What Is The Meaning of Jesus' Exception Clause in Matthew 19:9?

[@davidbotelho6211]

I’m Matthew 19:9, Jesus is stating the person divorcing his wife and remarrying is committing adultery unless he divorced his wife because of her sexual immorality. He wasn’t saying that unless the divorce was for the wife’s immorality that SHE commits adultery. The explanation given in this video is misleading and does not follow what is actually stated by Jesus in Matthew 19:9. That is a dangerous thing to do, especially about such a serious, life altering issue.

[@MapleBar777]

It took me a second to pinpoint this as well. I don't think this is a correct interpretation of the scripture. The adultry is being assigned to the wrong person here.

[@apilgrim9105]

You are explaining foolishly!!! The verse is clearly an exception!!!! Unbelievable!!!Even that adulterer without remarying is already sinning!!!

[@setapartone9311]

Remarriage - An Adulterous Lifestyle 💔 Much as divorce is sinful, remarriage following divorce is yet more sinful. It is a step 🚶‍♀️ further against the moral laws of God. The Scriptures consistently describe remarriage while a person's partner lives as adultery. Consider the following verses: "And he saith unto them Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery" (Mark 10:11, 12). "And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and Whosoever marrieth her who is put away doth commit adultery" (Mathew 19:9). "Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and Whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery" ( Luke 16:18). "So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man" (Romans 7:3). These Scriptures consistently describe remarriage as adultery. The Greek verb tense translated "committeth adultery" shows present continuous action, suggesting not simply an act of adultery, but a practice of adultery. The verse in Romans likewise shows that while a person's partner lives, remarriage is not a valid marriage👎, but an adulterous condition. There is an act of adultery- the sin of sexual union while married to another. There is also the condition of adultery - the sin of a marriage relationship with another while one's true 💑 marriage partner is living. With such clear Scriptures, why would professing Christians ✝️ 🤔 attempt to justify divorce and remarriage? One lady who herself married a divorced man and later denounced her situation as an adulterous union described her downfall. REASONING is one of satan's 😈 most effective weapons. How easy 😏 to reason away obedience to the Word of God. The eternal purpose ✨ 💛 of this life is not so much that we should be happy but that we should be holy. Yet there can be no true happiness apart from righteous living... "I fasted and prayed 🙏 a great deal, seeking God for an answer directly from Himself. But, although I sought a word from Him, no word was given. Nothing. Complete 🔕 silence. Only later did it come home to me that it is vanity seek a rhema (utterance) from God when He has already so clearly spoken in the written Word. Yes, a word may come which contradicts what He has said in the Scriptures; but that word 🤔 comes from the wrong source 😈. It is impossible to remarry with integrity while one's partner is still living. The treacherous spirit which leads to divorce is the same spirit which leads one to remarry. It is a betrayal 😔. In marriage , 💑 one can give his commitment to his partner, but in remarriage one can give only his treachery and 💔 broken trust. - Christian Family Living, pgs 173-175, John Coblentz.

[@BennettJonWayne-xw9vi]

I agree with this comment. The teaching on this site is FALSE TEACHING. BEWARE OF FALSE DOCTRINE HEREIN, FROM FASLSE TEACHERS: 2 Timothy Chapter 4 3 "For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; 4 And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables." Simply read Matthew 19:9 and Matthew 5:32, two clear concise Bible verses, and do what they say, and say what they do say, instead of something else. Avoid false doctrine.

[@abetm2193]

This teaching is correct. If you will study the depth of the scripture, there is no exception for people to divorce their spouse. Once you are married only death can free you up from that covenant.

[@lizcutajar9352]

@no name is necessary The beginning of the Bible is even better Gen 2:24

[@Mayoyaquiwarrior]

There is divorce with bill of certificate, please read duet ch 24 also husband found uncleanness give her bill of divorce and she can become another man's wife

[@abetm2193]

@@Mayoyaquiwarrior if you will study deeply its not the meaning of it. Jesus Christ himself corrected it.

[@Mayoyaquiwarrior]

@@abetm2193 your ignorant 🤦🏽‍♂️

[@abetm2193]

@@Mayoyaquiwarrior no i'm not. The bible requires wisdom to understand what it really meant. It cannot be interpreted by knowledge alone.

[@livingunashamed4869]

Divorce was never part of God's original plan, separate if you have to but don't divorce.

[@johnborland7865]

Kevin B death wasn’t part of God’s original plan either, so make sure you don’t die.

[@lizcutajar9352]

@@johnborland7865 We do not really have control over death...but divorcing is something that we decide to do.

[@johnborland7865]

Liz Cutajar not always, sometimes it is thrust upon us. Just like we can end our lives or have them ended for us, so too can marriage be ended for us or we choose to end it.

[@lizcutajar9352]

@@johnborland7865 I am sure you agree that suicide is not on or whatever means one may choose to end his life, I do not think we even need to discuss this though I expected you to come back with ending one's life as a means of choice. Yes divorce may be thrust on us but we need to remember that marriage is not a contract that if the other half draws back from his promise it falls , marriage is a Covenant which makes the whole thing completely different. God instituted marriage, it is a Covenant instituted by God himself and so the vow is not only with the spouse but with God himself and so if the husband or wife decides to break his/her vow he or she has to answer to God but the one left still has to answer for his/her vow with God. So it doesn't depend on the spouse who breaks the vow , we all have to answer God for our decisions.

[@johnborland7865]

Liz Cutajar yeah, but I didn’t want to kill her for adultery. So instead I gave her a wedding gift, divorced her, and set her free. Never to return, offered to let her take anything she wanted, helped her move with her fiancé. Our marriage is over. She is now, no more, and no less to me than any other brother or sister in the church. The relationship we once had was over. Now we have a new relationship a lesser one, but one of friends acquaintances.

[@goodbonezz1289]

You guys are messing around. The accurate word is ‘fornication’…that is the word that comes from the Greek ‘porneia’.. Pay close attention, Jesus did not say ‘except for adultery’…those are two specific things and are mentioned as such in the Bible. The Greek for adultery is moicheuo. That’s one of the many reasons the KJV should be the go to version. The whole generalized ‘sexual immorality’ just leads people down the wrong path. They are being to, and allowing themselves to believe it’s ok to divorce and re marry if there was adultery in their marriage. No. That’s not the case. If you can’t be together l then be separated. But you can not marry anyone else while your husband or wife is alive. Jesus was saying if a man found out his wife was not a virgin before he married her then he could divorce her. Porneia=equals general sexual immortality, fornication. Moicheuo=adultery. He did not say for adultery.

[@grant2149]

Excatly💯

[@shab7271]

I guess we will find out when we cross over!! What about abandonment from a spouse.

[@Seafarer62]

Or the "innocent spouse" whose wife wanted to marry a guy from work? I was faithful, worked hard, and provided her a loving home. But she betrayed me. Our two children never have really recovered. One died by suicide a few years ago. The other is in a horrific, same-sex relationship. I remarried 25 years ago to a never-married Christian woman. We have a loving Christian relationship and have just retired. If God sends me to hell for this incident that was out of my control and for which I have repented for whatever portion of the divorce was actually my fault, what does that say?

[@gwendolynwehage6336]

In Matthew was written to Jews who had the custom of divorcing from the betrothal, which is why the word "fornication" was used instead of "immorality" or "adultery." In the other gospels, this exception is not mentioned because the gentiles had no custom of divorcing from the betrothal, meaning engagement. This is also why God said to remain single or be reconciled if one divorced because God makes them one person, they don't make themselves that way. God did this, therefore what God does no one can undo.

[@lavenderwang4423]

David Pawson held the same view.

[@grant2149]

Excatly

[@roberttrevino62800]

Can you provide resources for this ?

[@gwendolynwehage6336]

@@roberttrevino62800 Read the book of Matthew in the KJV it uses the word "fornicaiton which is before marriage. Also, read the book of Luke in which God said, if anyone divorces their spouse they commit sin.

[@roberttrevino62800]

@@gwendolynwehage6336 well I have read the scriptures. I was just wanting some actual resources to articles or teachers that support this. I would like to look into it more and see if anyone else in history teaches this

[@angelmd43]

It means you can divorce if adultery is involved.

[@emanuelbusby2247]

No

[@angelmd43]

@@emanuelbusby2247 Whatever sin you had done in the past including divorce is forgotten and forgiven because of God sacrificing His Son for our sins. You become new when you give your life to Christ and start trusting him and obeying him. 2nd Cor. 5:17 Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things have become new. :)

[@emanuelbusby2247]

Don't change that you are still marry, u can be new all day long, but if the husband or wife still living, that marriage still counts

[@emanuelbusby2247]

He said if a man looks upon a woman lustfully he commits adultery so you are saying if Im walking in the mall and attracted to another woman that's not my wife she can divorce me for just looking

[@charlesdefilmer7433]

I think that scripture been deliberately rewritten

[@outofnaija]

Quick question. Can you explain the reason why marrying another person if your initial spouse commits sexual immorality does not make you adulterous because it seems like according to Matt 19:9, remarriage after a divorce for any other reason makes one an adulterous person.

[@princedarius7224]

THE TRUTH ABOUT THE "EXCEPTION CLAUSE" The 3 words "Exept for Fornication" was added by Erasmus in the 15th century. Greek translations before read "Not over Fornication" Christians don't know the context of the Jews questioning Jesus in Mathew about divorce. God had separated the Jews from every other nation by requiring DEATH PENALTY for fornication (whoredom all sexual sin) and NOT divorce. The Jews asked Jesus could they divorce over non-fornication issues because IT WAS JEWISH LAW FOR Capital punishment for Fornication offenses.... Jesus answered and said that whoever divorces his wife "not over Fornication" ( Fornication was only punishable by death or resolved through forgiveness) and marries another commits adultery and whoever marrys her commits adultery and he causeth her to commit adultery. That is what the pre 1500 greek manuscripts stated That is why for 1500 years ALL CHURCH FATHERS prohibited divorce and remarriage ----------------------- Here's the actual comprehensive research on the subject of the mistranslation of by Erasmus of Mathew 19:9, lmf12.files.wordpress.com/2012/11/divorcemcfallview1.pdf pay particular attention to pages 12 and 13 as these are actual pictures of Erasmus's actual handwriting possibly. God bless Tomothy Mcfall for this wonderful study Jewish Lawyers Questioned Jesus and ALREADY KNEW that "GODS LAW", that all whoredom was punishable by death, (we also know that Moses ADDED to GODS LAW because of the hardness of their hearts (allowing for Divorce, yet Jesus ELIMINATED What Moses Added in the previous verses)) So again, getting back to How the Jewish Lawyers asked Jesus if they could divorce (FOR ANY CAUSE, (the causes they were referring to was NON WHORDOM CAUSES because whoredom was punishable by death (or forgiveness in Old Testament and New Testament Times if the offender repented such as David with Bathsheba, and later David forgave his Betrothed Wife who was with another man, David rightfully took her from him as She was his wife, sparing her life))) So again rephrasing, Jewish Lawyers asked Jesus: Can we divorce for causes other than whoredom? Jesus response to Jewish Lawyers who were still under the Law, was whoever divorces his wife for causes other than whoredom (as whoredom is punishable by death), that man commits adultery, and whoever marries her commits adultery WHY was this omitted from Mark, Luke, and John? The REAL REASON its omitted from Mark, Luke, John ect.. is because, Mark, Luke, John and other books were circulated among NON JEWS who were not required to by law to perform the death penalty for whoredom INSTEAD, men had to FORGIVE their adulterous wives and REMAIN MARRIED as shown EVERYWHERE in scripture. EVEN Jewish men (who could stone to death their adulterous wives), were taught to FORGIVE. Jesus told the woman caught in the act of adultery to sin no more this includes RETURN TO YOUR HUSBAND, this REQUIRED her husband to FORGIVE HER and be reconciled. RESTATED LINKS: lmf12.files.wordpress.com/2012/11/divorcemcfallview1.pdf pay particular attention to pages 12 and 13 as these are actual pictures of Erasmus's actual handwriting possibly. God bless Tomothy Mcfall for this wonderful study ----------- MORE HELPFUL INFORMATION PLEASE SHARE THIS: People need to learn that divorce can be mortal sin on the part of the offending party. Get the eBook or download it free. AMAZON www.amazon.com/MORTAL-SIN-DIVORCE-INITIATE-COMMITTING-ebook/dp/B09KNZL8KQ/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?crid=2XRNXP1LSQ1XN&keywords=the+mortal+sin+of+divorce&qid=1636597104&sprefix=the+mortal+sin+of+divorce%2Caps%2C172&sr=8-3 or FREE DOWNLOAD AT ACADEMIA www.academia.edu/60231712/THE_MORTAL_SIN_OF_DIVORCE_How_Those_Who_Initiate_And_Maintain_Divorce_Are_Committing_Mortal_Sin

[@sunnyjohnson992]

The expression “sexual immorality” covers a range of sexual sins outside of marriage such as adultery, prostitution, homosexuality, etc. Today, adulterers are married persons who willingly have sexual relations with the opposite sex that is not their legal marriage mate. Jesus’ words at Matthew 5:32 and 19:9 mean that the only divorce grounds that severs the marriage bond is Por•nei’a on the part of one’s marriage mate. Porneia is the Greek rending of Fornication and includes all forms of illicit sexual activity outside of Scriptural marriage.

[@johnborland7865]

Expectation is reconciliation really, where? Forgiveness is required reconciliation requires two broken people to trust each other. Further being one doesn’t mean you can’t be two again. It just means it’s going to be painful when you sever. If a body part is diseased, or gangrenous if you don’t cut it off, it will kill your whole body. Matthew 5:30 If you cut off your own physical body, how much more relationships. Taking this scripture this way you can argue against organ transplants as unbiblical, after all what God joined together in your body, you severed, and are now joining to someone else. Christians commit sin, sometimes willfully. And sometimes you can’t be in relationship with them anymore. If you believe that forgiveness requires absolute trust again, let me see you trust your brother or sister who is a sex offender to work in Sunday school with the little ones. After all, reconciliation and restoration is the expectation.

[@philipbuckley759]

to understand your true feeling, on this topic....the question is ask....what about the non Biblically divorced and remarried....what course of action is to be taken.....leave that relationship, or stay...so, once again....how this is answered shows the true belief of someone, on this topic....

[@savannahworth2495]

So, if you’re married to a serial cheater you should stay with them? MEN. I don’t think God is okay with that at all. Women are not property and should not be abused. This sounds like bondage.

[@outofnaija]

The spouse who is experiencing the infidelity should 1. Look to God for help and wisdom during this abuse. Sometimes the wise thing may be to separate from the abusive spouse (infidelity is a form of emotional abuse) 2. According to the scriptures we are to seek reconciliation always where possible.

[@beatriceharder8970]

I just separated from a serial cheater. I grew up with Religion and thought I have to stay. God showed me by staying I chose to live under a curse. I have fasted and prayed for years. There have been at least 10 afaires I know of and I have only once checked his phone in 18 years. Now the truth of God has set me free

[@Unworthy_Servant_117]

​@@outofnaija yeah there's a lot of things people should do, but they don't. That's why we rely on God not people. Staying close with your "wife" after she becomes one flesh with another dude is effeminate. The effeminate shall not inherit the kingdom of God 1cor6:9

[@The_Man8719TwitchTV]

Is anyone perfect in their understanding of God's word???

[@philipbuckley759]

no but the attempt carries on...

[@daro8593]

Nowhere Bible says that marriage cant be broken!

[@mariakenedy8511]

Amazing! I new it meant that! Thank for confirming! God never compromised his word..

[@masterchief2403]

If my "wife" lets herself become one flesh with another dude I'm divorcing her. If I didn't that would be very effeminate and the effeminate shall not inherit the kingdom (1corinthians6:9). I agree with everything said in this video, truly, it was all good stuff. But that being said there's even more reason Jesus said what he said: The whole idea of marriage biblically is that you are technically married once you have sex. Because you have become one flesh. If my "wife" becomes one flesh with another dude I'm kicking her out hands down. Sex is a spiritual act, you can't escape that reality just because you didn't get married under the law in your country. The law in your country is man made. The likes of which Jesus explicitly speaks against. All that being said this is why you have to choose your wife carefully. This will very likely not even happen to me because I'll be choosing a woman who's actually on fire for God.

[@Breezy7117]

Please answer regarding this situation: My husband was having an affair- I did not realize, but the moment I learned, he filed for divorce and divorced me, and, now, he has married the other person. For so long, I felt it in my heart to stand for reconciliation- Does Father consider their marriage non-covenant and our could be restored? Would I be considered an adulterer for entering into a new relationship? Please, this topic is complex.

[@markkeenan1]

Still trying to figure this one out. Be extremly careful as if you marry when your ex is still alive you could be commiting adultry and end up in hell. I would stay single and keep trying to have your ex back and if he refuses just keep trying till hes passed away then you can remarry. Stay simgle snd focus on building the church. More free time if ur single to build the church. The way is narrow do not think Jesus will not refuse people into heaven if they do not obey. Scary stuff but we are going to heaven soon and end up persicuted badly fight on sister

[@Sunflower-kz3no]

mark keenan Wow! That is some real talk right there. I’m in that soliton so to say. Not divorced but separated and no other relationship either. In spouses part has but no marriage. 🙏🏽🙏🏽 for reconciliation! True to my vows! Thank you for putting this out there!

[@Sunflower-kz3no]

Keep fighting my sister! I understand it’s hard but God is watching and he will bless you if you stay Obedient. 🙏🏽😊

[@markkeenan1]

@@Sunflower-kz3no if breezy marrys someone when her exhusbund is alive what will happen to her? Will she end up in hell if she does not repent? I dont know for 100% sure on the right teaching. I know the sexually immoral will not enter heaven. Difficult one but not worth the risk if you cannot find the truth on the right teaching. Stay single and serve God building the church. Saved by grace but a bank robber must give back the money when saved etc. He cant just say i have been forgiven and wiped clean so i can keep the money. Same thing if you think u were divorced then saved later to say the same

[@redletters7933]

Breezy7117 : kzbin.info/www/bejne/eaevpoWHfLWcmJo

[@MMAGUY13]

Exception clause the disciples the early church and the church fathers all interpret that you can get divorced for adultery but not remarried when it’s in the Greek that’s what it means to them that’s why they left it out of the other two gospels that have divorce and remarriage is adultery so I don’t think there are any exceptions you can get divorced but not remarried

[@letstalkbiblewithshun.s]

100% right

[@nicosoer7576]

If a wonan devorced her husband and declare later that she is reborn after she devorced wile not reborn . But dont want to reconsile . My question are if she is reborn she would want to reconsile or am i wrong is she really reborn if she doent want to reconsile . Im just thinkig of it can you tell me am i wrong by thinking this way

[@laidback1.0.1.2]

Error Alert! #1. Divorce is only rightly done when a husband divorces his wife for becoming one flesh with a man before she has become one flesh with her husband. Once the husband marries the wife he can divorce her as the law says and not before. #2. After a man takes a wife and marries her, and he becomes aware that the wife committed fornication before the marriage then he can divorce her and they both would be free to marry another, but now the lord asks that we stay together but if we divorce the woman should remain unmarried 1COR.7:10-11. #3. 1COR.7 is dealing with the questions the Corinthians had concerning fornication 1. 1COR.7:1-9= the unmarried 2. 1COR.7:10-24= the married 3. 1COR.7:25-40= the virgins You can not read 1Cor.7:27-28 and apply this to married people this is for betrothed people who are loosed from an agreement to marry and notice it says nothing about divorce because in order to divorce you first have to get married. #4. So people without understanding say you could divorce a wife for being unfaithful during the betrothal period but it says nothing that in the law because when we read Deut.22:13-21 which the marrying process the woman is stoned during that period. #5. If Jesus was asked what does the Law say then his answer would have to be true and based on the Law which gives the right to go marry another person. Matt.19:9=Deut.24:1-4. We can't try and put Matthew against Mark and Luke, we have to realize some books don't always record everything said this is why we read all and rightly divide the word. If Mark and Luke don't agree with the Law but Matthew does then we see everything was not recorded.

[@daro8593]

What a heresy! Jesus is faithful when we are faithless! This passage says that he is faithful to his words that he will deny us when we deny him! Then exception clause is with line of God that he divorced Israel kingdom which was gone and never came back but Samaritans came in their place!

[@danlds17]

This clause was directed at the woman only, and with an OT cultural perspective. If it was discovered on the wedding night that the betrothed woman was not a virgin (assuming that the virgin price had been already paid to her father), then the man had the right to reject her (and not complete the marriage with her). It was viewed as a breach of contract. This of course is not what is preached today, since modern churches won't tolerate it.

[@Phil-bm4xo]

The exception clause was Jewish specific for a time when the Jews were still under the their Jewish/Mosaic law. Matthew was writing to a Jewish audience. It was this very audience who received the prophesy of the coming Messiah’s birth. It was this very audience who would understand the Jewish betrothal system of the Mosaic law as mentioned in Matthew 1:19, which describes the same situation Jesus excuses in 19:9 and 5:32. But Christ “abolished” the Old Law, making it “obsolete.” (Eph. 2:15; Heb. 8:13). Therefore, the exception clause, like the Old Law, with all its obligations, are done away with. The exception clause simply does not apply to Christians.

[@Phil-bm4xo]

@@donovanreed3236 I’ve studied this in depth. It I have investigated the “innocent party” view inside and out, and it does not harmonize with scripture. I’ve investigated the word porneia as used in scripture and scripture and allowed scripture to define its meaning. Modern day lexicons and modern day preachers/teachers are satisfied teaching that divorce and remarriages permissible because it fits in culturally with the majority of their congregations. They are not careful in teaching their view that are actually teaching something completely contrary to what Christ said. They make Christ contradict himself when saying let no man put aunder but yet turn around and teach that it’s OK to divorce and remarry. It’s absurd. And they make Paul himself and go completely against Jesus is teaching on the topic. They teach that some sins or unforgivable. That some sins are unrestorable and unreconcilable. That again is absurd and goes completely against Christianity. I am not the one that needs to be careful when teaching this view, it is those that permit, divorce and marriage that need to be careful. They are promoting something God hates and and they will be accountable. What I am doing is teaching what Jesus said in Matthew 19:1-4 and Mark 10:9. I’m confirming what Jesus said, not substituting it for my own thoughts and desires. So no, it is not I that needs to be careful teaching what Jesus taught it, is those had dismisse this passage and teach that divorce and marriage is permissible when indeed it is not.

[@akinbinuemmanuel6561]

Thanks for the clarity

[@codyross9660]

If you guys get a chance could you do a video on what Christian books are good for believers to read? Maybe in catagories like relationships with spouses, leadership, theology, and parenting all from a solid biblical foundation. God bless.

[@OQUINN83]

1. Disciplines of a Godly Man by R. Kent Hughes 2. God has a wonderful plan for your life by Ray Comfort Check those out You will most definitely Grow in Christ

[@redletters7933]

Cody Ross : kzbin.info/www/bejne/eaevpoWHfLWcmJo I’d also recommend Voddie Bauchman sermon on biblical love....

[@lizcutajar9352]

I would suggest David Pawson and Joseph A. Webb as authors on marriage. There are a few others but only a few as the majority twist off.

[@redletters7933]

Liz Cutajar : both are great biblical teachers......especially on marriage......I’ve read both books by Joseph Webb and they were great reads backed up with biblical truth.....and backed up by early church history as well..... kzbin.info/www/bejne/d5a7d41qi9GIeLM

[@lizcutajar9352]

@@redletters7933 will watch the link. It looks very sound praise the Lord.

[@ElenaRoche]

Does this apply to child-brides? Does it apply to forced marriage?

[@lizcutajar9352]

I believe only vows done at free will not constrained as in the case of child brides constitute a marriage. They also must not be in a covenant marriage with someone else

[@ElenaRoche]

@@lizcutajar9352 What about a case where an underage girl in fear of a gang that is controlling her home area is offered protection by an adult man who also takes advantage of her situation. She finds herself pregnant and obligated to marry the man. Later, when gangs are gone and she has matured, she realizes what had happened she wants a divorce.

[@lizcutajar9352]

@@ElenaRoche It depends what it means by underage. We can all be immature before we get married. I had just turned 22 but it didn't take me long to realize how immature and unprepared I was for marriage. It was very tough and only by God's grace that we have been 38 yrs married to this day. He has blessed us in many ways after I repented of my sins & gave him to be Lord of my life . I believe if a girl understands enough the concept of marriage what it means to vow for life then she has no excuse. God is omnipresent and does not take a vow lightly. Marriage is not a contract as many believe, it is a covenant which means there is another greater than the 2 people and that is God who himself instituted the marriage covenant.

[@ElenaRoche]

@@lizcutajar9352 Does it apply to marriage as in the City Hall, not in a church?

[@ricomagallanes3621]

Im not married,but for my own understanding marriage is a covenant with GOD it doesn't matter if you are married either in city hall or church.

[@Unworthy_Servant_117]

There are a lot of things that arent apart of Gods original plan. Thats kinda what sin is all about. Sex = Marriage! If your spouse becomes one flesh with another person you should divorce them. Let no man separate what God has brought together doesnt mean that no man WILL NOT seperate what God has brought together. If your spouse commits adultery they have essentially already divorced you. Stop looking at marriage through the lens of man made laws. You have to see this issue with spiritual eyes...

[@wmroykarlen]

In Mark & Luke, there is NO exception. Matthew gives an out that isn't there in the other two versions.

[@shadowmist1246]

That argument would not invalidate Matthew 5:32 and 19:9.

[@MapleBar777]

Never thought about it that way. Makes more sense than it being the one justification for divorce tho. It's the one thing that if you divorce them for YOU won't be the one making them an adulterer when they're with someone else because THEY have already made themselves an adulterer. That is a paradigm shift! Is that even right? *edit: I think there is a miss assignment going on here. The bible says the man who divorces becomes the adulterer not the wife he divorced. So, this interpretation doesn't line up for me at this point.

[@betolicks4071]

Hed only become that if he re married tho ? He could just stay divorced and not have acts of fornication?

[@daro8593]

According to this preacher God was heartless as he divorced Israel!

[@DiscipleShaynePlaylist]

The scripture is saying that if you divorce a person and marry someone else. You have therefore committed adultery. UNLESS it was because of sexual immorality that took place in the first instance. And then, if so that is the only exception to which you have committed adultery can be inapplicable in such a matter, SHOULD you decide to leave them and remarry. Mathew 19:9 I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery."

[@lizcutajar9352]

Disciple Shayne That word in Matt 19:9 and Matt5:32 should be translated fornication not sexual immorality because sexual immorality is too general whereas fornication is referring to sex outside marriage. Pl read Matt 1: 18-19 Joseph was ready to divorce Mary because he thought she committed fornication . Please note that they were still betrothed (engaged). Betrothal in Jewish tradition meant that the couple were legally married before consummation thus the need for a divorce . We need to also note that in Matt 19:9 there is the word pornea for fornication and moichea which means adultery. So Jesus used two different words to explain infidelity. The mistake that many preachers are doing today is that they are teaching that pornea is adultery and we even have translations like the NIV which says marital unfaithfulness (another word for adultery) or adultery. It is sad that many are too lazy to research the right doctrine. Still many more do not realize that yeast have been sown in Bible colleges with such doctrine which have worked through many many churches to the detriment of God s name and countless broken marriages.

[@maunder01]

@@lizcutajar9352 Liz God divorced Israel in marriage? So fornication has a much broader meaning.

[@lizcutajar9352]

@@maunder01 If you read Jeremiah 3 God is still married to Israel, he kept calling out to her to turn back v14 for I am married unto you he declared. V1 the latter part God is not asking her if she will come back but he is telling her to come back because some translations have made it look like a question when it's a statement. God said in Jer3 :1 Jer 3:1 KJV They say, If a man put away his wife, and she go from him, and become another man's, shall he return unto her again? shall not that land be greatly polluted? but thou hast played the harlot with many lovers; yet return again to me, saith the LORD.

[@Bebornagain12345]

@@lizcutajar9352 I think you’re confusing a key point here. Divorce does not END a marriage. I think that’s what the other commenter was trying to tell you. You can actually see that by your point that you gave, he gave Israel a writing of divorcement, but STILL said they were married. Divorce is merely a means of separation between spouses. But like Gods situation with Israel, even after divorce, you are still bound, which is why the Bible commands to remain unmarried or reconcile to your spouse.

[@lizcutajar9352]

@@Bebornagain12345 There is a difference between being espoused which was considered a legal marriage only difference is that they still live with their parents and and do have not yet consummated their marriage ...the wedding had not yet taken place. In our setting it is way different we get married and that's it. For life until death do us part. Today we hardly hear of an unmarried couple getting engaged these days. Still, in our culture getting engaged is never considered marriage , it is different to the Biblical Jewish custom. So what was your point exactly?

[@BennettJonWayne-xw9vi]

The teaching on this site is FALSE TEACHING. BEWARE OF FALSE DOCTRINE HEREIN, FROM FASLSE TEACHERS: 2 Timothy Chapter 4 3 "For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; 4 And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables." Simply read Matthew 19:9 and Matthew 5:32, two clear concise Bible verses, and do what they say, and say what they do say, instead of something else. Avoid false doctrine.

[@olegmalyk1639]

Wow thank you. A whole different perspective that’s makes sense now with the other scriptures. Glory be to God. I’m guessing this kind of teaching would be really unpopular to spread

[@arturobarajas786]

I don't understand. What did he mean by porneia outside of marriage when clearly we where talking about 2 people married already.

[@philipbuckley759]

the issue is why is this exception found, only in Matthew...

[@letstalkbiblewithshun.s]

It's only for the Jews in engagement period as scripture says Joseph to put away (divorce his wife Mary, ) because he thought Mary fornicated. Joseph is called Mary's husband in scripture although only engaged. Hence there's simply no exception anywhere eles. To be honest remarriage is adulterous as long as the first spouse is still living

[@philipbuckley759]

@@letstalkbiblewithshun.s thank you

[@letstalkbiblewithshun.s]

@@philipbuckley759 no problem.

[@paul3441]

Why would we take counsel from an ungodly man who calls himself an infidel? The church is irreparably broken...

[@Phil-bm4xo]

Jesus used the word Porneia in the exception clause. He did not use the word adultery/moichao. Porneia (fornication) is a term that refers to the unmarried. In Matthew 1:19 and John 8:41, porneia describes a betrothal situation where a couple had not yet entered into a covenant marriage. Jesus had just established in 19:4-6 that a covenant marriage is for life (v. 6 “let no man put asunder”). By using the word porneia, He excuses ONLY a betrothal situation in which one could “put away” their espoused/betrothed. This is the ONLY putting away that did not break the marriage covenant with God, whereby, no one was “putting asunder what God had joined together” (19:4,6,8). Matthew was writing to a Jewish audience who was still living under the Jewish/Mosaic practice of betrothal. Mark and Luke were writing to Gentiles, who did not follow the Jewish/Mosaic practice of betrothal. And Paul was writing to Christians who also did not follow the Jewish/Mosaic practice of betrothal, therefore the exception clause was not in Mark, Luke, Corinthians or Romans. The exception clause is only addressing putting away, not remarriage. Remarriage is never permitted, except if your covenant spouse is deceased, 1 Corinthians 7:39. Only death breaks the marriage covenant. 1 Corinthians 7:39. God hates divorce. Therefore, he does not permit it for covenant marriages. 19:4-6,8-9, 5;32; Luke 16:18; Mark 20:1-12. Paul forbade divorce as well. Only separation or reconciliation are the options for Christians, 1 Corinthians 7:10-11.

[@barefootdgypsy3233]

If a spouse repents of adultery and you refuse to forgive and divorce and remarry ur in sin. Jesus commanded we must forgive others their sin or he will not forgive yours.

[@shadowmist1246]

There is a difference between forgiveness and respecting someone's will Marriage is 2 becoming 1 flesh. You cannot be still 1 with your spouse when they have become 1 with someone else. That is the principle behind Mat 19:9. Forgiveness: absolutely but that doesn't change the fact that the marriage is severed by adultery.

[@barefootdgypsy3233]

@@shadowmist1246 hosea showed differently. God joins two people as one flesh. Adultery can be forgivin and erased

[@barefootdgypsy3233]

@@shadowmist1246 do you suppose God himself instructed his prophet hosea to sin by buyin his adulteress wife back and remaining in the marriage. Christ says if you even glance at another in lust ur guilty of adultery

[@barefootdgypsy3233]

@@shadowmist1246 Matthew 19:19 is speaking to a Jewish audience referring to the engagement period. The word in original text is porneia referring to sex befor a marriage. Refer to Joseph wanting to put Mary away befor the marriage because he found her to be pregnant. A hard heart wld interpret Matthew to put a spouse away and not forgive. The spirit shows truth through the message of forgiveness and reconciliation in Hosea

[@shadowmist1246]

@@barefootdgypsy3233 You are referring to Matthew 5:28 where he was giving the standard for perfection. Matthew 19:5-6 Jesus describes marriage as two becoming one flesh and gives a reason for divorce in 19:9 which is for when the two are no longer one by fornication (which for a married person is adultery). The adultery referred to in Mat 5:28 would obviously not be for all sexual sin of any degree or else divorce would be allowed by 99.9% of people.

[@anicma]

I don't know. That last part seemed tweaked to suit convenience. After all, one's understanding of abuse can be highly subjective. A man beating his wife can be considered as abuse by his wife just as much as he considers her constant nagging. I think Jesus is clear and there is no need to interpret what he said in any other way. Only sexual immorality justifies divorce. Having said that, I am the least of all Christians who struggles daily to walk in Christ.

[@jessejones2479]

No divorce. That's it

[@saturn7_dev]

Right idea just bit off in explanation. The greek exception word is porneia - which is not actually sexual immorality in scripture but fornication. So Christ is saying only divorce is excepted within the betrothal period or perhaps if she was found not to be a virgin when that was expected in that type of culture. Fornication only happens before the marriage day proper. The Jews had a rare situation from God that betrothal was a type of legal marriage (read Joseph wanting to put away Mary) - its the same today in Jewish culture. Betrothal is considered marriage of sorts until the full wedding day comes. This is why Jesus gave this exception to the Jews as Mathew was written to the Jews while no exception in the other 3 gospels as they were for the gentiles that didn't have that culture of the Jews. If Christ allowed adultery as grounds for divorce he would have said so...He didn't. Marriage really is a living sacrament....and very special.

[@grant2149]

Excatly.

[@ZenzoNkosi]

Wow. Amen. Thank you for clarity in this one, I have been wondering for so long. God bless you ❤

[@BennettJonWayne-xw9vi]

The teaching on this site is FALSE TEACHING. BEWARE OF FALSE DOCTRINE HEREIN, FROM FASLSE TEACHERS: 2 Timothy Chapter 4 3 "For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; 4 And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables." Simply read Matthew 19:9 and Matthew 5:32, two clear concise Bible verses, and do what they say, and say what they do say, instead of something else. Avoid false doctrine.

[@derekgeorgeandrews]

One of the oldest churches, the Catholic church, does not allow for divorce and remarriage. Another of the oldest churches, the Orthodox church, does. Jesus states that divorce and remarriage = adultery 4 times in the Gospels. 2 of those times includes an exception for sexual immorality, 2 do not. As suggested by the above ambiguity, which causes so much debate within the church, God knew that it might not be good to never allow for divorce, but he also knew that if he spelled it out too clearly that that would be taken advantage of. The end result is that anyone who comes to faith and is concerned about it, will be extremely careful in their future decisions, and maybe that's the best possible answer. Which means to me I will never have a truly solid answer on whether it is right or wrong. And God in his wisdom does not want me to have such an answer, because then I would take decisions I make in this area of my life less seriously.

[@emanuelbusby2247]

Matthew19 , now go back and read Matthew chapter 1, This is a berothal couple, before marriage

[@shadowmist1246]

Jesus used married (gamEsE); the same word Paul uses in 1 Cor 7:9 and 7:28. Jesus did not use mnEsteuthesisES (betrothal as in Mary and Joseph) or parthenos (virgin as used by Pau to mean betrothed or unmarriedl).

[@setapartone9311]

No Jesus didn't. He used porneia (fornication)...except for fornication..

[@jewishbride5010]

So how do you know what God has oned???? God bless, in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, Yeshua: amen. Annelies Bakker, the Netherlands.

[@mariakenedy8511]

God accepts the Oneness of two individual people who make a covenant with each other to love and to hold in sickness and in health till death do them part...

[@jannmartin2648]

Was a vow taken? If so, God was a witness to it and honors it. (For people who have never been married before or if one/both are widowers and are marrying someone who has not be married before or are themselves a widow ----- Not if someone is divorced with a living spouse....God would then consider any marriage outside of that "Adultery".

[@heathertaylor6315]

AMEN

[@shab7271]

You twisted it

[@philipbuckley759]

sexual immorality...you are off to a bad start.....so what is the hope you will treat this verse correctly....

[@MsButterfly1179]

Amen!

[@sumijelly]

This is great clarification

[@Skyhigh275]

Real truth real long ...

[@kokopeds8588]

thank you. big help

[@gotmilkboy86]

So God dint allow divorce. Period.

[@philipbuckley759]

try a word study, on porneia....and how Erasmus is said to have changed the definition from fornication, to sexual immorality...

[@jamestebow]

FORNICATION SITUATION “It is reported commonly that there is fornication among you, and such fornication as is not so much as named among the Gentiles, that one should have his father's wife. And ye are puffed up, and have not rather mourned, that he that hath done this deed might be taken away from among you.” ‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭5:1-2‬ ‭KJV‬‬ COMMANDMENT SOURCE SCRIPTURE “The nakedness of thy father's wife shalt thou not uncover: it is thy father's nakedness.” ‭‭Leviticus‬ ‭18:8‬ ‭KJV‬‬ FORNICATION SITUATION “For Herod had laid hold on John, and bound him, and put him in prison for Herodias' sake, his brother Philip's wife. For John said unto him, It is not lawful for thee to have her.” ‭‭Matthew‬ ‭14:3-4‬ ‭KJV‬‬ “For Herod himself had sent forth and laid hold upon John, and bound him in prison for Herodias' sake, his brother Philip's wife: for he had married her. For John had said unto Herod, It is not lawful for thee to have thy brother's wife.” ‭‭Mark‬ ‭6:17-18‬ ‭KJV‬‬ COMMANDMENT SOURCE SCRIPTURE “Thou shalt not uncover the nakedness of thy brother's wife: it is thy brother's nakedness.” ‭‭Leviticus‬ ‭18:16‬ ‭KJV‬‬ SITUATION “that ye abstain from meats offered to idols, and from blood, and from things strangled, and from fornication: from which if ye keep yourselves, ye shall do well. Fare ye well.” ‭‭Acts‬ ‭15:29‬ ‭KJV‬‬ COMMANDMENT SOURCE SCRIPTURE Leviticus 17:1-9 refers to meats offered to idols Leviticus 17: 10-16 Leviticus 18:1-16 Jewish Holiness code

[@tbadini11]

What if you were married in the past, then in a relationship for 8 years, started reading the bible to find this truth of God's word? Man I just dont know where I stand...

[@lizcutajar9352]

When we are faced with a difficult situation no matter how big..we must turn to the Lord in prayer and humbleness and ask him to lead us in the right direction.

[@TheMistysFavs]

+The Goodfella -- An excellent sermon about this that settled my heart.. Perhaps it'll help yours too..here on You Tube, here's the link. God bless! kzbin.info/www/bejne/mKrIoJhvls6eba8

[@grantmoon624]

If you don’t allow divorce and remarriage because of infidelity you two are going to soon be preaching to empty sanctuaries. However, it is correct that those things don’t automatically mean you need or have to divorce. Prayer, discernment, forgiveness, etc are all things one should do before divorce.

[@lindasmith3391]

Read corinthians 1 chapter 7 starting at versus 2 , so you know what fornication is. It is sex , before marriage. There is no exception unless you had sex before marriage. Marriage is one man and one woman for life. They become one. Please educate yourself, so you do not lead people astray into adultery.

[@grant2149]

Excatly

[@ConEnigma]

unbiblical

[@shab7271]

Did GOD divorce Isreal

[@coffeeherbsandotherodditie6032]

Bullshit I studied it your lying

[@pauldonnelly6691]

Fake christains youtube