"What if I never want to stop therapy?" | AKA 97 with Kati Morton

Ask Kati Anything mental health podcast episode 97
1.00:28 Is it ok if I never want to stop going to therapy? It’s not an attachment thing, I just truly enjoy having a safe, neutral place to drop my baggage off every week… I think I’m a lifer… But is that a bad thing?
2. 4:05 My therapist recently told me for the first time that most of my relaxation methods have a self-injurious character. However, I don't intentionally self-injure, it tends to happen unconsciously (e.g., bath water too hot, etc.) and because of my issues with...
3. 20:00 How can those of us who can’t remember our trauma feel validated? I feel like there are no communities for people like me who are scared and experience trauma responses but don’t have memories to talk about the trauma. I’ve been doing trauma work for years and my...
4. 32:16 I’m hoping I can keep this short… I was raised by verbally/emotionally abusive parents who raised me to fully believe that no one could possibly like me. They don’t even like me, and made that clear. I now struggle to believe in unconditional love, and therefore cannot give 100% of...
5. 41:08 You’ve talked about repressed memories but can you be traumatized from a situation you wouldn’t usually remember? Like for example if someone did something to you when you were sleeping? Or when you were a baby? Also, can you be traumatized from something that you thought was completely normal?
6. 47:29 Why do I dislike being 'healthy' so much? I've had to keep eating enough, instead of heavily restricting like I normally would, because of the physical demands of my jobs and staff shortages mean extra pressure to stay healthy. I'm frustrated I'm not as small as I normally am, and feel...
7. 58:27 How do I stop thinking about and missing my therapist? Ever since I terminated (she moved elsewhere), I still keep thinking about her. The therapeutic relationship was one of the closest and most consistent I've had. I'm an introvert, so it's hard to turn to friends and family...
8. 1:00:43 What do you do when thought stopping doesn’t seem to work anymore? What do you do when you know what you’re supposed to tell yourself but can’t get yourself to believe it? I’ve worked with a cbt therapist back many years ago to help with social anxiety and for the most part...
9. 1:04:26 How do you learn to feel safe expressing feelings? Because of abuse I feel it’s not safe to express emotions or needs. I also don’t feel worth someone caring about me. How do I get through this?
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Timestamps: #1: 00:28 #2: 4:05 #3: 20:00 #4: 32:16 #5: 41:08 #6: 47:29 #7: 58:27 #8: 1:00:43 #9: 1:04:26

[@Mushroom321-]

Thank you!! 😮😃

[@Mushroom321-]

The love the term " body memories ", ! Emotional flashbacks", THANK YOU KATIE ! They can definitely happen out of no where.

[@sarah28886]

Episode 96 and 97 are not in my podcast feed. I really enjoy that format as I can listen when I’m outside or walking... please don’t give up the podcast!

[@kayleighdittemore8352]

^^^! But I don’t think they are giving up on the podcast. I’m sure something happened when posting it :)

[@sarah28886]

They’re in the feed now! Thank you for fixing it 😊

[@Mushroom321-]

Ive love to hear you read stories. You have a comforting voice. !

[@thestatusquoy]

The amount of face scrunching that happened for me in Q6 😂😂 it stingggssss Thank you for all of your advice and support to this whole community. So incredibly grateful 💖 *also love the Roxy cameos! This can be such a helpful, but heavy podcast. So I find it so nice when she breaks the tension 💓

[@rubberkiwi1]

This podcast has been a godsend for me. Thank you for another episode! 💛

[@nancyliawoods]

Thank you ❤

[@ilovefamily5969]

Love your podcasts!! Almost to 100 podcasts. You should have a celebration!!

[@progressivedragon6664]

My weekly dose of sanity… And tips /Insight on how to better help my therapy clients lol

[@rinciel4999]

Weekly dose of sanity indeed❤️

[@Mushroom321-]

" bridge statement-" im open to talk more positive to myself ". Found out w h at a bridge statement is.. & also its called " challenge ing it .

[@hannahl4748]

Thank you so much for everything you do Kati! You’re amazing. I really appreciate everything you do for us all so thank you so so muchhhh x

[@cutemermaidaqua]

Thank you!

[@hopefortomorrow2143]

Could you talk about overeating as self harm in a video? I'm very overweight but I don't think I binge eat ( most of the things on the list I don't do but maybe I'm not seeing it clearly too, I know that might be it) and I'm wondering if maybe this is behind it. Thanks so much! Your videos have been so helpful!

[@staleyexplores]

ty Kati the last 2 questions especially I feel are critical..

[@pariskelch4092]

Loved these questions and answers. Thank you!

[@progressivedragon6664]

I have a follow up question to question six about the restricting/binging. After 20 years of learning to do intuitive eating (after 25 years of disordered eating), I ended up discovering gluten-free Oreos during the pandemic and due to increased anxiety used the Oreos to self soothe, subsequently gained at least 15 pounds in the last two years… Going up two pants sizes since I'm only 5 feet tall, and none of my clothes fit!!! But I've been unable to restrict my eating in any way in order to lose those 15 pounds, even a safe goal of a pound a month… Any advice on "Self discipline" for reasonable weight loss… I can't afford a new wardrobe and I need to wear something other than yoga pants… sdvice For recovered disordered eating people????

[@WastedPo]

Hi. Just a heads up. I think she makes special Community posts where she asks people to submit their questions for the next Ask Kati Anything episode. You should probably repost your question under the next time she does this, so it has a better chance to be chosen.

[@Mushroom321-]

Didn't know restrictions of food would be self harm. 😮

[@Lucileinn]

Some therapists know how to uncover forgotten trauma! They just have to be trained to do so.

[@Apoblete28]

Hi Kati, I love listening to you ! I just started therapy a couple weeks ago, and I am feeling really open to it but I get asked every time, ¨On a scale from 1-10, how happy am I?¨ I always say a 10 because even though my struggle is health anxiety, overall I do feel happy with who I am and where I am at in life. but I get a vibe from my therapist that I shouldnt be saying 10, is that wrong ? should it be saying something? thank you for any feedback

[@TheSevenLands]

There are people who crave french fries, fast food, fatty food, sugar, etc at every meal and allow themselves to eat it, and it doesn't get old and makes them crave more of it and in bigger portions. My partner is morbidly obese and a diabetic now because of it. Food addiction and sugar addiction is a real struggle.

[@iloverollypollies]

while I am watching this video part about memory I am singing to myself about how I need to rememberrrrrr my siMMMSSS password -imagine that was sung PS. I love what you do one day I will write you and sean

[@charlie5115]

32:16 Sounds like fearful avoidant to me? Is that the same as disorganized attachment? (I’m FA/DA myself)

[@1993rockergirl]

That shrek reference 😂😂😂

[@JamesVestal-dz5qm]

Ron jeremy did prison time for deep throat and still didn't learn his lesson about time management!

[@JamesVestal-dz5qm]

Then you have therapy ocd

[@grandmastermario3695]

Now there are alot of people that make up false allegations of being for an example sexually assaulted by random people well the fact is is that the person who makes false allegations often its because they have been hurt abused neglected or mistreated in some type of way by someone sometimes by the very person that's being accused of the sexual assault like often if they didn't sexually abused them may have done abuse in other ways like physical abuse mental abuse neglect and well they may falsely accused them of sexual abuse because well the law atleast in some ways takes sexual abuse more seriously than physical and even more so mental abuse and often if the person falsly accuses a random person of abuse that has never done anything to the accuser it's often because the accuser is trying to get attention that they never got as a kid which no its not an excuse to just go wrongfully acuse people but it's often why people do it and they honestly need alot of help honestly for anyone who got wrongfully acused when they did nothing wrong I'm sorry that happened to you for the people who were abused in some way by someone who wrongfully acused someone else of doing abused I am very sorry that that happened to you it was wrong what you did please get help and there are unfortunately people out there who wrongfully acuse people of abuse when yet they've never had any trauma abuse or anything happen to them ever and well to those people well may sound cold to some but f you no sympathy whatsoever but it's often do to trauma and them wanting attention that they never got