What Remains in Stage 5 Dementia || Not ALL is LOST! The What Remains Series

What Remains in Stage 5 Dementia || Not ALL is LOST! The What Remains Series
~About the Book~
“Dementia with Grace: A New, Positive Way of Dealing with Behaviors in People with Dementia” addresses behaviors whether caused by Alzheimer's Disease, Lewy-Body dementia, vascular dementia, frontal-temporal dementia or any other type.
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~About Me~
My name is Vicky Noland Fitch and I hold a Bachelor of Social Work degree and I am also a Certified Dementia Practitioner. I have been a dementia caregiver for over 25 years, and I love to help people problem solve when difficult behaviors arise. I live and work out of an 1892 farmhouse deep in the heart of Dixie with my husband, Phil and my ragdoll cat, Contessa. I have one daughter, Emily, and a son in law, Eric.
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The information presented herein has been developed by Vicky Noland Fitch, BSW, CDP over a 25+ year career of working primarily as a dementia caregiver, educator, trainer and now as a consultant.
The information provided in this video should not be construed or relied upon as medical advice for any specific fact or circumstance. Its content was prepared by Dementia With Grace for informational and entertainment purposes only. You should not act or rely on any of the information contained herein without seeking professional medical advice.
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[@marygoodsell3602]

I am a bit behind, I just discovered you and the video is 3 years old! You are so right, you described my husband exactly, he can watch the same video for 4 hours, he has read the same children’s book everyday for 6 months. He is cheerful and happy which makes me cheerful and happy! I feel for those whose person seems to have no interests.

[@janetfishwick8887]

My mother is now 94 and well into stage 5 of Alzheimers. She still has her carers twice a day and they now prepare her evening meal because she can no longer use her microwave oven or hob. Mother has no hobbies or interests whatsoever. She never has had any throughout her years. Mother has no passion for puzzles, music, reading, colouring, jigsaws or anything in this realm. Mother is deaf and refuses to wear hearing aids. She is unsteady on her feet and refuses to use a walking stick. She is incontinent and refuses to wear appropriate underwear consistently. One more issue we have with mother is the fact that she abseloutely refuses to consider going into a Care Home. Mother is becoming increasingly difficult and needy but she is still in deep denial.

[@Kasperx138]

she's not in denial she doesn't even know what denial means. you're the one in denial

[@jimmyd4092]

Oh my God my mother is the the same way except demonically mean. Nothing pleases her. Won't shower complains about things real and imagined. If she could walk she would have assaulted one of the care givers by now.

[@ScreenJem]

My mother in law has no interest in anything. Doesn’t like food, music, TV, no hobbies…she just sits and looks out the window mostly and mumbles to herself. Sometimes she makes lists of things she wants to ask DR’s at appointments she doesn’t actually have. The only thing she obsesses over is looking at her address book for hours on end. She literally will not do anything but sit there and talk to herself. This woman, who has a phd in Art history, has lost all intellectual curiosity about everything. It’s very sad.

[@dennistaylor9982]

Your such an awesome lady, thank you for these videos this gives me so much support with my dads Alzheimer's. Go bless you Vicky

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Come Join us inside the group! So many smart people and a positive hopeful attitude abounds!! Link in description all my love Vicky

[@paulinewhite3796]

No joy with my mother. She’s lost all empathy for everyone. Everything she focuses on is herself. Is this normal?

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Yes. They are losing so much, it feels so out of control, that they turn inward as a self-protective measure. Think about if you were being attacked by a tiger (a threat to your person) are you looking around to help others! No, you immediately help yourself. That’s a normal, human response to danger to your person. Feeling out of control elicits a similar response. Does that make sense!? I hope so! ❤️❤️❤️

[@dallasguidroz9350]

@@DementiaWithGraceoh good I thought it was just her narcissistic, codependency personality disorder she’s also very mentally unstable just add deminta on top of it all. Before dementia she was extremely needy and co-dependent. I understand she’s scared to death I hate it for her so much but can’t let it destroy me in the process then she would have no one.

[@tennesseegirl5539]

You are stuffed with great ideas! I 💓 YOU. Thank The Lord for you!

[@geraldineross5168]

I am worried about when my husband doesn’t recognize me anymore or love me after 54 years of being married.

[@abirdietoldme4102]

Thank you for your videos. They have helped so much. We are still trying to figure out how to find the need when it comes to our loved one's non stop and i mean non stop talking. We don't know if we should be worried.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

It can be a self soothing technique to quiet their mind. Try headphones with music he loves. Try different speeds of music if one type doesn’t work. Try it!! Come back and let us know if it helps him!!! All my love. It’s a hard journey ❤️❤️❤️

[@Daysleeper1000]

This is a late response, but, my dad was the same way. Non stop talking. It seemed as if it was self soothing for anxiety. This was stage 3 Alzheimer's. Now, a few years later, dad's very quiet, and I miss the chatter. 😢

[@latherandlace]

Thank you Vicky! Miss your pearls but love your hat!!

[@susanmeredith5456]

Thank you for all of your helpful videos!

[@DementiaWithGrace]

You are so welcome! ❤️❤️❤️

[@vansteen1515]

Yes have helped me so much

[@DementiaWithGrace]

So glad! All my love!

[@rodneyburnside5686]

Thank you

[@DementiaWithGrace]

You're welcome!!! ☺️

[@janetfishwick8887]

My 91 year old mother is approaching stage 5 Alzheimer's disease. She displays all the symptoms which we attempt to deal with as a family. Her greatest disadvantage throughout this disease is that mother is anti - social to a degree of reclusivity. Mother has no interest in going out and joining clubs where she could talk, knit, paint, cook, colour or be remotely creative. We have tried this with her but she is stubbornly uncooperative. We continue to care for her but as time and her condition progresses, we find difficulties in engaging her to even leave her home.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Janet Fishwick that makes sense. It is common for personality traits to be expanded in dementia. Try and do social things with her at home. She may be happier just staying to herself.

[@janetfishwick8887]

@@DementiaWithGrace Thankyou very much for your reply. We will try to engage her in social activities in her home. She does play cards when no one is there and seems to be interested in helping in the garden. Mother has osteoarthritis so cannot kneel down to do any tasks, in or out of her bungalow. We will attempt some form of engagement but are not optimistic.

[@shirleythomas2154]

Thank you very helpful my friend i think is just starting in stage 4 i can see the changes 😢

[@nancypierce8380]

I have a triple whammy. My husband has bad ocd, cannot hear a thing, and memory loss totally for short term. Having trouble getting him to give up driving and finances. Still thinks he can do it abd that nothings wrong!!

[@clarkaty]

Thank you so much for what you do!! 😍

[@marycato1361]

My husband for most part won't go to the restroom. Hasn't any interest on his own but does love family he told me today I hated him because I was getting him to put trash in garbage can, and that was an effort.he is my eyes though very visual while I'm driving helps me that way can't dress without help or isn't completed. What phase would this be .

[@dmishaw-sawyers]

Thank you for your very informative videos. I have learned so much by watching them. I just watched this video. My Mom is 93 years old. She does not seem to be interested or passionate about anything in particular except eating. Basically, the only thing she does is sit in her chair and nap. The one thing she is consistent about is asking what are we eating or what my siblings and I are cooking to eat. This is about the extent of her conversation with us now. Your thoughts?

[@user-hi8rg7bl2s]

Cooking show? Can she make sense of talking about meals she used to make?

[@dmishaw-sawyers]

She will try to discuss how to make certain recipes, but the words get a little garbled most of the time. For instance, if she's talking about adding eggs, she might say put the chicken in the bowl and stir it up. OR some of the words might come out unintelligible--sounding like a foreign language. We just roll with it in order to get some conversation going. Thanks for your reply.

[@pattitibble]

My husband tries to be funny and humorous but it now does not make sense. People are beginning to notice, he can't accomplish tasks at work.. self employed accountant...

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Sorry PT for my delayed response! The group is the BEST way to get answers and varied responses, if you’d like to join! This sounds more like Stage 3 into 4…have you watched those videos? Look at those! All my love, Vicky ❤️

[@AZHITW]

At stage five my partner would watch western movies all day, and if his sister called him, he'd give her a blow-by-blow description of how we were surrounded by a tribe of Indians, and we were under constant attack, he wasn't able to separate the movie from reality but his sister just played along and they would have a 30 minute conversation on how to defend yourself when under attack. To keep him somewhat active I made a cornhole game using those air packing pillows I'd fill with some sand and stapled and taped closed and instead of using a cornhole board I just put a shoe box a couple of feet in front of his recliner, and he got such joy when he tossed the sand filled bag into the box. He's been gone over a year, but darn I sure miss him.

[@dennistaylor9982]

sorry my keyboard sticks God Bless you Vicky

[@donnaallgaier-lamberti3933]

I am trying to learn more about what is coming....I just don't see much that my husband is passionate about (with the exception of playing on his phone and watching Hallmark movies on his Laptop.) The pasttimes and hobbies that he was formerly passionate about involves fishing, hunting, guns, wood working but these all require mobility in his body that, sadly, he no longer has. And the idea of him working with guns scares the pants off of me (thankfully all the guns are gone now.) I think I am going to try bringing home a puzzle from our senior center for him to try to see if that can occupy and interest him. He has always been interested in working dogs and using dogs for his hunting. I rescued a Lab/Staffy three years ago to help keep him somewhat active walking her but that is all I have come up with.... QUIESTION: Will you talk about using the stove and cooking. What stage does this (safely) end?

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Stage 4 usually. Definitely by 5. All my love!

[@mariatrotter6889]

I 100 💯 agree . You are spot on

[@elizabethschurwan5146]

my stage 5 husband is now passionate about American presidential history and hammering things.

[@cifalem]

I'm 19 and I'm really scared of Dimensia. My grandma died 2 years ago and couldn't even remember my mom. If I find out that I have Dimensia I'd probably want to pass on before it got to that point.

[@Catholic_convert81]

You're 19 , go enjoy your life , dont dwell on what may never happen or if it does is very far away. Honour your Grandma by living a full happy life. Its what she would want i am sure.

[@cifalem]

@@Catholic_convert81 that put a smile on my face. Thank you! I will try!

[@Yumi-ph7lv]

My husband has no interests other than wanting to DRIVE. He loves Teslas, and wants to study the DMV manual to get his license back. 😢

[@clarkaty]

I love watching cleaning videos too!! I find the voices and theme music comforting in Andy Griffith Show

[@emmaacosta8679]

My mother loves her Elvis music and videos. She can watch him all day.

[@janetfishwick8887]

I wrote a month ago about my 91 year old mother who has stage 4- 5 Alzheimer's and no social skills whatsoever. She has now been diagnosed with arthritis in her left hip and already has osteoarthritis in her left knee. Mother struggles to get out of her armchair and walk without stumbling. She refuses to use a walking stick. Mother meanders mindlessly round her bungalow looking for things to reorganise and replace. She does not listen to music, watch the television during the day, do jigsaws, colour in or engage in any activities. She reads the newspaper to see what day and month it is and watches television without hearing aids. Her stubbornness and defiance remain uppermost in her attitude towards her failing health. I think she is beyond help and we, as a family, feel obliged to intervene, albeit reluctantly.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Janet Fishwick bless you. And bless her. I hope you will find common ground. If I can help, let me know!

[@ginic7932]

My mom gets a lot of satisfaction from sorting and organizing. She has spent hours and hours sorting beads by size and color, arranging her quilting "stash" by textures, colors, patterns. She cannot work on a quilt or creative project anymore, but she feels good manipulating the materials. Maybe that is where your mom "is" right now?

[@ginic7932]

Something else that might matter - my mom won't participate in any of the mental engagement activities unless one of us is doing them alongside her. Just got this into my head this weekend, I bought 2 copies of a crossword book and she will pick hers up to start, and drop it unless I as what she is stuck on. I help her past a "lost" word and she will chug along until another frustration slows her down.

[@janetfishwick8887]

Thankyou all for your advice and understanding of mother’s situation. Sadly, mother passed away in December 2022 in a Care Home to where she had been admitted after a second fall in June 1022. She spent 3 weeks in hospital after her fall( a small spinal injury) and her capacity to self maintain was deemed inadequate. Mother never wanted to go to a Home , insisting that she could cope. All our efforts to keep her in her bungalow were exhausted and the Care Home was the best professional and medical place for her to be. Mother died peacefully, surrounded by family. She was 3 weeks short of her 95th birthday. A very good , long innings finally came to an end.