What's Dating Like in Japan for Americans? | Street Interview

As part of our "Dating in Asia" series, we previously interviewed Americans in China and Korea about their dating experiences. Today, we're going to ask Americans in Japan to share some of their stories to discover some of the biggest cultural differences and challenges. Let's go!
0:00 - Intro
2:25 - Dating experiences in Japan
3:45 - How open are Japanese to dating Americans?
5:45 - Japanese people's perception of dating Americans
8:18 - How do you meet Japanese to date?
9:40​ - Cultural differences
11:44 - Japanese parents
13:51 - American habits that were a culture shock to Japanese partners
16:16 - Challenges of dating in Japan
18:00​ - What have your dating experiences taught you about Japanese culture?
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[@MegumiHayashida]

My boi really managed to charm his dreamgirl with the meme approach 😂

[@batataebom5077]

I think this channel receives money from the United States to advertise them. they just talk about the united states all the time, they wouldn't do it for free.

[@kjmintokyo]

yes he did 😌

[@TarunSingh-cg3wp]

@@batataebom5077 maybe because most of their subscribers are Americans and they wanna cater to that audience.

[@GeminieCricket]

Boy

[@michelleg7]

The fact that he went up to her and showed her and wasn't afraid to ask her to join his snap chat, I give super props for him to do that because a lot of japanese guys do not go up to girls and ask. I like when guys take initiative and ask girls out.

[@theking-ss]

The dude that said he blamed Disney, LMAO wasn't expecting that

[@sechabatheletsane9784]

😂😂😂

[@anthonymc8361]

I think he is a man of culture.. disney.. Kpop.. avoiding parents like the plague..., just perfect hha

[@theordinarygirl7289]

Yeah.. but that is true 😂😂

[@kairos116]

@@anthonymc8361 he’s like the perfect bf for me lmao. Avoiding parents part was so true.

[@elioabelle9388]

He is talking real tho! Lols

[@_yahir_7673]

*You guys have to do videos on Japanese/Korean/Chinese people asking them from experience what its like to date a foreigner*

[@thiccdogo6624]

Now that would be interesting

[@gedrgesfsdfwe4046]

Hard to catch those in crowd

[@lIlIlIlI-gs2qx]

interesting topic but bit tricky to find them lol

[@marmadukescarlet7791]

Koreans experience in Japan would be good too

[@weychill1279]

They'll have to make a forum or appointments. In the street it would be impossible

[@Razear]

"Have you met Japanese parents, by any chance?" "God no...I avoid them like the plague." Smart man, he knows the way.

[@Mo10tov]

As a Blasian I can confirm this

[@alditahervianto9179]

Why ??

[@daisuke2795]

@@alditahervianto9179 just don't. No questions asked

[@linkanstv1142]

True he is a smart man

[@alditahervianto9179]

@@daisuke2795 i need to know the reason mate, i got no clues hahaha

[@SweetSweet79]

I live in Japan also. These interviews took place in Tokyo, which is an entirely different animal than the rest of Japan. Dating internationally is not common outside of Tokyo or military bases.

[@TheRealityofFake]

Yeah I would imagine that there aren't a lot of foreigners outside of the major cities. Like the one guy mentioned how he would get stared at when he went to the countryside

[@Mo10tov]

You forget Kyoto also

[@theordinarygirl7289]

Thanks for the info 😀

[@00droo00]

@@Mo10tov there aren’t nearly as many foreigners in Kyoto as Tokyo, it’s 60k vs Tokyo’s 560k

[@fallzero7304]

Well not entirely true but it still holds well for atleast 80% of the general population outside japan I used to work In Tokyo but then I was transferred to Sendei,Niigata and then now I work in one of the most Traditional perfecture in japan Gifu Ive been in japan for 6 years now(3 in Tokyo,1 in Sendei,2 months in Niigata and rest in Gifu) I got a japanese gf after moving to Gifu Met her in a traditional sun god festival dance and wah she was just shining But back to the elephant in the room it depends on the women Her family is not that comfortable with international marriage but she is independent and thinks opposite to conventional Im friends with some of my women neighbours partly cause since I'm a foreigner I take part in regional activities more to understand them and they treat me well They ask me questions about my culture and discuss about how central Asia is indifferent to the eastern.They always dream about international marriage to be similar to Hollywood stuffs but when it comes to reality they are more comfortable in marrying a japanese guy solely due to language barriers and cultural clashes Take your shot cause it not set in stones and it's relatively a large country Move to differentiate places and try to genuinely enjoy japanese culture then someone would find you Imma 8/10 back in my hometown but here I'm like 6 more or less Looks are added adv but japanese women looks for reliability like stable job,how you treat her and how you understand her

[@sahilagarwal6601]

imagine a guy coming up to u and he asks - have u seen this meme before? damn smooth af. ladies get urselves a man who is this smooth

[@Lodycau]

Absolute legend

[@kjmintokyo]

He was really smooth lmao I’ll show him this 😂

[@sahilagarwal6601]

@@kjmintokyo oh it was you? great for u XD

[@snailshellsong]

@@kjmintokyo Dude, your hair is incredible! I came to the comments section to post about it, but I'll just leave this here.

[@cdcdcdfr]

Hey it worked so good for him :-)

[@jammydoughnuts]

"I blame disney, pop culture, high school musical, Justin Bieber" lmao

[@bemotivated8443]

Smart man

[@shruti4733]

But his haircut resembles Justin Bieber

[@catmerchant8699]

my man aint wrong

[@catmerchant8699]

@@shruti4733 its typical male hair cut, just how justin looks like a typical male

[@gaberealgaminggrg4768]

A lot of things are Justins fault 😂

[@hexapuma12]

Dude explaining his Asian fetish is cracking me up.

[@Toothily]

big same 😆

[@lizzybennet5726]

At least he's honest... 😅😅

[@hexapuma12]

@@lizzybennet5726 valid point lizzy. I just light how he was trying to word it. He clearly realized how he was coming across.

[@hexapuma12]

I do recommend everyone go to japan. It’s a cool country and Japanese are very nice people. At least that was my experience.

[@Mecks089]

Dude should of just said he had Yellow Fever.

[@sashatheelf]

"Doing things for her without her asking me made her fall in love with me." -This man has unlocked the secret

[@cyanofelis]

I love him too now. What a gem.

[@ga0gao]

forreal this is not even a secret for Japanese women

[@vhyles]

Wow, he discovered wooing ... good on him 😅

[@kelvinpeters1047]

wow so so romantic

[@GameAssassinsAchieve]

Yeah it should go both ways too

[@marz7594]

It would be really interesting to see Asian Boss talking about the descendants of japanese migrants from Brazil that return to Japan. Brazil has the bigest comunity of Japanese descendants outside Japan. And there so many issues to this comunity.

[@Genericperson658]

@asianboss ^^ this is something we would like to watch & know more about

[@daddyleon]

Ohhh..that's going to be some culture shock, I think!

[@barthamellow1138]

i had no idea about that community in brazil, i would be very interested in a video about that as well

[@AmiyaD1611]

yes would be super interesting! I visited brazil two times and have also been to japan, but I was so surprised to find so many japanese people in brazil and so many sushi restaurants haha would love a video on that topic

[@martelo589]

yeah we have so many people of japanese descent in Brazil (I myself am a hafu) and a lot of brazilian japanese kids who go to Japan don't have support from the goverment and end up relying on local community schools with teachers who are also brazilians of japanese descent, or not even going to school. And this is not a particular brazilian problem, foreigners in general face this educational issue in Japan

[@youki7756]

The two girls with black hair are mad pretty and seem so nice!

[@eminempreg]

Nah fr like UGH WHY ARE WOMEM SO PRETTY who let them do that

[@Pi22aPino]

Describing someone in Japan with black hair might not be the best way to differentiate between people there.

[@DianaGonzalez-nw4dh]

YESSS, the black/mixed ones, they're crazy beautiful, they look like models!

[@dickthebirthdayboy2132]

they mid at best

[@anthonymc8361]

the girl on the left has very pleasant smilling eyes

[@ViscousDom]

For the guy who said about ghosting, that’s HUGE in Korea too. People in Korea who ghost other people, there basically saying it won’t work out or don’t want to talk with you anymore. Some of them don’t like confrontation so they ghost you to avoid that.

[@edwardcm9175]

People that Ghost people act cowardly. Just have the decency to end the thing and move on!

[@bobbowie9350]

Ghosting is not real

[@dickthebirthdayboy2132]

@@edwardcm9175 cry some more

[@komea12]

@@edwardcm9175 they don want problems and hurt feelings no shame in that

[@edwardcm9175]

@@komea12 I guess. I've never had a problem talking truth and being direct. If you Ghost someone without any explanation, the other person will feel left wondering what did they ever do so wrong, especially if they really tried to make something happen. They'll feel sad and worthless. They'll have to get over it sure. And what goes around comes around.

[@itsumokyameron9525]

Thank you so much for having us! I really enjoyed the interview! -From the Black girl on the right

[@thisisntsergio1352]

Hey nice pants! My gf and I noticed you had cool pants on hahaha.

[@itsumokyameron9525]

@@thisisntsergio1352 Thank you! these pants are my favorite!

[@dreadsupreme]

Tell your friend good on her for putting boundaries on her relationship! Boys can make their own bentos lmao

[@toniaoverall8121]

You are so beautiful.

[@batataebom5077]

I think this channel receives money from the United States to advertise them. they just talk about the united states all the time, they wouldn't do it for free.

[@RexCapulet]

“If nobody is having sex, why are there so many love hotels?” THAT IS A GREAT QUESTION.

[@batataebom5077]

I think this channel receives money from the United States to advertise them. they just talk about the united states all the time, they wouldn't do it for free.

[@RexCapulet]

@@batataebom5077 what?

[@RobPetty622]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="360">6:00</a> Blond girl: “Maybe 20 years ago there Were no Americans around to date.” Me,who first came to Japan in ‘88, “ Wow, there must be more foreigners here now than compared to twenty years ago (1968)” We all think that our individual discoveries are unique, but history has a way of repeating itself in odd ways.

[@DadCanInJapan]

I agree. I came here in 1989, and had the same feeling. People I met talked about the good times in the 70s and 80s when you could set up your own English school, etc., but by 1989, there were too many people doing it.

[@newbabies923]

How old are you?

[@RobPetty622]

@@newbabies923 54, and you?

[@DadCanInJapan]

@@newbabies923 late 50s for me.

[@maxhughes7810]

Probably both right. There were probably more foreigners in Japan in 88 than 68, but there is also probably more foreigners now in 21 than in 88

[@Ypsilion]

The guy saying “GHOSTING!!” BROTHER I FEEL YOU!!! They sure dislike confrontation and how “aggressive” is to say someone “i don’t like you”, so they just ghost

[@ViscousDom]

It’s huge in Korea too. Huge

[@Zhengrui0]

Yes, it's big in a lot of places, makes you wonder if it's just Americans being thick and feeling entitled to being addressed directly. Seriously, take yourself down a peg, and take a hint.

[@_anshin_anshin]

@@Zhengrui0 this! I never understood why Americans act like ghosting makes you this horrible person. Like just grow up and move on, it clearly wasn't meant to be.

[@barthamellow1138]

@@Zhengrui0 i think for us the ambiguity of leaving it unsaid or open ended can be confusing for people in our culture, being direct and straight forward is generally preferred in the US to avoid mixed messages. calling us thick and entitled feels a little antagonistic but each culture to their own.

[@Zhengrui0]

@@barthamellow1138 I would agree, if not for the all-around need for continually confirmation, like they've be told way too many times that "it's other people who just don't see your worth", and more often than not, a creepy clinging to hope that often translates to a pushy and confrontational final goodbye. Let's not pretend like people don't know what I'm talking about

[@plaidpuma]

LOL he said Kpop stealing Hollywood's attention. That's so true and it's so funny how he said it.

[@mashitta5969]

Yeah Kpop, Kdrama and Korean culture in general are HUGE in Japan. You can easily hear korean songs on the streets and in the shops. Also, many japanese enjoy watching korean dramas on Netflix.

[@2x1qsdqw40]

thats why it is a lot easier for korean guy get attention from japanese girl many of 10, 20's girls in japan are so much into all of korean thing - drama music fashion food etc these phenomenon is more prominent in taiwan HK thailand phillipine vietnam etc all of asia korean entertainment is like hollywood in ASIA it is getting deeper and deeper

[@sambatra6162]

@@2x1qsdqw40 So true! Even in India especially north - east India korean culture is becoming very popular, people love kpop, kdramas, korean fashion and what not!

[@sanidhyasrivastava9008]

@@sambatra6162 more like they are into anime and stuff...and then got introduced to kdrama

[@danny8747]

@@sanidhyasrivastava9008 true after i watched anime i got into kpop and kdrama

[@kizzykiz]

It’s funny how the guy explained about how he got his girlfriend’s dad to open up with alcohol. Mostly because he sounds just like my uncle, who is a stereotypical silent and seemingly unfriendly old Japanese man, but gets really chatty once he gets drunk. It’s unfortunate that it has to take alcohol to have a positive conversation though.

[@Mr.SlyCooper777]

It was the first meeting. I am sure next time, we won't need booze to get him to talk more.

[@layzy24]

Me too. That's how to win the old man over.

[@MurdauDumaw]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="955">15:55</a> That's exactly what I did in Korea hahaha, I'm glad to see someone else say it because I thought I was weird. Whenever I'd occasionally see another American or non-Asian looking guy or girl passing by we'd always do a little smile and nod to each other even though we were strangers, it felt so fun xD

[@MegumiHayashida]

I've noticed alot of black people do this (the nod thing) it's like telepathy, they acknowledge or hi5 each others , kinda as if it was family. I love this energy

[@MurdauDumaw]

@@MegumiHayashida I'm not black but I understand that yeah haha

[@Mwoods2272]

Sometimes they also ignore your head nod or wave.

[@batataebom5077]

I think this channel receives money from the United States to advertise them. they just talk about the united states all the time, they wouldn't do it for free.

[@anti-consumerism6178]

Many Americans do this including black people but not limited to

[@lostliinjapan9146]

Thanks for interviewing me !! (green cardigan girl) :)

[@Emkato]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts, that was really interesting

[@moonflow5133]

You have the coolest style ^_^

[@microgaming8862]

Can I get your snapchat?

[@batataebom5077]

I think this channel receives money from the United States to advertise them. they just talk about the united states all the time, they wouldn't do it for free.

[@dayanaraaaaaa]

omg you’re so pretty and well-spoken :))

[@katherinequeen1492]

The "I avoid all parents" guy and the "i didn't wanna look like a samurai" guy were so funny to me!!

[@worshipthecomedygodseoeunk4010]

and when you're an asian american, its always the ethnicity they're interested in, rather than the "american" part. at least, thats my experience. you have the face of a local but the mannerisms and mindset of a foreigner. its very confusing. gotta explain my entire life story everytime i meet someone.

[@parkerteague8409]

felt

[@birdybob24]

Same my experience being an Asian /pacific islander American. For me people in general will they assume things and ask weird questions. But now I m less offend by the questions., And I just politely correct them on what the question they ask because most of the people don't mean to be offensive. I'm still excited about going to Japan with my husband. I m just so glad there are channels like this so I get an idea of what it might be , when we finally get to visit Japan.

[@exiledanon1406]

Ya this is true. But you really don't have to explain your life story. The confusion comes from the fact that they don't even know white Americans have their origins in Europe. Simply tell them "I'm American" and let that be the end of it. Eventually it will catch on that Americans don't have to look a certain way.

[@mujariwa3696]

Would be cool if these kinds of interviews were done on other nationalities. Perhaps in the African and South American continents.

[@Sasquatch10]

They'd have to make other channels called AfricanBoss or LatinAmericanBoss 🤣🤣

[@mujariwa3696]

@Waldel Martell You may have misunderstood my comment. Asian Boss focuses on Asia so what I'm saying is that they should get the perspectives of other nationalities living in Asia, not just Americans.

[@mujariwa3696]

@@Sasquatch10 I meant that they should approach other nationalities living in Asia, not just Americans. So we can have multiple perspectives of what it's like to live there.

[@mujariwa3696]

@Waldel Martell Yes, nationalities from those continents. Meaning Southern Americans or Africans living within Asia. Which is to say they shouldn't just interview Americans living within Asia, there are other types of foreigners there.

[@kaydeep7880]

@@a.m4520 shut up

[@CBMedia404]

Good to see other people from Atlanta/Georgia over here in Asia 🤘🏻

[@Mickeii617]

I always get excited when I see people from Georgia I'm from Macon. I can't wait for me to be there.

[@CBMedia404]

@@Mickeii617 I’ve spent a few days in Macon and a few months in Tokyo, you’ll definitely be upgrading lol I’m in Bangkok right now but Tokyo is an amazing city.

[@Soffex]

@@CBMedia404 Love your content in Thailand man! I'm from Atlanta and moved to Japan in Dec 2020. Just before the borders closed again! I could say a lot about dating Japanese women, but I would probably never get interviewed since I don't live in Tokyo lol

[@CBMedia404]

@@Soffex thanks for watching dude and congrats on getting out in just the right time lol I did the same

[@thboy1037]

CB Media Thank you for your videos about Thailand. :)

[@bittertea]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="934">15:34</a> "Doing thing without her asking me, pretty much made her fall in love with me." This is universal.

[@ihop2001]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="144">2:24</a> wow, they are stunning

[@hollister2320]

Yup, girls like that all around Maryland and the East Coast

[@EduardoGonzalez-zj2ey]

Eh ok

[@alexonesto6526]

Best quote <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="320">5:20</a> “I blame Disney”

[@seahawkers101]

Pickle Rick guy is spot on. The ghosting and the too busy... It's tough out here.

[@phoevo8898]

Yeah many Japanese date a foreigner just for the sake of saying they dated a foreigner

[@batataebom5077]

I think this channel receives money from the United States to advertise them. they just talk about the united states all the time, they wouldn't do it for free.

[@pozloadescobar]

Can I ask why you moved out to Japan? As an American I just want to understand why a foreigner would choose to live there, since it's so dramatically different!

[@seahawkers101]

@@pozloadescobar Me? Because I was given the opportunity and wanted to try something new.

[@taidenpong2246]

Apparently being american only means looking white or looking black. As an Asian american, we're always forgotten. Cause in japan, they always feel like if you look asian, you're not american or western enough. I'm getting tired of foreigner meaning looking different.

[@Brickcellent]

You gunna cry about it?

[@taidenpong2246]

@@Brickcellent I already did. Same as what your ancestors did for centuries when they were facing injustice.

[@dontfall2476]

@@taidenpong2246 I mean obviously. You're in a country where 98% of people are of Asian decent, so of course you wouldn't approach them. When I see a black person, I automatically assume they are an American, in america, because that's what I was raised around. Stop being ignorant about it. Think logically, not emotionally.

[@mikloridden8276]

I feel ya buddy, Latino Americans are the same

[@Brickcellent]

@@taidenpong2246 Don't think my ancestors ever cried about something so trivial as "not looking American" lmao

[@ciphered4863]

Usually when it comes to talking about cultures theres always something negative or controversial but this topic was wholesome please make more of these 10/10

[@kjmintokyo]

hey thanks for the interview again i was the one from Georgia!

[@iNovaburn]

*black people nod*

[@CBMedia404]

Awesome! Georgia represent! 🍑👏🏻

[@edwardcm9175]

Hey Georgia

[@johnnydepp4417]

Hello 👋 nice to meet you good morning ☀️☀️ send me your Gmail address to talk more better over there

[@XxDaRkPh03nixX]

Hey! You seem really sweet and down to earth. I have a lot of questions about visiting and living in Japan (especially since I plan on visiting one day haha). Would we be able to chat one day?

[@dianakonig2988]

It would be nice if you would include foreigners from other countries in videos like this too. Not everyone living abroad is from the US

[@dickthebirthdayboy2132]

yeah except germanoids like yoy

[@KimandKamJam]

They already have videos about foreigners that aren't necessarily Americans on their channel

[@themanicmarauder]

This video does say Americans in the title. I don't know what you were expecting. You showed up to a concert and wondered why the band on the ticket was on stage.

[@dianakonig2988]

@@themanicmarauder if that’s what you think then you did not get my comment right🥴

[@themanicmarauder]

@@dianakonig2988 Sorry, I thought you had seen other videos on this channel already.

[@jc30081983]

Day One: her mother in law is really interested in american culture Day Two: she brings a gun to the meeting

[@daddyleon]

How'd she get a gun in Japan??? That'd scare me the most!

[@mino4965]

lol

[@quantumshadow4218]

@@daddyleon going to the goverment branch that regulate weapons in japan? even in japan you can buy guns but you need a license and that license demand to many burocratic steps and training even before buying a weapon, that's one of the reasons why japan it's so safe .

[@batataebom5077]

I think this channel receives money from the United States to advertise them. they just talk about the united states all the time, they wouldn't do it for free.

[@daddyleon]

@@batataebom5077 Most people watching English-language youtube videos are from the USA. The others are well aware of USA, its culture and people. Pick another nation and many people would just be less interested. It's sad, but it's probably how it is.

[@Chevaux804]

Great video. The “I blame Disney” guy gave my favorite answers.

[@korone7627]

Wanna date someone? Show em spongebob meme

[@nlixcia]

lolll😂

[@batataebom5077]

I think this channel receives money from the United States to advertise them. they just talk about the united states all the time, they wouldn't do it for free.

[@notSusNugget]

Thank u Korone

[@SaM-zg2xf]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="140">2:20</a> Not me being distracted by the My hero academia billboard behind them 🙈😂

[@Kaidensmoon63]

Same!!! I thought I was the only one who noticed it lol!

[@cereal_killer.5065]

I was searching for that comment 😌

[@vocabi-learnjapanese3932]

Dating in Japan is like a constant battle between being yourself and playing by their rules.

[@bunnydews]

the girl from kansas was so sweet and introspective!! she makes me proud to be from kansas. i cant wait to move back to japan ♡

[@LeannsAdventures]

"I blame Justin Bieber." Lol

[@merago9401]

Lol

[@BurgerSliderMan]

If you ever want a Latin American in Japan perspective, hit me up. It is def very different compared to Americans. haha Like, culture and personality-wise, theres some really interesting cross-sections. Not to mention, more people I've met/dated here, don't seem to know where my country is. It's really funny, to be honest. lmao As always, great content!

[@osumanaaa9982]

I wish they'd focus more on other groups. These last months it has only been about why Americans are living here, what is it like for Americans to do this, Why do Americans eat breakfast in the morning, it feels like I'm following American Boss

[@justus.justus]

@@osumanaaa9982 true...

[@PequenaNoobAmaPudim]

@@osumanaaa9982 yeah I feel ya

[@mashiroboy]

Its because american midia is everywhere. I live in brazil and i know a lot of things about u.s.a but i dont know anything about argentina or other latin countrys (my neighbours)

[@ocireocire]

Mas é porque os outros países não estudam a geografia em geral.

[@aniime6463]

Next : what is like dating in America as a Korean Chinese Japanese???🙂🙂🙂

[@jayson4119]

that's going to be ugly... Bunch of stereotypes and overall toxicness.

[@flowersinherhair]

@@jayson4119 that is not true!

[@Kelleyo]

@@jayson4119 what's wrong with Asian Americans talking about their dating experience..?

[@shukrantpatil]

Racism 🤗

[@TomNook.]

Impossible, you're more likely to be assisted post COVID than be seen as a sexual partner

[@2468whodoweappreciate]

that last part is pretty sad ppl still have to remind themselves not everyone is the same. not every gender is the same, not every race/ethnicity is the same, not every nationality is the same.

[@Dominus_Potatus]

Just accept your differences, you either maneuver around the differences or welcome those

[@batataebom5077]

I think this channel receives money from the United States to advertise them. they just talk about the united states all the time, they wouldn't do it for free.

[@2468whodoweappreciate]

@@batataebom5077 they're not even for that and the owner made several vids about this channel before. They WANT to do it for free bc they wanna be a news channel on yt. Are you dumb that u cant even catch up on a few vids from last year till now? Go back and rewatch

[@batataebom5077]

@@2468whodoweappreciate you are so naive

[@2468whodoweappreciate]

@@batataebom5077 u are more naiive and u dont even watch all videos

[@THMILLER]

That was informative. About the Ghosting thing, Japanese women are professional Ghosters. Great women, strong and beautiful but can ghost in a heart-beat.

[@batataebom5077]

I think this channel receives money from the United States to advertise them. they just talk about the united states all the time, they wouldn't do it for free.

[@Chironex_Fleckeri]

@@batataebom5077 Bastos at malabad ka

[@subiebrz2361]

U need to put urself in their shoes , being ghosted is more kind then telling us they are not interested. They feel scared or too awkward saying it. And if they ghost they belong to the streets anyway lol

[@catmerchant8699]

@@subiebrz2361 I am a female and got ghosted by a male, one day before everything was COMPLETLEY normal, no fight, argument, we never said anything wrong... I have never be so confused in my life.

[@misssmargo]

Really great interviews! Omg though, the guy talking about all the data he's collected about Japanese people. Like "95% won't date me cuz I'm American!" Um no bro, maybe they won't date you cuz you're weird.

[@liammac4580]

😂😂💀💀💀💀

[@nathanbell6962]

He's probably just given up, after bad experiences.

[@qwertyuiopqwertyuiop-bb4mi]

He’s not lying though, most Japanese people are not open to dating foreigners.

[@pozloadescobar]

Sorry to say, Japanese people tend not to be "woke". In any ethnically homogenous society there will be some xenophobia that comes with that. Try asking some Japanese folks whether their parents would approve of dating a foreigner, and you'll see this guy isn't wrong.

[@Dragonborn1178]

no its just japanese people dont like wierd creapy people who collect data on them if i was even an american girl i wouldnt date his ass

[@christiaanvrey]

This mask wearing situation has reiterated my believe that 80% of a beautiful face is the eyes.

[@theorganicway2go]

I agree with the sentiment (ala eyes being windows to the soul, etc)... But no. Watch videos where girls (with great eyes vs whatever eyes) take their masks off. It is way , way , more complex than that. Even a new born baby can tell the difference between acceptable beauty and otherwise, in studies. The whole face matters in attraction determination.

[@notSusNugget]

It’s really the existence of the nose that’s the issue. Only my opinion though

[@desertrose3511]

I think a smile makes the person. And masks have completely hidden thag

[@cz2301]

This mask wearing situation has reiterated my belief that we foreigners have big noses lol

[@christiaanvrey]

@A J you won't believe how much we do it without realizing it.. Most infants and adults are lip readers and especially as you age when your hearing becomes defective your brain naturally compinsates by reading the lip movements of the person you are communicating with. It's not that the mask muffels the sound as much it's more that we can't read the lips at low volume.

[@krissydiggs]

It must be sooo different in the city. I live in Kanazawa so I feel like it’s really hard to date. In fact every guy I’ve ever met here that I’ve gotten along with well lives in Tokyo. I also think it’s much easier for guys than it is for women, especially women of color. AT LEAST from my Kanazawa experience.

[@kjmintokyo]

i feel like this is true for me sometimes

[@alexanderroot6086]

kanazawa is an ultra conservative japanese city (in comparison to tokyo) from my experience, sounds like it would be very frustrating for the type of person you described

[@BrickedUpp]

If you don’t mind me asking where are you from and what made you want to move to Japan?

[@krissydiggs]

@@alexanderroot6086 yeah. Tell me about it. I’ve been here almost 2 years and had a prettty hard time dating. My guy friends do fine though.

[@krissydiggs]

@@BrickedUpp I’m from America. I wanted to live in Japan because I’m an artist and I wanted the chance to meet and learn from artists in Japan in order to further my career eventually.

[@RemyIssa]

I miss seeing people's faces, but stay safe.

[@kelvinpeters1047]

Safe safe too, Remy you are beautiful

[@FalseProphetFallacy]

@@kelvinpeters1047 😐📸

[@theosvult4857]

Masks are so rather underwhelming in protecting the user. It's more of a containment, except people use masks as fashion now. Miss seeing faces too, might as well take off your mask if you live in a developed country

[@parkjnine]

This discussion was so honest and interesting. Great vid, Asian Boss!

[@moxiev5879]

I learned several things I didn't know about Japanese dating culture. Interesting video.

[@batataebom5077]

I think this channel receives money from the United States to advertise them. they just talk about the united states all the time, they wouldn't do it for free.

[@moxiev5879]

@@batataebom5077 That's o.k. with me because I am an American. 😆

[@GlassOfWater87]

This was a really insightful video. I feel like there's so much cultural difference compared to the western world in Japan, that it might be the hardest culture to adapt to in the world.

[@antleychu9588]

so we're not gonna talk about conan walking by in the background @ <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="797">13:17</a>

[@emericask8r130]

I thought you meant Conan O'brien 😅

[@FlameHashiraAries]

@@emericask8r130 I was looking for him too!

[@Itsbrittkneeitch]

I'm mad at Disney, Disney They tricked me, tricked me Had me wishing on a shooting star

[@sandracarli1110]

Kudos to the man who cleaned the apartment! It's not very common!

[@redswift31]

IDK about you but where im from in America its pretty 50/50.

[@sandracarli1110]

@@redswift31 In Europe it is not so much, unfortunately.

[@redswift31]

@@sandracarli1110 My gf and I literally had a fight 2 times (once started by each of us) when we thought the other was slacking on chores. I would feel like an ass if I made her do everything.

[@canavero4288]

same i aint never seen a guy clean something without being asked...the bar is so low :(

[@Gr95dc]

@@sandracarli1110 where in Europe tho, Europe is not a country

[@tatianaa77]

I wish Asian Boss would leave the links of their interviewees because I noticed that a lot of the people they've interviewed are youtube personalities and I'd really be interested in looking them up.

[@GmingTai]

Those two girls have tiktok and one of them have a KZbin channel

[@bigbando9437]

the girl with the black hair & pants has a tiktok! @blackloserinjapan

[@xYooSu]

@@GmingTai but what’s their @ ?

[@BraveSon]

To be fair all the dudes in the video aren’t exactly social charmers; they’re talking about not getting play like it would happen for them in America- it wouldn’t. The women’s perspective is the accurate one.

[@vandyke4775]

Facts

[@valentine495]

All of these from Georgia give me hope as I'm from Georgia! I'm currently taking Japanese lessons, and working on going to college for business communications and linguistics - to work towards living there one day. KZbin suggested this video randomly, and I'm happy I clicked it.

[@nyaanderson4300]

I’m in Georgia as well! It’s very encouraging to see people from here! I’m currently in college for Business & Accounting, but will be getting my CELTA to teach there. (:

[@MrChelseaDan]

The guy at <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="620">10:20</a> talking about ghosting is speaking pure facts 💀 I had that experience quite a lot of times in Japan. I’d go on a great date or have a girl flirt with me one night, then from there on, ghosted 👻

[@ryangray600]

Happens a lot in America too tho

[@gewglesux]

Winnie... SO this is where you.. Miss you over at NHK!! Continued success!!

[@Iris-fp4uk]

Loved the people that were interviewed, they had great answers. Nice video!

[@woodydash6.96]

Guy from New York really just summed up everything, Great Job!

[@angelajirik614]

“I blame Disney” lmao 😂 so casually-said

[@Gr95dc]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="144">2:24</a> they are so pretty! And I'm so jealous of their hair, mines wavy but it rarely looks this good 😍

[@batataebom5077]

I think this channel receives money from the United States to advertise them. they just talk about the united states all the time, they wouldn't do it for free.

[@Gr95dc]

@@batataebom5077 I think you replied to the wrong comment buddy

[@izzymeador6299]

I'm a foreigner living in South Korea and I didn't realize the experience with the dating culture is very similar

[@barthamellow1138]

i will agree with some saying this is overdone played out content, but i thought (as an American) this was entertaining and still interesting. keep doing what you gotta do to stay afloat asian boss, we need channels like you on the platform!

[@batataebom5077]

I think this channel receives money from the United States to advertise them. they just talk about the united states all the time, they wouldn't do it for free.

[@KillerPiplup]

I think that dude that said only 5% are interested in dating foreigners just looks creepy so he gets turned down a lot. The people he talked to are probably saying they wouldn't date foreigners cuz they think that might give him hope.

[@Rectiifyy]

@BlueEyed Babe get off ur burner we know it’s u

[@pozloadescobar]

Do you live in Japan? What's your experience dating there and why should it invalidate his experience? Sorry to say Japan is not a "woke" society and xenophobia is real there

[@user-dh5gj9eb7c]

I feel like thats a pretty legit assumption that 5% of the population would only date a foreigner in a country with solely one nationality. As many wouldn't want to date on the basis of cultural values and also language barrier so it makes sense. But, the kinda people that foreigners surround themselves with and generally make friends within these countries where the culture is vastly different from their own are likely going to make friends with locals that fit into this 5% and therefore be more open. Thus, making a synthetic inflation of this number from the observers point of view.

[@218Flows]

He can probably only date 5% of American women as well so it makes sense

[@Godfingerzzz]

The "5% interested" estimation really strikes home with me. I've been in Japan for about 3 years and have had about the same success rate. However, still better than my at home percentage which is about 0.5%. Lol

[@tojiii3574]

Another episode of the dating series!!! ✌️❤️

[@Zhengrui0]

Tackling the hard issues head-on, can't wait for the dating in Tibetan and Uyghur internment edition

[@bobbowie9350]

Its so played out

[@canavero4288]

@@Zhengrui0 OOP-

[@batataebom5077]

I think this channel receives money from the United States to advertise them. they just talk about the united states all the time, they wouldn't do it for free.

[@mr.goldfarmer4883]

Great episode!

[@christianhansen3292]

interesting convo and these people you interviewed very nice.

[@Sunflower-fh1nw]

It would be nice if they do these interviews with other nationalities too.

[@baba-yoshino]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="1132">18:52</a> glad she brought this up 😊

[@Mecks089]

Ikr, Americans gotta check those privileges.

[@jesussandoval9843]

Honestly being an introvert with manners I really love Japanese culture. Love shouldn’t be in public, same reason you don’t stare at people in the gym. In professor oaks words “there’s a time and place for everything but not now.”

[@Tjbcat]

As a Japanese , I can imagine that it’s much easier to meet people in a big city like Tokyo. But it would be completely different if you go countryside. It’s gonna be difficult even for me to move and live in a countryside.

[@scottxiong5844]

LoL hahaha I bet when the question came out those individuals became quite awkward hahaha. The one guy was pretty straight forward tho

[@batataebom5077]

I think this channel receives money from the United States to advertise them. they just talk about the united states all the time, they wouldn't do it for free.

[@retrospectre3611]

I liked the guy with ballcap and striped shirt. Seems he knows what he's talking about. Also the guy who blamed Disney lol.

[@09-gabrielramadhan88]

another great video, thanks Asian Boss!

[@mirceadolineanu9715]

It would also be interesting to see the same stuff but with non-American foreigners living in Japan, to see how other cultural backgrounds mix with Japanese culture.

[@rokotensei]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="1131">18:51</a> ''tell me you are American without telling me you are American''

[@coralie288]

I love your videos, but you should have asked the question most channels don't ask: "What about marriage or long-term relationships?" I've been in Japan for more than 5 years in total and I feel like most people I've met with we're mostly looking for ONS or short-term relationships with marriage in sight (many told me that they only wanted to try doing it or dating with a foreigner).

[@sj_sann_y]

This is a really interesting video!

[@dennisemanuelsson8240]

I just realized as a Swede that Sweden and Japan have a very similar culture

[@MarkWyche]

Hello Asian Boss. This topic covering American experiences in Japan, Korea and China is much better than your previous topic of ‘Why do Americans live in…?’ It was more dynamic and had more energy than your previous topic covering the American in Japan experience. I think your interviewees represented the Japan dating experience fairly well. Dating outside of Tokyo, however, is very different. The language barrier is the biggest challenge. A highly schedule driven (and excessive) work culture is another reason. Many Japanese are conformist and view foreigners as ‘other-worldly’, so they’re either afraid, shy or reluctant to interact with foreigners on even a surface level. For many Japanese, they don’t see it as realistic to even meet a foreigner. This is largely due to lack of access and language and cultural barriers. For those who are surprised by the number of Americans who live in Japan, it is not a large number. There are roughly 50,000 Americans in Japan, a country of 125 million people. A high concentration of Americans live in Tokyo, a city of 36 million people.

[@weih2974]

50,000 too many

[@MarkWyche]

@@weih2974 …or the fortunate decision not to be made an American territory following Japanese surrender during World War II. Which is worse?

[@weih2974]

@@MarkWyche America needs to get out of Asia

[@Big_sister31]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="312">5:12</a> similar to Kpop. Thousands of fans would like to marry Korean men because of Korean wave. It's also no different to those who like J-doramas, anime,manga and video games. <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="411">6:51</a> He said it right. Korean wave is now more popular than American popculture.

[@chickenman2949]

Cap ,American popculture is undefeated ,even korean entertainment culture (music, movies, etc) is heavily influenced by America.

[@dickthebirthdayboy2132]

@@chickenman2949 silence yankoid

[@anthonymc8361]

I wouldn't say more popular but it has been gaining attention. There's this data that shows that K-entertainment consumption has outperformed Hollywood.. but in Southeast Asia only. But again, K-entertainment is currently up there, only second to Hollywood.

[@Big_sister31]

@@chickenman2949 Of course. American pop remains number 1. I'm just surprised how easy it is for the U.S to promote Kpop when they could just produce more American music videos and monopolize the internet to remain superior. At first, it gave me cringe when a world-power nation started joining the Kpop hype and play safe with this Asianbaiting.. I mean of course, America is still the home of legendary and iconic artists who started and invented pop on this planet. But with what's happening and the slowly-deteriorating produce of new American artists, it will no longer be shocking if the next generation would see POP as simply "Korean" as that's the first thing the young ones would see on the media. In fact, it's slowly happening now. Some younger delusional fans would claim that BTS choreo is all original when in fact it has 75% Western influences. The kids in my neighborhood would quickly say "Kpop" when they see a sort of fashion that's colorful, stylish and when they hear random auto-tune instrumentals in some gatherings. Seriously, Hollywood needs to wake up.

[@claudia-ob2wv]

asianbaiting? get over yourself. just because another country excels at something your country is trailing behind doesn’t make it some weird racial fetishy thing.

[@MelkorPT]

"Where's my bento?!" LMFAO 😂

[@magellanstravels]

Yeah, where’s my bento????

[@Yuien0]

This video made me so happy bc I Just watch the video with Koreans dating foreigners and it was so ridiculous that it’s just me out but now you’re in the video about Japan makes me more comfortable and makes me wanna go there even more

[@ericaw]

Appreciate the last woman’s comments that we can’t generalize-essentialize others

[@satyasyasatyasya5746]

My roomate who lived in Japan for 4 years just said that "dating in asia as a sub bottom is disapointing" and I'm not actually sure what that means xD Do I even want to know?

[@JJoh4040]

Sub bottom?

[@whyamihere6438]

omg i got it and well i guess they're right lol

[@b.dec.8006]

Lololololol omg

[@satyasyasatyasya5746]

@@whyamihere6438 but what does it mean? xD

[@c0_nes]

@@satyasyasatyasya5746 Submissive bottom, google it if you'd like

[@thboy1037]

Hope that you will make more videos about Asia. :)

[@szymonadamczuk5367]

All these people are so cool... Like I would love to go Japan just to meet them

[@_Crazyslots]

Yes

[@moccisimo]

I've noticed and these people are truly international people, citizens of the globe

[@user-em1sx1zn8m]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="280">4:40</a> it’s because people prefer surrounding themselves with those who are like them. We prefer someone of our own culture, that way we share the same values and principles.

[@safwanme1260]

true

[@Mecks089]

Herd Mentality, at least I think that's what it's called. There's nothing wrong with that though.

[@rockinchik06]

How do you know foreigners won't share the same values and principles though? As a foreigner who has lived in Asia 5 years, I came here bc my values and principles match more with country I'm living in, as do most foreigners who move long term to another country. To me, this is not a culture thing, but more a person by person (case by case) situation. Imo, ppl need to stop judging everyone based on social media and pop culture. Stop seeing color, start seeing humanity.

[@user-em1sx1zn8m]

@@rockinchik06 are you in japan?

[@leiahok7873]

@@Mecks089 Hmm, I don't think herd mentality applies because there is no sense of trying to conform but rather being comfortable with what is familiar to us. When people say herd mentality, it usually refers to people following others or conforming to the majority.

[@budleysulterton7931]

About ghosting, I think it also depends on how your personality fits the culture because for me it's the opposite. When I lived in the US, it felt like I would get ghosted everytime I thought I made a new friend, man or woman. People whom I thought were my friends would also frequently stop contacting me. Basically, I don't know how to make/keep friends in the US, lol. However in Japan, it just works naturally. I'm rarely ghosted and friends stay friends.

[@batataebom5077]

I think this channel receives money from the United States to advertise them. they just talk about the united states all the time, they wouldn't do it for free.

[@littypug]

@@batataebom5077 ???? no they just earn revenue from the videos they make.

[@cloudstrife8596]

That is so true I feel this way also living here in LA

[@daenackdranils5624]

people saying that friendships take time are ridiculous to genralize , it depends of the person. and i am not going to go live in japan.

[@michaelwatson9089]

The Japanese girls I dated never ghosted me. I got ghosted more in the States, worst part is they reappear a year later acting like nothing happened. Contacting you wondering why you never kept in touch, but they were the ones that never responded back to your messages,

[@quoctrungdang253]

A lot of love for Asian Boss for making this series

[@batataebom5077]

I think this channel receives money from the United States to advertise them. they just talk about the united states all the time, they wouldn't do it for free.

[@TokyoPaul]

From USA Maryland with 5 years in Japan. Dating has been interesting in Japan.

[@krystalayala8451]

Lol the guy who talks about learning things and calling it data made me laugh.

[@brianc21324]

I'm Mexican - American from California but I lived in Fukushima for quite some time and have a Japanese wife. Dating in Japan is not much different than anywhere else, just be yourself. The thing I did dislike immensely though was the ghosting.

[@weih2974]

Oh great, another American expat in Asia. Like anime and decided to visit?

[@blaqk_soul]

@@weih2974 stfu

[@weih2974]

@@blaqk_soul seethe gaijin

[@blaqk_soul]

@@weih2974 seethe these huevos

[@weih2974]

@@blaqk_soul lame comeback just like your country. I imagine that's why you left it, if it wasn't yellow fever that is, like most of u weirdos.

[@peperabriam2732]

Hello first time here watching your videos 🙂 let's spread love and peace.. watching from Asia country manila Philippines 🇵🇭

[@fredletel7276]

the highly anticipated sequel

[@brendanmatelan2129]

The man from Los Angeles had some good points.

[@highwaytowall]

how about interviewing citizens of different Asian countries for a change? Cambodians, Vietnamese, Malaysians...

[@alexafinishmydegree112]

The interview was great but my eyes gravitated to Yatora Yaguchi (from blue period)’s huge poster hahaha

[@dlikescheese]

That guy approached her using a meme. 0 game lol, but it worked, perfect match