What Realistic Film Dialogue Sounds Like

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[@thecyberblues7883]

Proof Sandler is a great actor when he is written well.

[@valpergalit]

Zach Couto Music Punch Drunk Love by Paul Thomas Anderson also shows Sandler’s strengths.

[@Jimunu]

I agree. Many comedians have a good sense of what makes a dramatic performance. But doesnt he write his own comedy movies?

[@Jesse-fk3xc]

actually this was Sandlers worst movie. terrible terrible acting.

[@jarpyr6791]

Jesse Nice trolling

[@Nushi1098]

Jesse true I much preferred him in Jack and Jill, such a dramatic and moving performance

[@eddielopez2373]

I think a better way of describing this is “dialogue as it really feels,” not as it really is. People tend to immediately stop talking when interrupted, but they feel talked over because their internal monologue keeps going. There is a sense of loss, like you’ve gone unheard.

[@kevinkellyswellies]

:(

[@Catfeine]

gonna be real honest, conversations i have with certain people do fully include us starting and finishing sentences over each other. we have a mutual understanding of respect and it doesnt feel rude with people im close to. like i wouldnt speak like that with someone i just met, but with my mother, nearly all conversations are an overlapping mess. i do agree that the video is... innacurate in applying to everyone, though. clearly many people dont do this.

[@ChrisPBacon-xn9up]

@@kevinkellyswellies >:)

[@pippincovington1348]

@barbarino really. No one. No one at all? Huh.

[@miaumiau679]

no i definitely do this with my family. i dont care if they want to talk i'll finish what i have to say anyway, even if they wont listen

[@Lthe1]

“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” Stephen R. Covey

[@Chachoncha]

made me think of this quote in fight club: “When people think you're dying, they really, really listen to you, instead of just waiting for their turn to speak”

[@Finnec123]

Unfortunately that's so true.

[@clevefisher5726]

“When in conversation, do you listen, or do you just wait to talk?” - Mia Wallace

[@Leon-ub8pe]

Cringe

[@trethidskies4609]

@@Leon-ub8pe It's cringe because it's said so much, and it's said so much because it's true.

[@katekursive1370]

suddenly, spontaneous Adam Driver

[@westminsterabbey.6916]

Haha I thought the same thing. I was like oh hey, out of nowhere. That's actually why I'm in the comments lol I was looking for someone else who'd spotted him.

[@MM-vs2et]

I think we all did, obvious adam driver, is obvious

[@HafidzMurshidie]

Holy shit.. I scrolled to your comment the exact time Adam Driver showed up..

[@calvinboone6374]

As soon as I saw this comment, he was on my screen

[@AksharaMaurya]

Adam Driver is to Noah Baumbach what DiCaprio is to Scorsese or not exactly proportional but something of the like

[@Nerdwriter1]

One thing I forgot to mention, which makes Baumbach's writing even more impressive, is that there's no improv in his movies. The actors say what we wrote word-for-word.

[@harrypotteravenclaw]

we?

[@Tvboy777]

I was actually wondering about that in the beginning of the video. That is impressive.

[@thegolfdude]

Writing captures people interrupting/talking over each other, just not as effectively as cinema.

[@buhkangliwayway]

we? False modesty pat on your own back?

[@ljensen7681]

I love improv. You have to give Christopher Guest his credit.

[@purpleface4016]

I low-key watch these videos to feel smarter and more like a movie critic.

[@MrNinjaone1]

Were in decent hands here for sure, i think this guy is good

[@vanjapopovich6100]

this plus cinema sins makes you a movie pro

[@Gadget-Walkmen]

I think everyone does.

[@samuelhirn1415]

Cinemasins doesn't teach anything, he gives sins for no specific reasons and contradicts himself a lot.

[@TheMaxFusionGaming]

I love the relatable honesty :)

[@kiva_J_T]

Now that I watched "Marriage Story" I've come to revisit this video. The dialogue during arguments was so spot on that it unsettled me.

[@skippysmom]

yes i agree! it felt like i was actually watching a couple fight

[@vinitfirke2201]

juan torres, I watched that scene thrice because it was so much natural and beautiful! Every body language while saying dialogue was spot on🙌

[@trdxxl]

Yes my favorite parts was when they were screaming at eachother.

[@Whoyouwishyouwere]

I guess. I never seen that many fights between spouses, but I found the fight to be forced and boring. I think Derek Cianfrance's Blue Valentine is the most realistic and powerful set of performances from everyone involved. It sticks to you years after you've seen it. It ought to be a cultural landmark in cinema and the overall zeitgeist, but it's hardly ever mentioned.

[@pinkmagicali]

It annoys me that no one says “um” in movies. And people only rarely stumble over their speech or pause unless it’s a plot point.

[@bocelott]

Ok but would you want to listen to a thousand "um"s in a movie?

[@ChangedMyNameFinally69]

@@bocelott I don't think most people are that bad at speaking

[@smswkpk]

I rarely say ummm Most ppl i know rarely say umm or use fillers Tv pundits do it all the time - especially tv news show pundits - very annoying

[@bocelott]

@@ChangedMyNameFinally69 I think you'd be surprised if you actually paid attention.

[@dmack47yo]

Some ppl take speech courses to train them selves not to umm or ah... it’s pretty common among ppl

[@gigglysamentz2021]

Oh I thought realistic dialogue would be with all the grammatical errors we're constantly making. It's often because we started our sentence in a way that can't get across our thought.

[@aerialjordan2683]

GiggitySam Entz right, and I think that with the way this dialogue is articulated makes the meaning and the intent of the phrases more nuanced. The Uhhhs, and false starts, and the "I'm sorry, that d idnt make any sense, let me start over," all of these are taken out.

[@antihinduismisbased]

GiggitySam Entz exactly.

[@felipeedoardo]

There were some, though. Didn’t Ben Stiller start a sentence with “me” at a point there?

[@katewilliams5636]

perfect (comedy) depicment of this is in The Office, where Michael Scott starts a sentence that takes many different directions, then it just dissolves because he doesn't know what point he's making. He's also known for his misquotes, so it's more realistic because of the human error in speech. Although portrayed comedically, it's still a common experience on a day to day basis.

[@cherrielai9569]

how did u watch a video and completely miss the whole point of it

[@UploadN0ob]

I'm a fan of Wes Anderson's blunt dialogue which acts as a voice for the inner subconscious; people say whatever they feel regardless of the consequences.

[@dlg7555]

John Smith his films are boring compared to this

[@aminetanouyat9643]

@@dlg7555 u cant say they are boring, they are just not your style

[@thegreatgamelord8640]

@@aminetanouyat9643 He can say they're boring to him because they're not his style.

[@axu8392]

Yeah, I agree. In a sense Wes Anderson's dialogue feels right, whereas something like this comes off as an attempt to forcibly seem realistic. In my circles (probably a more European thing, though) we often use very blunt statements, usually with a tinge of sarcasm and occasional self-deprecation.

[@spellscast3594]

D LG Noah and Wes work together constantly. It’s no surprise that this movie also reminded them of Wes Anderson.

[@emilyanne3910]

For people saying that when you're interrupted you generally stop talking - you've clearly never been to one of my family gatherings for sure

[@Someothername2134]

If it is a group there are multiple conversations going on. I have never experienced two people talking to each other and talking over each other like that. At least...two sane people.

[@reysquadron7820]

@@Someothername2134 oh it happens. Certain ppls keep talking no matter what.

[@eps3154]

Exactly lol

[@coltonbates629]

It depends on the type of person. But this happens in every dialouge in the movie with every person (just about )

[@elbiewatson]

No truer words could be spoken Emily Anne, I can totally relate.

[@missnerd9555]

It always perplexes me when I see characters being so articulate. People in real life are never that articulate most of the times and maybe not even as emotionally aware

[@Nielsskroon]

The Room did this 15 years ago, Wiseau was a visionar ;)

[@zaaa4277]

Niels Kroon HAHAHAHA I thought of The Room while watching this as well

[@TheRedArrowExpress]

Yeah can I have a dozen red roses please?

[@pccchurch]

That was an original, memorable movie with memorable acting and dialog unlike the examples used in this yt video which is just tiresome.

[@randomdude189]

Niels Kroon if only he could act good enough to no inspire a documentary instead of the spoof he birthed

[@rubensanchezramirez7028]

peachees Seems to me like you're the expert Peachees

[@guesstimation]

The typography here is so effective

[@sakthisd5565]

"when we are speaking to others, we are actually speaking to ourselves, attempting to frame dialogues expecting the person we are talking to, to reflect back the things that we wanna believe about us" that's it. You broke my mind.

[@lucydanko4015]

I feel like the office also has a lot of realistic dialogue. Obviously it's a comedy show so some things are pretty unrealistic but sometimes im really surprised by how similar the serious/normal conversations are to conversations I've had in real life.

[@thejam7129]

Ya! That’s what she said! Hahahah!

[@theoisgod7201]

The UK one right ?

[@MrSunshine251]

@@theoisgod7201 The original and best

[@noahcecil7671]

It helps that it’s pretty much all improvised.

[@mariamshalvashvili8108]

Noah Cecil actually that’s not true. Most of it is written, but parts of it are improvised. It had amazing writers and actors. You can listen to Office Ladies, they are discussing what parts are written/improvised. Not the best podcast out there but if you’re a fan it gives you a great insight

[@icychains24]

Loved how you literally overlapped the dialogues in the text. Brilliant stuff.

[@darrenbuffington9453]

I agree that almost all dialogue in film is unnatural and overwritten, but I don't think that Noah Baumbach does it realistically either. Talking over each other and miscommunication happen all the time, but in the end it's still noticeable in the film that the actors are doing it in a scripted, structured way. But I'm glad that no screenwriters are writing perfectly realistic dialogue because conversations in real life are boring and don't make for very good storytelling.

[@nikhilsukumar23]

Agreed. But at least there is an attempt to bring reality. In real life, there is far too verbal violence too especially in dysfunctional families. I am trying my own over talking by telling that I dislike people who speak over others only to put them down while I have always tried to uplift othrs.

[@PiOfficial]

If real life conversations are boring to you, I really don’t know what to say you must be pretty dull I guess.

[@AslanW]

It's not about being 100% true to reality, it's about offering a more human perspective on the social interactions between people. Art is pieces of reality that is enhanced in order to invoke thoughts or feelings. There's many ways to write dialogue that makes people think about how we communicate with each other, and this is one of them. That's art to me at least.

[@leakypfaucet]

Darren Buffington you obviously haven’t grown up in a Jewish family HAH

[@leakypfaucet]

In all seriousness, Baumbach and the family he’s depicting are Jewish. Jewish speaking patterns are actually linguistically different, in terms of interruption, conversation culture and even pitch. It’s actually really interesting lol

[@onionface5835]

reminds me of Gilmore Girls speed talking. no breaks, no pauses, makes my brain tired.

[@Squeezy-db3vv]

The conversation between Matt and Harold was really interesting to me for something specific that stuck out to me. After being diagnosed with ASD I did a lot of research on neurodiverse people and read about a common occurrence in conversations between neurodiverse and neurotypical people. When someone tells a story or expresses concerns about their life, a neurotypical person will usually offer sympathy and consolation, saying things like "that must be so difficult for you" or "I'm sorry you're going through that." Neurodiverse people more frequently have a different response, to offer relatability rather than explicit sympathy by bringing up their own similar concerns or telling a similar story, in order to communicate "see? I understand what you're going through", but it can often be misinterpreted as them trying to make the conversation about themselves. A common miscommunication between people who think differently. I'm not saying that Harold has ASD because of his behaviour in this conversation, but I find it interesting nonetheless. Sorry for the long comment 😅

[@PatBatemanAtDorsia]

if this represented what "Realistic" dialogue should sound like, there should be a lot more of, "can you stop interrupting me when I'm trying to say something?"

[@danielskrivan6921]

Or a lot of one person trying to say something and nobody's listening, and then someone else says the same thing.

[@ImposterMonarch]

Not everybody has that confidence buddy

[@kothgames]

Manchester By the Sea is the best example of this I’ve ever seen. Great movie

[@molliee5183]

koth surprised he didn’t put that one in this video! It’s the best dialogue in a movie I’ve ever seen/heard IMO

[@GustoFormula]

omg yes and it's so immediately noticeable. Definitely expected the video to mention it.

[@australopithecus]

Casey Affleck breaking down and telling his nephew "I can't beat it" sticks in my mind as a cathartic moment that is phrased in a way that people actually talk...

[@australopithecus]

Except I remembered it wrong. He doesn't break down. He just says it matter-of-fact. Then the nephew breaks down, and he tries to comfort him. Which is why it's so good... kzbin.info/www/bejne/oXLGiqyomr55r80

[@jessicabecause3717]

ILL PUT THIS WHOLE TOWN IN MY REARVIEW

[@brotherbrod]

Sandler lowkey could’ve been nominated for this film. he’s doing so many little things that go unnoticed yet r so important to his character.

[@blitzgeuse]

The most realistic dialogue I've ever heard was from the series The Boys. I literally caught myself saying "woah, that's exactly how I'd react if someone told me that" more than a couple times throughout the show.

[@Germania9]

Adam Sandler is an underrated dramatic actor. Few filmmakers like Anderson and Baumbach know how to exploit his hidden talents and his quirks for dramatic effect. Unfortunately, Sandler keeps making shitty choices in all of his other films.

[@Jokkkkke]

Money is probably a huge factor behind that trend. And who can really blame him?

[@Germania9]

The Revolution Good point. And I've read that his later comedies are actually paid vacations for him and his friends. But the only times he gets good roles is when great filmmakers tap him as well as believing in his hidden talents.

[@ayy2193]

Yeah, he did great in Reign over me

[@Jokkkkke]

"Paid vacation" - yeah, I've totally heard that too in regards to the Grown Ups 'series' (god that last part was painful to write). But yeah, he quite literally takes all his actor pals to Hawaii, or what have you, and just chills in resorts between set hours. To be honest, sounds like the life to me! What can say besides I respect the hustle, even if I don't necessarily agree with it haha

[@Autissm420]

his role in punch drunk love is amazing, that entire movie is great! PTA is one of my favorites

[@tristanramirez6419]

I have noticed recently one of my best friends has a bad habit of interrupting me or other people when he has something he really wants to say, I'm sure he doesn't notice it and it's cool to see him speaking with such confidence but it can be frustrating. This video definitely speaks true to these moments.

[@ohwowitsthatguy9154]

Sometimes jumping in is a good thing in a conversation, though yeah, may want to point it out to him so he can kick the habit.

[@tristanramirez6419]

Yeah, I completely agree but used in moderation.

[@duckmintNZ]

You're that one kid in English class that loved writing essays. But seriously, this is so well written and produced. You are very professional and have a great high impact voice. You can forward your point with topics that are easily translated to someone like me (who has little to no knowledge of film techniques) and others that are interested in movie details. Your report is insightful and genuinely enjoyable to watch. Subbed

[@Paul-A01]

I didn't hear a single um or ah. This is obviously not dialogue as it really is. This is a different style of dialogue, but it is not emulating real, unscripted dialogue.

[@aerialjordan2683]

TGGeko that's a good point. In the same way, I love how the characters all speak with their intent showing, or only lightly obfuscated. I really want to see all of this movie now.

[@stachedude]

K

[@peoeoe]

?? maybe the people youre around are just different but i can have a conversation with someone and not use "um's" or "ah's"

[@GrijzePilion]

One thing I noticed is that the style of speaking was similar to how actors often sound in interviews.

[@felipeedoardo]

Fair point, but that’s because really, 100% realistic dialogue is a bore to watch and would make for a terrible movie. So I’d call that a type of artistic license, the same by which people are better looking and perfectly lit in movies - it’s a step above reality so that it can be entertaining.

[@someonesreviews]

This kind of dialogue never works for me because it always seems like a writer is trying too hard to make their characters interrupt each other, to the point where it stops feeling natural. I think a lot of writers tend to forget that while we do interrupt others speaking out of insecurity and a need for control, we also do it out of genuine excitement. Notice how close friends, in particular, seem to have two methods of speaking. They're either interrupting each other regularly or noticeably waiting for the other to finish. There isn't much middle ground. When I think of the writers who're the best at finding natural flowing conversation, I think of people like Richard Linklater, Kenneth Lonergan, and Joss Whedon. And now, having seen Lady Bird, I think it'd be wise to include Greta Gerwig among that list. I actually think she's better at it than Noah Baumbach, interestingly enough.

[@deathmonkey3000]

Another thing to keep in mind is that people who don't know each other well, or haven't been around each other in a while tend to interrupt or talk over each other, until they redevelop the timing for the conversation. I know that for me, I was raised not to talk over other people, so doing so just feels awkward and embarrassing, and I always get that when talking to someone I haven't seen in a while.

[@calvinhuddleston576]

@@deathmonkey3000 theres also a lot of (awkward) pauses where the other person is not sure whether the other is going to say something or not, i cant make a commentary about interrupting because i dont keep track of it but i definitely do it with my best friend a lot where me and her conversations seem to overlap and somehow keep going coherently despite the fact that we are both talking at the same time

[@harlequin5664]

this is a representation of a dysfunctional family and is scarily accurate as that. but i would agree about linklater coming to mind in great dialogue writing and gerwig is great. also bo burnham really managed to capture an authentic look into eighth grade.

[@Brainsore.]

Exactly. In moderation it’s fine, but I often find modern filmmakers insert things like that that actually make it sound less realistic and just more forced.

[@powerbottomboat]

I feel like a lot of the comments are proving nerdwriter's point true; about how hit and miss communication is because people naturally try to frame it around themselves. There's so many comments saying about how " _I've_ never had a conversation like this so that makes this video stupid" or " _my_ family isn't dysfunctional so this isn't realistic at all". Well, yeah. But this isn't about you is it? This video is about how realistic this dialog is for a certain type of family, which might or might not be like yours. Edited for spelling mistakes

[@heymonalisacani6795]

victoriaRobyn I know this is older but you put exactly what I wanted to say into words so thanks

[@FootyCrazyM8]

i feel like that's kind of missing the point tho. people do miscommunicate and talk over each other but it's just the fact the way it's presented in the film comes across as unrealistic and scripted

[@heymonalisacani6795]

FootyCrazyM8 I think you're wrong but clearly we all have our own truths, I think it's a great film and it's very realistic

[@powerbottomboat]

I think the movie isn't trying to come across as unscripted. I think that it's actually using that 'scripted'-ness to represent how these characters in the movie have thought out the conversation before it even happens, each one searching for a particular reaction from one another, continuously talking over the other person's dialog when they don't get it. I can't say it's not unrealistic, but I have definitely heard people around me talking over each other in similar ways to this. It's not uncommon if you take the time to just listen to other conversations.

[@FootyCrazyM8]

yeah it does happen irl sometimes but this movie takes it too an extreme. it was like 80% of people talking over each other. like it get it they don't communicate well as a family and stuff etc it's been done before. iv'e liked some of noah baumbachs films before but this just wasn't entertaining to watch in the slightest

[@maggieobersat3861]

imagine if a person actually got tongue tied in a movie...then people would think the actors were making a mistake- People do it all the time

[@TimeandMonotony]

Scrolling through the comments and I haven't seen one mention of Howard Hawks, arguably the first person to use overlapping, realistic dialog in cinema. C'mon guys, where my classic movie fans at? Also yay Adam Driver cameo!

[@suryamohan3410]

not here apparently

[@TimeandMonotony]

@@suryamohan3410 Guess not. Shame.

[@jobelgravia8633]

I think you mean Howard Hawks, the director of His Girl Friday. But it was actually Charles Lederer and Ben Hecht that wrote the script. Also it was based on a play, The Front Page.

[@TimeandMonotony]

@@jobelgravia8633 you're right, I changed it, thanks!

[@thebasedgodmax1163]

baumbach is also just a lesser woody allen or whit stillman. there's nothing original about his dialogue, so why does he get so much spotlight here?

[@iquemedia]

Shakespeare cinematic universe when?

[@jonathanmulondo9206]

Ique Anything is possible

[@spinakker14]

confirmed

[@ekehernandez]

Ique EXTENDED

[@forgottenpotato9868]

Ique Shhh.... Stop giving Hollywood ideas...

[@koatam]

Ique The Lion King?

[@Beforethecredits]

Good to see you got your computer issue figured out. Thanks for the new video. Realistic dialogue is something hard to tackle because having actors talk over each other feels unnatural yet it is completely natural in real life.There is actual a scene in the movie "The Host" where a character was suppose to get cut off but the script was written in a while where he had no dialogue after the "cut off" so it is a weird scene to watch due to him not being talked over.

[@cinepilepodcast5881]

Computer issues?

[@soufian2733]

Cine Pile Podcast check his twitter

[@Beforethecredits]

Cine Pile Podcast MacOS update slowed his computer to a crawl.

[@plica06]

Before The Credits < How do you know that?

[@kerelberel]

Which scene in The Host is that?

[@theseoldbeats]

The Royle Family (British comedy about a working class family) is the nearest to real life dialogue ever captured on a film or tv show.

[@saltezers2242]

YES

[@rautaranka]

The most realistic dialogue I’ve ever heard in a movie/show is in the Norwegian show Skam. Extremely realistic, relatable and makes me feel like I really am inside the scene with the characters. Never heard anything better than that. The worst I’ve heard is definitely the American show Shadowhunters. Everything sounds forced and “too perfect”. The actors are mostly from decent to good, but the dialogue is _ridiculous._ Cringed 90% of the time I was watching it.

[@aiz999]

i totally agree with Skam. the scenes are perfectly layered too! like how three characters are talking to each other but then one of them receives a text/call and so he reads it but the two just kept talking in the background. the character who received the text somehow is still trying to be part in the conversation at the same time, is thinking about or reacting to the text/call they received. its so good! as an audience, i wanna try to be part of everything thats going on.

[@gmoo84]

That show was also not afraid of silence. We arent always speaking and they allowed the audience to see what's happening rather than be told it.

[@alenanela1743]

OMFG I LOVE SKAM HELLO THERE

[@QuietDuplicity]

Conversation is difficult because people don't understand themselves but they think they do. You can't blame them, humans are the most complicated thing we know of. It's interesting though because when you get two people together who are comfortable in their own uncertainty of themselves, the conversations are completely different.

[@oj321]

All these people saying that the dialogue is forced and unnatural have clearly never been in a room with a Jewish family before. This stuff is spot on.

[@Samuel-zo2rc]

There are 14m jews in the world. It is not common to have been in a jewish household.

[@John-Adams]

All the Oy Vehs and shekel clinking must be deafening.

[@DaBagelSquad]

I didn't know you were Jewish, OJ Simpson

[@gigglesgaming6362]

Or being in a southern family

[@peytonsingh6258]

I don't think it's them talking unnaturally, but their body-movements, facial movements, and mannerisms that don't line-up while they do it. They look completely normal like they didn't get interrupted at all more than half the time and it seems like they're trying to interrupt each other making it stick out. It doesn't flow like a normal conversation would go even with the interruptions and overlapping. You can feel the hesitation and second long pause before they go in sometimes.

[@Girish4944]

"You can't really simulate people talking ove-" "Yes. Yes you can"

[@Frewster]

I think his point in y his case is that it's harder to simulate someone talking _through_ someone else. But I get you, good formatting isn't really mentioned here :P

[@skippysmom]

well that’s more cutting in

[@alexisbourke4631]

Haha

[@miraxterrik]

Nope. Your example gives the impression, first person stopped talking entirely. It doesnt show they are actually talking parallel.

[@creamofthecrop4339]

doesnt sound natural though... its just people talking over each other. We naturally stop when were interrupted, or raise our voices. This sounds like two people chanting at each other.

[@jimmyrade7815]

Can’t wait to see your movie!

[@creamofthecrop4339]

@@jimmyrade7815 Fuck off with that lazy rhetoric. You don't have to be experienced in something to know it is bad - in fact, the worse you are, the better you can point out inaccuracies. When you make something, it must be able to be followed by the lowest common denominator. Your movie should seem natural to even the dumbest of people. This just doesn't seem natural. And also - I may have never made a movie but I can still tell "The Room" is awful. Same as how I can tell what bad CGI looks like.

[@TheImpures]

LMAO you dont go out much do you? people always talk over each other, especially when they dont care what the other is saying.

[@user-ry4eg2mg2y]

Can relate. I suppose my personality contributes to it, as I tend to dislike "forcing" my side of the conversation on to the other person.

[@RexGalilae]

This depends from family to family. I feel the same way listening to my mom talk to her siblings and parents, lmao. They talk over each other constantly and somehow keep up. This is especially noticeable in small talk or casual conversations between them like the characters are showing here. I'm more like my dad, though. I can't handle such situations, tbh. I just lose track

[@YesTheory]

The Meyerowitz Stories was so good... Been obsessed with Noah Baumbach's dialogue, so glad you made a video about it. Much love Evan! (btw your patreon link didn't work for us.. not sure why) Can't wait for next week's video!

[@GaneshKumar]

Thomas????

[@YesTheory]

Yep hello :)

[@GaneshKumar]

Yes Theory Hello.You have a huge fanbase in India.Keep inspiring us 😇

[@bigfoot156]

Patreon link gives me a 404!

[@nicholasfinch4087]

Which is weird, because clicking on both patreon links yields different results. I have a feeling that it has something to do with KZbin's redirect.

[@fikriish6361]

manchester by the sea by kenneth lonnergan is actually quite realistic as well

[@TheBasaltHorogium]

His movies are more subtly made than Baumbach's. Which is actually quite nice if you like slow movies.

[@jujubee147]

One of the things I really liked about the Little Women reboot is that all of the sisters talked over each other. It reminded me of spending time at my best friend’s house with all of her sisters and cousins

[@mixedlove1234]

The speech Ben Stiller gave, I think it was for his dad's opening, had me in tears. Adam was great as well. Punch Drunk Love is one of my favorite movies.

[@WenBilson]

The Meyerowitz Stories is one of my favourite films to come out this year. You wonderfully highlight one of the many reasons why watching one of Noah’s films is (for lack of a better word) refreshing. They’re honest and incredibly relatable. Hopefully I’ll be able to articulate my love of cinema a little better in my videos after binging your style. xx

[@a.i.h.b.p677]

In our attempt to model the human brain, TABITHA was the first success. JINGLES was broken, FLUFFY wouldn’t talk, and BOOMER was lethargic. But TABITHA… TABITHA was just like a person. What was weird was that for a while we didn’t even know we had succeeded. When we first brought JINGLES online, we thought we had done it first try. We even broke out the champagne and all that. But after a few conversations it became clear we had to start over. It was like talking to the voice on your phone. When you talk to it the first time, it seems human. It can answer simple questions and has a sense of humor. But try to have a conversation or talk about anything but the weather and you quickly realize there’s nothing there. It’s just feeding you the same information in different ways. So when we brought TABITHA online, we were cautious. We talked. We ran tests. We probed her pain sensors and her smell receptors and her gag reflex. It was all perfect. We should have known form the start that she was different. You could see it in her first words. The other ABs would just answer your questions as best they could, as if the only reason to talk was to respond to the tests. When TABITHA first came online she interrupted our welcome speech. >why cant i feel anything >whats happening >who am i We should have known then, but we wouldn’t until almost a week later. TABITHA was human. We had done it.

[@expressrobkill]

adam sandler not selling out and proving his mettle is the little ray of hope, that people aren't totally shitty.

[@MarkHoltze]

Ya I enjoyed the crap out of it...it doesn't have crap IN it...that's weird. I loved it, great writing, great cast.

[@aliciacabrera-thomas9705]

I just love Noah Baumbach & this movie is so subtle and real. This movie touched the place where we recognize our family talking and trying to listen but not really hearing.

[@NPC-kw4sb]

0:35 yeah and what I like the most about Rick and Morty is how both of their voices are done by the same person but after post-production, it feels so seamless, like their voices sometimes overlap and they interrupt each other as if there really are two people lol. It's done very neatly.

[@ellabiddy4741]

This is the type of analysis we do in ap language and literature classes and I love it so much. Just like super deep analysis of little things and it’s beautiful to see how every little thing has a deeper meaning, especially when it’s intentional from the artist/writer/director

[@RaccoonInACocoon]

omg, the two actors I always confuse with each other in the same movie

[@ifeanyiwordsworth8354]

Omggggggg IKR!!!

[@jessicabecause3717]

RACIST!

[@xiiaohao3871]

@@jessicabecause3717 how is that racist?

[@nicholaslewis9845]

Would love to see you revisit this with A Marriage Story

[@samphillips3539]

You’re videos make me happier than I usually am. I feel as if you’re portraying complete thoughts that come out of small ideas which is actually pretty rare. I feel special when I have sudden cool ideas about things but that’s the extent of it, they disappear seconds after because I let them. It’s reassuring and inspiring to see that putting your mind to a lightbulb in your head can turn into something as brilliant as this video. Thanks!

[@seamus4035]

Wow. I have never even seen the Meyerowtiz Stories, but I could really feel the family dynamics. The bit at 7:01 really showcased Adam Sandler's place in the family, his exclusion I think, and also the bit almost immediately after, with the piano was nice because, again, it showed connection Earned a sub, sir!

[@Omkar-ey3ls]

Adam Sandler in a movie with actually good role

[@georgiosz.9493]

Honestly, he is best fit for serious roles. Quit the dumb comedies, Adam!

[@Mr_Creasy_]

george zaggogiannis this is so true. It's crazy how he's known as a guy who only does comedy movies. That just goes to show you the importance of picking your roles as an actor

[@xShadowsOfChaos]

Adam Sandler is actually a pretty good actor when he has good material to work with

[@clairebru1]

Yes in punch drunk love he is really great too. I was recommended that movie but because of Sandler’s reputation I hesitated. But then I was shocked

[@user-mq6kd6mf1v]

Adam Sandler is a lot like Nicholas Cage, but a little better. Both can act under great scripts/directors or when they want to. Cage has Raising Arizona, Moonstruck, even Con Air and The Rock were decent lol. Then Sandler has Punch Drunk Love, Meyerowitz Stories, Reign Over Me. I just don’t think they really care about being critically acclaimed or only taking good scripts. I think it’s just whatever they wanna do, good or bad.

[@seandanielgreen]

This is an amazing video holy shit i thought it was kinda weird thinking how could dialogue sound different from one another director but this has easily become one of if not my favorite video on youtube its so beautiful keep the good shit up man

[@MatheusCarvalhoB]

This video really made me think about the power of comunication and how we often underestimate it, turning our conversations and relationships harder than they supposed to be. Wonderful analyse you've made, it's like I only realized the best about the movie after watching your video. Thanks!

[@karisyaputri2911]

great take on such an underrated movie. i've always thought there was something unique about this movie but i just couldnt put a finger on it. thank you for shining a light on how realistic dialogues show a much deeper meaning towards human relationships.

[@okkyar507]

"Communication isnt easy" but you did it pretty well, ur message so clear good job!

[@1080TJ]

Sorkin actually does the "people talking over each other" thing pretty well, albeit with more eloquent language.

[@skateordie002]

It's more of a "His Girl Friday"-esq cacophony, though, rather than the absolute cringe of most situations wherein people talk over each other. It's great and all but the aims are very different. One sets out to photograph the painting, messy as it is, the other photographs the photograph. 👍👍

[@littlegelland]

I love how that is done in the Iron Man movies. Tony Stark keeps saying sarcastic comments while the other person is talking, which usually gives him the upperhand in any conversation. It keeps the viewer on their feet when it's done well, I think.

[@finchcarvingadiamond]

I love that he brought up Sorkin because I'm new to his work and just started watching the Newsroom. I was super interested in how he established dialogue in the show. Sometimes I think that the characters all sound the same minus the voice, with high-vocabulary, quick-witted word choice and descripted, calculated sarcasm...

[@SynthApprentice]

The Cohens do it with less eloquent language, which is a nice touch.

[@bennnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn]

True, Social Network is one example

[@charlie22403]

Thanks so much for uploading these videos, every time I click on one it always gives me more than I expected. I studied film and feel like watching these and the way you analyse human nature has helped more than anything I learnt there. Love your work.

[@SoorajMechery]

Your videos touch my heart. They make me feel. I am always in the pursuit of videos that make me think. But I realize how much more engaging and heartwarming is content that speaks to your emotional side when I watch your videos. Thank you.

[@MayumiSaegusaShiba]

i say phoebe waller-bridge's dialogues sound the most natural. fleabag felt so personal yet so theatrical at the same time.

[@newnamethatnoonehas]

"you can't simulate people talking over each other" *immediately demonstrates that you can*

[@m.s2912]

I think Silver Linings Playbook is a good example of this. I even remember it bothering me the first time I watched it, because I couldn't keep up with everyone talking at the same time, but then I grew to appreciate the realism of it. Great video!

[@katlouwen3152]

Brilliant. Hit the nail on the head. Whenever a conversation goes awry, it’s easy to ask “why didn’t I say this or reply with this witty comment I came up with later?”, as most characters in movies seem to be able to do effortlessly. But reality is rarely so perfect.

[@teddypattinson5772]

Noah's movies always makes me feel warm and fuzzy on the inside. My favourite is while we're young. Particularly because of Adam driver and Ben stiller 's chemistry

[@Nerdwriter1]

Just saw that one recently. Really, really enjoyed it.

[@eirikmcgrady301]

The Squid and the Whale! Baumbach will never make a greater movie.

[@GrexTheCrabasitor]

Doctor Oswald well shit i just watched it right after you suggested it, thanks!

[@teddypattinson5772]

GrexTheCrabasitor sweet! You’re so welcome.

[@JohnDoe-mv3jz]

Anyone come back after watching Marriage Story?

[@qngtrnhh]

still thinking about the heated argument scene..

[@JohnDoe-mv3jz]

@@qngtrnhh O that was amazing. Baumbach's understanding of how people act and think, even the ability to show that, is amazing

[@inigojuancarlos]

Noah’s films always had these style that are so ordinary they’re almost practically realistic. His recent film, “Marriage Story” - really one of his best work yet -personifies that style.

[@joycelynlim4307]

Excellent analysis! I stumbled upon your channel and I really love this video! Love the visuals and the calm sequential progression in bringing your point home. I could really relate to this video and I am so grateful that there is a person out there who could properly address this frustration that I have been having internally or externally, especially to those closest to me - friends, family, in a context that relates to writing, dialogues and also, real life. Communication is such a beautiful yet complex thing, truly. And I absolutely love the quality of your video, alongside with the music pairing. On a side note, I realised that you use the word "nuances" quite frequently throughout the different video analysis you have; it's good but just a personal observation, haha. Thanks again, earned a sub!

[@mintyglitches]

this is a cool video but i have literally NEVER heard any conversation like the examples shown, i dont know if its maybe because the people i surround myself with grew up watching films as i did but most conversations i hear sound more like a typical film/tv show conversation than what was shown in this video

[@tatehildyard5332]

Alex Morley I think it depends on when, where, and who you're speaking with. If you're around people with a lot of anxiety or energy, you're more likely to end i with that overlap.

[@aryasuri9421]

If you realise what you are doing, it ceases to be an actual conversation. This frequently happens in conversations. It always does, but people just don't notice it because they are taking part in said conversation.

[@TheGeorgeD13]

I grew up in a family where everyone has ADD, so this sort of thing is very typical. Topics don't last longer than 20 seconds and we talk over each other all the time.

[@MELiSiTA430]

This type of dialogue is totally normal in my family. I guess I just got used to being unheard

[@bridgertonobsessed98]

It’s normal in my family :)

[@abhigupta999]

You guys are really making filmmaking look so easy. A future army of filmmakers is getting ready and I am certainly assured that those guys are gonna thank you for your clear and sharp into the film text dissection.

[@alejandrocardenas9025]

I come back to this video often and honestly articulates communication between family even friends better than I’ve ever heard. Benson if you see this, love you buddy

[@kylesmith9466]

This is beautiful! Dialogue is so essential and so tough to write at times. But it is what makes the scenes remarkable and memorable!

[@MyNameHandle]

You should check out the Norwegian TV series "Skam" (Shame), it is very well made how the characters interact with each other.

[@alexs.3383]

My Name I agree especially for younger people where there's a lot of quiet gaps between dialogue (at appropriate moments)

[@mrskidrauhler]

yes! yes!! i love how the show and the script leave the quiet and awkward moments (that actually happen in real life because we don't always know what to say next) as opossed to it being a word to word conversation

[@vildekm]

Yessss

[@paulinab100]

Yes

[@Anticrystal88]

I get the dialogue principle here ... Altman did that in MASH too, a long time ago. I find it annoying after a point. Yes, YES, we get it! It demonstrates the personality conflict and dysfunction among the characters. But it seems heavy-handed here, and beyond irritating.

[@BollocksUtwat]

Maybe it should be irritating. Dysfunctional people are irritating to be around.

[@Julia-bq8co]

Evian622 x

[@rodrigoodonsalcedocisneros9266]

These guys were irritating. That was the point.

[@maryj7423]

I loved the psychological aspects of this brilliant analysis. It reminds me how rare it is to find someone who can listen, and how the way people listen and talk tells all about their minds and characters. I worked to refine the way that I listen and it always enriches me, but I often find myself like the only listener in a world of people talking to themselves.

[@patches_kitty]

Paying attention to somantics and nuances in conversation has improved my connection to other people far more than I would have ever guessed it would.

[@christmastiger]

Characters talking over each other constantly doesn't necessarily equal realism, but I like that you were getting on board

[@NoMoreForeignWars]

I hate when people ignore what I'm saying and talk over me.

[@j.a.weishaupt1748]

Bob Woodward Or when they ‘politely’ wait for you to finish your sentence only with a face like: “stop it, I want to tell you MY similar story”.

[@martinjakab]

Ohh yesss

[@martinjakab]

It happens all the time because I must be uninteresting

[@skotiskiller]

I hate when I am in a group of people and they completely ignore what I am saying even don't bother answering something I asked. HAHA

[@thesadwolf]

I like bagels also.

[@archiebogle3041]

This is one of my favourite videos on the whole wbesite. Every couple of months i come back to it. The breakdown is just so simple yet effective that makes it engaging. Makes me feel like I could write my own. Some day maybe, eh?

[@Snowfly1]

2 years later this is still one of my favourite KZbin videos. Although I cant explain why. I havent seen the movie yet but I still find this video very pleasant.

[@e.t.464]

Adam Driver is in every movie now.

[@B-Mag]

Adam Sandler is such an underrated actor. People forget that when he has to bring it, he is as good as any other

[@TheGreatKyrillos]

lol. that's because he's a hack and doesn't usually have to bring it xD

[@B-Mag]

@@TheGreatKyrillos I wish he could take himself more seriously. He turns out good performances but he keeps shooting himself in the foot with his newer comedies

[@saiqasyeda7431]

Such a beautiful, insightful breakdown of the scenes, man. Great job!

[@jeffa7235]

Wow, amazing work putting this together. Funny how hearing some of this stuff summed up makes so much sense even though I hadn't considered any of it before. Thanks for making this content

[@soapydanielle]

Very well edited video!!

[@The_Powerhouse_Of_The_Cell]

The person that practically invented dialogue that speaks over itself is Robert Altman. Do a video on Nashville!

[@elbiewatson]

Nice work on this. I especially liked the visual of missiles being lobbed at 3:08 as an analogy to our attempts to be heard/understood at the same time everyone else is. Catching and connecting the use of "arbitrage" was brilliant.

[@s.bernal1072]

I’ve seen this video and a few others of yours each nearly 12 times now. Fantastic work.

[@xtxpxhx]

I want to list "talking over each other" as a major symptom of a dysfunctional family. Its disrespectful as hell and that's sometimes the point

[@tfpp1]

The most poignant and familiar thing about Sandler's character is his subtle limp. I swear, I know that guy.

[@pompeedooz8353]

I think what some actors miss, that I find Andrew Scott does brilliantly, is the slowness and pacing of speaking. Because, it doesn’t even require the grammatical errors or stutters, but speaking as if you are actually thinking up the words makes it far more surreal and sincere. Andrew Scott’s Hamlet is slow, but he acts as if he is currently understanding and developing his words, which is what really adds to the sincerity of reality.

[@reganpuckett4937]

This is such an informative and eloquent video, I loved every minute of it. Fantastic job! Your efforts are so appreciated!

[@renzorco]

i just discovered your channel. i love your content

[@hitchikerspie]

The CGP Grey old music at the end!

[@SashaRaquel]

I love the visual representation of the dialogue on top of each other. I'm watching this after just seeing Marriage Story and I can already say I'm a huge fan of Noah Baumbach's work

[@BOYAFOYA]

This is honestly an excellent video. I haven't been this satisfied with a video in a long minute. You got a new sub from me.

[@MrTheLuke]

coen brothers have very fun dialogue. I really like theirs

[@TemporallyImpaired]

The simplicity of the craft which makes the craft special. Something as simple as talking over each other.

[@JaeTheINKtrovert]

Don't know how I missed this video - I love dialogue like this in films! Great study 👌

[@esrahasanx]

Your videos are amazing, bravo ! I like that every time you do your research and add a fresh and unique perspective. Best of luck!!