What Remains in Stage 4 Dementia || Not ALL is LOST! The What Remains Series

[@luciandlemstabler5917]

Great presentation! Very informative! I have been involving my husband in sooo many new things to see if there is something he might like to stimulate his brain. I never thought of it as mining.Good word! Thank you!

[@ralemc1960]

4 years ago. I hope you had a complete heart healing.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Thank you for your comment. I have had some ups and downs. Prayers for better Health appreciated! I need to make more content

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Hello! Thanks for watching!!

[@puppy2haley]

Glad I found your channel. You hit the nail on the head with my 90 yr old husband in the frustration/gets angry stage. He’s still very independent. He can care for his hygiene (takes own showers & dresses himself, etc) BUT lots of conversations of when he was younger days. I subscribed. Thax for these informative videos! 👍

[@DementiaWithGrace]

So glad you found some help!! We would love to have you over on the group on Facebook! Link in the description! Love and joy! Vicky ♥️

[@lorettawatkins5024]

Grace, all I can say is that you are a marvel!

[@sarahcrain8083]

Vicky I have been praying for you. Hope you feel better soon.

[@karenowens4317]

Thank you so much. Mom just been diagnosed..

[@pattitibble]

I'm so so broken up over watching my brilliant husband no longer be able to do the tasks at work he used to do flawlessly. He is SO SO ANGRY and wants to die instead of going through this. He used to fly high performance planes, he ran several businesses simultaneously, he was a brilliant entrenuer starting several businesses from scratch. Now he struggles daily with cognitive things... Is still completely functional physically. What stage is this!

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Based on other comments, you are describing a lot of stage 5 behavior. But remember, we take care of the person, not the stage. Knowing the stage is helpful for some reasons, but we treat the person and THEIR behavior. All my love!

[@susanmeredith5456]

God bless you. Hope you recover quickly.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

I’m on the road to a full recovery! I ended up having a second heart attack and had to have an open heart surgery 🫣🫣🫣 but thank God I was given a second chance! I am getting back “in the saddle” making more videos! I wrote a second edition to my book as well! God is good to me! Thanks for your concern and well wishes!!

[@janetfishwick8887]

My 93 year old mother is in stage 4- 5 Alzheimers. She has no joy or passion about anything. Mother is stubborn, in denial, non- compliant with her carers and refuses to admit that she needs any help whatsoever. She spends all day in her small bungalow and obsesses about her heating being on, where her bank card is, writes lists of shopping and reads newspapers which are meaningless. She remembers nothing about recent events but recalls parts of her past. We are trying to get her out of her home and into a Care Home, such is her failing capacity to self sustain. I have had to apply for a POA in Health and Welfare for legal support and evidence to remove her, such is her attitude and reaction to being re- homed.

[@AmandaAllen-c2q]

@@janetfishwick8887 My Gram is mostly the same way. Doesn't want to do anything or go anywhere. It's sad. This is a woman who has been to 5 continents and had the chance to meet Nelson Mandela while we were on vacation in the Bahamas in 1993.

[@nena00naja]

Thanks for all your educational content we need more channels like this.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Nina P thanks! I hope you find help here!!!! Love and joy! ~Vicky

[@Kyrrdis]

I hope you get better soon!

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Sarah Glenn thank you so much!!

[@beckycoty5632]

I thoroughly enjoy your videos hope your health gets better have a great and safe week thanks.

[@KiKiQuiQuiKiKi]

I can’t ignore the hat-IT’s GREAT!!!❤❤❤

[@DementiaWithGrace]

It’s my favorite!! Hats and red lipstick 💄 saves the day! 😆🤗😊

[@geraldineross5168]

Hope you are feeling better soon Vicki! My Husband is in stage four moving toward stage five, life is getting more of a challenge every day!

[@xiixiixo]

This explains why my mom got the jokes on the Jungle Cruise ride at Disney World. She had just been diagnosed with moderate dementia two months prior to our vacation.

[@pennyburkeen4377]

Thank you for your videos. (I like your hat!) My mom hasn’t actually been diagnosed, but I think she’s in Stage 4, most of the time. I’m still able to leave her by herself for a few hours, while I go to work. Your videos help me to be more understanding of her. 😊

[@pennybeach5170]

This was great!!! I'm trying to figure out where my mom falls in these stages? She is DETERMINED that she still drives, shops and goes to church weekly! She has not driven in three years and has not been to church in over two years. I've been a live in caregiver (which my job before I moved in) for mom for 3 1/2 years now. She will not entertain any thought that she has Alzheimers or is losing her memory. She was tested in 2017 as having moderate Alzheimers.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

It’s difficult to face. There can be lots of denial. So sorry. ! Please come join our group on Facebook for more support! Link in description!! ♥️. Vicky

[@PaintedShovel]

Thank you so much for this!

[@DementiaWithGrace]

You're so welcome! ❤️❤️❤️

[@jenniferwithrow5512]

Recover well! ❤

[@rodneyburnside5686]

Thank you

[@DementiaWithGrace]

You're welcome ☺️

[@edwardb7811]

Stage four: they know they have a problem but can't cover it up any more.

[@nedrawebb2707]

Very informative. Thank you

[@toryberch]

Vicky, I don't know why your awol but I hope and pray for you 🙏💜😊 if you ever do any further videos could you do more on Lewy Body and mixed Alzheimer's with Lewy Body. I'm not finding a lot about the phases and what to expect. I joined LBDA but the support group you get roughly 8-10 for a turn to talk. I do have your first book and it's been a big help 👍

[@DementiaWithGrace]

I’m trying super hard to be more available this quarter!!

[@toryberch]

@@DementiaWithGrace Oh good to hear from you Vicky. Sounds like you've been very busy. Thank you for letting me know 😊. I'm looking forward to seeing you again 🤗🌺💕💕

[@DementiaWithGrace]

THANK YOU for checking in on me!!

[@alanr4263]

My Mom says when she's not on Medication she's said I don't want to die like repeats over & over.Amy reason it kills me when I hear her say that I wish I can help her.

[@tobiasisback4605]

My father at 86 I think has vascular dementia. He is suffering congestive heart failure and has had a few TIAs. His behaviour has been intermittently odd these past few years. Strange episodes of irrational or frankly paranoid delusions, held with unshakeable conviction. Long lists compensating for memory loss. Language seems ostly unaffected but he struggles now with reasoning, with mental tasks like paying bills. He can still drive, judges distances well and can function in most ways. Recently he had a serious viral infection and, although recovered, he no longer seems able to hide or compensate for his confusion. He repeats questions and topics fretfully. He is agitated. Particularly towards evening, when he feels suffocated, paces around and throws open doors and windows. Other times he is depressed and apathetic. He is a bit mean at times and seems to take pride in a lack of hospitality to family and friends. Hygiene is beginning to suffer. But he doesn’t like being alone and tends to follow you around. He says that he doesn’t feel right in the head and that frightens him. He lives by himself and is very independent but has talked about moving into a nursing home so he can “give up the struggle”. He has become quite uninhibited and talks about sex or will comment loudly on eg. how fat someone is without seeming to realise this is not socially acceptable. I worry that he will be seen as 'trouble' in a nursing home and thrown out or may be drugged into compliance and quietude. But, to be honest, I can’t bring myself to be his carer, nor I think does he want that. Stage 3 or 4 maybe? Still has a lot left but definitely in quite a steep mental decline.

[@latherandlace]

I thought my mom may still have some portion of stage four left in her but no. What is with the falling? Is that part of Dementia? I just met my parents for lunch and found out she fell Monday night and nearly fell coming in the front door which almost knocked over my father. I caught them both. I just think we need to be doing more for her. Just for instance her skin needs moisturizer every day and he can't manage all the things that she needs but she refuses help from anyone but him. It's quite frustrating.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Lori Abercrombie balance is controlled in the brain, so yes, an increase in falls can be due to the dementia. If you can have her evaluated by home health care, physical therapy could be available to help.

[@nikkic83]

I’m my 85 year old mother’s caregiver. Unfortunately the things she used to love to do she can’t because of physical limitations. I’ve struggled with activities for us to do together.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Niki, come join the group on Facebook. There is a link in the video description here, or you can search Facebook for DementiaWithGrace Caregiver support group all my love.

[@nikkic83]

My mother passed December 27, 2022. Your channel along with your loving southern Insight, knowledge and compassion helped me through a very difficult time. I am now helping others as a caregiver. Thank you🙏♥️

[@henriettahenson]

Firstly can I say how sorry I am about your illness ...🤗You could never have reasoned with my mother about having dementia in stage four or five for that matter she was in total denial she would scream at my poor father if he said anything to imply anything was wrong. this is interesting what you are saying but you have to understand the individual ....and my mother was not easy to pin down because in all the stages up to now last stage where she can't really communicate that well at all ....she could talk a good talk she would sound perfectly normal when talking to the doctors who she fooled for so long .it was when she got us on our own she would be just terrible would do and say awful things to my dad that would bring him to tears ...so my question is what do you do if the denial of the illness is there in the person right up to the late stages .?😍

[@DementiaWithGrace]

henrietta henson if it upsets someone, I just don’t talk about it. Only talk about things that are positive. Everyone with dementia, especially with mixed dementia as you stated in another comment, as your mom has...is very individual. These videos are casting a wide net. Trying to get the most common things to the public. So sorry your road is so fraught with sorrow and anger with her. It’s not always that way. So, so sorry.

[@doggette2]

First i want to give you a big hug.i totally understand how your mother is.Mine was the same.

[@henriettahenson]

@@doggette2 thankyou mother is still here after being on palative care with no food or water for two weeks........ is now up @ about eating walking its weird the doctors say she has never seen a come back like it... She had pneumonia that would have killed a rhinoceros... GO figure 🤔

[@doggette2]

@@henriettahenson yes,my mother was a tough old broad too.take care of yourself too.

[@smarterandwiser3407]

I so feel for your father. Living the same thing. Could appear perfectly normal to doctors (until hospitalization forced a basic neurological exam), then turn into Mr. Hyde with me at home. Knows something's wrong, but usually blames me or mythical intruders. I think the total denial and having to take the blame for so much is the hardest. You are more of a blessing to your father than you can know, This is VERY hard to do alone.

[@michaelstetzer3144]

How do you get a loved one assessed? I see a lot of the signs but can’t seem to get her to go see a doctor.

[@bethphelps2856]

What stage is it normal to be diagnosed in? It seems hard to get a diagnosis.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Thanks for the question Beth! You can usually get a diagnosis of at least MCI, which is mild cognitive impairment, fairly early at stage 2 or 3. Dementia can progress out of that, or it can stay at MCI and never progress. The diagnosis of dementia usually comes around stage four which is the video that you are commenting on. There are other Videos of stage four, and videos of all the stages. People can straddle the stages i.e. stage 3/4 or even the three in the morning and four in the afternoon. If you feel that there are significant cognitive changes. You can make an appointment with a neurologist to further evaluate. It is also a good idea to just see a neurologist to establish a baseline. I hope this helps! Be sure and join the group on Facebook, by searching DementiaWithGrace Caregiver support group over on Facebook. all my love, Vicky

[@marymckenna4743]

How do you know what stage your in

[@bernardwinn1817]

Nice 👒 🧢 hat

[@AmandaAllen-c2q]

My Grammy (moms mom who will be 84 in January 2025) i think she is in stage 4 and has been for nearly a year.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Hey Amanda! Sorry to just catch up to your comment. Thank you for watching and commenting. We’d be happy to have you in the group! Lots of people join when their person is in 4. That’s when many people first notice the changes. Here’s the link if you are interested! m.facebook.com/groups/dementiawithgrace

[@AmandaAllen-c2q]

@@DementiaWithGrace ok thanks I will join. I'm actually not even sure she is in stage 4. For all I know, she may be in stage 5. She still can hold a conversation, shower alone, eat and dress herself. She just has lost all interest in doing ANYTHING, including looking through old photo albums or talking about the past. She is also starting to wear the same shirt and pants nearly every day. And I'm lucky if I get her in the shower 2 times a week. What stage is that? We are living together in the same apartment that we have lived in for over 7 years. She was diagnosed in April of 2021. She still thinks she is fine and is in full denial about her Alzheimer's.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

She could be straddling 4 and 5. Come get in the group. I will be going Live tomorrow night (10-10-24) inside the group! It’s a Q/A session. If you can join in, remind me and I will address it

[@AmandaAllen-c2q]

@@DementiaWithGrace ok. What time? I'm on the east Coast. This disease is taking her pretty fast I think.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Sorry! It is 8pm Central so 9pm Eastern!!