What Social Anxiety May Sometimes Look Like

[@joleengold0796]

Social anxiety is terrible. You're afraid to do something stupid and then you do something stupid because you're afraid to to do something stupid.

[@SavannahtheUkie]

I felt this💯💯💯

[@rosaliealpert7226]

Exactly 🥲

[@tiarasmith9633]

And think about it for weeks.. mentally it’s draining

[@imranharith8936]

​​@@tiarasmith9633o you had narcissistic parent like me, who didn't share positive communication and emotion?

[@max-no9gx]

Yes im stupid 🥺🥺🥺🥲

[@10k188]

It feels lonely and hurtful having aniexty because you wish you could be normal like everybody else but it so hard

[@albal-v3869]

I feel you, it's similar when you have sensory issues regarding sound💖 Especially cuz I'm extroverted

[@H.K.5]

Everyone has something wrong with them, there’s no such thing as being normal.

[@TyrellJr]

You can

[@darkestoath666]

real shit

[@ajs8652]

​@Louis Kingsta same 😭

[@zebradove4186]

High school is the worst place to have social anxiety

[@SadSpaceCowboyClown]

For me it's college it got worse

[@spicymint8474]

@@SadSpaceCowboyClown Same. My social anxiety got worse in college.

[@jetbean24]

And work

[@AshantiH502]

Just in public places, period. 🤦🏽‍♀️ But I definitely agree about school.

[@helo_dontcare2112]

I feel like it's getting worse and worse everyday

[@chelly6856]

I’m honestly terrified of being judged by others for the way I do things, even the way I talk and walk and stuff it’s really hard on my social life 💀💀

[@chelly6856]

Others^

[@Reed___]

Same heree

[@sadie4773]

I’ve found my people 😭😭

[@chelly6856]

@@cleverclovercreates3249 eh my ex used to so it’s kinda a struggle but now i’m in a much better place thankfully without him🙏🙏

[@jerytom3142]

u don't need to put that skull emojis tho, it's not like you're laughing at your problem.

[@meihoshi1798]

I absolutely hate eating in front of people. I tend to cover my mouth a lot while eating, even around family

[@blackairforce13]

Same. It's quite stupid and doesn't make sense but when you have social anxiety, even the slightest social embarrassment makes you feel like you're in danger

[@stergacha9435]

😂😂 same

[@_therealnova_]

Same here

[@evxelyxn]

Same I’m scared everyone around me is gonna think I’m some sort of fat animal. It’s so awkward to me for some reason 😢

[@pimichi654]

Same I’ve stopped eating at school or I’ll just go eat in the restroom

[@adoseoflovely4826]

Thanks for this ♥️ a lot of people don’t understand how Social anxiety can affect the smallest things. Currently trying to find ways around it.

[@besmirnesimi1814]

Me too. Worst thing ever. May god help us 😔

[@yamaagamingyt]

my dad and mom doesn't understand Me And i m not sure If i have it But I kinda have it and i don't wanna tell it i can't even look the f up The most Anxiety giving place is The Mall or the market

[@yamaagamingyt]

I die of Hunger but don't eat or drink

[@SudhirYadav-pm2zl]

Same here. Don't know what to do.

[@herculesmclovin]

Yes that was me :/ Personally now I'm 30 and have come out the other side.. the wisdom I'd offer is that yes, it's an internal dis-regulation of the neurons in your brain, altering your state of awareness (physically you go into fight/flight/freeze because you feel/think there's conflict) you over-analyze everything and have almost hyper-catatonic reactions to the smallest actions, words, behaviours, vibes etc from other people... It's not something you can just remove from your life, but moreso, it's something you have to accept, to get to know, to then heal... Imagine it like an ugly rough rock. Instead of trying to hide from how you feel, accept it. run your finger along the surface and get to know what that rock feels like. The cracks, the pits, the smooth bits. There's also a point of it being developmentally appropriate. In our younger years we are 'setting' into adulthood and searching for community-worth. So everyone and everything can be very impressionable. It helps to know that almost everyone goes through it, like a metal state of maturing into adulthood and naturally we'd be finding how we best fit into the tribe, but it brings more anxiety for some. The sooner you begin to mature a sense of 'who am I' by asking yourself 'what in my past as a child has made me this way' the closer you'll get to healing. You might think there's something 'wrong' with you, but deep down, all this anxiety and your coping mechanisms come from a place where it thinks it is necessary for the situation. We know it's not necessary to repeat something 4 times before we say it, or analyse why they lifted their drink right after we did, or constantly wonder if our hair is looking okay and when's a 'natural' moment to put our hands through our hair to fix it.. but all this.. mess and anxiety.. is coming from some deep process whereby it's trying to serve a purpose in keeping you alive.. maybe your parents neglected you and your self-worth is damaged: because as a child you knew only how to blame it on yourself. Perhaps it hadn't even been a terrible upbringing but an unfortunate state of having large emotions unfortunately going un-soothed or misunderstood. For me, to heal, it was definitely Guided Meditation (especially. Deepak Chopra, The Soul Of Healing Meditation) alone in my room that helped me along my inner journey to feeling a oneness and calm in myself. It was also learning CBT. Lastly is was being commited to measured 'exposure' to breed familiarity in that setting. Because if you totally hide you'll start to face a deeper sense of 'depersonalisation' It doesn't just leave you and you can't work around it, you have to go into the pain, bit by bit. Sitting at tables can still be hard for me.. but my smart wit and peripheral awareness has its perks. You do get better I promise 🙏 heal your past traumas ♥ For anyone reading, message me I'm always here x (you can't have 2 before 1) 1. acceptance. 2. knowledge. 3. heal. By the way 'sonder' is real. older people are having crap times mentally too, they just seem to hide it better. hiding is not the answer for contentment. living with intrinsic-worth and finding meaning in what you do brings purpose. life is moreso about a purpose than being happy ♥

[@tiffanyrockelleofficial]

I do all these things and I hate it

[@carsonbaker7416]

Same here. It has just become apart of my personality. But I think you should know you’re doing 10 times better than you think you are doing. I wish many stress & relaxing nights for you Tiffany

[@tatiane5564]

this is sucks, i hate so much having this

[@sasmitharuwin6274]

@@tatiane5564 yeah me too I hate my life

[@cleverclovercreates3249]

That’s a good thing. Once you hate it, you’ll overcome it. When you’re okay with it you never hate it enough to change. Hating the situation you are in really is the biggest step to getting out of it.

[@tatiane5564]

@@cleverclovercreates3249 tha't why i have strength yet, because i hate it so much that i don't wanna pass all my life having this

[@RebekahMunro-ye1nk]

I always go on my phone so no one approaches me, it always felt like the easiest thing to do.

[@Pilotboy6879]

Social anxiety and depression ruined my life. Lose all hope in life

[@komischerknulch6956]

Metoo

[@jumpmayne1915]

Sucks for you

[@vijayakumar_3]

Me too

[@Pilotboy6879]

Dont giveup in your life we deserve to live in this world like others too Stay strong and focus on yourself and give time for you to adjust with thia problem. God will give you something good in your life

[@sandyen8060]

If you focus on yourself and you decide to never give up you will get to that place of happiness that you long for. Trust me my friend.

[@giveyourselfareason]

My social anxiety also includes when someone doesn't text back after I text I feel like I did something wrong or I feel like I text to much 😭 I'm just lonely

[@BlessedIvy]

You’re not alone I feel the same way

[@tahirafaiz3386]

@@BlessedIvyYeahh exactlyyy😭😭😭

[@MagickalMermaid]

Me too! I thought it was something with my bipolar disorder. I feel so sad when ppl don't text me back and the voices in my head tell me that that person doesn't care about me anymore and that I'm lame

[@giveyourselfareason]

@@MagickalMermaid aw well I'm sure ur not lame:)

[@YenRestherac]

nooooo, I'm so sorryyyy I'm the person who doesn't text baaaack I ponder too long over what to say, then I feel it would be awkward to answer late, and then I keep thinking about that unanswered text for months, inventing imaginary conversations or literally writing drafts of what I could say...

[@an6350]

In highschool (which was just community college for me) i ate lunch in the bathroom becausei was so scared of people seeing me eat. And i would sometimes stay in the stall for a long ass time, hours between classes, with my earbuds in just vibin cause i couldn't deal w being out there 😶

[@DorkAlot]

Geez man that's really tough. I hope you get pass this bro.

[@elmarm443]

Have you tried hypnosis?

[@an6350]

@@elmarm443 not irl, i've done guided "hypnosis" meditations on youtube.. but not real hypnosis I guess.

[@elmarm443]

@@an6350 I usually listen to this and it has helped me alot (I even fall asleep to it): kzbin.info/www/bejne/p16kq5qgjralsNE

[@an6350]

@@elmarm443 thanks i'll try it

[@tusharpandey858]

I just don't wanna die alone and unnoticed.

[@blackairforce13]

same.

[@abrahamadams7747]

😢☝

[@ainturmom]

Real

[@prxstigeyt2047]

Atleast when we die we will be worry free

[@Unknown00432]

​@@prxstigeyt2047Exactly, i wish my life ends as soon as possible

[@sergioperez-dg8yd]

Yes finally someone that understands what social anxiety look like

[@monstrousdream]

So accurate. I barely eat in public in my four years of high school because of it and I lost weight.

[@mireyasalas6324]

😢

[@Sandaru.Nipuna]

😢

[@zanduop2746]

It's stressful seeing ppl doing all those things casually around you while you're stuck in these traits not able to find an outlet . :-|

[@fatherlucid4995]

Sometimes I like to pick a specific spot to go to and just sit down and not move when there’s people around. And even then it doesn’t help but it’s the best coping mechanism I have on days I feel that way. Sometimes I can be the one directing attention to myself and be extremely confident and talking to everyone and then other times I’m like this. Weird shit

[@CaseyShontz]

It can also look like someone excessively seeking attention and validation. (This one is me.) Because to my brain, if someone isn’t paying direct attention to me, they must not care about me at all and think I’m boring, and if they aren’t explicitly saying they’re proud of me, or like me, or like something I’m doing, then they must hate me and whatever I do. I constantly try to impress people because I’m desperate for them to say they like me. I hate big gatherings where I don’t know many people, because there are so many people that aren’t paying attention to me, so my anxiety says they might be judging me. Now that I think about it, that’s probably why I like posting things online and getting “likes” too… the number feels like validation from strangers.

[@fallenlotus9572]

Can relate

[@blackairforce13]

I wonder if it has something to do with your upbringing. I myself am a child of neglect which has caused me to seek validation from others. Were your parents always supportive and caring for you?

[@brandenhuffmen8259]

No offense but what you're describing is child behavior.. you should seek therapy, fr.

[@joelortega8211]

Social anxiety is related to phobia, and that doesn't seem to be your case.

[@iamthegreenarrow762]

I’m afraid to talk to my friends because I feel like I’m bothering them

[@HydraulicHippocampus_Effect]

Trying to determine whether or not I might have social anxiety. I'm comfortable around my step cousins, either because they are good friends of mine or because I know they wouldn't judge me. In public places however, I do all of these things. When someone approaches me my mind races, I'd imagine they're there to tease me since I've dealt with that in all schools I've been in. Sometimes I could be in a better mood and end up allowing someone to become my friend, then later I start to panic, I don't know if that was really me, I want to run away and be alone. And yet, my family wants me to make friends, and I want to make them happy, so the cycle continues

[@fxnrl__]

You can still have social anxiety and be able to talk to others :) , i suppose it just depends on the severity and your mood and stuff? Speaking from experience anyway. Im on medication for social anxiety/agoraphobia and personally , my anxiety makes me feel nauseous , impairs my speech , affects the way i see the world , affects my sleep , gives me tremors and tics , and last but not least , also affects the way i behave around others/communicate with others. I have a terrible fear of getting hurt by everyone and it makes it incredibly difficult to go anywhere. I went on a walk on my own to my local park once and had multiple anxiety attacks in the span of an hour. Its crippling , especially because i struggle to find the strength to get myself out of bed in the mornings and ready for school. It weakens my body , my mind and my self esteem. Ive lived with it for years and will be put under intensive care at some point. Im just giving an example of how bad disorders like anxiety can get. Its painful and debilitating , it does sound like you suffer from an anxiety disorder but im not entirely sure if its social anxiety :) then again , im not a professional , social anxiety comes in all shapes and sizes and it is quite common in teenagers (like myself) i hope all of this makes sense , please feel free to add onto anything ive said/ask questions/ask for help if you need it ❤

[@catalinamaria9169]

You have social anxiety. It's normal to be confortable with your family. But you have anxiety when You are in public or in another group.

[@uwakmfoninyang1774]

I feel the same way at times, incredibly confident around people and sometimes very timid to the point that I sweat around pretty girls

[@shivpatel5413]

@@fxnrl__ 😅soundz like me indeed yall YOY😢

[@ObeseMommy]

The phone one was so true You want to act distracted but you cannot prevent yourself from seeing the people who walk by you because you want to know if they laugh about you if they talk about you or if they have the intention to approach you

[@charmingbriana8243]

Thank God I thought I was the only 1 🙄😭💯 I started exercising outside and I always have a intense fear people are watching me or keeping tabs on me following me so I don't stay out that long 😆🤷🏾‍♀️

[@removeduser3006]

I still remember the home highschool day where I ate my lunch in the toilet just to avoid my classmate

[@SuperSAIYAN_NumbeR6]

😂😂😂😂

[@MayaMaya-sz6bj]

really

[@jxnebugs650]

I’m in high school right now and everyone at my school scares me. I’m petrified of them. During lunch I don’t eat because I don’t want to walk around awkwardly trying to find a table. And then I get extremely embarrassed when my stomach makes noises during classes. I know nobody needs to hear my problems and I’m so sorry to the poor soul who’s going through something worse but I just needed to get it out of my mind.

[@smittysmeee]

I hope you're doing better today ❤️

[@MaciasM]

I suffer from this, i often feel whatever comes out of my mouth will be judged and people will have a different perspective about me.

[@ekaagustina2168]

I feel you

[@aaronguzman6267]

bro just explained my school life

[@kossibwaya]

Exactly

[@YoBoySponge.]

For real.

[@irishou3306]

Thank you for sharing your insecurities and normalizing this. I always thought I was a weirdo that was alone in feeling like this

[@Dann_studytube]

Its very lonely tho even if its scary to interact sometimes i get sad seeing how other people do it so easily

[@mireyasalas6324]

😢

[@Lucertola_rincoglionita]

Yeah, i literally struggle to make Friends while my classmates after a month of school were hugging and staying togheter , i was too scared of getting judged so i didnt hug them

[@Kamila-eb9pz]

I don't like interacting with people because I feel like all topics are st3pid to talk about so I just feel like there's nothing to talk about and that if I talk about something I'll be weird and I just hate it because my mind is in this constant white space in which I don't know what to talk about it's just empty so I just avoid people and I feel so trapped I sometimes think that people have more freedom at jail than I currently do 😢 I really hate my life

[@Kamila-eb9pz]

I see people hanging out, going to concerts, traveling, people who have good parents or are from rich families, attractive people and I just think how I have none of those things and despise my life

[@Lucertola_rincoglionita]

@@Kamila-eb9pz Bro... A lot of people are' nt Rich, or pretty, or have alot of Friends, It Is normal, i am broke too and to dress fashion i Just buy from shein. To make Friends the best places are school, the Gym, the library, the disco or maibye a sport of group like basketball, football or tennis, if you are shy Just be kind to everyone and if they are kind too invite them to a bar or something :)

[@Sunnylemon-mg8rx]

Social anxiety is absolutely terrible.I wish i never had social anxiety im always afraid of doing something and my classmates and teachers always say why are so quiet? You're always lonely and quiet!I just wanna scream😭

[@FFMOCO]

Same🤕

[@jarvismilanist]

For all of you who experience it, I pray that you will recover and rise from social adversity. And for people out there who feel uncomfortable with our strange and closed nature I apologize, to be honest in our hearts we also don't want to be like this, but of course there are millions of stories that slowly shape a person's personality. Well your childhood and your home life was great but that won't be the case for everyone including us.

[@moon10024]

This describes me so much. 😭 It sucks being so anxious to just interact with another person most times. Or just not being able to make friends cause you're too nervous to talk to people and its like suffocating when you try.

[@tashidolma6734]

Same here😢😢 Haven't you ever seeked doctor to get rid of this problem?

[@i0073]

I will literally go all day without eating at work and the days I take classes because I avoid eating in front of others and I know it’s an irrational fear but for some reason it prevents me from doing many things in every day life.

[@zebradove4186]

Same

[@kossibwaya]

Same😢

[@pault9544]

So so accurate. Ive been dealing with this for a long time. Its hard to make proper friends when you overthink your interactions too much.

[@pauale10]

I just ran out of the gym right now I’m in my car crying cus wtf is wrong with me?!? 😅🙈 I can go to the gym with my sister, a friend or my son but alone I obviously can’t I ran I just can’t I had people staring at me and I didn’t know where to hide it felt so uncomfortable I can’t believe I’m crying an adult woman with a 13 year old son crying cus I can’t be in a social environment without people I know to make me feel comfortable 😅🙈🤦🏻‍♀️ I’m such a wierdo, awkward as hell It sucks

[@fioreflores3386]

Help I’m 16 and I’m literally thinking about skipping cosmetology class because I just can’t be around people to long.I get anxious and I don’t want to be around them to long because I’m afraid if I get too close they will leave me immediately and I’ll be alone (maybe they’ll notice I don’t talk much and can get pretty nervous and my hands will shake when I’m eating,it’s uncomfortable)I can only be around people short periods of time or else I get stressed.I can also act rudely towards people when I don’t mean to.I know it’s wrong but I can’t control it. I want to go to therapy. Edit.any advice would be nice from someone who has overcome this

[@_itsananya_11.11]

@@fioreflores3386 ooop same problem that you talking about, its literally me😖☹

[@suphoria4615]

You're not a weirdo u can try meditation and get enough sun to ease your anxiety

[@Dreamjinx]

You sound like you need to practice body language and never learned as a kid or growing up like me . only look in people’s eyes when you actually hear someone call for you when you just hear noise just ignore it because I figured out no body cares if you even look towards their direction so you need to practice body language look up how to practice it

[@Dreamjinx]

I also lost my body language after having ptsd

[@anushkajoshi7847]

I have social anxiety and I'm afraid to do anything in public like I can't even sneeze because i think like everyone will judge me by things which i do. And the most funny thing is my close ones make fun of me by saying you don't have to over react in everything. I can't make myself involved in any family gathering and they scold me for it . They think I'm doing these just because i don't want to but the case is i just don't know how to interact with others. And when i say these they even get more angrier that this is stupidity no one has this kind of thing. I don't know when they will know that genuinely i also want to interact but i can't.

[@fg3production355]

I feel you, I remember In high school I always to go schools late so people’s don’t see me and when school over I have to stay in the bathroom for all the kids to leave so I can go home I did 11/12 grade like that so in 12 I started missing days and assignments and now I didn’t graduate and when I go to work same thing started happened and now I’m in the house with no job , I’m tryna get back out here stronger

[@bubblecat9212]

Mine is when I see someone I know and try to avoid them as much as possible.

[@kossibwaya]

This!

[@chiragrajan3301]

! SOCIAL ANXIETY IS TEMPORARY ! I come from a well doing educated family. I was doing well in life myself, good growth oriented job, had great friends, was extremely sociable and outgoing. But things went downhill after a point and I got stuck in the chronic extreme social anxiety loop for quite a few months. It was bad, most of you know all the common symptoms. Mine were the exact same. really really bad to the point I couldn’t maintain eye contact with my own parents and even my partner after a point of time. Felt so depressed and was really rethinking my future decisions and plans that I had. Now the reason I got social anxiety must be different from each one of you as everybody’s reason is different but rest assured guys,the problem and the cure is the same for each of you, immaterial of whatever your intensity is . My personal Reason turned out to be my genetics and lot of constant substance abuse in college life followed by persistent daily drinking. I had to quit my job because of this anxiety. I consider myself really lucky because Only because I had the space and understanding about it in my family was I able to get proper appropriate help. Believe me when I say this guys, it’s totally curable with the right medications from a psychiatrist and good CBT counselling sessions from a psychologist. They were costly indeed because of which I consider myself lucky. I’m officially completely out of it right now while typing this, in fact on my way to a friend’s birthday treat in a cafe, I made it so can you all too. Stay strong boys and girls, this really isn’t the end of the world. All these emotions you feel right now which leads to different actions like avoidance and terrible inner thoughts and feelings is just something your brain has learned, with the right help it can really be easily unlearned in a span of few months. DONT EVER GIVE UP! Life is really brighter on the other side, hope all of you reach it soon but also at your own sweet time. Feel free to dm me for any sort of help/personal questions/suggestions/even plain venting out. Summing up, ! SOCIAL ANXIETY IS TEMPORARY ! All the fucking best to each and everyone of you facing this, you really really got this. Stay strong and do remember. “You only Live Once”. Strong hugs 🫂

[@chuusies]

im just gonna have hope in myself that one day i will be able to easily talk to people. one day. even though right now it seems impossible for me to cure this, because talking to people at all makes my throat close up, so i physically cant talk to people but i hipe that one day it will all stop and ill be normal

[@ggaz683]

1. No nicotine/caffiene/hard stims on days you need to socialize 2. Address any nutrition deficiency (D3,zinc,magnesium,omega 3s,etc) 3. 1 hour hard exercise 3 times a week 4. CBT (ssri and or benzos at the start just to make it easier then get used to doing it without them)

[@sussiemiao3597]

I can imagining myself doing normal things but doing it in real life is near impossible. Even now i'm hiding with my phone to avoid eating together. I'm sick of it

[@tashidolma6734]

How is your condition now?Did you seek doctor for this problem?

[@pastelbonbond1987]

I got a new teacher in the middle of school, I've had her for about two months now and I don't like her which is actually rare for me. I told her when we met that I had social anxiety and on her second day she made me read two sentences twice. She also picks on me out of all the students in the classroom for an answer randomly. One time she made me read and I stuttered and messed up and actually had to fight to keep the tears in my eyes :(

[@nicholas4727]

Maybe have your parents talk to her and straighten it out

[@baconfacegamer792]

you do realize she’s helping you right? the only way to fix your problem is to face them and if she’s making you face them then she’s helping. you are the only one holding yourself back. i’m not talking out of my ass, both myself and many others who have suffered from social anxiety agree with this methodology. best of luck

[@Robloxmanface3]

It’s hard to sleep if you have Social anxiety because when you say something embarrassing you think about it overnight and you cannot sleep

[@LaylaISMEE]

One time in 5th grade my ELA teacher would always make us read our essay that we did to the class, so one day my teacher called me. Once I got in front of class, my heart started racing, I uncontrollably shaking, my voice sounded different, as if something was stuck in my throat, and I started to get hot. These two boys saw me and they started to laugh at me because they were “popular” and I’m assuming didn’t know the struggles of social anxiety, so what I did was told my teacher, “I couldn’t do this.” And ran back to my seat with my head down while everyone was judging me. To this day (7th grade) I still have major social anxiety to the point where I can’t even eat at lunch in front of everyone, or actually participate in PE. I will say that it kinda has gotten better because now I’m in band, and participate in SOME school event, but I only talk to the people I know from previous years

[@shivverma1459]

The worst part is that you start sweating a lot in social situations, and then you have anxiety that people will notice that you are sweating a lot, resulting in a cycle.

[@TechnicalEra777]

Same Bhai yaar same😢😢😢 meko Bhai yahi hota hain😢

[@JustMela_]

Literally me in public😮‍💨

[@AwesomeDadla]

My wife suffers from this but also has body dismorphia it at same time it's awful it runs her life. We have never been for a meal together or cinema or holiday. Or weekend breaks with me and our daughter. She is a very lovely looking woman to but she don't think so. We have no family photos because she don't want her picture taken. It's very hard to live this way but I love her with all my ❤ and will stick by her till I die. Its sad to see her go through this it tears my soul apart I wish I could take it away from but can't. We are trying to get help for this but not much has improved 😢 but I still love her no matter what it throws at us

[@longwhitecloudful]

It's like I'm allergic to likes. On both digital and real life platforms.

[@MoskusMoskiferus1611]

Everytime there's people, I just want to vanished

[@aqsakainat9417]

I am the victim of constant bullying and bodyshaming.It turned me into extremely shy, awkward and hesitant in front of people.Even my family does not help they push me but I can't.I am so envious of people who can present and carry themselves with such a grace.I also know that people can't stop letting you down.Whereever I go I am made fun of my sagging chin #fat face,short height,brown hair and eyes.Seriously people are so good at making others go down.I was asked to shut my mouth because my teeth were not white enough.I was asked to get married because my ex best friend said I looked over weight.I am from Pakistan here in my country ,in my class room,in my house,in marriage every where I was bullied and I'm being bullied.Even talking about it people make fun of you.💫Lesson To Be Learnt:Even models are bullied for their confidence in the end no matter what you always remember to not force yourself to be someone else and copy,it is not going to help you but you will loose your charm yourself your identity and persona.Human beings make mistakes , they're not perfect.No one taught me I learnt them through personal experience.Have A Good Day Beautiful People.

[@vasudevsarvam6912]

You are good person and I can sense that by your choice of words. You are wonderful, don't let someone outside define u. Live ur life and spread kindness sister. From India.

[@metasequoia3097]

Thanks for those good words. I hope things get better for you, I really do.

[@Emily-tx5wr]

Omg! I relate to the restroom aspect of this. I will always hold it because im so pee shy. 😭

[@Honey-Purr]

I am literally at a school for people who didn't do well at normal schools and I wear a hoodie all the way down over my face, flinch when people walk over to me, hide under tables and I can't even speak because I am so scared, I have to write in my notebook what I want to say and I will only show that notebook to One or two teachers 😢

[@thebritishteaman2380]

Wow I hope you find people you can trust and be open with ❤

[@chesternabua6783]

My anxiety only gets worse due to the fact that i also have facial hyperhidrosis. It's hard to face people when your dripping in sweat eventhough your doing nothing.

[@cye.bobcat]

I don't think I have social anxiety around my classmates, I very been with them for 3 years, same class. The things I have problems with are my friends. They all have some other friend or person to talk about while I'm right there, and it always makes me feel like a third wheel. I'm also very overdramatic. Something that happens a lot without me thinking is comparing myself to friends or even strangers. Every second of the day, even if I'm smiling, I'm always thinking something bad about myself, such as, should I stop eating? So and so is looking at me. Should I have styled my hair different? Sometimes it even get the the point where I'm all like, she's so much better than me in every way, her hair is so pretty, she's so smart, but I'm not. This is incredibly low self esteem. I sometimes have mental breakdowns in my room. I don't know why I'm sharing this, but I feel like it's easier to tell thing to strangers things than to tell your closest friend who you've been best friends with for 6 years. Sometimes I even feel she is getting farther and farther away. I wonder if I'm doing something wrong. Maybe I'm too clingy. Maybe I should change my personality.What should I do about this underlying fear of getting compared and judged?

[@norasaidso.]

I can’t ask for anything without having a panic attack.

[@vanwilderx2927]

This feels like home, i have very bad social anxiety

[@StarredB0nes]

The last one is so relatable for me and it’s so annoying

[@Yashuiii_niceandfriendly]

This is so true I have social anxiety.

[@missneneedits8110]

I’m literally standing by my friends rn on my phone instead of talking to them 💀

[@tonycee1670]

I mean yea I feel these things but I’m too lazy to actually care 😂, I do the phone thing all the time but then my neck hurts so then I stop because it’s less work, as for the fear of public bathrooms, I just don’t go in

[@pirateship8925]

That is really me, SAD disorder.

[@kuromi_4_life]

omg it sucks! i’m scared to ask to go to the bathroom in school, i’m scared to ask my mom for help sometimes! and she isn’t even mean or anything like that, she’s actually very nice but i’m always scared to ask for things and it sucks.

[@Heartstopperfan_7777]

I’m not diagnosed with Social Anxiety, but all of those things you listed sound like me……

[@loozerbebz]

The last one is so true. I waited almost the whole school day to use the bathroom, but sadly didn't make it. I still am to anxious to ask for the bathroom even though I'm about to Burst and my blatter starts hurting

[@daytonsouthall1137]

Yep this was me in High School

[@carolineapodaca525]

As someone with it, accurate. Theres also wearing visible headphones, making yourself look busy at a job to skip talking with co-workers, overchecking/monitoring pets and kids when they are with you in a public place and more likely to order food and clothes online.

[@user-eh5xo5zv3d]

As a person who has social phobia I'm Soo awkward when im with my friends. and there like why don't you talk much. i can even say why cause I'm terrified that i will say something stupid.

[@anxia-tea5846]

is this how i find out i have social anxiety

[@user-dany]

I can’t no more

[@blackairforce13]

Are you feeling better?

[@magicknight13]

Holy cow this was way too relatable every single one, and I never knew being unable to eat in public was a sign of social anxiety I've had that for years too😂😅

[@brooklynmcguire]

I have social anxiety and relate to all these things. One of my goals for 2023 that I've already started working on is to try and push past my fears and "rid" myself of social anxiety. Though I don't think I'll ever be rid of it completely, I want to be more social and want stupid feelings like those gone!

[@srijadey]

Can u plz tell how to come out of this?? Its actually killing me

[@chino4291]

Welcome to hell

[@CaseyShontz]

Therapy

[@blch5351]

Therapy but it's not Will 100% cure you. Just Cope with SAD.

[@ozgursahin4332]

Yeah, but the thing is most people who suffer from SA don´t have money for the therapy, as it is hard to find, attain and keep a job for people who grapple with social anxiety disorder in general.

[@Eli_Roblox4life]

Okay, the bathroom and food ones hit me HARD

[@Study-and-knowledge44]

Bro can we talk plz

[@Study-and-knowledge44]

Give me your number

[@wawa69423]

You’re really accurate this is exactly what happens

[@TheManglerMaster]

I hate when someone says I'm an attention seeker right after I do something not 100% fitting in regular societal norms or that is weird. Like, I simply want to subtly express myself without anyone noticing and you gotta call me out like this? I don't want to be important, I don't want to be the 'main character', I just wanna be myself.

[@Funnyclipsgrabthechips]

Man it sucks but what really helped me is realizing no one cares idk that fact helped me alot

[@user-bi7mw1yg7w]

It started at the abrupt changes, aka first day of middle school… Covid didn’t help at all, at the end of 8th grade I remember my whole body physically shaking after having a neutral conversation with my teacher about something simple. By the end of 10th grade I’ve made minor acquaintances with students but mostly teachers, and only mostly only my hand would physically keep shaking only when really stressed or overwhelmed. Now for one of the first times, two girls have constantly talked to be instead of just once and have been really nice, just trying to make friends. Even if my response consist of unnoticeable nodding and one word at a time, I know I’m definitely making a lot of progress as the years go on. I did my first interview not too long ago, it wasn’t good, but I somehow passed. All I’m saying is, keep on going. It’s going to take a long long time, but if you don’t put yourself out there more than your used to once or twice every once in a while, you’ll never see progress. I hadn’t made progress for three years once cause I never tried anything further than what I was comfortable with. I believe in all of you, let us bond on something we have in common ❤

[@florian_thrash]

The phone thing is so true. Especially when I’m walking towards people who are walking towards me. I’m always pulling out my phone and just scrolling thru the home menu or the music app I do that because I think it’s awkward to look at the ground but it’s awkward to look at the people too… Please help what can I do!!!

[@domteretto8900]

This is literally me in high school

[@snow_flower3942]

Social anxiety has ruined my life I have no friends because of it because I’m always just like on my phone or I’m just staying inside because everybody just like says that I need to go outside more but then they’re just like go inside you’re so annoying but I’m not annoyed they just think I’m annoying because I’m a girl and I’m basically the only girl in my neighborhood and they always bully me they call me Dora the Explorer because of my haircut some of them will call me Velma and it’s really tough so my social anxiety works in many different ways and I can’t explain all of them.❤

[@gulajannatphool9149]

It’s just like a curse. I am dealing with this for many years and feeling tired inside 😣😓

[@Bluelinechevy82]

Accurate. I have horrible social anxiety. I have absolute dread over stuff like when the gas pump says, "Please see cashier." Even a trip to the grocery store can be too much.

[@M4R155A]

I hate having to speak to people who I don’t know 😢My voice disappears,I start breathing really quickly and my hands start shaking 🫨 Sometimes I feel dizzy 😵‍💫 😭

[@luna84_]

I get so anxious when in a crowded room that I just want to cry 😭😅

[@puksshorts]

I had social anxiety since i was 8, it felt very horrible for me and still does. My parents know about it and help me. It does really affect my social skills/making friends skills. I only have one friend at the moment and i'm really grateful towards her.

[@ashwong6769]

I feel like I can't breathe when I'm eating in public. Having thought of dying and worse things about to happen. So tired of it 😩😩😩 help me

[@summerfun1918]

I just started to believe I have it after this because I have ADHD and people tell me since I have ADHD in likely have social anxiety

[@Beaheadoeverybody]

You describe just how I feel everyday and I can't stop it day by day it only get's worst and severe I hate living like this this is the worst of all

[@HFTLH]

I had it pretty bad in my early 20's. I hated eating in front of coworkers in the break room and thought people would analyze the way I chew my food. But I still ate in front of people. If I felt like the center of attention, I would blush bright red and just absolutely hated that. I'm so glad it hasn't been that bad for years now, and I don't think smart phones were a thing quite yet at that time. I don't allow myself to hide behind my phone, but I have trouble making eye contact. I have trouble with feeling comfortable around people.

[@melrmontez]

Social anxiety as an adult for me looks like(nerve) itching on my legs until I get giant bruises, skin picking, hiding from phone calls or knocks at the door.

[@kyleighsings3213]

that frantic looking around is SO ACCURATE OMG

[@alexial8772]

I feel like everyone has a bit of this. Many of us just naturally know not to stress and over think about it while others become obsessive..

[@Danger_noodle616]

I can agree to the 2nd one, i have severe social anxiety and i dont try many things because i am terrified that i will do something stupid, and be alone. I hate being scared to show my personality.

[@ArtsyAriaHehe]

I know not to self diagnose myself but I relate to all of these problems. Especially when using the bathroom. I’ll be with my friends and I just leave awkwardly to use the bathroom but I deal with this everyday and I’m still not over it😢

[@lovelylady4920]

Thank you for this.🙏🙏

[@Jaiy_oken]

I got social anxiety during the cough cough, and I was afraid to actually talk to people. Now everytime I don't talk to someone within a week I get scared to talk to them again.

[@BigFortniteBaIIs]

It sucks and then the ppl around you just think you're closed off or don't wanna be around them

[@I-love-God]

So true. I wouldn’t go to the bathroom at school all day. Only when I was at home because I didn’t want everyone to look at me when I got up😭

[@myna-xoxo]

I know. I hate having it, it stops me from doing so many things I’d love to do. It also makes me feel horrible, and like everyone thinks I’m horrible.

[@kailu1726]

I only stay in my room The only place I go is School where a weird fear surrounds me. Phones aren't allowed so I just hide my face in the books and now everyone thinks I'm a nerd.☹☹☹

[@CassidyOfficially]

It's so funny because I was so extroverted until I got to high school and then I got diagnosed with severe depression and social anxiety. I do all of this. I refuse to eat in public, I take it home. I always pretend to be on my phone if someone is even near me🤦🏼‍♀️

[@ferretlover6643]

I have social anxiety and I’m just sad..

[@itsblu4735]

I was like this in highschool but after getting into college i feel like i started realizing that i shouldn't stress these things out, I'm human and am just like everyone else

[@_.h.a.f.s.a_]

People think that I'm overacting just for attention but I really can't be normal