What Are Your Mail Order Bride Stories?

[@LordBloodraven]

I have a friend who became pen pals with a girl in Russia while we were in high school. He could read her letters because his parents were Russian immigrants. After college, she got a student Visa and we got her enrolled at a junior college in our town. Every Halloween, they get dressed up as The Dread Pirate Roberts and Princess Buttercup. They've been married since 2010 and have 2 kids.

[@CarlosAlberto-gf3dy]

"we" 👁️👄👁️

[@Local_Sperg]

Here in my country (Sweden) I keep seeing older men with middle-aged or younger Thai partners and we've gotten an increased amount of Thai-massage parlors and Thai/Asian food restaurants in my city. Heard it's even more common further north and I brought this up to a colleague and she was all 'well have you seen OUR older women? We're not exactly easy to deal with'

[@mightress]

My old nieghbor got himself a mail order bride from thailand. Married for 27 years and very happy. After ten years with him she revealed her initial plan: find a man, marry him and divorce after three years (minimum time to become permanent resident over here) her plan worked brilliantly at first, than after a year with him she realy fell in love wth him. She never divorced him, truly loves him and they have three kids.

[@nope53926]

Seems like about 70% of these turn out pretty well. Better odds than Tinder...that's for sure.

[@immapotato1]

it's cause the good endings (which are unexpected) get more likes. these videos mostly show the one's people liked most so the positives got highlighted

[@stefanmuntean5289]

Most dating sites have the purpose of trafic, use not happy endings so....yea

[@Pizzaeater98-organizationish4-]

Better odds than Grindr even

[@macylouwho1187]

My husband works with a guy who went to the Philippines on vacation without his wife. He brought back a woman that he had purchased as a mail order bride, thinking that they could all live together 😂. His wife thought otherwise, and divorced him and took him for half of everything and alimony. His new “wife” spends her nights out “cleaning” people’s houses, but a friend of theirs found her on Craigslist offering what was implied to be much different services than cleaning, and she’s never home at night. He works during the day, she’s gone when he gets home. Apparently someone is getting a piece of her-but it isn’t him 😂. I guess he’s lonelier now than he was before he got the new chick, because his wife actually loved him and spent time with him. I consider that karma at work, it always comes back around.

[@macylouwho1187]

@Son Darui no she made this arrangement herself, the guy honestly believes that she is cleaning houses all night because that’s what she told him 😂

[@WorldWalker128]

No, not always. People get away with murder (in the literal sense) every day.

[@macylouwho1187]

@Son Daruiyou don’t know this particular man or this area that we’re in. This guy is old and super fat, he rides a motorized cart everywhere. He couldn’t chase this young thing down if he wanted to in order to make her do anything. He has no friends to speak of, and this girl could have her pick of local guys because it’s really rural and she could run off with anyone. I think the arrangements suits her fine. He can barely move so he’s not really a problem, he has a house that she comes and goes from as she pleases all hours while he is home, and she’s home when he isn’t home to sleep. She’s alone and able to go wherever, whenever. I believe she was a prostitute in her home country-that’s the general consensus anyway, and just continued on with it here. Money is king, it’s all she cares about. Who knows, she could be helping family back home for all we know. This guy was just an easy mark and a place to stay. By all accounts he barely sees her now. She’s never there unless he isn’t.

[@jengsci8268]

MacyLouWho - Oh, she's cleaning? Polishing knobs?

[@macylouwho1187]

@@jengsci8268 I ain’t saying she’s a gold digger, cause she earns it honest 😂

[@cindykq8086]

I had a patient once who had a Russian mail order bride. She ended up leaving him after she caught him with child porinn. He was a horrible, horrible person, made my skin crawl even before I found out about the porn.

[@RaptureInRed]

I am alarmed that this thread makes this sound in any way like a good idea. My dad bought a mail order bride. He had just divorced my mom. He spent the last of his money on a house and a car for her. Then she drove away in the car and he defaulted on the house. Now he leeches off me. Thank you for inflicting your debt and poor decision making on me, father dear. Edit: I'm genuinely glad this worked out for some people, but only someone truly desperate would think this is a good idea. I love my dad, but it was a pathetic act of desperation by a man who seemed willing to drop the family he already had for the prospect of forming a new one. He got what he deserved, but now it's my own family paying the price.

[@Norm475]

It doesn't have to be, just cut him off. Some people never learn. I have relatives that constantly make poor decisions and I have helped some of them out, one time. I also tell them this is a one-time gift don't come back for more, the bank is closed.

[@ashgreen3574]

Don't enable him. He's grown.

[@C4TC4T]

I’m so pleasantly suprised at all of these stories of couples that worked out in the end

[@stadot1427]

There's this online dating service for my church, but its really more of a 'courtship' service. Either you're considering marriage or you want to get married. And most of the guys I know who have used it have wound up marrying sisters from third-world countries. So it kinda looks like a mail-order bride situation. 😂

[@GyeongmiBaeb]

"my friend", "my uncle", "my dad" = Me

[@RaptureInRed]

No. My dad did this for real. I fucking hate him for it, because her permanently destroyed his finances, is basically homeless in his 60s and now may have to live with my family for the rest of his life. Getting away from my family was one of the most liberating experiencesof my life, but they just won't let me be.

[@eddymercan7487]

Sounds like you spread your seed far and wide if that's true

[@Jeremy_Watson]

Hahaha that one guy who was butt-hurt over the tone of the thread.

[@robertphillips6296]

A friend of ours married a Chinese Woman he met in Saudi Arabia working as engineer. She was divorced once and he has been divorced 5 times prior to meeting her. He is a spin thrift and was deep in debt to the point of bankruptcy and even owed money to the IRS, despite making really good money. She is a few years older than him, but doesn't look it. Long story short, she got him back on track financial. She had problems with him and we fell sorry for her having to put up with that, because she loves him alot.

[@tommyjackson590]

They still together?

[@robertphillips6296]

@@tommyjackson590 Yes.

[@CurlyFries120]

I wish there were mail order husbands.. lol

[@giovanniherrera6037]

There is but I wouldn’t recommend either or to anyone all of them are scams nowadays

[@Pyrela]

Good news! I come cheap and I don't even mind being in a box for an extended period of time for the trip as long as there's ventilation holes, water, and plenty of wood chips for my bedding. Hit me up.

[@CurlyFries120]

@@Pyrela 😂😂😂

[@WorldWalker128]

There are. You just haven't found them.

[@demonteddybear3510]

One thing they never tell you about Mail Order Brides. Some assembly may be required

[@laurenmiller8084]

cough human trafficking cough

[@dcordin]

A lady I worked with once was a mail order bride. She and her husband are really in love. even have a kid together.

[@rakatan8930]

Some of these women turn out to be wonderful while others are from hell.

[@stefanmuntean5289]

Well yes...woman??

[@WorldWalker128]

So...they're ordinary women, then.

[@klausolekristiansen2960]

I have no personal experience, but there was this woman from the Philippines who explained, on TV, that she always knew when such a marriage would last and when not. These women all send money back to their families. This is not negotiable. It is an important part of the purpose of moving to the west. She and her husband had agreed beforehand how much she was allowed to send. Such marriages last. Others send back money without telling their husbands. Those marriages never last.

[@tonychan8558]

I was holidaying in Thailand, and saw these potential Thai brides sitting at bars all over the place, and just wondered (not seriously) what life would be like to get one. Fast forward a year. I was at a bar in Copenhagen, and saw a white man (American, I think, at least 50 years old) sitting at a table with his Thai Bride and four of her Thai friends. They were very loud, and the man just sat there, sipping his beer. Then another white man and his Thai bride showed up. The Thai ladies all greeted/hugged each other like they were close friends. The men shook hands like they were meeting for the first time. I couldn't stop watching this weird group from across the room. I noticed the two Thai ladies were showing their wedding rings, whilst the others were drooling over them. The men just smiled, but with a face showing, 'What have I done?' Both men looked miserable, whilst the ladies was getting louder and louder (imagine a group of ladies out on a Saturday night, heading home after night of clubbing at 2am). You could tell the men were getting more embarrassed as more and more people were looking at them, including me. This bar was a dark, laid back place, built to look like a log cabin, with a fireplace nicely giving off heat on a cold night. TOTALLY not a place to be loud and obnoxious. Thought about my question I had in Thailand. Now I know the answer...... Get earplugs!

[@little_ghosty1854]

Ok, now for mail order husband stories!

[@Rapscallion2009]

Makes me wonder. How much difference does the manner in which you first meet a stranger make to your likely long-term compatibility?

[@ThatSilverDude]

Sooo much difference. Make or break sometimes

[@ashgreen3574]

There was a man around age 50 who approached me at Walmart and I was 19 working as a cashier. He gave me his number and said he might need someone to clean or house sit or something. I was niave making 6 bucks an hour so I called him and what he really wanted was for me to sleep with him. Of course that's what he wanted but I was sheltered back then. Anyway of course I didn't sleep with him but he would still come through my line when he'd see me there and make small talk. He told me his wife died but I kinda of though he might just be trying to get me to pity him. Eventually I saw him come in with a small Asian lady. I'd guess Philippines. She was at least in the middle 30s and I thought that was nice at least he didn't order himself a really young gal. They seemed happy every time I'd see them.

[@lcoq19]

Not exactly mail order, but similar. When my mom and stepdad got together, his youngest brother was married to a Thai woman named Narin (most people called her Nair- like the hair remove lotion) whom he met while deployed in the navy. My [step]grandma, her MIL, was very sweet to her, as was everyone else, but grandma was especially kind to all newcomers in the family. Anyway, the chick convinced my uncle to adopt this little boy who living back in Thailand with her mother. She claimed for years that it was her nephew but eventually confessed he was her son. My uncle agreed to the adoption and prepared the house just so. He went through all the scrutiny and screenings and paperwork and of course paid all the fees. All that was left was for her to make yet another trip to Thailand and bring his new son home. So she left. And he waited. And waited. She never returned. He had a super hard time getting a divorce because she stopped communicating with him at all. He spent a lot of time drinking for a couple years. Then he got back with and married the chick who cheated on him and then dumped him when he went into the navy and was deployed, like 17 years earlier. (At the wedding/reception, she tried to package it as a "feel good story" because "they were high school sweethearts and found their way back to one another" but she cheated on and dumped him and ended up being a pill head sooo...she also volentold my nephew, my best friend, and me into working the wedding- and for free! I'm talking decor, dj, food service, clean-up, all of it! Oh, but she did give my friend and I each a $3 bracelet with our first initial which turned our wrists green and gave my nephew a $5 watch. 👏🥳🙄🤦🏻‍♀️👍) They're still married. I used to babysit the daughter she entered the marriage with who was a kindergartener back then but is in college now. They also have a son who's 12 and who's friends with the sons of my old English teacher and the sex offender said English teacher married. So yeah. Idk which bride was worse.

[@captainmarvelous7678]

Wait where the hell did sex offender come from at the end there? Your shit just kept getting worse

[@greezmonke3904]

Imma need a chart for dis please.

[@lcoq19]

@@greezmonke3904 Thai wife- step uncle- hs gf he married ⬇️ ⬇️ -nephew- son Son together Daughter from her prev marriage

[@lcoq19]

@@captainmarvelous7678 I saw your reply for the first time yesterday and responded but apparently it didn't post or was taken down, I guess. Anyway, here it is again: My old English teacher married a convicted/registered sex offender. When I was in high school, she had 2 sons with him. My [step]uncle's son is the same age as-, and goes to school with-, my old English teacher's sons. Thus my uncle's son is friends with the sons of that teacher and her sex offender husband.

[@RandomTrinidadian]

I may get lonely from time to time, but i would never do the whole "Mail order wife" thing. It just sounds wrong and its never a good idea

[@CurlyFries120]

It comes off as pretty sad and desperate in my books lol

[@nuubier8911]

Ayyy, we got the judge here.

[@RaptureInRed]

@@nuubier8911 no. They are spot on.

[@nuubier8911]

@@RaptureInRed Am I wrong? They are the judge, talking in absolutes. All shall live by their feelings, and they shall apply them to others. All hail the Judge!

[@yobogoya4367]

Former colleague of mine did this. He was a SysAdmin in IT when I met him. I don't know the leadup, I just know that when I met him, his home life with this woman was terrible and it showed at the office how miserable he was. I can't blame the wife for being unhappy with a guy that weighs 500 lbs, always smells like he can't reach his own asshole to wipe it, and will walk out of the room any time someone uses a swear word. He lateralled to a programing position in the same company, burned every bridge in our department, including me, on his way out. Never trust a grown man that has a problem with foul language.

[@Pyrela]

Can't blame him. Whenever someone starts talking about ducks, chickens, or Black Rosy-Finches I have to leave the room as well.

[@yobogoya4367]

@@Pyrela lol oops. Fixed my spelling error.

[@crystal_roses]

My husband has a coworker that got a mail order bride. He was older and she was pretty young. I think about 8 years into the marriage and 2 kids later she realized she has a lot of rights in the US and she divorced him, has child support on the kids, and alimony. She’s happy now and he gets made fun of at work.

[@Norm475]

A piece of advice for all of you men that want to go this route. If you marry a foreign woman, stay in her country. Have your assets in a trust so she cannot access them, and don't tell her about it. If you and her don't work out, just leave and come back to America. Don't have a kid with her.

[@jf8468]

But what if the coochie too fire for a rubber?

[@HamiltonRowan-r6z]

Then why get married?

[@pandaguzman664]

Package was stolen from porch or lost in shipping

[@deborahyoung1873]

Just seems like all the brides are getting all the gross old rejects, or rejects no one else in their own country would have. Lol

[@kirakaffee9976]

well, the other ones don't have to pay for a woman 😁

[@kaseysewick1691]

“He got her for a total of $80” Me:”not bad” “..000” Me:” should’ve seen that coming, they can never type K.”

[@harpyeagle5814]

These sound like better odds than relationships here lmao!

[@endergirlqueen2338]

14:36 my grandpa is also from New Zealand and my grandma is also from Croatian should I be worried?

[@mcduck5]

I can't help but wounder... Are mail order husbands ever a thing?

[@GenericUserName443]

Yes, as far as i know they are usually "ordered" from parts of Africa, but since i have not actually spent any real time researching this i can´t say for sure.

[@mahogany_honey]

This is like Reddit meets 90 day fiance

[@batprime1177]

So basically be smart and safe if you get a mail order bride

[@RaptureInRed]

There is never a scenario in which it is anything but spinning a very risky wheel.

[@harpyeagle5814]

Yes it's similar to meeting women here in that some are "bad" some are "good" you have to use common sense to pick up on red flags. They are more likely to desire a stable relationship with a "good" man because of the conditions they live in, so potentially could make better wives

[@GenericUserName443]

​@@RaptureInRed The same could literally be said about any woman/(person really), now i don´t actually have any personal experience but if i were to make an guess: If you can get past the cultural differences i would dare to put my money that the women from these areas are a safer bet than the own domestic ones because many of them has turned into feminists / pseudo egalitarians.

[@RaptureInRed]

@@GenericUserName443 the difference is that you are paying *thousands* to spin a wheel. My dad did this, and completely fucked up his life. My mom was a drunk, but Natalia was a gold digger who drove off with his car

[@elicruze7188]

See here’s the problem. These type of men think when they order a woman they essentially own them and they will act obedient, docile and grateful to be there. They can do what they want because they bought and paid for them. But a wife in most countries standards expect a certain lifestyle and grow with a cultural expectation of men. There will be cultural shock and they have (or now have) opinions to leave after marrying. Most men who go this route don’t want to act accordingly to their expectations of a husband, culturally and just in general they are usually immature. They just want to buy a woman and don’t think of the ramifications of a culture gap and being a husband.

[@batprime1177]

Does anyone here know of a trustworthy website for getting a mail order bride?

[@RaptureInRed]

Dude. DON'T.

[@randomguy6556]

Bro Australian gardener is a chad.

[@markiusgalfordii9248]

A friend of mine did and they're living happily ever after it's been 10 years they just fit together it's weird really weird how it worked out but they are extremely happy once a year they go visit her family which he admits at first they didn't like him

[@michaelmurowenislick6991]

Nice. Im getting 1 soon

[@slashmonster0528]

It seems it can range from amazing to dog shit

[@fullmetaltheorist]

Well I hope it works out for you.

[@harpyeagle5814]

@@slashmonster0528 like relationships here haha

[@ryuko1000]

Do they have mail order husbands?

[@EagerYoutuber]

369th, but seriously tho, most of these are wholesome af

[@terryburnett751]

Zero

[@melindastreeter7149]

I am happy for the marriages that worked, but for the ones that didn't, this is what happens when you "buy" another human being. So many men that have no social skills can't get a woman in the real world go to a third world country to find love. Just pathetic and sad.

[@Norm475]

A guy really has to be lonely as hell to start down this road.

[@Rashaed]

Seems like 60% of the examples turn out bad and 40% turn out good.

[@MXX265]

When it comes to Former Soviet Union women the divorce rate is a very low 14.7% and officially across all nationalities. Officially US stats show a 20% divorce rate. Most Eastern European / foreign marriages come from the real FSU dating circle, not the scammy mail order bride industry and are usually age appropriate, good matches physically and often financially.

[@shadetreader]

*stop* *treating* *women* *like* *commodities*

[@randomguy6556]

Holy shit that thai girl hanging her self was really unexpected.

[@markiusgalfordii9248]

I've dated a Russian girl it was pretty fun but I think she was trying to get a green card the last I knew and I was pretty close to making it happen for her

[@ToeKnife166]

Married his half siblings mother?

[@stylez7207]

Last

[@fullmetaltheorist]

Are you sure about that?

[@nuubier8911]

Not quite

[@rednecked7462]

I want a mail order girlfriend So l could mail her back and order another one.

[@michaelmurowenislick6991]

3rd

[@littledoodles06]

Aye 666 likes!