What does “Queer” mean? ENOUGH QUESTIONS!

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What does “Queer” mean? ENOUGH QUESTIONS! #lgbt #shorts #lgbtq

[@snailmucus9380]

“your label is allowed to change” this was super great to hear as a young queer person :) im figuring out my validity as a person and a label that works for me and this was really nice to hear :) thanks

[@socialfreak2]

This I fully agree with my teacher said it takes time so don't worry about it too much you will find out eventually

[@hexrivas3102]

Same ive always felt like i had to put a label on it but these types of videos help me realize i dont need to if i dont want to

[@sunnfIower]

Your makeup is absolutely gorgeous!

[@MoTheMango]

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[@SugarSprinkleMeep]

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[@FredericChen]

Thankssss 🥠 for being first comment

[@BarksCutely4Aiden]

I love how fredric gives cookies to the first comments always lol

[@Zay_alpha]

@@FredericChenyou looking like a clown and that’s an understatement 💀😭

[@GoingSwimmingly]

“Are you straight or gay?” “I’m odd.” That’s my own reason for going with queer lol

[@Amynoodle]

“Are you gay or straight?” ***Im worst*** -Brandon Rogers

[@Rustclaw]

Queer is also just an umbrella term for someone who falls under the LGBTQ+ label! It is often used to mean genderqueer, but can also mean things like sexuality

[@ConsciousBread]

I identify as queer because figuring things out in detail is mind melting. I just know i am the way i am and dont feel the need to look deeper? But im not out to my parents, since my mum still strongly believes that queer is a bad word. When i say it in passing she just goes 'oh, dont use that awful word.' I get that in her generation it wasnt used nicely, but things change 🫡

[@Miolaurent]

Feel the exact same way! Don’t like using gay cause i grew up in a world where it was used as something to be laughed at. I never felt like it was „cool“ to be gay and others saw themselves as something better. (It was never really talked abt in media and if it was, it was something to make fun of a lot of the time.) I turned out never identifying with the term because of it. Goes to say: the trauma you faced and the way terms are used in you surroundings effect how you perceive them and how you feel like using them later in life.

[@ville__]

Gay Is a choice

[@strawberry4921]

@@ville__ It really isn’t. I cannot speak for everyone, though through my (and many others’) experience, it has never been a choice. I’m not gay, though I’ve been attracted to many different people throughout my life, regardless of their gender. For example, my first crush was my (at the time) best friend who was a girl (I’d like to add the context that during this time I was often seen as a girl also, despite feeling differently). We haven’t been in contact for a long time, though I still remember the times back in elementary school where I’d do anything to make her smile, sending butterflies into my stomach. And while those feelings are not caught by choice, I suppose being in a relationship with someone of the same gender is. TLDR, the feelings caught are not by choice, though I guess you can say that willingly dating someone despite being the same gender is an option. (Just want to add rq that if I sound rude in this reply, I don’t mean to. I’m just sharing my thoughts and such)

[@h5y878]

It's not my trauma. It takes a lot to say that, and it's so meaningful, to put a stop on a train of generational thought and trauma that you won't inherit. It's so meaningful, I didn't realize I needed to hear someone being like that

[@tuesdaywithjisoo8395]

A part of me hopes that one day we'll have a society where people can be like (example) Cisgender male just gets a boyfriend and introduces him to friends & family without "coming out" or "labels" because no one expected him to like women just because he's male. This would go all ways for all identities, but things would be a lot more casual & chill rather such a big deal as they are right now (obviously this is in an accepting society)

[@stef4788]

this is a concept i love so much. but sadly it only exists in extremely open minded families and places, where the child already knows the parents don't need them to come out, and will accept them regardless of who they are and who they love. i often feel like gender and sexuality is too culturally integrated into who a person is. i'm a bisexual trans man, but i'm still the same person as i was when i was a 12 year old, still wondering whether the gender i was assigned is the right thing for me, just matured into who i was always meant to be.

[@nikoaugustine5415]

I feel the same

[@Flower_and_turtle]

My whole class but not me r saying : ur gay I rlly don’t like the fact that there using that and to girl they use ur lesbian They wanna only cool cuz in my county it’s cool to vape and bully ppl with gay or lesbian If someone askes me do u like that boy I say: no I’m bi and I’m with a girl Than they say: eww just admit your lesbian it’s so gross your gross And that kinda hurts me and I’m glad ppl in this chat r not homofobic atleast I hope so

[@ville__]

Gay = choice+ cis made up

[@ville__]

Gay is a choice

[@nyxskids]

My moms preferred queer because of the common protest chant: "We're here, we're queer! Get used to it!" And it kinda just stuck with all us kids. So even our cis het sibs are queer because they are aggressive allies and wear whatever they want because clothes have no gender so people often assume they're not cis or het. I wanna say they only correct that notion when someone is the same gender asks them out. It's adorable because they're always so flattered. My brother once sighed and said he wished he was gay because the guy that asked him out was a new kid in the area that he'd already considered a great friend. But he just didn't think of him like that and whined that is that friend was a girl, he'd probably be drooling over a 'chick that was into all the same things he was' the way his buddy was. They're still friends btw

[@momococo8779]

This is the most wholesome story. Thanks so much for sharing. I love all of this. ❤

[@GirlinGarlicBread]

I’m mostly listening but I’m also a litttleeee “oooh pretty glasses accessory :o”

[@hristinavb]

honestly sometimes I'm tired of all the labels and trying to explain to people a couple of labels i identify as, so I just say queer!! very queer 😭🙏

[@Mr.3Pumps]

Trust me, we’re tired people forcing us to learn different genders and sexuality, so thanks for just sticking to one quick answer 😂

[@maveryriley]

@@Mr.3PumpsTf?

[@shatteredcoll]

mood, i'm gay + transmasc + a whole ton of xenogenders and i barely put all of those genders anywhere

[@eveningjaguar]

@@Mr.3Pumpsit’s not forcing bucko

[@mikudayo_biggest_fan3939]

​@@Mr.3Pumps you must live a pretty good life if you think being educated and learning something new every day is torture lmao

[@ephy9590]

I felt the same about gay and it took a lot of work to unlearn that.

[@Parva_Strix]

A beautiful human being saying what's what in the simplest way, I wish more people would just be chill regarding others' journeys

[@warmharth7088]

I love this, this is my thoughts exactly, label or don’t label urself as whatever u want and use whatever labels in whatever as long as they are correct and sincere usages in whatever way u want, I identify as queer to myself and to friends, but when i come out to people I generally say bisexual just because its a readily understandable term, still too much for my Christo-loony family to accept me but at least it was clear cut and explained just by the use of one word. Queer has been used as a word among others to insult me in my childhood originating community but me using it in a positive and voluntary way has disarmed it for me, i still get called a f-slur but i feel like that word is almost comically overused at this point that some of its potency has been lost through that.

[@elaundertale]

I'm queer, let's be clear, when I say the word queer, I don't only mean eccatric or weird and let me tell you all that I'm being sencire, when I say that there's nothing wrong about being queer

[@elaundertale]

Btw, I feel like I need to note that the original was written by John on the Thomas Sanders (or the Thomas Sanders and friends, I'm not sure) channel on video "sing it" or something similar. The original song can also be found if you KZbin "I'm gay, Thomas Sanders"... I just modified the second verse

[@perrccyyy]

i personally do not call myself gay due to growing up being bullied or even fetishized for it, but i DO use queer because it was a bit outdated by the time i got to middle school s it was never used against me!

[@Prince_Markus]

Youre so real for this. Self education is very important and its okay to ask for help when you dont understand. Same for trauma- we understand bad things happen and you can ask us to tone down but don't get pissy with us for being a human being. :) If you read this I hope you have/had a good day.

[@GeorgeTheDuck11]

This is something that definitely need to be heard by others!

[@peakdelvalle197]

Yes! I don't feel the need to be specific when I tell others my identity or sexuality so queer works for me.

[@lwolfstar7618]

I couldn't agree more! The reason I use queer myself is because its easier than explaining where I am regarding gender, sexually, and who I find attraction for, plus its not most folks business to begin with. So I'm queer ❤

[@the_real_mcgarvyer9]

Does anyone ever ask if you're gay or queer though?(like this is a real question though) Plus, I would think to myself at least in the modern day and times they would not care to ask in the slightest bit because, one it truly doesn't matter and two most people are way too preoccupied to be worried about that.

[@hopeboyherewithyourmcdonal3634]

@@the_real_mcgarvyer9 Not OP but I do have people ask this, and a lot of my queer (and even cis/straight) friends get that question a lot, too. People care more than you think! More than I used to think as well 😅

[@lwolfstar7618]

@@the_real_mcgarvyer9 I dont get out much anymore but back when I did, oh yeah absolutely, I think its a combo of general curiosity, leading into the pronouns question (more people care about others pronouns than bigots would let on), and wanting to know if you're safe, if you're compatible with them or their friends (and if they can hook you up with said friends lol), and some folks unfortunately care because they are bigots, and the more they know the more targeted their abuse is.

[@user-dd7zc7bb1w]

I felt you saying that you didn’t want to identify as gay or bisexual so hard. When I was first figuring out who I was, there was immense pressure to pick one of those two labels. But queer is the best label for me, so thank you for making this video :)

[@kestendavis8753]

So well said. When I was discovering myself there were none then few words/categories/ labels....I hated and still dislike labels. Ask the younger generations are figuring themselves out and we have become a spectrum instead of a few slotted boxes I find that I understand myself better over time even though I've been an adult for a quarter of a century (damn😮). Just keep on being your wonderful self❤❤❤

[@alim.9801]

This was a great explanation for ppl who need it i think!! Also loved the part where you said you don't have to have a label or it can change bc it's so true. And also true that no one NEEDS to know your sexuality unless you wanna share!! It's kinda nuts how entitled ppl on the internet can be when it comes to knowing things like that about strangers

[@ville__]

Gay is a choice

[@nunya2587]

Yeah I had to watch twice. Couldn't focus on anything but his makeup the first time

[@a.sapphic.Magnus.Chase.]

Is this a compliment or what? Im sorry im horrible at telling these sort of things 😭😭

[@nunya2587]

@@a.sapphic.Magnus.Chase. I meant it like a compliment lol

[@a.sapphic.Magnus.Chase.]

@@nunya2587 oh good lol. sorry I’m horrible at this 😭

[@serchmaabaatarchuluun5761]

Same. I like using the word queer cause it is a term that was never used in my country and growing up the terms gay and lesbi was always used like swear words that you use to insult others.

[@Unimportant_lifeform]

"I'd rather just be not normal" This is now my absolute favorite quote of all time

[@TheGameknight203]

Most reasonable Lgbtq+ person I have seen today.

[@verabergeron1687]

Thank you, this is spot on for me and why I use this term for myself 😊

[@user-jd9ej8he6n]

" you don't go up to a stranger and ask there sexuality" meanwhile middle schoolers at my school: some random person: " what's ur sexuality?" The other random person: " oh I'm bi :)" 😂😂😂

[@Froglegs-on4fy]

“I’d rather be not normal” One of my fav words spoken by you 💅❤️

[@AshenedSkies]

I identify as queer too! I am so glad you addressed this!

[@sanlopez8019]

I love the fact that you're very transparent secondly you take the time to explain your standing or why you feel a certain way without disrespecting anyone it's admirable

[@mamawray]

A loved one of mine is an elderly LGBTQIA community member who laments that "gay" became the acceptable term and wishes that "homo" had been chosen instead. 'Homo' is short for homosexual which is not a bad word and matches with "hetero" and "bi". "Gay" to Frederic's point was and is a slur, right up there with "funny" "silly" "skippy" (all real btw). But also to Frederic's point, langauge is fluid, much like sexuality and gender identity.

[@Lucy_Mask390]

Your glasses look so good omg where did you get them?

[@FredericChen]

warby Parker, it’s linked in my bio

[@Lucy_Mask390]

thank you you look stunnimg btw@@FredericChen

[@zadedsouza5950]

I wish I could meet you I love your content and it helps me so much to not feel weird in public by acting gay❤❤❤❤❤

[@tuesdaywithjisoo8395]

I would say I'm bi. I know some people hate labels but for me at least I love it. Having a label after not knowing for so long just felt like I was at ease finally and didn't have to worry. I'm really proud of my bi label but I get it if you don't want to label yourself. I've always seen Queer as like a LGBTQ+ blanket term in a way? Like you're questioning your sexuality cause you're sure you're not straight but none of the labels appeal? Maybe try using Queer as a blanket term for now and see how you feel? Thats the way I've interpreted it.

[@momococo8779]

I usually refer to myself as bi when speaking or bi/pan when writing but I also use queer a lot. I haven’t really figured out if bi or pan fits better for me so I like the vagueness of queer. I can just be me, and like who I like, and focus less on trying to figure out which label applies. 😊

[@MP-oj9tk]

This makeup is giving me 55 year old cougar vibes and I love it.

[@goldghost4855]

Your glasses are adorable, and your makeup looks even better-

[@Kxkxkxktls123]

Glitter eye look slays on you 💅

[@ville__]

Gay is a choice

[@Kazuuuuuuuuuuuu]

YOU'RE SO PRETTY I LOVE YOUR MAKEUP SO MUCH!!!

[@amiemariecreative163]

Thank you!! This was all so well said!! I've sort of gone down a rabbit hole of your vids. You're awesome! 🎉 🦄

[@Peshants.JungleNymph]

If ppl are “queer” or “zesty” they’re allowed to use the words even if u don’t like it

[@foxsyd555]

god, I feel exactly like this! queer was never used against me and for myself personally i love having a very broad term. i dont fit into any specific label and i prefer having one that encompasses so much.

[@sophiachristie9807]

Thank you so much for this video :> You explain things in a way that’s easy for me to understand, and I really value that. I had been wondering for so long what “queer” actually meant, and hearing your definition helped clear up some of my confusion. I hope that if you see this, you know that you are helping make a lot of people’s day better, mine included. So thank you!!!

[@lia_is_sadaf4574]

Your makeup always makes me happy when I dont feel so great. its beautiful and magical 😭💗you have magical fairy powers....i cant even explain it .

[@vagueoutline2961]

YEEEESSSSSS thats so facts and I can never articulate it that well

[@NicoAndWill]

Okay yeah he right but yall… if you don’t want this on your fyp stop commenting like that’s why this keep coming up in the first place if so help me god I see another person complain I might combust yall be wilding too much

[@detherealjax]

Frrrrr i say this all the time

[@MoTheMango]

Do your glasses not have lenses?

[@FredericChen]

They do I just have good lighting so it doesn’t reflect

[@MoTheMango]

Ok, thank you

[@James_Messinger-707]

“You dont go up to a stranger and ask for there sexuality” Me getting beaten for misgendering a bagel

[@cocoellawella9315]

I call myself queer because it not only describes my sexuality and gender, it also applies to the other ways I don’t fit into society like being autistic, ADHD and fat. Those aspects of myself have been perceived as ‘queer’ so I choose to use that label for myself

[@dawncrabtree5042]

The jewelry and the makeup is gorgeous

[@Solipsisticdaydreams]

That makeup is so fire!!!

[@Jo-16-]

I love you!! You’re such an inspiration I’ve learned a lot from your videos and I also have four cats!!

[@aFuckinToaster]

As somebody who also uses queer, thank you !!

[@squirrel6536]

Queer is the only label that has stayed with me the entire time I've been questioning my gender identity and sexuality. No matter where I fall on the spectrums between ace & allo or cis & trans or homo & hetero, I *am* Queer. I am not cis or straight & this much I know *for sure*. As for specifics? I'm happy that those who've been searching for the correct labels have found them. I'm happy that we have more words in our vocabulary to describe to others our internal experiences and our attractions. Back when everyone was first having crushes on others & figuring out their personalities and attractions & some folks were (bravely) coming out in high school... I didn't even know that nonbinary was a thing, let alone all the other labels that have come into existence. That isn’t to say it didn't already exist. I mean, I existed in my weird "not like other xyz", hating the overly gendered colors and clothing pieces that I was sometimes forced to wear and the weirdness I felt saying I was my agab. But the terms weren’t there to describe that feeling to everyone else around us, at least, not that I knew of. So it's nice that we *have* them now. Still, that doesn't mean anyone has to utilize them if they don’t want to or has to stick to one that they chose previously if they’ve found a new one that fits better. Labels are changeable, just as much as our genders and sexuality are fluid. Thankfully, Queer exists as an umbrella term because while there are some that fit *more* than others, none of them feel like me. I guess the closest would be gendervoid but even then it feels... *limiting*. Like a box I have to fill. So.

[@valentineheart6313]

I like to call myself "Double queer", because I am weird and part of the LGBTQ community!

[@sleepypotato4046]

The dangly stuff on your glasses is so cute

[@rosev9673]

Honestly adore your channel and that look is so beautifully done!! Although tbh the poppin green eye is giving bullseye the target dog, my brain couldn't ignore it. Still loving all your looks and thank you for your activism for the community ❤

[@ville__]

Gay is a choice

[@baldie3720]

I need to know where you got your glasses chain, because it's absolutely giving.

[@the_real_mcgarvyer9]

Love the glasses with the heart pieces.

[@AlastorRaineExists]

Two words: THANK YOU! (Mb, two words and one exclamation point)

[@tracyrobinson9442]

I absolutely love your eye glasses lanyard. It frames your face beautifully and the makeup is really lovely on your pretty face! And I love the cute flower lamp !

[@amycasas8459]

I love love love how thorough u r

[@tammyrooke4003]

OMG! I just want to thank you for all the happiness you give your videos you bring light and love into the universe ❤

[@broccolinewma4798]

I personaly don't think it's neccessarily wrong to ask someone aboit their sexuality/gender, I just think it's about accepting if someone doesn't want to disclose it and not dwelling on it

[@gamesgames3318]

when i heard you using queer instead of the more specific definitions i kinda had a light bulb moment. I like the general umbrella term of queer because i dont understand why im attracted to certain ppl 💀

[@msfexcellent5673]

Thank you! I prefer saying I’m queer because explaining to every single person what pan is and what it means to me personally only to hear them say “I don’t get it isn’t that just bi?” is exhausting. I don’t like calling myself gay because technically I’m not, I can’t say I’m straight. Queer fits, it’s simple, and it’s not a rigid definition where people can tell me what it means and that I’m wrong for using it or that I should be using a different term. Also your makeup is stunning and I love it so much 🥰

[@legendsocool644]

I use queer cause I have 0 idea what I am all I know is that I am not cis or straight.

[@ilikegirls6891]

i absolutely agree the whole look is beautiful btw love it

[@nicolecampbell9151]

You gave me happiness❤🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

[@rhettmitchell]

“Queer” was definitely a slur along with “gay” where I’m from, but I use both terms and I use queer all the time as an umbrella term for myself or for the community in general. I’d say it’s definitely a reclaimed term at this point

[@sweariefaerie9621]

Darling, as long as there's mutual respect and consent, spend your time with whoever strikes your fancy.❤

[@ville__]

Gay is a choice

[@Peyton-gk9ts]

Can you do a hair tutorial I love your hair!

[@143_Ravioli]

You made me find out that I was queer. Thank you! ☆

[@AmelieSlone-eg1rz]

Your make up and hair style is so cute I love it

[@andreagigles]

I always say im queer because I don't want a label. I don't care as long as I can love the person that's all that matters!

[@elawinjala1635]

So this video just started playing for me with another title, yter, and comment box. I was very confused. The video it replaced, as far as I could tell, was about a guy who believed some weird conspiracy theories as a kid-

[@defterhornet]

Thank you soo much i am a 12 year old in a very conservative town and I love your videos!❤

[@nya._stuart]

Your in depth video about umbrella bisexuality helped me to finally find a label I’m comfortable with: Polysexual. Thank you 🩷

[@eisflamme2438]

Ooooh, i have one of these green flower things from your necklace!

[@Andi_Dreams]

The makeup hits different in all their videos 💜

[@Sittingrat]

This is EXACTLY my experience w the term queer as well. I’ve been through so many labels and they’ve all felt too restrictive and just not right for me. I feel like I’m constantly changing and growing and my interests and passions take me all over the place, and oftentimes my identity kind of goes along for the ride as well. Using the term Queer, it feels like it goes beyond sexuality and gender identity, it just encapsulates me and how I see myself and interact with the world. Everything I do is queer because I am queer. It lets me change and grow and still feel and know that I’m being true to myself. Idk, it’s just a very freeing word, it feels less like a label and more just like, a descriptor, if that makes any sense at all? Idk. Also bonus points because the Queer flag is gorgeous

[@TheRadioDemonAlastor0]

Queer was an olden day word for strange or odd, or curious Now there are many labels for it And they are all amazing

[@mymichi11]

I love your makeup- and nobody asked me- but I think it would’ve been even better if the natural side was a brighter color too! Like a pop of orange instead of neutral browns. I say this because i can’t stop staring at the blue eye like it’s 10x bigger 😂!

[@GyroZ804]

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[@aventurette]

ty for validating those of us with trauma related to the term "queer" and recognizing its history as a slur

[@fujoshipeanut5074]

I can't imagine 'zesty' as a slur. If i got called that and never heard it before I'd be like "...thanks, i think?"

[@detherealjax]

Kids are mean tbh, they'll legit find any word to use to hurt others, some immature adults as well Growing up, "lesbian" was used as an insult against me so 😅

[@PrismOpal]

❤ All of this. And your make up is amazing, too!

[@WikiAndi172]

I actually do like labels....and I have a lot of them. 😅 I use queer for myself both because that is what I am, and also as an umbrella term for all of MY labels. It's a very useful term.

[@ZiriO]

Okay but this outfit is so good though????

[@Mary_qwertzy]

For me personally I think you become Queer when you stop letting your gender or people stop you from doing whet you want to do. ❤ Queer simply means Unique or special. 😊

[@kaepiper]

i’m more comfortable just saying i’m bi now, but i used to say bi/queer. bc i was in a constant state of feeling like i needed to validate myself due to the biphobia i saw online, i felt like queer have me more breathing room! now i just say im a queer person, and i’m good with saying bi is my sexuality specifically. i love that queer has been reclaimed. i’m so glad you said that fruity and zesty are used as slurs. i feel like young kids online have gotten too comfortable using them to describe someone 😭

[@ville__]

Being gay is a choice

[@user-sh1kr5xu2e]

This is the best explanation I've ever heard！！！

[@caratzennie]

So it’s kinda like how I call myself neurospicy? I have autism, adhd, anxiety, etc. and at this point idk what the fck I am but I know I’m definitely something, and I like saying neurospicy a lot more than saying neurodivergent because it feels more accurate of a description. So my self description has just evolved into “I’m neurospicy and I go boing boing.”

[@raajidoshi]

I feel uncomfortable when people call me my deadname because of how it's been used against me, but I'm not gonna go up to someone and say "you can't use that name cause ppl used it to hurt me" so why should you get to do that to us

[@madsteph9375]

"All these definitions are made up anyway" is exactly why i also identify as queer haha! It's just so much easier❤

[@noelleswartz7443]

Queer also covers people who aren’t allosexual, so if someone is cis and straight, but they’re asexual, then they’re still queer.

[@Bombayboginka]

I once said “yeah queer people tend to like the dsmp” (this was during dream allegedly texting weird stuff to minors) and the person I was talking to just looked at me, I am not well informed on all the qsmp and Minecrafters stuff but I do play Minecraft and watch the chuckle sandwich podcast, I’ve also watched the thing ranbo made in a mall, my point is AITAH because despite being a Ali sometimes I feel like I say horrid things

[@mochitoes8271]

so u basically implied that all queer people are pedos like dream ? yta brooo

[@Darinadon]

1) Your look is gorgeous😍 2) I identify as queer, because I like that this word is all-encompassing, and even if I can also identify as biromantic ace, I don't necessarily want to go into specifics, and I am not necessarily feeling the same day to day. What I definitely know is that I'm not heterosexual, so queer fits perfectly for me personally.

[@Shinogiyu_slayyy]

Is anyone gonna talk about them being pretty?