I love how you stopped to enjoy the sunlight coming through the window! Love you Vicki and hope your health is well these days!
@trelyndakerr Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for your grace. I have been taking care of my mom for the last few years. I am not always graceful!
@DementiaWithGrace Жыл бұрын
You are so welcome, and NONE of us are!!! Come on over to the group!! m.facebook.com/groups/dementiawithgrace
@jacquelinegeorge5410 Жыл бұрын
None of us are, even the person with dementia
@Rebecca-111111 ай бұрын
Absolutely correct. We are humans. I've lost it more then once. A pillow to scream in is nice. Take a walk and get weekly breaks if you can.
@Kera.S.8 ай бұрын
I was a behavior special education teacher for grades K-3. I totally agree with you, behavior and communication are the most important! 💙 🤗 And because of an unmet need!!
@cathyweiss534711 ай бұрын
You make this frightening disease much less scary. I love to listen to your series. You are so special in the way you present this difficult information with such care and love. I believe you are truly an angel. Please keep up your incredible work. After listening to you I actually feel maybe, just maybe I can go the distance with my husband now with PDD for 5 years at home. I fail everyday. And everyday I get up in the morning hopeful to do better with the help of wonderful teachers such as yourself. I am truly grateful.
@DementiaWithGrace11 ай бұрын
Thank you for saying that! Hearing that you feel encouraged and inspired is encouraging to ME!
@Rebecca-111111 ай бұрын
Prayers for you both. I'm so sorry.
@theresadubas73462 жыл бұрын
My sister cognitive & directional is totally gone there is not one thing she can do on her own . It’s beyond heartbreaking 💔 she’s a shell of what she once was. I wish their was an experimental where I could live one day in her mind to see what she goes through.
@DementiaWithGrace2 жыл бұрын
All my love. ❤️ Vicky
@jacquelinegeorge5410 Жыл бұрын
I can answer that for you, it's hell!
@Rebecca-111111 ай бұрын
I'm so sorry. Keep soft music planning. Hymns she likes. 🙏
@user-jq6qf5td5r4 ай бұрын
I am so glad to find your videos. My Mom is at a 19 in the cognitive test. I’m trying to learn all I can so I can help her. I just want her to feel safe and happy.
@joycedwyer87782 жыл бұрын
OMG. I just found your channel. My husband is about in stage 4. I think. Can't wait to watch all your videos. What a caring sweet lady you are. I needed this so badly.
@DementiaWithGrace2 жыл бұрын
Aww! Good! I hope it helps!
@Max-je7qd Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for these videos. My 83 year old mother was diagnosed with dementia a month ago and we are having a hard time adjusting to this. She stares straight ahead and doesn't acknowledge us when we visit. She acts like she hates us. Right now my siblings and I are just trying to find information.
@DementiaWithGrace11 ай бұрын
Y’all come join the group! It is a free resource, it is on Facebook, so it is already on a platform most people use, and you are surrounded by caregivers who are in the same storm, just a different boat. m.facebook.com/groups/dementiawithgrace
@geraldineross51682 жыл бұрын
That is why I love you as a person you are real people, there is not a phony bone in your body.
@DementiaWithGrace2 жыл бұрын
Mistakes, crazy hair, bad lighting!! And, words of comfort. It’s all just me. Love you!
@angelaharris1112Ай бұрын
I have very mild dementia. Hope it's ok to join. I belong to other caretaker sites. I'm blessed that this was caught very early by a fluke as my Dr thought I had MS. I have watched others, including my grandmother with dementia. It's so sad. I do want to go to a home when I can no longer care for myself. Then I want to die in hospice. I'm also "visually impaired" directly related to the dementia.
@jjschannel65322 жыл бұрын
well I said I was going to skip this video for awhile because I wasn't sure I wanted to know too much about what's ahead of us. It turns out this video wasn't scary at all lol and I did learn something, you mentioned shadowing. I have never heard of that but I think it cleared something up for me. My hubs can't get up without my assistance and when he is up he can't walk. But I have been going a bit nuts because if I go into the bathroom or kitchen or wherever he constantly yells for me. When I run in to see what he needs, he doesn't need anything. Maybe this is his way of shadowing since he can't walk. I always learn something from your videos Vicky, thank you. And I have learned more in 3 days in your FB group than I have learned in yrs about this dreadful disease.
@DementiaWithGrace2 жыл бұрын
I’m so happy you were brave enough to watch! I thought about tagging you in the announcement of this video to tell you it was not heavy. I think you are exactly right about that behavior being his way of shadowing. Hang in there! Thank you for your kind words!!
@karenowens431710 ай бұрын
You are a ray of sunshine..
@DementiaWithGrace10 ай бұрын
Awww! How sweet of you to say!! ❤️❤️❤️
@dovie1272 жыл бұрын
Love this series of videos. So many who are new to this disease. I thought I knew… until it hit my family. I really had no idea how hard it is for the whole family. The fb group and your videos are such a blessing to me and many others. Thank you for what you do!!
@DementiaWithGrace2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Dovie!!!
@carolinaprepper6603 Жыл бұрын
you said it all. think I was in denial for awhile. now I need this help and support. bless you
@Rebecca-111111 ай бұрын
It truly is. I wish I had this when my dad was going through all this. What a blessing. I was blessed I was a CNA for many years before and a husband that's a LPN that works in long care elder care. We knew what was coming. We took care of my mother inlaw on hospice until she passed in 2021. Now my mother has dementia symptoms.
@bettyloewen9390 Жыл бұрын
Vicky, i just 'Love you to pieces'!!! ❤❤❤ I Love your authenticity, your heart for 'our person' and their people and i LOVE your accent ❤️ Thank You so, so much for who you are and what you do!!! ❤
@DementiaWithGrace Жыл бұрын
Made my day!! Thanks for responding!!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
@paulafederico361010 ай бұрын
I am so thankful to have found your video. My son ,who is a non verbal level 3 autistic adult, has been in a constant state of all the behaviors you described. It's like he has been experiencing dementia his entire life. I am looking forward to the rest of your series on behaviors, and thank you so much for sharing your knowledge with us. ❤
@susan952211 ай бұрын
You are so nice and kind. I wish I had the compassion that you have.
@DementiaWithGrace11 ай бұрын
Big hugs! Thank you for the sweet words! I believe compassion and patience can be developed!! Have you watched my “Gripe and Gratitude” video? That may help to keep a journal as suggested there! You’ve got this!! ❤️❤️❤️
@DementiaWithGrace11 ай бұрын
Here it is: kzbin.info/www/bejne/aGjbgHt_e5yMnM0si=KdR88jX7Fsxj4BGz
@dauneiceherrellbenfield239 ай бұрын
Thank you so much. You explain everything well.
@DementiaWithGrace9 ай бұрын
Glad it was helpful! ❤️❤️❤️ Vicky
@michellehimed516911 ай бұрын
Hi Vicki. Both my mother (LBD) and my husband have dementia. I'm glad to have found you.
@salauerman70827 ай бұрын
Are you and your dad able to work together, to help each other?
@mariatrotter68892 жыл бұрын
Great video . I love how you make things easy to understand and follow . Thank you for sharing your knowledge and experience.
@alisonmardian13862 жыл бұрын
Thank You so much. going through this w my mom.
@Rebecca-111111 ай бұрын
My mother does this following with a annoying hum.
@marinelagarza-ponce109 Жыл бұрын
Vicky thank you so much for your passion & such transparency in detailing your knowledge to us. I love you n thank you so much ,hugs from S Texas ❤️😘
@DementiaWithGrace Жыл бұрын
You know I love to! Praying for wellness to do some more/recent! ❤️❤️❤️
@Henriquezblu2 жыл бұрын
This is so informative and eye opening thank you so very much for making & sharing these much needed videos. I appreciate your grace & compassion for dementia patients. I’ve been passing along what I’ve learned to my friend who’s mom has severe dementia.
@DementiaWithGrace2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your sweet words! ❤️ Vicky
@Henriquezblu2 жыл бұрын
@@DementiaWithGrace you are very welcome.
@angelaharris1112Ай бұрын
Thank you
@sunsetfree53582 жыл бұрын
I look at your beautiful woodwork behind you. We live in a 150 yr old home with beautiful woodwork too, and my dad insists on repeatedly smashing his walker into it, sometimes for hours at a time. Also into the furniture, the plaster walls, the toilet, the kitchen cabinets. He is destroying things. If he were a child, we would smack his bottom, and tell him “no, that is destructive and not acceptable!” In what world do we just ALLOW our parents destroy our house, just because they can no longer learn?! You have a calm way about you, but I just wonder if you would be so calm if it was YOUR house they were destroying! I wish I could figure out what he wants/needs so he’ll stop! He’s on no medications, and all of his bodily functions (pee, poop) are working normally. He’s always been a very busy man who is very much in control. All I can think is that he is angry inside about being out of control of his life. He’s in stage 6. He always used to be a man who took VERY good care of his things, and helped fix other people’s things. I cannot figure out why he thinks this destructive behavior is ok. 😞 Sadly, we don’t have Facebook.
@DementiaWithGrace2 жыл бұрын
Try this video. kzbin.info/www/bejne/gnvclKd-rc6riqc
@DementiaWithGrace2 жыл бұрын
Also, my REACTION would not be calm, I’m sure! But given a moment to gather myself, hopefully I could RESPOND with calm. I all caps those words to emphasize the difference. I will do a video on it soon, too. I think you are right that he is angry. I also have a video that anger is fears bodyguard. I’ll connect that one here, too. He may need some medication for depression, maybe. Talk to his doctor. Let me get the anger video!
@DementiaWithGrace2 жыл бұрын
Anger is Fear’s Bodyguard || Words of Wisdom kzbin.info/www/bejne/mHKunqRjj7elidE
@sunsetfree53582 жыл бұрын
@@DementiaWithGrace Thank you…for everything. You’re right; SO much to learn-not just about my father with dementia, but about myself. I’m trying…and I’ll keep trying…
@toryberch2 жыл бұрын
@@sunsetfree5358 Sunset, I really hope and pray for you I can't imagine how exhausted and drained you and your husband must be Not to mention the heavy toll it's taking on your marriage. May God's blessings be with you all in this critical time
@marissaolivarez8548 ай бұрын
Thank you for your content. It has been very helpful in understanding “my person”- my Grandma. ❤Dealing with this has been so parallel to handling/understanding behaviors my autistic toddler exhibits. The difference is, like you said- my child will continue to learn and grow but my loved one will continue to lose their capabilities. Either way ABA tactics seem to be good solution.
@DementiaWithGrace8 ай бұрын
I totally agree. I am not well versed in autism but I see so many similarities as I learn more! Thanks for your comment!
@donnaallgaier-lamberti39332 ай бұрын
All this information helps me to cope and to plan and that is very helpful with a disease that keeps us jumping. We still have to take it a day at a time but the more we know the better off both of us are. BTW: your hair at this length and with the soft curls is so attractive. Can you talk about the issue of safety with wondering? A friend of mine from our local dementia support group has a husband with FTL Dementia and he wanders in the streets and neighborhood for hours every day. She lets him just go and I am worried for him? I suggested that she try to go with him (like a walk) but she says she needs the private time when he goes out so she is happy he goes....Can you make any other suggestions how to keep him safe beside tracking him on her cell phone?
@ramadasa776 ай бұрын
👍🙏🤗 thanks!
@IndyTheCat2 жыл бұрын
I really appreciate you and am grateful to find your YT channel. What exactly is the name of the FB group?
@DementiaWithGrace2 жыл бұрын
Dementia with Grace Caregiver Support Group!
@KoebyG6 ай бұрын
This is brilliant. I have a tetraplegic with Dementia and we are struggling to help manage our clients needs :(
@DementiaWithGrace6 ай бұрын
Thank you for the sweet comment! Come join the group. It seriously is the best! m.facebook.com/groups/dementiawithgrace
@leonpatterson8445 Жыл бұрын
Should one show your videos to a person with dementia that is in stage four?
@DementiaWithGrace Жыл бұрын
Well, it depends on the person. If you think it may answer some of their questions it could be useful. However, Stage 4 is on the precipice of the descent into 5 which is when they lose their core memory to a great extent. It can be an extremely challenging journey for the family re: losing “the person” for the first time, as their recent memories fade giving way to visiting the remote past. It could be pleasant for them or troubling. It is a delicate balance (as is the whole journey), so consider that. So tough. All my love, Vicky 🥰🥰🥰
@KathrynHeavenАй бұрын
Does shadowing, or rather, CAN shadowing be applicable with constant telephone calls? My mum rings me (some days) upwards of 7-10 times and she also seems concerned I am in poor health.
@shellymcgrew44124 күн бұрын
Your hair is cute ❤
@DementiaWithGrace4 күн бұрын
Well thank you! ☺️
@jillsmith11349 ай бұрын
Sometimes it is not the caregivers fault. Sometimes it is the dementia’s fault. Like when the patient wants to take meds twice because she forgot she took it two hours before. Sometimes the patient wants to lock themselves in their bedroom and the caregiver cannot allow these things. Then the patient gets mad because they don’t want ANYONE telling them no.
@jeanniepurcella83638 ай бұрын
Ll0.
@sandraharris18516 ай бұрын
My family member is delusional about people hurting her. So difficult to watch.😢