What is Dissociation and when it happens?

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[@artemisameretsu6905]

Brain just says "Fuck this shit I'm out"

[@stargirlfication]

Lmao perfectly well said 😂

[@whi1870]

Bruhhh

[@theothesir]

🧠 be like: "I don't know what the fuck just happened. But I don't really care. I'ma gtfoh!!!"

[@Hela-u4o]

Yas

[@UncleBuZ]

I have to watch videos, movies twice sometimes. I miss huge segments lol. I'm there but I'm not.

[@Caerulean1137]

I have to go through this constantly with mental health care information because I grew up in a cult that believed mental health care is satanic.

[@sr2291]

Exactly. Reading too.

[@little.pixiedoll]

Wtf.... Is that what this is? I always thought i was just easily distracted but maybe I'm disassociating

[@UncleBuZ]

@@little.pixiedoll I wouldn't pigeonhole yourself, if that term works here. It could be, better to let a Dr help unpack that load. :)

[@TheScott-man]

@@little.pixiedollno no no no don’t listen to ppl on the internet it’s a commune thing most everyone shares not one person I know doesn’t do this. Lol

[@brendaharper5729]

Just woke up from doing this for years. Explains a lot of my confusing moments of a life time of emotional abuse and neglect from family. Thank U for your help!

[@foxc8646]

‘“Just woke up’ from doing this for years”. I think I am dissociating and have been depersonalised for 8 years age 16-25 and I’m going to see a therapist soon. I remember once a few years ago when I was 21 waking up and feeling like oh shit I’m back and it last for an hour or two. I want to feel like I should again.

[@phoneman-xs3ft]

Also abandonment and emotional abuse. I feel like that's something that really needs to be acknowledged. I didn't know I was disassociating until in recent times and during that time I've been trying to heal myself. I was never spanked really, authoritarian parenting was not administered, but I did have a lot of emotional neglect and verbal abuse. As a result I started to protect myself by disassociating and disconnecting from myself and apparently I had been that way since I was seven years old. This is the first time I've ever felt alive in a long time ever since I started to work on specifically my disassociation. As a forewarning anyone else, it's going to be a long, hard and rocky road, but a worthwhile one. It's going to take many many years but you're going to get there and you're going to feel the progress for every step of the way. You might have times where you feel worse but just keep moving forward and know everything is going to be okay as long as you keep moving forward

[@joshrivera473]

Needed to hear this thank u

[@HillbillyYEEHAA]

Both are just as damaging as any other abuse

[@IDONTGIVEAF-ew6bw]

@@HillbillyYEEHAAas someone who has experience all forms of abuse and neglect The sexual is the one that has done the most damaging to my life. Also the reason why dissociation is used as terms of physical and sexual abuse and not emotional is because you are in physical danger and you can’t physically remove yourself from it. The body is in physical pain and to survive that you dissociate to numb the pain. I don’t think it’s right to say that it’s the same as dissociation from emotional abuse.

[@einaleMelanie]

I get this with school. I used to have panic attacks before I started dissociating. I hate it because my grades have dropped and all my classmates avoid me now. I want to find help, but when I’m at home, I’m completely happy and I end up thinking I don’t need help

[@tomsgrexit]

As a kid (when I first started experiencing this) I remember doing everyday things and suddenly it would be like I was skipping through time, it would speed up and then slow. I tried to explain to people for years but could never get them to understand what I meant!

[@user-wv5ue7ny6u]

Yeah but it's also important to add that it's only actual dissociation when triggered by something like a memory or feeling immediate danger. Many people space out and daydream and those situations are described the same way, but are different That's how my therapist explained that to me atleast

[@peanutbutter4968]

It’s a spectrum from everyday dissociation (ie. daydreaming) to traumatic dissociation. there are different types.

[@Shtickyaight]

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[@reginadavis6370]

I am so good at it

[@barbaraholland2809]

Thank you, Dr. Marks. ❤

[@Jtttttttttttttttttttt]

Thank you

[@michelekurlan2580]

I love when people especially people in mental health use the dissociation and pronounce it properly let alone explain it as well as it explained here thank you. disASSOCIATION is not a word

[@Maria-b9j5w]

It works so well.

[@frazzledeos604]

It's weird, I recall doing this sometimes as a kid just out of the blue, no trigger, just a sudden realization that I am an organ in a skull piloting a meat suit and not, like, the center of my own universe. I don't have any kind of those physical childhood traumas, but I might mention this to my therapist 🤔

[@skyninjaslayer337]

Did it go well

[@frazzledeos604]

@@skyninjaslayer337 it did :)

[@mamarobyn]

I so appreciate your videos. Started in 2021 when my dad died... had 4 episodes... now fast forward ots happening again...my uncle's dying..

[@jared8038]

Can disassociation happen in people who suffer severe emotional abuse? Eg: from a narcissist boss or partner?

[@felicia3231]

Yes it can even happen if you are just very stressed but not mentally ill

[@beachwanderer9486]

Yes difinitly

[@nana8135]

U got it

[@thecatsbackyard4833]

That thing you do at work because it's too painful to be present.

[@barbaraholland2809]

@thecatsbackyard4833 AMEN. So true ❤

[@jeanwiler3719]

We all do it to some extend! It was built in us for self preservation

[@AnGeLaOYA]

Emotional, Financial, Family, Commercialism, Covetousness, Seared Conscience, all kinds of abuse! Pay attention! It's easy to miss in our time with so many plugged into social media.

[@RnbwQtz]

As someone with DID I love how you covered this

[@stevesmith-ny8jb]

Easily the best 27 seconds i have invested in my 56 years. Thank you for opening my eyes what mine and my friend's problem are? . She was sexually abused and I don't know what's wrong with me.

[@rosemadder5547]

I have DID. On my first couple ambulance calls as an EMT I found myself on the way there, alone in the back, just zoning out looking out the back windows. I was like crap I'm dissociating right now lol

[@jennylynn9668]

It happens with psychological abuse as well.

[@steviesosa5617]

Trigger Warning ⚠️ I did this to get through SA.

[@Sean_Shaun_Shawn]

Note that this isn't just related to trauma and happens to me specifically when I'm waiting in cues or other completely random events or times that are trivial and benign. You're not unique if you're experiencing disassociation in normal life. Another common theme is the come-down from stimulants and even heavy caffeine use.

[@wendyfromtheblock6743]

I just did this and feel like an ass. I’ve been in my own world for too long 🙏🏾🙏🏾😩💔

[@MarcelElfers]

What is the difference between “non-attachment” and “dissociation”?

[@lucaswaterhouse]

Disassociation is the most powerful mental tool that we can use. It needs to be learned at school age to harness it's full power. It is not at all bad, and is hugely beneficial to the practitioner.

[@Shtickyaight]

You can't trigger it....right

[@DJCrazyJimmy]

You're accurate in your statement except for two things. The group causes not physical or sexual. The root cause is trauma. If any kind it can be emotional. It could be any kind of trauma that causes a person to have a reaction where they disassociate. I know this is a fact because I've never really had physical or sexual abuse in my life to me, but I've had other types of abuse that have caused severe disassociation as a coping mechanism and I can tell you it's not a pleasant experience. It was a result of being a part of a narcissist family. Where I was manipulated and used in such a way disrespected and not had boundaries because I was codependent and unable to stand up for myself and say no and not be used and have to be on standby for the other person if everyone need 24 hours a day and not live my own life. When I'm able to get away and then actually get my own life in order guilt trips, smear campaigns and then a feeling of like I owe something to the person who was abusive tries to find a way back into my life and then I end up returning back to that situation. I guess the physical presence of some being in some around somebody that's like that with emotional trauma is part of the experience if you want to say that. But I would say that this is association is a coping mechanism and listening to music is a way to cope that I find can bring me back to reality through the lyrics and mood change of the music. But sometimes when you disassociate it's really hard to come back from that. And it's more of an explanation than just physical or sexual abuse because it's not just those types of abuse. It can be anything that causes severe trauma on a sustained basis like in my experience

[@ge2168]

I never did at the time, in my marriage, see myself as I battered wife. I was though and years later I know the only way I'd coped with it was to switch off. Don't know if the switching off stopped me from understanding I was being abused.

[@usel7226]

Does it also happens due to psychological/emotional abuse?

[@NimsChannel]

Stress/anxiety cause it. Shes sort of naming the actions, not the emotional outcome.

[@peanutbutter4968]

yes abuse can cause dissociation. sometimes in families with emotionally absent or unstable parents children will dissociate to cope.. it’s a capacity though. not everyone who suffers trauma or abuse dissociates too

[@vajra4825]

I had searched for dissociation constant of chemistry and Google also suggested me this 😂

[@goddessvibes2345]

Can it develop from physical stress? Like you're just drained from life's daily hustle. I haven't had any sort of trauma, just regular hardships that come in life.

[@kevinkazzaz1846]

Hi Dr. Tracy, I’m currently going trough a divorce. I’m a huge fan of you. I’m currently experiencing a hard time getting help for mental health. Do you have any openings? I would really appreciate your guidance and help.

[@debraallen531]

How do you stop?

[@franciscocardenas5758]

Can dissociation become permanent? And if so, can this lead to a person becoming a narcissist?

[@cbphilly7]

Definitely emotional and mental abuse too.

[@nickorange4881]

How does one deal with dissociation when they want to not do that anymore?

[@APetRescue-wc1iw]

I always thought that was called daydreaming

[@lesley4215]

It can help after the trauma as you go through life as a shield but it blocks everything and it's a real b**** to get The shield off.

[@foreverhappiness3396]

Can it be why some people ghost in modern dating? To avoid dealing with the situation?

[@rosemadder5547]

Thats what I do. I have DID and ghost ppl.. even if I really like them.. so I don't have to deal.

[@babygrr7300]

@@rosemadder5547 OSDD (1B) here and I totally get it. My parts selectively choose what they will and will not be paying attention to on any given day 🙃😂

[@NimsChannel]

No. That's just procrastinating and laziness.

[@peanutbutter4968]

there’s many different reasons why people ghost. I don’t completely see a correlation, as someone who dissociates a lot, but I also do ghost a lot of people, so maybe there is

[@felicia3231]

Maybe but the person must have a severe case of dissociation in order to not being able to answer at all. I think most of the time the person is just not interested or really busy

[@debrawilliams1693]

Me

[@bonnieromick9397]

😂Yes this happened to me while the stalker verbally abused me. This person is Narcisstic in their traits to me

[@beachwanderer9486]

Also happens to those who suffered narcisstic emotional abuse.

[@beatsbynate710]

Wait really 😢

[@gitouttamycage9221]

Aka surviving 👍🏻

[@boduholm8463]

But, also through a lifetime of heartbreak.

[@beletetesfaye]

keepitup

[@Trollhe1m]

Sometimes I think I’m alone and nothing else is real and I’m just a government experiment

[@octobertheexpert]

I hate how people see dissociation as a good thing it is awful how they need it as they're suffering

[@Singfortheking33]

And emotional and psychological abuse

[@S_Vikin9]

Oh no here comes the next tictock trend

[@dixztube]

Can’t blame the doc it’s the culture. I’m actually hoping it’s the case I can’t take anymore “diagnosis” of bi-polar or my most loathed; narcissism. Yes! Please let these be replaced by disassociation. At least it’s accurate (disassociation from reality haha)

[@Eboni-g5d]

it is already on tic tock

[@Eunoia445]

It's also mental abuse - that's what caused my osdd.

[@michaelgarrow3239]

If you don’t figure this out. You find people that treat you just like your parents. Only worse. FTW

[@Favenzz]

Maybe i should stop imagining bad news as just being a nightmare then

[@lukabougainvillea]

It's so terrifying when that happens

[@Sugar3Glider]

Sadly I had to raise this to 667 likes

[@thomasross3890]

Well kinda happens when your surrounded by a fair mound of bullshit

[@BarbaraJudas]

I don't think proffessionals explain this good on Yt.