I spent a day with ASEXUALS

[@AnthonyPadilla]

⚠️ NOTE: when it was written that the A in LGBTQAI+ stands for “ally”, it was meant to reflect what some people have assumed to represent “allies”, while many have corrected to stand for “asexuals”. this was not intended to segregate asexuals away from the LGBTQAI+ community. ORIGINAL POST: come back next week for *I spent a day with AUTISTIC PEOPLE* -- thank you so much for supporting me and this series :) luv, anthony padildo ps: shoutout to everyone who has turned on notifications 🔔 and directly support me in continuing this series.

[@dreaminq2389]

Alphabet people

[@ytminipokemon5660]

Love you❤

[@PinkpandaEdits]

Hi uwu👌👌

[@AnoxmoosOG]

Hi

[@AnoxmoosOG]

Spend a day with people that have OCD

[@take67806]

"Sex does not make us whole. So how could you ever be broken?" My favourite perspective on asexuality

[@coffiecat05]

Oh *gasp* thats deep

[@allisonhogarth2983]

sex education???

[@klaraottosson1461]

Sex education right?

[@take67806]

@@klaraottosson1461 yes. That sentence stuck with me

[@painland]

i just binged all of it its SOOO fucking good

[@KSPetshops]

Calling it a “debut” and not “coming out” is the new move

[@sarahwithanh9758]

Until you make friends with a bunch of kpop stans, and then they are all like "...what?"

[@chickenqueen3251]

Iconic

[@felix.mp3639]

Sarah With An H lmao Ima debut as a new girl and boy group called bisexuals

[@jj-og9nl]

Sarah With An H so true 😂

[@johnwerner69]

Sarah With An H I don’t get it?

[@lolasum_sumi_san]

Am I the only asexual who doesn't think of 'kissing' as sexual? I would kiss someone but nothing more.

[@jasminewelland2521]

When I kiss, I feel like I'd do it to a friend, like there's nothing significant. It's something for fun I guess. I hate making out though I feel disgusted.

[@lolasum_sumi_san]

@@jasminewelland2521 Yes, thats what I mean. Although I might kiss to show affection as well. Not a smooch or french, just a peck a simple kiss. I do not like the idea of swapping saliva and suffocating LOL.

[@ashal7482]

i like a kiss like a peck but making out is just 🤢🤢

[@alansmithee419]

@@ashal7482 Same. It's like one is a nice little display of affection and the other is "hope neither of us have diseases! Or a need to breathe!"

[@notasovietspy8008]

I think it's more of a romantic action

[@sailorenthusiast]

When I was in high school, I was geniunely confused why it was necessary for my sex ed classes to keep preaching abstinence, as I wasn't at all interested in having sex with anyone. Little did I know that the vast majority of people actual did want to have sex, and that I was in fact a weirdo for not wanting to do that.

[@christinewalker7242]

My sex Ed teacher said I needed to continue to attend classes because "everyone has sex". Well, almost a decade on and I still never want to participate in that activity.

[@FoxInnaHat]

I still try not to think about it too much. it hurts my brain to think about any sexuality at all. As an Aro/Ace i would think that anyone would probably have the potential to love one another in the right circumstances right? Like realistically speaking wouldn't there still be niche situations where straight men could be romantically and sexually attracted to other men in the right situations? idk.... i feel like sexualities and preferences are less important than people make it seem to be. as for my Aro/Ace identity, there is no telling what kind of Game of Thrones level plot twist might happen to get me to be in a relationship, but i dont say its 100% impossible cuz nothing is impossible.

[@emmareyes7459]

😂😂

[@LootFragg]

Listen, kids. Here's a list of all the germs you can contract from eating feces and the diseases you can get from them. Do not consume large quantities of fecal matter. I know we all look at a pile of poop and go: "Damn, that shit delicious." But you need to understand that you cannot follow your intrinsic impulse of jamming that poop into your mouth. Yes it's something we all crave but the consequences of eating three poops a day or more are dire! You need to abstain from eating that!! STOP NODDING, I KNOW YOU WANT IT!!

[@Alexa-so4jh]

@@FoxInnaHata straight man would have little to no sexual or romantic attraction to another man, making a relationship impossible even in “niche” situations. That’s the whole definition of being straight- you are not attracted to the same sex. There’s something called attraction. You are drawn to certain people. I cannot possibly imagine myself with a woman or imagine even being romantically interested in a woman. It’s repulsive to me just like sex may be repulsive to you.

[@am_ppe4899]

"asexuals unlike the government, we wont screw you" the truth has been spoken.

[@moopyboi5679]

I LIV THAT PART LOLL WE ALL KNOW WERE GETTIN F****** LETS DO SOMETHING ABOUT ALTOGETHER AS ONE !!!

[@xxxacu]

😭😭😭

[@freyamiles3718]

there's a reason "ace" is the shortened term

[@00imz]

LMFAO

[@adeola_63]

Asexuals for goverment!

[@munaq-jp]

If you haven't noticed yet, asexuals can be straight/gay/bi/none. Romantic attraction is also a thing.

[@bluemoon2384]

Yes! Im a Heteroromantic Asexual :D

[@lapislazuli06]

@@bluemoon2384 yeah, I think I am too

[@salem_ness]

JP de la Torre exactly! I’m a bi-romantic asexual

[@SoulSlugArts]

I'm biromantic demisexual

[@noa8497]

THANK YOU

[@truetravesty9080]

Asexuality, when you'd rather sleep, than sleep with someone.

[@yeetbigly5827]

Yeah basically lol

[@mariafausti3128]

ikr😂😂😂

[@user-ef5nd3ho3n]

lol

[@childoficarus5334]

my literal idea of a perfect date is, go out to a movie or something similar, go home and eat pizza in bed, and then, so are we taking a nap together or what.

[@thunderwolf234]

But you still can """"sleep"""" together without actually sleeping together

[@fuzzyzombielove]

"When ever we do intimate stuff, it's more like an invasive medical exam." That hits home.

[@emiliacanet9960]

Lol

[@jh9391]

Yuuuuuup!!

[@GayleenFroese]

YEP.

[@Half_Baked]

That’s probably one of the most relatable things I ever heard in my entire life

[@lenaduchannes8952]

This, plus Lauren's other comment about bisexuality vs asexuality honestly is the first time I've understood this topic.

[@Mari-hb5do]

‘I’m more scared of the pregnancy than the children’ - mood

[@gdjokerreject2068]

Mari IKR

[@curlyf4253]

Bro people are astonished when I've mentioned that like do you even know the risks. More so the fact that it's painful like hell nah

[@brisacruz4593]

Sample

[@scottyspagett121]

Honestly me

[@evelyneisenhower8338]

Me omg

[@Claego]

So glad Anthony has decided to go this way with his solo career as a sort of internet journalist

[@k9carry-gabriel-803]

Without drama aswell, just serious subjects but not cringey and mixed with a bit of comedy.

[@rosemaryflower1946]

K9Carry -Gabriel- you got a point

[@britwit2335]

as a grey asexual it is really scary honestly

[@mubashshirifrad1728]

K9Carry -Gabriel- it’s super cringe though . I basically watch his vids whenever I want to cringe . Like who the fuck thinks that “otherkins “ aren’t cringe .

[@ii_chiffoncake4434]

Yeah, but i miss the emo hair tho~

[@user-wz1jh3rh7z]

just a note: you can be asexual and still like people... i dont feel like enough people realize this

[@chunkymonkey4975]

IKR!! I’m Lesbian Ace and I keep seeing all these things like “if love was a door Ace is a wall” or other things implying that all Aces don’t feel Romantic love! It makes me so mad cuz I feel, less than but still, romantic feelings :/

[@laysthechip3356]

Yeah I’ve seen quite the amount of people saying asexuals don’t have relationships and that we just don’t like anybody, it pains me to see. I’m aro/ace and that isn’t gonna stop me from liking people nor will it stop me from wanting to have a partner. We don’t need sex or romance to love

[@dolphinbluefire]

@@laysthechip3356 could you elaborate more on this? I can understand asexuals who want a romantic relationship, but I'm a little confused on the aro ace perspective, forgive my ignorance, but could you please explain what is appealing about a "romantic" relationship, for lack of a better term, to someone who has neither romantic or sexual desire? I understand some asexuals are fully capable of having and even liking sex under the right circumstances, so is it the same for romance for you? Or do you just want a close platonic relationship with someone, purely because you like their personality? Again, apologies for my ignorance, I'm just curious

[@solistri]

@@dolphinbluefire hi! I'm not lays the chip, but I'm also aromantic, so I'll try to explain :) Most aromantic people don't want to be in a romantic relationship, but some who are romance positive (or romance favorable) can enjoy the concept of romance and/or romantic activities (like kissing, cuddling, holding hands, etc), therefore seek for a romantic partner even though they don't feel romantically attracted to them (and the partner should be aware of that, obviously). Aromantic is also a spectrum, so there are demiromantic, grayromantic, etc. People who actually feel romantic attraction, but under certain circumstances or with low frequency. Some of them may want a romantic relationship. Basically, anyone who doesn't feel romantic attraction like alloromantic people fit in the spectrum. (In the aro and ace community, there's also a type of relationship called queerplatonic relationship, that isn't sexual or romantic, but has a more intense level of commitment, companionship, and/or love than a platonic friendship. It's truly fascinating, if you're interested, I totally recommend reading more about it!)

[@dolphinbluefire]

@@solistri thank you for the reply, its pretty fascinating to think about, I've struggled with figuring out why I wasn't like other people around me since early high-school, many years ago and just recently learnt about asexuality and in particular demisexuals, which is what seems to fit me the most, however, I consider myself to be very much a hopeless romantic, so the aromatic aspect seemed a little confusing, however your explanation has cleared things up wonderfully, makes tons more sense actually, so thank you very much, not sure why I found it so difficult to grasp when its basically the same with sexual attraction

[@mercymunoz1408]

“Asexuals unlike the government won’t screw you” I love that one so much

[@Juauka]

I’m not asexual but I’m a baker and I’d be happy to provide you all with cake, garlic bread and unconditional support

[@Skrill99]

Good, you can provide sustenance for when we invade Norway. Allies are always welcome. :)

[@Juauka]

@@Skrill99 Thank you, I assure yo I will be of great use to your army, on a side note do you prefer any particular flavor of cake?

[@nikosvoulgaris7234]

Aww, thanks! I really appreciate your cake- uhh support! Yes support!

[@thisisepic3052]

GARLIC BREEEEEEEEEAAAAAAAAAAAADDDDDDDSSDDDSKWMSNQOPOQPQLWNFNEJDHF

[@HexenkoeniginVonAngmar]

@@Juauka Idk if there's any distinction between the two kinds of cake but in German there's "Kuchen" and "Torte" (in turn "pie" doesn't have an extra word in German) which are dry and creamy cake respectively. I personally love the latter with tiramisu flavour, so if you could bring something like that, it would be greatly appreciated!

[@sunsetskye483]

It’s a running inside joke in the ace community that most asexuals love cake and/or garlic bread, for anyone that doesn’t know.

[@sophiam.krager3815]

I am ace and ive always loved cake...seems right

[@hafsahossain1394]

I've never really liked cake or sweet things that much but I surely love garlic bread a lot and I'm an asexual.But I still don't believe asexuality has anything to do with food lmao

[@sophiam.krager3815]

@@hafsahossain1394 it's more like a joke that came from things like "i would rather have cake than a lover" And similar things, it's more like a meme

[@sunsetskye483]

@@hafsahossain1394 It doesn't, dw, it's just an inside joke

[@notasovietspy8008]

Damn I fit in a little to much

[@hugogamboas.5550]

This always starts like “Are these freaks!?” And all the time it ends like “These are lovely people”

[@genomerc]

Yeah, from what many people in society think to what is actually going on

[@Tailionis]

They are still freaks

[@skydude221]

@@Tailionis who asked

[@trainosaurousrex4472]

Chihuahua Crew gee thanks mate

[@hannahmorningstar8334]

Except on the paparazzi one lol

[@hootyhoothoot7]

It' so weird how our society is so focused on having sex. My friend asked me if I'm ace because having sex doesn't sound really appealing to me right now I'm 15

[@MarjorieMcWiggles]

Yes!! My old friend tried to tell me when I was 12 that I might be asexual. She was one of those people who made her sexuality her entire personality, and still does to this day. I was pretty vocal towards her about the fact that I’m a minor and shouldn’t be having sex at all.

[@margaretcorfield9891]

Don't think the concept of sex even entered my head at 15. I lost my virginity at 21, because I wanted to get the sex bit out of the way. I can't stand slobbery sexual kissing, but am okay with other kinds of kiss. I had a wonderful sexual relationship with my husband, we had 3 children, but neither of us ever felt that it was an important aspect of our relationship. We loved each other for many other reasons and in many other ways. I was 35 before I found him and lost him 10 years later. I never felt the need to have sex with someone else ever again. It's easy enough to give yourself an orgasm or more if you want to, easier than fumbling around with someone else for hours and getting nowhere, because you'd rather be eating cake!

[@FoxInnaHat]

@@margaretcorfield9891 uuuhhh.... You did in fact read the part were they said they were 15 right? i dont think they needed to hear all of that. hell im 21 and even *I* didnt need to hear all of that.....

[@iisle]

Because sex/reproduction is the most important feature humans have

[@FoxInnaHat]

@@iisle incorrect, the most important feature is obviously the ability to drink coffee while playing Animal Crossing

[@Eymologymentality]

Fun little reminder: Asexual people don't need to "look" asexual. People can dress however they want. Edit: This also goes for aromantic people!

[@Diamond_Doodles]

Does ace even have a "look"?

[@se6777]

Just like nonbinary, lesbian, gay, bi, pan, Demi, het

[@helpineedsleep2101]

Ikr I told someone I was ace and they literally looked at me and said no

[@zivion]

How would someone even “look” asexual? 🤔 Wearing a chastity belt on the outside of your clothes? LOL

[@cazhmonii]

@@zivion literally do you dress like a nun or something? What does dressing asexually even mean??

[@milostarglowwsoldaccount7719]

one of my friends is asexual and aromatic. her birthday is on Valentine's day.

[@matthewcox7985]

Ouch.

[@SeptemberHQ]

The irony 😂😭

[@crypticduck2574]

Lmao

[@barkingmadfordogs5128]

Oof

[@OkOk-sz8wn]

oh that poor girl- it’s probably so awkward😭

[@LizzyWithAWhy]

"if your having sex and you'd rather be eating cake, you may be asexual" for such a goofy sentence this was surprisingly helpful.

[@queenofanon9972]

Depends on one’s definition of “cake”

[@akwala__]

@@queenofanon9972 🤨😭💀

[@humourlessjester3584]

@@queenofanon9972 your username somehow made this even better.

[@mellar5864]

And inaccurate

[@10MinutestoRouletteFortune]

If I'm eating cake and would rather be having sex, am I anorexic?

[@abcdefzhij]

Im not even asexual (I am a virgin though) but I feel like this video helped me. This idea in society that you have to have sex and that it’s a necessary part of being a human always makes me feel really bad and cynical about things, and like there’s just something fundamentally wrong with me for not prioritizing or experiencing that. This really just shows how arbitrary all that really is.

[@stannosaurus]

Fuck yeah you're just fine with or without. It is simply a thing that happens sometimes

[@lickalotlickalot2210]

You are fearing the unknown that's all. Sex in itself is not a bad thing. You wouldn't be here if it wasn't for it. There are many misconception about sex as it is about asexual. We need to be fair about it and not trashing sex as if it was unnecessary or dirty! And that doesn't automatically make asexual good!

[@codyrogers9582]

not going to lie, this entire "spent a day with..." series has given me a new found respect for Anthony and his approach as well as general respect and just chill nature towards literally everyone he interviews, no underlying judgement just pure 'help me and people understand what you do and who you are' and wholeheartedly i love that.

[@sparky082]

Could not have put it better myself so thanks for saving me the typing time!

[@garfieldfan420]

Especially with his role in stranger things (that is him right)

[@kroniktp7119]

from fighting with food to that

[@madisonlongeuay9005]

But like those Adult babies tho

[@RealMevelleRealMevelle]

Totally agree

[@lilliat4590]

I’m straight but I literally don’t understand why its so hard for some people to accept other people just because of their sexuality or gender smh

[@childofgod759]

ikr? It sucks ;(

[@sy-zu4uz]

Someone is gonna bring up god and tell us how everyone and everything is wrong and he is coming or something. Like damn ok.

[@jobansand]

Yup

[@keig2457]

Ikr! Especially when your pan and you explain what it us to others and they're like tHaTs Bi, and your like no bi is 2 pan is all

[@twicesendmeasignal5863]

As an asexual I am happy to read these kind of comments. Thank you😊

[@smelly4498]

My biggest asexual pet peeve is when people assume we’re not mature enough and if we grow up then we’ll like/want sex.

[@jessica_mantei]

I’ll be 41 years old this year and I’m definitely still asexual. It’s not something we grow out of, and it’s definitely not a choice. The majority of people just can’t grasp the possibility.

[@smelly4498]

MexicanTacos 07 asexual is different from aromantic. Aromantics don’t experience romantic attraction, while asexuals don’t experience sexual attraction. You can be one without the other. Asexuals don’t hate sex (generally but it’s on a spectrum) and most just don’t feel an attraction to someone. Hope this helped !

[@smelly4498]

MexicanTacos 07 asexuality is not from trauma or a bad experience. It’s just not what we like. You don’t think every person you see is attractive, right? We just see all people as not attractive sexually (again not necessarily aesthetically or romantically) celibacy is different from asexuality.

[@jessica_mantei]

MexicanTacos 07 I’m actually happily married. Just not interested in sex. It’s not a choice, I wish I was more like “normal” people, but I’m not.

[@jessica_mantei]

MexicanTacos 07 it’s ok! I don’t mind answering. Yes, I saw many doctors about it when I was in my 20’s. They couldn’t find any reason for it. Even psychiatrists found nothing unusual (no past trauma or anything). So, for us, it’s like our heads aren’t connected to our genitals... I have had deep emotional connections with people (I’m married to one), and that’s enough for me. I have never been a fan of masturbation either because there’s just no enjoyment in it. 🤷‍♀️ I totally get why you’re confused, it doesn’t make sense to the average person, who just automatically feels those things. I do wish I had that!

[@Hepheat75]

As an asexual, I agree that you don't need sex to have a good relationship.

[@OddSwiftGoose]

I agree as fellow ace. we just need a supporting person that we can be with forever

[@Hepheat75]

@@OddSwiftGoose True

[@trilobite3120]

Relationship as in friendship-y or romantic-y

[@kosviik9584]

@@infinitesingularity2023 No. No it is not. Stop saying nonsense things just because YOU feel a certain way. It is not black and white as in 'something is extra' and 'something is a must'. Its like a diner where you pick and choose the parts of your meal together. Just because you don't like potato, doesn't mean some people cannot love it and need it every meal. Just because some people don't need sex, doesn't mean that nobody else needs it and it is universally just an extra. Everyone has different preferences. Some people like verbal affection, compliments, being told 'I love you'. Others value touch, intimacy (not necessarily sex but it is also in this category). Again others like spending time together, talking a lot. Some like getting gifts, not because they are materialistic but because to them it says 'I care about you'. And for every such person there is another that doesn't need these. Same with sex. Just because it is an 'extra' for some (you), it doesn't mean it is an extra for everyone. Some people straight up need it, not because they need their genitals rubbed, but because to them sex is a great way to be vulnerable, to show and share trust with their partner.

[@Cyru.s.]

@@kosviik9584 I don't think they meant it in a bad way, I think that they meant it as "it's just something extra that isn't required in a relationship" (coming from an asexual)

[@burymyreflection]

"Asexuals: unlike the government, we wont screw you" Im dead 😂😂🤣

[@imribbit8850]

LunaPotato UwU ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

[@azimuth7421]

I mean, it's true

[@crystaltheweirdpotato]

I love it 😆

[@burymyreflection]

@@crystaltheweirdpotato hello fellow potato

[@unknown_bitch6734]

Technically the truth

[@NotJustMadeleine]

So many people have said to me, "Oh, you'll like it once you've done it." I don't want to do it! I'd rather have cake.

[@unknown_bitch6734]

Ikr... To them I say 'I never got stabbed either, but Im sure I wouldnt like it... And being stabbed / stabbing somebody and sex are basically the same thing when you think about it... '

[@laulaushouse]

Yes totally me ! Or a cookie 🍪😂

[@Anna-yk3kn]

I’m not asexual but I do know it’s not going to be good if you don’t want it so even saying that doesn’t make sense and kind of contradicts itself 😅

[@unaverse.x]

I‘ve done it several times- thinking I might finally like it. Well- I was wrong. It‘s annoying :‘)

[@scrooge1913]

I don't consider myself asexual, but I had my first time this last year and it was pretty underwhelming. If you don't want to do it, don't do it, it's overhyped.

[@nicholasnolan2086]

This series went from being a joke where you talk to flat earthers and alien believes to just straight up bringing light to topics that aren't usually discussed. I'm actually like proud.

[@suoopt6698]

Anthony is a king 👑

[@Teddy_k847]

He went from interviewing crazy people to interviewing crazy people

[@yunkimin97]

Joe Eversman girl shut up

[@fenrix155]

Hold on there. It is very possible that aliens do exist (not that I believe they do). Flat earth is likely fake, but also could be true. These asexual people make more sense than those who feel sexual attraction toward the opposite gender. It’s like being given the option to eat 💩 or to eat nothing, and choosing to eat nothing.

[@realone86_49]

Joe Eversman dumbass how is anything scary first of all flat erthers belive that the goverment tricked us all to control us wich could be very easily done and how the fuck should you know aliens don‘t exist???

[@icantdecideaname60]

Asexuality is a constant battle of feeling broken, the missing out on what’s being constantly put on the pedestal as the best thing in the entire world and vital to the human experience and looking for answers where there are none. It’s good to know that there’s other people in the same boat and at least I’m finally in the one percent

[@wiethen]

Nah not really I'm chilling

[@valerianmandrake]

Actually, a lot of "allosexuals" use others as masturbatory toys without giving a shit about them as people. I get the feeling that they compensate for their lack of fulfilling friedships/emotional relationships with sexual "intimacy", and then complain that it feels empty and crappy. Not sure why society values mindless fucking more highly than emotional intimacy , as a demisexual who wouldn't care if I ever had sex again, this is beyond my comprehesion. To me , sex was basically the crowning of a lovey-dovey oxytocin-induced cuddle session. I have no interest in sex without a "special" subjective feeling of connection.. People don't believe me and think I'm repressed but the fact is I never even think of partnered sex and get horny for hormonal reasons once or twice a month. I'd rather have a good conversation than sex lol

[@angiet9003]

I love how Anthony is respectful, he’s not making fun of them he’s hearing them out. I really love that and I think that’s why so many people like his channel, it’s all very genuine

[@Z5Z5Z5]

Anthony grew up on KZbin. Hes experienced alot. Of course he is a respectful man.

[@Beeba10]

Yes! Even when he laughs at something they've said, you can tell he's laughing **with** them, not **at** them. As an asexual myself, it warms my heart that Anthony is so accepting and this has made me love him (**cough** platonically **cough** lol) even more. I always imagined he'd be accepting and respectful of all sexualities, but to have confirmation that he feels so about my own sexuality makes it even better.

[@angiet9003]

Omg he loved my comment I’m crying I LOVE YOU ANTHONY AMSHSKHAHABAHS

[@kelamo7067]

アンジェラANGELA Wow! People actually make fun of asexuals? That’s crazy! Well, I guess ANYONE who doesn’t find sexual desires in the opposite gender is considered weird by society also. Damn, that sucks!!!

[@angiet9003]

I just meant in general... I just thought that about his overall channel and commented it here... I didn’t imply that asexuals are weird you made that up yourself

[@Camimalm7]

Heterosexual: door swings one way Homosexual: the door swings the other way Bisexual: door swings both ways Pansexual: it’s a revolving door Demisexual: the door is locked and only one person has the key Asexual: the door is actually a wall Edit: I’m aware I didn’t make this analogy up you can’t post pics on KZbin comments and it’s fitting so I wrote it down in the comments because it’s a good easy and funny way to explain it. I’m not trying to take credit lol

[@julietjones756]

This is actually a really good comparison omg

[@azumarill964]

Asexual is the door Drake drew on the treehouse episode of Drake and Josh.

[@sillygoosetaur]

omnisexual: its a revolving door but it goes this way the most

[@nickyhanssen9853]

The bi door is also revolving, it includes trans, nb, and intersex too

[@rocketcoulson460]

@@nickyhanssen9853 agreed. there would be no door for pan people maybe?

[@deargodwhatamidoing1122]

“Scientist have only found asexuality around 120 years ago” Me looking at my girls Artemis, Hestia and Athena.

[@SeptemberHQ]

LMAOOOO 😹

[@RobertoRodriguez-ev1tt]

I dont get it. Can you explain

[@deargodwhatamidoing1122]

Roberto Rodriguez All the scientist say the first sign of ase’s existing is from 120 years ago, However in the greek myths, Thise three were Well know for not being giveing a crap about sex, aka They were ace, and are more then 2000 years old

[@littlemoon8081]

I always saw Artemis as a lesbian. Like, she literally was in a relationship with Callisto

[@deargodwhatamidoing1122]

Keira Moorhead I didn’t know that. Isn’t it great how mytholigy and religion Can be seen in diffrent ways. I wouldnt be surprised if some from that time saw her as lesbian, and others saw her as ase.

[@abielaird]

I used to think I was asexual, and when I did it felt so validating to know there was a sexuality that really felt right. That personally changed for me, I discovered I was just demisexual (when you're only sexuality attracted to people you have an emotional connection with) for me I could find someone appealing but I simply cannot actually want to have sex unless I love AND really like the person. And I'm very repulsed by people I don't like, no matter how conventionally attractive they might be. The fact that people have the ability to feel sexual attraction to people without liking them as a person seems extremely strange to me. Thanks for shedding a light on this!

[@musicandpoetry_8]

I feel like that too and when I used to identify as a straight girl, I always felt so pressured by men to sleep with them and it felt so sickening..I feel like they just want sex right away with no romance or connection before..this isn’t really exactly on topic with your comment but it’s always how I’ve felt with men..sometimes I feel like I need a way deeper emotional connection with someone moreso than I ever realized..I’ve had so many vapid one night stands with guys at bars where I feel used after ughh 🤢

[@lurklingX]

same!!

[@bbqonstixhaus-bi5gp]

i've seen statements like this on twitter and people are sayin aces are trying to be special because everyone else would normally want to have a connection before doing it. but like hello, are they not aware, there are actual people who have sex without even knowing the other person's name.

[@YuniX2]

It means a lot that he interviewed someone who is grey asexual. People think I'm making stuff up when I try to explain that that is who I am. It means a lot to be seen.

[@itsnotme7908]

YES

[@darifuckingduprey3675]

IKRRR

[@afreensheriff]

Y E S

[@ApatheticBananas]

YES.

[@naturalnat3452]

I get it. Since high school, I've always considered myself "not so sexual" even though my friend group of mostly bisexuals, a lesbian, and a demisexual considered me one of the 2-3 straight friends. Like yeah, I was interested in guys, but I always considered dating to be that you could claim as many hugs and cuddles and maybe a few kisses from that select person whenever you want. I realized second year of college that I'm somewhere on the asexual spectrum. I used to consider myself ace but say that there might be a very slim chance that I could ever experience sexual attraction, so I consider myself as graysexual now. Still not quite sure if I'm heteroromantic or polyromantic, but I've always said I'll like whoever I like.

[@scarlettrose2065]

"Its like kissing a wall" Me : *kisses the wall to see what it's like*

[@cosingcharleslamberts.4339]

Bacteria: *Yo Wassup*

[@JimTheKid]

Not half bad

[@alexlepanpan65]

I’ve kissed a wall before :D

[@droma-ev9kh]

Thank you for giving this amazing idea😼😼😼😼

[@sensationstars8365]

@@alexlepanpan65 same xD

[@stellarstarrs3219]

It's kinda sad how often people pretend like we're "broken", "need to be fixed", or that we'll "get over it". I'm really glad asexuality is slowly becoming more recognized. We aren't broken. We aren't something to be fixed. We're human.

[@shutit333]

Yes true!

[@crybaby-zo9fw]

sex never made people whole. so how can you be broken??? (this is just a point i found somewhere else)

[@RobReith]

@@crybaby-zo9fw All living organisms have it in common. They live to reproduce it's practically the meaning of life. So something is causing people to reject that. It could certainly be seen as a disorder. There is probably a reason like trauma, hormone imbalance, ect.

[@louise-e2m]

@@RobReith while hormonal imbalance could be a reason for rejecting sex and/or not feeling libido, assexuality does not only revolve around that. rather, it's the desire to have strong bonds with people (be it friendships, romantic relationships, etc.) without the need for sex. it's much like disliking a colour: you might dislike orange for some reason, you might be repulsed by the very thought of wearing orange, yet you want to date/befriend someone despite you not liking orange

[@TheKlutz31013]

@@RobReith a lot of organisms reproduce asexually.

[@the_glitter_is]

Being aroace is like visiting a museum. Sure, some pieces are nice to look at, but I'm not interested in taking any home & mounting them. 😂

[@bigmanmccheez5342]

Fantastic description. I have spent literal years trying to explain to thick skulled "friends" that I find people aesthetically nice but I don't want to get with them. I don't understand how it's so hard for people to understand.

[@mazzy_ivy]

Nice metaphor, i agree

[@laranadesign4764]

YES! It's like a straight woman who is "girl crushing" on a beautiful and confident woman. I recognize her beauty, I just don't see her in a sexual way.

[@Digighost_5]

I need to remember this. This is exactly how I feel.

[@aleknaofala]

that's such a good one

[@sadlittleghost8346]

“Don’t have sex till marriage.” Me: What, like it’s hard??

[@offishelly]

That’s what she said

[@AbrylGr]

DUDE, SAME.

[@monicass3409]

Exactly!!

[@montgomerymontgomery2681]

That’s difficult?

[@ThatOneGuy-gb7td]

I’m not asexual but I still don’t think it’s hard to wait

[@uroboros_8563]

l am an asexual woman I live in India. I am tired of explaining what is asexuality to my friends and family. my mom understands me. The rest of them think it's just a phase. it's pretty annoying. I don't like sex, I don't enjoy sex or want to have kids. I think due to societal pressure and stereotypical gender roles, asexual women feel a lot of judgement

[@priyanshagrawal999]

Stay strong queen you are amazing 👏👏

[@lotuswolf1518]

I am glad you aren't bullied in Indian for coming out as asexual ,cause I was bullied and some men bully asexuals

[@Luna-di3mo]

Same girl same I am an indian ace too and i am sick of people forcing me to get married or have children

[@SITANSHUKAR]

I'm indian too, I think I might be an ace too..dw it's not a phase, you are completely valid!

[@rebekahmikaelson1198]

ace-spec bi indian woman here, i cant even think about ever coming out to my family lmao (except for my lil bro, i already told him and hes chill with it). i totally relate to the whole societal pressure thing. just remember you're not alone. there's others like you and you're totally valid

[@lilalane8738]

it's actually laughable how some people don't think that asexuality is real.

[@rainingdewdrops]

@Ludimeel Sorbo I'm a heterosexual but my sexuality hit me really late (I was a late bloomer in general and I went through puberty quite late so might be the reason why), before that I felt very odd watching everyone around me being so 'sex-obessed', my friends would talk about their crushes and I couldn't relate, I wasn't interested in any of that and the idea of sex was off putting. This is how I imagine some asexuals might feel? Not sure if it's accurate but it helps me to understand it a bit better.

[@nenemauu2]

Cause its not that normal, I can understand it now tho

[@liaammm396]

rainingdewdrops yeah that’s basically how we feel. Some of us who are not aros can have romantic attraction though, so we can see someone (more gravitating towards the face) and want to have a nonsexual relationship with them almost like in Disney movies

[@thereisnofinishline5773]

@@liaammm396 a nonsexual relationship is a lot to ask from a person tho, I imagine it being hard to find someone

[@prnst4r]

It's fucken weird

[@AlastairFlane]

As an asexual, I seriously thought people were just exaggerating how much they liked things before I realized I was different. When I realized I was ace, everything suddenly made a lot more sense.

[@mayas4m]

true that

[@mrsmarketing]

I'm married and my HUSBAND is the one that educated me on being asexual. I kept telling him that I thought something was wrong with me, and he was the one that helped me. NOTE: He isn't Asexual...but he IS my soul mate

[@myolosophy6564]

My husband knew before I did. He didn't accept it until I admitted to it at 7 years of marriage, but he completely understands. Also my soul mate. I am so happy you have experienced similar!

[@cmdoduck]

My husband also told me that he thought I might be asexual, and I believe he's correct. Also soul mates 🥰

[@lunatheluma3804]

We stan supportive partners

[@blue_aspen]

@@lunatheluma3804 supportive partners are pogchamp

[@crxtube187]

I am happy that asexuals see their supportive partners as soulmates 💕..

[@ribottostudio]

Oh oh oh here's my favorite "how would you know you're ace if you're a virgin?" I think this is just one of those things you innately know about yourself.

[@diharaj5358]

Like, I've never been stabbed but I'm pretty sure I wouldn't like it lolol

[@ribottostudio]

@@diharaj5358 hahahahahahha RIGHT?! Like....i mean come on.

[@mary5party107]

The thing is , It’s not only about sex. Asexuals just don’t feel sexual attraction to anyone. That’s why some sex positive asexuals have sex with their romantic partners. So that question is so fucking stupid and makes no sense.

[@nancylouise2769]

I get asked that so much haha usually by straight people so id ask them 'well how do you know you don't like people of the same gender?'

[@Shle.y]

It’s like the “how do you know you like girls if you’ve never dated one” I’m like, you knew you didn’t before you dated one. People are just so close minded

[@episkefilm8153]

for people confused about "the cake", basically it's a common joke in the ace community that "who want's sex when you could have cake instead", basically that cake is just better than sex (cake is often interchanged with garlic bread, same principle)

[@TotalHuman]

Ok but all jokes aside, garlic bread is REALLY GOOD

[@ammdisguisedasanegg]

@@TotalHuman Lmfao

[@TotalHuman]

@@ammdisguisedasanegg oh I'm not joking. Other aces might be exaggerating for jokes but I'm not.

[@may0kyra]

@@TotalHuman IKR? I was an entire week making and eating garlic bread, I just like it a lot, then I realized it was something on the ace community, it was funny

[@beazrich2.017]

As an aromantic asexual, I actually legit seriously think cake is better than sex. Though, I like pizza and ice cream more so than cake lol. So for me, it’s not really a joke. It’s actually true in my case.

[@arielsong1289]

Just to show some support for this demonetized serious. I love when Anthony pointed out the fact that the society tend to tell people what's normal to feel and if people don't feel that way, there's something wrong. I mean, I always believe that human diversity is an art created by god (or whatever entity designed human being), and social norm is a collective ideology of the contemporary society, which can be limited. Feelings are the most genuine human experiences that we should always appreciate as arts, instead of judging them.

[@owl3191984]

*Wanders into a room of asexuals* "I'm here for the cake"

[@TheHolyDuck]

And dragons🐉

[@omepomme4585]

DOn't touch the cake, or dragon, or bread sticks and just to prevent, never, never, never touch an assexual person garlic bread never x')

[@omepomme4585]

@@The_Riss I don't, don't touch my garlic bread x')

[@M4S4life]

What kind of cake would you like?

[@RaspberryV3]

I don’t like cake, I brought breadsticks and ice cream though

[@potatofairy8535]

Well I just figured out there's nothing wrong with me; I'm asexual.

[@thefandomfish3071]

hell yeah!!! good for you!!!

[@rioisnotokay-ipromise-6115]

Woo yas Queen!! (Or king, or royalty, not to assume gender)

[@potatofairy8535]

@@rioisnotokay-ipromise-6115 Thank you, and I'm a girl. :)

[@mintyy5105]

v proud of you! as an ace person it is SUPER cool when people find out that they are actually just ace!! I swear I thought I was broken or I had problems when I really was just ace, and lemme tell you, finding out ace stuff was actually amazing for me. I hope you have a fantastic day!

[@potatofairy8535]

@@mintyy5105 I felt the same way, I thought maybe I just hadn't matured in some way or something was very wrong because I didn't feel the same way about relationships as everyone else around me.

[@sadeeznutz]

Parents: no dating!! no sex!1! no physical contact until 20

[@roseinskyrim]

RIGHT!? So true. >..

[@bk-bx2mi]

Some people, tell they're parents they are ace and then get told: "Date, Date, Date!!1!1!1!!!11" Or "(insert grown up adult thing only adults do)!1!!1!1"

[@Cute3lla]

My dad: DO NOT DATE, DO NOT HAVE SEX UNTIL AFTER COLLEGE My mom: NEVER BE LGBTQ+ (she’s very religious) Me: But I’m asexual My parents: *visible confusion*

[@Kazoo_Itchy]

This is true lmao

[@dec0mposiex]

Rosehj LITERALLY- I told my mom and she was like “why becaus your frIeNdS aRe” bitch no I-

[@cassiecake4851]

Whenever I feel bad about my asexuality and feel like im broken, I come back to this video and it makes me feel slightly better

[@OddSwiftGoose]

same here

[@Chuyizzle4]

Sir, don’t listen to the ‘norms’ and simply be yourself no matter what people think of you. There’s a good chance you can find your own group of people that will accept you for who you are, you just need to keep trying to look for it.

[@simplicity_2629]

PSA : we do not all hate jokes or talking about sex, it’s not like you need to walk on eggshells we just don’t want to partake or find it very interesting and like something we would want to try !!

[@Fezza_]

I've never understood people who look at it in that way

[@simplicity_2629]

Ailuropoda melanoleuca Nineoneone okay that’s so true, I realized I probably should’ve put all. I guess my brain forgot to add that in... but seriously I think the most common issue is that everyone generalized everything nowadays and then the issue is that nobody can be themselves without being looked at as weird or different in a negative light if they don’t fit in

[@thicc5526]

Sydney 101 I think most of us got that.

[@BeeReason]

We also don't all hate kissing; depends on the person. Sensuality is different for us too

[@beepityboop7325]

yeah n just another reminder that repulsed asexuals like me exist n those of us who are repulsed Do mind that stuff

[@goddesszorza]

The fact so many men tried to challenge the girls' consent. Ew.

[@rettasrandomuniverse7005]

Toxic masculinity being instilled in males who?

[@miamazingness]

so true!

[@pitycircle4599]

it happens a lot to me, too, I'm asexual myself. ppl like these are just gross - I'm glad anthony makes videos like these and spreads the word

[@notallergictochocolate]

I have one friend who is ace and she is constantly being pressured to have sex or relationship by some of her friends

[@waffleboi8147]

I’m lucky to be a male asexual. I don’t get pressured like some of the females do to have intercourse.

[@arihopper4367]

i remember when i came out to my mom as ace at first she cried to me about how sad she was that i'd never find love. i remember when i came out to my friends, none of them understood and just laughed instead of supporting me. i remember a boy on my bus overheard my conversation with a friend and turned around to tell me he could "f*ck me until i liked it." i remember another boy telling me i was mentally ill because i identified as asexual. seeing this video, especially from someone i've watched for years and looked up to, makes me finally feel seen and valid. anthony, these videos are a series i think everyone needs to see. thank you for exploring all of these communities and letting each of us feel seen and heard. you approach each topic with such a open mind that's hard to find in our society anymore.

[@WilloWly.Beloved]

I am disgusted by the boy who said that to you...I hope your days are better♥️

[@sarahliebie4730]

Aries Wolf I am so sorry about those negative experiences...please know that there is nothing wrong with you. You are perfectly human and valid in the way that you feel.

[@yikushieda]

thank you so much for sharing. that boy's comment is disgusting

[@derumasforlos4285]

You should have responded to him saying, “sorry, I’m allergic to shrimp.”

[@khemettsukino]

some of my friends still dont understand till this day but they are realky suportive

[@SuchitaBhattacharya]

Aphobic Christians: Don't have sex until marriage. Sex is sinful. Asexuals: Okay Aphobic Christians: WAIT NO NOT LIKE THAT. Edit: can y’all please stop having mini-wars in the replies. There’s a reason why i specifically said “APHOBIC Christians.”

[@ethandollarhide7943]

I think somebody should tell them that their Lord and Savior would qualify as an Asexual.

[@abbieamavi]

I grew up conservative Christian, and yes. Exactly 😂

[@luisshorts.]

@@ethandollarhide7943 the god is just a god, they have no sex with no one so I guess yeah he is asexual good job on kinda coming out god

[@idontreadorreply]

no need for aphobic. theyre phobic generally, very misogynistic mostly

[@trumpetpunk42]

Where is this caricature coming from!? 1 Corinthians 7 basically says "If you want to get married, go for it. If you want to stay celibate, that's fine too." I find it hard to believe that anyone is actually hating on these people.

[@RoseWillow13]

Someone outed me as asexual to someone I didn't know, and that person's response (it wasn't any of her business) was "you can't call your girlfriend a girlfriend. She's just a best friend." Because apparently asexuals don't deserve romance if they aren't banging anyone. It made me feel so angry.

[@KrystaalMMD]

who is this person so I can personally punch them.

[@GotAnUmbrella]

Asexual and Aromantic aren't even they same thing to begin with so their point was already null and void. Sex and romance aren't one in the same. If they by chance partake in one night stands they would understand that! I hope your partners are like mine and recognize your identity as valid.

[@RoseWillow13]

@@GotAnUmbrella Thankfully, my fiancée is also on the ace spectrum, so I'm lucky to be in a fully supportive and understanding relationship, too. :)

[@Hbaymax2]

I've been told a similar thing by important men in my close family. They've all said that because I don't have sex with my bf that means I don't love my bf, no one will marry me, and there's something wrong with me & my bf. I remember so many times crying thinking there's something wrong with me or how I have to have sex to keep my bf. But thankfully I didn't force myself to have sex with my bf.

[@GotAnUmbrella]

@Lily Evans if sex to you equals romance I guess that means you find one night stands SUPER romantic. Sex isn't the only romantic thing that happens between people. There's an episode of Bluey called "Fancy Resturant". Real romance is eating the *jello, spaghetti, sandwich, pickle, strawberries, sausage, olive, and God knows what* concoction your kid makes instead of your partner. Taking the nastiest concoction of the two is really romantic.

[@drew2510]

I like how Anthony’s bit about how KZbin suppresses sexual content (educational or otherwise) wasn’t from a “woe is me” angle but a legitimate “this is a glaring issue with KZbin” stance.

[@Naranja93]

I think being a heteroromantic and asexual woman could be the toughest sexuality to come out with, because many men just love to ignore women's bodily boundaries. Like when the guy just kissed her after she came out to him, literally missing the point completely. I want to encourage every woman to stand up for herself when she doesn't want an interaction with her body!!! Don't let anyone push you, neither with words nor actions. If they push you to do something you're not *completely* comfortable with, block them. Save yourself the trouble and trauma. You're worth it

[@iheartts.]

Exactly. Dude I was walking down the street in big sweatpants and a huge jacket and I got catcalled. Like- wha??

[@EmberRain666]

I can't tell you how many times a man has pretended to be okay with my being asexual and then completely disrespected my boundaries by trying to manipulate me into having sex with them. All of my exes did this, as well as many men whom I've just gone on one date with or someone I just talk to online. One of my exes even decided that instead of just leaving me and finding someone who could satisfy his needs, he would just force himself onto me.

[@iheartts.]

@@EmberRain666 just remember it’s never you fault and if you can (after COVID is over) you can report him to the police! (Make sure it’s somewhere that is very accepting)

[@EmberRain666]

@@iheartts. It was 4 years ago, it's not even worth trying to bring it back up now. Besides, he's the father of my child, and I can't get child support if he's in jail.

[@iheartts.]

@@EmberRain666 oh :(

[@Winterlude_Music]

As an aroace born a day after Valentine’s, videos like this honestly just make me feel validated, especially since I’ve been put down just for my sexuality. Also, fun fact, we asexuals tend to like garlic bread and dragons.

[@someoneontheinternet072]

Cool thing, the day after valentines is single’s awareness day!

[@Iamcompletelysane]

Oh man one day after valentine’s 😭 im a february born as well, when i found out that valentines was on february i was like 😦 “the thing i hate the most.. what kind of luck is this” lmao (i was a kid when i found out tho, i obv no longer care what goes on in the feb calendar apart from my bday)

[@richardchen7062]

Love this ❤ Also how about garlic breath

[@AmeliaC-e8o]

Someone should have told me I was ace when I wacthed HTTYD 2 and wanted Toothless insteed of Hiccup like most girls. Lol.

[@loreteller.]

We also love cake lmao

[@padronipaw]

"Whenever I do intimate stuff its more like an invasive medical exam" I FELT THAT ON A SPIRITUAL LEVEL

[@alyssaherren8957]

yuh

[@senza4591]

So are you asexual or nah

[@padronipaw]

@@senza4591 Still on that path of discovery 👌

[@alejandracedillo5285]

That was the whole reason I never understood sex even before I realized I am ace, because who would willing put a dick in them or find gentiles overall attractive/ at turn on. Like, they're just sensitive tissue where body waste comes out of, why do people find it fun to out their mouths on it. It just seemed like a waste of time when you could have productive hobbies or play cards or skateboard.

[@HaleCrow]

Alejandra Cedillo damn I felt that

[@vivivalley]

told my mom i was asexual and she gave me the classic “you just haven’t met the right person yet, you’ll grow into it" speech :(

[@lotuswolf1518]

I have been a virgin for 24 years not attracted to any guy , I had just one bf that too under peer pressure , my mom still thinks I am straight

[@user-ik2zr1cx1u]

It‘s okay, some people will never understand certain things out of ignorance What important is that you have your anchor from inside and not outside approval😊

[@notreallysurehonestly]

why can’t they just say “ok cool” and fkn move on geez

[@trinis8726]

Low-key my mother 😒

[@procrastinating_author]

I was lucky. I’m my first relationship when I talked to my mum about maybe being broken and not wanting sex, she was proud of me for being strong in my body and told me that I’d have sex eventually when I wanted it. I discovered asexuality a month ago, and as she’s been starting to get clucky for grandkids I’m afraid to tell her. I don’t want her thinking that it means she’ll never have grandkids, it just means that I finally have an explanation for all those years of feeling broken

[@csifreak101jf]

I had a psychiatrist who tried to push me to come out as lesbian. I didn't feel like it was right and I felt I was more asexual. I straight up asked my psychiatrist if she thought asexuality existed and she said 'no'. I stopped seeing her that week. If she couldn't see me as valid there was no point in continuing to see her.

[@GrayDino20]

Good for you 👍

[@JulietteVeronica1201]

Good for you for dropping her.

[@humourlessjester3584]

Had a relationship once that thought asexuality wasn't a thing, this was at a time when I was still grappling with these emotions, and I'm much happier now that she's not in my life because I found it difficult to explore these thoughts when there was someone whom you trusted that discredited you even before you even knew about what you are.

[@junosugi7466]

That psychiatrist should either change her profession or study more. A lot of people don't understand Ace. Possibly people who are Ace are the most misunderstood. Never be pushed or forced by others to go the way they want you to, it means they not only don't understand you, but also they do not respect who you really are. Be yourself. I hope you will find happiness by being who you really are.

[@Sweetndsourness]

You made the right decision 🙌🏻

[@TadanoCandy]

While I grew up, I didn’t understand why people felt like abstinence was such a hard thing to do lol

[@hearmeout1767]

I never understood that and I still don't

[@yellow-roses]

omg ur so real. what, like its hard? lmao. no hate to them, this is just how i saw it

[@DinoPerson28]

Fr like accidental pregnancy how tf does that happen just dont do it 😭

[@thatonemoonboy]

I hate that everybody thinks Asexuals don't feel romantic attraction and that (some don't, some do) they automatically don't like kissing. I, an Asexual, like kissing but coming near someone's genitals disgust me. A lot of people are misunderstanding my comment, so I thought I'd explain! With a kiss I do not mean a make out session like some people misunderstood, I mean a kiss on the lips and nothing beyond that. This does not make me not asexual, because I still don't feel any sexual desire or attraction to anyone.

[@artintheblood]

Period.

[@andrijaknezevic667]

That just sounds like you're straight but don't like sex i seriously wonder why you have to say that you're an Asexual. This is a serious question and I'm not trying to insult you.

[@abycoolin]

Stfu scrub

[@dearpax6020]

like my girlfriend! im not ace but she is and she's fine with a certain amount of closeness

[@aidanlangan2273]

Anyone who insults you tell em to go fuck themselves you can be whoever you want to be sexually with anyone I myself am heterosexual so I'm into woman only and I think ace's are completely normal if anything they are beneficial because anyone can bloody see that the world is loveless

[@morningboy_]

“Don’t have sex before marriage!!” “Ok, I won’t have sex at all” “NO THATS A SINNNNNNNNN”

[@ellie4668]

People who are forever alone: "*I am living in a life of sin*"

[@lailaauto33]

My family smh

[@cassadyr.1853]

Literally my mom-😳

[@thrawnboy4320]

I mean paul (one of the main early church influences in the bible) didn't have sex at all (he actually cut of his down below in some procedure) and it was never accounted against him as a sin in the bible so I mean......

[@Notme811_you]

You don’t have to have sex when do think there is nuns and priests

[@ace-zb8jf]

I remember coming out as Ace to my mom and she told me, “That’s not a thing, you’ll feel that kind of attraction when you’re older, you’re just too young.” 🥲

[@exxwhy1645]

if she doesn’t accept you my best advice is just don’t either u til your older or just don’t as it’s not her business what your sexual life is like.

[@tineke4134]

That’s what society has told me for my whole life and I believed it. I’ve accepted that if I’m old enough to have student debt, puberty didn’t do what it was “supposed to” in my head and it’s not gonna do much more now lol.

[@carolchavez5213]

@@tineke4134 I learned I was ace at 19, I was in my university talking with my BFF and he stared at a girl he liked and he suddenly asks "Carol what do you truly look in a guy?" I just said "I don't know, if I'm being honest with you I never liked anyone, but don't tell anyone" He: maybe you're lesbian Me: nah I've tried that too, I feel nothing, something is wrong with me and I'm gonna die alone He: maybe asexual then Me: does that exist?! He: yeah, you're not gonna die alone, you just need a deeper relationship with people to develop love since body and sec is not enough for you... In my case secs is everything so...

[@azumarill964]

My dad says the exact same.

[@pris1145]

I think even if it temporary that doesn’t make it any less valid:)

[@sadsquidb]

Even watching this years later as a person who recently found out to myself as a demisexual pansexual. I just love watching these because they help me learn more about the community and such.

[@parkerlovett763]

My sister: I’m an asexual (has been for 30 years) My family: you just haven’t found the right man yet! My sister: ummmm.... no.

[@Traumatised311]

Same as your sister but i am 23

[@roshna8971]

lol kinda weird that she needs to inform her family that she doesnt like sex lol

[@ChristinaMoralesMindfuqed]

@@roshna8971 Maybe it's to let them know that she wont be having kids lmao

[@roshna8971]

Central Elegance good point

[@Bob-dt5ip]

Is it really your sister though🤔

[@selin7481]

MY MİND: Two asexuals sıttıng ın a tree S-I-T-T-I-N-G . Plase call the fire department. We are stuck. lol

[@dectectivegoose]

Selin I don’t know how I got up here help

[@vanessamillwood9710]

loooool

[@shaquan9893]

I'm stealing this lmao

[@edenmac7751]

i love this omg💀😂😂

[@huangrenjunism]

the fact that the lowercase i’s in your comment have no dots make me uncomfortable

[@samd.4921]

Two of my favorite parts about being a part of the asexual community is the humor and mythology obsession

[@tamiressantos7085]

Omg i'm asexual. I'm sure

[@AltairScuti777]

Right!? 😂✨💕

[@meanangeI]

wait, mythology obsession? i feel like an uncultured ace now, anyone mind explaining pls?

[@samd.4921]

spaceamy oh just the whole liking dragons, unicorns, etc. thing and liking the Virgin Godesses like Athena/Artemis/Hestia

[@sunsundks3891]

I want cake

[@artiep]

Thanks! You did such a wonderful job with this video!

[@destroybananas]

You have one of the least toxic community I've seen on youtube which really surprises me because your videos touch on so many sensitive and "weird" subjects that people usually highly judge or make fun of. And all of the padildos are just out for memes and funny content but also they are mostly respectful and understanding. Your videos shows that you can joke around and make people laugh about sensitive or weird content without being judgmental and takes it even further by educating people.

[@mirai3991]

Padildos????????

[@wilsonsanabia4259]

It's almost like "offensive jokes" aren't the problem

[@moyubutt]

Except for the video about sugar babies LMAO

[@ibe.11]

Fuck u bitch

[@kj6053]

These replies contradict your first statement...

[@jay-xl1vd]

im a demi and i hate when people tell me im not on the asexual spectrum- like yes i am. ok the end thanks for listening to my rant

[@wrenr.5563]

i’m demi too and i hate it when people say “everyone is like that” like no-

[@obsidiantux]

Im aegosexual and demiromantic and i understand you

[@angelicitema9761]

youre so valid we're here for u

[@anushka4443]

@@wrenr.5563 hey! I think I'm demi but yeah I feel "everyone feels that" but ig that's just me thinking. Could you explain maybe how you feel demi and "normal" people are different :) I'm so sorry I tried to read online but I really can't figure it out

[@greyscale3848]

Hey I have a question so I identify as ace and I’ve never experienced sexual or romantic attention but I have experienced some form of attraction to fictional characters and I’m trying to figure out if it’s ok to use the term asexual so is it ok to use that?

[@littlesquare3313]

“It’s like kissing a wall”

[@onlyone7069]

Is that a quote?

[@shannondaley9954]

@@onlyone7069 You wouldn't get it if you aren't ace...

[@baybteeth]

OnlyOne it’s literally the thumbnail

[@PreferablyPurple]

@@shannondaley9954 she literally said that so that its easier to understand

[@Nootlest]

Great job copy pasting the thumbnail

[@SableFane]

I'm not asexual but one thing I've learned from the asexual community is the importance of platonic intimacy. Obviously this is important whether you're ace or not, but with romantic relationships being societally placed as the most important relationship in your life and your deepest source of intimacy, it's easy to mistake a deep friendship as a romantic relationship, or to feel that certain levels of significance and intimacy to that relationship mean that your feelings must be romantic. And I've met a lot of ace/aro people whose intimate friendships change the way I think about what a friendship has to look like.

[@Luckybobucky2244]

As an asexual I can 100% confirm that, yes, we do reproduce by splitting in half edit: WOAH DIDN'T EXPECT THIS MUCH LIKES THANKS SO MUCH!!!!!!!

[@babyjiren9676]

woooooah

[@RamdozaCh]

Hold up, does that mean I can do this???

[@Luckybobucky2244]

@RAMDOZA 9624 Yes you can do this but only if you are asexual

[@RamdozaCh]

Aw man

[@mrtheluckybucket]

No one cares that you’re ace

[@akanksha2281]

*Start having sex before marriage* Society: that's a sin. You're not supposed to have sex *don't have sex at all* Society: that's a sin. You're supposed to be having sex

[@eshal]

Winter Bear LMAO-

[@cethlikestf]

@Mepha disown your mom

[@em_xie]

@Mepha of course! Know that God has a plan for you that may not require you getting married and having kids. You can reach out to others who are experiencing the same thing as you and shine God’s grace by doing so. Don’t ever let it get you down!

[@smilytrashbag1secago117]

@Mepha has ur mother mentioned that jesus dint have any sexual energy

[@infofox9785]

Ok i'm sorry, it's off topic but Tae in ur pfp is too cute to ignore

[@HeeHooTheFool]

Being ace is so suffocating sometimes because sex is so ingrained in society's mind. Like, it's the only thing we ever seem to worry about. People can wrap their head around guys being into guys and girls being into girls, but it's like most people just blue screen at the thought that you can be happy without sex. Like, I just want to cuddle, why does it bother people so much?

[@azure_0773]

and that's the thing people don't even accept homosexuality yet, so can you imagine how much less we're going to be accepted now as asexuals

[@luvityrose]

Exactly I actually lost my bf when I came out as asexual, I don’t like doing anything more than hugging and he broke up with me because he ‘wouldn’t be getting what he wanted’ which was a shame. So it kinda set up for me to think I’m not gonna find many, if any people who will want to be with me who won’t be getting anything more than hugs :/

[@azure_0773]

@@luvityrose Thats why you have me :)

[@user-ik2zr1cx1u]

@@luvityrose Well I hope he was upfront about it and respectfully drew a line so both of you could move on

[@Monochrome2004]

ikr. sometimes i find it so hard to wrap my head around the amount of horniness this world contains

[@BlessedGJ]

“Children are scary.” 😂😂 As a mom of 3 boys I get you.

[@lincolnbeckett8791]

As an asexual person, this whole video was like the talk I never got, because so many things make sense to me now. Thank you so much for making this video Anthony!

[@robinhood4579]

Me too. 🙂

[@Ed-ly5sf]

Same.

[@OggeDCSubToMePlease]

I swear it’s the food

[@h.u.n.t.e.r3030]

Yo same, especially with the whole cake thing. I used to beg my mom to have cake for dinner XD.

[@OggeDCSubToMePlease]

Marius Forte I don’t think you know what I meant

[@lyxaria]

As an Asexual, i want to thank you for bring attention to our community, seriously, i see such lack of Asexual representation in the Asexual community that it angers me when someone says "oh you just haven't found the right person yet".but seeing this video in my recommended feed made me smile so much, thank you Anthony.

[@Fenrir_Hernandez03]

For real man, why do we all have to have sex to be accepted in society? Some dude once said to me: "you just need someone to break your hips" like... Dude wtf. Nice to see ace people getting the respect they deserve.

[@kazuma8486]

They just say, "Why tf don't you like it? You're 13." It ticks me off when people think all 13 yr olds are the same and thinks about that all day.

[@GrubbyPigeon]

I love how much Anthony giggles at his interviewers. It doesn’t seem forced at all. I also feel like he is super respectful to all of his guests... it’s so refreshing to watch!

[@TheKarret]

Interviewees* HE'S the interviewer.

[@GrubbyPigeon]

TheKarret Yeah, typos are fun

[@dmaxwell910901]

As an asexual guy, I felt like I was just a weirdo with a broken brain before I knew fully what asexual meant, since I have always still felt romantic attraction.

[@inshabuttinshabutt9148]

Same here

[@kiriannedavis404]

Is no one going to bring up the amount of stories that these people told where men attempted to manipulate/coerce them into sex? Hey, that is assault or attempted assault.

[@StudlyFudd13]

It's happens so often to ace people that it's the normal. It's shouldn't be...it should never be normal....but it feels like it is.

[@lebohangm7252]

Nothing much can be done about it though and I’m sure it happens to majority I’m not suprised when someone does it anymore

[@sweetscheme]

For me after getting out of my last relationship it was hard for me to get back into one with anyone. Because the high percentage of asexuals and disability people being sexually assaulted. And so being both made me afraid of getting taken advantage of in a relationship.

[@trinitychavez8593]

Is nobody going to bring up the fact that people like you will jump to saying that now but if I, as a male, say a female manipulated me, I get laughed at by the same people

[@sweetscheme]

@@trinitychavez8593 ​ don't worry i understand where you are coming from. i hate how our society underplays that men can get manipulated or worse as well. women are not blameless. but we don't live in a perfect world where men and women are properly equal in the way they are treated. I think you should be able to not get silenced or laughed at when being open about that.

[@Dribblio]

As a not-yet-out asexual teen, I've started noticing more and more how ingrained sex is in society, you know? It's kinda fine normally, but when people ask you day after day if you like any boys yet with a _certain expression_ on their faces, it gets pretty annoying after a while.

[@nopreferencefound]

Every year my aunts ask me if I found a boyfriend, and some years ago when truth or dare was played at parties I was the only one to not have a crush. Another one: just because I inserted myself as a cuddle partner into a relationship of friends of mine people started commenting about threesomes. (hugging does not equal sex, you hormone driven teenager) Recently my sister wanted to talk about boyfriends, again. If anybody wants to talk boys with me I'm going to combust!

[@Sunshine0235]

I'm 26, 27 next week, and still get this asked of me all the time. I finally blew up at my mom for asking yet again, I felt bad afterwards, but she stopped asking about any potential suitors. Only one if my siblings knows for sure, not sure about the other, my ace flag in on my bumper, dont know if she knows the specific colors. Just hang in there.

[@kaileybryant3533]

It def sucks, especially bc they assume if you don't want a relationship then you're gay. I'm like, just bc I feel uncomfortable w/romantic stuff doesn't mean I've changed my sexuality 😒

[@dorkywhovian1018]

@dribblio I completely agree. I'm not out either, and sex is super ingrained in society. Because it is, I've kinda grown more comfortable with it being displayed in media, but personally I think it's gross. Secondly, that look when they ask if you like anyone pisses me off 😂

[@dorkywhovian1018]

@@kaileybryant3533 ughhhh I know right? I pulled a tarot card labelled "sexuality", mentioned it to my mum and she jokingly asked "are you gay?"

[@june-kr1eo]

I love his wording of: Asexual No likey sexy Gray Asexual Sorta likey sexy Great job Anthony lol

[@ThunderBlastvideo]

I still dont get it

[@pepebabushki9376]

@@ThunderBlastvideo asexual people don't experience sexual attraction. Not hard to understand.

[@BugsyBugYT]

I kept getting recommended this video but was worried it would be about "Debunking" Asexuality so I was pleasantly surprised by the amazing video that you created.

[@Sentient-potato]

Anthony tends to just lean away from controversy

[@BugsyBugYT]

@@Sentient-potato he seems like a nice dude

[@almabrown199]

As an asexual, i had people tell me: "you are not asexual, you just haven't tried sex yet." I'm like, why would i try sex if i think that even kissing is gross and it doesn't do anything to me? They also told me "you are too young to know that you are asexual" (I'm 21) or "asexuality isn't real".

[@lindenbree9188]

When straight people tell me that, I just ask them "Have you ever had gay sex? How do you know you don't like it if you haven't tried it? Perhaps because you don't need to actually have sex to know what you are, and are not, attracted to?"

[@j.brendolblack3058]

I spent a long time after my first kiss in a sort of self-analyzing spiral of 'kissing is gross' where I landed in the self-realization of being ace. I think of myself as gray asexual as I still have momentary 'but I like cuddling, and maybe sex will be more like cuddling if there's no kissing' thoughts before my brain just 'hell nahs' itself away.

[@-k1ts0-97]

Everytime someone tells me that I just say "Have you ever tried hugging a cactus?"

[@kimsegiixoxo1123]

Honestly i have never kissed someone because i dont want to XD and i dont like hugs either XD i just feel so uncomfortable and wanna run away XD Like i really really dislike it XDD I never had a boyfriend because i dont want to XD (I do like otome games XDD)

[@medeaworbs6970]

Oh, the amount of times I have heard that... it'S the actual worst! They don't even TRY to get it. Personally, I am biromantic asexual and I am fine with touch and cuddling and kissing, just not so much the actual sexual acts, and I was told "You can't be ace because you kiss people" a bunch of time... What does this have to do with anything? Like... just because I kiss a buddy when we play truth-or-dare have to do with my sexuality? Also me and my girlfriend (who is allosexual) get called out all the time - "How can you be ace, Medea, you have a girlfriend!" ... ugh

[@Epixle]

Me: I'm asexual My friend: No, you just can't get a girlfriend

[@CGM_Raiden]

Piss off

[@kellanmeyers4715]

Is your friend right though? Lol

[@SLAY0Ml]

@@CGM_Raiden Calm down

[@aft0n_858]

@@kellanmeyers4715 ayy we both have Alastor pfps

[@diharaj5358]

I mean in my case, both lol

[@jiminnie8538]

My ex girlfriend was asexual. We eventually broke up because of it, because she felt like she was taking something away from me. I’m sad that she had to feel that way but I do understand her. I still feel like that was the most important relationship I’ve had. We never had sex, but that didn’t make the relationship any less real or romantic. I felt more romantic feelings towards her than towards anyone I’ve had sex with. I’ve found that other people don’t really understand this, some have even suggested we were just “friends” and not girlfriends, which is completely false. I’m sure that was also because of bi-erasure, people always assume I’m straight and just “experimenting” with girls, especially now when there wasn’t even sex involved. My point is, a relationship doesn’t have to include sex. Side note: bi-erasure sucks

[@adrianrandom3448]

That sucks so much, with Sex being marketed as such a mainstream thing and people just...not understanding some peeps don't want sex, it can be demoralizing, specially with bs like "we'll have to see later, you're young/you havent found the right person" or some bs argument like that, I hope you're eventually able to reconnect (if its still possible) or atleast that she manages to feel better about who she is and that she realizes that a relationship doesn't need to have sex in it to be a relationship. Also Bi-Erasure is stupid and it can suck a cactus.

[@gloop7458]

Lol thanks for that. I’m asexual myself and I tend to not have much confidence in myself, questioning if I’m worth having a sexless relationship with. Which I’ve come to realize that, that’s not a general statement I can really make. It’s really something for other people to decide. That sounds wrong but what I mean is deciding if the relationship is worth it to them, and there are tons of asexual people out there and even sexual people who’d be willing. Even if one person decides not having sex isn’t worth it to them, that doesn’t mean I’m unworthy. It means our needs didn’t line up. I usually forget that there are other asexuals out there and even sexual people who’d be willing, but then little pieces of gold like your post appear. So thank you for the little pieces of hope lol. Oh and I’m sorry for you and your ex gf separating.

[@jiminnie8538]

Nature Kit You’ll find someone! There are plenty of asexuals out there who too wants a relationship. You deserve love just as much as anyone.

[@ambercaramber4502]

Reading your personal experience really gave me hope and made me feel appreciated as a person who deserves the chance for a respectful relationship like everyone else, thank you! I just recently came to terms with my own sexuality as an asexual bisexual. I always knew, but in some way waited and exspected that those feelings/way of experiencing things would change, but of course they didnt.. Only my last relationship made me completely realize that its just the way i am and not "just my mood". But most importantly that thats okay if it means that i feel comfortable and happy. So my Ignorant ex bf who always made me feel guilty and once almost raped me just to please his sexual desires was atleast useful for one think..

[@jiminnie8538]

Amsel R. I hope you never have to feel guilty again because you shouldn’t. F*** your boyfriend (not literally tho)

[@lovelessmejia1833]

When Anthony was talking about the demonetization problem, I started to cry because I was queer asexual and needed more insight on the matter; this video helped me understand myself more. I'm glad I was able to watch this. thank you, Anthony for bringing insight into all matters of the psyche

[@marinewaller6065]

I've had grown men as a young teen being told they they could "fix me" or "change my mind" and to know people exist that act like disgusts me.

[@hbhtcr5707]

I’m sorry that happened to you :/

[@ejbvides4625]

Ok you want sympathy or pity

[@aliaaysha2072]

Ikr

[@marinewaller6065]

@@ejbvides4625 well not everyone has gone through that experience and putting it out there that it does happen and that were not broken and we don't need to be fixed 😊

[@NoName-ld7gg]

@EJB Vides Even though it’s unfortunately a common thing to be an attention grabber, that was very rude and the comment sounded genuine. Pls do not just assume blunt things, because you don’t know if that actually did happen and if you just really hurt their feelings. That’s mean and I hope you don’t speak to anyone like that again! Bye.

[@edwinsgeneration]

Bro, I loved that mid-show talk! Very real and serious props to you for diving into this knowing KZbin suppressing this type of content! Not to mention how it isn't talked all that much in general. Great guests and overall very awesome video to have available. Talking about this and hearing it from real people as it isn't so common is super important.

[@AltairScuti777]

Edwing comentando un video de Anthony? My week has been made 💕

[@tttbonnnee]

💯

[@Thenoobestgirl]

Surprisingly enough it hasn't been age restricted yet. As for demonetized? Idk, only Anthony can tell.

[@bernard4732]

HELLO THERE!

[@calinasagilitypartner4444]

I told a psychologist once that I wasn't interested in sex, that the idea of sex grosses me out, and he immediately asked me if I had been raped. I didn't have the word "asexual" at the time.

[@7bam]

Omg, I had told an (ex-) friend about being asexual and he asked if I had some trauma or was sexually abused before... Ummm, no I just don't feel sexual attraction...

[@LadySilverwater]

My ex-husband tried to convince me of that very thing. I didn't know about asexuality at the time and was convinced I was broken.

[@lunawolfheart336]

Ugh I hate that that's not a question to ask even if you are a therapist. It's up to the paitent to talk about things they are conferble to bring up at the moment. Also if everyone who was rapped became ace then pretty much more then halph the population would indetify as such. Hell ik my experience I had zero labido or any interest until I was rapped then it sparked this wierd hypersexuality as I was dealing with trama. Then it died down as I unpacked said trama

[@taseanversace]

After I came out as ace to this boy I used to be friends with, he jokingly told his cousin “she must've been touched by a weird uncle or something". Like no, I'm lucky enough to not have suffered from sexual abuse, and that statement is HIGHLY disrespect to actual survivors

[@thilypad557]

Which is funny kind of because in my personal experience survivors tend to be pretty sexual to reclaim their sexuality and power. I’m sorry your therapist sucked.

[@Waffles4903]

This video helped me shatter personal assumptions about those who identify as asexual! Strangely enough, I enjoy having my bias morphed! Great video Anthony, thanks for keeping life real!

[@marisleong8725]

i’m tired of people downplaying asexuals and saying "i’m asexual" when they don’t catch feelings for anyone in a month

[@anushka7876]

Exactly!

[@keirawhippo1712]

that’s more of aro. where they don’t have any attraction of any kind.

[@gloop7458]

Keira Whippo Thank you for the correction but Aro means no romantic attraction. Ace aro means no romantic or sexual attraction but you still have aesthetic, sensual, and I think one other attraction. Aesthetic: oh wow that’s a really pretty waterfall (something look pretty but you don’t wanna fuck it) Sensual: I wanna CUDDLE you and hug you and all that stuff.

[@ttns1715]

Or when people claim they're asexual but actually they just hate humans in general.

[@beazrichz973]

Samy Aino some of us who are asexual kinda do hate humans but mostly because of the uprising in lack of common sense. Look at idiots like Trump for a reference. Fyi, I don’t hate humans in general but some people out there are just assholes 😡

[@illuminati_loves_pizza]

"Sex doesn't make us whole, and so without it, how could you ever be broken?" - Netflix, Sex Education

[@gretam2779]

YES I love that show so much. Lol I’m literally that girl that said she loves romantic movies because of the plot.

[@alltimebubble7837]

Don't I fully cried at that scene, such a great show

[@Megzsy98]

I love that they had an ace character its not something you see everyday on tv

[@hibs5295]

he should spend a day with boomers no fr i'd really like to see him sit down and talk with elderly people

[@robinhood4579]

Me too!!

[@Gia1911Logous]

That's just called "going to grandma's house"

[@evaxnanda1648]

I mean he got high with elderly people.. and went on a trapeze with Tennessee!

[@haraheartless4717]

I had a few asexual friends and they all told me they wish someone told them about asexuality growing up. When my nephew was old enough to understand, I told him about all the identities and stuff. And he perked right up and said "That's what I am!" About asexuality. He seemed really happy he wasn't the only one. Now he could change later in life, which is fine, but I guess I'm really glad I told him.

[@isabellawalters522]

“dating a bunch of straight guys who don’t really get it” shelby girl i feel you

[@pavma7]

Sounds difficult because I guess the guys are really like. "I so wanna f*ck you." But you really dont want that.

[@Very-Uncorrect]

"Shelby girl" Talking Kitty Cat flashbacks RIP Steve cash

[@naturalnat3452]

SAMEEE

[@Risingofthephoenix]

Then I guess she shouldn't date straight guys that are into sex. She should only date asexual guys. It doesn't make sense to me that asexuals try to date people who are sexual and then complain about it lol wtf you dated a sexual person when you should be dating an ace!

[@isabellawalters522]

@@Risingofthephoenix it’s funny how sure of yourself you sound but then i’m over here in a relationship with a sexual man and we’re both very happy

[@mixzoe6228]

asexual is like the atheist of the sexuality

[@isabellaoreo]

This is it. This is the comment. It wins, everyone go home.

[@mavilli658]

when im ace and an athest-

[@nautilus5817]

yeah like some atheists are cool with reading about and learning about religion, some aren't, some will sit down and talk with mormons, some won't

[@nautilus5817]

@All might even science doesn't have all the answers yet, so i dont blame people for coming up with their own, even if to me it seems far fetched.We don't know where we came from, not entirely, so if that makes people anxious so they want to come up with their own answer, im okay with that too :)

[@SeIfishmachines]

@All mightNone knows what happens when you die. So it’s fine for them to believe.

[@briesullivan537]

bruh they need asexual dating sites

[@pearlescen]

YES! THAT WOULD BE AWESOME! I’m aromantic and I think that would be great for others

[@digitalcatto]

There's an app but it sux

[@eoghank9978]

We need to get Todd Chavez to set one up

[@teresamesa]

what for?? why do people need to date?

[@AnAceBrit]

Damn, if only all about that ace was a thing