what i learned in my 20s 📝 lessons that will make your life easier

a long one! these are the key things i learned in my 20s + a vulnerable recap of the last 5 years. I hope you enjoy. Lots of love, ellen xxx
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[@aliciapiper5449]

Hi Ellen, I was the lady in the car park!!! It’s funny because as soon as I left I thought “ I really should have said hi I’m Alicia”!!! Your vlogs are a pleasure to watch and I’m so pleased to hear that I made you smile and brought a small piece of joy to your day xxx

[@ellenalicemiller]

hi!! ❤️ thank you again, you totally made my day - and showed my mum that i'm not making it up that people watch my videos 🤣

[@sophieelisabeth1880]

Ellen I just have to say, watching your videos gives me so much hope for my future - I'm 23 right now and your videos feel like I'm getting all the good life advice from an older sister! Hope life is treating you super well x

[@ellenalicemiller]

That makes me so happy - thank you so much ❤️🥹

[@tashalondoner]

Thank you for not making your relationships the focus of your 20s, you've achieved so much personally and your reflections come across as genuinely profound. I also appreciate your honesty about living at home until 27. I'm nearly 30, have been single throughout my 20s (despite countless online dates) and I still live with my family and gorgeous dogs (London is priceyyyy!) - sometimes I wonder if I've gone wrong somewhere. So much internal work has been done but because I haven't hit the traditional milestones in my 20s, my success just hasn't had the same visibility as others in my circle. And it is tough feeling behind. Like you - I love going to work, love the people I work with. But do I love the job itself? Can I love this forever? Still working that out. On the sting of heartbreak - I genuinely wonder what an alien from another planet would think if we tried to explain heartbreak and how formative it is. It's so hard to explain the deep changes that happen inside us from it. But if there's one thing, we come out of it surer of ourselves than ever and it propels us into the next stage of life. So proud of what you've built and every vlog and every story you share makes me think even more highly of you.💜 Your Greece vlog post-breakup where you went solo actually lives in my head rent-free and has inspired me to travel alone more. Very last thing! I LOVE your t-shirt, it's very relevant to the topic. Would love to know where you got it! x

[@ellenalicemiller]

Thank you for taking the time to leave such a lovely comment and share your own experiences with me! ❤️ also lol i completely agree, trying to explain heartbreak to fellow humans who haven't experienced it is hard enough 😂 for the t-shirt, thank you!! its a quote from one of my favourite books - its from a small business on etsy called 'Literature Stitches'. They also have their own site, this is the link to their website, you can personalise most of the stuff - i love it all haha literaturestitches.com/collections/booklover-clothing

[@tashalondoner]

@@ellenalicemiller Aww thanks for the t shirt link! I've just finished 'Maybe In Another Life' by Taylor Jenkins Reid and it felt like it could be a quote from that too! x

[@michellehooper661]

Nice idea to reflect on a decade of your life. I’m in my 50s and I have changed so much from my 20s - it’s a challenging time! Lovely photos, nice idea to make an album. I loved my 40s tbh, I really knew who I was and what I needed and wanted out of life. Have a lovely week ❤

[@ellenalicemiller]

I love that! I agree the people i've met in their 40s are THRIVING 😂❤️

[@cgschorin]

This is honestly so inspiring, bad ass, graceful, and important. I'm a year old than you and it feels so special to hear you talk about learning to love yourself and just so openly reflect on life's highs and lows -- I feel similarly to you in a lot of ways. When you talked about discovering bravery and doing hard things when you're unhappy, phewwwww what a moment. This time of life is so fun and meaningful and I appreciate you sharing your reflections with us.

[@ellenalicemiller]

Thank you 🥹 this comment really means so much. I appreciate you ❤️❤️❤️

[@aleksandra3552]

I really loved this vlog, it's so cozy and it's such a lovely idea to talk about your twenties and what you've learned at that age. 🥰 I will turn 31 in October, so I don't have too much experience in my 30s, but so far - it's just a number that people fuss too much about. I'd say that your late twenties take you through life lessons and teach you to prioritize yourself, stop people pleasing and open your eyes to possible toxicities in relationships and friendships. So, in your thirties you're your own biggest supporter and loudest cheerleader and that alone is the most empowering. The late twenties taught you how to handle difficult situations with grace and you know exactly what are your standards and what you want in general. To sum it up, you apply in your 30s what you learned at the end of your 20s and it's just the best feeling. 💖

[@ellenalicemiller]

I'm so glad you enjoyed it 🥰 I love those realisations! here's to applying all our learnings from our 20s in our 30s 🎉

[@hattiebrazeley3351]

Agree with Michelle! My 40s are way more settled than my 30s were, though I guess motherhood shook them up a bit 😂 I also agree that a more portfolio career is the way to go - I’ve switched career three times and strongly believe certains roles are right for certain seasons of our lives xx

[@ellenalicemiller]

That's so nice you see careers in the same way as me! Fingers crossed children are on the cards for me in my 30s, i'm looking forward to the madness.. i think! 😂❤️

[@Emine-so3qd]

I love your cozy vlogs!!! 💛You motivate me to the lifestyle I hope to build soon. My most difficult time was actually also in my mid-twenties because I didn't know what career I wanted to pursue. Now I feel lighter in my 30s and have somehow arrived. I'll soon have finished my studies and will be working in the field that I enjoy.

[@deborahguazzoni1439]

I can't understand what do you said about the power of vulnerability. Could you give an exemple of the use of this power?

[@VA_Empire]

Yes another Ellen video. I can safely say your are my favourite KZbinr 😊

[@ellenalicemiller]

Wow! 🥹 thank you so much ❤️

[@olgapiterska2820]

Ellen, thank you so much for what you’re doing. I can’t describe enough how much your vlog helps me go through my life challenges and what a safe, happy and inspiring place it is for me. You are wonderful 🤍

[@ellenalicemiller]

You are so so welcome. It fills my cup so much knowing my videos can be helpful ❤️❤️

[@Tootsy3091]

Would love to hear more tips about changing career when you’re earning good money and have responsibilities (mortgage, children) and also finding your creative passion! Great vlog 👍🏻

[@ellenalicemiller]

I can't pretend to understand the responsibilities of children yet - but i can definitely share my tips on balancing mortgage and creative passion in a future video ❤️

[@Joysteib]

What an uplifting vlog!! I can resonate with so much of what you've said and experienced. I too love scrapbooking or album making. Thanks for sharing bits of your life with us..takes courage and determination and I'm here for all of it. Have a great week ahead!!

[@ellenalicemiller]

I was definitely most nervous about posting these past couple of vlogs - but i'm so pleased you enjoyed it!! ❤️

[@RenzoStefanoPontexRuiz]

I'm 23 years old and This is such an useful video. Helen, Thank you very much for sharing your advice with us because That's what I need. Do what makes you happy, Do what you love and Enjoy your life.

[@ellenalicemiller]

You are so welcome - and thank you so much ❤️

[@MRaquelGarciaValero]

I'm watching your videos to practice my listening comprehension.

[@ellenalicemiller]

that's great! ❤️

[@ruebennomura9143]

Good morning from Hawaii test was a good tip on lesson that will make you life easier

[@ellenalicemiller]

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[@eddiemartinez7555]

My favorite is to read journal 📔 and more adventures too Ellen love you 😊🎉🎉🎉😂❤❤❤

[@ellenalicemiller]

thank you Eddie!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@abigailabbott4610]

Creativity suits you 😊… you seem so much more relaxed since you left corporate life. Great video! 🩷

[@ellenalicemiller]

that is so lovely - that observation makes me so happy!! thank you ❤️

[@ignatiusrodrigues588]

Nice to see you Miss Miller

[@robertgill2509]

Really enjoyed watching this vlog Ellen. I also spent my 20s living with my parents and definitely became closer to them as a result. Though I also found I became more independent after I moved out. I agree that living by yourself and going on solo holidays are great, to the extent that I'm now just as happy going on holiday by myself than with friends! I've never been to a Gail's bakery! But I'm going to have to try that bun you were eating as it looked elite!

[@charlottewicks5746]

Hi Ellen, i really enjoy watching your videos and i don’t expect you to reply to my comment but i was wondering if you could possibly give me some advice on working as an accountant in London. I can see you worked in London, i think at one of the big 4? I am a qualified accountant with 5 years experience and I am looking to move to London and continue my career there. Do you have any advice on doing this?

[@ellenalicemiller]

Honestly I haven't been out in the job market much as I joined the company I worked for out of university. But my personal advice would be that job hunting in london is a numbers game - start applying to organisations you like the sound of and make sure to ask for feedback from interviewers afterwards so you can keep improving ❤️ You got this!! ❤️

[@charlottewicks5746]

@@ellenalicemiller thank you so much! 🥰

[@SarahJane365]

It's so refreshing to hear you talk openly about relationships. I'd been engaged at a young age, it all went wrong and for ten years I was pretty much alone, I'd had dates but nothing that would stick and I honestly craved something, anything!! So much so that when a past love interest came back into my life I grabbed it with both hands. The relationship wasn't right though, we were barely together any time at all and I was still miserable. I'd spent the latter part of my 20s and early 30s desperate for someone and to start a family only to realise that I'd rather be alone than stay with someone who didn't make me happy and who wasn't right for me. It was quite refreshing actually. Here I am 4 years later, engaged and with a 2 year old and my Mr Right had been right under my nose for a decade without me seeing it 😂 I'm fairly sure I've said all of this before but none of us should settle!

[@PudovkinaDA]

I'm turning 27 on 9th September, and I'm amazed at how similar our journeys are! I also finished school with Maths and Physics direction, went to a prestigious university, and started working at a big company. However, I never felt like I was meant for any of these things. Fast forward five years: I moved to the UK, discovered marketing, and now I'm living the life I've always dreamed of! Thank you for sharing your incredible journey-it's inspired me to reflect on my own!

[@ellenalicemiller]

Oh wow - our journeys are similar! i'm so pleased you enjoyed it 🫶❤️

[@weshasawi]

Why am I crying watching this? 😢

[@ellenalicemiller]

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[@GreenFairyPrincess]

Oh my goodness Ellen! We went through such a similar experience of heartbreak. I was with my ex 6 years, owned a house together, blindsided out of nowhere and never given a reason. And at the time it is lonely like you are the only person going through it, it felt like I went through a divorce without getting married! And I was the same, I got through it through the strong independent women phase, determined to be strong and do something with my life rather than despair completely. Actually retrained as a nurse (just when COVID started hahahaha!!!) fast forward, I'm in my early 30s, newly married to a lovely man who I would never met if this break up didn't happen and life is good! It's so nice to hear you reflect and validate the time in your life in a positive way even though it must have been tough and recognise that you wouldn't be where you are today without it. Really interesting insight, thanks for being so open ❤

[@ellenalicemiller]

Thank you for sharing your story with me!! I felt so many similar things to you. I’m sorry you went through it, but look at us now! Thank goodness ❤️❤️ and wow omg even more importantly THANK YOU for everything you did as a nurse during COVID!!!!! That is next level super hero stuff! ❤️🫶🏻

[@reneeyt04]

Thanks for sharing! Such a nice video! ☺️ Regarding 9, maybe you like this idea/concept as well: “Good things are always happening to me:” and then each day/week/whatever you can add things to this list. I read it somewhere and thought it was a really nice thing to do!

[@ellenalicemiller]

i looove that idea!! ❤️

[@bjcyak3061]

Ellen, I LOVED these 2 videos of what you learned in your 20s ! Just getting to know more about you and your life experiences so far. I wish we could be friends IRL - you have a beautiful, kind and genuine aura about you and seem wise beyond your years. Thanks for sharing! Can't wait to follow along as you navigate your 30s. ❤

[@ellenalicemiller]

You are so kind - thank you SO much!! ❤️

[@laurenswan1]

Ellen I love this video and your previous one too. I'm turning 32 in November and I have honestly loved my 30's so far. Hubby and I completed our family with our second little boy last summer and it's just been amazing. One thing I've learned after having kids is that I appreciate my body so much more than I ever have. Yes I have some stretch marks, but I literally built two human beings!! I feel like I've healed my relationship with my body and I'm so grateful. You have so much to look forward to in your 30's! Sending you lots of love and Happy early Birthday!!

[@ellenalicemiller]

Oh congratulations on your latest new arrival! and thank you so much for the love ❤️❤️

[@nargizbajramova2047]

Love your videos Ellen 🫶🏻 silent watcher here, but when I was starting my first corporate job a year ago. I was getting overwhelmed and your videos really helped me through that time of uncertainty❤

[@ellenalicemiller]

I'm so pleased you enjoy them ❤️❤️ thank you 🫶

[@chevalblanc2393]

I love how you take your time when talking about life and books! Your videos have so much personality, depth and calmness. So many youtubers make rather harsh cuts and add some fancy editing stuff, but I prefer your style! Such a clever, kind and inspiring woman you are! 🧡 from Germany

[@ellenalicemiller]

gosh what a lovely lovely comment - thank you!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@traceyhillman3424]

You exude positivity Ellen!! I love that. But, trust me, life begins at 40!! I wish you the best life; but I assure you it will just get better and better 😊

[@ellenalicemiller]

Excited for all of life's adventures - and to thrive when i get to my 40s! ❤️❤️

[@everythingisrosiex]

You put all of this SO well. I am going through a similar sort of breakup after being with him for 5 years too and this has really put things into perspective. I resonate soo much with this - thank you so much for sharing. It feels reassuring and encouraging better times and people are ahead!

[@ellenalicemiller]

i'm so pleased this could help - and i'm sorry you've gone through a similar break up. They really are the worst thing ever when you're in them, but life out the other side is so much sweeter!! sending you loads of love ❤️

[@judyhaynes209]

Thanks for sharing Ellen. I have thoroughly enjoyed learning your perspective on the life lessons you’ve learned so far. You are very wise❤

[@ellenalicemiller]

Thank you Judy ❤️ I appreciate your support so much!

[@srobinson4070]

Ellen, my break up was similar and thank you for sharing. Break ups teach us a lot and it make us stronger to cope , it is similar to bereavement but , yay !!! look at you now. You are in a new home and now you have a lovely fiancé. Also when you started talking about you being creative , my first thought was KZbin, you have definitely found your niche. As they say , “ the best is yet to come “ 🥰

[@ellenalicemiller]

thank you!! and i agree, the best of things are on their way! 🥰❤️

[@KatherineHitchon]

Such a good video, I look forward to your vlogs xx

[@ellenalicemiller]

thank you 🥰❤️

[@sophie6451]

This is so lovely and original ❤

[@ellenalicemiller]

thank you so much ❤️🥹

[@smkeong]

Nice vlog ~!

[@ellenalicemiller]

thank you! ❤️

[@calvinliu6304]

1st

[@ellenalicemiller]

hi! 🥰❤️

[@додододич]

i remember when she was with the first boyfriend it was obvious they werent in love mutually...bulshit