What KIND of Pretty Privilege Do You Want, And Why? Part 2

[@AFocusedLiving]

@DOLCEKAYEXOTICAL

[@ExoticalsUnited]

omg thank you for reminding me to tag her: www.youtube.com/@DOLCEKAYEXOTICAL My Part 1 to this video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/eZezl5R4m5l8rpo

[@Audrey_1110]

“Stop working out, you don’t need to work out anymore” WOW. I hate those types of mindsets 🙄 We should be working out for our entire lives. It’s good for weight loss and keeping in shape, yeah, but it’s SOO important just for your health in general too. Everyone should be staying active! I don’t care if I’m at my goal weight and have my dream body, I’ll never stop working out because it just makes me feel so good :)

[@s.mclovin800]

I remember in school there was a group discussion about if there is anything we would change about ourselves and most girls in the discussion said yes and i was the only one who said no, some were angry, one was rolling their eyes and everyone else was in shock and OFFENDED that I actually am satisfied with myself and why shouldn't I be

[@QuitetheCaseofWanderlust]

I love how you were confident to say that at a young age. It’s sad how many go to their graves deeply unsatisfied w themselves

[@s.mclovin800]

@@QuitetheCaseofWanderlust aw thank you! I really needed that❤

[@s.mclovin800]

I've had so many girls say I think I'm all that, my hairs not real etc then ask me for my skincare routine, where i shop for clothes and what I put in my hair, some people just hate on you because they want what you have but they can't admit it - There was a time where I was doing my hair and makeup for my college fashion show and i kid you not EVERYONE was just staring at me like the lies they've made up that my hair isn't real or that I wear loads of makeup was just proven wrong

[@ExoticalsUnited]

exactly. they'll talk shit about your beauty but behind the scenes they wanna know how you GOT that beauty so they can do the same thing 💀

[@s.mclovin800]

"why would I cast my pearls before swine" wheww a word

[@Bri-sb5nj]

Love your insights! It’s so true that children have some of the most honest perceptions of beauty. If they’re fighting over you, you’re gorgeous. 😂

[@ambersucces9867]

I use to have really bad cystic acne and now it's completely gone and I have clear skin. I found out that dairy and sugar were causing all the breakouts and the moment I stopped eating those things my skin cleared up in 6 months. From there I layered on Korean skincare and its taken my skin up another notch. I get compliments now on my skin when I go out which is so crazy because of how bad it use to be. Please be patient ladies and watch what you eat. Beauty comes from within so take care of your body

[@NaomiMordi]

I dropped dairy because it was upsetting my tummy, and my acne went away, too. I did not expect that and was paranoid about whether it would come back. Greasy foods and peanuts also seem to cause acne.

[@ambersucces9867]

@NaomiMordi YES! Greasy foods are a trigger for me too 😭

[@cesargalvan9808]

Thank you for making this video. I have been working out for the first time in my life starting back in December 9. I went 12 times in December and eight times in January so far and it’s only the 10th. I listen to your videos when I’m on the stairmaster. Hearing you talk about pretty foods and beluga mindsets really helps me to not be scared of exercising and eating healthy. And this year I am using my prettiness to get closer to God I feel like it is some type of disservice letting myself go and eating unhealthy and not exercising. Thank you so much.❤

[@elliygxoxo]

im so happy you acknowledged kpop/ kdrama fashion. i love that aesthetic however alot of people in the black community accuse me of self hate when i dress like that or when i wear very slimming outfits. i hate being boxed in like that. thats the black supremacy conversation most people aren't ready for. If you ever make a deep dive video on black supremacy that would be dope :)

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Yes they’re black supremacists.

[@VibrantOne33]

So many great topics within this convo! 💗 I think two would make great Patreon chats. 1: how honoring your beauty/beauty standard is spiritual 2: what happens when women try to hide & simultaneously meet their internalized beauty standard

[@maddisb6501]

I watch so many of your videos lol I’m not mixed with black, but I am multiracial Native American Hispanic and Polynesian lol I just love that you talk about pretty privilege and it really is a conversation not enough people are having❤

[@ExoticalsUnited]

yay! welcome to the pretty girl club! ❤

[@neptune2433]

You have such a cool heritage omg! I js know you're beautiful ❤

[@AmaLoveGoddessTV]

Yup many women have asked how I get such beautiful skin. I tell them that I use cheap drug store products. Partly true but I don’t tell them about my organic indigenous oils and butters or services that I get.

[@larose5028]

I do this too! I used to want to be a “girls girl” and not gatekeep but the same ones asking for advice will also complain you do too much. I’m willing to put time and money behind my appearance and I don’t feel like arguing with somebody who isn’t.

[@Iamcoatcheckgirl]

I'm keeping my beauty standards to myself. Great video.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

yup! its none of their business. they'll see your beauty standard when you show up looking like your most leveled up self. you don't need to explain anything or ask for permission to have a certain type of beauty.

[@ExoticalT369]

“How bout this; when I come outside and I look good, that’s my beauty standard.” ♥️👏…that part!

[@jvsh01]

I gatekeep my beauty routine specifically at work because the women were curious but always trying to have a cat fight with me so I give them nothing

[@s.mclovin800]

I honestly think this is the best video you've ever made it validated and confirmed so many of my experience your channel is literally goated

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Wow, thank you!

[@prettyblackgirl777]

The queen has posted🥰!

[@JuneDaetwiler]

Thank you for the frequent uploads gorgeous. One of the few KZbinrs I will click notification instantly !

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Aw thanks ! Im trying to stay consistent for you guys 🥰

[@Iambellarayne]

15:48 I'm thinking about my golden age years so im really looking for strength and leaness. I'd like to be able to do a lot of laborious activity in my older years. Gardening, walking, cycling, swimming.

[@afrofaeries]

I want to have cute and natural privilege, sort of like Halle Bailey

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Oooooooh yes ! She’s so gorgeous and classy !

[@ThatGirlSince97]

Same

[@mivvy9317]

OOOMGG THATS A PICTURE OF ME AT 0:52

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Awwww yay! Pretty girl club 😍 💅🏽

[@smooothsynergy652]

You’re so pretty 🤍

[@ExoticalSauce]

Gorgeous❤😍❤✨✨

[@LGHhhhhh]

Ouuuu😍😍 you’re so pretty.

[@ExoticallyExotical]

Yes🥳 9:08 I'm INFP so I'm trying to figure out how to be more social again without feeling socially awkward. Pretty PTSD.

[@Khem_7]

I've read that INFP is also code for being *Neurodivergent (ADHD/ADD etc.)* - you're going to be socially awkward unless you allow yourself to become uncomfortable, and start talking to strangers to see what works socially for you and what definitely will not work for you🙃🥴- You will be surprised at yourself when you notice these people are smiling while they are having pleasant interactions with you - Shine through beautiful, and Work through your trauma to actualize the life you desire🌟

[@ExoticallyExotical]

❤❤❤ thanks so much I appreciate it. I definitely agree with this. ❤

[@oliviaw.2842]

@@Khem_7 I don't think it's wise to try to throw being "neurodivergent" onto people without being a professional (or at least being their professional). You can be quiet and shy without having a diagnosis :D

[@ExoticalsUnited]

ooooh thats good video topic actually, how to become more social without being socially awkward. i actually feel like social isolation is what causes the akwardness.

[@Illtakeyoman]

omg i have a INFP personality too!! that along with a dismissive avoidant attachment style, i tend to isolate myself a lot, and after the isolation is over i’m back to square 1 being socially awkward again 🙄💖.

[@elliygxoxo]

My kids compliments mean the most to me too, kids are brutally honest.

[@Lioness-je2dg]

I’m starting to rock my natural hair and really taking pride in my hair and what it can do. I use to shy away from wearing it out. My hair has never been this healthy and long. 🙌🤭

[@Exotical_Muse]

I LOVE dolcekay 😭❤️ her content is amazing I binged all of it yesterday lol

[@gracemakeslace]

Finally, a level up channel that is encouraging women to level up but also not give one iota of a rip about the male gaze. Like, if we want to, fine, as long as that's what we WANT for ourselves. But I'm like you, I like feeling like a princess- you mentioned in another podcast that you like j-fashion, and I can't help but wonder, are you also into lolita fashion? Because I'm leveling up to comfortably fit into my dream dress and look not-ita in it. 🥰

[@salafusaliheen]

Complete perfection is unattainable, you will always find something more to work on. Contentment at each stage is imperative. Especially if the insecure will be projecting, just like you described.

[@colleenr2]

I’ve now listened to several of your videos on this topic and our internalized beauty standard. Your insight has been beyond helpful in how I’m piecing together my style and preferences. I think my pretty privilege is a cute and natural. My beauty standard is more along the soft glow aesthetic. I like the fit and lean aesthetic for myself, as I’m very into fitness and biohacking. I still want my fit body to have well defined curves to add more femininity, and maintain my soft appeal. As for where I need it acknowledged, I would say amongst my clients, since I am in sales. I definitely need guys to notice it, since I’d like to get into a (healthy and serious) relationship this year. I feel like I get noticed in most situations, but now I need a more targeted approach.

[@Soutthdakotaa]

That’s exactly mine! I have a “young” almost baby face and I think I need to lean more into that. I want my body to look more like Tyla but like you a bit more muscle tone. I have no clue if that can happen ahah but somewhat like that.

[@colleenr2]

@@Soutthdakotaa​​⁠I’ve thought about this some more, and I think I might vibe best with the Pilates Princess aesthetic. I think it embodies the youthful appearance and attitude I want to maintain, but with quite the focus on fitness. Maybe the Pilates Princess is also your aesthetic. And no, I don’t think you need to have Pilates as your main practice to fit into it. There is plenty of crossover in this look amongst the barre and sculpt crowd 😄. I’ve also been told so many times over the years that I’m a bit JAP-py, even though I’m not Jewish at all. I don’t mind being told I’m a JAP at all though. Now that I look back, those girls were my style reference growing up. I’ve also been called a (regular) princess endearingly by my mother, and more sardonically by some who don’t really know me. Early morning rambles, but I hope this helps you piece together more of your pretty privilege and internalized beauty standard!

[@Soutthdakotaa]

⁠​⁠@@colleenr2yesss me too! I literally just decided yesterday that princess/fairy or Pilates princess is going to be beauty standard! This definitely helps, thank you. I’m wishing you the best on your level up and internalized beauty journey! 🫶🏾😁

[@taz7389]

my fave account rn

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Yay! Please let me know what you want me to talk about next! If you run out of content on here I also have the members page and the patreon as well

[@Iambellarayne]

33:14 my face is everything to me. People can say im vain ir whatever, IDC 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@Iambellarayne]

I wanted my hanging belly and fat back to leave real bad. So then I did it. ✨️🎀 People always complimented my body proportions, and I always wanted to have a flat stomach for real and not just in spanks.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Nice ! ❤️

[@SpringkissedSweetie]

I'm an Infj I'm always described as an enigma to people, either I'm weird or way too cheerful I want my beauty to reflect that...something unique and yet down to earth, something that reminds you of a "home away from home"

[@rachellebrown333]

44:44 reminds me of the glow up of Aaliyah....they say she was scruffy as a teen then they complained that since she became famous she is never seen in a dress = she later admitted she isnt comfortable in dresses She influenced my style as she was proof jeans + pants dont make you manly = I guess I have fashion-resiliance coz if my clothes are disliked I brush it off = my body, my money, my choice😇

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Exactly ! 😍

[@TanzytheglowupG]

Pretty privilege for me would be to maintain acne free skin.i want to gain hourglass body privilege which i almost have once i lose the weight ! I love curves and ive always found that pretty on me. I want long butt length hair because i wear wigs and people assume i dont have hair even though i have a pixie so im growing it out!! I want beautiful hair privileged. Im also of african decent so people assume already that im bald or have short hair .i envy slim fit girls but i want my curves! I also want to get teeth implanys and invisalign my teeth are naturally straight but dentists mal practice has shifted my teeth forward even and my money i want to get up to fix it. Children and good looking men and skinny women compliment me i feel so good! I felt ugly because girls told me i was and handsome men didnt like me because i believed i was to ugly to notice.i was bull!ed so this girl 8 yrs old told me i was pretty i was so confused like why is she lying to me but now i believe and know iam! I want to be percieved as intelligent curvy fit confident creative trendsetter! I want the halo effect to regonize it and to live it out! I also want to be wealthy and still stay true to me.i also feel taking pictures and posting to social media and believe prople will look longer and listen to me more over time.❤❤❤ 😊i love this topic so thank u now im really thinking about my powers as a pretty woman!❤

[@smooothsynergy652]

Thank you for sharing 🤍

[@ericad4569]

I had a facelift at 41. No one noticed what I had done but they noticed I looked refreshed and young. Find a surgeon who specializes in facial cosmetic surgery. Best money I ever spent and I’ll do it again in 10-15 years.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Smart! ❤️

[@Browngemini2024]

I used watch Indian actresses in Indian movies in my early childhood and I saw them beautiful .

[@yahainHotPink]

I love children!! I get it! ❤

[@SevenofEleven]

You are such a Godsend

[@Iambellarayne]

31:30 100% getting a face lift if my face sags.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

I agree

[@jayee2188]

“What type of beauty is worth being demonized for?” 🔥

[@yahainHotPink]

💖💯💐 This will be a good one

[@Saitamaonepunch]

First comment! ❤

[@Browngemini2024]

I love my hair texture(3b) but I want it medium length and I want my beauty to be acknowledged by white people from my country Sudan.

[@Browngemini2024]

I had people say that I look like the actress Halle berry and I think it is because my facial features and hair.

[@ExoticallyExotical]

❤❤❤❤