What Does a Love Addiction Really Look Like?

[@aafkgirl91]

I think that you are not in love with the person, you are in love with the feeling of being in love.

[@Skatamska]

I can relate to this. I used to treat my anxiety by falling in love. I wouldn’t feel so lousy anymore. But after a stroke I lost my sexyness and I’m not that interesting to men anymore. But thanks to the stroke I see now what I was doing and that my happiness depended on someone else giving me validation.

[@shymultimedia]

I appreciate you and your journey. You have a true testimony that has touched my heart, as I have a love addiction since childhood. God bless you.

[@peteryang8991]

I met a love addict girl once, having a stalker isn't any less scarier just because you are a guy. I ended up calling the cops.

[@ettaqouabeirouti5355]

She needs love, affection & attention that she couldn't get from her mother

[@daylilopez6350]

Exactly

[@PrettyPinkPeacock]

As someone who genuinely believes in this as a type of addiction/trauma / anxiety response, I'm not sure this is the best explanation but it's good to see some representation. For me it's like the need for "love" is an invasive force in my life. It used to be an escape from life, but I no longer want to feel like a teenager with a hopeless crush - I still lack the emotional maturity to move past it. It affects work and friendships, if I get stressed I'll start being obsessed with someone, as if that would solve my problems. If anyone else recognises themselves I recommend learning about healing from codependency, and how to attend to your own emotional needs to make up for the love you are craving in your adult life.

[@julzlebi3305]

I'm a love addict and I'm going through withdrawals and intense cravings. I have exams soon and i can't read no matter how badly i want to. Is there a drug or something i can use to curb the cravings? Because I've been patient for months and these cravings won't let up. I'm tired.

[@briarrose4747]

@@julzlebi3305 Asmr videos have helped me with my anxiety and depression as well as when i need love ill just look up an asmr video with positive affirmations

[@oliviafinnegan2957]

Hey! Thanks for the cool comment!

[@username2015]

@@julzlebi3305 I'm in the exact same position as you I have exams as well but I cant stop missing my ex. I'm guessing this is codependency maybe my exam stress is causing me to seek love as a way to cope?

[@julzlebi3305]

@@username2015 you shouldn't use a person as a way to cope with stress. I don't think that's much different from using drugs or other addictive things as an escape. You've got to learn to cope by yourself. That's much better for your mental health.

[@misskaya]

I was abused and seen abuse since I was a toddler. I never heard I love you from my parents, so it's like I want real love bad that leads to love addiction for me. I dont fall in love. I fall obsession. I also have borderline personality disorder, PTSD, and complicated grief disorder.

[@cookieisland23_mew-55]

I understand and I know that the feeling sucks but I'm praying that you can get finally find the peace your soul is craving for, Just remember that God never leaves our side we might not completely understand the way he's helping us or see the bigger picture but sooner or later we realize the plan he had in store for us all along 🙏 ❤❤❤

[@gardenstate235]

Im in a lot of pain, It's so hard to be a Love addict 😢😢

[@dr.jenniferma3914]

Do you feel the pain when you don't have anyone for a day or...when do you feel the pain?

[@ettaqouabeirouti5355]

This is a serious issue

[@oliviafinnegan2957]

Hey! Wanna be friends?

[@juniasthegreat4933]

@@oliviafinnegan2957 Hey would you wana be friends?

[@richardw7010]

"There were a lot of red flags overlooked", oh yeah I know that one. I hope she heals her attachment wounds and can find a healthy relationship.

[@scarlettfreedom3629]

the victim of betrayal and abandonment. Then the bond becomes bondage. Used by the ego to justify regression into more and more infintile ways of behaviour. Codependency, hate, fighting, demanding the other change. It becomes a constant struggle: who is the one receiving love and who is the slave? In most egoic love this is what happens. I wish to be free that I may not feel lost in the cycle of need and demands. That I may accept love and give love without it causing agony, that it may be Christ like love. So to speak. 💗💗💗💗💗

[@shymultimedia]

Amen, beautifully said 🙏

[@spencerjones1844]

La is very real. I was a severe alcoholic. Psych wards. Yes its real.

[@ElisaMarieKing]

Just watched JLo's "This is Me... Now" . I still can't believe, but thankful, she highlighted her love addiction in the film. Love addiction is very real.

[@Gravedweller111]

I have bpd and have this too :( very common with bpd

[@dera_ng]

I wish I could meet a love addict like me so we can be happy forever.

[@sues9100]

Hi

[@dera_ng]

@@sues9100 Hey :)...... I'm so happy you reached out

[@Kayscastle]

I wanna meet a love addict like me too

[@ms.anonymousinformer242]

But if they r a love addict , too that means they will seek out to meet needs (that you can't meet) with someone else even at the same time. I think that's hoe some people end up cheating 🤔 and it becomes a chronic issue.

[@Chola18Bella]

Yup. I just may have this problem.

[@TheIrishBosnian]

😂

[@JulietteZephyr]

You are not alone

[@brandiliner5347]

I felt like this too

[@menachemelkayam153]

I am currently going through the same exact problem and it’s jeopardizing my ability to find and keep love. Every girl I date that I find attractive, I very quickly cling to them and they feel that and it chases them away rather quickly!😞 I don’t know what to do about it exactly but it’s bothering me very much!!!

[@johnborylo2725]

I have personally tried suicide 10 times over women.

[@JulietteZephyr]

This breaks my heart to read.

[@sarajane5306]

Rock bottom moment with this issue is suicide. Complete emotional imbalance.

[@dera_ng]

100% Correct!

[@melanieholstra4397]

How are people dating right now?

[@daylilopez6350]

I pray for those who are needy 🙏 that they find and follow jesus and end there suffering hearts and minds to help them heal the anxiety they get wash away there tears and bring joy and fulfill there hearts in the name of Jesus Christ Amen!!! Jesus Christ wants you to praise to him don't go around praising people they don't even know how to love themselfs. Basic Instructions Before Leaving Earth ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@icedcocoa221]

Amen, thank you ❤

[@PhillyMunay]

What if you're both addicted to each other and sex has not been involved yet? In my case, it's almost like we can never stay away from each other but we never had sex (other forms of intimacy like always being together and touching). I'm wondering if this kind is actually falling in love...

[@PrettyPinkPeacock]

Hi, it sounds like possibly insecure attachment but it doesn't mean that's a bad thing. Just be careful of codependency (trying to solve each others problems instead of your own) and not rushing yourself in the excitement. The chemicals of attachment are really strong but they typically die down after 2 years and don't last forever

[@PhillyMunay]

@@PrettyPinkPeacock thank you. There was codependency. He would say I was his happiness and I sought security and comfort from him out of loneliness. Now we are trying to be friends (even today he said I took his happiness jokingly* from him because I'm so happy while he isnt). But my heart is no longer his and I'm happiest this way.

[@dera_ng]

@@PrettyPinkPeacock What!? Just after 2 years? Really? That doesn't sound like enough time to be with someone forever :(

[@haihai5293]

Lumirence

[@ms.anonymousinformer242]

@@haihai5293 I think the Crappy Childhood Fairy (YT channel) , a therapist on YT, covers that term. Probably means the same thing doesn't it.

[@MEN0]

I felt this uff

[@oliviafinnegan2957]

Hey! Wanna be friends?

[@silvermoonuk]

This sounds like a case of bpd

[@pinklemonade11]

sounds like bpd

[@radioog6945]

She has anxious preoccupied attachment style

[@TheIrishBosnian]

From my perspective, it looks like its a mental health problem. Love addiction sounds a bit crazy. Everyone wants to be loved. Even the toughest guy or gal. And I wonder if this is mainly a females problem?

[@daylilopez6350]

If a guy don't know how to love himself how can he love a women ?

[@shymultimedia]

It’s definitely a mental health problem. Past trauma or even genetics can bring mental health issues to a person, like Depression, Anxiety, Bipolar Disorder, borderline Personality Disorder, etc. And, depending on the person, Love Addiction forms on top of other serous mental health conditions.

[@adriannavarro2536]

@@reia1769 You sound like you’re love avoidant. The opposite of love addict

[@trollingontheriver8868]

@@reia1769 Us love addicts, hear you and appreciate your complete honesty. As a anxious lover that's what we want to know from our Avoidant partner, so we don't think we're going crazy or blowing things out of proportion.

[@GeauxSaints369]

She might as well face it..😊

[@SM-fj4kz]

This is a series of confused ppl

[@feferosette]

😄

[@brandiliner5347]

I felt like this too

[@Coolness18304]

Me too