WHAT I LEARNED IN MY 40'S, I WISH I KNEW SOONER

[@sweets9828]

Trini confirming aunty is a term of respect

[@Nyammings]

I went to college for the first time at 28. I went back for a second career at 41.

[@jenniferduhaime8482]

You have come to me in perfect timing. I divorced this week my husband of 31 years, I was in such a horrible low place of self blame. Literally in a dark night of the soul. You set me free of harrowing self blame. The statement that you wouldn’t have given your ex the time of day as a young woman…that’s what I did, 24 years old, made a huge immature mistake. You are a blessing to all women, your wisdom is a transcendence from all wise women before you.

[@SwissMissss]

Sending you hugs and love! ❤ I just finally got out of a 10 year toxic relationship (nothing compared to your 31 years) but I just want to say I see you, and feel you! It took so much out of me. I'm starting to see what amazing future I have ahead of me, now that I dropped 200lbs of dead weight out my life. Cheers to us 🍻🥂❤😊

[@appleifc]

Morning Toni, In the AA community Auntie is a title of respect.... It is like saying yes ma'am. It is giving honor and /or respect.

[@Star192977]

Right! I have older cousins who I call Aunt because you respect your elders and put a title on it. I feel as if a lot of Black American culture definitely gets misconstrued throughout the diaspora.

[@appleifc]

@@Star192977 EXACTLY.

[@kharlie22]

I absolutely agree that if I met my husband now, I'd roll my eyes and keep moving

[@DaNewBlack]

Jheeze, the same man in your profile picture!??

[@kharlie22]

@@DaNewBlack are you the same person you were 20 years ago? Would you attract the same or be attracted to the same people?

[@sheena.m7802]

I agree with you . The decisions I made when I was in my teens or early 20's i wouldn't make now .

[@SwissMissss]

I don't understand how she got push back on that statement! I resonate with it so much.

[@TheJmommyandus]

I really enjoyed this vlog. I have always told my younger generation to live before you make lifelong decisions. That there's no age limit to do anything.

[@sheena.m7802]

I'm 33 and I've been following you for probably 5 years now

[@dtowndeidre5177]

I had kids first, then married, then college, at 48 learned how to ride a motorcycle, just took up gardening at 54… what’s next 🧐🥰

[@m.samuel6350]

“Accept your destiny, because the Universe has beautiful plans for you. Less stress and more joy.” Happy Saturday Toni, I think we all can truly say “ I wish I knew then what I know now.” You’re never too old to learn something new. It’s okay to do what you want to do in 2024!! I enjoyed listening to you talk. Always great conversation. Have a wonderful day and weekend.🙏🏽✌🏽💕

[@charlenehezekiah869]

I'm lovingly called Aunty Silverback❤ & Aunties are kinda like legends in the indigenous communities as well, their laughter IS medicine.

[@ajalikeasia]

8:08 🙋🏽‍♀️ 46 & guilty… I loathe my 1st tat 🥴💯. We definitely morph into several different versions of ourselves in a lifetime, hell I’m mortified by some things I thought/ said last year let alone at 19.

[@MsJayJam07]

Toni, I’m 62 and been following you for YEARS…your Jamaican Sista from across the pond. Love this video, I literally have my coffee on hand waiting for your uploads. Blessings upon blessings to you always!,

[@TheJmommyandus]

I do the same thing. Be prepared for Toni. ❤

[@stephanieshelton5813]

I'm a jamaican, been an aunty since I was 10, I'm also a mom too, but I love being an aunty❤

[@jazzie0009]

Love you Toni, great video!! ❤❤ Not following the order of societal norms is freedom. Also regarding auntie, the internet has a tendency of misrepresenting the Black American community, if you really go out in these streets and be around Black Americans all the time you will see that aunties are highly respected as well. We actually call our aunties a diff name…we call our aunties “TT”.

[@ari_an_yah]

Yeah, TT is what I call my Auntie's and I am 59 years old and I have never not respected them. TT is usually that one who has all the knowledge and confirms your suspicions as you grow up and into a full fledged woman.

[@portiathornton6943]

Yes Part 2 please

[@LThompson-ox2ne]

Preach, Toni, you're making a lot of sense. People will believe what they want to! I've looked back a lot of times and wished I'd waited to make certain decisions and do certain things. Yes, Yes... You always come with the good ones. Keep them coming. Stay blessed.

[@lais91263]

I'm in my late 20s; I love watching this kind of videos. Most of my cousins are in their 40s so to me you're more like a cousin than an auntie to me.

[@Gigi-rj3dj]

Pearls of wisdom. 💖

[@FeliciaCopeland-q1p]

You are exactly right if I knew now what I knew than I definitely wouldn't have become a teen mom, I Get It! Great video

[@ncaroln7]

I've been thinking about an auntie nameplate, too! Yes! Telescopic mascara is where it's at!

[@HerVibesDivine]

You're Pisces is showing🥰 I love these food for thought chats!

[@tobinaelder3774]

Yes! A Part 2, please!

[@marycrowell2776]

Im 69 yrs on this planet and it seems to be my BEST YEAR! Lots of learning and regrowing over the years. Growing up in California, at the church I attended the younger girls called the older ladies “auntie” and to this day.. we are still aunties and they are aunty to the youngers…. Oh got my first of 2 tats after age 55! (Went with niece and daughter when they wanted their first ones… Im that AUNTY!… love your channel. Love you and your crew!!

[@tracydaniels5704]

Thank You for being your true self this is your life journey and as you stated in order form of life we don’t have to get married etc and all that it is your choice to make yourself happy and sometimes there are people who don’t get to sit at your life table on be it been a blessing to see you through this journey thank you for sharing and stay blessed up your amazing fun and I enjoy watching your vlogs and the decor but the cooking is always fun thank you for the fun vlogs

[@Synnsational]

I’m 59 yrs young and when I retire I am NOT going to school I am going to 🧳 travel and see the world, yes I’m a Greys Anatomy nut I pay Netflix just for Greys Anatomy 😊

[@fourthmonth1240]

pt.2 please!!

[@missalmond]

I love how you clap on the dummies. People be so quick to respond to shit that wasn’t even said.

[@scarletscorpiana8985]

Part 2 please and thank you!!!

[@Marian-rh5yn]

Great insight part2 plzzz

[@SwtSadieJTV]

Real Talk! Toni

[@laverncage54]

I WANT A PART 2 LOTS OF LOVE ❤️ 🥰😍

[@cukie73]

Assalamualaikum absolutely PART 2, CONTINUE LS...PLS. 💜

[@LadyY2U]

I so enjoyed this video 🥰 Take care & Be Safe Tonettes 😊

[@bettydavis7904]

Good Morning Toni 🌹

[@jacquelinewilson-dandrow2955]

Hi Tony, great to see you I’m still watching and supporting. ❤️💕 But I just wanted to say I’m not sure where you heard that auntie means something different in the African-American community in America. However, that is not true. Auntie means auntie, just what it is my aunt, but sometimes we use it for a term of endearment for someone else’s auntie. Sometimes we are aunt by blood and some time auntie by love

[@rachelellerbee120]

I hope everyone is doing well

[@vickiemurph]

Always listen to what your true self thinks about life. ❤️

[@alesiaja1647]

Thanks for sharing ❤❤❤

[@laniwalks2470]

Part 2 us!!!

[@shontaydriggers]

Aunty and Uncle is a sign of respect for black Americans, too. I believe some younger Gen X and older Millennials tend to take offense to the term for whatever reason.

[@ObedienceOrSacrifice]

TFS!

[@IMVUtheLegendhasit]

😊

[@jacquelinewilson-dandrow2955]

It’s not hard to understand. Just remember the frontal part of the brain doesn’t develop until 25 for the average person. Things change.

[@rhondasargeant7488]

I fully agree with you. Im a 59 yr old woman, who at 18 was in a very unhappy situation at home. I chose to marry my first boyfriend and ended up having 3 kids by the time i was 22yrs old .and In an an abusive marriage . At 18. it looked like my best choice. Now looking back. I could have made such different choices. If i had met my husband at 30 or 40. He would have never had a chance with me .

[@heyhellohi_]

“Auntie” doesn’t necessarily have a different connotation in the African American community, it’s just that several older millennials are super ageist/ant aging and absolutely hate the fact they’re getting older and separated more and more from younger generations so they rather be called “sis” instead of “auntie.”

[@ari_an_yah]

This is true and there are also those boomers who try and act all young and dress younger too. It's obvious each generation may have those tendencies to hold on to their youth through dress and language too. No mistaken it, we are all getting older even if we do protest, lol! But life and Yah(god) is good!