What does the Bible say about masturbation? Is it a sin to masturbate? - Podcast Episode 143

[@Makai77]

I struggled with masturbation and pornography for many years- and hated myself for it. I married in 2000 and committed myself to praying Romans 12:1-2, and that was life changing. My bride and I also vowed celibacy until we married. The pornographic images faded and the act of masturbating stopped... it's been very liberating. Our marriage bed is undefiled.

[@Doc1855]

My wife and I also waited until our wedding night before engaging in any form of sexual activity. We didn’t even kiss deeply before marriage. I currently am starting a ministry to help men come out of homosexuality, pornography, Masturbation, same sex attraction, adultery, etc. I’m not only a retired Mental Health Therapist, but also an Ordained Minister. A man in our church has a ministry of deliverance, so after men are delivered, my ministry is to walk alongside of one who has just been delivered. I don’t judge anyone. I have a great deal of compassion for those who have been imprisoned by their sexual sin.

[@ianthornton4760]

Fornication basically means master at masterbation. It's a sin commited against the body. Just as oral sex is totally seen as abomination.

[@raychapman6014]

AMEN , FOR YOU AND YOUR BRIDE. BECAUSE THAT IS A VERY HARD OBSESSION TO BREAK. AND THERE MUST BE A DEMON OR TWO ATTACHED TO EVERYONE, TO DO THAT WHEN WE WERE YOUNG. AND THEN TRY AND MAKE EVERYONE CARRY IT ON THROUGHOUT THEIR LIVES. AND THAT IS A LOT ON HUMAN BEINGS. AND MANY JUST GIVE IN TO IT. BECAUSE IT'S ONE OF MANY THING'S THEY TEMPT US WITH. AND A FALLEN LIFE IS HARD ENOUGH AND LONGSUFFERING AS IT IS , DANG. PRAY AND RESIST! YOU MUST BE STRONG AND LONGSUFFERING. BECAUSE WHEN YOU THINK ABOUT IT , BROTHER'S & SISTER'S. THOSE DEMONS NEED THEIR A_ _ HANDED TO THEM!!!!!!! THAT'S NOT A GOOD HABIT TO HAVE BECAUSE OF WHAT IT CAN & DOES LEAD MANY TO EXPERIENCE. NOT A GOOD THING IN ANY LIFE. 😊YALL THINK THOSE PORN STAR WOMEN AREN'T SATANIC? OR THE UNCIRCUMSIZED MEN. OR THE TAT'S ON OR ALL OVER THEIR BODIES? AND I KNOW ALL THAT THE SAME WAY ALL OF YOU DO. IF NOT A SIN. IT LEAD'S TO SO MANY OTHER'S! PUT YOUR TREASURE EACH DAY OF YOUR LIFE IN , HEAVEN. PRAY , RESIST AND GROW STRONG IN , JESUS. SO WE ARE TAKEN OUT AT THE ARCH ANGEL'S TRUMPET. THE DEAD IN JESUS , GO HOME FIRST. THEN THOSE ALIVE CAUGHT QUICKLY UP WITH THEM NEXT. BE LONGSUFFERING , BROTHERS AND SISTER'S. YES IT'S HARD I KNOW. BUT THE PAYOFF IS BEYOND ANYTHING WE CAN IMAGINE!!!!!!!

[@eddyvideostar]

@Johnny Longshlong: Pray incessantly. More bending knees for the good of God is better.

[@raynellwelch2792]

Yes❗👏

[@kwpp7]

She hit the nail on the head when she also brought up the loneliness aspect of masturbation. I massively struggled with masturbation even as a married woman. At the time my husband was not a Christian (he is now). The emotional connection between us was absent and this greatly inhibited me sexually, as I did not feel free to be vulnerable enough to climax with him. Combine this with the fact that I went through many years of turmoil and upheaval and loss in my life and I was using masturbation as a self-soothing sort of coping mechanism for all of the loneliness and grief I was experiencing. I was desperate to feel good, even if it only lasted for a few seconds during a sexual climax. It took an incredible amount of prayer to fully repent of this harmful habit, as I was convicted of its selfishness as a married woman who had my husband's needs to consider. I still slip from time to time, but by God's grace I can say the habitual hold it had on me has been broken.

[@jamesgutierrez3190]

It’s a real struggle it’s a bad habit I wish it would leave me

[@CoachCelestino]

This is the struggle. We can fast, go to church, read and study the Bible, sing songs of praise, stop looking at porn, but none of these tactics take away our desires. Yes, I fully understand that the longer one goes without relieving themselves sexually through masturbation, the stronger the urges build up. In my opinion, it is best to stop gradually and not go 'cold turkey'. If one is used to masturbating 2x a day with porn, try to masturbate one time a day without porn. Then maybe once a week with no porn. Then perhaps once every two weeks - no porn, until the body gets used to the new changes. In my opinion, it is more important to first, quit looking at porn!!! and then work on stopping or slowing down ones masturbation habits. These are my humble opinion. Maybe it ill work, maybe it won't, but at least one is trying!! I think God honors those who try!!! Maybe masturbating once in awhile is not such a grave sin!!!

[@peteroreilly7065]

Well done David. It’s a tough issue that does create shame. It is almost impossible to defeat as a young man. God told me one day as I was driving to work feeling ashamed. He spoke really clearly in my heart and said remember those days when you thought you were defeating it? I honour your efforts and try again. The sense of guilt receded a lot that day but came back later when I lost control again. It’s a battle.

[@dravenq6928]

Thank you 🙏🏼 I struggled with this as a young man mostly because my dad said it was a sin and I always felt ashamed every time. I’m glad that I eventually overcame it but now that I will becoming a new dad I have a healthy and loving way to explain it to her because of your help

[@josephbenge8707]

All temptations begin in our minds. It's not a sin to be tempted. The sin happens when we give into the temptations. The Bible tells us he does not tempt us but will give us a way out. Jesus said our eyes are the windows to our souls. Be careful what enters into our eyes. It's definitely a struggle in today's world.

[@Joe-jk5gt]

Praise be to GOD amen

[@REDKING-1596]

or it begins in our eyes?

[@fernyhernandez9143]

Jesus never said the eyes are the windows to our souls 🤦

[@rascal211]

Some people will never be married or never even be in a relationship. It's easy for those who have a regular sex life to say it's a sin to those who don't have the option of a regular sex life.

[@gybx4094]

That's very true, especially in an era of irresponsible sexuality. But even those people who have a regular sex life may stray and cheat on their spouse. It's something that every Christian must deal with, just like using foul language. We all struggle with these issues.

[@geod3589]

That's right. When I was having regular sex I never had those lustful fantasies, etc. I think now that I am not having sex at all, these fantasies and thoughts are replacing the physical sex I now miss.

[@Fatelvis2]

I understand your struggle but its counterfeit and only PART of what you would hope to get out of a relationship

[@henryrogers5500]

Be careful with KZbinrs. They are expressing their own opinions that are not necessarily correct, biblically or in any other context. Gotquestions had failed to address a man’s biology, which is how God designed us. I don’t think their exegesis here is correct or accurate. Masturbation is not always due to “frame of mind.” Not always necessarily a spiritual issue. Our prostate and testicles fill up with semen every several days. This produces an almost overwhelming desire to have sex. It’s how God designed a man. With the mandate to procreate. There needs to be a means of release. So what are we, as men, supposed to do with that?? Listening to these KZbinrs or podcast hosts will oftentimes produce false unnecessary guilt, which is not coming from God.

[@notmyhome]

Yes! And each day asking the Holy Spirit to guide, lead our thoughts, attitudes and reactions .

[@davidboehmer4359]

Well it's something I got into at a young age. Before I got saved. For years I never had problems with it. Then it came on me with a vengeance in my early 20s. Leaving me with a lot of shame. Because it seemed to conquer me. In all honesty the only reason I probably don't have problems with it now is because I am at the time of my life where my hormone levels are not what they were in my 20s. I was married. Then divorced. Got radically saved at 18. I'm pushing 68 now and not really capable to do anything with a woman. Plus I am having to get a Prostate biopsy. So my situation may be over. Yet the root sin would probably be lustful thought life. I don't do pornography,of any kind and I don't have cable and hardly watch TV. I'm working on killing off whatever the root sins are in my life. I'm really too old for nonsense and making excuses. Especially if I want to go on all the way with Jesus as my Lord to the end.

[@rascal211]

Not too hard at 68 but if you're in your 20s with raging hormones and not married that's a different story.

[@mathunnyjose4467]

Though, no desire, but the prostate keeps producing the fluid. Which is what makes us sick. You are fortunate in your age could live holy with such a free mind and spiritual experience. May God keeps giving the Holy Spirit and expects Jesus coming soon. The incidents signal the beginning of rapture .

[@yvesbeaudin9968]

All the comments are interesting but what about the wet dreams that we have before we ever start masturbating? There is a shame only if we think it is wrong but not otherwise. Men with high testosterone and libido cannot not masturbate. There are some biblical college encouraging it to prevent fornication. Finally, masturbating help to keep the prostate healthy. I didi not find anywhere in the Bible where it is said that masturbation is mentioned.

[@cheryljune1603]

My spouse passed away, now what?

[@peterlunn4768]

Is masturbation sinful, yes. When a person indulges he/she will fantasize about another whom they find desirable. Jesus said to look upon another with desire equates to adultery. Also in marriage, who can truthfully say they haven't closed their eyes and imagined it wasn't someone else they were with in order to heighten the pleasure. We are all guilty sinners. This is why Jesus is our Saviour, without him we would all be hellbound.

[@benjaminhenry5869]

I'm not married so maybe what you Said is true, however I've never kissed one girl and thought about another. It's hard to imagine that I could be intimate with my wife and not have my thoughts consumed with what is infront of me. I don't ride my Motorcycle and think of other motorcycles. Even when I ride others motorcycles I'm consumed by the bike I'm on, how it works, reacts, how the road feels I'm not thinking about past or other experiences during the moment.

[@royalbohemian9757]

This is the solid perspective that should have been a highlighted viewpoint. For me, it's the fantasies involved with it that the spirit convicted me of.

[@truthliberty5695]

so when it comes to chemistry between you and another single person who is opposite sex to you, that process towards courtship and eventual marriage, attraction, labelled by you as literally the sin of feeling desire for them... that blows relationship building and match-making out of the window-- borderline vilifying the process towards marriage. -- is marriage and the path to it clean and godly or not? If the translation is to be taken literally, the lust after a married woman is adultery already: adultery is one or both members being already married... so when they translate "woman", I find it hard to read with a straight face that they might have mistranslated what was meant to be "wife".... because lusting after another's wife is no different to "thou shalt not covet" which includes the wife in that command. If you lust after someone, and you're weak as anything inside, you might just fall into sexual sin with that person, because it starts with a sinful heart: "to lust after someone's wife is to commit the act in your heart which demands to do it for real"... which is why I'd argue that with the unmarried, it's simply the cue to get wedded lest fornication becomes the cost. How difficult would it be to exist and hope for a partner if you were condemned with sin purely for realising you were attracted to the one who could be your spouse? Think critically here.. what's good doctrine, what's cold extremism? "Also in marriage, who can truthfully say they haven't closed their eyes and imagined it wasn't someone else they were with in order to heighten the pleasure. We are all guilty sinners." Now that is some unfounded, speculative condemnation right there. Are you the judge of thoughts or the speculator who sees evil in all that is good? "This is why Jesus is our Saviour, without him we would all be hellbound." Amen!

[@benjaminhenry5869]

@truthliberty5695 your first paragraph is making attraction and "chemistry " mutually exclusive with lust and they are not. Your premise is wrong.

[@truthliberty5695]

​@@benjaminhenry5869 I chose my words, and "lust" wasn't in the first paragraph. Your attack on my "premise" has been logically neutered from making me say what I never did say. Attraction is recognition that someone means something deep and powerful to you on a very personal level; protective; and mostly likely that will also verge into the psycho-sexual component of physical and of sexual attraction. It's possible to see something physically appealing in another person but have no desire to want to sleep with that person. About the same as hook up culture has taught easy sex even if the person is only bearable for an individual to behold but will be taken anyway out of desperation for a little intimacy however plastic and sinfully fulfilled it is. Lust is wanton sexual abandon; reason devoid territory where a person completely overwhelmed with urges, or otherwise utterly controlled by sexual impulses to the point it is a defining characteristic (extreme form is nymphomaniac)... now most people who just sleep around, do so because they are themselves regulated by a sense of lust, they are not truly in control or they'd be able to abstain or compel themselves to settle with someone decent who they could be around long term, and choose to make a life with that person work out by leaving the "single" mindset to embrace marriage thinking as a spouse. The cross over between lust and desire; is that generally speaking among Christians, Marriage is the pressure cooker where you take your sexual desires unspent and freely let them open to be expressed with your spouse, because it is within the safe, lawful and spiritual lawful confines. It's healthy in this format. If husband and wife were feeling strong sexual impulses for each other, there is no way that is a sin, because feelings and impulses aren't wrong, anymore than to be tempted is a sin-- rather it is sinful action that God condemns and requires His children to avoid, giving them very reasonable solutions on how to indulge the flesh without it being carnal sin in the process: there is the Satanic expression of carnality, there is the Godly expression of carnality. God will not be mocked, nor will He subject His children to impossibility where social needs are concerned. Marriage being the key point: All sexual activity that is monogamous, consensual, within marriage, is "Christian lawful". Nobodies business. 1 Corinthians gives the further obligations to married couples as far as God expects of them to retain honour and value-of-purpose in and to the marriage.

[@evasccl7846]

Thank you so much for making this video!! One of the root reasons why people have a heavy load on them is precisely because subjects like this one is not talked about, and young people dare not ask, hence they get driven away by their guilt/shame and what the world around them promotes, today more than ever, everything is hypersexualized and the only word that comes to me is debauchery! Jesus did not come to condemn but to save sinners like us, and that means anything and everything that is not for our best, Jesus is there to heal, save, deliver, help us and free us from all the guilt, shame as a result of missuse of what God designed sex for, it is sacred and beautiful.

[@rascal211]

It's all nice but some people will never marry for various reasons.

[@evasccl7846]

@@rascal211 and that is okay, whilst it does not justify doing what we know is not right in God's eyes!

[@kimalonzo3363]

"Heavy load" lol

[@evasccl7846]

@@kimalonzo3363 the heaviness that no physical exercise can remove, it is deep rooted to the core of the soul and eats you from within... hence the need to talk about these subjects.

[@dogdayafternoon9551]

Great episode! Thanks for recording this!

[@Gloriagal78]

Y’all did a stellar job with this embarrassing, weird, and awkward topic. : ) Really appreciate the mature, balanced, and Scripturally-based approach you take when it comes to these types of questions. Great ministry!

[@a.d.c7941]

This is not weird at all. It is real talk. Sex/sexuality was created by God. We make it weird and taboo and odd. Things like this specifically need to be more talked about amongst christians and in the church.

[@Gloriagal78]

@@a.d.c7941 100% agree. I was just quoting what Jeff said towards the end of the discussion.😊

[@a.d.c7941]

@@Gloriagal78 Hi Gloria. Yes ma’am I understand. I hope u r having a great evening.

[@Gloriagal78]

@@a.d.c7941 Thank you, and I am. I hope you are too.😊

[@a.d.c7941]

@@Gloriagal78 Glad to hear that! And thank u so much. I am as well.

[@Jacare1973]

I agree with somethings in this video & not others. I disagree with your take on self gratification. Eating to relieve hunger is self gratification. Getting a massage is self gratification. Exercise in its many forms is self gratification. What does one do when you wake up in the middle of the night with a hard on & you can’t sleep? I’m not married, would love to be. If I don’t take care of myself the tension builds up to the point I’m ready to lose my mind & possibly go have sex with someone. If I take care of myself then I can go back to sleep & get on with my day concentrating on other things. Having that release is healthy for the body. If it wasn’t then having sex in marriage wouldn’t be healthy. Look around at the people in church. Churches are filled with mostly married people. Where are all the singles? They have left cause they can’t take it &/or don’t know how to deal with it. Churches haven’t done a good job of teaching singles, especially young people how to live as Christian singles. Complicated subject.

[@reymundoelbambuena9788]

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[@Jacare1973]

@@reymundoelbambuena9788 ??

[@aficherise]

Appreciated Gwen’s presence and perspective on this topic 👌🏿

[@gwens7428]

Thank you for that encouragement. So glad it was helpful to you. The glory is the Lord's!

[@ronaldoharaeb]

Great topic honestly thou Gwens laughing the topic abit really sensitive but thanks for the video

[@christopher5585]

Interesting that the woman on this panel recognized that "Community" plays an important part in a Believer's life to help fight against sexual temptation. Assuming that she was referring to Single Christians, it's ironic that the Christian church generally disregards, ignores, overlooks and flatly ignores Older Singles. There are practically no ministry's to recognize this large group of Christians who long for community (in their own church) but sadly persevere knowing that their own church leadership refuses to acknowledge them.

[@harrydacalion6908]

I DON'T believe that we should masturbate simply because I believe it's submitting to our fleshly desires.

[@PennySmart]

I DON'T believe that we should eat simply because I believe it's submitting to our fleshly desires. What didn't Paul tell young widows "who burn" not to submit to fleshly desires?

[@Native2087]

@@PennySmart that appears to be a false equivalency, you need to eat to survive, you don’t have to to masturbate to survive.

[@AquinasBased]

@@PennySmart eating is required for survival. Masturbation is not.

[@ericscaillet2232]

​@@AquinasBased so any activity for survival is sanctioned ..... interesting.

[@nonyabusiness2510]

out of curiosity is urinating also submitting to your body. I'm not defending it but are wet dreams a sin also? You do realize that for men they continue to produce sperm. It has to go somewhere. That's a simple fact

[@diamondfateful]

Thank you for answering my questions about the Holy Bible!

[@FaithinJesusChristalone]

Yes If masturbation include lust in the mind its consider sin.

[@rascal211]

Lust is necessary to get physical arousal.

[@robkrasinski6217]

Is lust wanting what is forbidden, what you can't have? What about if you are not married and simply long to be with a woman but can't because of your life situation? I'm mentally disabled and live at home with my brother and my deceased mom's man friend even though I'm 49. I lost my mom last June 14 in the hospital because her breathing was bad.

[@nonyabusiness2510]

no it isn't. That's a fact. Men can get aroused from any number of things. @@rascal211

[@shombongcalvin4659]

Great depth and insights all over on such a dire subject. The video editing too is just dope. Keep it up y'all

[@omag9343]

I started as a child when maybe 5. I am a woman and I grew up in a orphanage and did it into adulthood. I always felt guild and God did take it away.

[@omag9343]

I was an orphan too and was about 5 years old girl. I always felt guilty about it and felt it was a sin I think it was about loneliness and it kept me somewhat soothed. God did take it away too when I was an adult

[@blkbbw8295]

If looking at someone with lust is akin adultery / fornicate, then surely that doesn’t bode well for masturbating?

[@MsQ275]

totally agree

[@diannecox7187]

It’s all very well speaking about this subject when people are married, but when someone loses their partner and then no longer wishes to get married again the feelings the feelings of wanting to have sex don’t just fly out the window. I’m serious about this. What do you think.????

[@bethgwin1921]

If so many people struggle with this, is there any way it indicates that it is natural? Is it possible to look at sex with another person as separate from masturbation? Meaning masturbation is not "sex". We do a lot of things that we enjoy and get pleasure from. And like anything it can become an addiction. I'm wondering if there is so much guilt and shame with this because it is always spoken of it as wrong by Christians. If it is wrong I want to know and follow the Lord, but I have been questioning this area more, especially since the Bible does not call it sin. I understand the lust heart attitude as being sinful and for that reason a person should not engage, but what if there is not that going on? Also because someone is single it does not mean that they are not sexual beings. Maybe it's God's provision. I do think Christians do well with the teaching of self-denial, but I don't know if we do as well as enjoying God's good things that He's given. I wonder if the Romans 7 experience is at play for many people because it is thought of as sin. Maybe it is something we should give liberty to with each person working out their own salvation(Philippians) And the result would be less guilt and shame and maybe even less masturbation(the law comes in, sin increases) Just some thoughts...

[@stefren]

I have this exactly the same thought too. Wow!!

[@dougward4352]

I understand the purpose of trying to do a video like this, to get guys to realize that "normally" self-indulgence leads to impure thoughts, and lust. But as you directly point out, there is no Biblical directive to not touch yourself- the body YOU were given to own and responsibly operate as a GIFT from God. It's not impossible to give your engine some attention when in the shower, or to "keep the act faceless" as I was admonished in college by a mentor. You don't get to mentally take what's not available to you in real life. The scriptures tell us that it is better to remain single than to burn. For some, this means dealing with being alone while we walk in love and brotherhood- but we have a release valve that can hopefully be used responsibly. ANYTHING in life can be twisted, or become a distraction, or a time waster, or be bad for us - alcohol, caffeine, lethargy, an excessive (sexual) imagination... EVERYTHING needs to be under the discipline of scripture, and subject to a personal commitment that is worked out every day with fear and trembling. SO as spiritual leaders, you can go ahead and get a monetized KZbin video out there that gives caution and opens a dialogue but I think MOST of your secular audience would be pretty turned off by the tone of your message. (In the secular marketplace, you're preaching to the choir and I think, unfortunately, drowned out by the hypersexualized society we live in.) There are soooooooo many health benefits that come from self exploration, and you must truly know yourself before you can know others (Bible Pun Intended.) In Hebrew that's the verb "Yada." Marriage does not remove the desire (or need) to masturbate, nor does it become a substitute for the role that fantasy plays in the scripts that run in our mind when we are overcome with the need for a sexual outlet. Married couples miss the mark, cheat, and can be unfaithful to their partners. Commitment (IN ALL FORMS) takes work, communication, and commitment to falling in love with your partner on a daily basis- and this parallels a spirit-led commitment to following Christ as well. While we are in this place, however, our humanity fully remains. Nature is strong, and we are designed to procreate. Thank GOD for those urges! And I am created in HIS image. But I am not going to be told that I'm supposed to not enjoy the gift of my own sexuality while I am living with the gift of singleness. It's just irresponsible to dump the guilt and repression - and shame- out of a hope of stomping out hormones and libido. Reframe the purpose, and follow a new playbook, if necessary. Perhaps reduce the frequency as necessary- and don't live in secret shame. Man looks on the outward appearance, but God looks on the heart. Get your find focused on the right things, and realize that you have chosen to set your mind on higher things and you will find that God's best doesn't mean living under the shameful fist of a vengeful God that demands you to wait for wet dreams and prostate cancer. God created desire, he created beauty, he created pleasure. But he calls us to be different than the world- to be set apart. That doesn't mean living in the wilderness and in denial of our full humanity. That means being responsible and a good steward of the body he's given us, and finding the place where humanity and discipleship intersect- and that's in the mind. Phillipians 4:13

[@stefren]

That’s what am saying🤷‍♂️👍😍

[@nonyabusiness2510]

scripture says its better to marry then burn. Good grief.

[@davefitzgerald5334]

I started the habit at 20 and I deeply regret it. If I hadn't started in the first place I would not have become addicted. I am 64 now. Gladly a person's Libido decreases greatly in their 40s , 50s, and 60s. I now have achieved great control, I only masturbated once every 3 weeks or so. The shame and guilt emotions are all gone now as they're negative. I am single and maybe I get frustrated. Anyway we humans are born with genitals attached to our bodies so it's natural to want some sex. We can pray to Jesus to stop the habit, as I do.

[@davefitzgerald5334]

@Nicholas TV Hi Jay. I was working earlier, but I am relaxing now. Dave.

[@richardbarry04553]

Thank you for this very helpful and enlightening video. This has been one of my most difficult sins to overcome since I was saved in May 2021. divorce. I’ve been living with such loneliness, sadness, pain, and struggles of many sorts the last three years. I had been married for a long time and then my wife divorced me. Finally it seems like I am overcoming this issue with the Holy Spirit’s help. It really seems like it has been interfering with my relationship with the Lord and I need Him to help me and answer my prayers.

[@TA-to7kt]

It was never confirmed that the act itself IS sin.

[@billjorgensen4882]

I disagree with the idea that it may be sin if a married couple agree to self pleasure while thinking of each other while apart for long periods. The scripture I hope you would have quoted is Hebrews 13:4, about the marriage bed being undefiled.

[@Crabtree1844]

I agree with you. If it were sanctioned by the Scriptures then God would have not brought Eve to Adam. God would have just created a population of His desire and let ach one would satisfy themselves at will. There would have been no need for marriage. It's all about discipline and self-control. Most of it has to do with our diet, sexual things we watch, read and listen to.

[@DougSaul]

Thank you for this discussion. It really helped me.

[@geraldwhitmore7675]

This is a serious topic that was treated more rather weakly. Of course it is possible for one to commit the act..but that does not preclude anything. It is in fact a sin at all times in every circumstance. Masturbation has no redeeming qualities attached to it. Self sex is not operating out of the spirit of self control or being obedience to God in the area of honoring God with your body. The percentages and the number of people doing it do not matter. All sin is common and God always provides a way of mistake. Sex was designed to be enjoyed only between a man (husband) and woman (wife) in the confines of marriage. Yes..pray to God to fill you with his spirit and truth and choose to walk in obedience.

[@robkrasinski6217]

So you should only have sex with a woman you are married to if you want to become a father? Or is sex with a condom ok or not penetrating? The purpose of sex though is to have children and further the human race.

[@sylvesterjohns7968]

No pun intended, and I know that you meant well, but God does not provide a way of mistake. In fact, the scriptures point out that God provides a way of escape during temptation. Check it out!!!

[@nonyabusiness2510]

Just curious? We know for a fact that males continue to produce semen and sperm. Just like our kidneys produce urine. So if someone isn't married are you saying they should just let this build up until what? This is actual physiology! FACT. There is also a huge amount of science to support that the build up of seminal fluid causes prostate issues. These are facts. Having such a draconian judgmental approach absent of understanding actual physiology doesn't lend you much credibility.

[@nonyabusiness2510]

no it isn't. Nowhere is sex for pleasure in a marriage condemned. @@robkrasinski6217

[@kevindavis4709]

Is it possible you never masturbate again? That’s about the only sin I struggle with each time I say I’m never doing this again I find myself doing again.

[@brisay1844]

Thank you so much for bringing this subject to us in such a delicate and forthright manner. You all managed this subject with such maturity and wisdom. I am so impressed. Thank you again.

[@toshikonakamura3945]

What about single people who’s needs must be met which God designed? Without lust for other people but just to take care of the instinct desire to physically fulfill. You guys talk about between husband and wife but you missed to talk about individuals who are not even interested in relationships nor anyone. If you must discuss it must be to touch on everyone

[@davidgeorge3135]

Im 65 years old been married 3 times have no intentions on doing it again or even being in a relationship. Struggle with this because I can feel my sexuality slipping away with age And I still feel sexual And with all you see everywhere you look it's sexualized in every direction. Been single now again for 13 years And feel it slipping away while feeling young and ready for action I know Trying to hook up just for the fact of hooking up it's wrong and is sin ,don't have any intention on playing that game. Being married doesn't solve all these problems either There are a lot of Sexless marriages. But the time you think you can control it you wake up in the morning and you've just had a dream Over the top Sexy and involved with someone That is totally erotic And now you remember what being Sexually engaged Was like And now You just can't get it out of your head till. ? Now the guilt sets in.. In this day and age With cell phones television and pornography at your fingertips Women walking around half naked I don't see how any red blooded man or woman can overcome. Bible says be in this world and not of it. And I know hes coming back soon I want to be found worthy. What a struggle

[@jonnyfrench19]

@David, If you're really saved you're worthy. Nothing can separate us from the love of God. I've noticed we ever have these deep convos about murder or theft etc; it's always about masturbating. It's odd when Scripture itself is silent. Mountains out of molehills so to speak.

[@rascal211]

@@jonnyfrench19 Because murder and theft are easy to avoid as most people don't do those things.

[@jonnyfrench19]

@@rascal211 Most sins are easy to avoid. Murder is in a unique and unpleasant class all its own. It also different consequences than other sins. I can't imagine myself being gassed or hanged for coveting my neighbours Norton 500.

[@ronaldhall2489]

Yea this is a struggle we have I am getting older and find myself single and I try not to focus on women and it has worked and makes my life less stressful

[@rascal211]

You are in a bad spot if you're single. You are almost in an impossible place to fail. And no it's not easy for everyone to just get married.

[@PennySmart]

Not really helpful. What about Paul telling young widows to remarry rather than burn? He didn't tell them to pray but to remarry, i.e. to find a legitimate way of satisfying their needs. Sexual needs are as basic as food and drink. Just as you wouldn't tell a hungry person to pray, etc., so they would not need to eat any more, you can't tell a person who has to be single (teens, divorced people, people with same sex attraction, very unattractive persons, etc.) to just pray about their needs. I think the fantasies that may or may not surround the act of masturbation are way more sinful than the physical act itself, which is basically the release of a normal physical tension.

[@RA4J]

Not sure you can say it’s the same as food. We die without food. Probably the better focus is Jesus. We go in the direction we’re focused. The Holy Spirit really does change our desires. But when we try to white knuckle things (legalism) we run into problems because then we’re trying to overcome via our own will. Rather, we humbly seek Him and He conforms as we surrender to Him, not us.

[@DavidEmailman]

Good imput and words of wisdom.

[@franklinshouse8719]

One of the things that religion does best is inflict guilt. And that is exactly what all of this is. Masturbation is a normal sexual activity. As a health care provider, I tell my patients that it is healthy and to have no guilt about it whatsoever. It is not a sin. There is no reference at all in the bible that this is a sin. It's only the guilt that is heaped on people by the church and so called "believers" that makes it a sin. 'The grief and agony that people experience because of this made up sin is horrible. There is nothing worse for a christian than pleasure. If it feels good, it must be wrong. What nonsense.

[@Pillow_rapier]

Lev 15:2

[@paulcohen6727]

I don't see maturation as a sin. I see not doing it as contrary to male physiology (I do see phonography as something to shun). Nevertheless, I had a hyper-religious girlfriend some 20 years ago who did think it was sinful to masturbate. So when she encouraged me not to do it, I agreed to try. I was successful until one evening a couple of months later when I was laying in bed on my back, not particularly thinking about anything when I suddenly experienced a spontaneous erection and the sticky stuff came out like champagne when the cork is popped . So, the moral of the story is that the seaman is going to come out of you one way or another, so; you might as well do it in the shower or bath rather than getting your sheets all sticky and have to launder them. Oh, my girlfriend, she claimed that the Lord told her to break up with me and last I heard, she was still unmarried after all these years.

[@Richie_Alpha_Rabbit69]

What an evil woman! After mywoman died igot saved and stopped all self pleasure. I still got night time release while asleep once a month. I eventually lost all interest in women and ability to get morning wood. Now I'm on testosterone and feel better I am talking to women again but feel bad I fell into porn and am going crazy like a teenager. Supposed to go away after awhile but I feelbadgoing to church.

[@paulcohen6727]

@@Richie_Alpha_Rabbit69 I don't think she was evil; she was actually quite sweet and was trying to live for God. But she had some severe emotional problems due to previous trauma after being raped and she had a difficult time trusting men and could only get so close to them before she would panic and bolt.

[@Richie_Alpha_Rabbit69]

@@paulcohen6727 Yea well unfortunately too many women lie about stuff like that and use it as an excuse to be wicked to men so I just ignore the ones who feel the need to shout from the rooftops that they have been raped so hate men now. You’d think it would be private hard to talk about subject matter but when they accuse every man of trying to rape them and shout shout being a victim I’m less inclined to believe them.. Many men are scared of women because they can just lie and say that a man raped them then tarnish the name of that said man. Not saying that’s what that woman is doing but with this whole me too stuff that’s the consequences of it.

[@Richie_Alpha_Rabbit69]

@@paulcohen6727 My neighbor said something to my mother to make her cry so I went and knocked on the door to see what was going on because she was complaining about me being noisy to my mother. She then said to the landlord when we were all talking together that I was trying to intimidate her and that she was gangr*ped so men scare her. I was already terrified of her because she was clearly crazy and I was terrified of women at the time myself because my Ex girlfriend had just killed herself and I moved back with mom. My ex would smack me tackle me all drunk and did all around evil things acting like a demon. So I stayed clear of women but this woman living above us gave me the same vibes as my girlfriend. So kinda crazy that this woman was saying I scared her . But with men we get laughed at and called misogynistic if we don’t want to be around women.

[@paulcohen6727]

@@Richie_Alpha_Rabbit69 May the Lord grant you peace, Richard.

[@paulnandico2370]

I never thought of Onan from that perspective. I always viewed him as simply not wanting to fulfill his biblical Duty

[@richardmorrow-ki8nw]

Just to share a thought, according to scripture from an overall perspective, first Corinthians six and 12 all things are Lawful but not all But not all things are expedient. For this issue leads to so many other things that is not constructive or productive spiritually productive spiritually speaking.

[@harryloibl5183]

If I can add also , we know the bible does say the flesh wars against the spirit and visa versa

[@shandiborjungai6902]

The Bible does not say whether masturbation is a sin or not. It neither prohibits nor condones masturbation.

[@zerosteel0123]

Best to try not to do it and keep praying for strength

[@Dadsezso]

I'm in a sexless marriage. My wife is absolutely not interested in sex and, is not interested in helping me with my needs in that respect. Sometimes she will try alternatives but, it is done very begrudgingly and is not worth pursuing because she is not into it at all. She absolutely will not talk to anyone about it, gets upset if I talk about it, and thinks that this is how things should be in a marriage especially since we're older now. We're both Christian and she hasn't said it but I believe her idea about sex is that it is strictly for procreation. I will not pray to change get her to change her view since I feel like that would be asking God to influence her to do something she does not want. I instead pray that God will completely remove my desire and drive for any sex whatsoever.

[@glaxayswirl2836]

You a damn good one I would've been left her she ain't meeting your needs as man.. what's the point of staying in a sexless marriage you might as well be single,...

[@Dadsezso]

@@glaxayswirl2836 No divorce in this country.

[@Dadsezso]

@Johnny Longshlong Philippines.

[@kevinpulliam8029]

I think it's ur wife responsibility to give.

[@DeniseThomson-d1p]

Can seperate for a while and come back together. Not profitable but happens . I don't think it's a salvation issue .

[@marek8734]

The word of masturbation is very weird word and better to use the sexual self-indulgence. And this is not a sin. It is not sin more than eating or drinking if it is not mastering you. You eat because you need it but also because you enjoy it. But you can over eat and ruin your health. If you are a single, you indulge yourself sometimes and it is a natural response to your natural need in the same way as your natural need to eat, but it cannot master you. Otherwise it will ruin your life in the same way as an alcoholism or overeating etc. God has given you a mind and heart to discern between the good and bad and to evaluate the fruits which come out of it. But if God somehow will tell you that you should not do it and you still do it, then it is sin. And this is only your sin because you did not listen what God has told you personally not to do. This is not sin for other people to whom God never said that.

[@stefren]

👏👏👏👏👏👏👍👍👍😍😍

[@Funkydood]

The thought process is the issue on this topic.

[@donnasullivan3983]

What about the urge? And if u think of no one when u do it, is it still a sin just because it's feels good?

[@2Sage-7Poets]

stay clean as your God is clean and holy..

[@BigDaddy-bi7kk]

Are you going to answer the question, or talk around it

[@stefren]

Bahahahaha🤣🤣🤣👏👏👏👍

[@VanessaAlexis-q8y]

1 Corinthians 10:13 🔥

[@maria2009985]

Omg what a conversation !

[@diamondfateful]

If a person masturbates they are lusting for sex, and sex without marriage is fornication, and fornication is a sin.

[@Makai77]

Truth. It really is that simple. Also, masturbation is selfish- it's self serving and self gratification. And Jesus calls us to die to self.

[@kathleenking47]

People also fornidate Instead of going out to dinner, or even a daytime date..

[@bubby9947]

I don't see how anyone can say "it's not a sin". It's lusting after someone. Your mind is NOT ON JESUS OR THE WORD OF GOD. IT'S A SELFISH ACT. IT'S IDOLATRY. You have put yourself in first place and GOD is secondary. Ask yourself this: did Jesus ever do it? He's our example or model. Your body was made by GOD. HE OWNS YOUR BODY. Ask HIM, " can I masturbate?" It's idolatry if you do. All idolaters will be in the lake of fire. PERIOD!!!!

[@a.d.c7941]

Another big topic off of this is; the fact that the body reacts sexually, as in its nature. A man has an erection many times a day. This is just nature. So, yes this has to be taken in a broad mind set of details that involve this. Another aspect is the person who gives their life to God, who was a very, very sexual person before becoming a christian. The issue with this, their body is use to that orgasm. Way more so than a lot of people who were not/are not as sexually active. The body literally becomes use to that level of orgasmic release. Now, the person is no longer sexual (hince someone that is not married) and now they are feeling the physical affects of that need to release because their body is use to it. This is a real issue that cannot be fixed by mans opinions or ideologies and opinions. This is something that has to be directed personally to God. She is right by saying pray. Prayer and fasting. God has to become more than rules. More than to sin or not to sin. If there is no personal relationship with God, your personal issues will only be dealt with by yourself.

[@josephrobi6806]

Good knowledge. And yes the sin is the mind set or looking at something that provoked. Reading 1 Corinthians 7:1-14 it said it is normal to get urge. Without looking , thinking at something. It comes naturally because the body produces and that is why Paul said get married. Paul never called masturbation a sin but an urge. Burning, heat, sex drive. Totally normal nothing wrong with that. The problem is to find a wife not that easy. 😮 But assuming that they are not able to exercise self- control in the realm of the continent life, let them marry, ...than to continue to burn [With the heat of sexual passion].

[@GotChrist60]

So true...

[@MsQ275]

also, finding a godly husband in a completely pornified society is next to impossible

[@BrotherInChrist]

Hi Joseph... I want to gently confront your statement, "Paul never called masturbation a sin but an urge." My motive is to encourage you, brother, and I am also praying for you, and for those who struggle with lust. I believe Paul is referring to sexual desire, not masturbation. Masturbation is one of many forms of sexual immorality. Our union with Christ changes the inner man, and while we all have various sin struggles after our born-again experience, we have to call out sin, confess, and repent (daily if necessary)-rejecting and renouncing any ungodly beliefs, actions, and attitudes, and coming into agreement with the Word of God. God's design for sex is only between a man and woman, in the covenant of marriage. Also... Biblically there are four ways to view a woman: 1. 1. As a mother figure The Bible exhorts us to encourage older women as we would our mothers; God commands us to respect and honor our mothers. [1 Timothy 5:2, John 19:26-27, Leviticus 19:3, Deuteronomy 5:16] 2. As a sister figure With regard to women who are not old enough to be your mother, along with maturing girls (Cultural Note: According to Jewish law, when Jewish girls become 12 years old, they become accountable for their actions and become a bar mitzvah), we are to encourage as sisters. We are to love and honor our sisters. We are to be kind, tenderhearted, and forgiving. And view them in all purity-Leviticus 18 commands us not to uncover the nakedness of a sister. [1 Timothy 5:2, Romans 12:10, Ephesians 4:32, Leviticus 18:9] 3. As a daughter figure In these current times of accelerating darkness and depravity, we are to maintain a high level of awareness when it comes to protecting children. Children are a blessing and a reward from God, do not despise them. Grand-children are a crown to the aged. [Psalm 82:4, Matthew 18:6, Psalm 127:3-5, Matthew 18:10, Proverbs 17:6] 4. As a wife or potential wife The Bible says that the woman is the glory of a man. We become one-flesh with our wives before God; therefore, this is to be the most intimate relationship, spiritually and physically, in your life. We are to live with our wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel and love them as Christ loves the church (sacrificial love). A husband is not to deprive his wife of her conjugal rights. He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord, and we are called to love our wives as our own bodies. [1 Corinthians 11:7, Mark 10:8, 1 Peter 3:7, Ephesians 5:25, 1 Corinthians 7:5, Proverbs 18:22, Ephesians 5:28] A Final Thought - Holy Spirit has shown me that if I am not proactively viewing others through the lenses of truth and love, the enemy has an abundance of opportunities to tempt me into sin-especially when I am driving in traffic! It is important to make a practice of thanking God for the precious souls in my perimeter, as they cross my path. There are many times that I find myself, not only proclaiming truth in my mind as I walk through market places or public spaces, but asking Father God to bless the souls around me: “Father, I thank you for this soul you created, and I pray that you draw him today to Christ Jesus and that you would bless him and overwhelm his heart with Your love and truth.” Frequently God puts specific individuals or families on my heart to intercede: “Father, thank you for putting this soul on my heart. I ask You to lead me into intercession for her and her family. I ask you to give her a heart to trust in You above all things. I pray that she would be set free by truth and that your Word would crush any false beliefs that allow lies to operate in her life. And that her value, her worthiness, her identity comes from You, God.” I need to make a critical point here-if I am not regularly spending time with my heavenly Father it is impossible to sustain a proactive heart for souls. As I spend time with God, I tug on His heart strings, “please Father, let me see people through Your eyes today.” And if you have a hard time believing who God says you are you will not be able to receive God’s love and pour it out to others. I encourage you to confess sonship before your Father. Thank Him for forgiveness, redemption, healing and deliverance in Christ Jesus. Thank Him for loving you with an everlasting love. Confess that He is the Lover of your soul and thank Him for new mercies every day and overcoming grace. Praise Him for being faithful. Brothers and sisters, His love is for you.

[@BrotherInChrist]

One more comment. Please excuse my bluntness. When a man views a woman as the object of his lust, he is objectifying her-in other words, he is not viewing her as a precious soul created for God's glory, made in the image of God. The fruit: A man viewing a woman as the object of his lust will treat her one way (superficial, with deception), and after he has fantasized in the act of masturbation, his behavior toward her changes, frequently toward disinterest and dishonor, because he has objectified her-her value exists only as an object for pleasure. Thoughts?

[@Zevelyon]

@@MsQ275 It's ungodly to dismiss a man as a potential husband without attempting to convince him of the Gospel.

[@PacificN.W.]

James says to confess your faults to one another perhaps not details, i.e., lust is a fault. Explicits can cause others to stumble in judgeing within themselves and future fellowship issues and tale bearing.

[@saraporter9944]

"Touch not the unclean thing, and I will receive you"

[@francescooper3578]

Widows Fire? It says for younger widows to remarry but older widows that don’t want to remarry. They had a wonderful marriage. So I am not to think about my husband to resist temptation. That is wrong not to think of my husband and in a loving way. How can this be wrong.

[@mikeyates7931]

In my opinion - and please , tell me if you agree - if someone is married and they're masturbating on the side , that's wrong - but if you are a widow or widower missing your beloved spouse - or one who has never been married tending to their needs , there is no sin....

[@km4hr]

Lust is clearly a sin. Masturbation can terminate those thoughts. So in a sense masturbation is a way to get physical desire out of the way so the mind can get back to more wholesome thoughts. I think it was Paul that said it's best to remain single, but if you can't control your urges then it's better to get married. Masturbation seems to fall into that category as an imperfect way to stop lust, especially for those who find marriage illusive.

[@Gustavo-oo1kh]

​@christsavesreadromans1096justify your answer

[@amorrow1983]

There were soooo many, “That’s what she said,” moments. But seriously, great video ya’ll!

[@IAMJOELBURRIS]

😆

[@KarenBrookhouse]

I agree you need to keep thoughts clean, but you shouldn't put shame, many people are able to do this with our doing this. Vibrator for example.

[@fredrickmatt640]

Thank you all, I know now there's hope for us not just me or I. I struggled with this, long story short, my wife suffered 3heart attacks and before hand we agreed to not to have sex until married, been together going on 14 years still no marriage license however it's really hard and knowing it'll get easier as time goes by, I really needed to hear this. God bless

[@henrywilliam7008]

Great discussion by the three of you experts on this subject spiritually dealing with the issue.

[@chrisjohnson3383]

HOW ARE THEY EXPERTS ????????????????????????????????????????????

[@jlvetor123]

I agree with Jeff and Gwen on much of their opinions. I do feel under some circumstances it would be a sin. As for marriage and enjoying it together is one of the most enjoyable times we spend together. Then comes sickness or other times we can’t come together but the need is there. If Masturbation is used thinking of someone other then your spouse that would be a sin. Your heart and mind determines this.

[@eugenefrankmd5433]

Best keep your moral constrictions to yourself and your own self-punishment.Too little knowledge in an arrogant guy is deadly.

[@richardsoderkvist6383]

Thankyou for this video thank God its very possitive and very encouraging.en

[@jimyost2585]

The Bible doesn't say anything about masturbation. Onan's sin was greed in that he didn't want to share his son's inheritance with his sister-in-law's offspring. Onan's sin had nothing to do with masturbation. Jesus never once commented on sexual sin, but he came down hard on religious sin.

[@JustKJ109]

Jesus never mentioned sexual sin?? What bible did u read?? Are all the pages in the gospels there??

[@antoniobarreto3960]

I have had this question asked by men who trust me and I quickly answered them with a question, do you use porn to excite your senses and if you are single and intend on staying single then you need to ask yourself how do you feel after you have finished, guilty or relieved,if the bible doesn't talk about it it's because it is a judgement call, every case is different there's no one size fits all

[@josephdipietro9155]

Once Woody Allen once said in one of his movies there's nothing wrong on masturbation because it's making love with someone that I love.

[@JustKJ109]

He's stuck on himself

[@max-nm6qx]

"CREATE IN ME A CLEAN HEART OH GOD AND REBEW A RIGHT SPIRIT WITHIN ME "PSALMS 51V10 THANK YOU SO MUCH LORD JESUS 💓 💖 ❤

[@AskRemy]

I am surprised this Brand would fail miserably on this subject. 1) God never intended to make man and woman. God made man in their image and told Adam to select an animal for a helper. 2) Adam found no suitable helper 3) God made woman - then we go to 4) God prefers us to be single so we focus on Him instead of splitting our attention between woman and Him 5)God never sets masturbation to be a sin because it is not - (I forget the verse) but there is a verse that says something to the effect to not worry about things that are unknown (in the context we were not told) - equally God does not punish people unjustly - masturbation is a healthy act. So if you create an image in your head to reach this release - there is no issue. For a man it is a strenuous position to not release - so then how can you remain single and not sin? Also marriage is allowed under strict conditions to avoid entering into sin. This entire video is an issue of interpretation by extrapolating and conflating. No - it is not a sin. There is nothing anyone can point to in the Bible to claim it is without putting their own spin on it.

[@NewCreationInChrist896]

It’s lust and anytime there is sin there is an unclean spirit of the devil. Flee physically and mentally from the lustful temptation’s of the enemy. Proverbs 3:5-6

[@kingjohn3480]

I struggle with this sin lord forgive me

[@warren6790]

Leviticus 15:16 answers this question after you figure out how it got out of him in the first place, wet dreams are not common among men unless their fighting what comes natural to them, if that helps

[@jackaustin3576]

Maturation was not condemned when he spilled it on the ground....His sin was not obeying God by not going into the woman and not obeying God ....

[@carllatta871]

I'm 63 yrs. old, I wanted and searched for a wife since I was 17 yrs. old. God never let me find that special person. I have been alone my whole life and I'm still alone. Why has God not let me have that special connection with a woman. I know the holy sprit is with me and I know I have not fallen so far down in sin that I shouldn't have received the same gifts and blessings of marriage and family as others I know. I don't watch porn or any of that stuff. I just want to know why GOD has not let me share my life with another. Why do I have to be alone when everyone else I know has someone ?.

[@mikeyates7931]

I too am alone , brother : I fell madly in love with a girl named , Chantelle when I was a teenager ; we had one summer together and then she walked out of my life with no warning , no explanation and no goodbye - I then spent the next 18 years of my life caring for my ailing mother following the death of my father - now I'm 46 years old and I know that I will die alone and unmourned - I have long felt that rather than being a sin , masturbation and porn have been a blessing to me from , GOD to ease my pain and lessen my burden - but what do I know ?

[@rustyjohnson9558]

What if there is no chance of ever having a partner? Like the "invisible " men that women just look straight past and won't even make eye contact with in any setting?

[@PacificN.W.]

As i have heard it the clearer motive for Onan's death was him not fulfilling his obligation to raise up an offspringthrough his dead brothers wife. Whether Onan had the motive of seed spilling before engaging with her or thinking to continue a sexual relationship with her is speculation. Yet he did want to have her and she was either compliant for the sake of the law or...is all a matter of speculation also. Poligamy WAS forbidden. Not to multiply wives is a clear teaching. Please explain if you think and believe otherwise.

[@JustKJ109]

Good content on your comment

[@JustKJ109]

I think he pre-planned to spill his seed on the ground. He didn't want to marry her. I knew alot of women I'd never marry but would be willing to be promiscuous with. It's hard very hard to find anyone that the mutual desire is right to marry for me it seems.

[@markdiblasi7871]

Check out Leviticus chapter 15

[@SteveSmith-hh2ni]

It goes back and forth on the subject

[@Asgard2208]

God designed sex and marriage to go together: but what if you're married and there's no sex? As Christians divorce isn't an option, so how do those who live (and suffer) through this deal with the physical and emotional struggle it brings?

[@ddms6195]

Is masturbation a sin, if it’s not done with lust in your heart and it is only done for self gratification; due to the fact that the spouse is no longer able to engage in physical sexual activity.

[@DeniseThomson-d1p]

​@@HaroldZwingleysufficient not insufficient.

[@JohnNozum]

This was EXTREMELY INTERESTING! Analyzing scripture and your podcast, I can see where masturbation in conjunction with looking at pornography is a problem. Furthermore, studies seem to show harmful effects here. I like how you addressed loneliness. I wonder about people who are UNABLE to get a suitable spouse, such as due to disability or disfigurements that can cause people to shy away. I am aware of masturbation even when porn is not even in the picture, so to speak. Such may be more prevalent in people with autism spectrum disorders or people who just have traits of it. For some of these people, they don't even have to look at porn or anything that's normally considered to be of a sexual nature. In some people, even seat belts or safety straps on an operating table can cause a sexual arousal, along with certain materials, such as plastic, latex, and/or whatever. Some of these people can be SUICIDALLY LONELY, sometimes through no fault of their own, especially if they have outward birth defects that can shy people away. Anyway, may God's peace be with ye all--in the name of Jesus!

[@bjones8236]

If they are turned on by a seat belt I’m going to guess there might demonic oppression going on. Something happened for that to be apart of their soul

[@christineraphael3811]

I don't usually go seeking out channels like this one, but saw it on my YT page. I knew what the outcome would be on the subject of masturbation, and guessed it would end up being peppered with the 'sin' word. So, it is okay to 'indulge' in shared intimate matters within a marriage, providing the sexual passion is kept low? Of course we must practice heterosexual sex within a marriage, not even daring to consider any other form of adult sexual or solo indulgence (I am being totally ironic here). Interesting that the Bible doesn't mention masturbation. There is much guilt and suffering caused by the church's attitude of what is basically natural, so often causing something to become twisted and perverted. I did not feel there was much enlightenment in this YT discussion. Something also very disturbing indeed is the Bible's lack of mention on the abuse of certain vulnerables in society.

[@PeaceFan1]

BUT the BIBLE DOES talk about "IMPURITY" to AVOID It and people who indulge in it will not Inherit the Kingdom of GOD...Yes?! Would M be included in Impurity?!

[@PennySmart]

To my mind, not if sexual fantasies involving other people are not present. Where's the impurity? It's just a physical release

[@beakfish7319]

@@PennySmart honest question; what if its to pictures of your wife? Like when you cant be together in that way?

[@benjaminhenry5869]

@beakfish7319 I used to think that once I got married I wouldn't have to be considered about avoiding M as I would have my wife to think about. Talking with a married friend I gained the prospective that M might result in me pursuing my wife less, and or not ensuring her needs are equally met. I imagine that depends on the person's, however it was a useful perspective and I guess I won't know if it's relevant to me while I'm single. Another married friend told me that he found he was more selfish overall when he would M. I'm not sure how that had the result in him that it did, but interesting data.

[@scpanther85]

I think the whole transition from adolescence to adulthood has a lot to say about God’s design for us as it is the natural biological change occurring to ready the person for reproduction. Many young men and even adults go through periods of sleep orgasm (wet dreams) of which they have no control. The problem, I believe, is when we connect natural function to obsessive and addictive lustful behavior. That is when we allow unhealthy desires and temptation to guide our thoughts and actions to the point that it becomes an act of self worship (as most temptations are designed to feed our desire for pleasure, comfort, attractiveness, and acceptance).

[@Crabtree1844]

Lust is a sin. Gratifying lust is sinful. Secret vice cause many health problems--mental illness, lower back problems, eye sight issues, ....etc.

[@debbielemons1576]

What about 2 Timothy...lovers of self, pleasure for self?

[@tsamichuzyme2658]

Very helpful 👍

[@Rhodietoo]

Unfortunately, all my books are in storage at present, but I remember Dr James Dobson covering this subject, probably in the 1980's with similar conclusions to your panel.

[@SpecialKS]

So what I'm hearing from the woman is mastuerbation is a sin and the other man is saying it's just not as simple as yes or no... Sin is sin and the Bible does not name this as sin but it says gluttony is a sin and over half the country is obese, but we want to excuse that sin. Trust God and listen to the Holy Spirit and stop feeling guilty.

[@freedom.families]

I think, the answer isn't in that, the Genesis 38... Exactly but, I think it's in really considering what Jesus commands us at Matthew 5:27-28. 'You shall not commit adultery;' 28 but I tell you that everyone who gazes at a. woman to lust after her has committed. adultery with her already in his heart.' Since masturbation can't be done with the use of imagination of someone else whether real, in-person visually or imagined. That thought outside of the marriage setting, he classifies as adultery also. The key isn't to be all caught up in the shame and guilt cos we all imperfect but when eventually come from a place of understanding and more aligned so we can be in right standing before our sovereign King, the LORD God, Jesus Christ his perfect image he created us to be in likeness of, so we can represent him as true images here on earth, he naturally weans us and we eventually overcome that. And as your rightly said, the conditioning it does to us, our brains and our body and the aftermath even on our endurance, both physical and spiritual, our ability to discipline ourselves to wait, our ability to be in control, overcome our minds and not our minds and feelings or be at the mercy of our desires, etc is something God in his infinite wisdom foresees and tells us in advance so we don't fall into that trap of depending more on it because we can't get enough eventually. He even told the Jews in leviticus of what the inhabitants of the land he was giving to them did that defiled the land and it evicted them. All because our inability to have self control over our desires and feelings can lead us pretty bad off track, when we do not get a firm grip on it and be in alignment with Truth, God's view, perspective or law by his word based on how highly he views us a royals and trains us on how to live up to that high standard in his kingdom as kings and queens.

[@freedom.families]

Rightfully said. It takes us back to the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. Would we trust in God and wait for the right time or we'd see figuratively the woman as the tree whether imagined or real or that thought and it appearing to be pleasant to the eyes and appears to fulfill that innate desire or need in the moment, which for Adam(man - both of them) contracts how God designed and intended them to gain wisdom through trusting him and the everyday life process and experiences he'd give them vs the instant one the tree promises, just as he designed for marriage and the purpose of connection, than we would choosing the instant pleasure now, when we are faced with that same tree figuratively - sexual desire, which God only ordained for the context, boundary and purpose of marriage.

[@CharlieCampbell-rl2uk]

If a man is not married, or even he may not consider himself suitable to be a life partner, he has to get relief from a build up of chemicals by being alive, there has to be a relief somehow.

[@Truth_Matt3rs]

Get married if you must lust. That's God's way according to the Apostle Paul.

[@frankpolizzano3932]

Masturbation is a need to for release: ok not everybody wants a partner . Especially if you have been married for a while, and their partner has deceased or divorced. I don't believe it is sinful . I think people should grow up and realize it's not a perfect world and we are human after all

[@klamb9]

If porn is the wrong way to meet your God-given sexual needs, then what is the right way? There are a lot of situations where a spouse is not available such as youth, a sexless marriage, medical issues, etc. A man has a God-given need for frequent releases - how is he to do this when he cannot turn to marriage?

[@garydean777]

Wow. This topic certainly does not inspire Christian or loving responses from some if the comments are anything to go by. If anything it inspires harsh denunciations by those who see the practice as evil or any sexual feelings outside marraige as evil. These topics need to be handled prayerfully & lovingly, not with a pharisaical spirit of denunciation & selfrighteousness. That the other extreme.

[@shandiborjungai6902]

This is what the Bible say about masturbation: Leviticus 15 [NIV] [ 16] “‘When a man has an emission of semen, he must bathe his whole body with water, and he will be unclean till evening. [ 17] Any clothing or leather that has semen on it must be washed with water, and it will be unclean till evening. No sin offering was required for emission of semen. Since no sin offering was required, then it is not a sin.

[@theboydiego5528]

old testetment law no longer applies to us

[@shandiborjungai6902]

@@theboydiego5528 but is it sinful?

[@theboydiego5528]

@@shandiborjungai6902 No, one of the laws in the old testement says "No Shaving the Beard in Certain Ways (Leviticus 19:27)" which obviously doesnt apply to us today, in the same way us having to clean ourselves (and seen as filth till evening) after a wet dream, we dont count it as a sin. is maturbation a sin? yes. wet dreams? no. need proof? Romans 13:14, James 1:13-14, and best for last Matthew 5:30

[@trevorlageson5122]

Nope, not a sin. Peace be with you

[@nonyabusiness2510]

based on what authority? Yours?

[@mikeyates7931]

Peace be with you , my fellow Christian ❤️✝️❤️

[@Chrysler1961]

Read James 1 : 14 - 15

[@doveleboeuf6625]

Usually theres fantasies that go along with masturbation!! I feel like its a sin!! I've been alone about 22 yrs. And have not had the desire to masturbate. Sex is meant for marriage because when ppl have sex they're souls become one!!

[@doveleboeuf6625]

To stop it you pray alot!! Ask God to help you with calming the desires of your mind and body so that you don't have those thoughts!! Rebuke satan when you have these thoughts in the name of Jesus, because just hearing Jesus' name he cowers in fear!! Theres only one unforgivable sin and thats blaspheming the Holyghost. So if you become weak and make this mistake, ask for forgiveness!!

[@nonyabusiness2510]

masturbation is not sex.

[@innocentodenigbo7284]

That's fantastic!!!!

[@lydiamesfin2139]

how can this good feeling Is bad for a Christian? Because I am a Christian and I made myself feel good so good.

[@beaberean3842]

I think it falls into the catagory of sex outside of marriage/adultery. It's still sex. Even though it's with yourself.

[@jonnyfrench19]

That's illogical. Masturbation is nothing to do with sex; sex involves 2 - or more - people. How on earth can you have sex with yourself? Impossible.

[@robkrasinski6217]

It's not sex, but it is like the act of sex without a woman. There are sex dolls you can buy on ebay to have "sex" with.

[@jonnyfrench19]

@@robkrasinski6217 I don't think any of the Biblical writers had plastic dolls in mind as an alternative to real sex when they were writing - or rather not writing - about masturbating.😂

[@jonnyfrench19]

@Nicholas TV As it's 23:35 here now, I'm preparing for bed.

[@Truth_Matt3rs]

@@jonnyfrench19 When Jesus Christ gave a warning not to do something, He knew everything about the future (since Jesus was God in human form (John 1:1-3,14), and what would tempt people to masturbate, or lust.

[@efandmk3382]

The only thing in the Bible that is used to say that masturbation is a sin, is the OT story of Onan. God told Onan to go to his dead brother's wife and impregnate her, so his brother would have offspring. Onan went to his sister in law and had intercourse with her, pulling out before he ejaculated because he didn't WANT to impregnate her. That isn't a "masturbation is bad" story. It's a "disobeying God is bad" story. There is no Biblical prohibition of masturbation.

[@stefren]

Real Talk👍. No time wasting and beating the bush around👏👏👏

[@sauf-bruder1931]

What about Lev 15:16-17?

[@warren6790]

Here's the problem you're dealing with, it's a lack of knowledge concerning the law and not being able to distinguish what God sees as sin and what man sees as sin, if you don't know the law nor understand it, your going to think it's a sin, your thinking what your eyes see and how you think is a sin not understanding these things as being things that can cause you to sin, there is nothing your eyes can see that's sin but could cause you to sin, this is what Jesus was talking about when He said if your eye causes you to sin, pluck it out, the sin would be committing adultery, rape,incest, sex with a animal, man sex with another man, taking things beyond what's written causes doubt, not relying on the word of God and relying on man to direct you will lead you to become a slave to sin but its only what men call sin and you can't tell the difference, so you have guilt doing what's good to you that will never cause you to sin against God, it's an assumption that the word says, there's a way that seems right to man but the end is death, the death is the guilt that separates you from God, it's a spiritual death , not a physical death, your eyes, your hands, whatever it may be, if it can cause you to sin, pluck it out or cut it off, sinning against God is breaking His law. If your single and not a child, the law doesn't forbid you having sex with another single person, Lev 15:16-24 will show you this, the laws that pertain to children and married people are different from laws that pertain to single men and women, lust is a evil desire, not every desire is evil, especially when it comes to what God made that brings a man and woman together because He's seeking children, in this you also are lacking knowledge, religion has so many messed up from people that don't study but make assumptions as to what sin is to them, deceiving the simple minded and those with a weak conscience, the truth will set you free but only if you know it, if you believe it to be sin then for YOU it is sin, Jesus said His commandments are not hard, if what your believing is hard, and you know following this false teaching is hard and for many, impossible, your following the wrong Jesus