What is demisexuality?

Demisexual KZbinr Christi Kerr explains what demisexuality means to her, what it's like not having "feelings of romantic and sexual attraction" to people that she isn't already close to, and why it's on the #asexual spectrum. She also reveals what it's like dating as a #demisexual.
Here's why demisexuality is not celibacy: • Demisexuality is not c...
Subscribe to PinkNews: bit.ly/2HANxkr
Instagram: / pink_news
Twitter: / pinknews
Facebook: / pinknews

[@MissTotos]

I thought that's just how people are. I didn't realize for the longest time that demi-sexuality isn't the norm for most people. It just seems only natural to me to only fall for someone you have a real connection to. Anything else just seems odd.

[@southafricanizationofsociety20]

I’m Demi-sexual when it comes to food.

[@Vishnu_Karthik]

I don't call it "demisexuality" i call it being old fashioned.

[@noahpilarski]

Bruce Ohr’s wife works for Fusion GPS Me too 😂

[@bigfoot-is-bae6042]

MissTotosThis was me for such a long time I only just found out about this and I relate to it so much I’m so happy 😆

[@Angel_swagz]

Saaaame aaaaa

[@tea.earl.grey.hot.45]

Demisexuality is not just being picky, having standards, or choosing to be abstinent. It is not experiencing attraction until an emotional bond is formed. For example, demisexuals don’t see someone in public or see a celebrity and think “I’d have sex with them”, whereas another person might. It is a label some people use to help them realize they’re not weird or alone. If you don’t want a label, that’s perfectly fine, but some people feel better with one.

[@Savage-yw2bj]

So basically to feel like a regular fucking person

[@dreamergirl1140]

@@Savage-yw2bj Hmm most of my friends must just be hypersexual then....

[@tarsun]

this reply of yours is gold. thank you.

[@miaherrin8067]

Savage 21 if you’ve every experienced love at first sight or if you’ve ever been attracted to someone after a week of slightly knowing them, you might not be demisexual. with demisexuals it can take months of talking to somebody for there to be a chance of being attracted to them.

[@organicgold7368]

Only being attracted to someone you have a bond with is called being normal.

[@saintjimzo]

For me personally I've only been sexually attracted to one person in my life. (My ex) I've felt pressured by friends to talk with girls and put myself out there, but it doesn't feel organic just forced. I can see the beauty in a woman and find her attractive, but that is definitely not enough to want to have sexual relations. I have to know the person I have to feel connected on a mental, physical, and spiritual level. It's not as simple as "wow you're hot let's fuck." People (especially other men) act like men have to have this mentality of a predator, When in reality I just want to fall in love.

[@moguanshan3254]

same here :/ i’m a girl and really don’t understand why hookup culture is so big right now- falling in love is better imo

[@northstar2621]

@Doctor_Who It's normal, but it's not the norm.

[@themelodicduo7759]

i didnt actually know this was a thing, i just thought maybe i was ace or just scared of intimacy. this video actually really explained alot, thank you!

[@cretaceouscrabrevolution8391]

Me too I can't tell if it's anxiety, or fear of intimacy, but I can only feel that kind of attraction to people I know really well and trust, so...

[@evaaaxsheep]

Yeah same

[@godschild2219]

Danm I thought I was the only one. I've been single for years because I just can't find that someone I'm emotionally attracted.

[@lavanya9918]

Kinda me tooo, u r not alone

[@counsela9240]

Good luck! A healthy heterosexual person isn’t going to stick around waiting to see if strong chemistry is going to develop.

[@breakingames7772]

Me to but that's called a feeling... Calling it a made up word does not make us special and needing a GD flag. It's as simple as I won't get hard for a chick that I don't feel close to

[@jenniferconant8471]

I think I might be demisexual, I’m still figuring myself out.

[@cay9493]

same

[@scarlett-stone6110]

I'm on the same boat.

[@mereilluv]

same!! until now, i'm still confused.

[@xxdiamond_skyxx1678]

Same..

[@CaribbeanCitizen]

Yeah, I'm trying to figure stuff out too, I think I'm on the grey-sexual, grey- romantic spectrum, because I've never had a crush before or had any sort of strong feelings of attraction besides wanting to be friends with someone but at the same time I'm really unsure of if I'm demi or aro.

[@pardisarjmandi8889]

Knowing what demisexual means shed so much light on my personal life. I had never known why I felt the way I did my whole life. Since so many people talked about “wanting to have sex with a famous person”; I’m mentioning this that I’ve had so many celebrity crushes but never really understood the over sexualization of them in fanfics. I just wanted to get to know them so much and once I felt a sort of bond with that artist (let’s say I figured we have a lot in common after watching a bunch of their interviews) I would start understanding it better.

[@susronichakraborty6008]

This comment helped me. I feel the same, i also find many celebs attractive but not sexually. Ever

[@pranavshridhar3818]

I guess that makes me demisexual, but one question: why does it have to have the label of a sexuality attached to it? Can't I just say I like people who I REALLY know?

[@jennybrockartist]

Absolutely! There's no meed to use a label for anything if you'd prefer not to

[@shahins447]

So true you can just say or talk about it instead of labeling it..

[@ekoyal_gemu4446]

Because people want to feel special or they want attention.

[@Jon.Alexander]

@@ekoyal_gemu4446 as to why you wrote that in this forum? If you actually do wonder, people label themselves (and stuff in general) as it makes things easier. Also if you have been feeling a little 'besides' for a while, finding the cause will likely have you mediate thoughts and rationalizations through that cause. Have a good one.

[@organicgold7368]

It takes ten minutes to say “I’m only attracted to people I have a bond with”?

[@Darkrai_productions]

This was really helpful

[@chloekyria]

My friend literally just helped me figure out what my sexuality was, and then he hypothesised demisexuality. Just looked up a definition and then this video and it's 100% accurate to me. Finally, I can actually know my god damn sexuality 😂 after 17 years!

[@devi---]

Same lol, I’ve been so confused since my first crush on if I was ace or not, turns out I’m just demisexual lol

[@softmarshmello5831]

As a demi, I still find others attractive (boys, girls, and trans. all ). But again, it's not easy for me to just straight up date the person, I would want to know the person more.

[@TalaR04]

isnt that what dating is tho

[@julialee7491]

that's not really demisexuality though... Demisexual people only feel sexually attracted to someone when they have an emotional bond with the person.

[@oksuuuuu3370]

It's pansexual

[@sucram1018]

I'm the same way. In theory there's plenty of women I'd have sex with because I find them attractive physically but in reality I wouldn't want to because I would want to have sex with a woman I'm in a relationship with.

[@kaitlynr9271]

I am actually demisexual and it's been really hard figuring that out. I always feel like something is wrong with me and that I need to initiate sexual stuff when I actually really don't want to. My ex and I began a very happy relationship after getting to know each other for TWO years lol. I can't do things within a month of knowing someone. I can't. I used to think demisexualism was "just another made-up sexuality" but it really isn't. I have only experienced immediate sexual attraction to like three guys in my entire life (and I'm also bi so that just adds onto the complexity lol). It's okay to not want to be intimate right away. The right person will love you beyond your body and what you have to offer sexually or romantically. You may just be friends. But the build-up is far more meaningful than the end result, whatever that may be.

[@truthbetoldtoyou.5624]

I got talked about because I don't sleep around. Some thought maybe I'm gay. I'm weird. I act like I'm old, etc. All kind of things said about me. But I know I have to love you to sleep with you. I need time to fall in love with you. I thought I was alone. Now I'm glad to see there are more people like me out there. Feels good.

[@phantomvaper6360]

This sounds like me, it's very frustrating because I still have sexual feelings but can't connect it to anyone cos I don't get out much and mingle with people.

[@bluhummingbird2179]

I'm totally Demisexual, but there are people that don't even know what that is where I'm from. I live around a bunch of people that don't like to be labeled. Which I find crazy. Anyways, I only find someone attractive that I share a special strong connection with. We need to support Demisexuals.😍👏👏🙌💓🌈💯💯

[@navipersaud8528]

Thank you so much for making this!! I literally just saw the term on a dating site and was curious about what it was. It describes how I felt my whole life but never was able to express it will fit in with what was happening around me. Thank you!!

[@mademansandro]

Guess I've been demi sexual this entire time. Plot twist.

[@paco4808]

My female freinds used to joke that I was asexual when I was a teenager. (This was in the early 90s and we new the term from science class, like how amoebas are asexual). I never really addressed it till recently when I learned about demisexuality. That fits so much better and helps me explain things.

[@radhadas3339]

I never knew what I was! I just thought something was really wrong with me!

[@RufusCapstick]

No, there is something wrong with you

[@Gamer-girl332]

Rufus rude😤

[@mara-uj4zl]

Me too

[@tiktokuniverse4367]

only cause our society is so over sexualized it made you feel somethings wrong with you? u felt bad for not wanting to have sex with strangers? jesus christ our world os really so fucked up now

[@isabellamichael2140]

Where the pure ones

[@superpixie5203]

Thanks for the video. Girl I love, it came up she was hit on at work, and I got nervous, but she reassured me by saying "Don't worry, I'm demisexual," among other things and I needed to understand better because it's 3am and she fell asleep

[@mara-uj4zl]

Thank you . This was really helpful

[@cdnjustin7227]

Thankyou so much. I sometimes cry when I try to have that sexual attraction to some people I guess that's why I have my heart broken so many times because I aim for emotion and not many people do

[@onlyhuman5669]

That's me ;-;

[@raikopiin]

I'm a demisexual. Since I was a kid, I didn't understand the concept of seeing someone as beautiful or handsome in terms of attraction. Everyone just seemed "ehhh they're okay" to me which my friends found odd. Meanwhile, I find it weird how people easily get "crushes" on certain people by just looking at them. I've only had 4 crushes in my life (excluding celebrities/2D characters but in an artistic perspective and not sexual) and all those had to do with a "bond." Which this spectrum specifically tackles. While I don't have crushes anymore now that I'm older and more aware after realising my sexuality last year, it makes me happy that this concept was discovered :) it really helps to understand yourself and make other people understand your point of view.

[@theVyzexgaming]

This actually makes a lot of sense now, thank you.

[@SylvainCosmos]

It was recently I came to the conclusion that I am demisexual. I won't get into too much detail about how I came to it, but it was a "Something good came from something bad" type of experience. What being demi means to me is partly saving myself for the one God has planned for me, but also the appeal of marrying my best friend. Like, I date my friend to find a husband.

[@Eros13adios]

I am a man and have suffered as a Demisexual until recently I found this word and made sense in a lot of areas of my flaws and shortcomings..I blew a lot of my love life because of the timing of things in the friendship/relationship.Either I found the person that I connected attractive,but they didn't felt or saw anything special of our conversation or interaction or we open to deep that the person only saw me as a friend.Eventually it would take months or years to meet another person that I bond deep mutually and have a lot of things in common.But i guess i get too comfortable and didn't make a fast move that the person didn't think much of our connection..I too didn't reciprocate attention from women that showed me a lot of interest at first because I didn't saw them attractive right away or bond in any way.

[@poochthedog8079]

That was so concise and well taught. I’d say more, but that would be not concise. A+

[@danielspiller748]

I hear a lot of people say "Isn't that normal" No Shit, it's normal to get to know someone before sex but with Demi-Sexuality it's NOT a choice, but a requirement to form a deeper bond before I become sexually attracted to you. So if Taylor Swift or Halle Bary knocks on your door and asks "Would you like to have sex?" and you're down for it, Your're likely not a Demi-sexual.

[@lillyrose5467]

I always would hear my girlfriends say how they like a person based on their appearance or how they would do them just by looking at them . I felt weird in why I was not attracted to men or women so easily or sexually I felt that I was maybe weird and a asexual but a part of me wants to have sex but I just can’t bring myself to do it unless I feel and know the person and Have a real connection it’s not so much of I want to marry this person or spend my life with them . for me is feeling that we connect and I am comfortable with them and I feel some Ecstasy it kind of weird to explain but I feel like I need to bond and know them and feel something within me .

[@pharaohb.5133]

I'm the exact same way, don't trip. I just discovered the term today. Suddenly my life makes more sense lmao.

[@Moonshinefoxx]

So glad to see more people remaining open minded to alternative sexualities.

[@angelcat9693]

Thanks this was super helpful I didn't know anything about being demisexual

[@abbybourgeois7472]

i’m actually pretty confused now. when i talked about this with my therapist, she said that’s what i was and i was explaining. but i’ve been “sexually attracted” to celebrities and stuff. i’m not too sure anymore

[@SJ-rm3mm]

Oh my goodness yes to the dating app thing. It's so frustrating having to predict whether you'll develop an attraction to someone. Like, how?!

[@christinaharris842]

'It's not fair to someone who's wants to date me' to be friends first?? Why on earth not? Its a very, very recent expectation that someone will be willing for fall into bed in the first few dates. There's nothing unusual about needing to establish a relationship and trust before attraction occurs. That's quite natural! I don't know why a term is needed for this and it surely does not relate to being asexual.

[@NinjaKittkatt]

It actually does relate to asexuality because a demisexual person is fundamentally asexual UNTIL they have formed a close emotional bond. I used to think demisexuality was made up Tumblr nonsense because I thought everyone felt the same way about sex and relationships as I did, turns out I was wrong and I was the demisexual.

[@janherlihy8301]

Yes this was helpful

[@fobbles_]

Fuck… ok this explains a lot to me now. When you said the “people on the street line” I’ve said that to people I know. Nice now I feel less like I’m taking from people who are actually ace. Thank you

[@lupinlapin]

When your brain has melted...

[@odessawales]

The dating app is relatable like I dont feel sexual attraction at the people in dating apps immediately, it depends on how strong our connection is at first sight is tho I'm demiromantic and Demisexual btw

[@typetwobeetus1812]

Thank you.

[@EleiyaUmei]

I love that Christi worded it "you very rarely experience sexual attraction and when you do, it's towards someone with which you have a very strong emotional bond" instead of the usual "you feel sexual attraction when you developed a strong emotional bond with someone" because the latter makes it seem that you automatically feel sexual attraction once you developed a strong bond and I don't think that's the case.

[@nunkap8874]

I'm just learning about myself and I'm a demisexual! I'm proud 👏🏾

[@natei6524]

Good for her. I respect that! Rare in this day and age. Demisexual, never heard it. But it's interesting to learn about.

[@jennybrockartist]

"Good for her. I respect that! Rare in this day and age." Did you even watch the video? It's not a choice, or about being old-fashioned.

[@natei6524]

@@jennybrockartist It's good the LGBTQ community includes the A and I, although she wants a relationship and is not quite Asexual. Inclusion to this and other identies is a good thing. She's recognized and doesn't have to feel ashamed for being different. That's why I was watching Pink News and Cut to understand. Much of this is new.

[@_ZurBeri_]

oh that's what it means! hehe thx for this vid

[@fernfreak8383]

Hi, ik this will probably get drowned but have a question: Can you be on the aromantic spectrum while still being demisexual? I’m unsure about my labels right now, and I’m on the aro spectrum so if someone could tell me that’d be great, ty!

[@ph4nt0m_cl0ud3]

Totally , romantic and sexual attraction are still different, you can totally be on the aro spectrum and still demi, I'm greyromantic and realising I'm probally demisexual too!

[@CAMILA-zo8gu]

Wait, I thought demisexuality was the norm

[@treesandbees423]

So I just found out about this and didn't think I was looking for it. But I feel like I identify with it and now things make more sense. I've lived most of my life without that label so do I need it now? Like what difference would it make? I guess I'm looking for people's thoughts and advice on this. I'm also scared that people are going to think that I'm just identifying with this to be special or something. I also feel like I would be misunderstood because I imagine that people normally feel this to various extents?

[@NinjaKittkatt]

You don't need to carry the label if you don't want to. I've also realized I'm demisexual, but I don't really care to label myself as such. Using your sexuality as a label to me feels a bit like turning your sexuality into your personality. However, I use the knowledge that I'm demisexual as a way to prepare myself for a relationship. Understanding that I think of attraction differently than most people helps me understand the way I'm presenting myself to a potential friend or partner. I have to keep in mind that even though I'm not sexually attracted to someone I find aesthetically attractive, they probably find me sexually attractive and therefore might misunderstand my actions towards them as showing sexual interest. People do feel sexual attraction to various extents, not every non-ace person immediately wants to have sex with every person they're attracted to (but some do, those are hyper-sexual people) but the key difference is that with an ace-spectrum person there's a bit of a disconnect between sexual desire and attraction. You might be having a great time hanging out with someone and not even realize the whole time they've been imagining kissing you. You might not notice that strangers are checking you out. Being demisexual means you're basically asexual UNTIL you've formed a strong emotional bond with a person and then you MIGHT have sexual attraction to them. Summary: To an ace-spectrum person romantic attraction, sexual attraction, and aesthetic attraction are all different concepts. To non-ace people those attractions are all one of the same.

[@treesandbees423]

@@NinjaKittkatt That was actually really insightful and useful, thank you! I think that's the way I would like to approach it. Being aware but not letting it be a deciding factor as such. I also liked your summary, it helped to put words to the thing :)

[@yabujin66]

thank you!! i am bisexual and demisexual

[@nellmoll]

Well put,,, its comforting to hear a good description of demisexual,,, I only figured it out about 2 years ago,, I'm 51 now and what a long confused life I've had with it not knowing why I was this way,, I used to think I was gay but that didn't quite fit either which was all soooo confusing though I do get the occasional crush on camp type men,, especially in the 80s with Boy George 😍. So am I bi-demisexual..?

[@silrana7166]

Okay...I identify as being Demi, but I’m still so confused, somehow. As in, I wouldn’t mind going on fun loose dates or getting in a consensual, no strings attached fun relationship. Mainly because I know I won’t fall for said person, nor become interested...it takes years to develop a crush (and therefore sexual feelings) towards any specific person. The confusing thing, is that I feel as though my attitude sort of counteracts what demisexuality is. Anyone going through something similar? Thoughts on this?

[@CaribbeanCitizen]

You might identify more as Demiromantic than demisexual. If you're familiar with the terms Aromantic and Asexual then that helps as a starting point. Basically, it takes a strong connection for you to feel any romantic attraction but you might experience sexual attraction. Alternatively, you could still be Demisexual, but you like how sex feels and that's valid too. Demisexuality didn't really dictate how strong your libido is, so even if you're not sexually attracted to someone if you still want to have sex, I can see why you might choose to enter into a casual relationship for the feeling of sex. I hope this helps.

[@silrana7166]

@@CaribbeanCitizen 😊 thank you. I’m certain I’m demisexual now, but I do think Demi romanticism is a distinct possibility

[@AnxiousCinder]

So wait. If they had more than one close friend they would experience sexual attraction? 💀💀 what has this generation become 💀💀

[@poeticempress-original-peo]

Well Put.. Thank you.. will add your video to a dating site for those that ask this question... lol

[@Khaelath]

One "friend," I told that I was demisexual replied with a suggestion that I go see a doctor in case there's something wrong with me and then proceeded to link me an article titled "A cure for Asexuality". I've not talked to them since as they just couldn't see what they said was offensive. Thankfully, I've met other people who have been far more understanding.

[@Idk-je2ql]

I have a question. Two years ago i saw my old good friend (that i haven't seen for 4 years) on a basketball match between schools, i didn't recognized her at first but when i did my body started freaking out: My heart was beating really fast, i got anxious, and i wanted to be with her (i think it was sexual attraction). My body never reacted like that, before that the only type of attraction i felt was sensual or romantic. I thought sexual attraction was looking at someone with sexy looking body parts and thinking they look good (maybe fantasize a bit, even so i don't think about it that much). When i look at attractive strangers, i think they look hot but i don't wanna get with them? Can anybody explain what is sexual attraction? Also the person that my heart was beating for was a friend, i never thought of her as a romantic/sexual partner before, i only saw them as a good friend before seeing her again.... Sexuality can be really confusing. Edit: also sorry for my bad grammar, i'm not a native speaker.

[@scarletrose2880]

Idk it sounds like intense romantic attraction to me. I probably shouldn't be the one to answer (as an asexual) I'm pretty sure I felt it once, and for me it was more like sex wasn't even the thing I was thinking about. The feeling wasn't "I want sex" my thought were more along the lines "this person looks like feel-good" it was definitely distinct from "I want this person around me because they make my heart pitter patter."

[@Chattygirl2023]

I didn’t know what that was at first but now there’s just totally matches me so I think that’s what I am

[@anthonyeastman9185]

I'm just discovering this term after years of struggling with my sexuality. I have had sex with two people, both long-term partners whom I loved, but I have had many potential sexual partners that did not work out because I couldn't get interested in them without deep emotional bond. I am straight, but many people suggested that I am gay when I described my sexuality, however I know that I am not interested in the same sex. I am only interested in intercourse with the opposite sex, but only after I have developed strong feelings. So glad to know that I am not alone or defective.

[@lordeismyqueen5486]

*I’ve never related to anything more*

[@JenN-fp8id]

Thank you for posting the video and explaining demisexuality. don’t take the negative comments to heart. This is important 💛

[@NorthernMan932]

Wow, I'm surprised at the level of rude comments.

[@mcplumpkin6191]

exactly.

[@ParaParagon]

so basically it's form of asexuality - in which emotional bounding ultimately prevails in sexual attraction, or is just devoid of sexuality altogether?

[@claudiahaskett987]

Would this include not holding hands, not wanting to kiss, not wanting to hug etc

[@cary9479]

No, because this can be romantic and not sexual.

[@NinjaKittkatt]

Not wanting to do those types of things are usually considered aromantic, which is a different subsection. There are different types of romantic attraction too. Sexual attraction = desiring sex with someone, aesthetic attraction = appreciating someone's visual appearance but not necessarily wanting sex with them, and romantic attraction = wanting a relationship with someone. Aromantic means to not want a romantic relationship with someone, which is often confused for asexuality. However, someone can be asexual and romantic, OR asexual and aromantic.

[@user-vf4hv5sq9t]

This is so stupid people come up with those names just for attention whereas this is actually the nature of human being

[@jazzypoopy1465]

im still confused of what it means

[@tlevyvideosmasher]

Can I ask why does a lot of internet sources say that demisexuals could experience sexual attraction often? I’m a transgender male that hasn’t gone through my operation yet & I’m talking to a demisexual woman right now & don’t want to fuck things up

[@OliverWoodphotography]

I am demisexual but I only recently discovered the term. It can be a curse as well as a blessing. Demisexuality creates artificial scarcity in relationship options and we are much more likely to suffer over possessive attachment styles or develop unrequited loves. People we feel attracted to always feel rare and unique to us.

[@mostlikelytosucceedpod]

This explains why I’ve had no problem remaining abstinent for so long. Not solely because I choose to- I just don’t be liking people lol so the urge is never there. Truly very interesting. Hmm let me research further.

[@breakingames7772]

I am demisexual....but for christs sake, it's a feeling...not a sexuality

[@thegreattagada4762]

A trans guy told me I'm lesbian but I'm a guy so I'm demisexual So I came here to try to know what was that about and that's.. A complete different thing -

[@EllaJay]

When was this sexuality invented? During Covid, I'll bet. I'm from an era where there were 3 orientations (gay, straight, bi), life was so much simpler.

[@zackspicer3481]

Wait, what? Just when I thought I was a demi-sexual you pointed out that you can get sexually intimate with friends? Is there like another word for me?

[@Noone-wq2eq]

Yes there is another word for you. Its called being "NORMAL" 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@cary9479]

It's just another form of Demisexuality.

[@a.p5079]

I feel like (and speaking as a demi), that many people who aren't demi or on the spectrum will identify with this due to our modern day hookup culture and those who aren't into that may feel they are demi. At least that's how I discovered this. I don't think about banging people or want to bang strangers. If the person is attractive/my type, I would think more romantic things, not sexual. Is this demi..? any thoughts?

[@avj2173]

That video really help me understand demisexual as I didn’t fully understand what it meant.

[@Hesitation_]

I’m the opposite of demisexual bc I’m homosexual 😂😅

[@LillyBelle21]

Uh- what now i cant tell if im demi now ._.

[@jasminejacquel2212]

So if you see someone random and think they are attractive does it count....?

[@jailayagan1605]

I have this tendency but not completely.

[@riverbanzachamploo9725]

Her voice is like Jules from Euphoria.

[@aleX-sn9db]

as a demisexual you feel sexual attraction for both genders/all ? or just for your opposite sex ?

[@zeonaraven1915]

Demisexual is just a sexual orientation, u can be bi, gay, straight, etc. It doesn't matter what sexuality u are, it's just the way how you present yourself ✌🏻

[@HellhoundRoberts]

So u only feel attracted to a person ur in a relationship with so how u get in one

[@bettyboossister3918]

I don't fancy anyone...idk why...

[@moguanshan3254]

not having a crush on anyone can be quite freeing lolol cause you’re not thinking about them all the time - don’t worry about it and someone will come into your life and you’ll know

[@mcplumpkin6191]

You *might* be aromantic!

[@tyleruhlenberg8074]

I honestly look at everyone the same. Unless we have a connection and love for each other.

[@sagemedows95]

There is only one person in my life I felt sexual attraction to soon seeing them. And we rarely talk so sexual attraction is a no go 😂

[@xx_dearx3996]

Thank you for explaining it! I think i might be demisexual..

[@scotnick59]

Geeze: there is actually a word for me!. Cool.

[@plague_ivy4592]

I have a question!! Let's say I see this person and I think "oh they're hot" or "they're cute" but I dont necessarily want to have sex with them, does that make me Demisexual? I seem to relate to every thing else here, but I want to make sure I completely understand before I can say i get it. Just trying to understand, thanks!

[@NinjaKittkatt]

I think i consider myself demisexual and I also think people are attractive. That's called aesthetic attraction though. The difference is that just because I think someone is attractive it doesn't mean I want to have sex with them. The key point of a demisexual is that you're fundamentally asexual (meaning you just don't care for or desire sex) UNTIL you've formed a close bond with someone. That's actually not a normal thing and it took me 26 years to learn that most people feel sexual attraction simultaneously with aesthetic attraction, but for demisexuals those things are 2 different concepts.

[@plague_ivy4592]

@@NinjaKittkatt thank you! That makes sense

[@clararm]

It's frustrating explaining it ngl 😅

[@noahwaytoohigh]

that's literally just called loyalty just because im the same way doesnt mean i need to identify myself as a fucking sexuality and put a label on it. it's literally just how some people are there isnt any need for a fucking label 🤣

[@NQG420]

I don't know what I am but I do know demisexual is what fits me the closest

[@BlingBlingBlea]

Can you be demisexual and pansexual???

[@707kxyzan.3]

am i the only one who came here from a survey but didnt even no wut demisuality was

[@sophiex2728]

okay so i find womans bodys more attractive than mens but im not romanicly attracted to woman at all and i could never see myself with a woman i need help what am i

[@NinjaKittkatt]

That's called aesthetic attraction, which is different than romantic attraction and also different from sexual attraction. Most people think those things are one of the same, but they're actually 3 different types of attraction. You're aesthetically attracted to women, but romantically and sexually attracted to men. That isn't really demisexuality as that has to do with whether or not you WANT to have sex, but it's worth recognizing that attraction is different than sexuality.

[@hanisolaqa]

I am Demisexual, now I know why I am an extremely attractive man and can't have sex unless getting emotional bond, many women thought I am gay because I wasn't looking at their hot body and face

[@UHFStation1]

How is human esthetics appreciated? If emotional connection is needed first than no proportions of face or body are more attractive than others?

[@cary9479]

Demisexual people can find someone beautiful/handsome, cute, but not sexual attraktiv.

[@counsela9240]

Wth? It takes too long to wait and see if there is strong sexual attraction and chemistry.

[@Maki.Animates]

I never knew about Demisexuality... I seem very close to this.

[@yourlocalfloofballkira2251]

I just thought that was like.. My choice in being straight... Huh.. Guess I really am apart of the lgbt+ community

[@emilyprincess2002]

Had the exact same thought! Like I've always supported LGBT, but I never thought I would be more than an ally. And now I'm here 😂

[@saravaezi2001]

Well I do have crush on celebrities. But sex and intimacy is comeplete another story. Does that make me a demosexual ?

[@twiceremoved7339]

I ended up being demisexual because I didn't drink the last drop as a baby. I'm hoping eventually to be a full sexual but I have to slay a hydra first.

[@Winder809]

It seen to be interesting 🧐

[@Marco_My_Words]

I used to use all these special snowflake terms for my sexuality. But I have found that sometimes, there just is no term for it, also because it varies and changes a lot over time. Now, I am just me and my sexuality is my sexuality. I am not heterosexual, nor bisexual, pansexual, asexual or demisexual. I am a human being with all kinds of varying feelings to all kinds of varying situations and persons. There is no term that could ever descibe the complexity of my feelings, and there will never be one, ever.

[@xxdiamond_skyxx1678]

I first thought I was Asexual but I guess I am actually Demisexual- *I am still not sure though, I am having a hard time understanding my Sexuality ;-;*