What every woman needs to know about perimenopause and the menopause

[@8165Pat]

This is so helpful! I am going through this at age 54. Still having regular periods, but lots of the other symptoms, as well. I am in a brand new marriage of 3 years & my husband supports the changes I'm going through. I cannot take hormones. Breast cancer runs in my family & that is not advised for me. I accept & welcome this process & am so glad to be close to menopause. I have a good therapist & my husband is a Pastor & counsels me, as well. God bless him! The man is a Saint!

[@user-cu3xn4xj3i]

Yes! God bless you and your husband ❤️ My husband is a blessing and have always been supportive of my change. We've been married seven years.❤️🙏

[@ushadyal7838]

Ur lucky indeed to have a saint!

[@MrTheomighty1]

I’m after some insight, I’m a guy and I want to support my partner who is nearly 49, I noticed a change in her 2 months ago we’ve been together for 16 months and as of last Thursday she asked for a break so instead of being your typical bloke and doing the begging and pleading I agreed with the break. We did 4 days of not talking and today she told me she has a drs appointment next week she’s going for a blood test and to talk about her symptoms and she mentioned getting her hormones back on track and I have waited for her to reach out to me rather than me bring it up. We don’t live together but I want her to know I’ll support her all the way through, so please from a guy to a lady what can I do to help her

[@allisonbisset7318]

I hope you managed to resolve this, many long term relationships have broken down simply due to a woman not being given the medication needed.

[@pippaDlightful]

​@@allisonbisset7318 It's not all about Medication. It's about fasting. Getting a Dutch test. Changing your diet. Exercise. A slower lifestyle. Women's bodies are amazing.. but you need to change to help the body through change.

[@pippaDlightful]

I hope you're still going strong and your partner is happier 💛

[@TonyaA7]

​@@pippaDlightful what is a Dutch test?

[@AKBringerofLight]

I'm late 45yrs old and I was just told I'm too young to have perimenopause by my Dr. He was so unhelpful, wouldn't hear me out and said they'd said a message to some menopause advice place but doesn't think they'll help... 🤷🏻‍♀️ What the actual! I cover SO many symptoms that have been building over the years.

[@StrawberryDaquiris]

I've had the same, even though I've struggled with all symptoms plus insomnia since 40's. Doctor put me on antidepressants due to anxiety attacks. She said I was too young to be going through menopause. Blood tests came back as normal. I feel dreadful everyday.

[@annatevesbanzon1359]

My obgyn told me pre pandemic that I have another decade before menopause. Now that I'm dieting and exercising, my period almost non existent. I'm not pregnant so I'm going to assume perimenopausing till I see my doctor. I'm in my 40s.

[@kellyelrington5663]

45 is not too young. Peri can go on for yearrrrrs before we actually hit menopause. I am now 49 and I am sure I have been in peri for 5yrs already. Your body knows. I just wish my body knew to curb the rage, the crying, the impatience and the anxiety that comes with it (well for me it does).

[@deerecluse876]

This video should have went viral. Show's nobody cares until the crisis happens especially doctors! That's what's wrong with the world!

[@keylanistyles]

Why is this so hard to solve in the 21st Century? It’s 2022!! And women are still suffering from this! We have to do more and I’m so glad that these women are talking about it and sharing their knowledge.

[@extremeresponsibility]

With my wife I'm seeing 1st hand how much confusion there is is about this predictable event. Once again women/people don't talk about the life cycle. Instead they hold on to a Forever Young fantasy. Of course until reality sets in.

[@alicelovescats888]

That just confused me even more

[@extremeresponsibility]

Given that this is a major transition for many women and their families,this conversation would be even more useful if it included how it impacts their husbands and adult children. Plus a few behavioral guidelines for everyone to do better.

[@kirstyanderson1062]

I have been back and fro to the doctors with concerns over perimenopause for 3 years, my hair was falling out low energy levels and mood swings, flushes and brain fog. I was prescribed folic acid and that was it. I went back later and was told the mirena coil I have had for over 10 years would protect me. I am now at my wits end, it is affecting every part of my life, I had to leave my very successful job as a branch manager as I couldn't cope. I work part time now but recently my symptoms have got quite severe, sleepless nights, agitation, severe joint pain, anxiety, brain fog. The list goes on I'm at my wits end. The impact this has on my family and me is immense. I have an appointment in 2 weeks with a doctor and I'm petrified that I still won't get taken seriously, it's so bad that thoughts of ending it all have crossed my mind. I don't want to die but I can't cope with this anymore and the more the gp dismiss how I'm feeling the more it's affecting my mental health as I feel like I'm going coockoo. Any tips on how to approach this appointment would be gratefully appreciated. I don't think I can cope with another consult coming out feeling no-one is listening and I'm gona have to go another 3 years of just 'sucking it up".

[@jeanine945]

🙏🏼

[@kirstyanderson1062]

Finally a gp that listened, I've been on hrt now for 3 months and my life has dramatically changed, it's surprising how one little patch can make such a difference. If I can give any little bit of advice it is that no matter what keep at your gp you know your own body trust what it's telling you. I won't get back those three years of suffering but I can live everyday to the best of my ability. Ladies don't suffer in silence 🥰

[@amytrumbull156]

Put your foot down and insist they give you hrt…tell them you’ll file complaints to the board or whatever if they won’t do it. You matter damn it! Demand they help you!

[@matildamaher1505]

So sorry, hope your symptoms gets better

[@kirstyanderson1062]

@@matildamaher1505 They have improved so much, still get a few little symtoms but they are bearable the hrt patches have transformed me, I am on quite a strong dose if patches now alongside the coil but, thinking back to how I felt before makes me feel really sad, I'm so glad I kept up with the persistence with the doctor 🥰

[@extremeresponsibility]

What about involving men and the adult children in this discussion who have to go through the wife's behavior changes and emotional instability?

[@madeleinewinterdown3256]

Good idea

[@jillreilly3474]

Wow, ive just realised i could probably say im im going through the perimenopause, i have been maybe for nearly 2 years, for 7 to 10 days before my period is horrible my anxiety is bad my mood is so low never want to i leave my house and no sex drive at all, a few days after i get my period all these symptoms disappear then im back to being super optimistic and just back to been my super happy self again. I really dread basically this every month now it really interferes with my life now, my husband understands but don't like keep talking about it to him because im annoying myself like a broken record so i just keep it to myself as i don't no enough about it so this video is so helpful. Thank you ladies💖💖💖💖

[@viewsbyshawnee]

Finally someone who going through how I’m feel! Yeah it’s been about 2 years for me as well! I also have heavier bleed the first 2 days

[@grace22267]

I cannot thankyou enough for making this information available. I went on the site and consulted the symptom checker sheet and realized I was experiencing almost all of the symptoms. I will complete 40 in a few months. God bless you all!

[@traceyannsteele]

Last period two weeks early this period week late , palpitations hot sweats , feeling tearful fed up with life , don’t want to do hrt tying to do this naturally, but I’m so sad

[@mariapizarrosath8147]

Thank you so much for this video, I’m recently struggling with my changes, and felt I had nobody to talk to about it, recently made an appointment with the doctor to talk about my period changes my emotional changes and my physical changes and I didn’t know how to talk to her about it, and this helped me, also to learn about HRT because all I know is that it can be bad for you, and risk of cancers ect but you explained otherwise! Thank you

[@Godisfirst21]

It's NOT mostly a natural process. It IS a natural process. I don't take a thing....except the off joint (cannabis) when I can't sleep. Yes, it has been rocking my world. I've dealt with depression and feeling suicidal. I would compare it to puberty. That was MUCH harder because I had to go to school. At 50, I am able to cope much better. I missed my periods for 4 months and felt AMAZING and I didn't mind the hot flashes. Then my period came back and that's when it ROCKS me again. Hang in there sista!

[@sallyannefoster2560]

What a wonderful ly enlightening chat ladies. Thank you all for drilling down deep with this subject. You are all amazing and I would never have seen this had it not been for missing the much talked about Ch 4 documentary with Davina this week. My intrigue got me here. I will share this with my community.

[@thetavarezsagahappinessand1614]

Really great conversation. I wish more ladies would get involved & share their journey. I was diagnosed with PMSD. My chronic emotional roller coaster ride prior to my menstrual cycle, especially chronic manic symptoms 2-4 days before a period. So manic that I’m afraid of my own self, a feeling of rage, anger & sensitivity, it’s awful. I’ve been on many anti-depressant, none of which has helped. I have Hashimoto which causes me to high sensitivity to meds as it is. The U.S.A. push meds like candy, no one wants to talk about alternatives & root cause. Again, normal periods, you’re fine, just depressed. How can someone be depressed only 2 wks out of the month? Drs need to be sued for causing pain & suffering bc many of us are talking & no one listens. This is serious & we can be a danger to ourselves & others. I’ll def look into HRT. Thank you all!

[@valeriekelley4393]

I feel like I want to jump out of my skin right now... SMH. Does this EVER end? Will there be a finish line (other than death) in sight?

[@chez9831]

Thank you so much for this video, I haven’t felt right this last few months but put it down to stress as at 39 I thought I was too young to be in peri, today your video helped me realise that actually I could be peri menopausal. I have been having intense anxiety, brain fog, joint pains, dry skin, hair loss, low libido and I think I have experienced a hot flash. My periods are much lighter then usual and a bit closer together. Also with some cycles my periods are a bit weird where the bleeding will start, then stop for a day and then start again! Is that supposed to happen in peri?

[@StrawberryDaquiris]

I would say that you are. I've had all those symptoms plus insomnia since early 40's. Recently had a blood test to check hormones and it came back normal even though I feel dreadful everyday, so bad a few months ago I had a huge anxiety/anger attack that has left me numb on my left side. I am back on antidepressants for anxiety and not being able go sleep. It's hormones but I'm considered "too young to be going through menopause" by my GP. I will have another blood test in a few months when I'm 47. I feel like I can't function everyday It's really horrible.

[@tagyourit7680]

Hi. I'm a menopausal woman in America. I've learned so much from your video. I've been going to my OB for yrs. Telling her I thought I was getting menopausal. She brushed me off. Flash forward til now.........I figured it out myself. And not only am I in full blown menopause, I've had Covid 2 times. At 1 point, I came to terms that I probably wouldn't see much more of my future. I sought help and no one could help. For 14 ongoing months, I've been so ill & just recently my husband & I figured it out. Im since getting better but still there is no one to help me. I'm going on EO, supplements, & herbs.

[@loswife6233]

May I ask, what is your age? Your story reminds me of myself so much.

[@tagyourit7680]

I'm 48........48 glorious years old🌹

[@loswife6233]

Thank you so much. I am 38 which seems young for my symptoms but I feel like you describe. I have also had covid twice as well.

[@tagyourit7680]

I had a partial hysterectomy at 30.( still have both ovaries)

[@mistymorris5677]

Your story is familiar. I located a menopause specialist near me by going to The North American Menopause Society. HRT has been wonderful for me.

[@charlenewilley6481]

I'm 42 and have been on HRT since 35 after having the worst time of my life and feeling suicidal. Professor studd listened to me and diagnosed PMDD, Also osteopenia. HRT changed my life for the better, I wouldn't want to go down that dark hole again. Now my sister at 39 is having a hard time and I want her to get help to feel happy and stable instead of crying and feeling not like herself. Unfortunately my GPs don't have a clue about hormones, I was offered antidepressants first but I knew it was my body messing with my mind.

[@claudiateixeira3406]

Nobody speaks about perimenopause. Its like denial. Society wants young reproductive woman. Woman internelize this and try to deny it. Very few woman admit it. Celebreties having babies at 50 ,sexy young girls pic on social media etc do not help to brong this subject up. To admit reproductive decline is to no longer be seen. Woman only see the menopause as a 1 year situation and not as a long life process of hormonal decline.

[@viewsbyshawnee]

I agree, it just seems like I’m the only one. I hear no other celebrities mention or even look like how I feel. Also, I’m tired of the talk “hot flash” like this is the only symptom - no there’s more. I can handle the flashes! I just changed my diet 6 days ago and I’m feel slight better so far !!!

[@pasqualinapoppa2216]

I lost my partner and haven’t had love in my life for years I have felt so lonely 😭

[@ckcnj9175]

OMG! Where has this been? This information is going to change my life.

[@FamilyFourExplore]

This was so helpful. Every woman needs to see this and take charge of their health x

[@cerenbakircioglu6529]

Thank you so much! It has been inspirational and eye opening, showing me I knew almost nothing. Thank you so much!

[@rochellegibson6513]

I’m so happy that I came across this!!!🙏🏾💙Such an interesting and insightful discussion!!!

[@MartaMajZumba]

Excellent session, very informative and encouraging. Thank you very much for this.

[@deemac9263]

This was great, so much bad information out there from people who have no expertise or indeed experience, especially on social media which can be damaging to women’s health. Thank you

[@nooks12]

All of those risks of menopause were not discussed in the context of diet. What happens when a woman fasts or eats very low carb? When not menopausal, these lifestyle factors will lower risk of diabetes, obesity, CVD, and dementia. So, good chance fasting and low carb will help after menopause as well.

[@laurenf9483]

Thank you for this enlightening and informative discussion. I myself am just starting out in my perimenopausal journey. I thought I was suffering with anxiety and depression, having palpitations amongst other symptoms... I now realise I need to seek support for treatment options. Thank you 😊

[@dulcekguerrero]

If you don’t mind me asking what kind of heart palpitations are you having? I’m 39 and am dealing with what feels like my heart is skipping. It’s so scary. I hope you are feeling better.

[@laurenf9483]

@@dulcekguerrero I ended up having a 24 hour ECG. It showed I have regular ventricular ectopics (the bottom chambers of the heart doing a big beat). The amount I get is nothing to worry about and I am unconcerned by it. There is no specific cause but can be a symptom with peri menopause/menopause. I would recommend discussing with your GP to get it checked out in case of another cause.

[@dulcekguerrero]

@@laurenf9483 thank you for responding. Yes I have been cleared by two cardiologist and have been told that the cause isn’t the heart itself. Trying to figure out if something else in my body is causing my issue. Have you found anything that has helped your palpitations? X

[@laurenf9483]

@@dulcekguerrero I just live with it now. I avoid caffeine and not too much alcohol as these can make it worse. Maybe talk to your doctor about other causes. I think it’s reassuring that the cardiologists are unconcerned 🙂

[@dulcekguerrero]

@@laurenf9483 it definitely is reassuring at least till a bad episode then all goes out the window. I do also have low ferritin at 22 and am trying to increase but haven’t had much success. Thank you so much for chatting with me. I wish no one had to deal with these but glad I’m not alone. X

[@jackiebuckley3502]

brilliant, thank you for all the information you continue to share, i dont know where id be with out it, taking HRT as changed my life

[@danavest]

I wished I had this information before chasing my husband of 30 years off he tried to be understanding and patient but my constant mood swings and inability to satisfy him sexually led him to look for companionship elsewhere and I lost him to a younger and more attractive woman he tried everything he could to help me but I continued to reject him because of all the misinformation out there we need to be more understanding of what we put them through and it’s not there fault

[@krisk1867]

Thank you from America! Big problem here too! This was helpful information.

[@kaleidoscopeallie]

'The diagnosis is by listening to women' aaaand there we have the core of the problem. Imagine how much in this world would be different if women were actually listened to :p

[@amytrumbull156]

I’m 52 and started experiencing peri at about 45. Migraines, joint pain, terrible sleep. I didn’t have health insurance at the time but got estrogen and progesterone creams that I continue to use now but I think they don’t help too much. Changing my diet has helped more than anything as I’ve become ultra sensitive to nearly everything. Carnivore or ketovore works fabulous for me and has almost eliminated my migraines and greatly reduced my joint pain. I recently became depressed and asked my doctor for an antidepressant and hrt but she flat out refused me the hrt, saying it’s too soon and I should wait until I haven’t had a period in a full year, which I find ridiculous! My period is just every 3-4 months now and I’ve got vaginal dryness and irritation so I’ll likely find another doctor soon.

[@Godisfirst21]

Yes, you should find another Dr. Makes no sense to wait until you haven't had a period for a year. That's when you will feel much better. Before the periods stop is very hard mentally and physically.

[@thatslife5407]

I live in Cyprus and the reason why women here are not taking it it’s because of the doctors . The gynecologists are not aware and do not have the knowledge that bio identical exist and how they work . Doctors need to be educated , we go on them here after insisting for so long to give them to us and then they don’t know how to monitor or how much to give to us !!! Please please gynecologists need to be educated !!!

[@chocolatesugar4434]

Such a brilliant and important discussion! Thank you 💜💜

[@karenstewart2880]

I want more on perimenopause..that's when woman are going off there heads..it's obviously we're in postmenopause because out periods basically stop..

[@mckenna9489]

I can't cope with it I feel like topping myself

[@CM-um8ot]

This was great. I can really relate to Michelle as I am an African-American female going through peri with so many symptoms. Just started the body identical hormones and hoping to feel better. Will also consider testosterone.

[@kellicassidy9177]

thanks so much - really really helpful

[@Soapsoanedesign]

This is great: however it's focussed towards professional people and professional lives: the issue really is the systemic one and understanding how all women experience their lives, how structural stress is creating earlier menopause and how there's been a cultural 'forgetting' of the work done by women in earlier eras to understand the whole lifecycle. The competition in life between women from different backgrounds and ages rather than collaboration has been forgotten only to be re-found as something 'every professional woman needs' ie a commodity. There is knowledge in previous generations that's been hidden and sidelined, just as our mothers and grandparents actual experiences were misinterpreted and sidelined, counterpointed against a prescription template standard in later life of numerous medicines (that have only been tested on young people, mainly men also) that undermine health, mobility and, really the freedom of women to choose their futures, contribute to knowledge and feel confident that contribution is changing other lives for the better.

[@therapyrf]

Wow!!! Great informative video

[@terpinator24]

Thank you! This hits me so hard...

[@SuperPapoose1]

Brilliant-thank you!💜

[@marthaharrisofficial]

Great video so informative! Thank you

[@cassiecrane5087]

Thanks so much - this has been SO SO helpful

[@tammyjo4082]

I am 47 1/2… I am so here!

[@mrsmdub259]

I am 47, I’ve had severe endometriosis since I was 12 yrs old. I had a partial hysterectomy when I was 34 because I was told this would make my endometriosis flares go away. That was a lie. To this day I still continue to have monthly endorsements flares as my body is still mimicking a monthly cycle. I’m afraid to take any HRT because I feel it will make my flares even more painful. I feel like I have no options and that my endometriosis flares will never go away and will have to deal with my pre menopause symptoms without any kind of relief 😢 😢

[@riyavashishtha5228]

CAC Stri Poshak Syrup is very beneficial in curing woman’s physical weakness, anemia etc. It includes - Ashok chall (Saraca asoca), Lodhar chall (Symlocos racemosa), Khadir chall (Acacia catechu), Guduchi (Tinospora cordifolia), Mulethi (Glycyrrhiza glabra), Daru Haldi (Berberis aristata), etc. The ingredients used in this syrup mainly balance the Pitta and Kapha doshas. It helps to get relieve from hot flashes, disturbed sleep, abdominal discomfort, mood elevation, excess sweating, tiredness, breast tenderness, etc.

[@karenstewart2880]

what I'm mad about is the damage it does..it makes me so angry..

[@malayalashreenews]

Womens health Kerala official channel is best

[@kellicassidy9177]

please share the link to the new charity you discussed

[@WomensHealthUKYT]

HI Kelli, here's the charity www.themenopausecharity.org/

[@janmatthewsteam]

I’m interested in a recent new diagnosis of bipolar 2 I believe brought on by menopause

[@nikkikandola4320]

Thank you!

[@daniellereynolds2413]

Thank you .... Im going through menapause .... wasn’t sure if I should take HRT ..... I need to go see my gp.

[@alicelovescats888]

I really don’t understand what the score is with synthetic, bio identical and natural oestrogen. I hear different things everywhere and every time I read something to try to figure out what’s safe I read contradictions. How can someone get a bad batch of bio identical oestrogen from a private doctor? How can can anything that is identical be also different per batch? And now can a doctor prescribe something that isn’t regulated? And surely a ‘natural’ product which was the third option would be more variable??

[@wisdombeauty8496]

Omg come to Canada 🇨🇦

[@tomeditz9192]

Thank you so much for this!

[@sasha48189]

I’m 44,, will turn 45 in a few months,, I feel horrible moody brain fog don’t feel like myself don’t look like myself I feel horrible,

[@dulcekguerrero]

I’m 39 and am dealing with heart palpitations that feel like my heart is skipping. I have been cleared by a few cardiologist and even seen an endocrinologist who all said I was ok. My ferritin is 22. It’s hard to get a doctor to truly care to find the root cause and solution. What tests could I ask for to see if my hormones are the issue? Please I need help.

[@allisonbisset7318]

Can you request a referral to a menopause clinic ?

[@becksbitofblue]

Look into potassium watch Dr Burg

[@ivfchic3316]

I turned 40 a few weeks a go and had been having heart palpations for 3 months. My gp did a blood test and I am low on iron. I haven't had palpatation since I've started supplementing iron. Good luck

[@deerecluse876]

@@ivfchic3316 Thank you for your advice. Mine is so bad my BP and heart rate has dropped in the forties. I get an irony taste in my mouth. Nothing else has worked. Caring replies save lives faster than doctors! I have been iron deficient most of my life! God Bless you! 😘

[@cathycoppin5682]

Hi I on oestrogel estradiol. I taking 4 pumps. But don’t feel it doing anything. Is there a higher dose body identical? My menmorie got worse and worse really bad. Reall need some help please. But want to stay on body identical. Any help be appreciated. Thanks

[@lanal9330]

If you have an uterus it must be combined with progesterone.

[@barannahpalmer3257]

This was very helpful but can you please avoid making sweeping generalisations about ethnic minority women. Thanks!

[@TheCazz10]

Enjoyed this educational talk , thank you. Though, didn’t feel it was particularly inclusive about sex. For 2 women in an LGBT relationship, this can be a “nightmare “. What about all the single women out there not having any sex? At least they have a significant other to share life with.

[@michwallis7762]

As Kelli above, please share the links, including the app. Thank you

[@WomensHealthUKYT]

Hi Mich, here's the app balance-app.com/ and the charity www.themenopausecharity.org/

[@aine2058]

This seems very pro hrt yet its ignoring how hrt can and does adversely effect womens mental health. You need to show all sides.

[@cleokarma7818]

Doctors do not have enough awareness of this and this is the main reason they are very hesitant to prescribe it . The single most important thing is to make a course about this , make it an expertise if necessary and let doctors actually go through this course as an upgraded education, they cannot educate their patients if they dont know enough. Next is to raise the levels of awareness of women over 35 to pay attention to their symptoms and how they feel and report their symptoms . I can testify to almost every single symptom of the damn thing all of which came on gradually and I have led a compromised rubbish life for almost 10 years because of a hormone change that I knew nothing about . The worst is your brain where you feel like you are paralyzed , I could not think forget think clearly, lost the ability to focus on anything and lost hope in everything . This is the condition of an educated, aware and woke woman , and because of the stigma even women dont speak to each other about this and it is such a travesty . There is no necessity to compromise on the quality of your life or your drive which comes to a standstill because of a deficiency which can be replenished . Sharing these videos with more women will help educate them for starters.

[@ziahi1]

I am about to have a hysterectomy and am in perimenopause. They've said I can't take HRT because I got an eye trombosis (most likely from Glaucoma). Is this true?

[@annamari4861]

Is HRT free, though?

[@ashurohela2452]

Hello ladies .can any body tell us can we take corona vaccine while on hrt

[@viewsbyshawnee]

You know what, I didn’t take it because I didn’t feel comfortable going through peri menopause! That’s me.

[@crepesuzette5540]

Dr. Newsome: In order to replace Testosterone do patients need to take higher than 0.5mg Estradiol topical gel in order to balance E &P with T? I'm have no joy, motivation, orgasm on Estradiol topical 0.5mg, 200mg Prometrium and my symptoms & hair loss preHRT and I continue to be symptomatic and losing hair.

[@madeleinewinterdown3256]

Patient wouldn't have to be sectioned to have electroconvulsive therapy! They may have consented

[@helenroscoe1124]

It really does make me wonder about female Psychiatric inpatients of the past How many of them were actually hormone based issues and misdiagnosed and ultimately tortured by incorrect treatments horrifying 😢

[@stephenwebb-mensmentalheal1935]

But what if your doctor won’t give you HRT because your peri and wants you to wait until it’s full menopause?

[@echase416]

That’s like waiting to shut the barn doors after the horse has run out. They must not have done a - training in HRT/menopause.

[@ghostpipe888]

@@echase416 Get a new doctor.

[@madeleinewinterdown3256]

#tinnitus