What I wish I could tell EVERY parent. (A key to happier parenting!)

[@monicajhill]

I am a first time mom with a 7 week old baby and I desperately needed to hear this today. Thank you thank you.

[@SamSamJames]

You got this!!!!

[@jessat4655]

Listening to you talk about insecurity and not feeling confident and calling it a "cosmic joke" that you're a mom making these videos and everything...made me think about how the Lord is made strong in our weakness! He doesn't call the qualified, He qualifies those He calls! Love you, Jess!

[@Creative_Wings]

Very well said!

[@elizabethlamkey7332]

I needed to hear this so much right now. I’m sitting here in tears. Like sobbing. My mind KNOWS comparison doesn’t bring peace and joy but it’s way too easy to slip into it anyway. Thank you for this reminder. Thank you for this grounded piece of advice. Sending so much love your way!

[@whitney3258]

You've got this!

[@LeighSubastyin]

"Respect your own boundaries..." So feeling this on a deeper level

[@Mahsajoyce]

I couldn't agree more! We need to parent according to what comes natural to us and our baby. We know what works to ensure mom and dad and baby are all happy! First time mom over here, needed this confirmation. Thanks girl!

[@Girl1xGirl4]

Loved this, I've got anxiety about raising my daughter before she's even born, this was a really nice reminder that we are allll different and not one size fits all!

[@theshadesoffamily]

Yes it took me 4 years to figure out that my style of parenting is okay and perfect for OUR FAMILY

[@Lll-g7c4g]

FTM to a 4 week old. I really needed to hear this. Seriously thank you. I took a big deep breath afterwards and felt so much better.

[@benjaminraymond3856]

My fiancee and I just had our first child, in the middle of the Jones Fire in Nevada City, and I want to tell you, now that the smoke is clear, that I love watching your videos to prepare for my blossoming papahood! Your authentic candor and vulnerability ring so true. Keep up the good work, sister!

[@sophiaholmes2048]

Congratulations on your new addition!

[@mariareid5892]

You are a Champ.. nobody knows a damn thing about what they are doing. Just do what works for you and your baby.. God chose you for a reason, and your kicking ass😘😘

[@SimchainIsrael]

I LOVE how you can respect different parenting styles! This is sooo healthy! I see so many moms shaming other moms when they are different! Love this and your yummy soul!

[@JameePalmer]

I looooove and appreciate this mindset SO MUCH. During my pregnancy and in the months after I had my first daughter last year, I had this idea of myself as a mother (influenced by other moms I'd seen online and really appreciated their style) that I'd be this natural earth mama, fully attachment parenting style, co-sleeping, always within arm's reach of my baby. I loved that idea, and part of me subconsciously felt like it was the "right" way or the "best" way. It felt primal, like this was how we evolved so it must be best, right? After my daughter was born, I tried SO HARD to be this parent. I ran myself ragged trying to keep her close 24/7, never letting her fuss for longer than a few seconds even if it meant I couldn't shower or eat or rest, even when I was getting zero sleep because her grunts and kicks kept me awake every hour, and I was forcing a particular sleeping position that I couldn't move from because I was afraid of waking her up or that if I turned the other way it wouldn't be as safe. I didn't give her a pacifier or really swaddle her because that was "unnatural." I became the only one who could put her to sleep. I had extreme anxiety that if I wasn't close, something terrible would happen or she wouldn't feel safe. It was suffocating and I wasn't enjoying those sweet newborn days as much as I could have been if I'd embraced other ways of doing things. Thankfully around 2-3 months I realized it needed to change, I was an anxious sleep-deprived mess all day, every day. I needed some space (and sleep!) in order to be a relaxed, happier mom and feel somewhat like myself. So I tried other methods, like having her in a crib in her own room, letting my husband give her bottles of pumped milk sometimes so I could get a break, and using gradual sleep training methods to help her learn to fall asleep without my involvement. By then it was too late for her to take a pacifier, but I wished I'd introduced it earlier on! With my second, I'm going to be way more open-minded and do whatever works to make sure I take care of myself a bit more, and not freak out at every little fuss or cry. My idea of myself as mom and the reality of what actually works for me were different, and I'm so glad I came to realize that instead of continuing to force something that wasn't working. Thank you for this!!!

[@amoramoleko8581]

I love your channel, you know why? , you authentic, so real, and we need more people like you who dont sugar coat things 😘 love it

[@ColleenxLuna]

Needed this so much right now. Being a new mom can be so hard! Especially with social media and people and articles saying what’s “right” and “wrong”. I didn’t question myself until recently but you helped me so much in less than 17 minutes. Thank you so much for giving examples too, it’s very helpful. I’m so glad I found you❤️

[@ishani2103]

I like to watch your videos because of your honesty. You don’t pretend to be a super mom like some other KZbinrs. I am left feeling inadequate and insufficient after watching such videos. You make me feel that if you can do it so can I. Thank you so much for being you.

[@emilygrandchamp4943]

Thank you for making these videos. My son just turned 7 weeks old, and I have been extremely stressed out (emotionally and physically) from trying to raise a newborn amidst the chaos that is the world right now. You have such a calming energy and I really appreciate it! Sending love to you and your family. x

[@ashleydouglas7080]

Emily Grandchamp same! My baby is 6 weeks and this is hella hard.

[@emilygrandchamp4943]

@@ashleydouglas7080 Congratulations on your baby! I know you know what I mean when I say that the pregnancy was also very difficult. We sure missed out on a lot because of the pandemic and quarantines for sure. My son was actually born 5 weeks early and he didn't see anyone without a mask for the first 11 days of his life because he had to stay in the NICU, which is absolutely insane for me to think about! Not to mention that the latest riots are way too close to me to feel safe with my baby. It's just hard for everyone right now.

[@rthomas986]

Thank you for saying that the distance feels nice from your child. I’m currently preggers and needed to see this video

[@MaterialWhirl]

I'm not pregnant yet but this video already makes me feel better about being an introvert parent with anxiety. Staying flexible and knowing your limits is great advice. I love reading all the posts and advice in your FB group, too.

[@melanied165]

I’ve always been a very distant person. So my fear was once I had kiddos was how am I going to do without alone time. When I had my son I ended up being diagnosed with moderate postpartum depression. I didn’t feel like myself till my baby was about 8 months. During that time I didn’t feel confident as a mom at all. Now my baby is 13 months and I’m weaning him from nursing per drs request. I’m beginning to have confidence in my decisions as a parent. And just because I don’t parent how someone else does doesn’t mean I’m doing it wrong and vise versa. It took me a bit to realize that. Your videos are so liberating to parents please keep them coming. I watched them while I was going through it and your calm voice and kindness really helped relax me and realize I wasn’t crazy!!

[@mrs.lutzplans]

My husband and I are about to be first time parents...like any day now (39 weeks) 😊 Loved this video!! Thanks for always being so honest!

[@ryanm7249]

Good luck to you your husband and new one. May God keep you and grant you all many blessed years!

[@mrs.lutzplans]

@@ryanm7249 just now seeing this comment! Thank you so so much! Our little girl was born at 41 weeks and 3 days😬🥰 She is our world and we are so extremely blessed.

[@ryanm7249]

@@mrs.lutzplans Aw so happy for you all! What's her name?

[@maggiesutton1426]

I am 20 years old and expecting my first child in a months time. I can not tell you how grateful I am for finding your channel. I absolutely love your energy and leave me feeling calm and knowledgeable after watching your videos instead of overwhelmed/ confused like some other videos make me feel.

[@liliesinjune4334]

I really needed this video. I had my first baby in the beginning of June. She was in the NICU for nearly 3 weeks. I had always dreamt of breastfeeding and saw how seemingly natural it came to my friends. But due to our situation it was especially difficult to establish that breastfeeding relationship once she was out of the hospital. Thankfully I’ve been able to pump milk for my baby and I realized that I do enjoy that flexibility of someone else being able to feed her too :) it sounds silly but until now I’ve felt such guilt for that. But there are many ways to establish a bond with your child and many ways to love your baby. :) Thanks Jess for this video

[@melissamoon859]

This is 1000000% sooo true! Trust your mama gut and don’t feel guilty for not wanting to be stuck to your baby 24/7 take care of yourself and your needs too!

[@rachelharper7319]

The voice of reason wrapped in love and compassion! What a relief to listen/watch to this :) BIG love to you x

[@goallgirlie]

jess.. my gosh, you are so right. everybody has their own limits. currently 30 weeks pregnant with my first child and it always seems to me, that I'm the weak pregnant lady that can't walk properly anymore or handle even the simplest of household chores. I always compare myself to other moms-to-be who seem to be way better than me at... well being pregnant. but thats just the way I am. I can't run to the bus anymore - not going to happen! and I can't crawl on my knees to clean floors etc. so we are going to roll with that! :) thanks jess!

[@Gnomy83]

This is so true! Trust your guts and it will be fine. Saying this as a first time mom of a 6 weeks old. Still figuring out and what works today may not work tomorrow.

[@morganlee885]

Wow this is probably the most encouraging video that you’ve made! This is something I’ve really struggled with and feel like the Lord has really helped me with this year!

[@kearasullivan9734]

I love you and your videos so much Jessica !! I am a single new mom and my baby just turned one month old and this just makes so much sense to me. I felt crazy missing work already and being so overwhelmed but hearing you talk about your experience in parenthood makes me feel so much better about my feelings and my parenting style. Thank you for not shying away from those raw feelings of yours, keep it up💙

[@anamee5290]

A relief to be hear this! I have a 8 month old, I've wanted to be a mom for a long time and I am so grateful for my little girl, I love her more than anything! But I do enjoy my time as well, and I enjoy working and challenging my brain and feeling 'accomplished' in other ways because as a mom I feel like a failure most of the days!😂

[@cassiforest9191]

Everybody has to do what works for them! Great job lifting each other up ladies.

[@heatherstrandquist6789]

Love this SO MUCH!! Thank you Jess, it's really what I needed to hear this week. 💜💜💜

[@victorialindsaybooysen2735]

I really needed this video today ♥️ I’m a new mom to a 5 month old (we adopted him 6 weeks ago) and feel like I’ve been thrown into this crazy whirlwind that is motherhood!

[@christinaneufeld2725]

Congratulations! We adopted our daughter at birth last year and I know how it feels to be thrown into motherhood with very little notice. I wish I had seen this video when my daughter was born. It's so true that you need to do what feels right for you. And yes, it does get easier, but those early days can be really really hard. You've got this!

[@victorialindsaybooysen2735]

Christina Neufeld thank you so much!!!

[@kaytosoarox]

I cringe anytime I think I’ve come across as judgemental to any other moms 😖 there are so many opinions out there. So well put, “trust your limitations” I’ll stick with that 💗

[@thelittlehomeaustralia]

This is so amazing to read

[@livyourjourney]

You are SO refreshing. I just love your point of view and your honesty. Thank you.

[@CC-cl1zw]

Love the way you talk. I was watching your video for 4 month sleep regression. We currently going through it. Thank you for just being you. 💖

[@geeese]

Thank you for this! I'm more like you and sometimes feel guilty for appreciating my alone time but you're right there are so many different ways to do motherhood.

[@cassie1122]

I just found out I’m pregnant and I’m 34 (and terrified).You just don’t know how much of a blessing you channel has been. Your honesty is so refreshing ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@mckennasheetz2577]

I have no social media but I’m a California mama who relates so much and loves your content!

[@joyl7559]

So well put. Makes total sense that we as different people and families should have different parenting styles and not just all the same.

[@morganpatricio7161]

I can't tell you how much I relate to your content and especially this video! I enjoy space from my son because it makes me more emotionally present when I am with him! We all need breaks and I love that you talk about the beauty of different parenting styles.

[@aprildito314]

Thanks for this. I needed to hear this right now. Parenting is hard and trying to do things the “right way” is exhausting and not sustainable.

[@mgitm10]

Oh my goodness you are so amazing and encouraging. Thank you so much. I am going to watch this whenever I feel judged by someone or I feel like a rubbish mum. Thank you Jess 💜

[@staceyhutton5995]

Exactly what I needed to watch this morning! FTM 16weeks pregnant and I already feel l will be more aligned to your style then your friends. This reassurance that your best mum style is your own individual mum style is perfection. I need to hear this today ❤️ thank you xoxoxo

[@meganhenry5795]

Oh girlll! You are gem! Your genuinity is a breath of fresh air.

[@rewildwithus]

I've been receiving this message in various different ways in the past week, thank you for articulating this again for me! I am definitely a cuddly attached mama and have been trying to conform to the more distanced independent mama style because I've been told that's the "right/best" way. But like you said that makes me so unhappy. Thank you thank you for sharing 🧡

[@gabrielalora8854]

Great video!!! Thank you so much for sharing.

[@tiffanyoyola3371]

I have a 6 year old and have been diagnosed with depression and this made alot of sense and helped so much! God Bless You!

[@daniellekleshinski7204]

Tiffany Oyola I’m a new mom (2 mos) and I, too, am living with depression. You’re not alone. I know how much and can hurt. If you could use some extra support I highly recommend joining Jess’ Facebook group. Those ladies are always available to offer encouragement when you’re struggling. Sending you love! ❤️

[@tiffanyoyola3371]

@@daniellekleshinski7204 awww thank you!. I really appreciate that.

[@jacquelinekirouac7004]

Keep it up, your videos have got me through my first baby’s first 7 months here. I appreciate all that you say, thank you so much. Thank you thank you thank you 🙏 😊

[@autumnlee117]

You are almost to 100k! So exciting! Congrats! 💗

[@Esther-ls1ci]

Hey, insecure mom here. I can so relate to everything you say. So, thank you for being you and telling us about it.

[@LaJuera25]

Hi Jess! I now have had my son, and lemme tell you- your videos carried me through a lot of my pregnancy. This is a wonderful ministry you have- thank you!

[@hepkoaldebany9690]

The reason made me following you knowing that you are just a mom! Not those vlogrs who make use feel guilty, you are just like me and her and all other normal moms who do it one right and other time wrong and learn from it ❤️

[@dlklaver]

Thank you so much for sharing this. My parenting style is similar to yours and it’s been difficult to find like-minded moms ❤️

[@katieburgess8877]

Love this video! But is anyone else PANICKING over that pink drink on the white bedspread?! 🤪😅

[@annarocha3254]

I eat and drink on my white bedspread all the time just for the adrenaline rush. 😉😂😂

[@lexitk1128]

MY GOD YES I came to the comments just for this

[@Sunflower_that_loves_you]

I am triggered

[@dianamurcia8438]

I don't like being a mother even though I love my kid is the truest sentence for me. I do feel bad but i love daycare, i love having my own time.

[@cassandraborchert9441]

I so relate to this and am so glad I found your videos! We have a very similar style and hearing from someone similar makes me feel so much more secure. Thank you for sharing!

[@TheCrochetCritters]

So basically don't judge yourself on your parenting preferences and do not compare yourself to other parents. Seems legit advice on all kinds of daily activities.

[@inspiteofshame]

Don't judge yourself, don't compare. Yup. Literally the best advice for life out there.

[@themedicinalhomestead3337]

Love this! Thank you so much for sharing 💗

[@radinabambina]

I can 100% relate to you Jess. I found you with your “I don’t enjoy being a mom” video and still to this day see so much of me in you. Thank you for sharing these videos and putting a voice to my thoughts about parenting. 💗

[@deborahyu3996]

Love this, thank you so much!

[@KC-dn2gw]

Amen to ALL of that Jessica. I'm on my TTC journey (1st time mama to be at 36) and every single thing you said is like you took my thoughts and broadcast them. yes to all of it. well said. I am enjoying your channel very much and good luck and good health wishes to you with baby number 3. x #womensupportingwomen #motherssupportingmothers

[@abbyserna791]

Thanks for thissss! I agree 100% with everything you said but especially with the whole twisted mentality some people have still when it comes to wanting to guilt trip you or shame you for YOUR own style of parenting (** cough cough** older generations/in-laws)...things just are not the same as they were before and just because someone did or does something one way does NOT mean I have to do it the same at allllll. I'm loving being a mom and I'm so happy to be one but it's so hard when people make suggestions as if you're ASKING for them...it's baffling to me, but ehh luckily I have a strong backbone and support from more open-minded parents like my own ❤

[@alyssamarie1118]

Thank you for making this video. I absolutely needed to hear it right now.

[@nikitaft]

Absolutely agree with you. We should not judge others parenting style, I always say each child is a like a little experiment, different style method background etc makes them unique. Tbh it happens a lot in Asia as well, I must confess sometimes I can’t help but frown when I see a screaming child in the middle of restaurant running around for 30mins straight but I would not say anything out loud because their parents are the ultimate person to handle the consequences 24/7. Love and support is what we should share with each other and we can fine tune our own style our own time and pace; then we enjoy the process and journey along with our family

[@brittanyhartman]

Can’t tell you how much I needed this. Bless you 😭

[@AliceAshlyn]

In the same boat as you -- Distance makes me love my baby even more. If I spend all day with baby in my arms by the end of it, I'm so drained. Whereas if he is with someone else for a chunk of the day, I am so refreshed after that period that I just want to do a lot more for him.

[@marianahoward8069]

Love your videos and how you communicate .. love watching you and learning from you! I was mom shammed a lot the first few months after giving birth to my daughter by a person that I really shouldn't have allowed to get to me so much. It took me a while to get the courage to say "enough, I feel good about what I'm doing and how I'm handling it, and I don't need to let anyone make me feel bad". So, I'm glad you're talking about this and putting it into perspective for others 💕

[@WannaAhug]

Love your perspective!

[@lucyharris1622]

Great video. Love your realness.

[@bethanywatts7902]

Thank you for this video. Really needed this today!

[@topenergy8481]

Wonderful video! Love how honest you are about things that some would consider taboo to say :) these are important messages!

[@mairameyer2593]

I loved this video. Thank you so much for all your words ❤️

[@ammc189]

Thank you for this!👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 i think we inherently have this ‘mom guilt’ and constantly compare ourselves to other moms even without trying, like when I talk to my mom friends they always ask how often is your baby eating? How long is she sleeping? Is she doing this or that yet? And it always makes somebody feel like their baby is not doing well enough because we are not parenting properly. Babies are not robots, each family works differently and that’s ok! Parenting is the craziest journey ever!❤️

[@mariasophie167]

I love your videos and your views. I came here from Penny Parnevik, she talked about you.

[@flord.morenopadilla9268]

Me too I love working, but I can’t work right now :(((((

[@millyyygomezzz]

Funny that you talk about this. I recently talked about this in a video I made too. Everyone has different lifestyles and families. We all need to find our own styles and solutions. Yes, I agree good meaning general wisdom is great. No judgement and always support mom friends and family the best we can. As long as babies are loved and taken care of that’s all that matters. ❤️

[@BryannaBrown]

Woohoo you’re almost at 100k subscribers! Congratulations! Love these videos as I go through my first pregnancy ever! 💖

[@vanessalopez3591]

Parenting is so hard! Im a step parent so I almost feel like Im more insecure than I would think I would be with babies I get to know since the moment they take their first breaths. I came into my partner’s life when my stepson was 3 1/2 and he is now 5. I’m barely figuring out how I parent while also not trying to be his mom (bc he has his mom in his life) while also being a positive person in his life. I get so overwhelmed at times. I feel pressure in many directions, including from myself. We want more kids but Im also worried I wont like being a mom, like you (Ive seen & love that video). I’m afraid I’m never doing enough on top of dealing with a pandemic, my step son’s school from home, my own online school (full time graduate student) and on top of internship 😭 With all that being said, I love your videos, I feel we’re similiar in many ways in how I parent. Even my partner is different from me as well. Your videos help me feel seen & validated ❤️

[@VictoriaJoly]

Very uplifting video! Thanks for sharing and I can't imagine being so far along in that heat! It has cooled down in France now 😍 XX

[@brittanyclift814]

Watching your videos I feel like I'm just chatting with a friend. The FB group has helped me so much and I get excited every time you post something because I know it will brighten my day no matter the content 💚 I only have one mom friend IRL no one else has kids so thank you for opening up these opportunities.

[@lotsoflove6533]

Great video Jess thanks for sharing!

[@katelong5210]

Jess, YOU ARE MY HERO!

[@nicolerobinson5466]

I needed this! Thanks a lot !

[@hannahpalasz8918]

I sooooooooo needed this!!! Thank you Jess!!!! 💕💕💕

[@gemmacharles4129]

I have only Just started watching your videos and I wish id have watched this a long time ago. I never feel good enough and I feel that there is a lot of shaming and my style is like yours. I love my job and working and love my own time but feel like I'm made to feel guilty. I often look at people and think, "they look like they have it down and I never seem to be ahead of the curve with anything". I think I put too much pressure on myself. I'm scared i'm not enjoying my time with my daughter because i'm to busy stressing about and i'm going to regret it.

[@raymeelinster7762]

I love this. Thank you.

[@mamatried_]

Preach! I needed this soooo much! 🖤🖤🖤 I LOVE THIS.

[@valerieborovik3885]

I am the same. I love my son but I love some distance to get a chance to miss him.

[@shellyo1450]

This was soo good! Thank you. I needed this!

[@NicholaNich]

I love your videos so much! I'm expecting my first child over the next few weeks and I feel like these are sort of helping me!

[@graceburford2398]

"Is it life-giving?" True of comments on other people, choices of environment, and our own thoughts about ourselves. Love your content, keep spreading joy and peace! Also your drink looks delish, care to share the recipe?

[@carow1190]

Thanks for not only talking to female parents but male parents as well.

[@claireluo6257]

Well for once I'm a first view on something! Love watching your videos, Jess!

[@claireluo6257]

Also thank you for this one! Came at the right time for me. At times I love my parenting style but if I observe someone who is just a phenomenal mom -- like 100% born for the role -- I feel less than.

[@mallorynichols]

Appreciate this so much ❤️

[@TheGoodVillagers]

It's definitly too hot to be comfortably pregnant lol Thanks for getting that off your mind. ❤️ It!

[@jbm602920]

Loved this!

[@carolinegraham3560]

I love your videos Jess!

[@busyfati]

thank you 😊

[@alyssacho2921]

Where did you get your top! Looks so comfy (I'm in my last month of pregnancy)