What Is SPIRITUAL BYPASSING? [How To Stop Doing It!]

[@ChristinaLopes]

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[@csengee95]

everything you are saying is logical and i can understand it from my hearth! ypu are really a hearth alchemist wow its such a good feeling to actually feel that you feel me/us. i love you.

[@lauraoldermanart6784]

I’m just starting to recognize this in myself and understand why for years something didn’t feel right in my spiritual journey. It’s so clear now. Thanks for this video and suggestions for how to stop doing this.

[@TruthSeeker1985]

Thank you for this video I'm a little stuck spiritually I'm trying so hard to change my beliefs its hard for me. There is just so much pain in the world its scary.

[@aboyade9]

Is spiritual bypassing the same as transcendentalism in your opinion? If not, whats the difference.

[@lauraoldermanart6784]

@@TruthSeeker1985 yes it is scary John. I find it’s a tightrope walk to maintain spiritual integrity while tending to very human issues. Figuring out which is which can be the difficult part because pain is part of the journey. It can’t be avoided by using spiritual practices. But it can be experienced,, understood, and released.

[@caitlinmontgomery917]

I had an ex boyfriend who did this - he called himself "spiritual." He would say "no bad vibes!" and use this as an excuse to never work on himself, or to work on things in our relationship. He would avoid me when I had a rough time with my mental health, and can only ever liked being around me when I was fun. I don't feel like any lasting happiness ever comes from avoiding negative emotions. Without feeling uncomfortable how can we ever grow?

[@evadebruijn]

It is engrained in society for individual happiness to avoid negative people. It's in almost every article on how to get happy. I think the concept of happiness is misunderstood anyway. I agree that is not growth. To me it is buying into an illusion. Like some people are scared of the dentist some people seem scared like that when it comes to painful emotions like shame.

[@robertharrelson5024]

Pride says we do not need to look. Fear says we better not.

[@ginaloscutoff2023]

You can't have the light without the dark.

[@andreakoroknai1071]

I had a similar experience with an ex and looking back it's amazing how alone I was emotionally in that relationship and doing the majority of the emotional labor myself

[@aquamarinemintakangoddess9073]

@@Dust394 If my partner has mental health issues, I wouldn't consider a responsibility of mine. As a partner is your responsibility to listen, understand and uplift ur partner's roles emotions not just focus on the good. That's why a lot of people commit suicide because people don't offer an ear & heart. Relationships are never perfect that's why most people give up on each other.

[@georgiasumner1230]

Sooo good to see a spiritual person with the insight to say this. Too many 'spiritual' people are out of balance and need to EMBRACE their triggers. That's how we learn and grow. Thanks a million ! 🙏❤

[@Crystal9100]

Embrace our triggers. Great idea

[@nicoleharris8450]

Wade Haden - Master Jedi Engineer Goth I appreciate ur reply! Made me giggle! Also, if u don’t feel u have any type of “safe zone” I can relate and I’m so sorry. It will get better! If it helps...I had to start out using my bathroom as sanctuary because it was literally the only place I was able to even get 5 min for just me! I personally had had my fill of feeling unsafe and I was the only one that could change it and heal me. But u must find the time however u can.

[@johannachristou6894]

@Wade Haden - Master Jedi Engineer Goth actually.... It is those who have NOT had a privileged life but have gone through horrors and pain that DO have a safe haven, because as you work through your shadow self (your hurt and injured self) you heal and see what lessons you have learned from it all.... In general... Compassion and unconditional love ..... And to learn how to forgive.... Which BTW starts with "self" first we have to forgive ourselves for allowing someone else to treat us badly... Then you forgive them... As they know not what they do..... (Christian quote).... also I suggest you watch all of Christina's videos.... especially the ones on being an "empath"..... I have to correct you... She has NOT had a privileged life.... She has gone through horrendous trauma.... and just like many of us... She has come out smiling and all the stronger for it.... WHY?????? Because of forgive.......

[@evadebruijn]

@@johannachristou6894 allowing someone to treat you badly -> the karma story of babies choosing their parents -> put to this use of zero accountabilty is pretty sick and wicked. I hope I can forgive my inner child for coping how she did (gave me DSM labels)

[@rebecca_stone]

I no longer even register "positivity" or "negativity" in people - authenticity is what matters. And willingness to grow. I think the mainstream's obsession with the "law of attraction" has contributed a lot to toxic positivity and spiritual bypassing.

[@sabinaklenovsek4388]

My life changed in the last 14 day's, since you "popped up" in my you tube chanel . You are so real. 🙏🙏🙏💕

[@pupplecare7981]

Mine too

[@luvinmaks]

Mine too! She is the miracle I've been calling for.

[@stephanijeopdevelt5600]

This is funny... I was thinking the last few weeks about how far away I‘m from being fully enightend and „spiritual“ because I‘m not all love, peace and happiness. I wondered if I would ever be like those spiritual enlightend ones in this life time. Now I have to rethink about this. Thank you!

[@ARA-ee9yr]

I noticed that when I‘m in all of my worst pains and work on feeling them, it feels pretty similar to when I feel love & light. It‘s not the same, but you approach the emotion with a similar sensitivity. At times I expected the pain to feel sort of violent, but then it ended up looking so beautiful. Kind of soft :) It‘s interesting how many ideas I can let go of .. forcing myself into love & light isn’t fun. So I‘ll drop that !

[@Theatersounz]

Shadow work is confronting the egoic mind and bringing it back to the source so it can dissolve away to reveal the truth of self which is who we really are lol! It's so beautiful!

[@trinap.8904]

Profound

[@ARA-ee9yr]

It is kind of beautiful ^

[@maverick450]

"Triggers are my best friend!". This struck a cord with me, I might have to print it out on my wall. I've never even thought of using my triggers so objectively. I think this is the beginning of a beautiful friendship! Thanks Christina, perfect timing as always.

[@aninditanair468]

Yesss exactly !! It's like using your triggers as tools.

[@shobanagopal18]

True just started on journey and trigger was my TF unconsciously since he and me not close He's tutor of my daughter at her classes. Then started feeling oh why y did it and sort of upset but now slowly coming on track

[@susmitaspeaks285]

Instead of referring to my "negative emotions" as negative, I try to refer to them as my "warning emotions" because most of the time those emotions are showing me what needs to be addressed and what doesnt sit right. Because if we dont address what these warnings are telling us, we cant tell what wrong or how we can heal and fix a problem at hand

[@AnneandSteve]

I love that, Susmita. I too intend not to use the word "negative" because of the connotation, and usually go for 'uncomfortable' but I really connect with your suggestion 'warning emotions' since that's exactly how I use them too.

[@julielea8344]

I do that as well, eating me alive now, having a background in psych makes it hard to get around dealing with the pain of growth, much love

[@evadebruijn]

I love that! Thank you!

[@staceylynn7749]

Love this!

[@Deepa0309]

Perfect...I learnt that trick...or lessons.

[@Profoundities]

Synopsis: The dark night of the soul is a blessing beyond words, of a grace beyond measure. ☯️

[@ARA-ee9yr]

I love this ^^

[@Crazy_inklings]

OMG! I've done that..when my dad passed away I bypassed the emotional trauma through spiritual practices..I called it karma..or this or that..u know..the circle of life..& everyone's like oh she's so wise..I was only able to grieve after 4 long years when those emotions surfaced time n time again...but nobody named it so to say until today...thank you Christina! The topic IS rampant..Great Video..love your work ❤️

[@sylviacrafts6704]

Yes, and that's what gives spirituality a bad name, seems as soon as one mentions anything spirituality most people tend to call it "new age spirituality" and say it's evil or it's worthless.

[@heather4089]

My family calls me a witch. 🤷‍♀️ isn’t my fault I was born spiritual. I used to tell my grandparents that I didn’t belong to this planet when I was a child and that I wanted to go back to where I belonged.

[@AjayKumar-bi3dp]

Why bypass? Two fake believes:- 1) I can't face it. 2) some emotions are bad Signs of spiritual bypassing:- 12:58 1) Polarizing into the light 13:18 2) Using sensitivity as an excuse 16:14 3) When you diminish your humanness 20:30 4) Project your triggers on to others or avoiding your triggers 23:47 5) You wear masks 25:07 HOW TO AVOID BYPASSING 26:26 1) Do Shadow work 26:41 2) Reset your beliefs 27:51 3) Come into your power 30:07 4) Embrace your humanity 31:31 5) Work with triggers 33:54 Mantras :- "Triggers are my best friend" "You can face anything that life throws at you." "I am everything"

[@margit6521]

Yes, I've bypassed specially during last years of my marriage around 12 years ago. I attended every "spiritual " course there was, tried to be pure love and light so hard that I shouldn't face the fact that our marriage was over. I didn't want to face my deep wound of rejection I guess. Thank you Christina, you are such a blessing. I'm so grateful you popped to my feed. God bless.

[@ravenstillwaters5195]

Hi Christina, I once had a Spiritual Teacher say love and light. When I got closer to her I found out she was holding onto a world of pain. I enjoy your videos.

[@ARA-ee9yr]

I know that feeling. I‘ve done it myself ^

[@sheryllynn5788]

I have had a hard time with spiritual ascension for many years because I didn’t want to feel any negative emotions. It came back even harder at some point. Now I know more than ever that it is necessary for healing. I embrace the dark side just as much as the bright side. Thank you for staying grounded and keeping it real when relaying these messages ❤️

[@numerouno8697]

Lol. I don't usually leave comments, but this intro from one of my favourite youtubers deserved a word in praise. You are a rockstar, Christina. Love you oodles.

[@ChristinaLopes]

🤗🤗

[@Marticat987]

I do say that I can't deal with some stuff when it comes up, but I say "right now." I know myself well enough to know that sometimes I'm not in the right head space to deal with painful or harsh truths. I don't forget about it, I just put it away until I am strong enough to heal it. Great video, per usual. Thank you! 💜

[@susanhowell1673]

Yes, it takes time. If we feel too weak to confront something in the moment, then pulling back gives us time to identify why we feel weak and then heal it. Shadow work is so important.

[@justjust6486]

I didn't even know anything about spiritual bypassing. I was actually doing it when this video popped up. I know that it was something that God was teaching me because God sends things to me around the time of 11:10 then 11:11 as whatever it is that I'm being taught the person starts diving into it at 11:11. I am quite fascinated with the universe will to show me that it is here for me and to guide me and that I am aligned on my path. I appreciate your teachings beautiful soul. Nameste

[@toughsoftieyogi]

Whenever I am triggered by something, I would allow it to consume me and affect my day. But then I learned to ask myself this question: "why am I triggered by this"? That's when I get to dig deeper and understand my buttons.

[@theStoicMedium]

There is that ever so fine line between embracing the reality of what's so and not being stopped by that same reality. Thanks for the reminder to be here, now, engaged fully in the chaos of living life consciously and with intention.

[@sheilagh808]

I am so glad I found you! When I first started this leg of my spiritual journey the only information I found was Law of Attraction videos. It didn't feel right, but I gave it a go. It did seem to break me out of a "negative spiral" that I felt I was stuck in, but I was always on guard and not fully myself. Now I understand that, while LOA is a tool in the kit, it is not a be all end all. Now I am learning to embrace my shadow and my inner child. I still have lots of work to do, but I am feeling more balanced about my inner growth now. I circulate and transmute my energy instead of "letting it go". It makes so much sense, why do you want to get rid of a piece of you? I have so much appreciation for you and your perspective on spiritual growth. Thank you, thank you, thank you! 💖

[@ellengonsalves3075]

Yes, I had a tornado of devastation happen to me years ago and I forced it deep down because I was afraid it would destroy me. I still don’t like to admit it. Pride/survival ? Then self medicated....now I have a very angry, explosive shadow. I’m loving and integrating thanks to your work. ❤️

[@magilu11]

damn, feels like i've been bypassing my whole life... :/ ALL human emotions are valid and meant to be experienced, I got it now. thanks so much for your tips!!

[@bhartirajsingh1792]

Since the day I had my spiritual awakening,you are the only one who gave me right advice Everytime.🙏thank you

[@DarrenDragonTarot]

Hey Christina. Hilarious intro!!! Followed by great advice from a great spiritual teacher. ☯️🙏

[@Lil_Lite_O_Mine]

♡

[@jamesbeebe3082]

I used to say to my shelf I just wanted to go home. But I was home. Now I realize that I was saying I wanted to go back to the spirit world. Thank you Christina for making everything clear to me

[@calamitywitch]

So many guru's do this. I love that you have pointed this out, far too many fakes. Whether they realise they are fake or not is not the point, but this avoidance is a real issue. Thank you for such a frank talk.

[@NewWorldAllstar]

You're fuckin' pro! The truth is, there's light and there's dark. You can't get rid of the dark by ignoring it and shaming people whenever the experience negativity.

[@TheJasonx7]

My mom passed away 3 years ago. To this day i still grieve,and people tell me you gotta move on,well you never really stop grieving,you know its there and if it breaks you down then do so,only then youll feel better. I love your videos christina so much help during this change im going through.

[@fridaw1015]

Love to you.

[@Thewildmoonchild11]

I am so grateful you are speaking on this! It’s such a huge problem in today’s climate.

[@gela3068]

I love you so much. I had a spiritual advisor tell me that fear is an allusion and it’s not real. But it’s real in my chest. That anxiety is real in my stomach and I felt so strongly in my heart that I needed to work through it in order to overcome it instead of thinking that all of this was not real. Thank you for the validation you’re amazing.

[@kathrynphillips3710]

Theres no real shortcut to anything thats really truly valueable and there has to be a certain amount of inner "self" work and a knowing of the whole of ones "being"..good bad and the ugly..otherwise its just more inflated "ego" great video thankyou so much for sharing..♥️ ♥️ ♥️

[@GreenlifeFin]

I loved this video, and it gave me plenty of thoughts and power. One thing about triggers: when some content is about animal abuse and cruelty or violence, I really don't wanna see them. I want that kind of content to have trigger warnings. Am I not allowed to wish this? Should I just be exposed to horrible videos or photos without warnings or a choice do I want to see them or not...? Because they do traumatize for a long time, the pictures come back and back again to my mind...

[@letthelightin2293]

I love you for this video! Seriously. When I first had my spiritual awakening, I came across the so called "gurus" (eckhart tolle, moojji...) it almost killed me. I went into self hatred because I thought something was wrong with me or I was not good enough for spirituality because I was not able to be like them. I was in so much pain and had so much shame, guilt and anger.... then I found you (life-saver!!) And I finally learned about self love, integration and that my ego is not my enemy nor "less than me". Just: THANK YOU!

[@dawnatkins5614]

Thank you for the clarification. I had someone project on me their triggers recently. Being an empath and highly sensitive I felt such a failure like I've failed in my spiritual journey. It really set me back. Through this video I've realised that it wasn't me but rather they were wounded. It is hard when someone you care about accuses you of being wounded. Especially when I've tried to reach out and understand what the issue is. But thank you so much for this video. It has empowered me and know that I am on the right path x

[@lisas2915]

Thank you!!! I’ve felt like I’m not successful in my spiritual journey because of my human emotions. This video has been so helpful!!!

[@linhngo7398]

Thank you for this content. I was in a "dark" place recently. I gravitated towards spirituality. I liked to community and "unlimited" love an attention. I come from an Athletic/performance based background. This means love/recognition and praise is a result of how I do. I found out that I needed to make some lifestyle changes. The pictures of the girl on the Yoga mat and unlimited happiness, manifestation and the universe sending you whatever you desire is attractive. It made me think why should I do anything or exert effort if stuff can just fall into my lap. Then, I realized that being human is having a concept of "good" or "bad". One set of emotions is defined by the other. Hence, I found myself being guilty for complaining, getting mad or those "unholy/morally wrong" emotions. I ended up sitting on the couch, idling for months and really regret bypassing. However, I do believe in maintaining a solution based positive dialogue.

[@jennawelch3090]

It is THIS! It is this that kept me from knowing my spiritual self for so long. As I work through my shadow work, my triggers, one by one have fallen away. I am so happy to have had the experiences of spiritual people bypassing for so many years; it actually made me face my shadow and dance in the darkness as I was waking up BECAUSE of how frustrated I was of the bypassing. Although it can be difficult to feel through the shadow, it truly is a space with many gifts. Thank you so much for speaking to this (and for all you speak to Christina). I constantly nod to your videos which doesn't happen often.

[@heather4089]

I’m not shy at working with triggers!! I accept when something triggers me and I say to myself hold on, I need to work on this now.

[@mariafitts]

I’ve started my spiritual awakening a month ago although what led me to it was years of pain and stress, I am sure this had to happen, I feel renewed and great. I am learning so much. Thank you Christina, I am so thankful I found you. You are helping me become a better person for the world and most important for my immediate family, I am now really and honestly taking one day at a time and I am truly living for today .

[@Loveflow_Lulu]

This is exactly what I needed to hear/watch and gain info /insight regarding … I thought I was just dwelling on the negative if I gave a lot of attention to it but it’s opposite , I am everything and I will acknowledge and feel all life’s experiences now A big thank you Christina

[@hollyramsay2607]

its my experience that being a sensitive and an empath once you let go of the pain and turn it to energy every things okay but it takes time to get there

[@nejczupan]

I wish people would find a safe way to do the work. And trust each other more

[@matufeliciano8273]

Why is that? If i may ask

[@nejczupan]

​@@matufeliciano8273 Just in general

[@amandadearest]

Omg! That’s what I’m doing too other than dark night of the souls. Also the dark side of spiritual awakening. Thankfully I made a list of the negative things I am having. I will acknowledge and heal them 🙏🏼🤲🛐

[@KEVDJANGO]

I realized I'm too hard on myself and probably doing better than I assume

[@alisonstringer9663]

Have just had a shift in consciousness. You have filled in the 'gaps' that I have overlooked, which led to me bypassing. Thank you for awakening me so that I can move forward on my journey. My anchor is lifting! Xx

[@carmenholland8228]

Every single day I get answered my inner most question from your beautiful, uncomplicated simplified wisdom from the source. I am honoured we both dwell in the same time and existence.

[@naomijustine406]

i love you, you're so real. also i'm so glad you made this because it's so freaking important

[@melaniearce4390]

Thank you for this! I’m trying to ascend and I am struggling with my inner shadow but I’ve been repressing things. I am an empath and I don’t know how to walk the line to heal. I am doing my best to ascend I never realized that I was bypassing.

[@MagellanMG]

I was working with a teacher who lives in false positivity. As I became more awake, I realized how this was so damaging, I am that person who explains false positivity to anyone that will listen!

[@helenzachos4508]

WoW! I needed that. Shared with a friend whose a Master. I will work to alleviate this bypassing. That which bothers you in another is something you need to heal.

[@sanaearthfire3833]

Christina! You are such a blessing to me!!! I am not just following every word you say I am LIVING by it. I've never seen such a reliable and practical approach to spirituality and accession anywhere else and I am in this topic since I am 13, I'm 18 now and my life finally starts to get together, I've been through the Great Depression at 16(lasted for 5 months, was very severe- I couldn't read cuz my brain was benjaxed from overthinking, had nerve pain- physicaly burning), I recovered from it by three truths which became my statements for life- being in the present moment, happines from within and love from within. Overtime, with many breakdowns and cycles, they saved my life. Felt that all is one and all is love, I AM LOVE and I am everything. Then, had my absolute dissolving blissful 4 months. Then had my void spiritual development stage. For 6 months. Now, I know I am in the grounding phase and GOD BLESS YOU FOR DOING WHAT YOU DOOO. Shadow work is the missing link that I lacked. The belief that was stopping me is the extreme opposite from the first one that you have "I can't handle it", it's "if I'm feeling bad -it means I'm not being present in my body enough or not making myself happy enough or not dissolving in love of the universe enough" and that belief has saved my life during a certain period of my development but than I developed intennnnnnssseee spiritual bypassing. I didn't allow myself to be sad or frustrated or lost. But I was in the void and oh yes I was. And now here I am, this summer is "the summer of not forcing" . And shadow work.

[@elizabethbooth3182]

OMG! I have been a spiritual seeker all my life. Always questioning and open to different ways to get a handle on this spirituality thing. I have been guilty of spiritual bypassing and have even introduced friends and loved ones to the practice. Now I understand that we must embrace all aspects of our humanity. From the perspective of our higher selves, there is no judgement. We bypass to avoid pain, but real peace only comes with acceptance of ALL that we are. Thanks for a beautiful lesson. 🙏

[@dianafernandez1924]

Whoa! Best video so far I've seen that has really opened me up to healing, but I've gone so long swimming upstream, (and I'm scared of the triggers) and even literally almost jumped off my couch because of my own literal shadow! I moved too fast & was dozing off. So, in other words I'm 'scared to heal' and 'scared to feel'. I've noticed & been told I'm projecting & can be quite mean with my words to those who say they are my friend & have always 'been there' for me. I do notice something is off with them, but then again I've been 'really off' and downright reckless. My family believes since I was diagnosed with a mental health condition that it's just a mineral salt that balances me out. But Tyne experiences I've had I felt were necessary....I believe my mental health condition can be managed/cured with nutrition & doing daily spiritual cleansing (I'm not getting off my medication) I just feel blocked because I haven't worked for years, am finding my passion(s) , but for sure I know I'm an empath because I actual feel too much or not enough. I'm scared of the process even though I know I've been activated & cannot go back. I guess I feel since I had 'bad emotions' and am 'projecting' also that I owe people an apology. But their belief system is not the same as mine or none really at all. I just don't know which way to go as some if the things I recently went through are unexplainable. I know they happened, but don't know to what extent was my true self experiencing these things or lying to myself. It was like I was on an LSD trip but without the right LSD (something from last October) Anyway, I've written a ton here. Thank you for making these videos. They've helped heal me a lot. I just next more healing! A lot of info to take in! *hug* thank you thank you Christina! Any interjection would be appreciated such as yourself who are much appreciated! I am tired of swimming upstream & prolonging my lessons/suffering.

[@crystallady6707]

I have done each of these bypass things at one time or another. But they aren't prevalent, thank goodness. I am now more clear though that we are all things! Thank you.

[@belkis3000]

Thank you for this video. I never realized I was bypassing and avoided dealing with negative emotions. Knowing it's ok to feel "negative " emotions is refreshing in a way.

[@ObiNovi]

Great video Christina, it's prompted me to subscribe to your channel. I particularly like how you describe false positivity with the example of when anger starts to bubble up we tend to cover it over with fake positivity instead of dealing with the source of this anger in a constructive way. I have been studying the Steps to Knowledge, step 241 talks about how anger calls for remedy and not for condemnation, it is an opportunity for true communication by recognising the 'seed' of this anger.

[@jamaicanaphrodite]

This lesson was paramount for me! When I feel the full of emotions and let them let go, my life is so much better!

[@lisetteramos6415]

Bypassing just slow down the process. As uncomfortable or painful could be sometimes is better face what I have to work out to heal it. It doesn't mean I have to bit up myself, just be aware of my truth, accept it and work on it. You are always in tone, thank you for your huge guidance and support. Many blessings to all. 👽🦄🐳🐘🦋🕊🦅🌳

[@LADYDIVAful]

This also coupled with or the same as "toxic positivity"!

[@laailahaillallah_h]

You say so many beautiful empowering things! I just faced a trigger and I did feel the importance of accepting my emotions and integrate it back to myself. Embracing my humanness and inner knowing that I'm a powerful soul capable of facing and healing anything in myself.

[@mariiannamoon5027]

SO IMPORTANT Christina.... Thank you.... I’ve seen this in healers.... it is not always enough to look at pain just once... my experience is that we peel off layers of pain like an onion when we face our shadow. The hardest thing for me was to honour ALL of my feelings.... ALL of them..!! My sadness, dispair, confusion, anger, anxiety, depression, and also joy and happiness. We are all! Yin and yang! As you say, exactly! This shadow work has taken me many heavy places. It takes time to process. I always ask myself.... if someone NEEDS to state that they live in love and light and positivity .... that probably aren’t! I’m an empath.... and I met my shadow catalyst 2 years ago...so I cannot “escape” my shadow. I’m literally pulled towards my shadow or him... it is intense... and a GIFT !!! I an eternally grateful for my awakening and him constantly challenging me to grow🙏💖 Listen to your intuition and gut! So embrace your shadow. Your soul really wants to heal!!! Thank you Christina for your honesty and earthy approach. Love you🍓🌹

[@charlenelackey5810]

Yes, I spiritually bypass quite often. I’m a work in progress, as they say! All part of the journey, another good saying! Thanks for all you do!💕

[@eftsoulpath333]

I was masterful at spiritual bypassing. Then I got certified in EFT. What a great way to graduate from spiritual bypassing, mostly! But at least I catch myself when I'm doing it now

[@stephaniesinclair6678]

Yas! I was absolutely one of these types in my 20s. I wasn't so much "positive vibes only", but I thought I was some sort of guru that I wasn't. I am in my 40s now and doing a lot of inner self work to address years of inertia that happened after I tripped and fell over my own self inflated ego in my 20s. Love your videos, thanks for keeping things real.

[@rossella3193]

Yes I have...for many years in fact. Though it wasn't possible to fake the 'there's no "negativity" here, all is perfect' for long without feeling miserable and disconnected and losing faith....drifting farther and farther away from spiritual gifts and power... now in just a few months I'm doing the work I haven't done in years (not saying that I never tried to heal before, just I didn't like to face emotion such as jealousy or superiority/inferiority). It isn't always easy not to feel like sucked in the dark. I am definitely not going to incarnate again after this life in a planet with such heavy density. I know Gaia and us are shifting to the 5th dimention... great...next life I come to Earth is only when that dimention is well settled in because I think I deserve an entire life of vacations in this beautiful planet...dancing, singing, eating amazingly tasty food, traveling, laughing, sharing beautiful experiences with others in total love and bliss. Come on trust...we can experience some, or better all of this even in this lifetime... 🙏🌻😆

[@lizbrooks6189]

Love your fast delivery and giggles...perfect! 🌟💫✨

[@amyself8008]

Wow!!!! This explained so much to me. I had it all wrong!!! I thought I had to avoid the negative and only embrace the positive. “love and light”. I had no idea triggers are my best friend. Shortly after watching some of your videos I was presented with a trigger. I followed your advice and wow what a BREAK THROUGH!!! Thank you again Christina for making these videos available. For the first time in my 44 years of life, things are finally making sense and I now know that I am NOT crazy. My inner child is majorly wounded and with your help I am finally on the road to recovery. I have a lot more to learn but I do KNOW that I am on the right path. Your videos have literally saved my life. Thank you again ❤️

[@claireemily1983]

Perfect timing! I've known about spiritual bypassing for a couple of years and downloaded and audio book about it last year but never got round to listening to it till this week. I was awakened around the same time as i suffered a traumatic brake up so spiritual bypassing was exactly what i did when i didn't receive help or guidence for my core pain. Having pulled away from spiritualistic practises I began to realise what i was doing when i was still dealing with the same pain 8 years on. It feels like the same self deception that lead me to the circumstances that caused the trauma. Because of my Complex PTSD i suffered dissociation symptoms which at the time i thought was an outer body spiritual experience.

[@aNnAkt1qw]

Gosh, absolutely. I am takening this in and will watch a few times. Am new to my spirtual journey and done a few things wrong... thank you for your help 💙

[@jd4760]

Hi Christina, you have an uncanny knack of knowing what I need, when I need it. I'm so grateful for you 💖🙏🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

[@lalavernon39]

I just came to this realization and The Universe confirmed it. I realized that as an Empath its not only about feeling others emotions I can also influence the room too! We are so powerful! It's all about what you focus on. If its a "lower" energy I thank it and ask it what is is trying to teach me. Then I release it with love and light back to source. We are all one, we are all versions/lesson of /to ourselves. It's a life lesson to learn to balance the dark and light within us. It's necessary. Just like the Divine Femine/Masculine energies within us.

[@stephanaswanson8693]

Oh my goodness! I was told by an acquaintance friend that I was spiritually bypassing and I had no idea what that even ment. This helped me so very much, thank you! This pointed out a lot for me to work on!

[@deborahhammond5183]

Yes!! I will start seeing triggers as blessings!!! Thank you!

[@C2L222]

This is so eye opening for me. I do this a lot to avoid dealing with difficult emotions, I was not even aware of how much untill now. Thank you for your guidings.

[@janisalbuquerque3662]

First, I want to tell you, my friend introduced me to you/your website about a month ago and I am hooked! You, your work, your teaching, is exactly what I need-and have needed-for so long. I am hooked on your meditations-and before you, I could not still myself long enough to meditate. YOU are a beautiful soul ❤️ (I think I have a little “girl-crush” 🤫 Must be the Portuguese/Azores connection 😉). Anyway, I want to thank you so much for this video. You touched on something I have long wondered about: anger and other negative emotions. I have been very confused about them. I always wondered if “enlightened” people ever got angry. I live near Amish country, and those people seem to be the kindest, happiest, most grounded, forgiving people I have ever met. Complete pacifists. And I often wonder if they ever get angry. Anger is a big part of my search for spirituality and enlightenment, and which has been pushing me towards a higher meaning and open heart (mine is closed). So I am extremely grateful for you talking about this today, and acknowledging and reassuring us that it’s okay to be angry over something. It’s not a roadblock or fault or excuse for not pursuing spirituality. That it, like anything else, is PART of the process to becoming a spiritual person, not a hindrance. Thank you 🙏 Namaste ❤️

[@TechGoku]

Lol we shared the same girl crush. Maybe we both should be friend. Love and peace to ya

[@OneHome777]

This is one of the most important topic. I have so many questions about it. With triggers I find questionable the suggestion of of not avoiding triggers because in certain moments when we feel so low in energy they appear even more often and it becomes so hard to deal with that I find the avoidance to be the best solution. There is some people who have such a powerful negative vibration that it feels Impossible to deal with... This applies also to positive and not so positive thinking. At times it seems very hard to just be. And we react in negative ways and may harm ourselves and others or shut off in order to preserve our energy...

[@mad7o7]

I was with you until you started talking about trigger warnings. Like I do think its important to manage your own triggers. But also there can be a period of time after trauma where you literally just need a break from it all. Especially when it comes to ongoing trauma such as racism, homophobia and transphobia. Because yes people will be triggered but that is because of the very current threat on their lives and I think that people in that situation deserve a safe place from all that nonsense and sometimes trigger warnings can be the best thing someone can ask for. Its like giving unsolicited advice to someone who is going through a recent grieving process. There may be good information there but a lot of times we need to have that space to feel safe for a moment before we can start doing our shadow work.

[@ARA-ee9yr]

Love how you worded it. Encouraged me to feel that space with more comfort & honor it before throwing myself down a darker rabbit hole! Thanks 🙏🏼

[@lindsb3541]

Compulsory allegiance to emotions perceived as positive. Yes, I see this ALOT in Counselling and in spiritual communities. 'Light and shadow' are natural parts of life, and arguably couldn't exist without the other. In my field, there is an emphasis on not judging our emotions, but rather to feel or sit with them and/or process them without shaming ourselves for their occurrence. Another excellent point made was regarding the use of sensitivities to avoid dealing with said emotions. Some might refer to this as an external locus of control or responsibility, which can create a perceived victim mindset. This seems pretty rampant in a number of ways in general society, and sometimes reinforces a type of 'social policing" where people silence others due to their inability to tolerate energy/emotions. As mentioned here, expecting the outside world to conform to, or respect our sensitivities, is rather impractical, yet I see many people with this expectation. I also see a lot of fear-driven risk aversion, in that there is an avoidance to confront issues/emotions, which really serves to paralyze growth.

[@MrKillswitch88]

I see a Lot of women doing this for said reasons and then there is the men with little to no tolerance be it for their own emotions or that of others coupled with a very narrow range that is socially acceptable. I've also notice that a large part of the population in general doesn't like depth and intensity of emotions as well avoidant of real connections.

[@lindsb3541]

@@MrKillswitch88 Absolutely. There's a culturally reinforced narrow range of 'emotional appropriateness', ESPECIALLY for men (including expression), which, as you've mentioned, can lead to very superficial or stunted emotional connections/relationships where placating and/or inauthenticity can often happen.

[@ravenstillwaters5195]

Very observant post, thankyou for sharing.

[@MrKillswitch88]

@@lindsb3541 To go further I've noticed a lot of extroverted types being superficial where real friendships are rare while having collections of acquaintances.

[@ireneshreeve8170]

Thankyou Christine, you have revealed to me in the last few weeks, that I am an empath; you have also revealed that I am bypassing my spiritual self; so thankyou for your videos, I can work on my problems! The last few weeks, I have learnt more from your videos, than years of watching numerous gurus & spiritual teachers, love, Irene

[@gattonelcielo]

ha ha ha!!! LOVE! 100% true Your videos are truly free-ing! Empath and sensitive, but not fragile, but I have decided at 57 to avoid aggressive energies, but if I have to deal with it I have no problem - I´m scared but brave- still! Important to be grounded when spiritual, since we are in human form.

[@primordialsoupmix5816]

I so desperately needed to hear this. I live in a house where everyone is like this and it is really painful to be on the receiving end of it.

[@prinzkosmo9437]

"I can't face it" Darn, you got me again. Looking inward means becoming aware of the extent of my emotional battlefield, of all the broken dreams, of the countless layers of protection that seem to keep me from feeling any of the deeper emotions. It seems difficult to make any progress, which is disheartening and a constant source of frustration. Of course, I wanna make up excuses!! 🐶

[@lisetteramos6415]

More than I accept and integrate my shadow side, stronger and more aware that I am in my process. Grateful for your wisdom. Blessings. 🖤❤🧡💚💛💙💜

[@ric2910]

Hi Christina, This video was my WAKE UP CALL. I'm both thankful and not thankful. Now I'm going to have to face my **** and to be honest I'm scared. But I'm seeing the reasons of the truth of my actions and behaviours. And I have been wanting to do things in my life, yet I am STUCK and not standing still. Things are making a little more sense. THANK YOU. THANK GOD for you being here to help us move forward step by step and day by day. 😊💜🦉👌✌👍

[@larsstougaard7097]

Good luck, we have all avoided things along the way. It's not fun work, I'm in the process daily, more easy just to go bliss and don't face shadow or inner child that needs the light and self love. 😊🙏

[@lifeisbeautiful7047]

When you feel, You start to Heal

[@sharmar582]

Yes I have bypassed......this was a super great video. I learned alot. Ty so much for all your Wisdom.

[@flymae1815]

I like that you pointed out the difference between fragile and sensitive. Telling my close family about my spiritual awakening was a mistake. They judged me so bad. I can't help but avoid them right now and it has caused me to bypass. Its like now I have something to prove at a time in my life where I am the most vulnerable. Its scary and I find myself focused on their judgement more then I do my mission.

[@1111Annie]

Triggers are my best friend, i like that one a lot. Changes the feel of the word trigger into something more workable than avoidable. Nice!

[@justneedtovent]

We are meant to feel the pain.

[@amyiseman8430]

Thank you! I'm definitely guilty and working on overcoming this and connecting with myself. I've been out of my body for so long and slowly reintegrating. Thank you again ❤️

[@nalahappy2547]

Yes I was doing this for years and I noticed I would get very stuck, hard to move forward, hard to achieve my goals or use law of attraction, I felt constant blockages until I started my healing process a few months ago. my life has completely changed and blessings Iv wanted for years have come my way, I learned to love my self and i live a happier healthy lifestyle living in my truth and accepting every part of me and really embracing my shadows, allow my self to feel any emotion and sit with it. I feel so free.

[@comeawaywithme]

Just wanna say THANK YOU for your content. I’ve found you in the midst of my own spiritual (re)journey and, although it’s been only a couple of months, your thoughts on embracing triggers resonates with me. I’ve slowly been learning how to transform all of my anger and resentment into music as a way to not only see what I’m thinking (through lyrics) but process how I’m feeling through the music itself. Much love ❤️

[@matufeliciano8273]

Good Morning, You spoke in a video about flash's come up of things you didn't remember. Well, that's what my shadow is giving up. This was my first experience of injustice. Glad it was my child calling me to heal. Never listen to people who tell you to suck it up. Those are the same people that tell you to go fetch a stick for a whipping. So the river flows down stream.

[@jyotsna4704]

thats why everytime i try to do shadow work by your other videos i quickly dissociate but now felt like myself after 5 years.blessed is the word.watching your video healed alot.😅accepting that even the person who dissociated was me.thanks a lot.🤸‍♂💎💕

[@laurengamache2576]

Thank you this! I awakened back in oct. and wow a lot has happened but i feel that i am now bypassing bc i feel codependency is becoming a larger problem and i thought i healed that self worth but its getting in the way more and more often. Thank you for these tips!

[@WhatWouldChuckNorrisDo]

Thank you for confirming my intuition and beliefs on these topics! For quite a while now I've been feeling and thinking that maybe I'm not as spiritual or awakened as I thought I was and that maybe I'm not really an empath because even though I am sensitive to energies and situations, I am not really "triggered" by them too often (not to a debilitating point anyway), even if they upset me, I just try to understand them and the motivations/lessons behind them. But now writing this, I guess thats what empathy really is, understanding situations on all levels. This past year I've been blessed with so many confirmations about who I am and what I thought my purpose and journey is and I've learned how to trust my intuition again. Thanks for all the great content, it truly is appreciated! 💕

[@sharynbailey4235]

I cannot stand to be anywhere near spiritual by-passers anymore. These people were once my inspirations spiritually - & I gave my power away to them in the past. Grateful for my empathic sensitivity now that sees the false over done smile & am well aware they minimise or deny the challenging impact of my traumatic experiences in my life - which is insulting!

[@sophiakakueva1710]

Honestly thank you for sharing such truthful, powerful information, i never knew this was a thing until i saw your video and i hold my hand up and say that i have been spiritually bypassing alot but ever since your shadow work video i started to see the wounds that have been buried within me, thank you so so so much Christiana.