What Quality Men Find Irresistible in Women

[@BernMendez]

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[@Ash-fx7go]

There are so many men online giving advice to women about men but I have yet to find anyone on this platform who really explains the MATURE, positive and transparent knowledge you share on your channel. You explain the actual important things women need to hear on such a deeper level. Thank you!! I’m so glad I found your channel. You have a new subscriber!!!

[@tanyaakh]

Bern, out of all relationships coaches that I stumble upon the net, you're by far the best and the wisest, cause you come from a mature standpoint and not manipulative. Plus you're always so precise and eloquent and you're not beating around the bush. Thank you for your content.

[@BernMendez]

Tatiana, Thank you so much for your incredibly kind comment. I feel grateful to be able to help you through my videos and appreciate you being a subscriber for some time now. Have an amazing day! -Bern

[@suzy64]

I've got standards, boundaries,sensuality,and everything else you say.....had them all my life....still I found myself @ 63 with no one...because I don't put up with their shiiite.....someone was taking me out for the day...I said I'd cook so we could eat before we left..1pm 2pm 3pm came around still no date no txt message nothing.,when he did turn up he said he had been at his mates..so I asked him what was wrong with his fingers that he couldn't txt ...he said nothing....so I said wait there...I came back to the door with his dinner I'd poured into a carrier bag ..I said there you go you got yourself a take away.. #### off. And I locked the door on him....I had a lovely evening !

[@juliayvonnekaui1938]

To attract my male equivalent he must be enlightened within himself. Most men lack empathy & according to this 3D society he must dominate & we must be lesser than him. A true relationship is balanced & equal. He too must be in touch wiith his own feelings as females we can be all of that & we compromise. To find a good man is like finding gold. Manhinting is not on my agenda. Not doing that. Dating is over rated. When we find ourselves as a whole woman we don't have to compromise. What's good for the goose is good for the gander. A whole relationship js wholesome & reciprocal. It's natural, no bhsxt. No drama. Both people shld be able to be themselves. Not about being top dog. Divine equals. 🌠🌞💛

[@gaylesantone1885]

Remember Ladies--most men are really 8 years old. So connect playfully! It works! Also, it’s FUN for you! Go with it. He won’t be 8 yrs old forever, maybe 5 minutes. Who ELSE would be playful with him?

[@craftychick48]

Great advice, as usual. Thank you. One thing I've learned is to widen my experiences while maintaining my boundaries, wants, and likes. I also am more vulnerable and soft.I accept help. It's made a difference in my approach to the few men in my area.

[@raniyuna2930]

Love your videos and positivity and how you speak to others beings so kind.❤👌🏻 It's exactly what broken hearts need.

[@goodenoughgirl8102]

Ok. So I think my main problem is actually getting out and going places. Or idk. The “right” places. 😅😅. My latest passion has been minimalism and small living. The Tiny House movement lights me up. So my latest thing is joking to myself about how the man I want will be embracing the simple life as well. The funny part was how I said if I have to live in more than 850 sq ft, I’m not cleaning more than that. He’ll either have to go small with me or be able to afford house cleaning help. 😅😅. I’m practical like that. Life’s just too short to be doing house chores 24/7 tho imo. Lol. Having to take care of so much needless, excessive space and tending to all the things one would need to fill said space up is not how I want to be spending the rest of my life on earth. Lol. Ick tho. What a drag tho to have to always be living to take care of so much “stuff” I don’t even want or need.

[@TuffLuv1984]

Don’t ppl in small places gotta clean more? Or it gets cluttered. Gotta stay up on putting stuff away immediately.

[@goodenoughgirl8102]

@@TuffLuv1984 I think it’s a healthy way to live tho. It kind of forces you to keep up and it’s not so overwhelming. Right now I have inherited this property. It has rental potential etc. 7 bedrooms, 4 baths, a guest kitchenette/lounge and so on. The stress of keeping up with all this (plus typical older house and remodel issues constantly) is palpable. There are days I just want to run away from all of it. I’d give my right eye to only have to deal with one bath and one small kitchen, one small living room and 2 bedrooms to look after. Plus eh. People don’t know about cats. They have to explore every square inch of a place or they give you hell. 😅😅 And it doesn’t take nearly as long to just tidy and clean up a smaller space. Less space means automatically less “stuff” Bcuz you have to have somewhere to put things. Less space means you prioritize what matters the most to you and you let go of the stuff that you only THOUGHT you had to have. Plus builders are really getting clever about super efficient and out of the box storage options with much more convenient layouts. And truly. Just how much junk do we all have that we rarely or never even use? And that’s also including rooms in larger homes that just sit there collecting dust....that someone has to keep cleaning. Logically tho. If you have less closet space, you have less laundry and so on like that. If you only have room for so many dishes, it’s less of them to have to wash. The female brain is diff also. And for someone like me, a lot of stuff and clutter just weighs on me 24/7. Its like having a lot of dread and it’s a drag bcuz you know the chores and headaches are mammoth and virtually endless. It’s a real joy zapper for me. Just the fact that I know it’s there. Men can more easily just blow it off I think. Lol. And yes. I’m def in the process of getting out of here and substantially downsizing. Can’t wait. Lol. So I’m not just talking out of my ass. I know what it’s like to have to tend to so very much stuff and space you don’t even want or need. And most def tending to this mammoth dinosaur isn’t at all the life for me.

[@goodenoughgirl8102]

@WVWoman Lol. Yes for sure that sounds like a great plan. Even if I don’t find romance I can still make a lot of cool friends and see a lot of cool places and things. 😬 I’m going this weekend down to FL to check out a converted Schoolie for sale. 😍😍

[@irinaivanovic9792]

I never go out either, lol. Just the grocery stores and there aren't any of these kinds of guys there, apparently.

[@sandragreen5146]

Great video❤all your video are encouragement and helping me find myself, grow myself and set my boundaries and standards higher than they are now..and to be a high value women to a high value man that will appreciate me my time and see the goodness of my worth.

[@michellemcfarland80]

‘Helpful, useful & insightful’… Definitely!!! Thank U very much! 👍👏💗

[@mylovedfriends]

You give us a lot of secrets here. I admire your generosity. I can't wait to get your coaching

[@BernMendez]

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[@Catwoman1464]

Thanks Bern! I was really happy to see this video in my feed today

[@roaaabdelaziz160]

You always come on time bern😍💯♥️👏🏽

[@BernMendez]

So glad you found this useful, Roaa : )

[@socialpsychologymantras]

A woman of kindness. The majority of males view their mother as a compassionate and caring lady

[@wildewildestrawberries]

Great, authentic wisdom per usual.

[@CorporateQueen]

Looking and sounding amazing Bern. 💗

[@BernMendez]

Thank you for your kind words, glad you enjoyed the video : )

[@mogreggs2273]

Always great information. I’m so excited about this dating Journey

[@maggiewanjiru2807]

Oh wao..bravo! Useful video thank you.

[@clarajohnson448]

We’re right on point

[@BernMendez]

Thank you!

[@iamwisecrowtarot8373]

I just like looking at your handsome face. 😊😊 Relationships are alot of work and most men aren't interested in doing the work needed to keep the connection strong.

[@vanessamariano6103]

Thank you Bernardo, you're so passiknate how you deliver quality content xx

[@angelinasamson6996]

Being accountable, I’ve been in some Shit relationships in the past 😂. I’ve just learned from them and they’ve help me become the authentic unique and self love person that I am today So I actually thank them for that ❤️

[@shynes23sh]

Thank you Bern. We'll said. This is very helpful.

[@BernMendez]

Glad this was helpful, Sam.

[@aylex1974]

All of the improvementss will be better after all the process that people have been forced to make in order to be the best version of themselves. No rush just enjoy the transition process. Thank you for the advice and help

[@AsToldByAWidowYTSeries]

Great practical advice, thx so much.

[@sheiladahealah6446]

I hear what you say, it makes sense. I naturally have most of what you talk about. My problem is I live in a remote part of a small island. Their are not a lot of men, lots of women and mostly family's and couples. I've tried the internet, that was scary! Kinda feels hopeless😒, but I feel very loved by the community here and have a great life. Any thoughts would be appreciated! Mahalo

[@rosemaryarchuleta8912]

Your videos are awsome Thankyou so much. You touched on a lot of levels. I’ll keep watching.

[@BernMendez]

Glad yo hear the videos are helping you Rosemary!

[@hanbukhari]

Unbelievable how there is a KZbin saying men want everything in one woman and can also justify if she doesn’t complete the whole spectrum of being human to going to another woman ,,, love it! Sorry they don’t exist and we have to live with this fact about manhood

[@irinaivanovic9792]

True! They want the whole package in a woman, but if a woman says she wants the whole package in a man, she's labeled entitled with unrealistic standards. smh. The hypocrisy is SHOCKING.

[@UplifterofHumansCharity]

Well done .

[@BernMendez]

THANK YOU : )

[@felicitygrace5113]

Very useful! In my life now with my bf 💕

[@K9_Queen]

Very true information. Good stuff

[@izymachado2934]

My thoughts on this video, “deliciousness” a perfect mix of all the great stuff !! Guess im stuck , one guy talks the talk but wants the wrong stuff from me. I’m not even talking sex, cause there hasn’t been any! 😳😅 he wants marriage but lacks effection.. 🤔 the other guy I just met sounds perfect but my attraction to him is not really there. He’s slightly older the other is bit younger!! Oh meu deus.. oh my god!! Decisions decisions.. 😂🤔 luckly I’m pretty happy on my own 🙏 thx for a great video 👏

[@tianiemitchell5692]

It was very insightful thank you

[@jeankoch4375]

Amazing video Thank you.

[@marwamahmoud8122]

I love your videos Thank you 🤩

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[@BernMendez]

Marwa, glad you love my videos, : )

[@nabihayousuf]

Thank you so much

[@Veve7]

Like, thumbs up, and Bern you're the best.

[@BernMendez]

Thank you Vanessa I appreciate you watching. : )

[@angelinasamson6996]

Ok then I’ve just changed my Tinder profile and added some emotions to it by the way of emojis and I’ve already attracted 2 potential me to date ❤️ Well done kind Sir

[@WhiteAngelLovesEarth]

I AM IRRESISTIBLE 😎 CUZ I'M AWESOME, I AM LOVE.

[@hjml]

Hi. Thanks for this. While I appreciate your perspective I am not finding in reality that the men I encounter actually want these things. One might argue that that by definition makes them low value but I that does nothing to change the fact that I have no other experience than these men despite possessing qualities that should attract something better. My point here is not to quibble with your claims but more to ask what you think when I say being this type of woman is valuable to myself and my movement in the world but it is ultimately doing nothing to attract the kind of partner I that is open to an enduring connection. Because standards create requirements that often people lack the discipline to meet. Just recently I was looking at a live stream and a woman being interviewed says she’s looking for a man who’s hardworking , empathetic, loyal and a couple other things and the overwhelming responses from people in the chat was she’s too picky and people aren’t perfect. And so again I wonder how you’d respond to my observation that good character repels more than it attracts. Which is still protective. But I guess I’m wondering at what point we are willing to say that even if we master ourselves sometimes garbage is all that shows up and it’s no reflection on us. Or maybe it is. But I’d love to hear your thoughts. Thanks

[@goldenparachute392]

Yes, you can be a great package at the wrong address

[@angelinasamson6996]

I’ve got 6 senses intuition empath

[@mamallama9866]

While I've come to like most of your videos and appreciate them entirely, I have questions. I naturally have all of the said qualities in this video and even found my man (sort of an ex...we are seeing each other still but have taken about 500 steps back) because I am naturally passionate, confident, playful, optimistic, so on and so forth...so what happens when you fast forward about 3 plus years and those things aren't really able to be shown or they have to be so stuffed down deep inside of you and you're struggling to let them all be seen again?

[@manyhats3846]

Define quality man ? Is it; honesty, kindness,empathetic,polite, just,clean,somewhat stylish,backbone, authentic,adventerous, humerous....takes the lead.......? Or is it being conceited, money -ego, rude, selfish, look at my things and wheels I drive? Just wondering!

[@amyj.4992]

You are literally describing an Aquarius ♒ woman 😂

[@amyj.4992]

And forward thinking, is the Aquarius ♒ jam 😁💯😜😁💓

[@amyj.4992]

This whole video, accurately described an Aquarius 😂😂😂 damn yo lol 🤣 thanks 🙏🏾👍

[@BernMendez]

I’m not into horoscopes but appreciate your enthusiasm :)

[@sashafierce7495]

Tell us women, where are they at? 🤨🥺

[@amyj.4992]

I'm a goofy 😜 sigma🌠♒girl 💓 for sure 😊

[@amyj.4992]

Like smelling the aroma 🤤 of my meals before I pick at the ingredients, and dive in 🍽️after. Yum 😋🙏🏾😊 💞

[@amyj.4992]

Such a clairsalient experience to enjoy

[@rachrach9871]

In that case I’m a catch ;)

[@sonofhibbs4425]

When you speak of dating as availability, who is asking who out? Or are you just saying go on dating apps and other singles venues to meet men? Still, the usual route is the man asks a woman out.

[@BernMendez]

If you're open and friendly guys will ask you out.

[@symeebryant]

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[@carolinezhang2157]

Taipei personality?

[@gabyloreto697]

"Type A" Personality, as in extrovert personality or introvert personality 👍

[@carolinezhang2157]

@@gabyloreto697 ahh thank you 😊

[@juanitathomas2437]

What makes a woman hot for a man? When he tells her that he likes the way her brain works.

[@frankiecal3186]

This is pure BS. Most guys just want a girl who's a virgin and submissive.

[@WhiteAngelLovesEarth]

noticed 😂

[@1LaOriental]

Spoken as a man stuck in a patriarchal mindset...

[@WhiteAngelLovesEarth]

@@1LaOriental it's reality actually ..virgins are rare, women who are kind and don't like to fight are rare too...meanwhile I like experienced men who can cook, who know how to love, gentlemen ...an experienced man would settle down with a virgin actually

[@lenjoplus]

Your experience in life appears to be rather limited.