5 Ways To Defeat A Narcissist In Their Own Game

In this episode, I explain how you can defeat a narcissist in five powerful ways.
Chapters
00:00 Intro
01:08 Don't React
03:15 Document Everything
04:45 Don't Take The Bait
07:48 Don't React To Their Aggression
11:31 Become Your Best Version Possible
15:00 Behind The Scenes

[@narcabusecoach]

What are your experiences with this?

[@tiffanylaganiere5387]

My issue is he does the nice loving then gas lights arguments over little meaningless things..then tells me he doesn't want me...and goes silent until I cave and chase him. I need to NOT respond. He definitely takes my dedication and loves and uses that against me. Your video hit home in every single way. Thank you for making these videos. I know what I need to do but your videos make these visions more clear.

[@shockjay]

To quote a line from “Wargames” The only way to win is to not play the game 💯

[@fox_85]

How not to play his game - if we were completely divorced '18... And now he puts out a layers and judges out again. .. For wanting to take me away my son, money for him also - and the house where we are living... And the thing is - I really don' t want anything... I want to go away from this small shit place where I'm living only because of him... And he doesn't let me go - with a kid... That's why now... He wants to take me him away... For no other reason - now I need to defend me... Again...

[@AncientIntegrations]

My favorite way to get back at them is to go back into a sexual encounter, then mention it wasn’t any good, and then disappear on them. Reverse ghostification, and I make sure my social media pictures have ambiguously suggestive pix as tho I moved on w something and someone better 🙃…then mostly blocking.

[@anonymousaccount1150]

LO with vacuuming Narcissism & schizophrenia. I am there because of ones mental health tendancies & because one is family. One has absolutely no one there. No friends & no family. One can not see, nor accept my care for one - & gives hot & cold messages - & once I have replied, one will then go quiet for days on end. Then the abuse comes again, because I no-longer chased (ones silence) anymore, to show I care and I am there. I have not responded with any negative replies nor do I plan to. This pain is tough, very tough. Especially from the emotional abuse I recieve & the games one plays. I have backed off now. I don't know what will happen from here. I can no longer take the pain. It is tough as I don't want LO to think I no longer care but I also don't want the abuse etc - as it has caused such huge impact on my mental health & affected my care roles for my own family at home. I lost my strength & my hope, that one will come back to ones usual friendly self. One often gave empty promises about visiting & later gave no reason why one said one wasn't visiting (after myself asking if one still was). I have not fully walked, simply because we are family, one has no one, one has mental health tendencies (like mentioned), we were very close for a long time & I deep down still care. I have done a lot of research on LO's illness & many types of Narcisism etc and a lot seems to fit. Thank you so much for your video. I shall subscribe now. Edit: I wanted to also add that one uses suicide - to reel myself in. I would never forgive myself if one did such. One has said this many times now & hasn't, although one did reel me in. I fear if ones game doesn't work, one may do such, if I don't show I still care. One probably won't, but it's just that fear, incase.

[@jsn3221]

“Their accusations are their confessions” that’s brilliant and so true👏🏼🙏🏻

[@craftcrazy67]

Omg I just told him this last week and then he comes home and goes an sees another woman ugh I wish I could get out

[@larrymoodley3048]

yes, i cant agree more with this. She cheated on me, and it was going on for a while. When I confronted her, she came up with the exuse that she is confused and needs space. Then she said she wants to see where the relationship with the cheater will go. I asked for closure and she stonewalled me, and then gave me silent treatment. She resfused to take my calls or answer my texts. I have kept the pictures of us together , so if she ever tries to come back at me, i have proof of what went on, and can handle this that way. She blamed me for the problems of the relationship, and when i asked that we talk about this she went silent on me. For the first 10 days since the breakup, she replied to some texts, and we had a few calls, where she wanted to say only how she feels, and not take my feelings into consideration. Selfish, I know. Same pattern during the 5 years we were together. I have now gone silent , and no contact. I dont care if she comes back to talk or not now. I have had the release i needed from God, according to his word in 1 Sameul, where God talks about wanting things that is not good for us. Now is the time to fill up my life with Gods love, and move on. Dont give your love to somone that doesnt want it, and waste your time. The longer you hold on here, the worse your fate will be. They dont ever recognise that they have problems and need help. In my case she replaced me first,so she can get validation and admiration from her new so called love. Go in Gods grace , and hope my experience can help someone one day. I spend a lot of time in the Word of Christ, and watching these clips which has helped me. I never thought she was doing this. so empower your self, and dont give in to the blame game, and nonsense they come up with. I also know she watches my social status on Whatsapp. Now she stopped and does not check, but she did last week, and will get mad when I dont run back to her.

[@samueltom517]

My poor sons especially the younger 2 are her narc supply. I worry so much about them as they are only 13 and 10. Josh and Jordan. I have no idea how to do this because of the dram a and the society seeing me as the evil perpetrator.

[@samueltom517]

Dear Danish, my only way of dealing with my narc ex partner was to leave as I had become so traumatised. I used to cry and cry as I never thought I would go through this. I spent time in prayer to God, and in fasting and psalm 91 was my constant consolation and hope. God is my only hope and my faithful friend.

[@dsaylor36]

It's backwards confessions, they do it alllllll the time

[@Nibiru3600X]

“If you wrestle with a pig, you’re going to end up dirty and the pig enjoyed the fight.” 😂😂😂 LOL F’n fantastic 🙌 Thank you for this!!!

[@prophet1782]

Yes it stood out to me too. Heh heh !! { Well said Danish} I'll remember. that.

[@ESumner]

‘What miracle happened that they changed overnight after a decade of severe abuse…’ 😂😂😂😂 exactly

[@marmeg1118]

lol Did Moses Part the Red Sea again? Did he become Peter and walked on water for a minute? Lmao 🤣 The Devil is a liar. He comes to steal, kill and destroy. There is only one true miracle. When a person realizes what’s up and takes off forever. That is the miracle. 😂

[@kimmccord1103]

1. Leave & take back my power. 2. Win my 1/2 of the assets. 3. Learn the lessons & heal 4. Reconstruct my life 5. Thrive in peace & freedom This looks easy in point form…but it took 5 years🌟

[@Qundeel97]

It took almost 6 years for me🤓 I was a people pleaser and Empath....trying to start over

[@Sanakhan-gd1sx]

Can I reconstruct my life by living separately from my husband but not divorcing him? Will that work ?

[@elzadizdarevic9717]

​@@Sanakhan-gd1sxNO!!!!!

[@elzadizdarevic9717]

It took 19 Years by me, but I did it, NEVER GIVE UP ON YOUR SELF!

[@almohvn33]

Took me 37 years to realize this POS is a narcissit!

[@vacationeyes6430]

They often provoke you subtly to get you to react, so they can paint you as the bad person. Do not take the bait. If you act like you didn't understand their insults, they will get less and less subtle each day. One day, they will blow up and display aggression in a way that gets noticed by all. Wait for that moment to respond. It will give you the moral ground to take action. If you had documented everything they did all along, it will be easier to report their behavior.

[@i.l.9546]

Exactly🎉

[@Morpheus-pt3wq]

Little tip from me: If a narcissist starts being aggressive, try to view the situation from a scientific point of view, while thinking "what an interesting situation". It will cause you to detach from your own emotions and kick your logical parts of brain into function.

[@choosepeacetoday]

Yes. Absolutely. Put on your lab coat and become a scientist. It works!

[@UnderstandingShakespearenPlays]

Yes it works

[@manjushreepahi3193]

😅

[@almohvn33]

This is beautfiul... Yes... watch them like. YOU are testing them. I love that!

[@ganymeade5151]

@@almohvn33Best way to fight an enemy is to use their own tactics against them. Never care about or pity narcissists. Don't fall for their ploys. Narcissists are demonic players out to destroy. It is not always easy for them to find targets and that is why they do not want to let go of you. It might be difficult to do but don't get fooled. Don't fall for it and get sucked in again. Narcissists are out to destroy. The abuse only gets worse.

[@Knowledge.R]

I give her silence treatment forever, this is how I defeat the Narcissist, stay strong good people I love ❤u

[@annekerotterdam7499]

Silent treatment is a nacissistic abusive tactic. 'No contact' is that what you mean ?

[@Knowledge.R]

@@annekerotterdam7499 yes

[@tinachristina1129]

Don't walk away, RUN!

[@Dawg5g]

Yes, he said terrible terrible things to me and about me. Things I wouldn’t not say to anyone. When all their tactics fail, they attack like a rabid dog. It almost drove me crazy. The police were not supportive in my hillbilly town. I still got out and I still came out ahead. Have faith if you are in this type of situation. Nothing is worse than being in that. Keep pushing forward! I won! I am free now! I don’t think he realizes it yet though lol 😂

[@dionarii661]

The bible said it. IN THE LAST DAYS PEOPLE (NARCISSIST) WILL BEHAVE LIKE WILD DOGS. THESE ARE THE PEOPLE WITH THE MARK OF A BEAST.

[@nightmaresandbutterflies1058]

You realise it..and thats MORE THAN ENOUGH,,it will be easy to see for others too..they will just know🙂

[@marmeg1118]

You’re free and they are not. You won and thank God you did. Gos is good!

[@steviecrow914]

I did not feel safe. I planned an exit without giving any notice that I planned to leave. I burned the bridge to be sure he never tried to cross it. Gavin de Becker’s book “The Gift of Fear” is a great read about trusting your gut around volatile people.

[@ad6417]

I bought that book years ago and yes it is awesome

[@KG-ly5fu]

How did you 'burn the bridge'?

[@steviecrow914]

@@KG-ly5fu Making it clear you are willing to file a lawsuit and go public is a great way to incentivize them to leave you alone. You get to know them, so use their language to signal you will deliver a bees hive of trouble if they attempt any contact.

[@mararamitchpeace]

I am so glad you are here to help us heal! You are giving people their power back. 🥰

[@lii2290]

My work place has a narc who turns all my closest colleagues and bosses against me. Wierdly I told everyone about her, but no one believes me and yet they stand on her side. I really suffer. I try to make every one sees her as she is but no one can see it.

[@kameshiam1674]

I had that too. Seek a new job, but don't tell them. That's what I did. The truth will be revealed.because if you aren't there anymore, they can't blame you for anything. Plus the "problem" won't be resolved. If you can't get away. Stay in your bubble. Only speak when spoken to. Wear your nicest outfits and hum to yourself....live inside your head. This shows everyone that you have happiness coming from somewhere else and that they can't bother you. This will make the narc angry...but when they are angry, they slip up.

[@pepelepu5534]

My brother has been doing that with my neighbors,. He basically ran out of neighbors on the block that he went to standing in front of the stores and making up stories to tell anyone who will listen.

[@RunningFreeForeverFree]

My last boss was a narcissist. I quit without notice. I opened a coin store she didn't believe it would survive. She sent in her flying monkey's, but I knew them through work. They wanted to see me fail. I retired from my coin store and sold the business. She was so jealous lol. Best revenge is success, Frank Sinatra. I couldn't agree more. Best luck it in you

[@kameshiam1674]

@@RunningFreeForeverFree Good for you!😃😁

[@thehotcoffeehouse6081]

@@RunningFreeForeverFree was it your mom?

[@vacationeyes6430]

I am generally apathetic to the Narcs, which infuriates them. I don't respond to their bragging and don't follow their (usually bad) advice. When they ask intrusive questions, I tell them "I am not comfortable with that question" or "it's personal". I also don't give them special treatment. I just treat them the same way I treat everyone else, with kindness and respect. Nothing more, nothing less. If it gets out of hand, I block them on all platforms and avoid them altogether.

[@bah667]

Great advice Let the lies and cheating go Leave it with them Reject the abuse Find yourself and make your way in this world with dignity and kindness Good things will come from this Peace

[@renukakimcurrun1004]

For the first time i come through your video and i realise that am facing the situation you have mentioned. My husband is a.....and always frightened me. He even said things which are far from my imagination. Please give tips how to handle these people. Thanks for your guidance.

[@PassionateFlower]

I can live with the being lied to and cheated on. It's the emotional abuse that effed me up. If he was just super sweet and amazing our whole time together and then blamed and degraded himself for cheating I could deal and say okay no problem hey you know what we had some great times together and it would have been better if you broke up with me first but hey life happens so best of luck to you two and hope you don't do her dirty too! 👋 Instead I get an encyclopedia of reasons I'm not worthy chucked at my head as he walks off feeling smug, superior, and self righteous. That's the part I can't cope with. That's the stuff keeping me in therapy for years with very little progress. It's like, dude, it's bad enough you're sleeping around behind my back...might as well just be chill about it and be sweet to me...instead of just being hostile all because you feel guilty for doing wrong by me. 😂I already know some asshole is going to comment something obnoxious as hell on here about how being lied to and cheated on is never acceptable and is mean and abusive. Ya no shit Sherlock. I'm just saying if homeboy is already sampling the menu when he knows he's got that good wholesome entree the least he could do is be cool to the entree since he's insisting on having his cake and eat it too. No need to sneak a sample platter then throw entree against the wall after all she did was tell him she loves him and hopes he had a good day but instead he has a melt down and she has no idea why she just pissed him off.

[@renukakimcurrun1004]

Now as you have known what your husband is doing, I think you have got an idea what you must do. You havu struggle enough, now love yourself and do whatever pleases you.

[@queendesormeaux]

One day when he told me that I was a loser a ... you can figure out what other words, and it all came to an end when I said yes you're right I am! And you deserve better so goodbye! Boy did he backtrack my response again was oh no you should get someone better than me and then I left. There was a lot of begging and crying and promises but I never budged. I suddenly remembered who I was and took my power back.

[@marmeg1118]

lol I love when you not only you agree with them but by doing so they realize dang this just backfired on them. It’s hysterical to watch them realize that and try to change their tune or tactic good for you. I left my ex narc after 4.5 months and went no contact. It’s been 8 months since I left and I know it was the best decision I ever made.

[@i.l.9546]

I did the same and I resonate with all you say. It is such a great feeling of getting the power back.

[@MrStudentmom]

Do not react ever! Never let them see you sweat! Get your emotions under control..

[@indervirsidhu8549]

So true.

[@annerenehose3522]

I am busy divorcing my Narc husband for almost 3 years now. Accusations against me just before the pre trial,that I am abusing the children,screaming and swearing. And I also had to find out that I am a drugaddict. After the accusations we all had to go to a Forensic Pshycologist to proof him wrong. Still waiting for the results. I was like a single parent for more than 15 years. At First I was the right parent to look after them, then later no one, not me or himself must get the children, and before the pre-trial this nonsens. Just wish this "war" could end and that I can continue my life in peace with my children away from him and all of his lies. Danish,thanks for your channel,I learned so much,and still do. I don't react and that is what "kills" him. He can't believe that life goes on without him in it.

[@anneofgreengables1619]

Sounds exactly what happened to me, and he ended up getting custody of the children and brainwashing them against me.

[@vanessaciardo9409]

My ex-husband lied so much about me during our divorce to put me down & I have lost at the end. It's so disgusting when I never lied about anything myself & I thought honesty would paid. 🤷 He never cared about his children.

[@ImranKhan-tj3dr]

I loved 👪❤kids❤👪 I like u Well u make my kids I love u merry me 💑💑😍😍🌷🌷

[@sinead.]

😭 that's s a d 💔 I'm glad your kids have YOU and can observe you and learn from you- the right way to be human. I'm so sorry that you've had to experience this I hope that I'm visualizing the next part of your life it complete wonderful fairy tale and you live happily ever after ❤️🙂

[@ImranKhan-tj3dr]

@@sinead. Hi hee o.j. were friend ❤😍🌷

[@maryzourides821]

Love your idiom re: pig 😂 Very comparison i only relate to it as in the dirt 👍but the only difference is that a pig has emotions & feelings unlike any narcissist that are monsters not human beings. I never ever compare a narcissist to any animal as it's an insult to them and their intelligent animal kingdom 💯

[@jamaicanjoyh6883]

That's the lighter side of their evil. Parental alienation is another level of evil..beware

[@Lambert7785]

really on point with this - I"ve gotten out of this by simply always following the guidance of God, regardless of what I might want to do - my soul is stronger than I am, and is extracting me from this non-positive situation (it has been really painful at times, but I am able to always maintain my equilibrium :) )

[@nimisharanjan7554]

I have learnt from my experience with narcissist that I shouldn't react on his aggression and here I have got your approval also... Thank you so much for this suggestion... I will keep this in my mind.How I defeat my narc husband... My answer is I have stopped wasting my energy in arguments.My devotinal practices, book reading and chanting gives me power and strength to tolerate him. One thing which I observed in my last 18 yr of journey with a narcissist that people grow with time but they never grow... They only change their ideas to fool people around them.

[@narcabusecoach]

What you have said is so empowering. Sending you a lot of love!!

[@nimisharanjan7554]

@@narcabusecoach thank you so much sir 🙏

[@sharonramsay8314]

Thank you awesome video, i have overcome this abuse and I can say I am so grateful for god’s love and truth he spoke over my life. I now know who I am, I now have myself and my soul back intact physically mentally emotionally and spiritually all whole!! Praise god and my soul has learned a lot, endured a lot but not destroyed. I am an overcomer!! I pray the same for all the followers who have or are experiencing such corrupt darkness over their lives. May god grant them wisdom, patience, love, peace, joy, long suffering in order to be whole-reborn!!

[@angelwingsyo]

This made so much sense for my situation! I cried hearing all of this because it is partly what I was intuiting and being told by others to do. I just didn't put the pieces together or admit this person is a narcissist. Now I realize the truth from you putting the pieces together and helping me see the truth. I feel sad about it, but I know what I must do now and the clarity is confirming the truth. Thank you!

[@jamaicanjoyh6883]

Hope you got away

[@khadijahoneybadger1]

The hardest days are the weekends. It has been 3 months since he discarded me. He was hoovering the first months, I am determined to stay no contact. I work long hours, so when I come home I just have enough time to eat take a shower before I go to bed. I cry every week end for the last 3 months. I force myself to go to the beach but I catch myself thinking about him and looking in his best friend TikTok just in case my narc will be in the videos. I don’t want to date anybody until I am healed.

[@beesknees5441]

Hi Khadja, I'm sorry you're feeling so awful.. The good news is you're already doing really well by remaining no contact ✨ & given time & narc education through various channels including this one you'll find yourself beginning to have an awakening in your soul ✨ I've found Narc Con & Dr Ramadi on KZbin very helpful with getting through the dissonance caused by these awful creatures ✨ Also being very kind to yourself, you deserve it! They really do try to rob you of yourself.. You will begin to find yourself & be on a journey to building a stronger version of yourself in time ✨ Keep going, peace & good vibes to you 🌷✌️😉🌿✨

[@rebeccaxodonq7893]

I'm just wondering what kind of love is that for me all love will fade away when a man treat me badly. And doesn't matter how much I love him I can stop all connections immediately and not contagious t at all rest of my life

[@susanweaver6946]

He did verbally get aggressive with me when before I totally went no contact. He played the blame game. It was such a stressful mind crippling relationship. You can't win with them unless you submit your soul to them.

[@oscarwilliamson1128]

Susan Weaver,You are beautiful 😍,You don’t need a narcissist in your life…

[@jamaicanjoyh6883]

Facts 👌🏾

[@jacquikv5560]

Danish, I just want to thank you for sharing your knowledge with us. You have helped me in so many ways. I am still trying to keep my emotions in check.

[@overcomingnarcissism]

I block, ignore, report, become unpredictable and live my best life. Excellent video. Thank you.

[@pauladuncanadams1750]

I did it. No regrets. But it's not who I am and not who I want to be. It's reactive. Once you are out you can work on re-regulating but it's too hard while you are in it. Had I not spent a decade with this person I wouldn't have felt like getting them back while walking out the door. But you're half-crazed by then. This information wasn't available back then. I got out, am happy with someone else, and that's the best revenge, it's true!

[@peacetwinkiesandlove]

You made it! One of the toughest fights you'll ever go through in life. And you're going to be a better version of yourself now

[@pauladuncanadams1750]

@@peacetwinkiesandlove Thank you. It was decades ago. And yes, life is good. I'm happily married to a man that loves me and whom I love. And best of all, I not only love myself, I like myself. Best wishes.

[@loekiekanters4295]

They are predictable in being unpredictable. 'A narcissist wants to keep you in the darkness'. Well said! And: 'It's not your circus'' Also well said.

[@danielleonori1122]

Still working on it day by day

[@thehotcoffeehouse6081]

I stupidly broke 13 years of no contact with my covert malignant narc mother. I told her I was very, very angry at her. She just stood there calm and casual, and casually said, " I see that ". OK. That was it. The abuse she inflicted on me, her financial and emotional crimes against me, for literally decades, and MUCH more... had enraged me for years. I was finally confronting her about it, in my mind. And when I expressed my anger to her face, she made that casual remark. And now I understand, it put her in control and gave her supply, as negative as it was from me. And it just utterly frustrated me, leaving me apoplectic. I expected an apology or a discussion, or SOMETHING. not just, " oh I see that". And I've been upset by her response ever since, and it's been several years since that incident. So; bottom line: no contact. It's a lifesaver.

[@jpr9863]

Similar attitude from my N mom. Been NC for over 15 years and I have no plans on seeing her face ever again. I still can't wrap my head around how a mother can be so callous and truly not give a sh*t about their own child, as well as others being upset that I won't give her a break because she gave birth to me.

[@thehotcoffeehouse6081]

@@jpr9863 same here. Lotsa people tried to get me to talk to her...flying monkeys 🐒 🙈 🙊 ... and for that same reason : " she's your mother!" Yeah and so,?? She's treated me terribly for 40+ years. ...I have a super hard time as well, trying to understand how my own mother can be so horrible to me...at least yours doesn't give a sh--. Mine does active smear campaigns against me her only daughter!!.

[@jpr9863]

@@thehotcoffeehouse6081 Oh, she's full bore actively smearing me still, and had been for decades before I realized how disordered she is. I know there are some that believe her and some who don't, and realize there is something wrong with her but don't tell her that because they don't want to be targeted, too. What I mean is her senior years are finding her less in touch with reality, and in typical narcissistic style she's finding more satisfaction in defaming her daughter to others than trying to have a relationship with me. It's really sick how these people are.

[@BlueJeansandJellyBeans]

@TheHotCoffeeHouse I did a similar thing. After 25 years of NC with narc mother, I sent a very neutral card to her asking if she'd be interested in speaking. She sent the card back with a message inside stating "You may contact me at this number" and she provided a number. Needless to say I reached out and within a few days it was back 25 years ago all over again. I was so disgusted with myself for trying. My two best friends encouraged me to make amends after knowing my story. I had been friends with them for 20 years. We no longer are friends. Don't be upset, it is only hurting you. They could care less, so stop hurting yourself.💜

[@Melissa-lovinlife]

Dang, that's rough, so sorry she can't give you any emotional care in the world like it seems a mother should! Yes, absolutely noooo contact forever would be my response too. Thank goodness for healing techniques out there that teach one to essentially be the loving mother to yourself that you never had 🙌 Wishing you peace on your journey to deep letting go, new joys, and true inner healing!! Hugs!!

[@marikeherminesophia]

Thank you so much Danish, for sharing advice with survivors. God bless you my brother 🙏🏼

[@lexbest]

Thank you so much for this. I am not a vindictive person and I have no vengeance in my heart. But I am trying to get away from this person and he's the father of my son. I want to go no contact and never think of him again. But I have to protect my son because he is using my son for emotional supply. I have to do everything in my power to protect my son who is 13 an incredibly vulnerable. My son throws up at the thought of seeing his father. And though he was an absent parent the entire time we were together suddenly he wants to see him all the time. I have been trying to be a good co-parent and work with him and collaborate but of course this didn't work at all. And I've been trying to think of the best way to escape the situation. When I saw your video I thought of how many other videos I've seen of people getting revenge on their narcissist and I'm just not like that that's not who I am at all I don't care what happens to him but I also just don't harbor that kind of hatred or that need for revenge. Suddenly I have a need to protect my son and myself. We both need to escape. So I needed this video very very badly today. Because I am working on collecting all the evidence I have that he abused me and this is very very difficult. But thank you for this incredible advice because I do need to defeat him but I don't have to look at it as if I am being vengeful because that is truly not who I am. I am a kind giving collaborative person. He stole my identity. He stole my soul. But he can't turn me into something that I'm not. In to someone petty who would hurt one just for the sake of hurting them. So I have been struggling with this very much. Struggling with the idea of exposing him in court. But I need him to leave me alone and I need to protect my son. So I can't thank you enough for this video. It gave me so much strength. Because you knew me. He turned all our friends against me and I'm alone. They didn't know me. But today you knew me. And that means more than you can ever know

[@classylady7350]

The manipulation is what I am afraid of when/if we end up in court. The crazy making over the years have mentally and physically traumatized me. If I feel for it, I'm afraid the court may as well. I have been documenting things but when my mind is so full from this stress, I get cloudy.

[@miriambarco8832]

There are ways of dealing with these narcs in court. Look up u tube videos for tips

[@farrukhjamal6689]

Exactly I have gone through the same... manipulation is their power..sis can you please give me these court tips too..

[@Melissa-lovinlife]

@@TheAmazingRandy biggest thing I've heard is to absolutely NOT react in court...that if...which is likely, they make up crazy stories about you etc...do not overeact...stay on the facts with, as another comment or stated, that one robotic startreck characters face 😃

[@manjudubey6151]

Danish , as far as I am concerned what you are saying in this video ( be able to maintain my emotional stability and being able to think positively about life and become naturally very good human being at the same time not getting fooled by people was achievable by Rajyoga mediation technique and spirituality. I learnt that bubble technique in Rajyoga ( imagining myself to be in a bubble of white light made of God’s blessings and powers) This meditation technique helped me heal my wounds to a large extent. I also believe that I will have to continue to choose spirituality and Rajyoga meditation all my life to be always happy in life no matter what situation I am in. In other words the external situations don’t affect my emotional stability. In my mind Rajyoga meditation technique made me more intuitive. And I believe spirituality and Rajyoga meditation technique can heal a person from narcissistic abuse or any kind of abuse.

[@Melissa-lovinlife]

Yes, well said! Lovvvvve meditation. It is Supreme healer. It is learning to stay connected to source 🌟 🙌🌟🙌🌟🙌🌟

[@Embracetherandom]

I did the limited contact with my narcissistic brother for 20 years. I come to find he is pilfering my inheritance and my 95 yo dad made him trustee of my inheritance. I am now trying to salvage what is left and this requires me to have contact with him. The retraumatization is killing me. I have reduced it to text only because talking to him is like seeing the world upside down. I am beyond frustrated hurt and my self hating and body dysmorphia is at its all time high. What i feel i need to do is think and act just like him. It’s extremely, extremely difficult for an empath like me to think in this way but its my only way to secure what $ is left if I can. I am having extreme flashbacks and intense depression tacked onto my self loathing and self doubt it’s almost hard to get out of bed. My poor husband doesn’t know what to do with me. I am in intense therapy and EMDR therapy.

[@mustaqeemmazgaonkar404]

As i am suffering from narsactic person, danish launguage i understand then anybody explain on narsactic behaviour may almighty give right path forever'.

[@lindamoore9729]

Journaling has been such a smart idea, to record when my narcissistic husband has stretched the truth, and manipulated words to cover over the lies. One instance was all texted out on my phone, our conversation which I wrote out by hand, word for word, which I then studied all the sneaky ways he was trying to deceive me. I've realized what a devious and lying bastard he is. 50 years of it. I journal a lot of our arguments but now I simply walk away and don't respond. The fact that you used the phrase 'mess with your head' is something that HE says all the time. He has said 'the end justifies the means' and 'it's not what IS, but what you make it appear to be'. He is so conniving it makes me sick.

[@jacquelinefroehle3583]

Danish your information is the best. Grateful and thank you.

[@ganymeade5151]

Best videos on narcissism. Thank you very much for helping many people cope and recover.

[@reethathomas6321]

🙏🙏👍👍♥️♥️🥰🥰🥰. My narc husband is the worst one.. Ur teachings are great. 🌹🌹

[@paulatristan8189]

Very big help here Dr. Bashir thank you I learned so much in a short amount of time. My situation is different but when I made the decision to leave you can't imagine the Relief I felt off my shoulders. I was glad, happy I left. My situation is a little different but all in all I'm happy it ended.

[@XOXOBRAYLIN4708]

I am a grandma and my daughter In law is a horrible narc and I am overwhelmed

[@jagrutidurani7395]

So well explained ! ❤

[@meghanatuppad9214]

My Narcissistic ex husband was a sucker of money. Even while getting a divorce he demanded money from me. Though my parents and I had spent a large sum for the wedding and setting up of the house ! Yes I gave him the money one last time and freed myself from the abuse and trauma . The whole experience was so dehumanising 😔 I am glad I am out of the marriage

[@judithakosuadankwanimako3963]

Help me get out of my ooo

[@ImranKhan-tj3dr]

I love u Really I like u Well u merry me I m very sexy very romantic 👧👧😚😘😗💋💏👄❤😍🌷🌷

[@ad6417]

I had to pay my ex husband 20k to go away. I just found out a few days ago after a year he's already remarried to a woman who's got mental illness challenges. I hope she survives.

[@christinaescajeda7195]

Thank you✨️

[@robmiller1553]

Thank you Danish.

[@sharonmurray1735]

I can’t say I’ve fully arrived. I was blocked again because I didn’t conform. This time I also blocked. I’m working hard to prepare if they try to come back. I don’t want to waiver. I have been programmed for years so the messages are strong and the trauma bond. I am strong and each day I listen to you and learn more every day. I must remember and not go back.

[@neenarai9489]

Sir your point no. 4 is absolutely to the core .

[@mynewlife1911]

Excellent video👍🏻

[@tiffanyjames1921]

the bubble visulization is a wonderful idea and I will definitely be trying that so as to not react and to deflect the bullshit. thank you Danish.

[@subbulakshmir390]

Thank you Mr.Danish

[@deedeedunham2792]

Thanks!

[@jacquelinefroehle3583]

Wonderful video!!!

[@indervirsidhu8549]

Excellent video. Much needed. Very well explained.

[@ritikarishi3916]

Thanks a lot for sharing.

[@sassi7966]

This is great! 👍😎💪

[@irow4774]

Brilliant and so true!

[@faranarazak7582]

Dear Danish your videos are so helpful 😢

[@vinitasinha9780]

Thank you Danish 🙏🙏

[@AntoniaMirante]

that was enlightening Mr. Danish. thank you

[@deedeedunham2792]

Follow you in Instagram and now KZbin. Thank you beyond words for your posts. Extremely helpful on so many levels.

[@AP-uk1op]

Danish, thank you for these messages. You are helping many people heal from these experiences.

[@arthurian9085]

You are really good at this. This is spot on and very helpful, therapeutical.

[@pearlluber5849]

My ex would raise his voice at me quit frequently. It was quit disconcerting. I woke finally that I am a human being and as such is to be treated with dignity. The next time he raised his voice I told him quite imperiously that I will not be spoken to that way. Right away he spoke softly. He knows now that if he raises his voice I will hang up.

[@littlepaws5947]

The end bit with the great music and ur cat was very warming🙏

[@stacygreen9861]

I love your channel ❤

[@lindabenson8863]

Thank you for this powerful and empowering message. You are a blessing, Amen.🙏🏽

[@BA-vx7gb]

GREAT VIDEO 💯. Agree …. Thank You 🙏

[@garyjones2781]

Bro your videos are so helpful! I’ve been up and down but it’s been helpful listening to your content and learning

[@brandihoward7612]

Thank you for those videos. They mean so much to so many of us suffering in a world where they seem to be multiplying and escalating in prevalent influence. Im a deeply traumatized sensitive and trusting, empathetic, open, understanding and naive innocent soul always respectfully believing in others being real and telling the truth without ulterior motives or intentions that are manipulative...like a beacon or usefulness and exploitation to those selfish and opportunistic man children drawn to it..and who leave it an ember smoldering and fading to darkest hopelessness... if I'm not trapped for longer durations.

[@alingrace6177]

TYJ! This just brought me to tears and you just gave the best & most loving advice from your heart! It spoke to my spirit wow! THANK YOU SO MUCH DANISH!!! 😭🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️ GOD BLESS YOU!!

[@jendavenport8802]

I deal with this every min of the day, everything you say is so true.

[@AB-sr4jx]

This episode was awesome! Thanks Danish 🙏

[@naowright9308]

I ❤ your outtakes.😊 Kitty was trying so hard to help.

[@rupaliparikh758]

I can't avoid that person as I have to live with her. However best ways to dissociate from the person are 1. Get creatively occupied 2. Minimising interactions 3. Indifference towards whatever good or baf happen to them. 4. Indifference towards whatever good or bad comments 5. Stopped taking comparisons personally. 6. Listening or reading for positive vibes.

[@1solocat]

Indifference and ignoring is the most hurtful things, shame on you for thinking your doing good.

[@carolinedanielson4387]

I appreciate you so much. And I hope to see more of your adorable cat in the future!

[@lorieposephney4913]

I totally enjoyed this video. It's the closest to what I learned 1st hand and by watching videos. It's amazing how much I still react inside. Healing takes time and knowledge. Thank you!

[@loisbrowne4351]

Thank You. This session really hit home with me, and I hope to apply your insight and encouragement in my life, and in my ongoing relationship with my narcissistic husband.

[@patjackson1775]

Thanks for what you have done for me. You are truly blessed with knowledge and compassion and communication skills..I’m so grateful to you.❤😊

[@williemorgan6285]

I stop arguing, and started being nice. But I also stop calling her. She always would me, but that slowed down after I didn’t show affections back. Eventually she went away.

[@roxannegorena7281]

Thank you!! Both of you made my day..❤😅

[@andreashinsg]

Thanks for your videos.. I'm going through all of these.. for 3yrs..

[@judystevens6039]

Thank you so much

[@janemurr6601]

Beautiful talk

[@Yo.222]

I love this guy he can read everything in my head how I feel about those narcissistic. Thank so much for your amazing advice God bless you ❤

[@Leon-mh2bk]

Thank you very much keep doing this 🙏

[@jacquelinefroehle3583]

He wanted to go to marriage counseling because I wanted a divorce. He said I am not ready...as if only he owned rights. First night in counseling all he did was tell huge huge lies...he knew I knew he was lying. That's when I knew I would file for divorce.

[@moonsauce480]

Their accusations are definitely confessions. They will try to mess with your mind by accusing you of doing all the things they've been blatantly doing to cause you to react out of defense. Don't fall for it. They are very aware of what they're doing.

[@loreenaacton4968]

Thank you Danish! Another empowering video. Knowledge is power 😊

[@janicebullard5774]

Iv been going back looking back at earlier Videos you made iv gain so much!

[@angelaapruzzese8347]

THANKYOU FOR SHARING DANISH REALLY GREAT VIDEOS AND WISDOM FROM ANGELA

[@janedoe5229]

I love your shirt in this one!!

[@user-th8lx8xg9w]

Very imortant information thank you

[@denisechaoub90]

Just unreal I thank god I found your channel you are the best !! You are helping me threw this horrible time in my life .. !!! I’m trying to leave mine now it’s a nightmare !! And I have a daughter who he’s trying to brainwash her against me !!

[@pamelabelser8622]

I started a local CLA (Cluttered Anonymous = a 12 Step program) group that unfortunately attracted (besides the usual positive, serious, enthusiastic -to- "recover", kind-hearted supportive people) four Narcissists (two with emotional support small pups) who spent a great deal of time endeavouring to be " one up" on one or another of the other narcissists ( even to the point of "baiting" the most fragile-ego one & sending her racing out yelling into the parking lot). Amazing to me at the time (had to pass out long questionnaires about "Am I a Good Member of the group, ie rating oneself, etc) I am still in contact [why, I ask myself now] with several whose behaviors are Extreme. This particular talk has been the very best so far, for me. I hv a "very expressive face" so endeavouring to "not react" has been an Extreme Challenge for me. Again, thanks for this Very Excellent helpful five concepts & the need to Strengthen one's Inner Man & refuse to react & be their " supply" ( tho' I wl still bring them pantry food, etc).[or, not? hmm]

[@izawaniek2568]

Their accusations are their confessions - Spot on! They project all the time. Thank you

[@davemeiser2999]

You areso right, on. Thank you formy therapy, today!!!

[@swarnalidutta5349]

Thanks 🙏

[@krystlesimard131]

Nice voice, kind words 👏🏼