

sometimes I feel like some koreans expect foreigners to give up everything that makes them different and embrace korean culture fully without them giving up anything, it'a a little one sided. I'm not talking in general, just some cases I've observed

[@rose-um3oc]

It's kinda true, people always talk about foreigners learning Korean instead of Koreans learning English or the foreigner's language

[@alexandrailies5916]

@no name we are talking about a relationship, where both people have to give

[@alexandrailies5916]

@no name would you be okay to be the only one making efforts in a relationship?

[@alexandrailies5916]

@no name understand that there are also cultural differencies and it's okay, things can still work out even tho two people come from totally different backrounds but you have to be open to it, also while the person is learning korean the other could learn english to improve the communication. I got your point and I agree with it only to some extent. In a relationship both people should make efforts. Open up a bit :)

[@sharoosh8723]

It's a very conservative country, a few years ago they would literally stare at and take photos of people that had blue eyes if they would see then on the bus etc BC there were so few people. Also Most Koreans would stay in Korea and would very rarely live abroad which lead to generations that always kept to their people. It's quite a big change in such a short amount of time, they are far from multi culti so they really stick to their culture. Also, you should adapt to every country's culture you're living in, ofc you should keep a part of your own culture with you but it's rlly important to adapt especially in a conservative country..

[@bangtansslut3843]

not to offend anyone but they always said, their partner would have to learn korean, but why dont they try too to learn their partners language

[@diya4116]

So true both partners should LEARN from eachother

[@nessa7096]

because many people move to Korea rather than people moving out of Korea?

[@lovelyrfc]

I think they mean since they are in korea now

[@vl8518]

probably because this whole interview is only hypothetical but im sure if some of these guys found the person they love and that person speaks another language, then they would try to learn it as well. or maybe, some of these guys aren't that great and wouldn't make considerate boyfriends anyways lol just because a person is good looking doesn't mean their personality is you feel me?

[@wheredidallthelemonsgo1794]

They did specify living in Korea

[@binitalia4137]

Before I'd left Korea , I never imagined dating or marrying with foreigner. But I married to Italian Australian. Hehe Even we had a language barrier, we didn't have a problem. Because we knew that we are really fit well each other in personality. My parents surprised at first time when I talked about him, but they love my husband a lot and they're learning in English these days.

[@debora-jq7rc]

Ciaooo

[@clemencegros3667]

So cuuuuteeeeee

[@daria-en9mz]

빈 이탈리아 Bin Italia thats sooo sweet omg

[@navi3430]

Awww that’s so cute

[@Dissmiss2013]

Of course they're happy .. he's white 🙄

[@user-vp7ty3eb2b]

As a typical South Korean guy in Seoul in his 20s, my biggest inconvenience with dating a foreign girl is not the difference in language or culture, but the stereotype of South Korean guys made by media. Whether it's Western girls or Asian girls, many foreign girls seem to expect all South Korean guys to be "That guy" in K-Drama and K-Pop. And this big expectation burdens me. Since I'm neither romantic nor cute. Although, I've watched quite a few Hollywood movies, I don't have any fantasies that all Western girls are attractive and beautiful.

[@niveamaldorane]

PREACH say it louder for those in the back!! Feel you so much as a woman who witnessed the weeboos vibe I'm just laughing watching all thoses kboos especially those pretending not be, experienced their désillusions. Their jumping on Korean guys so confident about the white privilege, then after few months and amount of gosthing, they go back home making vid about how awful was their "crush" 😏 The things is kboos as weeboos or all kind of asian fetishist assuming that because of being white the Asian will instantly fell for them. But they missed the part about fell (for sex with them) They never say getting married, and in fact even they are white they are the kind who white guys (and maybe others who live in west) doesn't find them attractive and don't date at all. So they watch drama and believe that asian are thosr who will date them. 😏

[@ThePrince7711]

Both sides have this problem tho.. It's like generalising it's all the same for everyone. But of course it still exist people who think differently not only in Korea but everywhere.

[@elle7981]

Those are just the koreaboos, stay away from them. As long as you have a good personality that's all.

[@zarahehe9904]

What a legend 👍🏽

[@Anastasiabruno]

YAS FINALLY

[@tonightdowntown]

3:14 in the meantime they are two foreigners walking behind him :D

[@tonightdowntown]

@@Urlocalant xD haha the irony! love it

[@ShiviRo]

😂 😂 😂 😂

[@vjbkbkllhgvjhbki5019]

@Wuddup Dope lol maybe they are just tourists? I mean Korea is still full of Koreans, and Asians in Europe or America are still quite small in numbers, so it is possible that they don't know a lot of foreigners bc their workplace or school does not have any. And for the dating thing. The bottom line is you have to like that person and that person has to like you in order to start a relationship. Language, culture, and religion, however, do play an important role in a relationship bc they can cause conflict due to miscommunication and different ideologies.

[@arunikarastogi3204]

LOL

[@taehyungslady8250]

LMAooo 😂

[@misswoo9683]

Do you choose to interview the good looking guys intentionally and ask why they wouldn't date us?? D:

[@dreammmssss4511]

Lol

[@alejandraascencio9843]

Ikr😢😢

[@sayurivkg]

😂😂😂 This is the point.

[@annagracemariah2465]

The truth is they’re just all cute haha

[@sal4538]

😂

[@polochic314]

It’s really about finding a guy that’s open minded as well as his parents. However, if he’s a mamas boy he’ll always follow his parents. In my past relationship my ex’s parents and even his sister would convince him to leave me multiple times. Not saying they can’t grow to accept you eventually but it could be a very long process with many obstacles.

[@watashiwaanni]

polochic314 Don’t ever date a mama’s boy and never date someone and try to change them it never works. I will not date someone who will prioritize their parents over me for example. That they are too weak spirited to reject someone they love because of parents? Not for me

[@polochic314]

watashiwaanni exactly. The older sister was an even crazier story to be honest. But that’s said and done

[@mera8440]

Well now I want to know the full story

[@peace7467]

Iconic GigglePuff I second that

[@polochic314]

Iconic GigglePuff I think my situation was just an unlucky one. Not to say all relationships are like this when it comes to cultural differences. That definitely played a big role in it but ultimately incompatibility was another big reason.

[@changyoungcho]

The language barrier can't stop me to reach you foreign girls...😘

[@htorgay3573]

Nowadays it's easy to learn a language 😉 good luck 😅🤭

[@jinslaughismymedicine9543]

Ahaha pabo

[@graciekattan6618]

Lol 😂😂😂😂

[@estefani7159]

omfg, this comment just cured my depression 😂😂

[@jungshooked7602]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@andyso0565]

It does not matter how you look, what language you speak, where are from.. if it's love, you will make an effort for that person. That's it, no one said realtionships are easy. No excuses please. Im dating a Korean, we comunicate in english, second language for both. We are learning each others languages too. And it's going well. Also, If you try to ignore the negativity from others ( it's your relationship, not theirs) then you can live happily, trust me ^^

[@strangerpainter]

i'm married to a korean, and we only communicate in english or swedish ( neither of our native languages)

[@LN-pz5ou]

strangerpainter very interesting... why Swedish?

[@FrankM]

Language can be learned. But cultural difference are a big barrier that are very difficult to overcome. If a foreigner moves to Korea, finds someone to date, that person has to adapt.

[@vansmoon]

All these people saying there's a language barrier, I'm currently learning Korean and it's not too hard honestly. Also it's actually pretty good to date someone whose native language you're not familiar with. You'd have to speak a solid amount of the same language but could learn each other's through dating and communicating. (A little advice on learning Korean in the comments below as it was requested)

[@ifeeltraped1601]

Hi! Can you give me some advice in learning Korean language since im trying to learn Korean but its hard to pronounce and remember some words... so can you give me advice how to learn Korean faster lol. =)

[@mrs.ohsehun8243]

Yes please could you give some advice how to learn korean?

[@vansmoon]

@@ifeeltraped1601 well just try to keep practicing daily and follow Korean people on social media so every time you'll open an app you're practically "forced" to read or hear it! Also try websites like Memrise to learn at a steady pace :) For pronunciation it can be helpful to watch Korean shows, use Korean subtitles if they're available, it's way easier to listen and repeat what natives say while seeing the words on screen 🙂 and always write down words or phrases on a sheet of paper maybe even get a whole exercise book only for practicing writing Hangul! Those are the things that work for me so no guarantee they'll help you too - good luck!

[@vansmoon]

@@mrs.ohsehun8243 just answered that below your comment! Incase you didn't get the notification :)

[@ifeeltraped1601]

@@vansmoon thank you soo much❤🤗

[@fatamy8597]

i’m not really interested in this but the only question i have is: would it still be a problem if the foreigner already knows korean? Then you’d be able to teach your partner about your culture if you’re interested? Isn’t that what a relationship is about - learning from each other?

[@vjbkbkllhgvjhbki5019]

I think a lot of people would be down to it if the foreigner already know the language and their culture or even grew up in Korea. Usually when they talk about foreigners, they usually image someone who lives in a different country and doesn't speak Korean. Hence why they list language barrier and culture differences as the downsides bc they can create conflict in a relationship.

[@user-ru3zw6lz9h]

Yeah but they have zero interest in a serious relationship because of their closeminded parents and let's be real, most Koreans will bend over backwards to acquiesce to their parents.

[@raquelsan6366]

I think they'll probably find another "problem" at the end I think they're just politely setting up excuses... XD

[@italyyeoja]

I’m engaged to a korean guy who also didn’t think once in his life he would date a foreigner, I speak korean not perfectly but I can survive, he is also trying to learn Italian and he knows english a bit, his family was worried at first because they actually never even talked with a foreigner in their life so they also worried about the things said in this video but as soon as they saw I could speak korean enough to have a conversation they accepted me happily, they talked with my parents on skype and it was a really fun experience! So, this is all to say that the downsides are there only if u are not willing to do anything for the other and the most important thing is understanding their culture and learn. And yeah you can meet some close minded people who don’t accept you, but that can happen with any relationship not only with Koreans. The barriers are inside people! There are no barriers for love! ❤️

[@katelily7619]

IMO, I don't think language barrier is a problem. I am an American (native English speaker) and dated a Korean man. At the time, I spoke very little Korean, and he spoke very little English. BECAUSE OF THAT we didn't fight. I think we were very conscientious of each others feelings and body language, so we got along well. Plus, we were patient with each other because of the language barrier. This also proved true with a former roommate of mine from China who speaks Mandarin, and very little English. We never argued. Got along so well that we are best friends now. Thankfully her English improved, because my Mandarin didn't LOL. I think patience and understanding negates the language barrier.

[@strangerpainter]

yeah i mean, if its love, its love. :D

[@cjwsk12]

how come only guys are answering in this vid?

[@shou_191]

I was going to ask that lmao ! I would have like to hear answers from girls too But obviously it’s because of the viewer

[@VerYCrear]

I've seen other videos with the same questions towards women and they tend to be more open about dating foreigners.

[@Hhhh22222-w]

@@VerYCrear Asian girls love foreigners so there's not much point in asking, and by foreigners I mean Caucasians (Europeans, Arabs etc).

[@SoTomi87]

Because Asian women are more open to dating foreigners. Whereas Asian men are not.

[@PremiumF0X]

cjwsk12 it’s so that the channel can get more views from all the koreaboos

[@johnnykimtv1285]

If you cant communicate well.. hmm. Maybe dating foreigner is a good way to improve your foreign language skill lol

[@johnnykimtv1285]

@@Urlocalant 👍

[@Bia707_]

Well not necessarily you can also befriend someone and do language exchange instead of directly going to dating...

[@johnnykimtv1285]

@@Bia707_ yes I agree. What I meant was though that if they started dating, they can think the language barrier as an opportunity for them to start learning each others' hard :)

[@ShiviRo]

I think a relationship is based on love, trust, loyalty and friendship. Besides if you are involved in a stable relationship and you love the person who you are with all the barriers can be crossed. Relationships makes you grow, progress, improve yourself, learn and make you better. Is fascinating learn a new language, culture and be a part of his/her world. I'm a foreigner in Spain so for me to learn Spanish, new traditions, culture etc made me more rich intellectual and make me grow up as a person. For majority of Koreans seams like the whole world it resumes at the Korean border.. If you think about it is kinda sad. I hope younger generations will be more open minded 😊

[@johnnykimtv1285]

@@ShiviRo yes it is definitely changing !

[@Edwinc26]

Can you guys do the same interview but with older generation to see their opinion?

[@suckmyass123]

for all these people in the comments : STOP COMPARING THESE KOREAN MEN TO YOUR OPPA’S THEY DON’T LOOK ALIKE AND DON’T SOUND ALIKE

[@blhuntergo]

Yup o.o ... They just can't stop , I hate it :/ ... Not all Korean guys are interested in kpop or stuff , And them being compared with these girls " oppa" might be really annoying

[@Hhhh22222-w]

Fetishization, want they want is their oppa

[@ivanamitic828]

"What they want is their oppa" 😂😂😂 Actually,you should only call oppa someone who you are close to,or someone who is almost like your brother.But do they know that?No,they see an idol on tv-they scream oppa

[@Sumetzone]

Ikr it's annoying...

[@victoriamami1034]

Koreaboos

[@user-yv7tz6sr8z]

I'm 20 korean i don't think so... Foreigners 👍 race color distance doesn't matter :D interesting video!! I like international love and married 😃😊 but me short men 😂😌 me english bad sorry :3

[@ayleena1011]

Don't worry about your height! I think shorter guys are very handsome :)

[@nelyintheaction5718]

How is your Heigh ? Please 😅😅😅

[@nelyintheaction5718]

T

[@DinaWoldu]

ayleena why l see him every where ..?🤷‍♀️

[@claudiamagalhaes5919]

Hi Korean person!! 😍

[@strangerpainter]

Maybe you should make this interview with people who actually know something about dating foreginers?

[@moschinogirl3545]

Next Episode, Downsides of dating an alien.

[@moonight_li]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@karinaion1366]

I’m-😂😂😂

[@DebanjanaB9]

Lol😂😂😂

[@somegrill7561]

Information I’ll actually need

[@miro9834]

The distance... The long distance

[@nadadr7886]

again....what's the unique thing about dating a korean Guy ...im honestly tired of that ...ya all giving it more than it deserve ..korean are human too and that make us look like we are dying to date korean like wtf i love korea ...i love BTS but who the hell told ya that foeigner wanna date korean

[@blhuntergo]

First You need to chill down 😂 . And second , that's the result of all the kdramas they are watching ... They think , that's same as real life ... Like , seriously ... I do talk with so many Korean Dudes , And Guess what ? 😂 They ask for nudes too (70% of them are cool & kind tho ) ... So don't look at them as " husband material" when they are just human beings , same as everyone else

[@krystalrayne5235]

It's just the current trend, back in the 80s they all wanted to date British guys because of Duran Duran 😂🤣😂 that's how society ebbs and flows with teenagers....this too shall pass and another wave of male singers will dominate the current teenagers of that wave😁

[@uui219]

@@victoriamami1034 *I think many more are adults than you realize. It's disturbing how many of these people are in their mid-twenties and up.*

[@marvelforpresident1342]

What are you doing on this video them -.-

[@sweetkookie6120]

right.. it makes them look superior to other races but in reality.. 😆 I only like bts too.. I dont want to date any random korean only bts 😂 thats a joke I dont want to marry my oppars

[@AlizGlez]

I normally don’t watch this types of videos, but that blonde guy is kiuuteeee

[@chufilmslily5849]

The first guy is pretty cute

[@btslove6692]

Finally I was looking 4 this comment

[@dania2553]

bts love same!!!!

[@Nothing-id3ji]

That boy : Korea is still conservative . India: you gotta see what is conservative .

[@biancas.5641]

A lot of videos like this one and the main barrier is the language.. damn what is so hard for them? In my country we learn french , spanish , english and german and in the university we can learn chinese and korean. They can make a little effort to learn especially english

[@vjbkbkllhgvjhbki5019]

Bc korea is homogeneous? lol in Korea, 99.99% of people speak Korean every day in their life so a second language is not really needed. English could be used to polish their resume and stuff like that, but then again, they still speak Korean most of the time. I mean from your comment, there is already a clash of idea when you think language barrier is no big deal but for them it is, so imagine what other problems might arise when you actually go date them lol.

[@aycas8112]

@@vjbkbkllhgvjhbki5019 turkey is homogeneous as hell too... if we dont include istanbul to the list the people are talking in only turkish or kurdish BUT YET we learn english in schools as an obligation and we never expect foreigners to feel discriminated bcuz of their mother tongues... WE try to talk in english with them. Its not about “we dont need foreign language” culture it is about “the hospitality” culture

[@illadss]

Are you belge, bianca? I lived in Belgium and these are the main languages

[@biancas.5641]

@@illadss no 😅why?

[@illadss]

@@biancas.5641 oh, because those are the official languages of Belgium and every citizen there starts being alphabetized in those except Spanish, which they learn flemish in place. Belgium is a super multicultural country.

[@liuxianglee1433]

Ok I'm married almost 2 years to my most handsome husband. We both could only speak each other's languages a little, him being way better at mine, but yes sometimes wires get crossed due to langusge and culture, but when you fit well together then there are no obstacles. You really have to both want to learn about each other. We've learned to laugh and enjoy our language mistakes and to me he makes English sound adorable, but I sometimes get my Chinese screwed up, but I will keep trying because he is my soul mate!

[@elvirahaydter2940]

Customs/Traditions/Religious Beliefs and Language Barriers will be top of the list. The majority, but not all Asians perse, still prefer to stick with the olden ways when it comes to dating or marrying someone.

[@iCamryLife]

The only barriers that I’m black... *sigh*

[@rvpstudioscanada3991]

That guy is *FUNNY!!!* "The *downside* of dating a foreigner is that *SHE HAS TO SPEAK KOREAN* ... *ESPECIALLY* WHEN WE *FIGHT.* "

[@miriammimi8349]

I feel like there is excuse after excuse as if it's not even possible to date a Korean which is not true

[@user-nd4hc1pr3q]

Miriam Mimi It’s so true about the older generation problem...my parents tell me I can only date Korean men, they don’t like foreigners...

[@miriammimi8349]

@@user-nd4hc1pr3q ☹️ older generation aren't open like the newer generation. I know they are coming from a good place but dating a foreigner could be better, you will never know unless you try.

[@HyLo-rule]

@@user-nd4hc1pr3q this is why Americans are "disrespectful" to their parents. They don't want their negativity and close-mindedness. You should absolutely go for a biracial relationship if you want it, don't listen to them.

[@MadiQueenx3]

Miriam Mimi „dating a foreigner could be BETTER“ i doubt it lol. Both sides have their downsides

[@MadiQueenx3]

Courtney right!!

[@QueiszhLee]

I feel with all these downsides with my Korean bf, but as how there are downsides there are upsides too. Compromise and effort is all it takes

[@SamsungSamsung-tk7qs]

actually my bf is korean , and we're learning each others language ❤

[@klaradoskocilova1244]

1:17 Jooheon's and I.M's (Monsta X) son lol :D :D

[@Ash-moo7]

The first guy is so damn handsome

[@megan.Thomas.23]

00:07 you can not tell me that that doesnt look like a mixture of tao ( former exo member) and jangjun ( GNCD)

[@hushwoozi5616]

jooheons mantis hhdhddje a golden child stan

[@lullaby2519]

Duh, I was searching for this comment!!

[@hischlvr]

THATS WHAT I WAS THINKING

[@heystobit228]

To be honest the older generation is respected alot in korea their decision is final so alot of them would avoid us out of respect for their parents i think.

[@vanthonvenus]

But like. If I find someone in any country that I love I will learn their language, its worth the work.

[@jaidyn259]

I'm not into kpop so don't think I'm just a fangirl or something but DAMN that first and third dude are fineeeeee 🔥😌🤘

[@MJ-ff7ie]

Let's say even if a foreigner live in Korea and knew Hangul then I don't see a problem with the language. One thing that I do find confusing is how South Koreans get surprised having foreigners in sk or some parents wouldn't like the idea of their son or daughter dating a foreigner. Like I just find it strange like even the thought that you need consent to date like if I like someone I'm going to date them regardless of my parents. But them again I guess that could be a culture difference ?

[@alessadolan5718]

1:12 he sound like yoongi from bts lol

[@sijang9364]

Exactly ,I thought that too but it’s probably his accent as he could be from D-town

[@yunalee13]

I'm dating a korean man. We're both at our 30s. The only problem it's the language. Well I'd like to say that koreans are dating foreigners but when it comes to marriage.. it's really hard.. For both. Actually. Usually the couple breaks up.. Me and my boyfriend are talking about that and it's like there's no exit from this problem..

[@yunalee13]

@Eleonora Ruoppo Hi :) Well I've heard about mixed kids at school but this is not our problem. Usually korean men's mothers don't like foreign girls. But still this isn't a problem for us since his mother it's not her real mom so she doesn't express her opinion. And his father agree with this relationship. The only but huge problem is the language. Believe me it's huge. At the beginning, when you just date someone and you're having fun everything is fine. But when it gets serious you realize that not being able to use the language as a native keeps you also away from adapting to the other society if you're going to spend your life there. So our problem it's the language. I speak broken korean and he speaks broken english (my mother language it's not even english). Till now it was enough for us. But.. how could we raise children like that? ? Could we both enjoy and laugh about korean jokes? And so on.. Really... it's such a hard situation. Right now I can't improve my language skills because I have no time. Same him . Anyway.. I'm sorry for telling you my personal problem haha :) I don't know if love is enough.. really.. i have no idea what's going to happen

[@yunalee13]

@Eleonora Ruoppo thank you for your warm words :) Hehe~ we're neighbors :) I'm Greek :) Since you are a teenager the time is yours! :) I wish you will be successful in school and in your studies in general :) First time I went to Korea years ago coz i had a scholarship :) But i met my boyfriend when I came back to Greece haha irony. And yes, since me n him we're already 30+ time is not our friend :) Anyway :) oh! If you need any help about Korea etc let me know :) I guess you can contact me if you check my profile :) Goodnight! :)

[@Ssookawai]

@@yunalee13 waouh that's a pity... It's also quite difficult since you're in Greece now, that would be hard to improve your Korean there... I'm following some youtubeurs from my country (Moroccans, one of them was more fluent in... Mandarin hahaha, not even Korean because she studied a year or so in China), at first it's difficult then she had to learn the language once settled in Korea... For him, I don't know he'll need (fluent) greek only if he stays with you in Greece. Good luck guys, I'm also 30 and I know that dating dudes at our age is taken more seriously (than before hahaha), so it must mean a lot to you to be with him.

[@yunalee13]

@@Ssookawai Very kind of you that you spend time to read my story :) My bitter story haha... And yeah, he really means a lot to me :) look ~ Even if I am 30 I'm here just trying desperately to watch a video where they would say that it's easy being with a foreigner and so to encourage myself, but.. no. I feel a little uncomfortable that at my age I'm writing on youtube as if I'm a 20 years old girl 😅 Haha~ too many personal informations at youtube! :) :p Have a nice day! :)

[@Ssookawai]

@@yunalee13 we'll be forever young, lol! ✌️😁 Thanks a lot, I hope everything will be fine for you! 😘😘

[@maripositaracely]

The way both times I’ve gone to Seoul it’s always the middle / older age woman who would approach me with broken English and say “ you are beautiful “ 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺

[@mashenka160]

1:05 close your eyes and tell me he doesn’t sound like yoongi

[@lovely-de2zo]

watch me dying yoongis voice is a bit raspier? idk? lol my english is bad i mean raspy yk skkd but yeah KSKDKD

[@neymariousjr]

Id say jhope

[@loizidii9849]

Oms yes😱

[@yna5952]

*closes eyes. He doesn't sound like yoongi

[@kilzol]

I don’t think he sounds like yoongi, their voices are pretty different

[@elizabethanderson9187]

I don't think people really understand how wise the "communication would be difficult... especially when we fight" comment was. Even though I am learning Korean, the main reason I wouldn't date a native, or non-English fluent Korean is because trying to explain intricate and specific emotions is very difficult, even in my/your own native language. We all struggle to communicate ourselves well in our native languages when we are having serious disagreements/fights with our loved ones so I honestly can't imagine how frustrating it would be if you are trying to have a serious, in-depth emotional talk to someone you are in a relationship with if you are not at a native level of fluency in the language they speak. I mean how many times have you had a misunderstanding with a loved one because one person took what the other person said wrong? If you are older like me probably several times in your life. Now amplify that times a thousand if you are in a relationship with someone and neither one of you are native-level fluent in the other's native language. In other words, there is a huge difference between being fluent enough to order at a restaurant or talk about sports or your day and then being fluent enough to have an hour or more long conversation with a loved one about your mixed emotions and and why you are feeling that way. So, for people who get upset with this video or disheartened just remember that dating a foreigner is not always as romantic as novels, dramas, and KZbin couples make it out to be.

[@elfelizardo6182]

I’ve been dating my Korean Boyfriend for 2 years. I’m Christian and he’s Bhuddist, it doesn’t bother us though. Also, we fight in English like we’re in a national debate. 😂 lol as for culture, we’re both into food so Filipino and Korean cuisine doesn’t even clash. Language? We learn each other’s language naturally and not forcing it. We communicate in English.

[@user-sd3zt5vq5o]

“So communication would be difficult when we fight.” Me: ✊

[@soohila6693]

That last guy's answer is so convincing he's good at expressing himself.

[@RnRnR]

I used to date a Japanese man. His mother was very nice to me but we had to hide from his grandmother, but that was mostly because she didn't want me spending time with him before we married 😂 The most difficult part where dating someone that speaks a different language is when you argue. Not being able to fully get your point across is very frustrating. But keep learning the language and that will sort itself out :)

[@markmenetries7095]

I think will be hard for foreigners and not Koreans. because foreigners are light on their feet and do not live by some traditions, and the Koreans have traditions and some things will lead foreigners into misunderstanding.

[@vee6395]

Honestly. I get it. I'm from Norway and personally, I haven't seen too many interracial or different cultural relationships. And, it's mostly because we don't really think to date foreigners (not that it doesn't happen, but Norway is a predominantly white country and most people are either native Norwegian or native Scandinavian). PS: Y'all can't get mad at these people for not necessarily going for foreigners when they're seeking a long-term relationship. Like, what's the point, people will date who they want to date. Just because some Korean men are dating/married to foreign girls, does not mean they all want to be... Gee. Oh! And, stop fetishizing Korean men because you like dramas or K-pop or Asia in general. It's weird, and I hope you'll realize that.

[@vee6395]

​@no name It's fine if you think Asian men are sexy, but please consider the cultural differences. For all you know you might not find an actual asian guy all that appealing when you meet them. As for Norwegian Sámi; I don't know if you can still call Norwegian Sámi people "Asian mixed" since it's mostly very far back in their bloodlines, so much that they themselves don't see themselves as part Asian. They don't really look it either (some do, for sure, but very few). And, a lot of Sámi culture in Norway has disappeared because of uneducated haters who thought it would be best for them to suppress their culture because it was deemed "too different". So, I can see why Koreans would me suspicious of mixing with other cultures as their's is so unique and important to them. Which is something I identify with in some ways as well. Hope this answered you question? :)

[@vee6395]

no name you really can not compare one person to everyone. Like, yes there are ones that do, but there’s also a large part that doesn’t. It’s sort of like expecting every Korean to look like your favorite k-pop Idol or k-drama actor. That’s not really all that realistic. You cannot assume that they’re all like that just because the Korean culture or Asian culture you’re exposed to is the makeup version of it. Most of the time Asians are really conservative, especially in certain areas. Again, I’m not saying they all are but the majority.

[@niveamaldorane]

Here we are of course homogeneous societies understand each other people think multi cultural countries are numerous but in fact it doesn't it's only because US and few European like France England have open immigration laws. But majority haven't so they are close minded and full of prejudice about everything outside they're not them. But not the least to spread stereotypes and be judgmental towards outsiders😏

[@caz1693]

It’d be interesting to hear from people who were actually dating foreigners! Like this is interesting but pretty hypothetical - id like to know what people who have actually experienced it have to say on the matter 🤔 maybe it’s different 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@angelakey8738]

I think the food would be a barrier for me but I died laughing when that guy said communication when fighting make love not war buddy lol the unspoken language I'm sure ecstasy screams of pleasure sound the same no matter where you're from lol

[@kenkie8965]

@1:35 looks like min yoongi

[@brandywightman2499]

I scrolled for this comment because as soon as he talked I thought Suga

[@ninakatsogiannou8056]

I'm a Greek/Bulgarian and my boyfriend is Korean.. we are some time together and he doesn't speak English very well and I don't speak Korean yet.. Our personalities are fitting so good that most of times we don't need to talk at all.. like we are communicating with our eyes.. Also both of our parents are open minded like they just want us to be happy so we have free willing to do what ever we want with our lives.. A year ago I even was thinking to be with foreigner..I mean except Greek guy.. But when I met Moon In... he just change my whole life.. and I'm leaving Greece and moving with him to Korea.. About his culture. Yes it's hard it is a whole new level of living life but also I know that he will be there by my side and supporting me.. So I think you find some guys too close mind in this video... I think there are many Korean guys that they don't have problem to be with a foreigner girl.. 🤗

[@milkyparkchaeyoung1737]

I am Bulgarian too 😅

[@armytiny-stan1847]

I would date a Korean man if I learn Korean and he learn Spanish as well cause Babe needs to speak to the whole familia including abuelita ♡ I think is about disposition on both sides bye.

[@luvyut1676]

armies yall be delusional somtimes

[@HyLo-rule]

As if NCTzens can't be

[@luvyut1676]

@@HyLo-rule im sorry i hurt your little heart i never said nctzens werent

[@loonazawarudo]

Dont understand how's that related to the video because most comments seem to be from multiple fandoms lmao, I dont know what's worse, armys who are under every video being annoying, or people who make comments like you about armys under videos. fskdhslsns

[@luvyut1676]

@@loonazawarudo sweetie its a joke dont take it personal

[@loonazawarudo]

@@luvyut1676 stan loona

[@neymariousjr]

So they would date someone whos chinese or japanese cause they are foreigners right

[@ARMY-hc8oq]

서 윤킴 what?

[@neymariousjr]

@@ARMY-hc8oq i mean someone said foreingeners look different from them but afent chinese and japanese people similar soo....

[@Linda-kc7ep]

@@neymariousjr tru

[@jennaly8801]

in korea, the idea of 'foreigners' is usually applied to western europe. also, usually they're able to distinguish chinese/japanese/korean from one another.

[@jprice1928]

@@jennaly8801 that's not true at all many Koreans japanese and chinese can distinguish between eachother and are still very much considered foreigners just as much as Western people. Especially given the bad blood between the countries

[@shapphoshalom]

0:05 he’s so handsome, he looks like an idol 😂💗💗💗😳

[@gvantsamelikishvili4369]

When you love someone, you both will overcome all the problems together)) time will heal everything 💕

[@ams1877]

Yes. I wasn't sure about this interview but I guess it's cos I'm old fashioned and naive

[@gvantsamelikishvili4369]

We create our future, so it’s up to us how will we live 🤷‍♀️

[@fanzi5423]

I'm in a relationship with a korean...we both speak English with each other so there's not that much of a barrier but some misunderstandings can occur since it's not the native language of both of us. At the same time I've started to learn Korean and he's learning German. Both languages are really hard for us to learn but we're trying our best. Fortunately, both of our families are really accepting, but there definitely is a language barrier there because our parents don't speak English and we're just now making some process learning Korean/German. I'd say cultural difficulties were probably the biggest issues. We had very different views on education and the pressure of achieving things. While he always felt a huge educational pressure, to get good grades even if the pressure fucks you up mentally, land a good job etc, I too wanted to try my best but never wanted to define myself through uni grades and work. I think we grew up in very different educational systems and sometimes it shows. Also dealing with problems was a huge issue at first. While I'm quite emotional, he was always taught not to complain about things if there isn't an obvious way for others to fix it. We certainly fought a lot in the beginning, but after almost two years, we got to know each other better and learned how to deal with the other person better. Dating a Korean as a foreigner is certainly not easy many times, especially in the beginning but I also wouldn't want to miss out on it and on that wonderful person I'm with!

[@thebellamays]

I think it’s funny everyone talks about the language barrier but I speak fluent korean.

[@saffron550]

Bella Mays how long did it take for you to become fluent?

[@maira4849]

Bella Mays Lol 😂 I thought that too cuz I can also speak korean fluently kkkk😂

[@ams1877]

@Courtney woww what did u do to help?

[@sp8rr0ww]

Are they interviewing good looking guys because they feel confident enough to date foreigners?

[@naqia42kea]

I am happy that someone made a video that asked what could be the good and bad to dating a foreigner. I think getting both side is good in case someone does date a foreigner because there will be good and bad times just like any other relationship. Nice to have insight and not rely only on the media.

[@upthedown1]

The difference in culture and religion could be a big barrier, not to mention family. My uncle married a Korean girl but she came to the States to live so they didn't have to deal with her family as such since they were all in Korea.

[@mahaloaloha6819]

Because of the endless requests and high degree of expectation from Korean girls in their relationship, many Korean men prefer having a foreign girl friend today. According to a statistics from Chosun Newspaper in 2016, 150.000 foreigners married Koreans and currently live in Korea. Including their children, 2 million international family live in Korea and another 2 million foreigners live in Korea. 2 out of 10 marriage in Korea is known to be an international marriage these days, and some province and farming regions even reach the number upto 6/10 are international marriages. Statistically Korea is no longer homogenous society these days. For Korean men, they prefer Chinese, Vietnamese and American wives the most followed after Japan, Canada, Philippines, Cambodia, Thai, Mongolia, Uzbekistan, Russia, French, Denmark, Mexican, Indonesian, Moroccan, Turkish.. For Korean Women, American, ChineseKorean, Japanese, Canadian husbands are most favorite and Pakistani, English, Australia, French, Bangladeshi, Sri Lankan, New Zealand, German, Iranian, Nigerian... The report states that Korean men with French, German, English, Denmark, Swedish women drastically increased for the past few years and drastic decrease with Vietnamese women.

[@sarah-ix6nt]

Finally I see my country being mentioned in a vid. Btw I'm Sri lankan. Like srsly they should be more open to other nationalities as well.

[@mahaloaloha6819]

@MiekoNeko Do u mean Bangladeshi for "desi"? The article mentions that male foreign labors tend to end up getting married to the local women so the certain nationality has higher numbers compared to its opposite sex. I personally have never seen any Bangladesh females working in Korea so we may not see the marriage between korean males and Bangladeshi females.

[@oaaisjdujsi]

@@mahaloaloha6819 actually most korean woman who fail to meet korean men meet forign men. Mostly white or Japanese

[@oaaisjdujsi]

@@mahaloaloha6819 actually, most korean woman marrige of forign men is kinda complex. The korean old man marry vietnamese young girl->vietnamese girl get korean nationality->vietnam woman marry vietnam men. Most of korean woman marrige of forign is vietnam and chinese

[@risingstar8327]

The third guy looks like he can be a kpop idol or actor😍

[@jodie12347]

The religion point is sooo true. My mums ex husband was Muslim and she is Catholic. Their difference in religious beliefs and culture surrounding their individual religions caused alot of fights when they lived together. They've since divorced

[@alondragisellegonzalezsego2747]

It's not about the looks, the culture and the language, it's all about to find someone that is open minded and the love between you and the other person, love can break every barrier

[@_raqi4133]

Ok but why everyone acting as if we'd want to date a Korean...(I have nothing against it, it's just that it's not like I think about this) I've seen to many of these "would you date a foreigner" videos lately.... Maybe to discourage all the koreaboos 😂😂

[@anastasiaholmes4713]

"And you know, Korea is full of Koreans."

[@kaveeshadulanjali1672]

I think no matter language and culture... I love South Korea ❤️

[@reannasawatzky6080]

Ya I would agree language is a huge barrier but I feel like if they really love each other and wanna make it work, they would learn enough of the other person’s language to be able communicate better

[@VictoriaM2023]

As a Christian, I wouldn't care if the person is buddhist :)

[@christianabakare8530]

I’m a Christian too, but I don’t know if it would be right. I would still date the person regardless, but how would you get your parents to understand that if they are also Christians??

[@VictoriaM2023]

@@christianabakare8530 My parents don't care because they do not belive in God. I don't know about other people parents tho.

[@corpsebride3558]

Korean guys are so hot 😍

[@ciberoyuncu7459]

1:38 i think that is the worst can be happened like downsides cuz the parents thoughts is kinda hard to accept someone from another race or even in another religion and it will be hard for the kids to chose parents or the lover

[@faithnisbet2561]

As someone who is hoping and working on making a life in korea (for the love of the culture and the interest in the history ) this is clearly a thought and a question that comes to mind. Very interesting videos

[@chansfeet2500]

Me, reading delulu comments at 3 am here: 👁️👄👁️ 🍿🍿🍿 Seriously though, if you think that you're gonna travel to Korea just to meet an "oppa", Im sorry but its not gonna happen. Kdrama isnt like real life in Korea. Imagine if you thought India was just like a Bolywood film!

[@fairymin4376]

01:26 its sounds a little bit like yoongi voice😂

[@MissSaphrynTownsend]

the inhale through the teeth - you got it! xx

[@arti_mie7679]

The man sounds like..... HiMSelF

[@lordess.]

Nah not really

[@joanjm3342]

I just LOVE the fashion sense of these people. All of them look like they're going on runway. Such beaut🥂✨

[@krystaldouglas8761]

It's not just the language barrier it's the culture as well if you don't really understand the culture you could be embarrassed for a lot of certain situations I'm African American and dating outside your race not knowing the language I could agree it can get weird during arguments off his family's around because then you think that his family is talking negatively about you in your face

[@SoTomi87]

All I hear is language and culture. Two things, which can be learned. It's more so the willingness to actually date. I feel like once you put those two factors aside, why can't you date each other? This seems like an excuse in my opinion. I say this because white men date outside there race and have no problem, Latin men, and black men, too. I just think Asian men use that as an excuse and most cultures have both similarities and differences.

[@hitman_daddy]

*YOU CHOOSE THE CUTEST GUYS SO YOU COULD BREAK MY HEART XD*

[@twinkies2511]

사실 저는 싱가폴 사람이고 한국 남자랑 장거리 연애를 하고 있어요. 저는 벌써 한국어를 배웠는데 제 남친도 저 때문에 외국어를 공부할 계획 있지만 제 생각에는 서로 사랑한다면 상대방의 언어를 공부하고 싶은 마음이 있을 거예요. 문제 아니예요. 외국어를 잘 하는 한국인도 있거니와 한국어를 잘 하는 외국인도 있잖아요. 그리고 한국인끼리 사귀고 있어도 사실 싸우고 문제도 있는데요. 왜 외국인만 사귀면 통하지 않아서 문제 있을까요? 싱가폴에서도 많은 커플들은 통해서 싸워요 ㅋㅋ

[@masariecka1151]

woah the third guy is really pretty and also the stuff he's saying 👏🏻

[@qtpye115]

The blond looks like tao from exo

[@reeses_unicorn]

I was thinking the same thing!

[@qtpye115]

@@reeses_unicorn its the chin and noise i would have thought he was chinese not korean

[@lmchannel7117]

Dude that guy in the beginning was pretty good looking 🤣

[@Jugy93]

You know this video was pretty raw on it’s honesty it gave us a lot of what we needed to hear but didn’t want to know or except an because of that I think this video would get slot of negative views but me I found it insightful I mean not all are like that like they said some are open minded but some are not like America people are people with different opinions and views but I believe of two people truly care an eventuality love each other these things will not matter

[@_cherrychi_]

I think two major ones for me would be 1. communication 2. Religion I meannn I can learn korean if I really wanted to(which I’m trying now) and my family is accepting of anyone. One big thing would be religion though...I wouldn’t change my religion no matter what haha It would be nice if we could still like eachother even with different religions.

[@catmenot7143]

I'm glad that most Korean men want to DATE AND MARRY KOREAN WOMEN.

[@nandana9873]

They r all sooo handsome Me... I am coming... Korea Even if u dont accept me Of course coming for Kim taehyung.. v

[@LittleGirl21100]

Language barriers and cultural differences would be the biggest struggle imo. Even if you think you understand ones culture there are still things that need to be understood which may lead to differences in opinions and views.

[@koyukiny]

One thing I learn from this video is that Korean guys in this video are all handsome and fineeeeeeeeeeee

[@theblackconservativewoman9824]

The only thing I learned from this video is that Korean men are hot

[@ian72marian]

Lol, they chose those guys because they think they are hot... you have to go there or watch a web-cam or something to say that. As everywhere, there are hot ppl or ordinary...Also... make-up

[@nonicrawford5502]

I understand most of what they're saying, but the part about how the older generation may not accept foreigners because foreigners look different or they don't understand their culture or something to that effect really bugs me. You can learn about a culture. You don't have to deny your children/grandchildren a relationship because you refuse to learn about someone else's culture. And before anyone attacks me, I know that for some people it may just be about their culture, but this is something that really irks me. Also, the fact that someone can just deny their child/grandchild a relationship because the person looks "different" is bullshit. It's 2019 for God's sake. I understand that Korea is a largely homogeneous country, but do they know that OTHER PEOPLE in the world besides Koreans exist???

[@drusilladana4184]

It's 2021...& unfortunately there are still found prejudices all over the world. And it may not change, ever...unless more & more people are willing to live their lives outrageously & in their own way--regardless of parental or societal pressures. I'm looking forward to just this scenario...where multiculturalism & multiracial relationships are not just tolerated but, embraced, as the norm! And prejudices are unacceptable.

[@chanteed5473]

The guy at 2:03 is completely spot on . I’ve been watching a couple of videos about Koreans & Foreigners so I picked up on the fact that the younger generation is way more open to interracial relationships , also noticed a lot of Kpop IDOLS particularly men are into black women . The only reason a big majority of the younger gen is hesitant to act on that openness is the face that older people don’t accept it wether it be family or strangers , they say if they do take a chance & date they couldn’t go as far as marriage & children because of not having that acceptance & discrimination they feel mixed children will get . For them I feel it’s easier to date because they can pass it off as a phase or not even tell anyone about the relationship at all . But despite all the negatives I can say that Korea is slowly changing & sometimes people set in their ways won’t change but the more the new generation opens up soon it won’t be so bad

[@cassandrazatka6240]

In Canada, there are so many cultures that mix together and there are varying degrees to how “new” a person is to the country (since unless you’re Indigenous you’re technically an immigrant or descended from one) so you could have someone who’s brand new to the country or someone who’s family spans back several generations and we all still date each other. I guess I just find it very interesting that so many people have this expectation that in multi-cultural societies you HAVE to be accepting and accommodating to your partners culture/ethnicity/religion/language etc...but that same sentiment isn’t shared in other countries outside of the West despite the majority of major cities around the world being decently multi-cultural as well. I personally think that if you can’t handle having someone who has a different cultural or ethnic identity than you, then don’t date period. Relationships regardless if it’s with a foreigner or not is about respect and compromise-that’s a universal principle. And the whole language thing is kinda an excuse in my opinion. Learning languages is time consuming and perhaps a bit difficult if you don’t have a natural affinity for it, but it’s not impossible. At the end of the day, love and respect your partner and keep the relationship 50/50.