What happens when a narcissist knows you know and what to expect?

[@rachelfromcali8982]

When a narcissist knows you know..... they are going to provoke you to look crazy so no one believes you.

[@diamondonpurpose9145]

Bingo

[@maimyabaebaby8146]

They were probably doing that behind your back the whole time too. Prepping everyone. My ex used to tell all the neighbors horrifically false stories about me and I found this out YEARS later when visiting a store in the old town and saw an old neighbor.

[@erikacrews1338]

@@maimyabaebaby8146 Yep! The smear campaign. They make sure they devalue you to others so you look crazy when you say anything negative about them!

[@Mercy1-]

Yeah

[@mihaelavoievidca2433]

My husband did the same

[@monteblazilla7776]

U cant hide it, and the more you find out about them the worse it'll get cause youll be standing up for yourself. Happening to me rn, its scary. Once u find out they literally look different in your eyes. That person you thought u knew jus dont exist, they never did. Run!

[@Katrn30]

You are so right…run…but some like my ex will never give up. My ex is still stalking me 7 years after I left him. The best thing is to get informed on the subject and never get involved with them in the first place.

[@b_b_b5146]

@@Katrn30 I'm sorry that the stalking shit keeps happening 💔 I agree that we have to keep informing ourselves about different types of predatory personalities out there so we NEVER have to put up with their b.s anymore.

[@Unherd_Of]

That is exactly how it feels. Like you never knew wtf they actually were and that's why it went on ad long as it did. Especially if they raised you.

[@Unherd_Of]

@@Katrn30 I got lucky and my ex stalker died from his own bad behavior in 2020 but if he hadn't I'd still be watching my back at every new job and every solo trip out of my house. It's fkn terrifying 😳

[@Katrn30]

@@Unherd_Of I am so happy for you that you got free. Yes it is scary at times because he is not giving up…and with his violent military background and court martial, he won’t hesitate to kill me when he is ready. I try to look forward.

[@newyorke172]

The biggest mistake I made when I found out my husband was a malignant narcissist was inform him of this and try to get him to go to therapy. This of course only set me up for abuse from marriage counselors as they would side with him. Once I realized that therapy was not going to work on him I told him I was not sure I could stay in the marriage. From that moment on my life was a living hell. He didn’t even try to hide the abuse anymore and I was stuck living in the house with him an absolute terror of what might happen next. The best advice I can give anyone in this situation is to leave quietly I understand this is incredibly difficult to do because as the kind person that you probably are you feel like you should inform the person that you’re leaving, but you are not dealing with a normal person.

[@rubyjet8614]

Spot on! "Leave QUIETLY" ❤️

[@villasoka884]

Mad or bad, or both? It appears to be madness, but more like badness, is dark alright!

[@hardmurakami]

Remember, that there is ~80% of narcissists so it’s a big chance that you run to another one trying to expose them. Therapists are not an exception

[@royferguson3909]

@@hardmurakami you speak the truth . I concure ✌

[@WhiteWolfBlackStar]

After costing me my home, my savings, friends family.. 30 years later I WALKED with nothing but the clothes on my back Starting over at 60. He’d found my replacement. A pole dancing clone of me 30 years younger, strung out on drugs. But I guess she looked good in my underwear and my car. Apparently it didn’t work out. 30 years. 30 hours was too long. I couldn’t get rid of him. Had no idea what was going on. Discover my mom was a narc, and so were many of my ‘friends’. Wasted life. The kids are lucky this is east knowledge now.

[@BigHeartNoBS]

I learned to pretend not to know. Sometimes you have to play the role of the fool to fool the fool who thinks they're fooling you. That's how you set them up, by flipping the script. Don't ever let them know that you know. They'll destroy themselves eventually. It's hard to do though. Be fake nice, then ghost/block them.

[@_Octaviawalker]

😂😂😂😂💯💯💯💯💯💯🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 yes love you must be a Gemini ♊️ because baby my narc husband thought he had me but I was 1000 steps ahead of his crazy self❤

[@sararichardson737]

That’s what I did as I prepared to leave , it’s the best way.

[@nkreseknowledge2241]

💯💯💯

[@Jepse89]

True I had nothing but problems telling the truth in their face

[@swow1556]

Spot on... you win in the end..you get rid of them..

[@Maryhadalam]

They start telling lies about you to others.

[@sunshinyday1901]

Yes, lying is second nature to them, as is gaslighting

[@ellie_j.]

Yes, the smear campaign, their most devastating punishment tool!

[@sandblackbondchickcruz462]

Yes they will make you look like a creetin! They will Turn you into the town pariah ! They will make up disgusting lies about you and spread them amongst their friend’s girlfriends and sister n laws! All Of their jealous raggedy azzes and narcissists and all in cahoots. He believes whatever they say because they are all Alike! Facts.

[@AliciaGuitar]

smear campaign

[@stupensardi2783]

It is so hard when the narcissist is mother in law who is putting poison into her own grandchild 's mind about their own mother and the child believes nana.

[@JC-bu6vl]

'Monster" is not an understatement. They get worst once they know you know. It's like you are sharing your house with a Demon.

[@tanningbuckshot5811]

Your right thats what it feels like

[@Mercy1-]

@@tanningbuckshot5811 parents are like this

[@milliesecond102]

YES! God revealed that to me, IT IS a demonic spirit of Narcissism! That's why we absolutely need the Heavenly protection in tge Mighty Name of Yeshua HaMashiach- Jesus Christ! Demons tremble at the sound of His name and we are told in Ephesians to put on the Armor of God daily! 🙏❤️🙏

[@kritikaroy5058]

Yeah true living in a haunted house. Haha made me laugh a bit but the fear is real. Anything might happen any moment and all the blame will be on our head.

[@mirelagion9774]

Right

[@johnjohnson1681]

ONCE YOU KNOW YOU GO! GET OUT AND STAY OUT! -HG TUDOR

[@diamondonpurpose9145]

Yup

[@jamoriah]

When I finally joined the dots I felt a huge sense of relief. As if a diagnosis was received. These people are sick, very sick.

[@salliegallegos918]

2:38 “The best way to deal with them is to leave and run.”

[@rhondathompson6592]

Discovering who the narcissist is, is like literally pulling off their mask!

[@shanielswaby3591]

YES!!!

[@suehailroman12]

​@Ether's Child Tarot Readings YES!!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@JH-td4mn]

It's like the end of every Scooby Do episode!

[@rhondathompson6592]

@@JH-td4mn 😆 LOL!!

[@jackieharb7111]

For some reason they think no one can see past their lies but their lies are too obvious and it becomes too predictable 😅

[@Infrared1967]

This is the deadly truth. At first it's really neat that they seem genuinely in tune with your moods. Then it turns into "monitoring" you. It's like being psychotically stalked.

[@taraarrington2285]

It is.

[@rubyjet8614]

👍

[@freedomtobeintheknow-kryst9705]

I agree, as a privacy advocate, the monitoring was some of the worst

[@SophieBird07]

So true! I naively thought he was actually interested in me! No one ever acted this way before toward me. .. interested in my world, and I actually felt valued. But shortly, I could do nothing right. I’m a decent cook for example, but he’d look it over and say “Yuck. You eat weird stuff, etc.” Oh, he thought he was a great cook, but believe me he wasn’t. But I’d nonetheless encourage him, etc. But It got much worse, financially and emotionally. We kept our own places but he was a mere “shout” down the street and knew whenever I wasn’t home, etc. I really didn’t know how to get away short of selling my house, because he came by everyday with one need or request after another, my car, money, etc. Then one day someone else appeared on the scene and apparently sucked in by his his perpetual charms, within days had moved in with him. He tried to tell me it was his cousin! Lol. But I let it go as annoyed and fed up as I was, but that wasn’t enough for him and told him I would move on (no jealousy displays he was hoping for). He still had to try to triangulate me, texting snark, hoping Id respond (and thus breeding insecurity in his newest prey). I am a bit crushed that it had to turn out this way, but I didn’t take the bait. It was never real. And I have surprised myself in realizing that I can think quite calmly about all this and say…”well he’s her problem now… or will be shortly.” Let her drive him hither and yon. He is always too broke to get his own car fixed. Just a handful of gimme without so much as a “much obliged”, as that song goes. I’m sort of free falling at the moment but I know I will land on my feet. Addendum: when all is said and done with me, and my Will is read, I am leaving him “my last dime” that he tried so hard to get. But most likely I’ll out-live him anyway.

[@marcia9480]

Perfectly said

[@deadheadproxy6741]

You're only person I can listen throughout the whole video. I hate it when people just add lots of unnecessary info that has nothing to do with the topic. Thank you for getting straight to the point.

[@villasoka884]

Sounds like you are healing alright, seeing things as they are!

[@Rockstar_london]

I resonate with your thoughts

[@BernardLimpet-qd8bk]

...most just yammer on

[@evelynhughes3116]

Narcissism hurts the narcissist more than it hurts the victim. Their hearts are closed and hardened and their whole body hurts. They can’t see beauty or feel peace. The hell of their life gets worse and worse with each wrong action

[@LonjeMarie7]

Have a PLAN when leaving them,Be SILENT, NEVER let anyone know your next move especially anyone who could get your plan back to the narcissist be 1000 steps ahead of them. Put important documents in a backpack for you and the kids that you may have to grab to run out immediately ,follow your intuition if it tells you you are in immediate danger then you probably are, RUN 🏃‍♀️ For me I had to go to domestic violence shelters because I knew what I was dealing with people that are close to you in my opinion it’s best you don’t even tell them exactly where you are just in case the narcissist manages to tug on their empathy and cry etc. they cannot give out information they don’t know. What I liked about being a domestic violence shelters is you have a ton of other people to support each other they put you in classes you literally are brainwashed you see a therapist you’re not alone and you’re safe especially if you have kids. Binge watch narcissistic survivor videos on every social media , for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE,like it’s the very air you breathe, because it IS! The reason I say for the rest of your life is because relapse is a part of recovery. Take your power back living your best life is the best revenge! You CAN DO THIS! We did!

[@Katrn30]

Listen to this woman people…she is so right about everything!

[@rockforester7908]

No husband but a LANDLORD. Keep your mouth shut. Consider alerting law enforcement, the mayor of your town, even media, depending upon what you need. and what they may provide you. I have animals that I will not abandon. A person like this will kill your pets in a second & shelters won’t take them, so it’s not always an option. Get away. Go in the dead of night if need be.

[@patriciavandevelde5469]

Oh and don't trust lawyers

[@Katrn30]

@@patriciavandevelde5469 lol, same here. Years ago my first husband and I had a rule…”we don’t work for lawyers. Period”. After being cheated by several lawyers we cut all of them off, it just wasn’t worth the risk.

[@HonestyIsAVirtue7]

@@patriciavandevelde5469 Great advice! I don't trust anybody, but God anymore.

[@terridillon3053]

Smashed the mask! God bless all you warriors!

[@kylesnider9357]

I am a narcissistic abuse survivor who shares a child with the abuser. I made it 6 years before everything blew up. It has been 6 more years since we split and she has remarried. It still hasn't gotten much easier. There's a tinge of fear just typing this comment. The lengths these kinds of people go to make you miserable is mind-blowingly unfathomable. Considering I was discarded 6 years ago she still won't let me go. It's discouraging to say the least. I know that through my personal Saviour Jesus Christ I will triumph, but it has been a dark night for my soul. To anyone who is suffering I hate to say that you can expect more... but it's true. Put your faith in Jesus and let him battle on your behalf. Jesus is how I have made to where I'm at. Glory, honor and praise, in Jesus' name. Amen.

[@LonjeMarie7]

YOU LET YOU GO! I’m sorry she is putting you through this this is going to make you better. Although it’s quite painful like the gentleman said in the video he usually gets better before it gets worse.Take your power back God’s got you I would cling to Bible scriptures that would say God did not give me a spirit of fear. Learn all you can about narcissism mostly recover. This too shall pass. No feeling is final.

[@camellia8625]

I feel for you and hope you find a solution to your situation. I also left a narcissist whom I shared children with - I had 11 years of harassment post separation only stopped by giving up my name, former home and residence of my children. Once he could no longer trace me and no longer had a right to know where I lived or worked or even my new name as I was no longer the resident parent he could not continue his seemingly interminable campaign of punishment for leaving him.

[@stephenallen3274]

St. Michael the warrior saint has helped me greatly. I keep a bracelet on at all times as a constant reminder of protection. I keep gratitude in my heart for my wonderful life despite all the darkness. Only at our greatest moments of weakness do we find our strength. All the best wishes in your healing.

[@nayanrmesh2870]

Likewise, me too! I'm a conqueror in CHRIST JESUS🙏 HE fought all my bitter battles, and delivered me from all darkness which the narc had strapped me in, and Redeemed me from all harm, now I'm freed and I enjoy my every breath of life in CHRIST JESUS🙏 All Glory be to our Glorious TRIUMPH LORD GOD ALMIGHTY🙏Amen🙏

[@Zepster77]

Let it go for christ’s sake… & while you’re at it, how about putting faith in yourself for a change…. after all, Christ lives IN you AS you ❤‍🔥 peace

[@lisawest1556]

When mine knew I knew, he began to avoid me like a plague.

[@HeartFeltGesture]

They really are cowards pretending to be tough

[@BifidokKefir]

Lucky. 😂

[@IsabellaPiesch]

🎯

[@billimiaon6246]

If you outsmart a narcissists and they are caught in the act and are cornered, they will find new supply and completely abandon you. You are no use to them.

[@SquishyGrayMatter]

Yup

[@mammadingo9165]

Yes and that is really astonishing they can delete you from there minds

[@deniseelsworth7816]

I have never heard a therapist mention a psychopathic narcissist. That fits the person perfectly because I was torn between being told said person was a psychopath by a counselor and seeing all the similarities to narcissism in them. So the two can exist in one person.that really helps me.

[@lastmanstanding5423]

It's called "Cluster B" personality disorders, because they come in a Cluster. Cluster B includes: Narcissism, Anti-Social, Histrionic and Borderline Personality disorders. Each of them has sub-categories. Like Anti-Social has Psychopathy and Sociopathy... etc... etc... And what I mean when I say "they come in a cluster" is that practically all of them have 2 or more disorders at the same time. Like for example my mom has Malignant Narcissism and Borderline. And my sister has Communal Narcissism and Histrionic. And sometimes it's really hard to classify them. So the best thing to do is just call them "Cluster B". There is no actual need to classify them more than that to know who you need to avoid.

[@Minneolaos]

No, a narcissist and a psychopath are different beasts. When a person has both narcissistic personality disorder and antisocial personality disorder, a person is called a malignant narcissist, that's the dual diagnosis. A narcissist can act antisocially, but is not antisocial per se. A psychopath can act narcissistically, but is not a narcissist per se. These disorders are pretty similar though as both are Cluster B disorders, the malignant narcissist is the dual diagnosis, but it's not an official category. Then we also have sociopaths. Every sociopath is somewhat narcissistic. The sociopath is the most common beast out of these and the one you most likely meet on a dark alley or at some parking lot dealing drugs. A sociopath differs from a psychopath. Kanika Batra has great videos about sociopathy here on KZbin.

[@HeartFeltGesture]

There is a spectrum of narcissism, from pathological liar to psychopathic killer.

[@Morpheus-pt3wq]

@@Minneolaos narcissist will destroy you mentally. Psychopath will not hesitate to destroy you with any means he deems necessary, even physical. If you meet a narcissist and run away, you only have to stay hidden. If you meet a psychopath, however... there is no place for you to hide.

[@relied7934]

Ultimately the names in the DSM5. don't matter that much. The behaviors. do. When you have a large group of people reporting the same patterns of abusive behavior, there is a need for a label and a definition, yes. Let's just say we were living with a wild tiger that kept its claws velveted, and was beautiful and tame as a kitty. And then, without warning, you realized it was actually a tiger. This comparison is derogatory to tigers, I fear. Tigers are noble beasts, not human monsters.

[@Unherd_Of]

You are a savior sir and we need the knowledge you are spilling.

[@PerrySkyePhoenix]

Expect to be devalued and discarded as soon as you begin to stand up for yourself or have boundaries.

[@clintonnagy1662]

No truer words have been said. Going through that now. Sucks !

[@margekaplan2057]

Everything with ppl is a transaction . Each narc has their own 'money' or rate of exchange. Observe what they use,,emotions. Pleasure,,Freudian history,,Spiritualism,,even kindness. What do they truck in.

[@JFredric]

You said it brilliantly “unless you corner them in the court system and they trap them selves“ one of the biggest indicators is when all their projection & accusations get flipped - Turns out , The accuser is usually the predator in the situation

[@suzyhomeacre]

You cannot unsee what you’ve seen. Nope!

[@Trw-ke5oo]

As a empath my internal tracking system ( my intuition) exposed them.. it was my human condition, the ego that kept me too long.. and I suffered because of this. I am headed home to myself, I am healing ❤️‍🩹 and moving forward.

[@fffrfrw]

Sometimes, by the time you realise their shit, they have already moved onto next destroy their next victim

[@martymcfly4464]

My ex's father was a full blown narcissist (I know he was because I had never witnessed anything like it before). I tried to slowly point out reasons why her father was a narcissist without overstepping. Until one time after visiting her family, I couldnt take it anymore, I had to let her know completely. She could not accept it. It was much easier to live a lie than to admit her father never actually loved her, but only saw her as utility for his own sake. It is a weird dynamic unlike anything I had ever seen. She is terrified of his every reaction, and constantly seeking his praise which he almost never gives. She walks on eggshells around him. But at the same time he has convinced her that she can't live or do anything without him. I have been around controlling people, he was next level beyond anything I knew existed. He tried to tell me what parking spot to park in hahahaha. That is not gonna fly, I have a basic rule with men. I do not try to control you, you do not try to control me. I do NOT like being manipulated/controlled. I grew up in a caring, albeit crazy, family so I had no idea this level of evil existed in what would seem like a normal family. When I first met the guy, he was charming, charismatic, and very talkative. It took me a couple hours before I sensed something was off. Then it only became more and more obvious even with his charismatic front.

[@AliciaGuitar]

daughters of narcissists are very much like abused wives... if you point out the truth they become defensive. it is very hard for children to see fault in their parents especially after all the gaslighting he has done over the years making her think she is the problem. they WANT to believe some day, somehow, they will earn their parent's love, but we know that day will NEVER come

[@leafmebee]

It's not a choice, it develops in childhood as a protection mechanism and most will not seek help because 1 there is none and 2 they don't think they need to

[@christinenoelle7568]

My narcissistic husband tried to strangle me when I found out who he really was. Before I knew he always said “I know you better than you know you” I have so many stories. Before I knew and before KZbin and the truth was everywhere. I married this monster twice. He stole my youth, and damaged me beyond words.

[@chrisb5989]

It's really unbelievable how narcissists say the same thing, and how predictable they are. Mine also said the same thing -- "I know you better than you know yourself." I chuckled at first, but he really believed it. I've gone no contact for over two weeks, and he's in turn avoided me because he knows I know what he is. ... I signed and paid my divorce lawyer retainer fee the other night, and I'm ready to take my life back.

[@henryk.5192]

I’m currently dealing with a narcissistic boss. When I first found out about her, she became more aggressive with her tactics. But, I just didn’t care about anything she threw at me because I knew her number. She continued her aggression to the point where she couldn’t do anything more, and then she finally left me alone. Turnover is very high in my team. So, I’m just waiting for my time to deliver the final blow. Just want her to know she messed with the wrong person.

[@animallover4955]

When I was experiencing this narcissism was not known about. Self preservation took care of me, I managed to get out with my child alive. I moved interstate & regularly. He destroyed me, physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually & financially. He even tried to come back years later while still affecting my life. Thanks Danish for your straight talking & comprehension of this insanity.

[@themermaidlady1]

How bloody awful - I’m so sorry for you and yours.

[@l.5832]

Well and good to say "Don't let them take you by surprise" but my narc ex-husband did things I could never foresee a human doing. We signed a separation agreement and we were both satisfied with it. He told me he was giving it to his lawyer to file with the courts, saving me that legal cost. I waited and waited for the confirming paperwork. Nothing. Finally on December 1st I get paperwork that is a separation agreement that left me with nothing but the shirt on my back and order to vacate our jointly owned house in 3 weeks, the day before Christmas Eve! This is totally legal where I live in Canada. In order to fight it, I would have to file my own separation agreement to counter it which meant getting a lawyer just before Christmas to draft up another document. I could not find a lawyer who would work that fast but God saved the day! I found he had lied on the financial disclosure and in fact had several hidden bank accounts. So I said, "No, just leave it as is and I'll see you in court. I want a judge to see the guy who would throw his wife out just before Christmas and have hidden bank accounts." He had to pay almost $1000 to get his lawyer to cancel that first separation agreement before it went to court. I filed the original separation agreement and left him.

[@patriciavandevelde5469]

My lawyer was bribed by sicilian mother in law!!!!!!!!!@

[@patriciavandevelde5469]

Don t trust humans!

[@twinamatsikodinnah6942]

Congratulations, I tap into this courage

[@relied7934]

Good for you for keeping your head together

[@patriciajoseph3035]

You get mad at yourself for having been duped and then get mad at them Possibly truly hating them for the beastly way they treated you and your children. But then the true liberation process begins.

[@wendyhannan2454]

Very true, well said 😉

[@luciajager5766]

Thank you for explaining all about to understand what a narcisist is about to do.The more I understand it and the more I can relax and calm down my anger.That's why I felt to be crazy but now I know that I'm not crazy like the narcisist wants me to believe.Thank you so much

[@relied7934]

Not crazy. Have you ever watched Ingrid Bergman in 'Gaslight?' Another fan fave of mine, if you can go beyond suspense into horror is 'Rosemary's Baby' If you want something more modern, theres 'Midsomer.' They are all perfect tales of gaslighting, (of course) manipulation, machiavellianism, deception and sadism. There is nothing wrong about any of the main characters except there are crazy people using them.

[@shauntib4313]

My son is a Grandiose Narcissist- I was so confused by his behaviour for the past twenty years - his actions & words increased is disrespect, abusive worse & worse. Questions weren’t answered or stonewalled or redirected at me with rocket fuel force. He kept saying to me - you are unable to learn, you keep repeating inappropriately - you’re not listening- he was gaslighting me constantly and I was in a whirlwind of frustration, dismay, hurt, asking myself what is going on. When the Light of his gaslighting illuminated his Narcissism everything may sense. That was only the beginning- I’ve had a terrible time getting away - he’s so crafty - got baited a few time but now I’ve blocked him everywhere. I am looking to move so he won’t be able to ambush me. Thank you for all your videos So Empowering!!!

[@dajuana.nicole]

The drip supply this is exactly what I did and I didn't even know made it so much easier to cut them off

[@l.5832]

I've never heard the term Drip Supply but that is what I instinctively did. I found Grey Rock was extremely dangerous for me because my now ex-husband would escalate things to dangerous levels. He could not permit a peaceful routine coexist in our lives. When I sensed him doing increasing things to provoke me, rather than ignore him, I would let it go a while, then when I saw he was accelerating, I gave him a response big enough satisfy his need to have 'pushed my buttons' even though I wasn't particularly upset. I was trying to avoid the bigger stuff that awaited if I did not show a reaction. Drip Supply.

[@taraarrington2285]

Don't worry they'll lovebomb new supply.

[@jaifyre702]

As I'm trying my best to exit my narc marriage I've seen this drastic intensity. I've been to jail twice over DV charges because he expected me to take all the abuse I was getting. That was back in July and August. He knows there's no turning back and he's playing with my life by not leaving and I'm not leaving my children with him. He's a great dad but I wouldn't put it past him to do something to hurt me. He's placed protection orders against me even though the judge seen why I would need one they granted it to him because I physically defended myself. Now he's purchased a gun. I feel the courts have let me down as I've tried to get placed into shelters with no hope. One thing about me that he knows is I'm going to fight you every single time and if I have too die defending myself then I will at this point because nobody else cared enough to protect me. I just know the moment I feel slightly threatened I'm doing what I have to do to survive. I've documented EVERYTHING so the courts can't say a damn thing but I'm sorry for not helping you but him. Once I become a doctor in psychiatry I'm going to help women like me who deal with this abuse with no one to have their backs. People act like we're crazy for staying not understanding that our finances have been abused too.

[@_Octaviawalker]

I’m sorry that it had to go this far for you❤ God is about to turn everything around for you

[@Everybodyisasomebodysomewhere]

Sending you so much protection and healing mama ❤ You are amazing. You are loved. I’m so proud of you 🙏🔥 thank you for sharing your story here

[@nkreseknowledge2241]

So basically he's already set up his self defense plea if he does in fact unalives you? Please be safe 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@angelakeely5859]

People who haven't gone through narcissist abuse don't understand,and never try to, instead judge you, I hope you keep a journal of what's happening, my 💖 goes out to you it's horrendous what your going through,you don't deserve this crap, it's so cruel. I say in my mind God send legions of angels to help me in this situation(name the situation) you can also adkGod to send legions of angels to protect you ,to protect your family.May God bless,and my wish for you is that you get out of that horrendous situation.

[@nurriddeenahummsaalihah6307]

R u ok? I know you texted this months ago but r u ok?

[@HonchHeado]

They become abusive belittling then blame it all on you even going as far as trying to make out you are the Narcissist. Then discard you no matter what you do especially if they found more supply.

[@lisawells9905]

I am so thankful for these videos. I grew up surrounded with narcissist. I became a narcissist magnet. I always felt something was wrong with me. Hearing these videos and reading the comments has helped me heal and slowly bur surely move on.

[@charmee4045]

I told my narc that "that girl" that he lived with was gone.........I saw the look on his face he knew the jig was up. I now have a sister trapped in the abuse cycle. She won't even call him a narcissist, feels sorry for him. 18 years with him its too late. I have an aunt that spent over 50 years with one and has had a total break with reality and wanders around in some fantasy. She nursed him until his death and he was evil to his last breath and tortured her to the very end. There are lots of narcissists out there.

[@lauraswanson6161]

Wow!! This is 100% what I went through. My ex narc husband left us for dead.

[@AkathisiaWarrior]

Wow.

[@janedoe5229]

Thank you for your direct and clear youtubes. I don't need psychobabble.

[@sethschuyler2771]

I thank Jesus for you Danish!

[@crisalis]

Thanks youtube suggested me your channel, I need more light about narcissistic behavior, because I have a narc ex and he still come back from time to time, now I became more honest with him, I can tell whatever I wanna tell him because I am not afraid of him anymore. The best way to defeat narcissist is to educate yourself about narcissism, study their behavior then turn the table against them let them taste their own medicine.

[@Misfit-from-Zanti]

You got it all to a tee. I discovered all this the hard way.

[@queendesormeaux]

I can so relate to what you're saying. With mine I found out that he had been dating someone for 4 months at the same time as dating me. It was her that realized it first. At our age we don't meet in the parking lot and rumble. If anything we decided to have fun with it. We knew he was out of town so we went to his boat where he lives and took selfies on his bed then posted it on Facebook. After that went out for dinner and waited for the show to begin. After him realizing what had happened, then things got more intense with begging me to stay. Was not going to happen. Later I agreed to meet with him and got on his phone and noticed he had sent a message to his daughter laughing about the two of us and that we both were fighting to get him back. It just affirmed to me what he was all about. Even with him showing up with a big engagement ring, I was not going to break. Needless to say he told me to keep the ring and think about it so I can honestly say I have a really nice ring and no did not marry him. You just have to stay strong and see it for what it really is. He even tried to threaten me by showing pictures of me changing that he had taken one day to his friends. That did not work in his behalf at all as I contacted his friend's wife and explain the situation and she shut that down. He does have a new victim now and as much as I would love to warn her, it's in my best interest to stay out of it. So to all people reading this, there is a big light at the end of this tunnel and you need to allow yourself to see it! My heart goes out to everyone.

[@degenerate82]

Yes everyone needs to know this, great video

[@thehotcoffeehouse6081]

If you break their spell, they know it and you show it, they can become super enraged.

[@HonestyIsAVirtue7]

TheHotCoffeeHouse... You're exactly right because the demons inside of them start torturing them because we got away. Their assigned to us. And, they are suppose to complete the assignment and completely destroy us. I've heard so many people saying that not long after they broke free from the soul ties the Narc died.

[@thehotcoffeehouse6081]

@@HonestyIsAVirtue7 wow ..very interesting. I believe that too. I believe the demon inside my narc, is a familiar spirit assigned to my husband and me to destroy us. Similar demon had possessed her husband. Within about 5 years after we went no contact with them, he died. I foolishly broke no contact with her shortly after that. I instituted strict no contact about 2 years ago and have kept it faithfully. She writes me a lot trying to get me to break n.c. and I do feel her soul being crushed and tormented by the evil spirit inside her. I take zero joy in that and I have even rebuked that spirit, but have nor attempted to cast it out of her because I feel a check on that in my own spirit. I am no exorcist, lol a bit.. But I really appreciate your comment, very insightful. Thank uou.

[@16shokushu]

Yep. The narc meltdown is one of the most insane experiences ever. My ex was sending me hundreds of fb messages and texts a day. He was spending almost all day typing up paragraphs of character assassination and completely unhinged statements. NPD is no joke.

[@Mercy1-]

Yup

[@anneofgreengables1619]

It's the same as when a demon is exposed by an exorcist.

[@joseygonzalez1800]

man these videos are so eye opening. my aunt is a narcissist and growing up she completely killed my self esteem. she convinced me i was useless and no one would ever love me. she still tries to get me to talk to her but i just ignore her. thank goodness for therapy or else i'd still feel the same way about myself.

[@amandatarkington6877]

Expect narcissistic rage!!! It is unbelievable!!!

[@paulcooper5748]

Oh yeah ive experianced it from a parent it truly is like an adult child having a tantrum.

[@billkingston4402]

I have never been happier, 55 years of abuse, figured my dad out a few months ago, you helped thank you from Ireland

[@prairrie]

This is exactly what happened to mev. Completely cut off. Removed everything . Ruthless.

[@jeffunderwood6235]

Thanks to channels like yours they are being found out on a less than hourly basis. If you are reading this you like me are looking for answers. I made the mistake of telling mine I knew she is a narcissist and all hell broke loose. Best advice DON'T TELL THEM YOU KNOW!!!

[@wendyhannan2454]

I know that’s true, but it’s so hard not to tell them.

[@jeffunderwood6235]

@@wendyhannan2454 take heed to my warning..it won't go well plus it gets you nowhere fast.

[@trueblue7181]

I love your videos they have really helped me understand what narcissism is, it's been an absolute nightmare living with it, but I'm coping, well just about, it's probably the most traumatic thing I've ever had to deal with.

[@lpereira7866]

My goodness…. You are speaking my life!!!

[@LonjeMarie7]

In my opinion I have dealt with two narcissist on an ongoing basis they both have punished me when I am leaving the situation and I know that I am onto them. That’s a good sign that means I’m doing something right! The fact that they are that annoyed and do everything to try to lower my self-esteem maliciously say and do nasty things it got me down at first however I have reframed the way I see it. That’s GOOD!

[@rmg2419]

Yes, they double down on their abuse when they see you've figured them out and especially when you've planned your escape route.

[@taraarrington2285]

They will sabotage you for trying to be healthy.

[@Danielle-ni2zg]

They’re just going to resent you for staying

[@laurelmarshall6903]

Thank you SO much! I just figured out my adult daughter is a narc & I never will let myself be "alone with her" ever again. Everything you say makes so much sense & rings so true! `

[@HeartFeltGesture]

Narcissists dont just happen, one of the parents is a narcissist and the other is an enabler.

[@mikerosoft1009]

@@HeartFeltGesture can you elaborate?

[@susanmcmahon4733]

He tried every trick under the sun, mainly cut me out of finances and left with NOTHING he moved bank account, got a GREAT lawyer and got justice through the courts TG judge I think he could see through him, now live in PEACE.

[@Mercy1-]

Great 👍

[@allen7004]

Brother you nailed it

[@alexgorlechen5059]

"Shit hits that fan abd the whole situation changes." Love it. True. Brace yourself then.

[@Unherd_Of]

I literally want to stand up and celebrate you for being a straightforward line in a psychotic loop of thoughts. You are giving prisoners keys here my love and you are wonderful. I'm in stage 2 of leaving. The fallout. But this is my 3rd time in a lifetime of leaving a parent in their own misery. I Gave up scapegoat badge and I'm recovering my finances to slither away myself.

[@Muthua6]

Am starting the process will are at the first stage love bombing and an assuming did your method work

[@dclarke1896]

You are so accurate! My ex narc studied me by hacking my cellphone and monitoring all my calls, text messages, and basically everything I did on my cell phone for well over a year without my knowledge. One time, when he was devaluing me, he mentioned that I was breathing hard and fast, and there was no need to do so (he was gaslighting me by the way) . What a horrible excuse for a human being!

[@madamepiafsteinkitt8941]

💜EXCELLENT, CONCISE CONTENT! Just when i thought i have "Graduated" and rely on a very short list of outstanding presenters, i discovered your SUPURB info. Thank you so much!

[@remnant4827]

You feel like u have the keys to the kingdom💯 It’s all a game with a Narc play it well they don’t love you so do you and make it work in your favor💯 They never leave but if you play your cards right you can cause them to leave💯💪🏽 S/O NARC SLAYER

[@ashleymarshall5502]

Horrible horrible people. How someone can get pleasure out of someone elses pain is beyond me.

[@MrTwinkieeater]

I "dated" one for 10 months. Textbook behavior. I'd rather both my parents die again than go through narcissistic abuse.

[@StormsHurt]

Wow😮

[@pamelajj8082]

I understand

[@clintonnagy1662]

Yep, same here. I dated a vulnerable narc for 18 months. Been watching these videos, and was shocked to know I'm dealing with such a person. I thought I knew what narcissism was. I was wrong until I got educated. I feel betrayed and angry with myself for letting it go on for so long. The levels of manipulation, inconsistencies, contradictions, hypocrisies, drama and chaos are off the charts. I don't attract women of her caliper, because she is high maintenance and comes from money so I felt honored to have such a PRIZE but turns out, she isnt worth dealing with and the relationship ended. She had new supply lined up after the discard. Shows me the true character of who I was dating. A soulless parasite.

[@leosun1387]

This video resonated so much to me. It explains everything I've been going through. The more I know about this person, the worse it gets. Now I am willing to learn everything about this person. Only to see the red flags of others, who engage in this type of abuse. Thank you so much. Have a blessed day.

[@user-tk3nm2ul1e]

Self preservation!! Had to walkway!! Person needs to let go! Free to live his life!!

[@Unherd_Of]

To everyone here who was almost been killed leaving. I am so so sorry and please give yourself a break for the ptsd you definitely have afterwards. Soon though you will see that was a bubble in time and space but it is not how "the world abroad is" not even close. We run to each other for help. Like this kind man making a safe space for us to seek information ✨️

[@dianelopez8344]

You are so right with having PTSD! I was diagnosed with PTSD, depression, anxiety and with a Narcissist husband of 30+years together & married he has tried to have my life taken away so many times!! Being financially dependent with him and disabled is the hardest thing that holds me back!! He’s getting ready to make the worse of the worse for me and I need to be ready!! Abuse of everything I’ve ever gone through my life with him is unmanageable and scary!! I pray every single day and night for help and I hope I’m not to late 😢🙏🏼

[@dodibenabba1378]

@@dianelopez8344 I can guarantee your depression and anxiety will dissipate as soon as you are away from them

[@Unherd_Of]

@@dianelopez8344 soon God will give u a new way

[@gm9884]

If you let them know they will hate you with the blaze of 1000 hell fires...did it with my boss, retaliation was so hateful that I had to resign...eventually he asked me to come back because they hate to lose control over somebody...run, as far and as fast as you can

[@Hope4BettaDayz]

I made the mistake of discrediting everyone who told me that my narc ex was in fact a narc. I tried to rationalize behaviors, to understand, to communicate with them... Only to find out that they took my biggest fears and threw them in my face. They showed zero remorse for showing their true face to me, while pretending to everyone else, that I was the bad guy. It's been a few years and I'm still trying to work through the trauma of it all. Meanwhile, they are living their best life, moved on with someone else, and act like there never was a "we". Wish that I knew then, what I know now. I could have saved myself the worst heartbreak. Wasted so much time loving someone unworthy of even like.

[@AliceDont888]

They're not as smart as they think they are. Don't waste your precious time on them. Life is too short! Learn to truly love yourself!

[@flowersofthefield340]

People eventually see through all of them .......

[@musicaloceans1]

That's so sad, most people change when you infom them of Disengagement. But things get crazy when you allow them to manipulate you then take your Power back

[@satoriceramics6010]

Mine was a complete phantom. Her name was Meghan (so she said), told me she was 25. One time hanging around her family her mom referenced to her last 27th birthday to someone else, which I overheard and didn’t act like I heard it. I could feel this energy like she brought something up she wouldn’t have. Meghan quickly changed subject. I thought it was weird but maybe just a hiccup in her mom’s brain. To her family she was 28, to me she was 25 (I was younger), and to my friends her age would float between them. I noted it but didn’t bring it up. She was well traveled, used to be a flight attendant. Went to India and fell in love with yoga and being a yogi. White woman with head wraps and beads everyday. Nothing wrong with that but she definitely put on that character since looking at her older photos. She also had moved a lot (like major moves, San Franscisco- Texas- DC- Peru- India- Korea etc) That was a red flag that she could never settle down in one place. Made me feel like she was running or hiding from something. I could tell she had a very colorful past but she never wanted to talk about it, even all the cool places she’d been. The next flag was a beach day where her sister called her by a name I had never heard before (I can’t even remember the name but it wasn’t Meghan nor her middle name / nicknames). It was something so different I was blown when I saw her respond. Again, I was far enough away playing soccer that they thought I couldn’t hear. But I was so hyper vigilant at this point that my ears were perked 24/7. That one really set me off. Her sister was a hairdresser and she used to always talk about how dumb and superficial it was as a career (acting all deep and spiritual). Years later after leaving her she is now a hairdresser and has completely changed identities, once again. No wraps, no mala beads, and bleaching and cutting women’s hair. Again, nothing wrong with that, but it made me realize she just put on a personality to fit what she thought I wanted when really I’m a dude, idc do what you want. She also met me over Instagram. She did all the pursuing, slid into my dms and arranged to meet. Huge red flag now. Lord knows how long she had been stalking me after my previous break up. These people pretend to be the hunters. Instead of hunting their goals tackling challenges and problems the world faces, the hunt people and see them as a challenge to dominate them. These people will waste every last drop of your energy and do nothing with it. They’ll eat chips and fall asleep in their own drool with the energy you give them. Just thought I’d share some insights and red flags looking back in hindsight. Be safe out here. If I could go back and give my younger self one piece of advice it would be to never ignore your gut/heart feelings. Your body will be screaming at you. You will feel old, tired, exhausted, choked, numb, dissociative, rageful, annoyed. The coverts are especially difficult because what you see never matches the energy you feel from them. Mine was usually smiley and loud, unless there wasn’t a big group around, but I’d feel dead and exhausted. She’d always want to be at my house the second I got home from work. Which at first I thought was cute until I realized she was trying to suffocate me and give me no alone time. My lease was running out and she was talking about moving in together. That’s when I really started thinking about my exit. I figured out a new roommate situation temporarily without telling any of my friends/roommates. Moved out when my roommates (friends with the narc) were gone on a trip. I stayed in the new place for a month before moving states too. I literally couldn’t be around any of my friends because they were all her spies it was fucked. It took me years to digest all that happened. You’ll look back at lovey doves texts and want to vomit. It was never real, remember that.

[@CC-apple]

“They’ll eat chips and fall asleep in their own drool with the energy you give them” lol, quite literally my experience

[@laminage]

They are a basket case when they know "you" know. They get very scared, nervous, and anxious. They also know that they can't count on you anymore and if they plead, whine, and cry and ask for your help, and you don't give it to them, and when you say you are fed up, they don't think you have the right to be angry.

[@clintonnagy1662]

They believe they are always RIGHT. When you DONT buy into their s**t they use the guilt trip, or blame shift constantly. When I set better boundaries, my ex pointed out reasons why she shouldn't date me. Keep in mind when I tried to leave the relationship she hoovered back each time so I knew I must of held some value if she was gonna guilt me and NOT end the relationship herself. It was fun for her to devalue, blame, and guilt me into submission each time. It's a game to these personality types.

[@partharoy7527]

Brother i really thank you..thank u very much for saving my life..u r helping lot of people to leave those toxic people and lead a healthy life again...

[@leeshep1156]

Bro good... I just escaped a delusional psychotic narcissist. Every stage he mentions is spot on... she made me pay a big price for leaving her... so glad for videos like this.

[@mamatashiva6497]

I don't know how to thank you... God bless you Danish..

[@annab8887]

This was so good and right on time! Thank you 🙏

[@mihaelavoievidca2433]

This is my husband description,thank you you helping me so much to understand him and to learn to protect me i can’t divorce we are over 65 now and financially we are not poor but bat i can’t tell we are rich I’m not ready to change everything for now I’m learning how to make my life great even on this situation and I’m optimistic i can be stronger than him , and Lord Jesus Christ is with me always

[@gypsytraveler2099]

Everything you are saying is so helpful. Thank you so much.

[@forensicfaithinprofiling]

Never ever let them know you figured them out. Please folks. Say nothing. Otherwise if you do, expect a malice campaign. If ur dealing w a psychopath, do not attempt anything alone. Especially the court process. Hire a badass who's been through it.

[@YatoDharmaTatoJaya]

I was retraumatized and psychologically damaged at a place meant for healing by a "spiritual guru" who was also my boss, and who's a poster child for narcissism. This is a big, influential spiritual wellness center targeted 100% at Westerners, in Himalayas, India. I'd like to speak out but don't have the voice. Would you like to hear my story and maybe present it on your platform so that others escape this trap of a place? You have literally saved me. Thanks for all that you do 🙏🏽

[@BonnieJean4578]

It took until my mid-seventies to finally figure out that my sister is a covert narcissist. WOW! What a relief! My entire life I had been trying to coach her, help her, and she resisted everything. I saw her financially destroy her "sugar daddy" and she tried with me, but something just seemed "off" and I was guarded. I bought groceries instead of giving her cash. But Dad used to give her $20 just to go away! 🤣 I went "no contact" last month. It's sad, but I am glad I lived to the day I figured her out. Everything makes sense now! Ty!

[@starlightbarking9495]

I got tired in the end and began to mirror them. When I received an unkind message I used the same message back to them. When they kept blocking and unblocking me on social media I just blocked them, and blocked the new profile that sprung up. When I kept getting ghosted I completely iced them out. I just didn’t have the energy to be bothered with them any more.

[@laurenkoch3120]

After a 20 plus yr marriage I made the decision ,it took years of planning , detaching and not reacting. Omg he really began going crazy from my no reaction but I stayed firm. He pulled a gun police called .

[@tajha123]

Your video was truth it did end up physical at the end. A plan is necessary for your own protection that you don’t see coming. It does increase and it’s fuel for these sick individuals.Thank you!🙏🏻

[@diosapoderosa2502]

Thanks for the advice 🙏

[@ladyvirgo013]

When i realized what my husband was up to, he became very scary, his eyes went dark and his voice changed. He discarded me for his coworker. 12 years married to a deceptive devil. The divorce should be a mess

[@zareenwilhelm5811]

You can’t study their personality - there is no personality in a narcissist.

[@RobNiser]

There is only an ongoing play wih manipulation

[@clintonnagy1662]

Plus, they aren't consistent... You never know what is coming next. It's like they have psychic abilities and know your next move. It's really bizaar.

[@mercyz6252]

Never face them, when you know but RUN

[@imbalancedstatus8824]

Oh they would quickly move to discard stage and end the relationship immediately.. fearing you will end it first.

[@ritamccormick5244]

Thanks for the warnings.

[@goldenbreeze6618]

Thank you for your guidance and care. Your energy instils peace.

[@nayanrmesh2870]

Absolutely true! Thanks🌹🌹

[@davidlloyd2225]

So glad u were in my feed today !👊👍

[@timothystormacker4101]

Social media is the epitome of narcissism and that makes this a total paradox.......

[@dougstobaugh376]

Danish Bashir, thanks this is important information and exactly what's going on in my life right now I have set strong boundaries thanks. GOD-BLESS.

[@mingo2024]

Danish, thank you so much for your content. It is helpful, to the point, and I could listen to your voice forever. :)

[@Margottaful]

thank you for your healing energy you give so generously