What is Love - scientifically? | Dr. Liat Yakir | TEDxEilat

Millions of songs, tales, books, films were written about it. It's created and vanished every second, throwing women and men into an emotional swirl - 'Love'.
But what love exactly is - Scientifically? How is it created in our brains? Why it occupies our minds so much? How do we choose the one, and the next one…? What our genes tells us about parity? Is it built to last?
During our talk we will answer these questions by reviewing cutting edge scientific research on love and parity. Armed with the fascinating scientific insights we will try to predict how human love and parity patterns will change in the future - changes that are already taking place right now.
Liat holds a Ph.D. from the Molecular Genetics Department at the Weizmann Institute of Science in Rehovot. Her research interests include topics in biochemistry, genetics and evolution. Today she is passionate about science communication and science education for the benefit of society. In addition, she studies the evolutionary roots of human behaviors, in its female and male colors.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

[@squamish4244]

Knowing that love is just a bunch of chemicals doesn't diminish the mystery or the romance, because the romance is in the actual conscious experience of love, which is like explaining what a sunset looks like or what the wind on your face feels like. We can explain those things scientifically too, but that doesn't take away from their power.

[@BobbyTomMathew]

Very well said.

[@johnpierson1335]

"Listen Morty, what people call love, it's just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed. It hits you hard, and then it slowly fades. Leaving you stranded in a failing marriage." - Rick Sanchez

[@jonathanlawrence2249]

Instablaster

[@artofmybody2882]

Amazing

[@burcopresents]

“We love people who have died” - Amelia Brand

[@PrinceKoopa]

What about true love? ❤

[@PrinceKoopa]

@@hemoalmaster3014 What do you think Hemo?

[@MichaelAlexander1967]

You make a great case for equality, & your data is very compelling & interesting. Thanks for such a scholarly talk that supports & unravels some of the nuances of creations greatest gift - love.

[@Filemon610]

Baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me no more.

[@J0KIT0KI]

Trpajs dammit 4 minutes to late

[@Frodli89]

I expected comment like this :D

[@OttomateK]

43 minuttes too late

[@lcfreiree]

The reason why i clicked in this video haha

[@search895]

Trpajs Oh I knew I wasnt the only one.

[@north_star8]

Very good presentation and smart woman. My beliefs are being challenged all the time by the knowledge I seek and I'm happy to have found this. Sick of being ruled by too many emotions and overthinking. Education is truly invaluable.

[@starlightwhispers6781]

I like how it starts off with biology and ends with very important and essential boundaries within society (e.g economy)

[@jamil19]

Excellent talk.... nature always wins at the end.

[@jamessidis4298]

We're machines, programmed by selfish molecules called genes 💀 those words

[@rudiadams9771]

17:08 on the verge of a paradigm shift. The day the power of love overrules the love of power the world know peace

[@Colonelgames]

For real. Hendrix was a prophet from God man

[@jshir17]

there is no such 'thing' as Love. There are only acts of love and people who are loving.

[@AlricoAmona98]

Nope

[@JorgenLePoulpe]

Just came for the "baby don't hurt me no more" comments, I'm already out

[@AqwRayAE]

Jorgen Dewez haha same

[@catholicspaniard8796]

Jorgen Dewez lmao

[@xxstardustxx6318]

Jorgen Dewez dude, did u buy new album from Fit for an autopsy?

[@tanushreej9213]

I am sory I didn't understand your comment

[@csstuff421]

Exactly

[@kelsnake]

What if there is a perspective yet not revealed? One that takes into your facts but one that makes wayyyyyyy better sense. I wish I had the space to explain it to you.

[@kirandora8010]

I think love is endless emotion

[@cosmic_snot]

Great talk! Thank you.

[@MsTemekiaPowell]

Thank you for this prefect self reflection and deeper understanding. I Am now going to learn more about this doctor and her unfoldings.

[@monks311]

what is love Baby don't hurt me scientifically No more!

[@philippehenryifabrejesuset2538]

GOD IS LOVE BUT BEYOND IT AS WELL..

[@iunnbrynveig3309]

Great talk. I wonder what birds think of us and rabbits.

[@Xarkom89]

They don't.

[@sharayutravels]

Excellent talk about illusion of love

[@dhjun6211]

We just are breeding machines, and it won't change from one day to another. But we can decide what we want as we are no longer slaves to out genes. Our biology however is still an enormous part of us.

[@thog8090]

Interesting lecture, but I do have some doubts. For one, I got the hunch that a polygamist society will be far more volatile; reason being, young men with lots of testosterone who want to find a female. It could be a bit unstable so to speak. Nor do I completely know how it would be for the kid. Having said that, the "natural" thing, if you can use such a term, is that a child is taken care of by society. By that I mean not the state, but the extended family like uncles grandparents and further. In current society where moving is an easy thing, you don't have the option. This is just brainstorming by me, and not fixed ideas.

[@panda59043]

Drinking speeds up this process ❤️

[@ingihafsteinsson]

this kind of concludes that we are material beings, witch we are not and will never be. We are spirits and inhabit this dimension. We are the one being on Earth who can change everything about our minds, control how we precede the world, control our fears, become spirits of love, yes my friend you can create the future.

[@byronloves7472]

This is what you get when you think Love is a feeling... you get all this jumbo of evolution... Love is a choice. It’s choosing to do what’s best for someone else without regard for yourself. God is Love

[@moderngeaisha5113]

This "jumbo of evolution" is called SCIENCE😂

[@TheMagodana]

Love is not quantifiable by science., so as lust, As a result, the two are confused. Especially modest lust vs obvious extreem lust which are driven by a series of chemical bonds and interactions. It's sad that most often, people fall in lust to each other and think they are in love with each other, when things go wrong, they are inclined to try address the non existing problem. . . With that said, Love is far beyond the physical bonds and has more to do with a consistant /permanent choice to put the other person first instead on oneself.

[@c.brownell8618]

I wish I had known this fifty years ago!

[@ibrathebadboy3650]

Love is scientifically and everything else is the permission to have sex,no one can argue with that.

[@teamjesus7087]

"Love is real, real is love Love is feeling, feeling love Love is wanting to be loved. [Verse 2] Love is touch, touch is love Love is reaching, reaching love Love is asking to be loved." John Lennon

[@Seximann]

This woman is sooo cute!

[@chuckdog7935]

Thx you

[@bboypepa]

didn't saw that conclussion coming at the end

[@thumosforlife3396]

Love has several elements but they must be discharged all at once. “A grilled cheese sandwich is a dish that requires at least two elements, bread and cheese. Without either element, we cannot make the dish. Likewise, if your action did not include all the elements of love, then you did not love properly.” The book, Thumos Adulthood Love Collaboration, by Mark Canny and Nickantony Quach, gives us “a direct, practical, and cogent answer to the following questions without resorting to gimmickry: what is love? What is it made of; how does it work; is there an expected outcome; how do we discharge the power of love; who does or does not love me; who do I love?” More at Ri4C Book 701, or #thumosbook

[@2011work2008]

Simple you want to know what LOVE is? “We love God because he first loved us” (1 John 4:19). God is the first cause of all that is good and right in the world. Wherever and whenever love exists on earth, it only exists because it is a reflection of God's perfect love that created us and sustains us. The Bible also teaches that “God is love ❤️ The Bible has a lot to say about the bonds of love and devotion. ... 1 Corinthians 13:4-5: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs." That’s love ❤️

[@Xarkom89]

Eh people have killed because of love. :P

[@lucid_gabe]

guess that’s why they call em “love birds”

[@georgeadair3325]

Do you know what unconditional love is ? Do you know you have to let go to grow in life

[@KeKKi]

"Not the one on the bench..." *silence*

[@alfiecollins5617]

Love is the only reality

[@antonioalvarado7594]

Just wasted 19 minutes listening to a divorced woman pushing dna-bound polygamy, saying monogamy is for peasants. That's 2019 for you.

[@anthony8385]

Yep, sounds like another person making excuses for bad behavior

[@michellerahn]

Do you have a better idea?

[@rebecatrevino3837]

As we are not animals, it is our choice to stay and work at a relationship. And that is an everyday thing. Love is a choice.

[@theworldisgreenerandgreener]

Yes, and she forgets humans have cultures, and cultures mold reality and ways of seeing and being in the world.

[@jasonnadal9721]

We are animals though. Duh.

[@PatrickSteil]

Agree! Love is a choice. We have much more advanced brains that any other animal species - one that can make rational (or irrational) choices. I believe strongly that the problem is more that people mix up love and attraction. I am married for almost 3 decades. I have occasional attractions to other people, but I choose every day to love and cherish my wife and the life we have built. The day I choose to spend time with someone I am attracted to I choose to love someone else and it all falls apart. To try and argue that humans would be better off practicing polygamy is ridiculous. Look at how deeply it hurts when one of our deep relationships is broken. Imagine a society filled with that. Science can't be used to tell us what to do. It explains how stuff works, not why or what to do about it.

[@RillianGrant]

You can tell that it is the future because there are memes referenced in serious scientific talks.

[@TheSilvereyeChannel]

I have to say I like it this is actually very interesting

[@franciscocriollo2648]

Haddaway can explain this.

[@rogersthilaire8179]

Despite the errors in contextualizing the information, she still arrived a reasonable truth. That is all this is controlled by the Will. So therefore choose.

[@billrodriguez7561]

Although the creation order is hidden by flawed options evident in an out of order world. We will see women play a much needed greater role in the sea of humanity as the creation order slowly reappears. Good chat. Live well smart lady

[@AlricoAmona98]

cool story bro

[@fandomvids4513]

Nepal bata Khoii xau..??

[@jardolph4681]

... TED is pretty well defined Programing ANYBODY can get up an adlib a TEDx, and this is for sure an "x", she is winging it,

[@rmanobalaji6475]

1. It is in our gene to make our genes stay here. 2. Monogamous is the only option for some creatures. 3. Love hormone receptor

[@minejycraft4757]

I don't know... Something I have never experienced?

[@enzantakeshita8838]

I was so upset that this video didn't open up with the song, or even a slight reference to it

[@laraoneal7284]

What is the "baby don't hurt me " reference?

[@googleuser1225]

Loving hurts

[@0Emster0]

i would love to meet this woman

[@chucksl21]

Not honoring the Creator of Marriage and originator of love is what leads many to divorce. Evolution doesnt account for joy, sadness or laughter. I learned growing to beware love advice from people who have failed at love and marriage.

[@princesswendylucarcarillo3154]

LOVE IS JUST A CHEMICAL REACTION FROM OUR BRAIN

[@Xarkom89]

As is everything else, what's your point?

[@hamzaabou4821]

Every emotion is that case lol hh

[@nokoolaid]

Sounds like she's trying to make a case for her own behavior.

[@filonin2]

Me? Him? Me? Him? You? Us?

[@__-cd9ug]

Reading the comments here, you can easily notice that this isn't a TED Talk about originality.

[@thenewageriseth]

Brotherly love and familial love and unconditional love are REAL. Romantic love is chemicals in the brain.

[@Chris-gm4hk]

Sometimes you meet someone-perhaps even fall in love-and although you may part ways, they won't leave you with a broken heart. Why? Because they've mended your heart, ensuring you'll never be afraid to love again. ❤‍🩹

[@yafavbrujita762]

So statistically speaking.. once women started having Voices, self respect and no longer were barefoot pregnant in the kitchen divorce rates became high. Got it.

[@v0ider852]

sorry I disagree, just cause you find some gene in those two similar species who mates differently doesn't mean it(gene) are related to mating. Anyone who has a scientific background could judge this. It is extremely hard to tell what gene is responsible for what. It's just like an excuse to justify such behaviours.

[@FrederickFNNoronha]

Interesting insights. But Dr Yakir talks as if the planet would be able to cope with all the needs, wants and demands of the human species. Where do all the resources come from to support all those single-parent families?

[@branbeelotus]

Can love really be explained scientifically ?

[@grumpfieldthecat4652]

You. Do you feel that oneness when you are asleep? If not then this is just another illusion of the mind. Some say when a lie is repeated a hundred of times it will feel like a truth.

[@mazlumcelik891]

The goal of this video was trying to explain that and now you ruined it

[@michellerahn]

Is there any other explanation?

[@MrGurushit]

Blind Science

[@karanbhardwaj6931]

Hi mam I Am in Love This was very HARD TO GET HER BUT SUCCESSFULY I GOT HER... I WILL assure I will never Leave HER hand in My life ... AND The name Of my Only love is🥰 [ BIOLOGY ] ❤️💙

[@jarfuloflove7320]

Long story short: single mother scientist envisions a future social order oriented to funneling resources to single mothers.

[@FrederickFNNoronha]

The guys are going to take it as a justification for promiscuity, while the women are going to read it as "funnelling resources to single mothers". Yay! Happiness all round... Dr Yakir achieves the impossible; and that too, with science.

[@jamesblack9499]

most single mums are not scientist ....they are ummm below average it is not in the communities interest to encourage single mums

[@laraoneal7284]

What is the point of this vid. It seems very ambiguous.

[@BeaveHolio]

Polygamy is rare up until farming happened and for some reason these systems totally collapsed later into monogamy, cheating is common but polygamy is practically non existent even in cultures that don't have a taboo against it. Also the bottom ranking incas probably had 0 women or 1 woman between multiple men although what probably happened was a lot of the concubines cheated with the lower status men but that is conjecture.

[@jamesblack9499]

like our culture many low status men are single

[@joshuat5140]

Always will believe love is god love can not scientifically explained I believe love is the most important thing in life love will cause you to do things you normally wouldn't and love will feel voids when alone to me love is life and everything beyond it because love is god

[@filonin2]

I broke the window again!

[@alexanderg8466]

this video was a relief.. Don't sk me why :v lol

[@siyabongaximba1216]

Can we measure the level of "lies" 🤔 scientifically , if so , the court will have no trouble finding evidence

[@sonnyandreotte5451]

obviously this woman has never heard of mgtow. go ur own men, go ur own way.

[@nischalparajuli9115]

From nepal

[@TM-gu6bp]

Love is only the feeling between lusting and loathing

[@iony10]

Everything sounded good and interesting until she started spilling her ideology and opinions of "the new world order" at the end.

[@spencerreppe7558]

Sounds like a dystopia

[@matthewnelson9809]

IM A RECOVEREYU ADDICT AND FREASH OFF REHAD AND PAPER AND DONT WBT TO GO BACK WORD TOO MUCH LOVE MATT

[@Ka9radio_Mobile9]

Play misty for me some one!

[@happysunday4262]

if you have problem with your own parents change parents, change BF , change husband, change religion, change nationality

[@filonin2]

Baby don't hurt me, no more!

[@search895]

filonin2 hi Tom

[@MoonLight-tw9tq]

he is always there for us

[@filonin2]

Hi Friends™!

[@nataliadourado8007]

An answer to Twice's question haha

[@adamrainey4633]

Funny how she doesn't mention the cause of her divorces...

[@Kevin-jc1fx]

Certainly not the fact that she got married without better reasons than temporary fuzzy feelings in the stomach. You know how it goes. Whatever goes wrong, there is always a gene 🧬 you can blame. 😂

[@metamorph3702]

Baby don't hurt me Don't hurt me No more

[@madcircle7311]

Maria hah, just watched that before coming here

[@jayampandit4980]

Jayam

[@terrorists-are-among-us]

What is this test called? I'm not joking.

[@manuelubaldoochoa4781]

Non scientifically it is a feeling we have in common.

[@joflame7671]

As Incredibly Accurate As All Of This Is What I've found is that this its important to understand that this Is still an incomplete picture. The assertions made here are made entirely based on a left brained biological perspective and the entire truth is so much more. Love is a spiritual thing. It is the unconditional acceptance even with the presence of flaw, It's perfect harmony. it's the highest vibrating thought form and perspective in the universe. It is what brings about the order of all things. That's why we inherited it from our father God. We humans are gods in the making and the difficulties we find with it are due to the in completion of our evolution. Part of what makes us gods is our ability to choose. We are just opting to make a lot of wrong choices the main ones being that we choose to love selectively, we limit people's right to choose and think freely and be themselves, we choose our ego and our sense of self over love for all things,we choose to look for love in people who are ill suited for us, and ironically enough we have difficulty with loving the people we claim to because we have difficulty in loving our incredibly imperfect selves. I think when all of that is taken into account I realize that the battle to be won that will ultimately lead to our progression as a race is an internal one. A mental spiritual emotional physical one that all boils down to choice. We have to choose love.

[@mshepherd324]

you lost me when you said the word "god"

[@OneRandomLeo]

To put my two cents in, I'd say to each their own. If you want to be monogamous, go ahead, as long as you are in agreement with your partner about it. But today's society is super controlling and pushes monogamy onto everyone, regardless. It's legally NOT possible to be married to two people at the same time at the moment, and THAT needs to change.

[@storminmormn6283]

That ending sounded like a terribly written ending from a high school or college essay. Trying to tie up everything nicely but taking huge leaps in assumption and guessing without actually leaning on evidence or facts.

[@AdamAtlanta404]

if being monogamous makes me the top 0.0001 % im all for it. makes me want it more

[@alandonsaji6673]

🤡

[@computerghost596]

BABY DONT HURT ME DONT HURT ME DONT HURT ME NO MORE (crowd goes wild)

[@Frinasil]

Clicked just to see if the first comment says "baby dont hurt me".

[@ilhamben3464]

What's up with baby dont hurt me ni more imaoo lol

[@mikeandes2901]

Such a sad understanding of love

[@thenewageriseth]

Omg most of these comments are fuckin killin me! 😂

[@Thesla6]

Lust my friends lust, flesh desires is all sin Have discipline and self control

[@mori.kurogawa7936]

"Hey, hello there, handsome man... can I have your saliva sample, please?"

[@khalfanmohd5807]

Sure text me on WhatsApp! [phone]

[@BeaveHolio]

We've been subsidizing female promiscuity for a while and it's only lead to disaster where its worked, but it mostly has not worked because most women are no like that.

[@user-yl9bv4vy1n]

Napal yeahhhhhhhh

[@mh_ananda]

Nishwartha Bhalobasa

[@MedalionDS9]

Baby don't hurt me Don't hurt me No More

[@fieryelf]

Sounds like she's trying to rationalize her need to dump men left and right...