What Gets A Guy Sexually Hooked On You - Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy

[@dixtx3959]

Why am i watching this i don't even have a man

[@thomid7219]

😂😂😂👍

[@jaunique-2578]

Me neither but being mentally ready for these phases totally helps!

[@beetleything1864]

🤣🤣🤣

[@electricred91]

Lmfao

[@Julsies7]

same lmao

[@akayrk]

"i really believe that nothing should be considered embarrassing between two people who love each other." Gold!

[@zsuzsuspetals]

Matthew's advice is as brilliant as the line, "He's just not that into you." He tells women what they need to hear. Not what we want to hear. I so wish I had his advice when I was single 20 years ago! Life would have been a lot easier. Still love hearing his advice even though I'm happily married. His advice works for us married folk too. Thanks Matthew!

[@kaiyodei]

from what I think I learned, if he's not into a woman for wrong reasons, he is bad. like how if I don't want to have sex with a 3 foot tall, non white, 400 pound no-op , no HRT trans man with a mental disablity...oh boy. full of hate!

[@pinkonyxspa]

Lol

[@nsomnica]

Your eloquence and authenticity are so unique for your age and your advice is just priceless! All the best from Switzerland

[@samanthataplin2321]

Chloé Oberholzer n

[@cecelialayton5491]

He replied!

[@phyllispierce6425]

Chloé Oberholzer 1

[@ayydude4221]

Schwizer High-Five! :)

[@jpg1392]

Matthew Hussey You are such a charming fellow, I heard a lot about you, and decided to watch some of your videos the other day. What I like most about your approach not just as a dating coach, but as a person, is your quirky, weird, sense of humor. I was not expecting that🧐😎

[@GinMatt]

Never do anything that you don't want or like, within your intimate relationship.

[@Moiselle555]

That's so true what Mathew said ; The only way to spice up the relationship is to talk about each other's fantasies, fetishs, desires, wants and needs. People tend to censor and shut down sexual activities and that's why these relationships backfires and ends up ultimately

[@chrissif.5741]

"most people would feel more comfortable doing weird and crazy stuff with someone they barely know than with the person they love", yep that rings true. Thanks for the tips Matthew! I'm going to work on it.

[@jmcampbell05]

M-- I'm touched by the degree of your self-examination, analysis in general. You're a philosopher, always seeking to understand what others take for granted. You're true blue.

[@k.v.6885]

awwwww that was nice

[@k.v.6885]

+Matthew Hussey how can I send you a question I have about my relationship

[@TheMastersuperblaste]

+Matthew Hussey You are painfully cute, and refreshingly intelligent. What a great combo. Too bad you're straight. I'm super jealous of whoever your current or future girlfriend is.

[@lyndamorgan825]

You took the words out of my mouth, Jan!

[@amrutad6185]

Jan Campbell, M.A.

[@andreacontrerashernandez4210]

I wonder what kind of weird stuff Matthew is into. OMG

[@lifemocker85]

The creepiest

[@Feline713]

Thanks, now I want to spank him :-p

[@jenniferbloomfield2486]

Lol

[@missfirenice1421]

Whatever it is, I’d help him.

[@johnjackline2467]

He should have demonstrated with his wiered stuff.

[@lauralambeth1]

100% agree. I've been thinking this way for years. So important to be able to communicate. This is why casual sex isn't going to rock like an awesome relationship can. Not all partners can open up but u can train them. :)

[@MileyLoverIv19]

OMG Matt your timing is creeping the hell out of me, you always know what kind of video to put up it's scary. Thank you so much!

[@melissaluvsplease1664]

+Matthew Hussey Your words are dead on right!! The thing that makes me really sad is that these things you speak of are happening all over the world and ALL of the time, so timing is the easy part. ;) I know you will understand what I am saying and that I am with you, not against you. Keep on speaking the truth and helping people!!!

[@sasetsasha8832]

You can actually tell him what you are interested in hearing on a video. If many people ask him a question of course he cares to respond. What is cool is that he gives an answer that shows real experience and knowledge that can help.

[@Suseelkumar5]

привет 😋

[@mz6367]

Absolutely brilliant! There’s nothing more intimate and beautiful than seeing two people in love trying their best to spice up their sexual life while staying committed to each other ❤

[@mariaoropeza]

I`M A COMPLETE MATTHEW HUSSEY JUNKIE...

[@NotAnYoutubeChannel]

I can't help myself and not click on the video

[@lesliebean4594]

MARIA EUGENIA OROPEZA R. Meeee too!

[@crystalcleara.k.a.missyoko1430]

Me too l see one and am like “ooh what do you got ?”

[@ashleypearce6090]

So am I.

[@Daria521]

Thank you so much for being here on internet with us. I just finished my 8 year relationship and your videos help me get through it.

[@leonnalove8055]

This is so smart , honest , real and true. I am a phone sex actress and the majority of the calls I get are men wanting things with their wives- not someone else- that they can't experience with her for fear of rejection or her lack of interest. It is so much easier to explore with a stranger, but being known to that level is a deeper intimacy and is a stunning part of a person to know. Some women would be so angry that their men call for phone sex- if only she knew his fantasies are all about her. It's tricky, though- it's easy to feel inadequate when you aren't giving your SO what they want because you might feel embarrassed or unattractive. You are an incredible intuitive and open man, Matt- I really enjoy your videos and you are really illuminating people and making the world a little better by helping people love more. xx

[@letissue461]

Leonna Love how did u get into that gig? does it pay well?

[@tazeenkhan710]

only perverts would call for phone sex or go for prostitutes after marriage

[@LostxInxPandora]

So you help men cheat on their wives... lol

[@theresag1969]

@@tazeenkhan710 ...and your man will go elsewhere with that thinking. He certainly wouldn't let you know.

[@theresag1969]

What sort of things are men interested in over the phone? Btw, many women don't get the extent fantasy plays in the lives of men. But I do.

[@ScottishLeo]

Great advice Matt! 8yrs married & we're still learning more about the other. Early on i learned speaking aloud is difficult for him so i wrote that very question (whatre u wanting?) & passed it to him w/shy smile & gave him time alone to reply. That way i can process reply without him watching for reaction & it worked like a charm! We have a lot of fun 😁

[@MeditatewithAbhi]

Bringing conscious communication and confronting the issues with the open dialing is the best way.. Love it

[@melissainfj6573]

Oh jeez... Being too embarrassed to tell my partner what I like in bed has ALWAYS been a huge problem for me. Every time I tell a guy my fetish, it scares him away, or makes him lose interest in me sexually. Like everything is fine as long as I keep my mouth shut about it. But the minute I start feeling comfortable enough to tell him about it... Boom, he gradually starts backing away from me. Makes me feel like I just can't be honest with a guy. Or I can't ever let him really know me. Or maybe he just misunderstands me? Like you said in your video, I don't mind blurting it out right here among strangers, lol. Because I don't know anybody here, and telling strangers won't ruin my relationship. So here goes... I basically have a "rough sex" fetish. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not talking about "50 Shades Of Grey" rough. I DON'T like being beaten, or degraded, or belittled, or humiliated. I don't like whips or clamps, or being tied down or anything. I don't even like being called bad names! I just enjoy stuff like a bit of rough wrestling (and the guy winning) and maybe holding my wrists, maybe a gentle hair pull, or a gentle slap on the cheek... Kind of a rough rhythm while "going at it".... Even a hand over the mouth if I get too loud, or a kinky roleplay, like "predator and victim", etc., etc. To me, its just fun, frisky, INTENSE exciting, lol. And naturally, I would never want to do that with a stranger. I would only do that with someone I love and trust. WHY do I like that?? Oh I dunno. When I really think about it, I suppose it developed because I was always very shy growing up, especially with guys and I was raised by a tough, bad-ass Green Beret soldier who taught me "boys should chase girls, not the other way around-- and girls should keep their standards sky-high". It wasn't really acceptable in my home for me to be dizzy over a boy-- I was supposed to be ABOVE that. Better than that. I was expected to let the BOY come to ME. Dad also taught me to shoot, hunt, butcher my kill, survive in the wilderness, set traps, etc., lol. So I was often a bit of a Tom-boy, I was usually tougher than other girls/women. It always took a very different type of guy to make me feel "girly and feminine". Sometimes I felt like I was tougher than most boys (oh yeah, that really had them lining up to date me... pfft!). While that made me feel independent, it also made me feel... Not so feminine. But truth be told, I LOVE anything that makes me feel girly and feminine! I guess my fetish probably developed from my extreme shyness with guys, combined with my preference for the GUY to make the major moves, etc. (because that's what I grew up idealizing). I'm also extremely turned on by the difference between a man's strength and a woman's. Again, feeling that the guy is stronger makes me feel feminine and very girly, womanly, etc. I love that feeling! So I love it when a man proves how much stronger he is than me, lol. For example, if I play arm wrestle with a guy, and he beats me like it was soooo easy... Omg... HOT! lol. Yeah, I hate it when he lets me win, because I feel so butch, I mean jeez... Or if there is something really heavy I can't lift, or a jar I can't open, or something too high for me to reach, but he does it like its a piece of cake... Yeah, I find that hot as hell. Well... I'm the same way in bed. When he wrestles kinda rough with me, tosses me on the bed, etc., and I feel how much stronger he is than me-- its exciting for me. I guess it kind of erases the "Tom-boy" picture I have of myself and puts me in touch with my "inner primitive female". I feel like he is strong, so he's my man, my strength, my rock... And since we're technically just playing around and he loves me, would never harm me-- I feel safe with him. Very close to him. And DEFINITELY desired! I mean, he wouldn't be so animal-like with me, if he wasn't attracted and turned on, right? lol. But I never could explain all that to a guy in a way that he really understood. Both husbands totally backed off when I tried to explain it... Maybe it freaked them out? Scared them? I don't know if I just explain it wrong, or what. But they always back off when I try to tell them this. So I always felt like they never really knew me, or understood me... I dunno, maybe they misunderstand me and they think I'm some kind of supporter of sexual assault, lmao. Which is completely retarded! Quite frankly, I think rapists should be castrated or killed, or at least get the maximum penalty EVERY time. I mean jeez guys, give me a break, I'm not talking about hurting random strangers, or brutalizing innocent people. I'm talking about 2 people who trust, love and consent to each each other, playing around with some kink in bed. What the hell is so terrible about that? No offense to guys, but... Some guys can be so dumb, lol.

[@MimiMhair]

MelissaINFJ dominatrix somewhat

[@modrdomm4678]

Mimi M yes, role play...

[@ingridp4457]

MelissaINFJ I totally understand you

[@laraking804]

MelissaINFJ your fantasy is so tame girl! You've been dating pussies 😬🤣 Keep looking. It's not you hon it's them...

[@bddybdz]

MelissaINFJ completely get it!

[@anewloveofficial9137]

If you love your partner, you should be open to him about anything because being in a relationship is a partnership, so communication is a must in all aspects especially when it comes to your physical needs.

[@laepitt821]

No guy in my life right now. Just watching because I like his voice and that beard is looking great on him 😏🌺

[@jennyl3080]

You are very intelligent, Matthew! Thanks for questioning things, for lifting important subjects and teaching us what you know. It makes me think outside the box and reflect in a way that's not only beneficial for me, but also is much less destructive than before.

[@redfoxes5153]

The reason is simple - if you start doing something new, you get accused of cheating, "oh, where did you learn that?" so then you don't even try. Btw, i'm speaking from experience.

[@pvaz]

Red Foxes yeah most man are insecure and seen as losers by society, if they get cheated on. Myself included. A bit of an introduction such as “I been reading stuff online to spice things up” might help him. And please, don’t introduce something new out of the blue right after he’s been absent on work. 😏

[@NancyMcCurry]

You're so right. After a 25+ year marriage I can state this honestly, the wide sexual repertoire that started so well in the beginning of the relationship slowly contracted because I never wanted to tell him that if he'd just move his thumb right here (or whatever tiny shift we needed to make) that would have helped me so much and it would have helped him too. After so long of doing it "that way" I was afraid to hurt him and say, "Nope, not really, actually". I know he only ever wanted to make me happy in bed but it's that fear of hurting the guy's feelings in the moment I couldn't stand. Next time, I'll say, "You know what, that works great but I saw this today and, wow. " I'll be open and transparent and brave next time. It's really the most loving thing we can do.

[@sandythomas7440]

You sound like me lol

[@jillpaull4392]

And the reverse is true for him. He's thinking "She thinks I'm totally satisfied with what she does or doesn't do in bed, and I'd hate to scare her or hurt her feelings by telling her that I've been bored with just average (or whatever) for 10 years." Time to mix it up woman lol

[@12lesflo]

So glad you touched on this because some times men look at you like who has she been with. When a woman can be as creative as a guy. We observe and say it would be cool if we tried to do this cause you know their flexability. But no instead they think the wrong way and loose out on a beautiful moment and kill their partners creativity and go back to their old boring ways

[@CellGames2006]

So sad they miss out on an experience just because a girl has learned it from another guy...

[@iUnderstand]

​@@CellGames2006Yes... so heartwrenching that some people have to be emotionally connected to what they're doing with their partner in order to be able to enjoy it.... Such a travesty.

[@yasmeinabdulla2631]

what if after you ask him and he answers really honestly and youre like crap im not into that. how do you reject it without bruising his ego

[@wisdom4144]

I was about to ask that as well

[@esile567]

+BeautyByYaz BeautyByYaz Asking about what his secret fantasies are, doesnt mean you said you want to try them with him. Its just taking it to the stage of getting to know him even better, right?

[@MikeyArtz]

Try b4 u spek

[@RedArrow2007]

+BeautyByYaz BeautyByYaz Be honest with him and move on to something else that the both of you are into...:)

[@angelaonthego]

Don't reject it. Ask more questions. Even if I'm not into it, I find out more about it. If I really care about someone, I'm endless fascinated about what makes them tick. I'm also pretty curious about what people find sexy about something. If he asks you if that turns you on, you can just say, "It's not something I'm feeling SUPER drawn towards in this moment..."

[@laurenpeters8042]

This is stupidly relatable, you're a genius...

[@user-my2eo9lo1y]

Communication is the big key when trying to try new things in the bedroom. Talk about what you want to try and remember to have a code word when feeling uncomfortable and or when boundaries are getting pushed to feeling uncomfortable and or when the new thing is beyond pleasure. Saying no! In a stern way can bring the partner down, feel bad, and or make the partner feel more insecure about themselves.

[@KayNovember26]

The problem is when your partner is a real shy guy and introverted. My ex husband could never tell me what he wanted (or just communicate in general). I also had a much higher sex drive... I tried introducing toys. I tried introducing different positions. I tried the sexy pillow talk. And got accused of CHEATING on him! Things just went downhill for us. My current partner is older, more experienced and very open minded. Best sex ever! You are never "too old" to have some fun.

[@margarettehrani5]

this is something very important that a couple should know thank you.

[@thandinkosi9299]

Coach African man last time I try to teach my partner how to please me,he ask me where did I learn it ,so it kills my mood,

[@fatimemehdiyeva2439]

Lool i can imagine the situation )

[@adi9296]

Worst question to ask in that situation! Ugh, I can understand

[@drairlandadiazpino2791]

This here man, is my biggest crush, ever!

[@electrocute1263]

I love how you explored this topic. Great advice. Now undoubtedly, we will open this door and reveal each others fantasies, and a hideous buzzard of an idea will want to come out to and play. Something you would never do! Please do another video explaining what to say when your partner's sexual fantasy crosses your boundary. Once you know your man wants something you find offensive, you will forever wonder if he is willing to cheat on you to get that sexual need met. Thank you for all that you do.

[@catepriscilladee1519]

Thank you so much for this video! It's exactly what happened to my bf and me. We've been together for almost four years now with a break over the last five months. I've been so insecure about expressing my wants and desires to him before. But now that we're back together (also thanks to your advices ;) ) I'm super comfortable with voicing what turns me on that in the beginning he was positively surprised about how "bold" and "exciting" this new interaction was that he's now nuts about it :D

[@ciuolavera7827]

Or suprise him that you can be Angelina Jolie in the movie Original Sin or you can be weird as Harley Quinn in Suicide Squad... Show your partner that you can be his everything!

[@Lionofthelovinggod1]

We have lost the art of asking for what we want - if indeed we ever knew how to ask in the first place.

[@Dontincludeme]

Amanda Brisbane there's this great Madonna quote: "A lot of people are afraid to say what they want, that's why they don't get what they want"

[@elizabethnepia8878]

For me, good sex is when creative energy is combined with true intimacy. It's all about exploring and creating a safe, creative, and open environment. I really do value my ability to use creative energy to fully vibe and connect with the other person.

[@trs8696]

im a guy watching this and its very true. it does get harder, not easier, to bring up sex ideas the longer youve been with someone. the tip about saying "i want to do this with YOU" is a good one.

[@maggyxchuu]

It sucks when your boyfriend of two years doesn't care about sex as much as he used to.. I constantly bring it up to him in a very nice way, and he just brushes it off or doesn't seem to care. I would never cheat, but it's definitely pulling me away I just feel so not wanted anymore ): It's even more uncomfortable that I want more sex than he does. But anyways I love your videos Matthew ! They always seem to lift me up.

[@hersurrender]

I feel you soo so much, dear! this happened to me with my ex boyfriend and I kept trying and searching for my own mistakes and was getting so so frustrated. I know I was feeling so embarrassed wanting to have sex more often than he did, but now I know that this is nothing to be embarrassed of. you are not weird nor too sexual or whatever you think is wrong with you. I hope you two can work it out :) I just wanted to give you a little comfort as I have been there as well.

[@maggyxchuu]

Sabrina G. Right right, it's more just about not feeling as wanted & then I start to resent and such ugh. But anyways haha, thanks for the support my goodness I hope so too

[@annalovesyouoxox]

+Sugar Chuu he's cheating

[@maggyxchuu]

+annalovesyouoxox well at least he's getting some ha

[@beyourbest27]

girl do you have instagram and want to help me out with something

[@Corysfortunes]

its really simple, you talk it over with your partner, if you cant talk about it in detail then you are not ready or fit for the sexual part of relationship, you have to get over that fear or sink the relationship. the reason you have to talk it over is that if one person isnt getting something out of that part of the relationship they may go else where and thats why all the fetishes and secrets must be straight forward, society is responsible for making us feel weird or bad for mentioning how we like that part of the relationship, we must know the turn ons of our partner and we need to tell them ours

[@katperdiz]

i love how you discuss this matter... very diplomatic

[@youtubinxx]

i really like the advice he gives. I would assume with this amount of work being done and the investment of trying to please someone sexually... would be ideally for people in committed relationships. My opinion.

[@niluferdarais2062]

Matthew is simply brilliant. The insights that he brings out.

[@ps6586]

Matthew, you need to make a book on how to be witty, because I've listened to all your videos and it's all about being witty. Sometimes it's difficult for me to come up of something witty. We need the formula to help form the witty statement we want.

[@nicolegregory4429]

What an amazing message. Just got a text message last night from a man who has been pursuing me for the past 5 weeks; but... via random text. Very bold last night about what he hoped for when we do get together. Then, just thought... for kicks and giggles... let's see what/where/how he's out in the world of social media and life ...for the heck of it. He's very non-existent since 2014, but his wife is all over it. Sort of disappointing but a real eye-opener. Life. It's always interesting. It knows how to throw a curveball. ~N

[@isabellatheseeker]

You're so cool dude. I just feel like you were so predestined to do all this stuff. Like, I'm sure you've been through a whole lot of life so that you could learn from all those experiences that brought you to this place you're at now. It's cool. Good for you man seriously thank you so much for spreading your message and helping a lot of people find their way in love.

[@valerieprice7135]

I could never have a relationship with this gentlemen. Because he is so analytical. . But yiu know what? I love this guy. He has a great way of putting things.

[@lucywhitaker407]

Yes I completely agree with you Matthew. Communication is key and trying things out. Xxxx

[@victoriajang]

Finding Matthew in 2016 lol obviously I'm late the party. At first I was like what does this young man who's barely out of his 20s know about relationships? After listening to him on YT then buying his audio book which I listened to all in a day, I absolutely respect his work. He's like an old soul, obviously wise beyond his age. Having been single for over five years out of choice, his advice has been handy from the point I decided to actually 'get the guy' I'm working on it. Matthew has certainly made my transition a lot easier than I expected:)

[@karladoane7323]

Right on and I'm 70. I just try to tell them ahead of time I'm a chameleon and I'm an Aquarian so I like change I like progression I like communication in all of its facets.

[@j.f.4926]

What if he wants something you don't want to do? What do you say?

[@analetta2638]

you say no

[@jessicahay5771]

Been there, unless you're horribly opposed at least give it a try. If you don't want to try it again then don't. I've been here and I was weird about it and my man told me that I made him feel like a pervert, a freak. He had tears in his eyes. I really hurt him. I didn't mean to and I wasn't ugly about it but he was excited to try the whole salad tossing thing and I decided I didn't want to have sex at all (I ALWAYS want to have sex, ALWAYS) because of it and I felt so bad that I made him feel bad about himself. It crippled us in a way because he's never shared any other fantasy or tried anything new since then.

[@sonamarora2976]

what a great point! if you're not helping them change now, you're doing a bigger damage to their ego in the long term

[@Femmefatale1990]

my bf has some fetishes he only enjoys seeing strangers do. He's actually told me that it's not hot when I do it and in the 2+ years we've been together he's never been able to fulfill my fantasies. I'm 26 and lost my virginity late in life (and regret it) and I've had to beg him so much that, at this point, I don't even look forward to fulfilling them with him. This definitely made me realize that I've been settling 😔

[@emilyk7410]

This beard is the look!

[@sunshinexoxo4984]

YES Matthew!! Can you coach me and my ex husband. This is everything that is wrong with our relationship.

[@maiseelauj]

Having the sex conversation is the most important part of any relationship. I completely agree.

[@angelaonthego]

I really feel for the ladies on here who are in established relationships trying to start that conversation for the first time. I will share one of the things I do that has worked really well. works best if he first time you do it one of you is out of town. I find a piece of erotic writing or a blog post that highlights whatever I want that turns me on. I also find some classy but naughty pics from tumblr. I tell him I miss him, and then kind of shyly admit that I've been super "h" and can't wait for him to get back. Ok now you've got him primed. All of his attention is now focused towards you, and you'll feel it. Then say hey--there's something I feel kind of embarrassed about....

[@angelaonthego]

Now you've REALLY got his attention. Hopefully he will encourage you to tell him. Continue on. Say " I came across this thing on the Internet, and just felt REALLY turned on. Like--so much." (I mean, use your own words). He'll ask you what it is. Give him an idea, but be vague. Say you feel embarrassed saying more, and instead ask him if he wants you to just send him what you read/saw? Here's what you need to know: every single male past puberty has has multiple experiences of seeing something and being turned on by it, and then feeling completely embarrassed/scared/confused (sometimes disgusted) about being turned on by that thing.

[@angelaonthego]

It's a great way to gauge his reaction--my experience is that most men are amazingly, um, pliable sexually. You just have to take your time and have fun with it. Get in his brain, and rewire it a little bit by pulling the right levers at the right times. Wink:::wink :-) If you bring it up in this way, even if it's something he finds like, completely weird and not sexy---you've framed it in a way that he is TOTALLY going to relate to. And on a subconscious level, a small part of him will relax with you just a LITTLE bit more, because he won't be clamping down so tight on the part of himself that gets turned on by weird stuff. Men feel they have to hide this from us. (And in some ways, they kind of do, cuz if we knew 100% of what goes on in there it would legitimately freak us out. It even freaks him out). (pro tip: if you come at it with the right attitude (spirit of play/adventure/ no pressure) when it comes to sex, most guys are willing to try alllllmost anything at leastonce).

[@lj8816]

Elle L 👀

[@gooddogreallygooddog6157]

Lmaoo

[@shellducker7078]

Just be yourself, self love, speak freely, respect your n his boundaries. Accept eachother as individuals. Love.

[@DiannaFerris]

So disappointed that you didn't mention that people shouldn't do things that they really don't want to do and not to let someone pressure them into participating in something they don't want. Great job encouraging sexual exploration besides that important omission.

[@ariadnewolf8667]

I sorta think that goes without saying though, right?

[@angieridpath4667]

Is it crazy that I’m satisfied just to listen to this Mathew guy talk about this..

[@t_grumpynoodle]

I am falling for your thoughtfulness and observant nature. Good luck!

[@barbarawilson3153]

I tried it all with my man and I'm glad I did because I enjoyed a lot of it myself

[@yakimawhite5299]

I’m in my 2nd long term relationship this one 9 years and he and I love getting ideas from experts it keep our relationship exciting

[@tg6954]

One of the best advice which I discovered through your videos, Mathew! Thanks for guiding us with these valuable nuggets. You are the best!!

[@rachelgitonga4504]

This conversation took place in a local radio station & one guy said that when you go do different things your partner becomes suspicious asks where you got those explicit skills from they were saying that it leads them to cheat most women don't know it to their advantage

[@sophiejensen3484]

So... I went out with my ex out one night and after a few drinks, I announced I had no undies on and wanted to park somewhere and.. we had a wonderful sex life.. but he didn’t really seem that into it. Which made it awkward.

[@MsHannah2036]

Oh my , this is awesome! I'm going to start this with my new boyfriend - once I get one :)

[@TheFabulous1985]

Matthew you and this beard!! Yessss Boo Yesss!

[@carlypengrin2692]

+Matthew Hussey I am a fan of the beard to be honest haha

[@TheFabulous1985]

+carly pengrin #teambeard 👏🏾👏🏾

[@Eclectic31]

+Monique Henry girl you read my mind! he needs to keep this look 24/7!

[@TheFabulous1985]

+Sandra Pool Amen to that!! 👏🏾

[@peacenloveforall6]

+Monique Henry No kidding!

[@doriennaraine3004]

Fulfilled lust turns into hate. It does not matter. He won't be a faithful man cuz if you stop fulfilling his lust and images in his mind he will go somewhere else. If he already had sex with someone before you he will not be faithful. If he does not respect you he does not love you. Wait until marriage and you will be satisfied and happy. (sex will also be better if it matters that much) and more importantly he stayed with you a faithful respecting loving man and will be that way forever since the day you met to the beautiful day that man drops on one knee and wants to spend the rest of his life with you as you both become 1.

[@cathybaldry7822]

Thank you. This gave me insight into what went wrong in a past relationship. My ex felt very intimidated and threatened by it.

[@chocolatemilkcharly]

Hearing Matthew Hussey say 'me just trying to pleasure you more' its the middle of winter in Edinburgh, but is it getting hot in here?!

[@libra7624]

when it comes to turn ons this is a important topic a couple must talk about, calling a radio station is fine but you still have to speak directly to your partner, some people rely so much on radio questions and answers they may start calling to ask what sandwich to make for their partner LOL, mathew will try his best but he may say turkey and swiss when your partner really wants peanut butter and jelly, the point is ask your partner directly to get an accurate answer and not some radio station guess work

[@shosha1771]

So I've known a guy for three years now, we were friends for two years but the third year he started flirting and telling me to spend more time with him. Tbh I liked him way before so I couldn't resist. We've been like that for six months, but he doesn't makes me feel special nor appreciated. He talk about other girls and how hot they are which really makes feel rejected and he sometimes compare me to them. So he knows I'm a virgin and lately he said I don't do the virgin things because it scares me. I felt really bad for hearing that I didn't know what to say i just took off and didn't speak a word and now he acts like nothing happened 😭

[@moviedaisy]

Drop him. You deserve a wonderful person in your life.

[@TrinhThanhVan]

+shaden hani : I totally understand how you feel. I am not judging you at all. Though I am judging him through what you shared. He really does not seem to be a nice guy at all. You should feel always appreciated and worthy in relationships, no matter if it is a friendship or in love. If he even dares compare you to the others, you made a good call on just get the f out of there. Spend your precious time on someone who actually deserve it.

[@shosha1771]

Thanh Vân Trịnh well I did exactly like you said, I broke it with him because he never act committed and he's such a player. I feel good about myself now

[@RachyNoodleNest]

My problem is, I can't find a guy that can match me sexually. I don't want it once a month or even once a week, I want it 3-4 times a week.

[@user-xl1ou7oe2g]

Sex is a team work. I can't agree with you more! Thank you for the video, Matthew. Lots of love from Tokyo💗

[@TrinhThanhVan]

It is sad because my boyfriend is satisfied and he really insists on having 'normal' sex and there is nothing else he would want to try. While I want many many different things when he does not want. He said there is no reason to try coz we already have 'great normal sex'. I tried many ways to talk with him, communicate, whatever I can, however I can. But now I just don't know what to do as with time I am getting ..bored of the usual sex because everything falls into the same routine, every,single,time. And he does not want to try and he is happy with himself already. I need help.

[@TrinhThanhVan]

+Thanh Vân Trịnh I didnt even ask him to just do what I want, but most of the time, I ask him what he likes most, or what he would like to try but embarrased, well he simply said 'nothing. Im happy with our sex'. It is like dead end for me honestly.

[@tanvijain1575]

My suggestion would be to date someone you have sexual AND romantic compatibility with. One kind of compatibility isn't enough. You need both to have a satisfying relationship.

[@CellGames2006]

You need to ask him. If you don't tell him that's what you want, how could he even know you have a problem?? Sometimes the way girls communicate doesn't hit in our radar. You need to make him clear you want change. It's not enough that only he is "happy with himself". You're not his sex slave. A relationship has two parties. My god, a million guys would change places with him...

[@pvaz]

Personally I like when a girl just starts taking initiative and make things go her way. Next halloween (or other Holliday) get a kinky dress and role play a bit. Start small then increase stuff as you gage his reaction. Some people are open to talk about this things, others are too repressed by upbringing (religion, morals, bad reactions from previous girlfriends) so there’s a good chance he’s too afraid to ever admit his fantasies out loud, because he himself sees them as something to be ashamed of. He also might not know what he likes until he tries it.

[@lauraheidorn4767]

yep my current guy did that. He told me I wasn't doing bj correctly so he showed me how to do it correctly and helped me. So I didn't take it as a bad thing I took it as something I could do better at and please him better.

[@AnnaKhKem]

+Laura Heidorn And what exactly you were not doing correctly? )

[@lauraheidorn4767]

its personal.

[@annalovesyouoxox]

+Anna Kharlamova she wasn't swallowing

[@lauraheidorn4767]

no comment

[@lauraheidorn4767]

annalovesyouoxox: and no it was not that.

[@barbarawilson3153]

I think nothing is off the table as long as two people agree to it

[@alysons1142]

I ask one time to do something kinky with my ex and he thought I was cheating on him cause it was something i wouldnt normally ask for

[@sarahsmith1418]

Love the short-term vs. long-term point. Great advice as always!

[@marizamentzou3293]

Love the explanation of feedback with the ego and how we should prioritize long term Vs short term. Great content

[@DeborahWalkerXOXO]

This is soo true! I'm not unhappy with my guy but I wanted to try dressing up and I chickened out totally. The most I do is high heels in situ. Thanks Matthew, this is a great video as it not only gives me a way to express what I want but also highlights the importance of allowing him space to do the same. I really didn't think he is backward in coming forward but maybe I was making n assumption. He might be a furry for all I know...

[@HeidiParkes]

Matthew, can you please do a video that specifically addresses erectile disfunction? It's so difficult to discuss, especially when anxiety induced in a man. I've tried discussing it with partners, and it's made the situation worse with them rather than better. The man needs to see a dr or therapist, but what if they're too afraid or lazy to look into improving the situation? How can I get some skills with this re-occring issue with a few different past partners?

[@1fdarlentwo]

If your partner is unwilling to see a professional about the issue research some natural treatments ( foods/ supplements) to increase vascular health and blood flow. You'd be amazed at what simple things like tomatoes, watermelon etc. can do to help. This you can do ( if you need to), without ongoing discussion, prepare meals with the items in them.

[@garbonratslayer1387]

Too many men these days are porn addicts. I'd be willing to bet that's what the problem is. They watch so much porn and they're croniclly masturbating they can't get it up with a real girl.

[@bethnadeau6183]

@@garbonratslayer1387 You might want to do some research into ED and it's various causes...good Lord...

[@LynJegher]

Open dialogue in a couple is the Best!

[@proyc95]

Holy crap. thats som sexy, turning on dialogue from Matt. Yes, he's right, we should keep exploring because we are always changing and developing throughout our lives.

[@iUnderstand]

What if you try something, and you don't like it or feel comfortable with it, but he ends up liking it SO MUCH- and he tells you that "it's fine" for you to not want to do it again, but then he can't stop thinking about it, doesn't want to ask you to do it again because he doesn't want to make you feel uncomfortable or pressured, so he starts to seek it elsewhere? (And he was perfectly fine with your sx life before this and would have never even thought to cheat or seek it elsewhere, until you showed him what he was missing out on....) There are many other ways I can see this advice backfiring.

[@MereMarc]

Just watched and heard this! 4 years later!!! THANK YOU💖💖💖

[@laurajohnston9431]

you are such a breath of fresh air! Thank you!

[@firefly6204]

I've been looking for something like else almost my entire life this was so helpful

[@lula2880]

Doing it with a stranger- gives no ammunition to a lover because relationships dont always last...

[@lametriavirgo2845]

I literally have just gone through this with my boyfriend. Huge disclosure was he has always wanted to do it too! And, I wouldn't do it with anyone else! I gave him more trust. It turned him on to a next level! Circumstances beyond our control have sensed happened but God makes no mistakes. Peace*LOVE*blessings

[@RESMITHcarpentry]

I'm the EXACT opposite of this, the more i know them the more I'm willing to explore but maybe this is the difference between introverts and extroverts?

[@atkardam]

How true!! Another to the point video..thank you!

[@nessieliz6776]

I wonder how many people would be following Matt and take his advice if he weren't so handsome. 🤔🤗

[@lydiahandzova]

Hi Matthew I am following your videos only few months and I really appreciate that you bit into "difficult" topics !

[@catrinedaniele6706]

Always amazed how very few men can find a G-spot... but when they know they become best lovers ever and that is an ego boost !!! for him and me... OOOOOOOrgasm is not Angrygasm there is no relief in it.. its the oppisite actually...its a fulfillment, a connection a jolt of colours and fluids... and no frowning but a complete and surprising surrender ....

[@ariadnewolf8667]

I love this. I think this is so useful to know. I am very comfortable with my sexuality, and comfortable talking about it, and I tend to assume all men everywhere are comfortable but...that's not true. So I'm trying to learn how to make my partners feel as comfortable as I do. It can be hard because I feel like so many guys take sex so very personally, like it's their space to 'win' women, or like we're severely judging them based on their success or failure at sex. As though it's even possible to succeed or fail at! Yeesh.

[@VincyGamer]

im getting my wife to watch this today very interesting

[@chorizo2115]

Thank you for braving this subject!

[@sandyyetman1156]

Matthew... I am a person who has physical barriers and sex is difficult for me. I cannot achieve most positions because of pain and lack of range of motion. I have no choice to communicate with my partner.... and a sense of humour helps tremendously!

[@smendes2004]

The last thing Matthew said is very true.

[@KathyKlotzGuest]

I am happily married (a long time), and I find your vids really fun, smart, and interesting. My husband agrees with most of what you say;-) Anyway, I enjoy watching/listening.