"What Do You Recommend for Someone Without a Support System?" ep#19 Ask Kati Anything!

Audience questions:
1. How do I stop feeling like I don't need anyone or anything? Deep down I know I need people and that I need to be vulnerable because it's human...
2. What do you recommend for someone without much of a support system aside from their therapist? For example, having no friends or...
3. Hey Kati, I'd like to know: What can I do to deal with multiple unfortunate events? I had 4 breakups, followed by multiple rejections on job search and rejected by multiple Master's degree scholarships. It really traumatized me...
4. Hi Kati! Could you talk about the difference between intrusive thoughts and actual suicidal thoughts? Is it possible to have both? I’m diagnosed with...
5. Hi Kati, these last few weeks I have been feeling a lot of self-hatred. It has always been there but now it's so much worse...
6. Hi Kati! How to accept that someone can be gentle with me or make me feel seen without getting triggered? Sometimes in session...
7. Hi Kati, hope you're doing well? I wanted to know, do you sometimes analyze the people you meet in your free time without really wanting, or can you just...
8. Hey Kati. I am 14 and feel SO lonely. My parents don’t believe in therapy ( they are so nice other than that ) and I think I am suffering from...
9. Hi Kati, I'm wondering if it is true that I make myself more depressed. This thought comes to my mind frequently lately. I'm thinking if I...
10. Hey Kati. Ever since year 3, it’s like I’ve been afraid of people I know. Whenever I see someone I know outside of...
11. Hi Kati, How do I stop comparing myself to others? Sometimes it's random people, other times its specific people or a specific person, but either way, it's frustrating, and it doesn't help me. It just makes me feel...
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[@heidiw5183]

Time stamps ;) I hope these help 1. How do I stop feeling like I don’t need anyone or anything? 8:40 2. No support system? 18:13 3. Dealing with multiple unfortunate events? 23:20 4. Difference between the types of suicidal thoughts? 31:03 5. Dealing with intense self hatred? 35:05 6. Feeling seen and heard but getting triggered? 43:51 7. Do you analyze people outside of therapy? 51:41 8. I am lonely and derpressed but not going to therapy? 54:27 9. Making myself more depressed? 1:01:02 10. Afraid of people I know? 1:05:57 11. How do I stop comparing myself to others? 1:11:05

[@irena1222]

Thank you!

[@liv8121]

Thanks so much!

[@MyTwistedTv]

the time stamps are so helpful, we appreciate them a ton !!!

[@milenaciaramella3524]

Thank you 😊

[@trishphan2192]

Thank you so much!!!

[@meghanjohnson3888]

"Self care isn't selfish" is a HARD lesson to learn. My therapist has been wonderful in getting me out of the mindset that self care is bad (I am learning). Also, if you are saying the word "should"...I should do this, I should do that...it is a negative statement towards yourself. Something else I am learning. Thank you for validating that it is ok to do nothing and take a break. :)

[@raywood8187]

Comparison is just a walk on a slippery rock. I've heard it said before from others, or sometimes from my own head, hey, that person really has it together, wish I could be like they are. A couple of times, when I've gotten the chance and felt brave enough to ask this pedestal occupying person how they have managed to have such a good handle on life, the answer has been, and I'm paraphrasing, ha, what makes you think I have my life together, I'm just as screwed up as anyone else! Sometimes having your idolizing balloon pop in your face can sting, but it might also bring some perspective.

[@jupiter6942]

"You do you, boo-boo" ❤

[@ashley-8612]

No need to apologize for your rambles - that’s what we tune in* for! * is “tune in” still the phrase? I’m still using it.

[@jupiter6942]

If you're using it it definitely is :)

[@jevoblue1639]

Why shouldn't it? It's still a thing- I'm using it as well so you're not alone 😅

[@Toobzhere]

This person is using social media for such a good cause. Every minute of her video you learn something new. I've made my own channel inspired by this channel. Thanks for inspiring us all. Keep up the good work.

[@kaydeebug24]

#2 is totally me 🙋‍♀️ basically feel like a single mother. Hubby started his own business and works 18 hours a day and I have no car so I'm basically stuck at home all day with my baby. I don't have any friends around here. I do sometimes walk to the park but it's hard 🙁 I have been diagnosed with adjustment disorder with depression/anxiety due to everything going on in my life and meeting with my therapist has been sooooo amazing, thanks to telehealth. But he just told me last week he's taking a different job and I can't follow him because of a non compete. I was very sad when he told me but I think it'll be ok overall. Thanks for listening stranger 🙃

[@duck7237]

That's got to be really difficult and I'm sorry that this is your experience right now. I hope that you make a friend or two on your walks really soon. I'm very introverted but I have met some wonderful people during my morning walks. It sounds like therapy was very worthwhile for you and so I hope that you are able to find the courage to settle in with a new one. Good luck to you. Sending love.

[@toni2309]

I really like your answer on that eight question. Yes to therapists needing to ask questions. I wish mine asked more of them. I personally used to feel very lonely because, essentially, I just didn't know how to communicate with people and I couldn't relate to anyone. I still feel lonely sometimes because I kinda want feedback and bounce off ideas, but I can't actually focus on conversations, can get too tired to actually talk and get overstimulated really quickly, so usually while I want to be with people, actually being with people isn't a feasable option.

[@_maia_m]

I used to feel lonely because I felt like I had no friends who shared my interests, so even though I was around people, I never got to talk about and share the things that mattered to me the most. Instead I just tried to pretend like I was genuinely taking part in the conversations they had. And I think both my daughters feel the same way sometimes. That's a great thing about online communities, though, cause it makes it easier to find people you can connect with. Also, my oldest daughter had a really great teacher who recognized that in both her and another student, who was also an introvert, so she introduced them, and now they're best friends! And to the person who asked the question, if you see this: maybe there's someone you could talk to in school, like a school nurse or councelor? And maybe, if that would be relevant to you, your teacher knows if there are any other students who are similar to you in personality or interests, and you could be introduced. Either way - there are many ways to find connection, and YOU are lovable and great and interesting just the way you are!

[@toni2309]

@@_maia_m I'm actually connecting more online than offline, but I also somewhat still find it stressful. Like, I get stressed about whether or not and when people will respond. I get stressed about feeling like I have to respond immediately. I get stressed about not being clear enough and being misunderstood. But then, I'm not good at looking outside my own bubble, so if I don't talk to people, I get stuck.

[@crimsontuba1]

OMG....your comment about not wanting to reach out being a form of control....that resonated so much with me....damn it lol.

[@kerrylarmand6301]

Never a need to apologize!!!! I'm fairly sure ANY questions you answer, no matter when and where they come from, are going to be great....😉

[@_maia_m]

I agree! Even when there are questions that don't seem relevant to me at first, the answers have so much useful information that can be relevant in other situations too. That's one of the things I love about these episodes!

[@clarab325]

These podcasts are the highlight of my week 💖

[@jupiter6942]

Same

[@annabrickstock]

Me too!

[@keri-leegriffiths5116]

The wave analogy is so perfect! It's exactly what it feels like.

[@marrodriguez8859]

I was having a really hard day but somehow katie´s voice made it a little bit better. Does someone else get what i am saying?

[@_maia_m]

Yes! ☺️

[@LinnChanett]

Yeah. She has something.. hm dont know what to call it.. reasuring maybe? About the way she speaks. Its fasinating

[@monamohamed51]

Of course, Katie's videos are very helpful but more importantly for me she makes me feel better just listening to her and seeing her. I wish if she was my therapist

[@LinnChanett]

@@monamohamed51 If we all had powers like bruce all mighty I think she would suddently have gotten very very bissy. xp

[@Scott-vd2le]

Mona Mohamed Yes yes yes, feel the same way

[@sugarandspice2136]

55:46 when I did let people in, people were hurtful. That's why I don't let people in.

[@mariajoselosanavalencia6762]

I am so in love with this podcast, I really cannot recommend it enough. THANK YOU SO, SO, SO MUCH KATI.

[@SusieQ78]

Love the opening... I happen to have just sent a message to my work that I'm taking a few days off, starting tomorrow. I am simply going to fall off the radar and disappear to a cabin in the mountains :-)

[@nikkimckay860]

S M. Hello how have you been hope your weeks been ok your comment sounds like you need to escape from reality hope things are ok

[@toni2309]

I'm really looking forward to your book. Your answer on question number three makes me think that maybe it could be insightful, as you say that we are allowed to call things that are not necessarily life-threatening traumas.

[@_maia_m]

I agree! You can be traumatized even if you don't fear for your life or serious physical harm. Yesterday my therapist told me about how traumas can be when you sense a danger, not only to your body but also to your soul/emotions/psychological health. It can be so easy to downplay the seriousness of situations that are damaging in other ways than physically.

[@kaia8167]

About question 6, for those who feel the same and are trying to figure out why, I have this same issue and maybe sharing my reasons could shed some light for someone. The first reason I think this happens, for me, is because I grew up with parents who really didn't know me, didn't have any real curiosity about me or my life. My whole family was like that, actually, they just knew absolutely nothing about who I really am. When someone is really paying attention to me, when they're validating me, I have the urge to roll my eyes because in my mind I can't help but interpret their words as fake and meaningless. They don't know me. They don't know anything about me. Sometimes my therapist would say something like this, and there would be this sudden feeling of disconnect. Like there's instantly a wall between us, because anyone showing me that kind of attention must be faking it because they just happen to be in a good mood or something, and they must not know anything about me or care to know anything about me. I just have this immediate association with my family and how I always felt around them growing up. Completely disconnected and never truly seen. The second reason I think it happens is because I can't stand anything the makes me look or feel childish. My abusive dad would tell me that I'm selfish and need to grow up all the time. When someone tells me things like I see you, what you're feeling is completely valid, I just think 'yeah, I already f***ing knew that, I'm an adult'. It feels patronizing, and that makes me feel childish, and that makes me feel triggered and so I push back mentally. I don't know if that makes sense or resonates with anyone, but I thought I'd put it out there.

[@kamaliancirranoush1916]

That makes total sense! I’m almost 40 and just now realizing that my assumption if someone is nice or positive toward me that they are probably lying, is not true. It is hard to get out of that, but then I realize that I grew up with a pathological liar, and that is my context of interaction with the world. The good news is that not everyone is a pathological liar, and there are actual nice kind people in the world and I strive to be one of them every day.

[@cfjohnson7369]

Maybe you do ramble, but just when I think you have lost your thought structure, you bring it all together! That is amazing!

[@Akanchwua]

I don't want these podcasts to stop!

[@TheWantedWoman]

Kati this top looks so good on you! Hope you're doing fine :)

[@karimaogden3875]

OMG! I relate so much to the sadness we feel with the loss of a dream! My husband's illness came at a time when I was beginning to achieve my life's dream and put a permanent halt on it! When I have tried to bring it up in therapy before, I have been made to feel that I am being selfish for feeling like that and that I should concentrate on my husband's mental health because "it's not his fault he has that illness". We the caregivers are supposed to sacrifice our whole lives for the sake of our partners and deal with our stresses on our own because they can't handle any stress! I have no outlet for my stress because if I mention it to my husband, he then feels guilty about it and becomes suicidal and tells me I would be better off without him. I feel trapped!

[@alexschmitz1895]

Listening to this video feels like I’m not the only one going through this. I’ve been watching your videos a lot since I found you on KZbin. Thank you.

[@MelodicDinosaur]

You see, I do technically have friends, it's just harder to connect with them the more I connect with myself and remember my trauma. I'm just very aware that my experience is outside of what's expected and what feels acceptable to most people, and I'm getting less OK with pretending "I have this thing called DID that makes me a bit wobbly but I'm fine really".

[@loristegner3272]

I’m doing the same thing with social media, unfollowing a lot of folks and spending less time scrolling and more time on living MY life. I do find it helps me greatly! I always love the terms I catch on you podcast that maybe I haven’t heard before. On this episode, “Toxic Positives” jumped out at me. Oh my gosh! THAT’S what my Mom did to me my entire life. She would never allow me to emotionally feel my way through anything. When I was diagnosed with tongue cancer 8 years ago and lost not only most of my tongue but my 25 year career singing, voice over work and commercial spokesmodel work, she would tell me that I just needed to “think positive.” It was a HUGE trigger. I lost my life as I knew it...my body, my brain and career had been annihilated by chemo and radiation. So much emotional and physical pain (and a lot of medication) and I was just supposed to “think happy thoughts?!!!” Ugh!! Puffer Fish Bonanza! 🐡 Thank you for this terrific Q & A! Much love!

[@skylarschuck]

Based on what's going on in my life right now, boom boom boom you hit several of my issues in this episode. Thank you! You are great!

[@hexnobraincells1213]

Thank you so much for answering my question, and for everything you do!!! It means so much to me

[@SlugcatEmporium]

I feel so proud to be an OG for your eight and a half years! And proud of you for continuing to make videos. :)

[@crimsontuba1]

Would you ever consider doing a video for teachers/parents/adults on mental health in schools? I'm an informal science teacher by trade, but with the amount of at-risk students I end up working with, i feel like having an appreciation for trauma & mental health in children is essential

[@elabits514]

30 minutes in. I'm so grateful for you Kati . Im siting her journaling, and nodding my head. I just want to send bubbles of appreciation!

[@kayleighdittemore8352]

Left reviews on Apple for AKA & OTDM! whoop whoop. Glad I could write one for these - bc when I tried to on Amazon for your book I wasn’t allowed to 😬

[@askkatianything]

Thank you for the reviews! Greatly appreciated. 🙌🙌

[@kayleighdittemore8352]

Yoro Kumat yeah I did :)

[@milenaciaramella3524]

“The j bomb” 😂 loved it, anyway just wanted to say that thanks to you I started journaling and it’s helping me a lot ....so thanks 😊

[@larag1764]

I particularly enjoyed your intro (what you referred to as your 'ramble') reminding us of the need / value of stopping and resting. So important and yet to easy to forget to do so. I love your videos. Thank you for all the t one and effort you put in - and especially for reminding us it's okay to be human (ie less than perfect !). Stay safe. Best wishes from Australia 🤗

[@marionoschelmuller1718]

I don´t find thought stopping very effective. I mean I do sometimes the "whatever" and then move on, but what i feel works better for obsessive thinking is: Just nocicing your thoughts and saying to yourself "Thinking" after every thought. It will make you annoyed after the tenth sentence but you gotta stick with it. Also what works better mostly is just doing something that will change what your brain is taking in from the environment: Get out of the house, go for a walk. Draw something. Watch a movie. Take a shower. Call a friend. Whatever. If you just do that without enforcing that your thoughts have to change they probably will automatically or if not it will be a lot easier to say "I can let this go for now". Maybe that helps sb.

[@goldieh7121]

I appreciate you saying it's okay to feel the way we feel. My mom's feelings are always getting hurt and it's always only about her feelings. The other close people in my life are big on thoughts not feelings, especially my brother as a backlash to my mom using her feelings to manipulate us. I've even heard therapists or online videos big on not talking too much about our feelings

[@simonenel1794]

I love your authenticity Kati! Thank you for ALL the wisdom.

[@jimmystewart5474]

I don’t exactly know where to put this, but here it is... I love your recommendations for TV series. Just started binging UPLOAD, I can’t ever binge. No attention span. I love it! And I want his therapist therapy dog sooo badly!! And Sean has such a strong Canadian accent that it makes me laugh quite a bit. Thank you so much for having so many different avenues for all of us. Much love 💕

[@nelli452]

So many great questions! Can't wait to listen!

[@nikkimckay860]

Nellie. Hello good comment completely agree nice to meet you also

[@aidis138]

23:04 "kick out all the losers" that feels funny if you are considering people with, um, let's say problems as losers. didn't mean that word as insult, but they are kinda fitting into that image. (hey, you. yes, you! whoever reading this comment, don't take it personally, i'm just judging by myself)

[@ericmichaelloyd4177]

I believe this video serves as a magnificent resource and was created at an opportune time. Thanks Kati Morton.

[@magarinee9313]

I love your dress!! So pretty 😍 and as always I loved the podcast!

[@cortezquetz6848]

I find I'm far more comfortable when I hear her cursing than I might have imagined. Genuine as f*ck!

[@pereirafe22]

Bless you at 48:56!

[@abby_elizabeth8435]

Kati needs a “nope reframe” t shirt 😂😂😂

[@danieljgore1]

Good one! How about “quit shoulding on yourself” merch, too

[@abby_elizabeth8435]

John Daniel Gore omg yes!!!!

[@rebeccag4623]

I have zero support in my life, and amnt in a situation where it’s safe for me to reach out. But I have a plan to try get it in a month, I’m risking everything to get it. A friends family has offered me a place to stay and help if things go badly, so I’m nervous but willing to risk it. But anyways, I’m just here to say I love these videos because I can pretend I’m actually getting help or am in therapy. Like I’ll ask the questions that best fits my situation out loud then play that section of the video to hear Kati’s answer as if she’s talking back to me. I don’t care if that’s stupid or whatever, it’s all I have and I’m thankful for that. Stupid or not, it helps.

[@rachelpowell1859]

I would love you to do a video on confirmation bias! I’m writing about it in my first assignment!!! 🤗

[@TheNurulaulia]

Thank you for featuring my question, Kati 🥰!It means so much 🥰😭

[@askkatianything]

You are so welcome!

[@joeyjoey392]

good video! appreciate the work you are doing for the community

[@jcat7553]

Thank you for the validation!!!! I’ve never been more frozen. Sooo many should haves

[@93etang]

totally not related to any of the questions but that shirt or dress looks amazing on you :)

[@Michelle-sw9uj]

How many ladies look for her shirts when out shopping?!

[@whoeveriam8942]

What Do I Recommend for Someone Without a Support System? Find a 12 step program that is something about you and meet alot of nice people

[@MultiSenhor]

And if there's nothing you like to do, you can look at the available options, choose one and try to like it enough.

[@kavleenmarwah4373]

Belated happy anniversary Kati and Sean!♥️

[@Juisapey]

I looove your blouse Katie!! It fits you well!😊 Thanks for the podcast☺❤

[@Nesqira]

Stop thinking negative things about myself doesn’t help if I know most people don’t like something about me. It’s not just a belief. For example, people with acne problems. No one prefers acne or is attracted to acne. Not thinking bad things about your own acne won’t change the fact that it limits your options when you’re dating therefor it’s difficult to not hate the acne and hate yourself for having it is that makes sense

[@jevoblue1639]

Yeah! Another episode! This truly made my day:)

[@milenaciaramella3524]

Thank you so so much Kati 💜 and how are you doing ?

[@insolubletoaster8133]

As a super introverted person, why is it different never being alone when the person you're around is your partner, vs friends, etc? I used to be able to never be alone because I "shared" my alone time with my partner, and it was still just as rejuvenating as if I was alone. The reverse was also true: if my partner wasn't around for a while, my alone time wasn't as rejuvenating.

[@karimaogden3875]

It's hard to take a "time off" when you are your husband's only caregiver who has a very severe case of Bipolar Disorder with Psychotic features who has relapses every 6 months even though he is med compliant. He's currently hospitalized for the second time this year. Coronavirus set him off big time. Have been doing this for the past 28 years. Been married 32 years. I dread anniversaries because it reminds me of how my life is being sucked away by his illness and I see no relief in sight. Have tried several therapists through the years and haven't found anyone that really understands the dynamics of being in a marriage where one person has severe mental illness. I have never felt understood, accepted and validated by any of them. Wish I could talk to someone like Kati but there aren't a lot of therapists in my area.

[@abby_elizabeth8435]

Sup my dudes!!! HAPPY THURSDAY!!!❤️

[@shellsescapeseries5925]

Thank you Kati for this !

[@Kaiya-mf1df]

Thank you:) I realise I did a typo but hey.🤦‍♀️ you really helped, I’ve been panicked.

[@chantellekaro4344]

In Melbourne Australia, we got out of lock down and now back in lock down and will probably go stage 4 because it's getting bad now

[@lyndallnash2301]

Very sorry for Melbourne. I'm in Newcastle. Stay safe and hope it gets better for you soon.

[@Snlad90]

48:57 Bless u Kati

[@amberlangbehn5236]

I've tried reaching out all doors slammed noone left to even try with anymore. I'm not a bad person I do need help but I know I dont deserve to be alone. I know i havent done anything to deserve this. But rejection and invalidation and shame is all people give me and unfortunately i know more than the ignorant people I've known it hurts that nokne will even try to understand or care enough about me to listen.

[@ryannesumbry4130]

Can you talk about disconfirming experiences and how they can help reframe negative thoughts and experiences we’ve had???... please and thank you 😊

[@disneys4762]

I may be going to Residential. I'm scared to death!!!!!! I'm watching this and playing with my slime bc I'm on sensory ovwrload!!!!!! Thank you for everything you do Kati!!!!!!❤🤗

[@martharuvalcaba8233]

Yay!

[@Katimorton]

Hi Martha! :)

[@martharuvalcaba8233]

Hey, you’re amazing. Thank you!!💛

[@ralphdisarno2358]

I have no support system and I don't know how to find one ? I am feeling like no one cares unless you have something they want. I also am wondering just how toxic I am!😢

[@nikkimckay860]

Good evening kati how are you doing and hello everyone in the comments I received my notification at 9:20 pm so here now you look beautiful kati I like the black top with flowers looking forward to the new questions and listening to all the answers going to get relaxed and enjoy watching my weeks been honestly not great with on and off depressed state or not vei t well happy fo be here as always 😊

[@mimibelta259]

Hi Kati thanks for these videos my question is when diagnosing bipolar disorder will the diagnosis be made if the patient sleeps for the normal 8-9 hours and then take a nap later in the day or is that just a normal thing for people do .sometimes I sleep bad at night but it seems to I’ve had the full 8-9 hours at night but when I wake up I’m still tired and take a nap in the afternoon and then sleep the regular night sleep and then other times I feel tired all day and can’t sleep at night

[@Michelle-sw9uj]

48:57 Sanitize the space!

[@dukefan2413]

God bless her

[@Angiebee.]

I feel very lonely… I have a very small support system and it’s looking like my sister can no longer be part of my support system. You could say go to your friends but I really can’t.. and I actually tried to today and I called them because I was in so much distress and I was met with voicemail from 2 different people. 😞 I feel like all I really have left are hotlines and resorting back to strangers on the internet again…. I have a therapist but it’s getting to the point that she can no longer support my journey anymore because of cultural differences. She doesn’t understand racial issues I experience and when I start talking about them to her she immediately tells me she can’t help me or she doesn’t know what to say… so now I have to get a new therapist. I had to fire my doctor for the same reason. It’s really upsetting and I feel so alone. I feel unheard and dismissed and like my opinions and emotions don’t matter and like no one can understand. Sometimes I feel if I were to die people would regret the way the treated me or regret dismissing me and truly understand after I’m gone and regret not being there for me when I needed them the most 😞. And no I’m not going to commit suXci3 I just feel that way. I just wish I had someone on my side… I feel like I have to suffer alone. And I’ve felt this way for a long time. I was getting better because of therapy but now my therapist isn’t a good fit anymore. I feel like because of that and the lack of support I already have I will fall back into depression and become suicidal again because I feel like there’s no escape to the loneliness and constant pain

[@sylviabadshamiah8435]

Hi, I just wanted to let you know you aren't alone.

[@ioannamackenni6877]

Thanks so much for this Kati

[@amberlangbehn5236]

It's because it hurts so bad everytime we let someone in they lie and they leave and after so many abandonment it hurts like nothing anyone can say I just dont believe it. Always triggered and the untrust is like a wall over 6 feet of my whole self when people talk it's just fake and hallow.

[@littleboy5500]

🤧 48:56

[@hannataiv2494]

Yaaay Kati is awesome

[@LinnChanett]

Everytime I see you on AKA I look at your clothes, look down at what im wearing, and thinking this does not look as good as what she is wearing, walk to my closet inspired to put on something better, open the closet, loose the inspiration and go back :p :p

[@SailorGreenTea]

24:53, makes sense.

[@jad1910]

There can also be something like inverse-puffer-fishing.

[@Andrewmarkbaker]

It must be very difficult to envisage or to signal that the receiver needs processing time, when talking to a camera. I think this contract of attention is at the very heart of a therapeutic/counselling relationship and I tend to feel that this series misses that.

[@nikkimckay860]

I never posted a question this week but I had a question but decided not to post it in the end basically iv spent so much time without any close family or friends or spending time with someone I have lost the want and the need to care or be bothered about having people close because it been along time without the support I only ever had support from my psychologist I also don't trust people how do I get the feeling back of wanting and caring about having someone support me kati

[@michiecortez1894]

Everyone sounds so intelligent and politically correct, the emotional part of all this is, I’ve tried and went outside my comfort zone, things got worst ppl don’t express how they want you to act. But everyone expects you to act a certain way. It repeats. Different person, same situation, Same problems different day. She’s ignoring that feeling and explanation. But I get it. 🤷🏽‍♂️

[@mikhalterentiev8799]

Wow so good questions!!!

[@annmarieconnolly479]

Hi kati hope you’re doing fine just want to ask you I suffer from bulimia when I take my medication at night when I wake in the morning I have binged I am so mad with myself I have no memory of this how can I stop AnnMarie

[@Michelle-sw9uj]

I assumed you were away (or "away") when there was no question prompt. :)

[@abby_elizabeth8435]

My treatment team just uped my meal plan back to restoration so that SUCKS!!!!! I hate EATING DISORDERS!!!!🤦🏻‍♀️

[@email7915]

hey Kati. i think someone needs to reach out to Eugina cooney. She looks ill and dnt feel her family is supporting her recovery that or maybe she just needs someone to reach out and check on her. Thanks

[@crimsontuba1]

I only get notifications on video posts. I've played with the settings. KZbin is super glitchy

[@aidis138]

this was really interesting to listen to (i mean it), but. no answer to question why are you wearing headphones... 😩

[@moyasarawad3317]

Song ❤

[@crimsontuba1]

You need a pufferfish plushy doll in your merch 😆

[@anner9438]

I'd order some as gifts for my loved ones 😂😅

[@crimsontuba1]

@@anner9438 I'd keep one at my desk at work 🐡🐡🐡

[@anner9438]

@@crimsontuba1 Very smart! That's another place where you've got to keep one! 😂😉👌 They are very useful! Waiting for the model with actual spines 😁🐡

[@_maia_m]

That would be awsome! 😁

[@crimsontuba1]

Can we have a contest to design the pufferfish plushy!?

[@fatimaal-haidar294]

How can I ask Kati? Via email? Please let me know🙈

[@Scott-vd2le]

I love you!

[@_bulenty]

I don't want to sound too hostile but why is the answer to "I have social anxiety and have no friends" always join classes and groups. Not a single video I've seen on this issue seems to understand our address the question. " I have social anxiety" my immediate thought is always I'm not joining a class because I have social anxiety. In the thought of going to a class and trying to talk to people I don't know or trust fills me with dread. I'm not interested and not doing it. I suppose people like me have no hope of overcoming or changing our mindset in this regard

[@pinkturtlelove]

Where do you post the questions to ask???

[@danieldini8685]

1:10:47 wait they are?!

[@NothingToNoOneInParticular]

I prefer to call it An Unconstitutional Imprisonment, because that's what it is. Quarantine is when you separate SICK people for medical treatment. Imprisonment is done with HEALTHY people. This is home imprisonment without an ankle monitor.

[@MultiSenhor]

23:55 And yet my therapist said "Your life is not so bad, I have a client that has a drug-addicted son", well... I know that, it doesn't help it.

[@MultiSenhor]

With OCD you usually don't identify with the thought.