What happened to my Relaxed Hair?

[@ossier2796]

I don’t believe in protective styles. Hair is meant to be exposed, you protect it by washing, conditioning and styling hair. If using chemicals or cutting have a professional do it.

[@itsMayama]

I hear you ... I really wish I could just wear my hair out.

[@CrystalRose1111]

Yeah see that’s nice and all but some people have very fragile hair that will not retain length with all that manipulation. Protective styling has made my hair grow down my back, so lol

[@CrystalRose1111]

But there are healthier ways to do protective/low maintenance styling. You do actually have to wash/condition it at least every 2 weeks

[@maya-uz4wc]

@@CrystalRose1111 it’s really different for everyone. My hair is waist length right now but I did a buzz cut three years ago For me I can only have one protective style per year any more than that my hair will hate me

[@bkandy7165]

Everyone hair is different and everyone should donthe basics for hygiene especially wash, condition, trim …. No matter what. Some people thrive in protective styles, some natural, some relaxed. My hair is high maintenance… and no matter what it has to be attended every 7-14 days to or it will break and split. Protective styles for me with high attention works.

[@emileigh6524]

First off you looked so good with your hair up, so beautiful. Hair is really trial and error regardless if you have a relaxer, hair color, natural hair etc.. You will bounce back. By the way I really like the set up of the video, it feels very intimate.

[@itsMayama]

Thank you 🥰 and I hope so. I'm still experiencing breakage when I'm washing my hair :( but I'm hopeful I'll figure it out. And for the setting, I just kept moving the lights and camera until I like how it looked. Glad you liked it 😊

[@hoosieraussis1]

Depending on how processed your hair is or how fine your hair is, you may not be able to tolerate single braids. My relaxed hair did fine with single braids. One thing that definitely jumps out at me is that doing braids and wearing them for only 2-3 weeks is not a protective style. The braid installation is a LOT of manipulation, and is only offset by a reasonably long period of having the hair protected in braids for at least 6 weeks. Another point of damage is during the braid takedown if you don't take your time and be gentle.

[@kalishajnz]

This is something that can happen to anyone and I appreciate you doing this video cause like you said this is the part that a lot of people rarely show. 💜

[@ElisiasEvolution]

Relaxers are hard to maintain, braids can thin out the hair also, set up looks cool!

[@itsMayama]

I think that was another thing I forgot to take into account, the stress braids can put on hair and it's worse on relaxed hair especially if you did it consistently like I was 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️. Glad you like the setup 😊 I'm also thinking of doing a video with my sisters to show their beautiful locs 😊

[@ElisiasEvolution]

@@itsMayama Please do Id love to see them🥰🥰

[@itsMayama]

@@ElisiasEvolution alright, I'll try to make it happen

[@nekastar5320]

I'm sorry for laughing but the same thing happened to me I cried 😭 I bawwwl lol 😆 it grew back tho never doing that again

[@cashainouno1035]

Locking-up our hair in weave braids & wigs is horrible for our hair. Our hair doesn't get the much-needed care, air & water. Our hair thrives outside of braids & wigs. Thanks for sharing your story.

[@itsMayama]

I learned the hard way. I think it's okay to have your hair in protective styles as long as you're taking care of your hair and not keeping them in for too long.

[@prosperitygama9730]

My experience has been the exact opposite

[@itsMayama]

@@prosperitygama9730 what do you mean?

[@prosperitygama9730]

@@itsMayama keeping my hair in braids and protective styles has made my hair flourish and there is actually a science behind it. watch Seun okimi protective styling

[@divinechild1343]

My hair has thrived with Knotless Braids🤷🏾‍♀️

[@Sisima13]

I was relaxed for YEARS and I’ll be honest my hair went trough some Sh💩t… I only went natural in 2020 but it wasn’t because I hate relaxers I just wanted to know my natural hair 😊. But yeah relaxed hair is not easy, we just have to educate ourselves and find out what the hair likes or doesn’t like 😕

[@itsMayama]

Do you like being natural? I was natural for a hot minute before getting relaxers again. My hair was very healthy after that, but as it got longer it got harder to take care of. One of my goals for 2022 is learning about my hair, what it likes, what it doesn't like and how to know when it needs protein/moisture.

[@Sisima13]

@@itsMayama Yeah I like it so far because I can wear it curly or I can wear it straight/blow dries if I want to. When I was relaxed my hair could not keep a curl 😅. Maintenance wise Natural hair is a lot of work that I really don’t feel like doing because I still can’t find what my hair likes 😭 if I moisturize it it goes dry after 2 days. So basically all I do is keep my hair in braids or get box braids so I don’t have to do much 😓 I do miss my relaxed hair but I want to keep challenging myself and keep learning more about my natural hair since I’ve only need natural for almost 2 years. I hope your relaxed hair goes back to being healthy again ❤️

[@taratineal8285]

First, thank you for your authenticity!! I'm going through the same thing right now! I know what happened initially. I went from a no-lye to a lye relaxer. Big mistake!! I thought I stopped the breakage, but to my surprise, I didn't. It kept breaking on my left side 😪. It's ALWAYS so shocking because on that one particular day it's the most noticeable and there's nothing you can do but start over. I really believe that lye relaxer damaged my hair more than I knew. So, I feel you. Good luck and more hair to you!! Shoot, more hair to me too!! 😎

[@itsMayama]

Thank you. It's so sad that more of us are going through set backs but hopefully 2022 will be the year that we figure out our hair. My breakage side is on the right 🤦🏾‍♀️ I'm also going to start using no lye relaxers. I wish you all the best on your hair journey. We've got this!!! And more hair to all of us!

[@agoogleuser402]

Lye and no lye are two different chemicals! Where the two relaxers overlap is where you get breakage. It is not recommended to mix types of relaxers on the same head. Lye relaxers are actually easier on the hair.

[@limuru0001]

I switched from no lye to lye and it helped my hair. But I had stretched for awhile and my hair was getting healthy so it was so obvious where my new growth was. THEN… I looked in the mirror, washed my hair (new products) looked down and my hair was just breaking. It took my about two weeks to realize it was split ends that seemed to wake up one day and in two weeks my hair IS a mess. Note…IS… right now. I so feel you, one look in the mirror and it’s too late. And it can be anything. Two years of really starting to actively care for my hair and now here we are… but we will bounce back….

[@CrystalRose1111]

@@agoogleuser402 Facts. No lye is actually worse for your hair, it’s more drying. You do not want to mix relaxer types ….

[@Lidiroyal]

This was a great video. Tbh, I’m natural but I got faux locs in (to me, same concept of braids) and my hair was thinner after. I’ve given braids and faux locs a break.

[@tifiayiti937]

After watching the KZbinr *SistahWith RealHair* yesterday who also spoke about her hair experience….you realize the strength many of us possess. Self love no matter the battle it’s always needed.. *Its about your well being*

[@itsMayama]

I know right, I watched that video too... So emotional but yes she showed so much strength. Self love almost conquers all

[@deenacurls]

Maybe you should cut your hair. Like 2 inches off by a professional so you get a fresh start. I think getting regular trims afterwards consistently will help combat the breakage and promote hair retention. Also I think the braids are hurting more than they are helping. I've seen that most relaxed people with long hair wear loose buns tucking the ends in. Making sure to not wear the bun in the same spot either.

[@itsMayama]

I just got a hair cut today, they cut about an inch. Hopefully that helps with the breakage but I'll keep you posted. Thanks for the tip :)

[@joanocalagan6825]

Girl thanks for this raw and real !

[@itsMayama]

Thanks for watching

[@Miaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa]

I was relaxed and decided to bleach my hair (which is obviously a big no ) and I obviously lost soo much hair 😭😭. I’ve been natural for about 3/4 months and I absolutely hate it . Update I’ve relaxed my hair again and I’m happy

[@itsMayama]

Oh no, I'm so sorry :( are you planning on relaxing your hair again?

[@nekastar5320]

Lol

[@vickyd9584]

I hate my natural hair too.it doesn’t suit me at all.i relaxed my hair and added a permanent dye to it and it started breaking.have done a big chop last week and will relax very soon.never adding a dye again

[@CrystalRose1111]

Bro this is just. Yikes lol Please be patient with your natural hair, I promise it will be worth it

[@maya-uz4wc]

@@CrystalRose1111life is too short to be dealing with something that makes you insecure. Not everyone will like their natural hair that’s okay. Whatever makes them happy and feel confident is what they should go with.

[@prieryals4945]

I love 💕 your content! So informative and true to self! I recommend you try relaxing closer together, 12 weeks max and "dust" each relaxer. That helps reduce breakage and stretching for too long just based off of the breakage you've experienced. Also, I love making rosemary and clove spray and or with olive oil.. OMG 😱😳 incredible growth 📈 very quickly too. I've learned so much. You are so beautiful ❤️ Keep up the great 😊 work!!

[@itsMayama]

Thank you so much ☺️. and yes, my last relaxer was 8 weeks after the previous one but I am thinking of making 10 - 12 weeks, depending on how my hair is feeling. You are 100% accurate, when I try to extend my relaxer, sometimes I end up breaking my hair because it is hard to manage. I use rosemary on my hair (when I remember) but I haven't tried cloves and I just might 😊 Thank you so much for the kind words :)

[@Sunny-tc3ul]

It look like you was just lacking moisture and like you said a trim. Plus, during the summer put some heat protectant in your hair even with your braids. The sun can dry your hair out as well. But just like natural hair you just have to find out what actually works for your hair and please oil your hair while in braids. You will see a difference with moisture.

[@itsMayama]

I'm trying to do more moisture and less protein. And yeah my hair is really dry, still haven't found a moisturizing deep conditioner that my hair really likes but maybe I just need to do the deep conditioning for a while before I see an improvement.

[@Sunny-tc3ul]

@@itsMayama it’s a 10 is a very good moisturizer product with no protein in it. They have the shampoo, conditioner (which you can leave it in for at least 10 to 15 minutes for a deep conditioner), and a leave in conditioner.

[@karisima6060]

hey what heat protectant is good for the summer with relaxed hair? does it really help against the sun?

[@bettinaorevil5056]

Anemia and vitamin D deficiency break hair so much

[@itsMayama]

My doctor actually told me I was vit D deficient and I have been taking vit D supplements. I hope it helps :)

[@wintersweet6717]

Show me someone who is NOT Vit D deficient. We all are. Get some natural sun when possible as much as possible💕.

[@trem5174]

Parathyroid issues can cause hair loss and low vitamin D.

[@wintersweet6717]

@Cactus Flower Im gonna start cus my hair has been breaking. I will stop procrastinating.

[@Kayla-kd8ov]

I got anaemia and it really does shed /break your hair.

[@reginagillis7201]

That's why! You can't leave braids for long periods. Let the salon relax your hair. They are professionals with a license. Do your homework. Protein or deep conditioning. 👍🏽

[@gracecallowayable]

You are so beautiful inside and out!!!😌

[@itsMayama]

Thank you and right back at you 🥰

[@emileigh6524]

Forgot to add not trimming can really make or break ( no pun intended ) hair. You also need to find a new hairstylist. Your mother did a better job lol.

[@itsMayama]

Yeah I'm still contemplating another trim as I'm still experiencing some breakage, it's reduced though. They are too expensive 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ I think I'm just going to go back to my mom doing my relaxers. She listens and does what I ask when she's relaxing my hair and she also has relaxed hair.

[@cassandraspears8002]

Braids will pull and break the hair down go with another protective style!

[@itsMayama]

Yeah I am done with the braids, for now atleast. I can't believe I had my hair in braids for a couple of years back to back :(

[@shaffy856]

Feeling "unattractive" with your natural hair is a sign healing/therapy are needed. If you feel as though your hair doesn't "suit" you then there is an underlying issue regarding self image.

[@eshelarnold5835]

hair grows....but.......it takes so long. smh My relaxed hair is just damaged as hell, im thinking about going back natural. I was natural for 3 hairs and my hair was great. Until I put in some box braids. Then my natural hair stared to shed a lot. So I decided to relax it. I loved it. It was good for 2 years. No my hair keep , shedding and breaking off. I want grow it over, but it will take 3 years for a lovely length. so that is my dilemma.

[@itsMayama]

I think you should get a really good trim to get rid of the damaged ends... I have a video about things to do if your hair is breaking. Check it out. Good luck!🤗🤗

[@jujubean8640]

Are you doing protein treatments

[@flatbedladyv2191]

My haie absolutely hatse single braids. Cane rows will grow my hair but the stress of single plaits break my hair.

[@itsMayama]

No more single braids for me. I miss the so much but it is not worth it.

[@suse4344]

The same has happened to me, my hair was relaxed too and growing but now?! I had to cut it off and it's not growing back.

[@itsMayama]

Oh no I'm so sorry 😔😔 I definitely know how it feels. I'll definitely keep you posted on my journey. Don't lose hope and sure we'll figure out what's going on with our hair and how to stop the breakage. Have you done trims to get rid of the damaged/split ends? I'm thinking about doing another trim because I'm still experiencing breakage as well :( I wish you all the best.

[@suse4344]

@@itsMayama thank you so much for replying. I'll definitely keep watching your journey and take tips from it. Kiss from Portugal 🇵🇹I'm editing just to say yes, I did a major cut on my hair

[@yanimiller5856]

Start going to the hairdresser getting wash and set with deep conditioner and wrap let them blow your roots when it’s needed your be able to stretch your relaxer longer … give up the wigs and braids for a long time

[@itsMayama]

It's been very hard finding someone I trust with my hair. I've been blow drying my hair on medium heat and wearing braid outs and that's been helping me with stretching out my relaxer. The moisturizing deep conditioner also helps with keeping my hair very manageable. And yeah, no wigs and braids 😊🤎

[@TruckHER89]

I did braids for the first time in my relaxed hair....I did small individuals and I was so shocked how much my hair thinned out and got shorter...I do braid outs or a flat iron on my hair...a bun...I will not do braids again it was horrible...it look like you lacked moisture, protein and trims honestly...

[@itsMayama]

Yeah, the braids back to back were not a good idea. I have been keeping up with my hair routine and I am starting to see an improvement.

[@realascanb222]

@It's Mayama girl never do fake braids ever. I'm down to my bra and I have learned braids are a definite NO. Trust me, I know.

[@yeahnah4303]

Great and informative video

[@impursehappy2333]

Great video! Good information n thanks for sharing. 😊

[@itsMayama]

Glad you found it helpful, thanks for watching 😊

[@sassouusasoo3607]

All I was starring out was the cat in the background. Lol

[@itsMayama]

😂😂😹

[@datcat0000]

Love your wigs! Where do you get your Upart wigs?

[@itsMayama]

Thank you! I'm actually editing a video on how I make my upart wigs. I'll be posting soon 😊

[@PrincessPink433]

Just to save everybody time, she’s not retaining length due to over processing and neglect.

[@freespirit7450]

I wish I can find a wig to make me look nice.

[@itsMayama]

I posted a video about how I make my upart wigs if you want to check it out. And you're beautiful, with or without wigs ❤️

[@Sal-h4n]

thank you for sharing your journey !

[@itsMayama]

Thanks for watching 😊

[@Annabelarhin]

Thank you for this very informative

[@TheSplendidChild]

What type of relaxer were you using? Lye or no lye?

[@itsMayama]

When I first went back to relaxers I was using a no lye relaxer. When it got discontinued I started using whatever but lately I had been using a silk elements lye relaxer. I think moving forward I'm going to use a no lye relaxer. I got the mizani one for my next touch up

[@kalishajnz]

@@itsMayama I use the mizani no lye sensitive scalp and I like it. I don't even use a timer anymore because for me I have found that no matter how long I take or don't take I get the same results therefore I don't stress and I really take my time putting it in. I do feel like it leaves a good bit of texture but I have fine hair so it doesn't bother me.

[@itsMayama]

@@kalishajnz do you do your own relaxers? And do you protect your already relaxed hair before relaxing. Trying to make sure my next relaxer doesn't have any issues 🤗

[@kalishajnz]

@@itsMayama Yes, I do them myself and I usually use coconut oil to protect my previous relaxed hair. Every once in a while I might use a leave-in conditioner but mostly coconut oil.

[@itsMayama]

@@kalishajnz thanks😊

[@datcat0000]

Sis this video could have been 10mins. Keep it brief next time keeping to the key points please

[@itsMayama]

Thanks for the feedback. I'll keep that in mind for future videos.

[@silviaaa7600]

❤️

[@itsMayama]

😊❤️

[@theshampoocoach]

Great video 💖

[@itsMayama]

Thank you 🤎🤎

[@theshampoocoach]

@@itsMayama Ya'Welcome!🌺

[@val3sha]

My hair flourishes in twist but braids eat my hair up

[@nekastar5320]

How do u make your part wig?

[@itsMayama]

I just added the video link in the description box 😊

[@sassouusasoo3607]

I mean, your hair was medium length. It's not like like you went from waist length to shoulder length. It's sucks but you don't have long to go before reaching your initial length.No shade .

[@itsMayama]

Yeah hopefully i can get back to that length soon 😊

[@staciep2638]

Avoid blow dryers at all cost,thank me later!

[@itsMayama]

I have been using blow dryer lately and I think my hair has been okay. I think it's more about the frequency and the temperature you set the blow dryer to.

[@jashaehall154]

Is your hair still okay using the blow dryer?

[@staciep2638]

@@jashaehall154 I’ve used it only on cool settings! I plan on buying the reair!,it’s so pricey but seems like a healthier alternative

[@childofthemighty1341]

After watching your video, I have to say you murdered your hair using all methods possible. May your hair grow in peace.

[@itsMayama]

Haha yeah pretty much. And I am definitely leaving it alone now.

[@staciep2638]

Probably buoy manipulated your hair too much

[@itsMayama]

Yeah definitely

[@Exclusivebenedictatv]

Yes ,I understand you sweetheart ❤. Do you know something? There is no healthy Hair with chemicals???? Chemicals is chemicals hmmm Its soooo bad to your hair strands ,health and sooo many more. I tought we are cursed but not ok. The lord has given us such a beautiful lovely hair ,but we do t see it that way.rather use chemicals in it and think about all the set backs. I just recently cur my chemicals relaxed hair, and am gonna cut more til I see my beautiful natural hair the lord has given us. Plz do not be angry with me . Its just my opinion. Sray blessed and think abt this

[@noneynoney295]

What are you saying?

[@Sunny-tc3ul]

That’s a lie. I had & have a relaxer in my hair and my hair was thick long and very healthy before I wanted to do the natural thing. If you are not educated about your hair yes it will break and split. But just like natural hair hun you have to know what will work for you because natural hair can break and split as well. My natural hair was a disaster because I didn’t know how to take of it. But since I’m back to relaxers yes my hair is thriving because my mother educated me and my sister about how to take care of our relax hair, so don’t do that.

[@Exclusivebenedictatv]

@@Sunny-tc3ul sure 👍 you are so right my dear, but please don't be angry with me because am not the one who created those chemicals. I have been natural/related before and now am only Texlaxing. Loool I know all that my love. But whats whats we all have to understand is????? Chemicals is chemicals period If its doesn't ruined the hair now ,just wait for tomorrow. It's just a matter of time . Why should we leave in a lie For how long can we use this in our hair ? We just want to look like white people's. Hmmmmm We blacks need to think twice. Its individual choices, who cares

[@Exclusivebenedictatv]

@@Sunny-tc3ul please don't be angry with me for what I said ok because am also texlaxed. What's ever we do ,definitely we will change n get back to our root. Just a matter of time

[@Sunny-tc3ul]

@@Exclusivebenedictatv don’t gaslight and misinform people. I was relaxed from age 12 till I was 30. Never had breakage heat damage or split end’s. Yes chemicals are bad for the body and can damage the hair IF you are not educated on how to treat your hair. But don’t try to preach a sermon than holler I’m Texlax. Like you said chemicals are chemicals there is no difference into texlaing and relaxing besides the process. Plus,I’m not mad it’s just bad to manipulate people into changing their minds just because they doing the opposite of what you are doing. That’s to close to shaming someone for their hair. Don’t be a Nazis be a sister to a sister that’s in need of help.