What Is Depersonalization?

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[@hellkittyninja7237]

Its also common with certain medications. I was using a migraine medication that caused this as a side effect.

[@adasilva1384]

Just received your book. I will start reading it this weekend.

[@jesshinton4830]

Dr. Julie, I would really like to talk to you, about everything you have been talking about, I have been very ill the last passed year and I still need help. I don't have any social media, I do have email, but I really need help

[@nehaali445]

Hi um when you get this can u plz try and help me I haven't been ok for quite a few years

[@larissa-je8dc]

I’ve experienced this many times and I didn’t know what it was called thank you it feels very unusual and scary it usually causes my ptsd to flare up and it’ll make it rough for several days we’re I don’t feel like me I guess like I can’t control it enough to just be normal for awhile

[@Enrico_Fusai_Counselor]

You’re always so warm… it’s like you’re hugging me in real life each time 🙏🏻 Thank you 🧡

[@robertvogel6538]

You wish she would hug you 😂❤

[@sanmathiyn3906]

@@robertvogel6538idk how you meant it and no hate but it isn’t funny…..they might be actually going through something ❤

[@watermelonandcactus3589]

She's so sweat, I think that everyone wants her hug.

[@perla5465]

@@watermelonandcactus3589not if sweat

[@CheetixGlitch]

​@robertvogel6538 don't be rude. They are just complimenting her. People like you are way mental health problems are getting worse

[@spicyy_dicey5580]

I have anxiety and I've had this happen a lot. It feels like an out of body experience and where you see your body as a seperate being than who you are in your brain.

[@ONE.Music.]

Love the way you put that. “Seeing your body as a separate being from who you are in your brain.” Couldn’t have said it better myself.

[@killershark597]

This… this is exactly what it is. Thank you for describing it 😮❤

[@Toderra]

I also experience this frequently. Sometimes randomly, but most consistently in front of mirrors. I found a good way to visualize it is how cartoons depict a ghost or soul leaving a body. It feels so strange, being able to look at yourself from a third perspective. When I look into the mirror and I step out of my body, it's as if I'm standing behind myself. I can see the back of my head, my whole body, as if I'm someone else standing there, looking at me, looking into the mirror. Just like in those cartoons, where the character panics seeing their own face without a reflection. The few times it happens to me without a mirror, it's like that.

[@cat26rg]

Same! It happens when I’m very anxious or when I’m having a panic attack. It also can seemingly happen randomly when I look in a mirror for slightly too long.

[@Mutatedcorpse]

i wasnt sure but after seeing this comment and u typing it out in a way my brain can actually understand then yeah i've experienced it, i didn't know this was what i was experiencing tho i thought sum was wrong w me

[@Solec289]

I experience this alot and have tried talking to family and friends because it genuinely scares me sometimes, but nobody seems to understand. I'm glad there are other people like me and I'm not the only one. This video has helped me alot. Thankyou.

[@brendabaca8301]

You are not alone. Hugs

[@Lust4life-vh1rs]

If this happens to you alot I would recommend you talk to a therapist if you can, if not perhaps doing plenty of research will help you understand why you're going through this, it's happened to me a few times and it's a very scary feeling. But yes you're not alone ❤ never forget that

[@DianaManvelyan-hv7fb]

You're not alone. Nobody is❤

[@mimitv9522]

You may have OCD. Depersonalization is a Comman OCD theme

[@octubre_lilaka]

Back in a major depressive episode my depersonalization made music feel completely off. It felt faster than I had remembered it ever going.

[@momo-zt7mw]

OMG!!! The same exact thing happened to me as well! Any kind of music would sometimes feel too fast or too slow. I often thought that I'm just imagining it or maybe tired. Guess not :(. The most vivid memory of this phenomenon that I have is when I was in middle school and had some tv working in the background. Little metal dude would often play my favorite cartoon openings and ending tunes VERY differently compared to the last time I heard them. It was wild.

[@dorisparker811]

Yup, I've experienced it! The most extensive was when I went back to work after my late husband died 4 years ago. My heart was utterly broken, and everyone in the grocery store was moving ridiculously fast! It felt like that for around a week or two until I adjusted. I couldn't grieve while working, and I only had 10 days off after he died. I needed 3-6 months!

[@snowy4282]

So sorry for your loss. When someone who has been such a big part of our lives passes away, it is like being in shock. We need more than a couple of weeks to grieve and process. Not to mention all the paperwork and loose ends that have to be tied up when we are already exhausted, and feeling like we have been kicked in the head. You were very brave and strong to pull yourself up and get through that. Sending you respect. 🦋

[@funkymonkey8777]

Sorry for your loss. Sending you love ❤️

[@RainingRoses65]

That must have been so hard for you. I hope you are doing ok and have some people around you who care and love you. Sending my thoughts and love to you 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹❤️

[@Blanch590]

So so sorry you went through that :( loss is always hard but the expectations of life just make it harder. I hope you’re healing well from it.

[@Thesism]

Would love to see a short like this on derealisation. Thank you doctor!

[@sofiavalente9911]

Me too

[@michael32A]

Definitely agree from family experience that Derealisation needs more awareness too.

[@dearayleen]

Derealisation and depersonalisation are two sides of the same coin. It's basically the same.

[@sofiavalente9911]

@@dearayleen It's not the same

[@dearayleen]

@@sofiavalente9911 the symptoms seem different, but it's basically the same condition just manifested differently. In many countries,you can't be diagnosed with depersonalisation without also being diagnosed with derealisation. It's called derealisation-depersonalisation disorder (dpdr). Consider me an expert, it's my 5th year living with it :)

[@truewantsaband]

I was telling a therapist i had about how i didn’t feel like a person, especially during the abuse/neglect. She told me about this one extreme case of depersonalization where the lady moved states and started a new life. She told me that’s REAL depersonalization. Completely invalidated me not knowing anything of my abuse story.

[@chrisballard712]

Wow, I’m sorry that happened while trying to get help😢it’s hurtful you didn’t need that

[@phoenixkalinagaming]

Yes! I am 15 years old, and I always thought I had derealization, but this just lumped together all of the things that i have learned about myself as time went on. For example, I had only realized today that I feel numb a lot. Almost as if nothing matters unless something is good or bad. I love reading all of you lovely people’s comments as well. You are amazing guys

[@asmrblackandwhiteblood]

I had to stop masturbating to be normal again

[@justinianbyzantium3765]

I had something like that with 15 myself… it was the worst day of my life as no one was able to understand or feel what I felt… I really had the impression that I’m alone…

[@phoenixkalinagaming]

@@justinianbyzantium3765 dont worry, you’re not alone🫶

[@princejain8]

I felt disconnected not only with myself but also the world. Felt as if i am the loneliest peraon alive. Initially had lots of anxiety and very high heart beats for almost 2 years. Then it was mix of high level of anxiety and numbness both at the same time which tore me apart (as if a war like situation between heart and mind) I kept crying, lost weight and had sleepless nights for months. That time only prayers worked for me. Later I went completely numb of emotions. Had Mostly deep sadness and frightening dreams at night. Everything was traumatic. I left all social media and kept away from family and friends. Nothing was working out. Took 4 years to recover somewhat.

[@livelifeluxury1515]

It's been 16 years still suffering

[@achlys2116]

For me the fact that I felt like my hands weren't my own, was the scariest

[@nataliereid3105]

It’s terrifying to almost see yourself moving but not be controlling it and questioning whether you are real or not and if it’s you moving your body

[@Blanch590]

@@nataliereid3105yeah. You feel like a biological drone. :(

[@EKimatH]

At a certain degree, momentary dissociative episodes, or prolong enough depersonalisation, you might get a full blown disorder diagnosis. Which honestly doesn’t do much for me, really, science still doesn’t know why I don’t feel like I belong in my own brain and if me having sleep paralysis while fully awake is a form of epilepsy or not… Modern medicine certainly has come a long way but brain scans are limited to only what can be scanned, if you can’t catch an episode on a scan you can’t see it

[@crystalrose4296]

Oh yes I have experienced this so much. I was diagnosed with PTSD at age 14 due to childhood trauma. Now as an adult I get these symptoms when I'm experiencing a period of high stress. It's a terrible feeling but I wouldn't say I have it constantly. Thanks for explaining this. ❤

[@carina-nonbinary]

I love how you always have something on the table to look at. Exactly what my adhd brain needs

[@Lully0815]

Always. To me, recognizing and acknowledging "where I am" and "how I'm feeling" is helpful for those who are under depersonalization.

[@SS_DT]

I felt like this every day for well over a decade. I talked to friends and family about it and several therapist, and no one - including my psychiatrist - understood what I was saying. They all treated me like I was crazy. I had to claw my way out of it on my own, and I still feel like it never quite went away.

[@olgapicon7944]

I have the same exact expirence, and i don't know what to do.

[@TrulyWOW]

Same from abuse and bullying in my childhood. Only now do I realise it was my minds way of protecting me

[@willroth7521]

Very strange that your therapist didn’t understand what was going on when this is a disorder in the DSM.

[@catsonbrooms]

hang in there man, im feeling like this too. i promise there's a better therapist out there that actually understands you! It just takes a while sometimes 😔

[@SS_DT]

@@catsonbrooms I'm so thankful that I've found the correct therapist now. She's patient and informative, and she respects me to understand myself and my problems. It was a long road.

[@rebeccad.1850]

This was me through most of high school. Felt like I just floated around like a balloon, not really present, totally numb. I used to imagine that I could phase through objects, because my body really felt that way, as if ai wasnt properly in it. I wanted to be alone all the time because when people talked to me, when they were around me, I had to pretend to be a real person and that was really exhausting. I had a therapist, but he was also seeing my mom at the same time, and because I had a lot of conflict with my mom that presented a huge conflict of interest, and he wasn't very supportive. My therapy was about making me less of a problem, not helping me feel better. I tried to commit suicide a year after graduation, and everyone was shocked, as if they hadn't been paying any attention at all for the last five years. I'm 36 now. Life is good, and I'm doing quite well.

[@brittnieparker9606]

Same. Through all my childhood I tried to stay out of everyone's way. I was always the friend I needed to be to myself, to everyone else and just didn't have much of a personality. I'm glad your better. I am also 36 and am just scratching the surface of trying to heal.

[@samanthalena3917]

You understand what I am going through without actually knowing me. Such profound statements that actually make sense to so many! Thank you for sharing your wisdom❤

[@CJ-gp9cn]

Have definitely felt this, like experiencing my tired soul being confused with whatever is going on with the current reality

[@Malithi-P]

I’ve had this most of my life, more after my 30’s. There would be times I’ll be washing the dishes and looking at my hands and asking myself who’s are they? I’d be walking but not knowing who the actual person is walking. This would bring severe panic attacks as a result. I was scared of myself. I’ve experienced childhood trauma. This maybe why. After I had my son it went away. I’m in my late 40’s now I do get that feeling every now and then but not so bad as I used to. Never knew this was a actual problem some people have. I know what disassociation is never knew about depersonalisation. It’s a relief that you explained it Dr. Julie. Thank you 🙏

[@willroth7521]

Good to hear that it’s been going away, and good job getting through it. If it makes you feel any better I just read about this for one of my psychology classes the other day and it seems it’s typically only experienced up until the 40s, so you should hopefully be in the clear.

[@peachipressboutique9032]

This happened to me a few times when I was younger. I called them out of body experiences, the first time my young self literally thought I died and it felt like I was looking over my body. I guess mine would be from childhood trauma, I don’t have them anymore; but this was around the time that my father told me in detail how he killed my mother after she left him. He hadn’t actually killed her and about 6 months later I was in her custody.

[@aartivedi6889]

Ooofff sick him

[@peachipressboutique9032]

@@aartivedi6889 yeah, he had completely lost his mind at that point.

[@wallylisoff7485]

I still have it!

[@peachipressboutique9032]

@@wallylisoff7485 hope this isn’t offensive but I’m praying that you find healing from this.❤️

[@marly1869]

🥺I’m so sorry you had that traumatic experience.. glad to hear you in a better place ..🫶🏼💜

[@abnormaltitanlol]

It used to happen in my childhood and still it happens when I focus on myself too much while looking in the mirror

[@angelacarroll9750]

Is that what it is? I used to stare into my eyes in the mirror for about a minute, and started seeing an old woman's face. Don't know why I did it, or that anyone else did it & don't think it was trauma. I had forgotten all about it Now I'm older, I look in the mirror, and hope I don't get any more wrinkles. 😊

[@searaha.2773]

Thank you for talking about that.. I've been suffering from DP and DR since almost 10 years, and almost every day. Nothing feels real sometimes and I don't know anymore what to do.. thanks for talking about that :)

[@Sskim-ue6]

Still happens to me in my 30's. Everyone's voice starts to echo and fade. And somehow I forget to blink and look like a zombie

[@youtubeuser12368]

Oh my God I get this all the time. I think it's a trauma response

[@mapletree8086]

Yea my previous therapist was saying that too when I discussed these issues with him

[@boottoobig]

I've had these since I was child. I remember in kindergarten how I suddenly felt like I wasn't here or alive or that I simply didn't just exist. It's so weird ti explain but I remember as a kid always saying "oh, it's happening again. I don't exist." Nobody ever reacted to this and I still wonder why. It still happens to this day once in a while and so bizarre.

[@architadritabasu8249]

Your doing great work mam... Every time I go through your videos... I feel warm, encouraged and "I can overcome my anxiety too"

[@libby_baker2000]

I have experienced this during panic attacks and never really understood why it’s good to have some extra information thanks Julie ❤

[@meglouise101]

I've experienced this a couple of times when I was going through a difficult breakup. Time felt like it was dragging and the days felt like weeks

[@jeroencommandeur]

I've experienced this a couple of times when looking in the mirror. Quite terrifying. I could do this on purpose, I realized, but chose not to do that anymore. The feeling was too uncomfortable.

[@hi-yo1kq]

Weird how accurately this describes my experience. I usually tell people that there are two mes. One is sitting in the front seat driving my life around and in control but also kinda panicking and the other is sitting on the couch eating popcorn and watching the comedy movie that is my life. It’s how I explain to people why in a stressful situation I seem greatly amused. It’s the one on the couch

[@Juniper.the.tree.]

My heart goes out to all the other athletes that experience this during practice it’s seriously scary sending love your way

[@everydaytwiceonsundays4498]

As a kid, living in abuse so bad my whole life was pain and fear, I once looked straight at myself in the mirror and thought it was some random other person, didn't recognize myself at all for like a solid minute.

[@mimi_likes_genshin]

I struggling with this right now, glad to hear it’s quite normal and other people feel it.

[@naimairfan5738]

You explained how I faced a lot of my life.i feel like I am going to parties etc but not feeling it. Like it's difficult to explain but you don't actually feel what's going on to the fullest. You are the first person who could explain what I am feeling.

[@haleema1209]

I was experiencing this today and thinking what is wrong with me then this video popped up at the right time. Thankyou docter julie ❤

[@VanessaTheWriter]

I'm so happy that I have overcome the times where this has happened to me constantly

[@yashikapandita5507]

Any tips that could help

[@VanessaTheWriter]

@@yashikapandita5507 Therapy. And music. Music always makes me very emotional so it kind of helps me get out of this state of numbness and back into my body and emotions

[@yashikapandita5507]

@@VanessaTheWriter thank you will try

[@VanessaTheWriter]

@@yashikapandita5507 Your welcome and you can do this

[@stingg66]

Will psychotherapy help get rid of such episodes for good

[@ingunnhelen9931]

Yes, I have been living like this for almost 20 years 😪 Been trying so hard for many years, to come in contact with my emotions again, but it's not easy... Somatic experiencing is helping me a little bit now.

[@VanessaTheWriter]

Keep trying and you will get there! I did it too and it was a hard way and I still sometimes feel like this, but it's getting better and better everyday. Keep going and know that you will achieve your goal.

[@ingunnhelen9931]

​@@VanessaTheWriterThank you! 💚 May I ask what helped you? Was it somatic experiencing?

[@VanessaTheWriter]

@@ingunnhelen9931 I had a mental breakdown due to multiple mental health related problems and that just showed me that I had to change. I took a break to get myself somewhat together again, then I went to a psychologist for a few months and I started realizing where my problems were rooted and I just started working one by one. One big step that helped me was getting out of a toxic friend group, even though that meant that I was alone for a few months. I also started enjoying the little things more. It's been a year since my burnout and I am very happy to announce that I haven't had a panic attack in months and that my mental health has never been better. It is still not as good as it could be, but it is pure gold when I compare it to the ashes that I started with a year ago. Long story short, figure out your problems, find the root, take your time, you don't have to rush anything, work on yourself and find things that bring you joy, even if it is just reading a few chapters a day, going out with friends more, working out, whatever it might be. But this is only my experience and my advice from this experience, this might not work for you. Good luck with your journey!

[@kathleenjutzi8580]

That description brought back a childhood memory. I was just 5 years old and stood in front of a mirror after a violent outbreak of my mom. I just asked myself, who I was looking at. That was so strange.

[@valonen_]

I have had theese kind of feelings sometimes but I just always thought it was the way my mind tells me I am tired or sad. I didn't know what it was called but when you explained this I suddently regonized those feelings.

[@Leoviliti1]

That numbness you mentioned is utterly correct . I could also hear the heart beat from what felt like it was on the outside of my body . Totally detached ..I stared and studied my hands wondering how theyre even moving as I'm not controlling them. 😮

[@daisychain5894]

Great story Lady NoSleep, tugging at my heart strings again. Had to restart it because as soon as dementia is mentioned i loose it, my Father had vascular dementia, wish there was more i could have done but its such a cruel disease, relentless and unforgiving. Thanks for another great upload, passed a bit of time on a gloomy wet Saturday afternoon/ evening. 💗

[@joviecoulton5815]

This happens to me, especially when I moved with my family from NZ to the US and I did feel this way. Not to long after the move I discovered that I have anxiety and that was a big part of it. Thank you so much for the vids they help a lot

[@Arifumiko]

I was literally just experiencing this yesterday at school and it was so scary. I had to stay home today because I feel like I couldn't focus on anything.

[@doup_swaggins.6612]

What does it feels like?

[@renasuftade]

@@doup_swaggins.6612 +1 need to hear some experience

[@Janne_Mai]

It's scary at first but it gets better! Both because you get used to it, so it's not a new experience anymore, and also because you'll learn your early warning signs and start to manage it better. Grounding resources on the internet can help if therapy isn't accessible to you

[@tomatensaft8582]

i have it for many months every day

[@shaquille.oatmeal173]

​@doup_swaggins.6612 its like your their but not and it for me feels like everything and everyone is going super fast around me while im just sitting there in slowmo

[@paulamarie1453]

I’ve had this constant state for 3 years 24/7 it’s horrible

[@shareekhaldi]

Same.

[@leticiaelsner6432]

I thought this was just my imagination being weird, now that I know what it is makes so much sense!! Even more that is connected to childhood trauma, I collect some. I've developed anxiety and probably some other disorders as well. I'm not ready to start psychological treatment yet (it terrifies me to even think about it) but feels good to understand what I went through and where it came from. Thank you for explaining.

[@ArtyAntics]

I didn’t feel my body till I was 36, now I’m getting emotions back which is overwhelming. It’s a process!

[@Connor-us6jt]

i’ve been stuck like this over a year and just accepted it as a new normal but I think it’s getting better

[@marly1869]

I’m hearing so much of this now.. I’m 53 and the first time I remember feeling that I was about 9 yrs old, it would only happen at high stressful situations and only worsened with time. I visited psychologists since my late teens and they didn’t understand what I explained..😞 I finally do and thank you and so many others who bring this to light. The book DARE has helped me a lot, I got to a point that I was quite anxious driving in certain situations and I’ve been overcoming those slowly.. Depersonalization is very stressful when it happens if you are driving or presenting in front of people 🥺

[@goldendiamon]

The more I don't try to overthink about it,the more I feel happy

[@ThatOneGanyuMain]

Yes. It felt like a vacuum sucked my soul out of my body, and I was watching myself from the sky. I managed to keep calm as I figured it would pass, but it was a really strange experience that I would rather not ever have to go through again.

[@dinosaurs_rule]

Oh my god. This is me. Thank you for giving me a word for this

[@rebeccabennett1452]

I was literally just trying to explain this to my sister .😅

[@kellyely9113]

I experienced this as a coping mechanism from being severely traumatized in childhood from my family unit. It was like growing up in a house full of strangers that thought that everyone was trying to manipulate or hurt each other and no one trusted anyone enough to confide in anyone when they were in pain and also couldn't share their triumph with anyone because it was flat out ignored or devalued to the point that it hurt to share celebratory news. Instead of having out of body experiences, I had inner body experiences because I was "locked" inside my mind so that I could feel a sense of protection and be able to self actualize and therefore be able to dismiss my severe anxiety of living with people that felt predatory. I do believe this is how I developed a schizoid personality disorder, and the only time I feel entirely safe is when I'm alone, so I seek out time to be alone as much as possible while still having a job. I really have very little social life and find it harder and harder to maintain one as I get older. The externalized version of me is quiet, but kind and warm to people, but I am very careful to maintain barriers so that I don't develop personal relationships. I recently had been trying to do this after coming out of a trauma induced hibernation (when I was living with family), but have found the closer people try to get to me, the further I push myself away.

[@karenrandall8375]

Many people turn to GOD for comfort when feeling this way. He loves everyone and is a safe place in this sometimes very dark world. When going through my breast cancer treatments, I just wanted to be completely alone. It was so comforting to be able to pray and talk to GOD about what I was experiencing without judgment and expectations. It's just a suggestion that helped me.

[@kellyely9113]

@karenrandall8375 in my own way, I do connect with a greater sense of spirituality and being beyond myself, like an extension into the sea of humanity that calms me, and I don't feel alone anymore. I've never learned to panic about anything for too long, even being alone in the world when I can't connect with another human. I generally feel safe and comforted when I'm alone with my dog.

[@maralizaramos2072]

Working through this with my therapist currently ❤ thank you for your videos, they help me feel less alone in my struggles

[@Melissa.Williams]

The sand timer is really stressing me out… I’ve experienced depersonalization three times that I can remember, it’s such a strange experience. Once when my parents donated my crib as a baby, once laying in bed with my ex (huge red flag that I ignored) and once sitting around a campfire (drugs were involved.) I think if it ever happens again I’ll know that I need to really pause and reflect on what’s happening in my life at that time so that I can adjust my focus to align better with my goals.

[@MargaretHarmer]

Definitely. I would say even having out of body experiences while being sexually abused as a child. Really hard to reintegrate my body. I wish there was some ideas to help me.

[@noreenvance5554]

There is help and hope. You deserve healing. Peace and joy be with you.

[@BellaLola26]

EMDR might help. It’s a type of therapy meant to reintegrate the person back into their body. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@karenrandall8375]

So sorry you had to go through all of that. Actually admitting to yourself it really happened is a first step in the right direction. I really hope you can find a good counselor to help you with your following steps towards healing. You are braver and stronger than you realize and can get past this.

[@mapletree8086]

I’ve been dealing with that a few times this year. It was my first time being hospitalized for mental health and I felt like I was observing someone else going through what I went through. Sometimes I question who I am, like did everything actually happen in my life or am I dreaming? It’s a weird and sometimes scary feeling when you start questioning your own existence

[@Blu3b3rrymuffinn]

Hi Dr. Julie! Thank you so much for this video. I’ve recently been experiencing depersonalization and derealization episodes due yo an autoimmune condition I’ve had for 9 years. This is fairly new to me and this video might help my family to understand what I’m going through better. Thank you so much!

[@btf1287]

love the visuals as usual. Does it include when one is taking a walk and the surroundings all look like you are in a movie? I go to the woods to walk my dog and lately it dont feel I am seeing as I used to, when I look at everything around me it feels like iam staring through a screen

[@btf1287]

@@oninice-sw6gy makes me wonder if there really is such as thing as depersonalization or dissociativr and we only just depressed

[@kore_crabapples]

Sounds like derealization. Depersonalization is not feeling conected to yourself, derealization is feeling not connected to the world around you. (Source: I was diagnosed with depersonalization and derealization as a side effect of some other mental illnesses i have. Its a scary experience but youre not alone ♡ there are ways you can reduce the frequency of these things with therapy)

[@sonyamaddox3979]

I love the way she explains things. It’s uncomplicated and easy to grasp. I wish she could be my therapist!

[@BeowulfandMelody]

I love the way she puts things in fromt of her for us to focus on to keep us listening without having to look at her ❤

[@alanchand7007]

I think most of the people has experienced this. That's why this video is still passing through everyone.

[@Iveneversurfed]

I "died" when I was born, was abused in multiple ways until I was 7 years old, was in gifted programs in an extremely rural area which just dump you after 6th grade, had a terrible medical discharge from the military. I just found this lady and have watched several of her videos and she's spot on. I went to therapy for two years and learned a lot. I hope she does well in life.

[@Laney-rd5ej]

I am so thankful and happy that a psychologist is making content for people who deeply struggle with mental health. It’s a nice break from the world and all of the drama of social media.

[@formaiaguitar]

Depersonalization is being ghosted after betrayal and lies from a woman you love. My experience taught me this Julie.

[@Miserys_B1tch]

I have felt this. I have felt it since 9 years old. When I got my first spouse. But the thing is, I never liked her romantically, so I was forced into the relationship. She never clicked with me in the way that a true partner would. She was manipulative and never listened to my emotions and would always say she would be “Sad” without me. But the truth is that she wouldn’t. She didn’t miss me when I wasn’t at school. She didn’t miss me when I didn’t call her. And she didn’t miss me when I broke up with her, earlier this year. Some may say I’m over exaggerating the situation because I was 9 then and 11 now and call me petty, but I was destroyed by the amount of mental trauma she caused me. I may not be with her anymore but I still feel the pain.

[@77maydayZZ]

I experienced this ALOT when I was young...around grade 4 -6. It would literally feel like the "simulation" that was my life stopped for a moment. You go somewhere else, somewhere strange

[@nothingthere3959]

I had it for several months after my mom unexpectedly died. I felt shocked, shaken and lost. Alone in the whole world. With all my hopes and dreams crushed. When I finally began to see myself in the mirror as me and not some stranger, I knew I got better in my grief process.

[@Lust4life-vh1rs]

This makes so much sense, i have definitely felt this way before when i was having trouble in school and was put on new medication, i felt this exact way, in my words as a kid i felt "dead" no one cared until my legs were literally so purple from lack of circulation that the teacher thankfully sent me home. When i tried to articulate what was happening to me to my father and step mother my dad said "so what? You want me to take you to the hospital then?" And my step mum said "you're a drama queen". I felt utterly hopeless and crushed. I know i was a troubled kid that couldn't stay in school but, i couldn't fathom what they had said to me. Now as an adult i strive to understand others and spend my free time researching psychology, i never ever want to make someone feel the way i felt all those years, misunderstood and not cared for.

[@cheekykaty2349]

I have anxiety, am a major people pleaser, and can’t really quite live with myself when making a mistake, I grew up in a household where my parents were always stressed, barely ever in a good mood, it created a deep impact on me because I was constantly being told to fix everything, I felt like I was someone else, here I am, years later, realizing I was manipulated into doing tasks that were to much for me at the age of 8. The truth hurts, but has benefits. Thank you for bringing this information to me. I greatly appreciate it.

[@imdumb8826]

I've had this feeling during elementary, during school whenever that feeling pops out I would start panicking and cry around the school, I couldn't feel embarrassed because I was too focused enduring depersonalization. Talked to my parents about this and they kept saying It's nonsense and would go away soon, I had to endure this feeling from 4th grade to finishing elementary. Now I'm glad that I am able to control and calm myself down whenever that feeling comes back...but then again it feels so wrong.

[@sagek7949]

I can feel the compassion in her heart through the screen ❤

[@strangerthingstarot7490]

I love how easy it is for people to say “seek professional help” but then in reality no matter how extremely I may have experienced all the trauma things “seeking help” has not worked for over eight years.

[@kateririchardson6611]

As far back as I can remember my father had mental health issues. My entire life was spent listening to the fights, and I felt neglected. One day, when I was older, my father had burned himself with hot water while I was at school. (It was not very bad) I was exited and wanted to show him something, so I grabbed his arm and pulled it. Time seemed to slow down as he yelled at me, and I ran off crying. I think the root of my anxiety is linked to feeling like nobody wanted me. Your videos have really helped me. Thank you.

[@Aurora-Ro]

I experienced it a lot when I lost my grandma, and I experience it every once and a while since then.

[@arjunv-pu9kp]

I am really happy to hear that many people are going through the same thing and sharing thoughts

[@mrssomeone2143]

When i feel this, i just sleep. To refresh

[@fawnbornstein8211]

Yes! I find myself not only disconnected from my self but from my husband , and we had such a special connection that is no more 😢

[@aaditya1046]

when i came out to my parents as trans, they had such a negative reaction that i was forced to pretend to be a girl again. after a year or so, i just began to embrace the situation i was in and take a positive spin on it by wearing dresses and makeup and growing my hair out and looking pretty. but it never felt like me, just this pretty doll i was playing dress up with staring back. once the hairdressers cut my hair WAY too short, short enough that i could look boyish again like i used to, and i cried when i was alone because i saw myself - i felt exposed about who the real me was - and just wanted to hide behind the doll again because the real me created so much trauma. i don't know if it's depersonalisation - i still want to hide my true self far far away because I'm so scared of backlash and breaking my family apart. the situation feels do acute and specific, i don't know who else has to go through this. coming out appears so easy to them.

[@juliavandermerwe5384]

for some reason your voice makes it easier to realize these things

[@sharadharajsekhar4577]

Your voice gives me a soothing effect in my mind. I experience myself numb all the time for last three years now.

[@VantageYou]

As someone who has chronic bipolar disorder and hypochondria, this is exactly how I feel every single day😢

[@leomeh4002]

I experienced it the days after a car accident. It was strange and scary, like my real self died in the accident. Then I went for a run. A really long run and suddenly with each km passed I was able to feel myself and my body again. It was just a run. But it felt like I found myself again and pulled me out of the feeling of being not alive, but not dead either

[@paniiiniii1484]

I never knew what this was until now. Thank you for explaining this and now I don’t feel abnormal anymore

[@user-zf4tn2xp5h]

I remember the first time I experienced this, and trust me, it was very dreadful. It kicked off a week after I had a panic attack while smoking weed. I had nightmares almost every night, insomia, social anxiety, and disorganized speech. I was numb it's like I didn't feel happy, sad, or angry. I would evade social gatherings, and I felt lonely, empty, confused, and blank. I thank God, and I'm happy to say that I'm improving, I'm socially active now and can sleep better.

[@shaktigayatripanda2720]

Yes I am experiencing it now. My mom died in March 2023. My brother left us in 2015. I was burdened at a very young age. In my teens, I had to take care of my mother. I always burdened with responsibilities of family. No one ever tried to understand my feelings. My childhood has been snatched due to bad deeds of my brother. For his deed, I had to pay by sacrificing my youngness. Now I m afraid to lose my father, who is my only treasure. Except my father I have no one in this world😢

[@itssleepysloths]

Yes, I have experienced this and I honestly didn’t think much about it. I thought it was just my brain being silly for no reason 😅

[@rotschimmel]

It's one of the strangest and most terrifying experiences I have ever had

[@bhavyabhojwani9795]

I have depersonalization and I think watching you is enough for me to cure it😊😊

[@anib3603]

Hello, I just came across a short video as I was scrolling through Reels...the video had caught my attention and what you said really resonated and made total sense. So I checked out your page and this one actually touched on something. I have always been interested in psychology and am actually in my 700s section in college, however that was a while ago and I NEVER even considered depersonalization! However EVERYTHING you stated, signs/symptoms....I actually have/do! I'm 47 and have been through NUMEROUS DRAMATIC incidents throughout my life...which I'm sure EVERYONE has experienced...it's called LIFE...however...I've been questioning a couple of things that I CANNOT find out why or even if anything happened....this is getting too long...I'm just ready to look into this now further. I just wanted to thank you for your extremely informative posts...I'm glad I came across you. I did Like & Subscribed your channel. And I saw (read actually) 9 on the 1st attempt

[@LydiaButcher-zi7pi]

Following you makes me realize that I need to reach out to someone but there is no one I can reach out to because if I did tell anyone it would feel like putting a burden onto them for keeping my secret that would ruin my (and my family’s life).

[@stacy6416]

I’ve definitely felt this! It made me feel lost. Thank you for putting a name to it. 🙏🏻

[@Ch3fc4t]

I’ve had this for 3 years now.. it’s never gone away but I’ve learnt how to handle it. I want to make any of you guys that also have it too. what I did is if your thinking about it. Try to push it away. And the best one, always smile❤

[@BORKER87]

When I'm involved in extreme violence, I become detached, calculated, and efficient. No fear, no anger, just business. I havent experienced it outside of violence, though, and i have always considered it to be a blessing. When everyone else is panicking, I'm taking care of the situation. People use words like "brave," but that's not right. I freak out afterward.

[@j76384]

The worst part is when you try to seek help and get told the wait list is 18 months.

[@nickyginn9137]

I experienced this for the very first time last month, it scared me to death. Now I understand ❤❤❤

[@ancientbavarianswissarmyknife]

I used to feel that way when I used drugs as a blanket to cover my emotions, but now I don’t need that because I know I’m a great man.

[@kristalcam2538]

I’ve experienced this since I was a child (~6) and I learnt what it was when I was 14. At 19, I was diagnosed with PTSD and now, at 20, my psychologist confirmed the existence of parts (more commonly known as alters). It’s been a long journey and I’m still only at the beginning of getting the help that I need. But I’ll try to stay hopeful for the future 😊😊

[@user-cj7nh3uy5t]

This pulled me back to reality thank you.

[@prchix]

Wow. I'm so glad this has a name. I have experienced this slowed down moments of depersonalization during traumatic times and I always wondered what it was

[@yuanti50]

Felt like that once or twice. Called it "an unreal feeling."

[@siemkens]

To a point where I caught myself whispering to myself... "not feeling human anymore" .... I cried... a lot.