What is Resilience and How Do I Improve it? | Kati Morton

[@paulaarevalo7758]

The best bridge statement I’ve found is the premise that “if I were such a bad person, I wouldn’t be worrying about becoming better, so I’m actually nice for trying”. It’s an universal truth and it can be quite relieving and motivating!

[@griffin1837]

awww love it!

[@Winnee9]

How to build resilience. 1. Journaling 2. Create a support system 3. Take care of basic needs 4. Notice your self-talk 5. Live with purpose 6. Become Friends with your feelings 7. Manage impulses 8. Learn to problem solve 9. Coping skills 10. Set goals

[@AutumnalSunests]

This is helpful, thank you. Today you helped someone, me ! X

[@libcaro]

This is like the basic solution for any issues you are having with yourself :v

[@IExpectedBSJustNotThisMuchBS]

I've always said, "Befriend your feelings." Eventually, I learned to be my own best friend. It's wonderful when we can be in our own corner because there may be times in life when there's no one there to get our back.

[@mrs.camillewarrenempress3115]

Bingo

[@mrs.camillewarrenempress3115]

@@IExpectedBSJustNotThisMuchBS iv been doing this hardly to say sometimes it's get boring at some point still mastering this

[@rea8585]

I don't even do it on purpose but whenever I feel bad, I always write, and when I am feeling great I feel no need to journal, I almost have to force myself to start writing. But when I am down, there isn't enough paper on the planet. 😀

[@saumyasawleshwarkar8259]

same omg

[@Katimorton]

Yes!! It's always so much easier to write about the bad things.. but harder to focus on the positive. It's because our brain is wired to worry about any threats.. to keep up safe. The good stuff just isn't as interesting to it.. ugh. xoxo

[@thebestmarcela]

Me too! And drawing, too. I usually get more inspired when I'm sad.

[@hannahrodriguez7917]

Omg I’m the same way

[@Tris-Eaton79431]

Same with my Poems

[@hii-rk9xz]

Your "welcome" cures my depression temporarily OMG I love u

[@AsgardStudios]

Natalie Karmbäck Right? Love her “Welcome” too :)

[@hii-rk9xz]

@@AsgardStudios it's so happy and cute haha

[@violentfemme30]

Right? It's so upbeat and adorable. I love it.

[@hii-rk9xz]

@@violentfemme30 YESS IT MAKES MY DAY REALLY

[@haisesasaki3944]

It's really the only thing that saved me from suicide ❤

[@racheljcooney]

Resiliency is easily the biggest issue in my family. From now on, at bedtime I'm going to have my kids say 3 positive things about themselves and I'm going to list mine as well ❤️

[@brandonmarshall5935]

Has anyone ever talked about the art that’s often behind Katie in her videos? A myriad of colors and textures, it reminds that everyone, regardless of their mental health, fits on the spectrum. We are all connected - all beautiful in our own unique ways.

[@madisyncarter4479]

Thanks for the video, we all appreciate your work. Everyone have a great week

[@PinkYellowGreen2023]

People have to learn to cope with and work through very challenging life experiences. Resilience is SO important.

[@ukaszb9223]

No matter what mood I'm in, the way you say "welcome" always makes me smile.

[@hii-rk9xz]

You seriously don't have any video that doesn't help me😍😍

[@cstevens8788]

Agree with you.💕

[@PracticalInspiration]

Keep talking about self talk, it's so fundamental!! I've learnt to try and catch those moments where I do start negative self talk, giving myself a moment to step back and remove myself from it

[@ColinCasperLMHC]

Same here! becoming aware of my self talk has been so impactful for me!

[@gentianviolet2785]

I just can't thank you enough for these videos ❣️(almost feel guilty for watching it for free)

[@Katimorton]

That's what they are here for!! So glad they are helpful :) xoxo

[@Cominc.]

Oml I feel the same way

[@meganroberts2558]

This was seriously like a personal therapy session for me. I needed to hear so much of this and didn't even realize it!

[@oytser7952]

I appreciate that you left the list on the left side of the screen as you continued to speak about them, it helped me follow along well. Everyone needs a little more resiliency!! 😊😊

[@admirbarucija2018]

I’ve been working on improving my resilience for a long time, there’s always more work that could be done!! ❤️

[@Katimorton]

I am so glad you are working on this :) xoxo

[@admirbarucija2018]

Kati Morton Thank you so much, Kati 😇💗 you’re the greatest

[@phoeni3902]

This channel is by far one of my favorite channels of all time Thank you for everything you do Kati

[@Katimorton]

Awe thanks :) I am so glad you are enjoying the videos!!! xoxo

[@phoeni3902]

@@Katimorton you're welcome & you're awesome :)

[@mschrisfrank2420]

My number one way to keep my resiliency up is to take care of my basic needs...the days when I can’t get enough sleep, eat often enough, or stay hydrated are the days I’m most likely to experience a “crisis.”

[@SurvivorRevive]

I would say resilience is the number one ingredient in any healing journey....just keep getting back up. Thanks for another great video, Kati!

[@stefanklass6763]

When I set goals I alsways get cynical comments from my family and friends like: "Ha, you always make plans that never work out!" it makes me cringe cause I know it's true and I find myself giving up on almost all of them right away. I stopped telling people what I'm up to and for some reason they don't like that either.

[@austynhumble9286]

Hi Kati, I’m just trying to express that I’m thankful for the community you’ve helped bring together here. I commented last Thursday and got connected to a couple people here that were very encouraging to speak with. I struggle with so much, but it helped a bit. Sometimes, I still want to die.

[@_just_TK]

Austyn humble ❤️

[@LisaDaVonne]

This was so helpful! My car burst into flames on my Birthday... Sept 25 2019... It was a day I was looking forward to for a long time. And my car engine literally started on fire for no reason. I have been so sad for the past week and I know it will be better... thank you for this video

[@MentalHealthandWellness-dr6by]

Kati ideas about building resiliency are so helpful. Becoming a resilient person is so important to mental wellbeing.

[@jessn.2665]

I started grad school a month ago, and I had my first kind of breakdown over the weekend. I’m in grad school so I can get into medical school. I often feel dumber than my classmates, and not everyone is willing to help each other out.(even going so far as to try to get others to slack off by making it seem like they themselves are partying all the time.) I have to come up with better coping skills, and this video is a good one I can come back to.

[@_just_TK]

Jess N. Ever heard of Imposter Syndrome? Happens to a lot of grad students. (I’ll put a link to Kati’s video on it below). Also, it sounds like some of ur classmates are jackasses! kzbin.info/www/bejne/gGiyoXuLlKdpZ68

[@auntieree6006]

I've been journaling off an on for the past year and last night I had what I call a "butterfly moment" as I was writing in my journal. A butterfly moment, to me, is a major a-ha moment that dramatically shifts a person's thought to the core that their perception is forever changed for the better. In that moment, all the stress I had been carrying for months -- just lifted.

[@RahiVaidya]

Hey Kati I love your videos and you’ve helped me a lot during my tough times. Can you please make more videos on PTSD and C-PTSD?

[@Unnkxn0wn]

I NEED TO SAVE THIS FOR WHEN I FEEL DOWN

[@dukemandu]

That part about talking to yourself more like a loved one would, that took me many years to get. When you're used to hearing bad from most others, it's how you begin speaking to yourself. Of course, there are others who seem to have no issue with this at all. They never think ill of themselves.

[@ClipsByLaura]

I'm watching this while having a Not So Good Day and when you came to the basic needs, I paused the video and made myself something to eat. Can't manage this day on an empty stomach... Good to get that reminder.

[@anaghinet6834]

Thank you, Kati, this is the first time I am writing a comment here, buy I wanted to let you know that you are helping a lot, your advice is hands-on, and that listing the steps on the left in different colours is very helpful and intuitive. Keep up the amazing work and for all of you out there, keep recovering, keep doing your best; better days shall come!

[@_just_TK]

Ana Ghinet ❤️

[@creamsoda9334]

So clear, accessible, and easy to share. Thanks for checking in!

[@bigmjolnir934]

There's a slightly different wording of that thought you mentioned that I like: "A sorrow shared is but half the trouble, but a joy that's shared is joy that's doubled." Thank you for your efforts. They are helping.

[@DawnYarnDoll]

I'm hurting and you have helped me hang on and fight harder. Thank you Katie.

[@ilenecalderon]

As a fellow LMFT, you are one of my favorite's on youtube! Thank you for the excellent content!!

[@ttalgiipssul]

Oh boy I just love the welcome at the beginning.🤗💜

[@catlover9585]

Thank you for making informative videos as always!

[@Katimorton]

Of course! xoxo

[@SJ_WomenAgainstPredators]

I want to thank you for making this kind of content. I've always been scared to get help for my mental illnesses, but you've helped ease that fear. I'm finally, for the first time, seeing someone this week so I can get better and actually live life to the fullest.

[@kepstein8888]

Showering once a week whether I need it or not. No excuses!

[@hallepashkin7735]

I was in an ambulance a few times for mental health reasons. I am 14 and have been through a lot. One of the EMS workers told me how resilient i have been and that i just need some extra help. So i got a tattoo of the word resilience on my whole forearm over my scars to remember how i got through it. So this video really touched me, live you so much could you talk more about anorexia possible?

[@_just_TK]

Halle Pashkin Kati already has a TON of videos on anorexia! Just put “Kati Morton anorexia” into the search bar! U can also ck out her eating disorder playlist! kzbin.info/aero/PLAB41960D35357E06

[@kaitlincarr2990]

Journaling all the way! ✌🏻✊🏻 I know that since I started therapy, my resilience has gotten stronger. But sometimes I don’t even realize how well I’m doing - a crisis comes up, and I think I’m completely handling it wrong or that I’m not doing good enough. My therapist has reminded me a few times that I’m more resilient than I give myself credit for. It’s nice to have that outside confirmation and reassurance. 💛

[@whimsicalcorgi]

Thank you so much for this video! Very helpful! I know I speak for many others when I say, when one cant afford therapy and wants to change, these videos make a huge difference.

[@SLACArt1983]

I use HALT a lot, and set proper boundaries to begin with. I love this list! Especially the last one..setting goals, because that will give you purpose. Thanks always Kati.

[@JuliaJacksons]

I love the quote about joy and sorrow.

[@kaileyparts1289]

Kati you’re a star. You’ve helped me improve the quality of my life countless times (:

[@heatherwiner2883]

I have had low level depression for as long as I can remember along with social anxiety to where it has effected my life to where I can not hold jobs easily and have to drink to do anything social. I have not had a date in 23 years I have such low self esteem. I was my mother's caretaker and it was extremely stressful and the overwhelming majority of the caretaking fell on me and I was the least financially or emotionally able to do this. I did it because I loved my mother so much. She died at the end of Aug 2019 and the grief is so bad still on top of having depression I am having a hard time bouncing back. I have to because I have to work and support myself before homelessness happens. It has been almost 6 months and I have barely bounced back from all of this.

[@melibuxmelmont4889]

Heather Winer im feeling you xxx

[@Clyde-lb5fe]

Hi Katie, this video was just shared in a webinar on ambiguous loss. I think it was a helpful video. I want to add another tip: the power of HUMOR is critical as well. Thanks, keep doing your helpful work.

[@vickyzeng4834]

This video came at the right time! Thank you Kati for shedding light on how to build resiliency❤

[@Katimorton]

Oh good!! I am so glad it was helpful :) xoxo

[@HealingBeyondTrauma]

Love that you're covering this! I recently finished a coaching module on resiliency, where we use an assessment, explore the clients potential thinking traps, iceberg beliefs, use ABC's (CBT tools) and exercises to 'Put it in Perspective' as well as more! It's a really exciting and involved coaching model and I LOVE IT! All in all, in my program we teach the client to identify their pitfalls and create tools to pull themselves out and prevent falling back in :) I feel like its something we all need.

[@ColinCasperLMHC]

These are great ways to build resiliency! I think "notice your self talk" has been the most important for me. As I started paying attention to what was going on in me, I was able to start targeting the lies that were leading to the issues. Great job Katie!

[@justmart4455]

God bless you Kati Morton. You've helped me so much.

[@smilingfairy765]

This was just so positive without dismissing any of the struggles somebody might have. Thanks for always being so caring and nice!

[@roshalllambert]

Thanks you so much for this video 😘😘. Didn’t know stuffing things down or repression is not a part of resilience. I do that all the time

[@PRoseLegendary]

2 things that have helped me with resiliency: I got a password protected note taking app on my phone, so I can keep a journal whenever, wherever, and not worry about it being read by others. And 2: I got a fitness tracker, with a goal of doing 10,000 steps per day. I've achieved this goal 9 days in a row now! It also converts activities like yoga and dancing into steps, so everything counts. It also tracks my sleep, and I can see that on average I'm getting about 5 - 6 hours a night. Before having a baby I'd get 8 hours most nights. So this makes me feel less guilty about napping when my baby naps to catch up on sleep.

[@stellar8423]

Journaling is helping me A LOT. I did it when I was younger... but now that I'm doing therapy... it seriously helps for discussions and for me to return to being positive and grow.. and just getting things out.

[@katiebwheeler]

My resiliency was like non existent. I used to wake up and all but one or two of my chips were instantly gone from all the trauma and mess in my head. The good things didn't lift me up at all and the bad stuff brought me really low for a long time. I wasn't worth investing in or spending time or energy on things that were just for me or to care for me. An awesome counselor, some EMDR (still going) and a lot of work later and i'm getting better. All these are a good reminder, still many that I need to work on thanks :) and I always make sure to watch ads when they pop up! My little way of supporting what you do! Thank you!

[@TheZainy09]

Thank you 💐may God bless you for the good work you r doing to the humanity 🙏

[@stephanienarvaez745]

I am thankful I have the skills to shift my mindset. I am thankful I have the tools to gain knowledge. Thinking about resilience and growing up in “survival mode.” Sometimes I feel like I am trying to make it in the world instead of flourishing and thriving naturally. I want to thrive, not survive. “Even the tiniest of flowers can have the toughest roots.” 🌸

[@terrilynn6148]

Thank you, I really needed these tools. Was happy to hear of your FB group as well and requested to join. 👍

[@_just_TK]

Terri Lynn it’s a great group!

[@terrilynn6148]

TK 😁

[@rosecajiga]

pure wisdom here, thank you again Kati!!!!

[@askeletonsdaisy2440]

Deal with the situation(s) immediately & if you're at fault, own in, apologise & forgive yourself & move on

[@margaritatowl7248]

when i was tsrugglimg, i started writing 'letters to god'. every evening, i would sit down with my notebook and essentially just vent every thought,worry uncertainty and grattitudei had . in the end it helped not because it suddenly made everything ok,but because i realised i had gone through a lot but miraculously enough, i got through it.

[@pattizeiner5861]

One of my ways to build resilience is watching your videos regularly! I recommend you to others too since you are so helpful and comforting. Thank you Kati.

[@mindfulnessasia1082]

Internal strength will give a person the ability to make it through the challenges of this human journey without being knocked out, without feeling hopeless. A person with internal strength will not lose purpose or direction in this human journey.

[@fantalk7160]

Kati Morton for President 2020 !!!

[@chrischeckwitch3562]

The book Gravity and Grace by Simone Weil has a profound impact on my resiliency, especially in finding brief mantras and reminders. "I too am other than what I imagine myself to be. To know this is forgiveness."

[@Jazzmusiek]

I’m new to your channel. I’ve spent hours binging your videos. You’re incredibly helpful. Thank you.

[@_just_TK]

Jasmaine Grayson Welcome to the Community!!!! ❤️

[@williammv1342]

First comment ! love you kati, your past eating disorders videos helped me a lot

[@_just_TK]

william mv woot woot!

[@Katimorton]

Awe I am so glad my videos have been helpful!!! xoxo

[@NovocaineGirl]

I loved how you simplify the "live with purpose" concept and make it seen as something reachable and healthy :). With other authors or speakers seems like something mystical or ethereal.

[@nayelietorres2817]

Love her! She’s the sweetest and the smartest!

[@PonchoNOS]

really nice that you do this for people.

[@dawnthomas3282]

Thanks Kati , looking for tips on coping skills,and DBT , I'm 61 and just beginning trauma therapy, I'm looking to learn more about the resiliency zone so I can eliminate or mange my emotions while taking part , because as of now I'm having a hard time just taking about how I feel, because I've really never felt completely comfortable with my feelings in a very long time and so I've been swallowing all my feelings, and it's a lump in my throat. So thankful for your videos.

[@MrPolyalert]

these are very good tips! i used to have intense anxiety (and still somewhat do but less frequently) it helped me to journal, get rid of negative self talk and replace it with positive self talk, and have coping skills. one of the ways i coped (other than to talk with friends/family) was to watch A LOT of funny TV shows/movies/KZbin videos. when it was hard for me to even wake up and get through my morning routine, i just popped on a funny KZbin video and watched that as i brushed my teeth and it helped me immensely.

[@gabel6630]

It was a nice surprise to see you on the TV show The Doctors. Thank you for all your helpful videos.

[@MtnsR4Me]

Excellent video! Thanks Kati!

[@minnie310]

Perfect timing Katie💁‍♀️ answered so many questions

[@nosteviewonder8959]

Tony stark? Is that you?? 👀

[@minnie310]

Ikr?? Lin Manuel looks a lot like rdj

[@watermelonwishes4193]

I've been semi-actively working on this very thing. Haven't been hospitalized in 21 months, which is the longest in quite a few years. I've had a few minor slip-ups (self harm.) but continue to get stronger instead of automatically giving into the urges or even the mindset itself. I fight instead of giving into going to the hospital. I miss the hospital less and less. I try to be patient with myself but it's frustrating. I'm 53-don't want to spend these years struggling to stay out of a psych unit.

[@_just_TK]

Watermelon Wishes you got this! ❤️💪❤️👍

[@watermelonwishes4193]

@@_just_TK Thank you! I appreciate that.😊

[@ahmedhossam4636]

I can keep hearing that "welcome" in the intro for hours (so adorable)

[@kawaiivalpal]

I feel like these tips are helpful for any mental health problem

[@Dr.physioAli]

Thank you😍😍😍 You're amazing and unique. Your videos are helping me alot to grow as a person. Thanks ❤️

[@evaeckerstorfer1659]

I think resilience is such an interesting topic. In school I kind of randomly chose "resilience and the seven factors" as my thesis topic and it definitely helped me to grow as a human being!! I love it that you are talking to your viewers about it, because resilience is powerful or it's powerful to know something about it!! Lovely greetings from Austria 🇦🇹😊💕

[@4320Amber]

Her “Welcome!” is legit the cutest thing ever!

[@CDash162]

This was a really great video. Thank you. You covered everything.

[@stefgreen5237]

I don’t like goals, I can get too caught up with them, doing them perfectly, adding too many on top of others, getting so frustrated when I fail. I naturally work towards what I want to achieve and prefer to celebrate it when I achieve it rather than make lists to tick off

[@chitabanana16]

Perfect timing Kati! 🙂

[@AdrianColley]

Each one of these is a skill that I feel like I haven't developed enough. But that's probably the point.

[@irmaadams7780]

Your videos are very easy to understand and inspiring for realistic start for action. I subscribed immediately after I bumped into one of your videos. If you would pleade post a video on explaining the harms of using alcohol or marijuana to handle would really help someone I know and love dearly. Another topic I think would be helpful is to address a helpful solution to people refusing to take antidepressants to avoid the weight gain. Thank you so much for your time.

[@_just_TK]

Irma Adams Welcome to the Community! Ck out Kati’s playlist on addiction! kzbin.info/aero/PL_loxoCVsWqzSlM3Xf6G5n5mli7LogtbF

[@vaibhavjaiswal7558]

recovery is real ,resiliency is real period

[@tinythingy4]

I like to think of mental health as an ocean. The sealevel is at a certain height, and it takes time to change. Then there are waves on top that change quickly. The sealevel is your base mood and the waves are the more temporary feelings. If the sealevel is high the lowest point of the wave is still not very deep, and if the sea is low even a big wave doesnt reach as high.

[@caseyprice426]

I’m always told I’m resilient, especially by the crisis text line. I also journal and have a good support system online and I see a therapist. I called the suicide hotline tonight too and they did an assessment it was really helpful I wouldn’t even be watching this video if I didn’t call bc well.. yanno

[@jaqueleenbenjamin7224]

it feels so great to know these , I just hope i could stick on it. Here's to a new chapter of our lives 🎉

[@starview87]

Very good talk, thanks!

[@robot7759]

Never felt like myself. Around 10:40: "I forced myself..." BIG RED FLAG. Sod your goals, living in the moment should be enough.

[@amandav3484]

You have such a loveliness about you! Thank you for providing these videos. They are a huge help!!!

[@rockrosefist]

This really helpped me after a hard day. Thank you!!!

[@storytellerhut3488]

Stuffing doesn’t count as resiliency ... damnit! Wow! This video has soo much in it! Such amazing skills and tips!

[@bejersey]

Great, meaningful video! Thanks!

[@spongebobbatteries]

I'm really glad I've found your channel, you help me a lot. Unfortunately, I just noticed that my self talk is a problem. Thankfully you always make the effort to drive it home in almost every video! 😂 I am identifying steps to fix it. Hopefully that will help me out work any other areas 😁 God bless you!

[@elisebenito2349]

I just recently discovered your channel and it has been amazing! You are amazing. Thank you for your insights and tips. 😊 i hope you don't get tired of helping other people through your videos. ❤

[@samanthacollins757]

That was really helpful Kati I must start journaling again as I get overwhelmed at times.

[@kitterzy]

I went to SAFE Alternatives over 10 years ago back when they had an inpatient to outpatient 30 day program. Although I still struggle with negative self-talk, I at least have become more self-aware emotionally. Makes it easier to deal with impulses when I can spot an emotional trigger and finally have a damn name for what emotion I’m feeling.

[@lfc-1892]

Great information but so difficult really difficult