What is it about Proposing in Public? || KULTURE SHOCK

[@Ukoha-Favour_CHI1717]

"This video is a proof that you can laugh while you learn!"😂

[@CHRISTFORLIFEUG]

Really 😆

[@katerufus7813]

I didn't want public proposal at all. We knew what we were doing from the beginning of our relationship. God had spoken to us both and we were sure where we were going. But, my husband had to do it cause my family members didn't take him seriously because he had not publicly proposed. He did it in the way I absolutely loved. A very beautiful restaurant (that hosted us for free and we were the only ones around), 3 of my very close friends were present (just them) and he got a photographer (very good and affordable) that captured the moment. There was very nice cake and we got take outs to celebrate the moment. Was perfect. No attention. No unnecessary expense. No conformation to world's idea of a publuc proposal. It was as unique as I am. After that, my family accepted his proposal and we got married. In summary: don't attach the authencity of what you have with your fiance to a public proposal and the grandness of it. Stay true to the Lord and to your personality. No pressure!

[@omotayooyinade2639]

I absolutely love this.

[@TrueTalkeTV]

Rare breed in these days of crass senselessnesss

[@olatunjiodunfa7443]

Wow ✍️🏽🔥 Just wow🔥📌

[@estherafolabi6083]

Mary's future husband you're watching, she just told you her preferred type of proposal, if you know you know😂😂😂 I love Mary 🎉🎉

[@adepejudisu]

Please talk about Talking stage too. What not to do and how fast is too fast?

[@odunolaoladunjoye6007]

I never wanted and I told my fiance now my hubby .I guess he would havd probably to do it on my 25th birthday,which was my last birthday as a spinster . However, I had let him know my preference for a private life . We celebrated my birthday in a very cosy ambience with 2 of his close friends around . To the glory of God our wedding will be 15 Years by Nov this Year. I think it's more of preference,he did the 1st proposal Jay Mikee mentioned and that's enough for us .

[@Euniceifedayo]

She’s so eloquent, I love her voiceee, Mary

[@okiemuteerhiano91]

I love the way Jaymilkee said "on the altar"😂😂

[@Thewriter911]

😂😂😂Is the way Jaymikee say "who are you to say , say yes"😂😂😂😂

[@numagladys8801]

Joshua na your parents born you indeed. You are very grounded.

[@CHRISTFORLIFEUG]

❤

[@olabisiariyo8015]

Support JayMikee..i honestly dont like the public proposal

[@busayobanjoko7519]

I would love it if you can do a video on do's and don't in a Christian courtship

[@everythingtiana1]

I support Jay Mike's perspective that both parties should be aware of their intentions from the first proposal. Additionally, the second proposal indicates that your partner is intentional, romantic, and attentive to your needs. In my case, my husband proposed to me during our pre-marital counseling. Since we both knew we were getting married, there were no tears, but I was pleasantly surprised.

[@DivineJoy-Daniel]

The fancy one isn't necessary, the important thing is that both of them should receive conviction from God for a go-ahead into marriage.

[@hundabimbola]

I just had to like when I heard “that’s why Jesus is a carpenter “😂😂

[@CHRISTFORLIFEUG]

😂😂😂😂😂THE way JAYMIKE prepared to listen why ladies cry on proposal scenes 😂😂😂😂🤣🤣😆😆😆

[@amakadedayo]

😂😂😂😂😂😂 So, my first comment was when I just started and I think I'm going to be making more comments. For now though, JayMikee, I won't say it's just dawning on the ladies that you're about to spend the rest of your life with this guy but there's just a different kind of reality that hits and it feels so surreal. Let me give context, when wrote my final paper in the university, I was like, I'm a graduate 🎉🎉. After convocation, It dawned on me like, Amaka, you are graduate, like no more classes, exams, and all that stuff and I got teary for a bit , so it happens🌝🌚😂😂😅

[@andie_Jones]

That's how I felt. I knew we would get married, it just felt so real at that point that so marriage is coming true true, I am going to a man's house. I am really going to start a family 😂...you get it

[@drFaithMba]

I kept laughing hard while seeing this discussion. 😂😂 This should have been balanced oooo. 😂😂 2 men and 2 ladies. I feel the only lady here was being bullied oooo. 😅😅

[@adefioyeopeyemi]

So the first proposal is what we called "ASKING OUT". I just remembered Daddy Mike only did the first proposal...IT IS YOU I WANT TO MARRY 😂😂 under the tree....as in on a low key after pounding yam and all😅😅

[@prmariesgem]

😂😂

[@irekemijoseph733]

The first proposal is the starting point of a relationship. Courtship follows if the sis gives a positive response, then the courtship leads to wedding & marriage. The second proposal is all about individual preferences. Thank you. More grace to you all in Jesus' name.🙏

[@YungongdoreenJei]

Lessons learned I just like this Mary girl, I like her voice and boldness

[@deyinkaa_]

I want a fanciful proposal, private but with a camera man capturing the moment, thanks and God bless. The first one is standard.

[@oluwakemiogunnaike7159]

Seriously, I support Jay Mike. Before a sister and a brother could go into any relationship, both of them should have sought the face of God and heard from God.

[@graceadebimpe3076]

Pls bring Aunty Lara as a guest for the next topic. Anticipating!!

[@banigbeoyinlola1017]

Thank you so much for sharing this very important discussion with us. Jaymikee wanted to talk about the biblical aspect, where did we get this public proposal from... It's a western culture agreed...but Mary did not allow him to hit it.. I personally do think about that too, that is it biblical, even the bridal shower stuff. I love the way it ended though ...when they both said their parents did not have public proposals and they are doing exploits in their marriage . Let's do it the Bible way and ask God for direction and leading. PEACE.

[@Mrfavade]

The truth, in my view, is that if the relationship is defined, it shouldn't be a surprise. I am in the private camp and I think a lot of people just want to follow the trend

[@mokgaetjipitjeng1937]

1st is very necessary! Public is not necessary, abeg let us save what we have and do a small dinner with nuclear family.

[@MaryannOkoro-lq8tv]

Jaymikee I would stand with Mary on this one I think why there should be a proposal (weather public or private) is to confirm if she is cool with continuing or going forward/further with you I believe that in the course of courtship the may have at some point been a misunderstandings (either your did, that she dislikes or something) and possibly an apology was rendered but that proposal now will put you on a safe ground that yes despite the odds we are cool to continue on this journey...😉

[@StellaChiedu]

This is a good topic. I am glad that as Christian we are talking about it. There is a need not to conform to the world standards. I am enjoying the conversation. Well-done!!

[@OluwadarasimiOladiran]

The real proposal is making your intentions known with God’s leading. The acceptance will lead to the preference public proposal 😊

[@christisall]

Nice topic! Kingdom culture should be above any culture of this world. This includes courtship and marriage

[@oluwatomiwahannah7474]

I really love the way the lady speaks ❤

[@bariyigaletura]

I'm my opinion, the 1st and 2nd proposal is necessary

[@davidemmanuel6173]

Thank you for your this... Sincerely for me there's nothing technical about this; the day you made your intentions known is the day you proposed, and the day she accepts courtship has began. What next? Everything geared towards marriage. If and only if you want the public one, fine... But the whole thing becomes wired for me when we make it look as if you are just knowing he wants to marry you; Just like Jaymikee said " What have you been doing all the while?"

[@FortuneAanuoluwapo]

The ways of the Lord are past finding!!! 😂😂😂

[@amaechigoodsuccess8012]

You all are doing well. Not me spending my morning blushing while watching this video. Personally, I don't attach 💯 importance to the public proposal as well, I don't see anything wrong in the public proposal. Just do what works for you. Especially, the right ones. Ps. "Proposal does not mean you are married" -Jeremiah

[@AbbyTheCreator_]

This conversation has been eye opening. But I think the family and friends proposal is not bad, it’s like sharing the moment with people that matter or have mattered in your journey. Also for the cameras, personally I’ll love a video for memories

[@laureenallotey9357]

I think a lot of Christians, especially ladies live their Christian lives by their emotions. Like how they feel for the moment...this I believe is the real issue.. We must grow up to the place where The Word guides us.....This was very well taken topic., and I think we should have a part two please....Thanks so much Jaymikee, for fixing this table....you guys are doing a great job. God bless you all..❤❤❤

[@busiswajameson]

Technically the first public proposal was in Genesis 24:47 😅 The reason we cry is because, the whole thing appeals to women's emotions firstly, and like any other thoughtful gesture it says alot, eg. That you actually went to great lengths (in each man's own capacity btw, not every female expects a car), you took into consideration what I like, you've actually been attentive when I've been throwing around the hints😅 ect. It's almost like bringing flowers to your wife in hospital/"get well soon card/ her fav. smootie" it's expected but the fact that he did it... top tier 🎉😅so obviously I'm gonna cry that you made me feel special🥰😊

[@leavemealone7935]

sorry, did Rebekah say yes there? no. it was not a public proposal, it was a private proposal that occurred at a public area..it was at the well. this was the 1st time he met Rebekah so it aligns more with what Jaymikke said, the servant of Abraham made his intention known by putting the jewelry on her. that is why most 1st date, men come with gifts to make their intention known and later met with her mother and brother (Introduction), which she then agreed and left to her husband house.

[@busiswajameson]

@@leavemealone7935 a pRivate proposal that happened in pUblic??? 🙃👀 you know what I'm just gonna *leave you alone***

[@SharonAdesina]

On point bro!

[@SharonAdesina]

So accurate.

[@monikscoan9936]

​@@leavemealone7935 exactly!!!!!!!On point!!!!! Accurate!!!!!! But only the KINGDOM mindset can relate/understand/accept this analogy

[@estherarogundade1750]

The pelu gbogbo rose te ra got meeee

[@primira3862]

You can never be so certain that you wouldn't get a NO. There's a pair we all believed were bespoke for each other but she still said no! It bets me till this day why she did the guy so and that thing had such an impact on his confidence. It took him years and God's special grace to get him dating again.

[@Honeymix07]

This table ehn!!!!!!!! 😂 Ọmọ, there was no public thing with me o Na inside sitting room i collect ring in September and we were planning introduction in November 😂. We knew we were getting married.

[@adeoyechristiana4011]

I LOVE THIS ENLIGHTENEMENT, IN MY OWN VIEW I DONT SEE ANY NEED😏😏 FOR THE SECOND PROPOSAL AS ACHRISTIAN SINCE YOU BOTH ALREADY KNOW YOU ARE GETTING MARRIED

[@ayanyiolaenoch]

I'm sure sticking with this... I so love you jaymikee, your jokes and reaction sef ehn😂

[@divinegift3607]

I dont want the public proposal I dont even think the second proposal is neccessary for me Weather public or private

[@TheFathersSon]

They cry and shout because; 1. "Thank God, I am marriageable" 2. "I overcame family negativity" 3. "I am officially starting couple of KZbin videos" 4. "Finally, I can choke the single" 5. "My wedding night is closer than expected, Ope oo, finally" And the list goes on 😂😂😂 They always knew.

[@favourezeru-obi227]

😅😂😂😂

[@deolake]

😂😂😂😂😂 eyi tun ga o!

[@VictoriaBala072]

🤣😂This whole session was hilariously insightful. Dear Mary, I love and understand you as a lady but I completely and totally agree with the guys😂🤣

[@maryjaneofor2972]

Choi! Jaymikee!! Indeed, this wisdom can only be God and from Him, all praise to Him👏👏👏

[@ncn8030]

Kulture is so teaching ❤

[@adebowaleifeoluwasimeon3885]

JayMike the proud Father 😂😂😂 Really nice session 🙌🙌🙌 God bless you all🙏

[@ItunuolayemiOlowookere]

Jaymikee na true u dey talk jare, the proposal as been done from onset

[@blessingobafemi8901]

Christian public proposal, to me, is just to inform everyone that we are getting married. Most of the people I know, they already know they are getting married, their wedding is mostly around the corner and some people don't even bother to do it.

[@tosinadeyemi9604]

Answering Jaymike’s relationship. Ppl date, some even get engaged and don’t get married. Even when God supports, there is the place of responsibility. Some ppl don’t end up together even when they had marriage in view. So yes, a proposal seals it

[@temitayoafolabi1873]

For me, I don't care the mob around shouting yes. The crowd cannot influence my answer ooo. If I've been seeing shege, i will now say yes, abi? For where? As if the mob will live there with me 😂😂😂

[@salomebulus]

I agree that the first proposal is very important but the fancy one is also necessary ooo😂😂😂😂 it doesn’t have to be public thou.

[@FortuneAanuoluwapo]

Who are you to tell me to say yes😂😂😂😂 Pelu gbogbo rose tera.

[@OlumuyiwaBola]

I don't really know about proposals but I guess guys of nowadays are supposed to propose like bro jhon of gbemi "You,I want to marry"😃😃😃 So straight forward,the straight forwardness is enough to make the lady suprised Se mo paro ni?????

[@oluwatofunmilayoadesogan5413]

I support Jaymikee actually!!.

[@chrisayfagram664]

Interesting topic!!! The lady is very beautiful by the way 😊

[@BlessingKolawole-k9o]

First is mandatory, second depends on the lady😊😊

[@FortuneAanuoluwapo]

Sis Mary and Korean movies . 😂😂😂😂

[@cosmoschukwuemeka6734]

I told my wife i wanted to marry her at Ojuelegba under bridge directly by the NYSC statue. She said yes while in big fit of laughter. This was before we began dating. She knew my intentions but i sha did the official proposal months later in the presence of her mom and sister. This was after we have started intending couples class in church. My wife said she wanted the engagement ring thats why i had to go on one kneel and say the same thing i said months ago at Ojuelegba underbridge. We still laugh about this over 5 years after.

[@adeolaolalere5844]

This is beautiful.❤☺️

[@OyakhiromeOnosenigbuan]

So beautiful 😍❤️

[@euniceolumoroti4916]

Jaymikee Sirrr, Let the single breefff😂😂

[@angelsamuel6]

I really love this talk. This is how a Christian marriage procedure should be. Thank you jaymikee The second one is not important for me o

[@ruthchinaza6130]

I don't think public proposals are ideal. Jaymikeee is too smart 😂😂😂😂😂

[@dolapoeyinle293]

I really like how you're takling her points😂😂. What's most important is what pleases God. The idea of making everything public is a huge issue in my generation 😢. Be not decieved by western culture

[@oluwafisayojulius]

😂😂😂 This really cracked me up. Omo, me i want the fancy one too o but not public abeg. And why do i feel this equation wasn't balanced 2 males to 1 female. I could feel her pain trying to explain 😅

[@olajideolaolu4235]

From my perspective as a believer, both the 1st and 2nd proposal are necessary and important. The first is done to begin the courtship process by making marital intentions known, while the second is done to end the courtship process and just get married by simply declaring, I'm ready, let's get married. Many people have the intention of getting married to a person but don't feel ready for the marriage. Hence, the lack of the second proposal is what keep people waiting as Lord of the Rings. NOTE: After the first proposal, you can't go about telling others I'm getting married, you can only say I'm no longer single, I'm now in a serious relationship and I've got a fiance or fiancee, but after the second proposal, you can boldly say to others I'm getting married. Therefore, all couples do both proposal consciously or unconsciously just that the contemporary world has added more glamour to the second, taking it public. Whether the second proposal is done public, private or semi-public, is a personal choice between the intending couples, and it shouldn't be fueled by worldly pressures. Yes, a public first proposal is an absolute blunder and error, please don't try it. And the second proposal, if private shouldn't be done out of stubbornness and selfishness and if public shouldn't be done to satisfy worldly pressures and lust but should be done the way the soon to be couple wants it and how the Lord will permit them do it. In Summary, the first proposal is strictly private while carrying along the right minds for guidance, while the second proposal is based on the intending couple's desires and purposes. Yet in all, none should disobey God... SELAH! Lots of thanks to this amazing team, Zion Kulture, for putting up this and shaking this table...😊 God bless you guys more as you keep blessing us in Jesus name.

[@abattaadeolaeunice]

🔥 Thank you for this comment

[@oluwabunmiprecious7791]

Well said sir

[@oluwakemioshunkeye]

That's what I keep saying, some people will think I'm wierd. Jaymikee said it too! I love a guy that knows what God wants for him and love someone that is straight with their intentions. Christian brothers don't play games! Christian Brothers are Leaders!!!

[@lollyricty]

Lol... This is so interestesting..... 13:00 aunty seems to be on a hot seat..... Well to the defence of the lady... I agree with the analogy comparing being admitted to the university to represent the process of courship but something usually happen few weeks or few month before the real certificate is given... there's always a part where people publicly sign out, celebrate and thats after their very last exam (that should represent the proposal aspect) in the sense that although you havent gotten the certificate but upon the completion of this last paper we have some sort confirmed assurance beyond what we previously know and we just await the certificate (stands for the alter) to establish it.. but then, the sign out cases is mostly Not ruled out (That's part is always very important, sweet and joyous even though there's no certificate yet).

[@davidpeace9106]

While the first proposal is the most important, I think the public or not-so-public proposal gives a finality to your agreement to be married. I also think that after being very sure that the people in the Relationship are going to be married, the public proposal gives room for wedding arrangements to begin. And about the tears and shock on the faces of ladies 😂, I think it's just them being grateful for the efforts the guy puts into making them feel special and doing what they want (especially in cases where the guy isn't really interested in a public proposal). The point remains that the fist proposal is the most important and the second isn't really necessary. But dear future husband, it's gon be necessary for us 😂🤲🏾. Teinksss and God bless ❤

[@gloryolaoke6219]

Yess

[@estherodetunde5562]

JayMikee mind yourself Let the lady breathe 😂😂😂😂😂

[@timothyayodele1704]

Beautiful the different perspectives the speakers approach these topics from.

[@roselynsogbuyi19]

Jay Mikee is absolutely speaking my mind

[@oluwatosinelizabeth8418]

Jaymike very funny but truthful aspect of it, you have said,God bless you

[@estherlonge5255]

We need a separate video of processes of dating- dos and don’ts

[@gloryolaoke6219]

I want the second one but not public it is just a show that you are finally ready

[@oniolaife1017]

As a lady I wonder what makes them cry and why they are surprised. But some answers that came to mind are , for some it is out of "God, you finally did this for me" and some are just naturally emotional in the presence of people. For the surprise, I ain't acting surprised please, I've been waiting for it because from day one we should have known why we are together. Maybe circumstances that surrounds it can surprise me sha😂😂😂😂. We wait for the faithful day anyway 😂😂

[@omobolanleesan7259]

My husband did not even give me a proposal ring,but he let his intentions made known to the first day he talks to me.and we are happly married;❤, because I don't see any necessity in doing that.

[@faithbenedict26]

I support Jaymikee but still I want the second one with family and friends😊

[@marylyndaobioha]

Thank you, Jaymikee You are right I'm not a fan of the fancy public proposal even though I can still.......if it comes..

[@gistwithyinka4770]

😂😂😂 I do not want a public proposal please.

[@abigailakindele575]

I love your creativity here.

[@tobiolumuyiwa]

First to comment here, yippee More grace guys

[@GEMITES999]

I love jaymykee wisdom and understanding. It finalize on the alter, the certificate is on the alter.

[@okiemuteerhiano91]

Uncle Jaymikee, I'm putting it here because you said so😅😅 I don't want the second one 😅😅

[@Jesusajebo]

I tell you, they be shouting as if they were not aware they were gonna get married. I would rather be surprised if the person instead change the mind and say we no dey again. Cuz ,,,no be any tin for de make sayyou are shock, sote de cry😂😂😂,see

[@olamidealatise4473]

I'm don't want it public.... Just do a surprise gift pack asking if I would marry you. Then let me do the calling and messages trying to say YES😂... Abeg! Don't put me out there or in the face of people 😢😢

[@KosisochukwuNwobbi]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Jaymikeee

[@Lovwynaomega]

I enjoyed this conversation😂❤ Personally I don't fancy the second proposal thing 😂

[@Thespiritual_woman]

I understand what the lady is trying to say I can say proposal is that period of getting engage with each other, a period of preparing for the marriage and the wedding too, it's after proposal you can start some conversations like how many kids do we want to have, which church will we attend after wedding, where do we want to live after our wedding, what can of wedding do we want to have and other conversations as such, i think in my opinion that its after proposal you can start this conversations, proposal is like you putting a seal on your coutship and of course the period between proposal and the wedding shouldnt be more than 6months maximally, the brother that wants to propose should have known he will be getting married in the next few months before pointing a ring to a sister

[@PraiseAdeoye]

I'm just here to give an example. If you look at Pastor David Oyedepo Junior and his wife, they was no proposal in their marriage/courtship. They knew the intentions from the onset they were just READY for marriage and he asked her PRIVATELY to be his wife and they're gloriously married with 2 kids. So technically, this controversial issue is about your mindset and your agreement with your spouse.

[@tamiausten873]

26:30 I actually don't want public proposal 22:41 😅 let's follow the iconic Brother John (from Gbemi), he was crying and his friends couldn't even clock it. They thought he was crying out of passion for the kingdom 😂🤣🤣🤣 imagine if he posted it, during his teaching sessions, everyone would be whispering 😂😂 at least he had the chance to tell few close friends and his pastor that admonished and comforted him privately

[@ambassadorforchristtv3354]

See me clapping ooh 😂😂😂 Jaymikee has said it all.

[@jubileeabotu6678]

26:50 I don't want second one 😂

[@oyenikedorcasolatunji3550]

Wow! Thank you for sharing this sir

[@oyenikedorcasolatunji3550]

Nice session God bless you all 🙏❤️

[@estherodetunde5562]

JayMikee can comedy be separated from you? NO!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@Joy_Imadegbelo]

Thank you zion Kulture for this wonderful topic. The second proposal is necessary for me. The K- drama proposal vibes. Not so public though, friends and family are okay.

[@ebunoluwaabass8319]

Happy and Godly home is the goal abeg. Public proposals is for the society and not for the individuals involved sef. 😅

[@AllYourFavouritez]

Should have been 2 guys vs 2 ladies. 😂😂😂