Overcome social anxiety WITHOUT therapy

[@drali]

What helps you to overcome social anxiety?

[@MrGreen-dp4oz]

Thankyou doctor for everything u do. You are an amazing human being.

[@jolesin]

First of all, thank you for this wonderful video, Doc! I really enjoyed this as I am also one who struggled with social anxiety from time to time after being ditched by my group of friends when I was younger. I think my approach to the anxiety that has been growing inside of me ever since that tragic event was to distance myself with people. I will first start to notice that when I'm getting all anxious, I will bite into my nails and totally just bite them all of from my fingers. Then after that when the anxiety truly knocks by and pull me into another round of relapse, I will take more time with myself, trying to either bottle it all up or just pour it all out (by crying by myself or maybe write it all down on my journal/book/piece of paper), and then I would end the progress with taking care of myself aka having a me time. Honestly I never really thought of trying exposure therapy (as I am also now quarantined in this hard time we're having) but by watching this I got some ideas to perhaps introspect and take a closer look into my whole social anxiety situation. Once again, thank you very much! This was a good video, you did great❤️

[@dianalee9557]

I first heard about social anxiety from watching 1 of your videos, last year. The fears are the same as the guy's and are mostly about talking to someone in person, pretty much everyone, worse if I don't know them. Then pandemic came along, and I started getting into social media (1st youtube then twitter a few months ago). I find it easier to interact, even with the excuse that I don't speak English well (which is true, maybe I should study it better) when my brain doesn't react as quickly as I'd like. I have never talked to so many different people in my entire life. Of course the problem will come with in-person interaction. But for now, I'm fine.

[@RedstoneMiner18]

Here from youtube *lol*

[@ryof_7765]

Talking positively with myself it’s helped me alot even if I messed up a little bit i be proud of me,but this was before the pandemic..things with me now is a total mess and it’s make me overthink about my situation after couple of months when I’ll return to reality

[@Maryet40]

I lost so many opportunities and people because of social anxiety. I can't take it anymore. I literally can't even open my mouth, I'm scared I'll remain alone for the rest of my life

[@iaprawitasari3028]

Please don't give up,i know how it feels its very hard tho

[@Maryet40]

@@iaprawitasari3028 Thank you❤️

[@Maryet40]

@Allure ❤️

[@javierlopez-ko2ph]

its gonna be ok, ull get over it. just be content with ur situation and love. yourself.

[@mikaelneault]

You are not alone 💖

[@schizojit]

God knew I'd be too powerful if I had social skills.

[@Ryan-rd5ol]

😅

[@kreative22672]

thats a good perpective to look at haha

[@RicJG7]

Yeah you would be, so you need to live up to that potential and own that space, don't give up til you get there

[@Shermanthewormman]

Fr

[@achmedjaffar5274]

Jesus Christ healed me and he is God💯🙏he can also heal you💯he loves you❤and he died on the cross for your death in your place!! Thats how much God your Creator loves you! We all are Born again but we need to become Born again of water baptism and his holy spirit baptism to inherit the kingdom of Heavens🙏

[@setorious]

One of my fears is being taken out of context and being hated on for something I'm misunderstood for.

[@coffintears5821]

Same

[@Alekito-qc7cg]

Bruuhh samee

[@ely915]

Same

[@eric-ms3pz]

Same

[@staticz6275]

This has happened to me and it is what it is tbh people are just ignorant

[@user-zv5yy7oh9u]

I feel like with social anxiety, rumination plays a huge factor. I feel like exposure therapy would be helpful in conjunction with talk therapy because sometimes rumination causes me to view an entirely normal social interaction as something that went horribly and discourages me to try again. It's important to retrain your thought process, not just exposing yourself to new situations because sometimes I have tried and have had adverse effects.

[@JustT725]

This college student is brave and clearly articulated what social anxiety feels like. I am decades past college but I still struggle with what this young man is going through. God Bless

[@115online]

right, and that's what's interesting. He blames its on his tongue issues. But it's clearly all in his head, because he speaks so well here. It's crazy what are brain does.

[@Gentlebreeztune]

You are right it's scares me because i am also suffering from this but I will try my best​@@115online

[@aubriewest1135]

People with social anxiety are so intelligent

[@seydanurkement4782]

True😢

[@toyir4934]

😂 nope

[@chronicfatiguehermithiker3022]

I’ve been practicing exposure tolerance by expressing myself in comments sections. It’s distressing, I pray before hitting the send button, but self expression is satisfying. I’ve done years of exposure in person but though I have experience and have lived a life, I’ve become a total hermit now, can’t leave the house unless I have no choice.

[@pedronavaja2350]

I relate to this so much man. Although, I don't really know whether I'm just introverted, reserved, and simply like spending alone time rather than socialising or if I'm outright not socially fit, lacking the skills to interact with other people, explaining why I don't go out much, or feel cohibited when trying to express myself.

[@khansolo4178]

Never thought my social anxiety was being expressed in me never commenting on anything, anywhere.

[@stellat.r8825]

Would it help if I told you that no-one remembers youtube comments? We read them and go about our day honestly. So you may feel like you are exposing yourself and inner thoughts to us but we don't know you. Most people in real life too you think they are paying attention to what you say or what you do but most of us go about our day and think about our problems and what we will eat for dinner.

[@stellat.r8825]

I have a huge problem with job interviews because I have a strong fear of being judged as stupid and incompetent. I was very surprised after I had a terrible interview where I couldn't even articulate myself well enough ....that I got a call back for the next round of interviews. Our sense of reality is most times distorted especially our view of ourselves.

[@chronicfatiguehermithiker3022]

@@stellat.r8825 It doesn’t matter, the exposure is overwhelming no matter what; it’s not a reasonable thing.

[@strawberriesblueberries2258]

Ever since I was a child I had social anxiety. I feel very shy and I shut down and become very quiet. I feel more safe living alone in my apartment. I’m afraid of people in general. I feel afraid to speak up, and confrontation is my biggest fear.

[@malebeery6832]

nice way to look at it : people are like NPC in video game, meaning you don't feel anything like that with NPC that you meet in the game, people are acutely the same in the game of life of yours.

[@jimskeuh]

@@malebeery6832 so you suggest being apatic is gonna help the problem?

[@livedeliciously]

Same here. Looking back I was always like. The future is scary.

[@Knowledgeandententertainment]

Yes social anxiety people have too much empathy. ​@@jimskeuh

[@BlazeInferno360]

My social anxiety didn't kick in until I was 21. I googled it saying how did I get social anxiety, and it comes from years of abuse. Stuff like bullying and teasing 🙄

[@aliquresh87]

For me, there's also a fear of rejection. I think I fear rejection the most, and I kind of anticipate it from almost everyone.

[@workingg4772]

Why do u fear rejection

[@Hello_am_Mr_Jello]

​@@workingg4772 lack of experiences i may guess

[@iKyleTz]

i'm with you on this one, i feel like i'm going to be rejected by everyone i speak to, so i'd rather say nothing if I can. i moved high schools for the last few years of school and i was rejected by so many groups i tried to join and it's really stuck with me for the past 10 years :( It sucks though because i know i'm missing out on meeting and being friends with amazing people just because i think they will reject the real me

[@bang8826]

do you think you would benefit from exposure in rejection therapy?

[@bhatsumaira547]

I think I m literally living the life of this college student. By the way it is my first comment ever I did on a social media platform.....just want to take baby steps to overcome this social anxiety.i just recently got to know that I might be most probably suffering from social anxiety when a group of relatives came to our home and asked me a few questions regarding my studies and I was like my breath got caught in my throat ,I was not even able to answer any of the questions without stuttering and I was furiously blushing and my heart was beating like anything.....i didn't want to write these many details but I just wanted to get it out of my heart. I hope whoever read this didn't got bored😅

[@butterflysoul77]

No it's okay to express your feelings❤❤

[@antoshsokol7046]

I appreciated reading this. I found personal value in your sharing. Thank you for sharing yourself.

[@fixwhale]

Thank you for sharing. I hope it’s better now ❤

[@fixwhale]

Thank you for sharing. I hope it’s better now ❤

[@fixwhale]

Thank you for sharing. I hope it’s better now ❤

[@mag6521]

Sending soo much love to everyone here! You’re not alone, we’re all in this together ❤️ and you are all beautiful souls.

[@chanellaDaboss]

The thing about social anxiety is that you just have to do things. Stop thinking too much. From my experience, we need to be more in the do and be willing to make mistakes. I know it's hard especially when you are kind of a perfectionist. If something makes me nervous I say that. I've found that announcing that I am feeling anxious always helps me. I've noticed that there is this thing that goes on in your head when you are anxious. For some reason you don't want people to notice that you are anxious, so it just adds a double portion of anxiety. Saying I am anxious about something before saying anything else to a person definitely helps me relief some of that anxiety.

[@fridagylterud9491]

But it’s easy to say «don’t think so much». It’s not as easy to do so. I say this to myself all the time, that I have to stop caring, stop overthinking, but I can’t overcome it.

[@yugeno]

it's really hard to 'just do things' when you have terrible physical symptoms though

[@sharper12341]

@@fridagylterud9491 Agreed! What has helped me is a lot of meditation to calm the mind and inner work to find out who you truly are. Many good people on YT to explain/work on ego death.

[@AmanyAhmed210]

I think that worsen it! Because when you do you will became more anxious and then you 're less to think clearly, so you gonna make more mistakes and then have problems so you have more anxiety and it became PTSD I think we have to go outside then accept that we will have panick attack so we isolate and do something we love and then go outside again and then go to isolation again and feel that we are now safe, and it will reduce by time. As any phobia, as any child we accept what he feels but we help him step by step to grow out of it.

[@padraicsnype2714]

The worst thing to do is try and hide it.

[@akashverma5756]

Having social anxiety, It requires great courage to contact and talk to therapists.

[@ImaPeakyblinder]

I have social anxiety my whole life carrying it on my head everyday i cant talk what i wanted to i fear what would happen But god gave me a major gift which keeps me motivated appart from these i top in my studies and sports thats what is motivating to go forward

[@meganmorgan7491]

The new symptom I’ve developed with my social anxiety is stuttering and messing up my words which makes things much much worse and makes me even less likely to speak not to mention the crushing suicidal thoughts

[@pj7294]

I have been through this the same way you did every single day and you are not alone. I try every day to overcome it but it is not really working for me. I totally know how you feel.

[@noidea2568]

Hey, I know it's been a while, but how are you doing? I'll be completely honest, that last part of your comment gave me a reason to worry quite a bit. I'd say that once someone gets suicidal thoughts, then that's a pretty clear sign to look for some help in any form, which I hope you got/will get (especially when they're "crushing" like you described). I don't have stutters, but whenever I get nervous speaking to someone one thing that helps me is to mention to that person that I'm a little nervous so I might communicate my thoughts very clearly, which makes it so that the other person usually becomes more patient and understanding. And if they aren't well then that's a good sign that that's a person you probably don't want to talk to anyway.

[@basketballandbeyond1835]

I’m 32 and I just realized I have this. Since I became aware I’ve been doing a lot better with talking to people.

[@rebeccajones9757]

My husband struggles with social anxiety. He gets very self conscious and insists that I handle anything that involves talking to strangers. He doesn't want to talk to cashiers, repair technicians, doctors, neighbors, etc.

[@gabor6259]

But then how did you fall in love with him?

[@xzonia1]

@@gabor6259 Lots of women like the strong, silent type :)

[@iivin4233]

Good to know that the one time he spoke up it was the right person to speak up to.

[@fifimomo7696]

​@@gabor6259that is a strugke too. I dr nstance met my hb through an online dating aite. I was despdetaley lonely so evenrually I had to do this as in real life I wuls have neber been able as I don t make eye contact much. After a couple of days of chatting online I had enough courrage to meet him, as mostly we are scared to socialise wiith strangers and he didn t feel as being a stranger anymore

[@ETFsinner]

​@@xzonia1strong? And where do I fins these women. Having social anxiety makes it really difficult to make and keep relationships

[@jordanrogers9444]

I've suffered with social anxiety now for 8 years, it seems to come in waves. Some weeks I'm good some weeks I'm really anxious. It all kind of kicked off when i was studying and made to do presentations. I crumbled a few times, now i have a constant fear of people judging me and thinking negatively. Had CBT twice, it helps certainly but I'm still battling it everyday along with health anxiety. Stay strong peeps!

[@grokker99]

samehere. my SA onsets randomly for weeks and turns off for weeks--so weird. xanax didnt work nor does cbt. trying zoloft now. hope it works

[@Teknakill]

Try 35 years.

[@brini137]

​@@Teknakilldo you still suffer from social anxiety

[@Teknakill]

@@brini137 Oh ya, always have.

[@BlazeInferno360]

​@@TeknakillMy social anxiety didn't come in until I was 21. That ruined everything for me 😔

[@Quietfire83]

I was raised in the foster care system, and I'd try to make friends at school, but quite a few of the parents would learn that I was in the system & take the attitude of "not around my kid, thanks!". I received a lot of that sort of treatment from parents & teachers alike because they didn't take the time to learn that I was in a kids' home for my own safety. I was moved around a lot, too. I'd just begin to start feeling settled & then I'd be moved again. I was a very confused & lonely child, which caused me uncontrollable frustration & I'd lash out! I grew up feeling worthless, undeserving of anything good, so this led me to fall in with others who were in a similar position, which only perpetuated the isolation because none of us had ever been taught how feel comfortable in our own skin & as I felt uncomfortable & undeserving of true friendship, it would often lead me to sabotage them, as at least then, I was in control of what the outcome was! I resent that I feel so lonely, unbelonging & unwanted. God bless anyone who took the time to read this comment. 🙏 ❤

[@lauragoodrum2248]

Just watching this and having them talk about social anxiety, gives me very intense anxiety....

[@nejram]

Something about the logical approach of 'your mind needs more experiences/data with these fears' actually really helps me. Thank you, thank you!

[@whyisgamora4191]

It's interesting to see how different social anxiety can be for different people. I personally also have social anxiety, but whereas the person in the video would rather talk to a complete stranger or make mistakes with the cashier, I would be completely horrified doing this and have no problem talking to people I already know ^^ Sounds like his fears are rooted in some kind of fear of being embarrassed in front of friends/existing social network while my fear is judgement of others, so talking to frineds - people who I know won't judge me - isn't scary for me.

[@HonorarySaiyan]

Yeah, our minds are complicated.

[@opopo3342]

Same i overthink conversations. As an example i was going to buy a snack and the cashier said something that i didnt hear and i said something wrong. I thought about that for weeks. And i am a whole different person when i am with friends.

[@beri4138]

Yes. Mine is like yours. Can't talk to strangers at all.

[@Dregomz02]

While i feel pretty comfortable with my friends and feel secure, but are terrified of strangers and being forced to sit in single room with them for more than 10mins. I used to not be able to talk over phone due fear but overcome that with time and help of psilocybin.

[@beri4138]

@@Dregomz02 I still can't say anything other than "yes" or "no" on the phone. Anything else and I feel like the whole world is judging me.

[@ripstrowie3608]

we'll get through this guys

[@Ariane_theblinginrealtor]

I relate so much to this young man. Social media has really opened my eyes to so many of us suffering like this. I’m working on on it

[@overwatchkennel7558]

For years i cant put into words what i was feeling, but this dude broke it down so clearly to me.

[@muscaflaya2268]

I honestly admire this man a lot for opening up about his experience, it must have been really difficult. Hearing somebody else describe their feelings and realizing that other people go through the same struggles is really touching. I feel like all of us in this comment section can truly relate and it gives me so much hope that we can get through this over time. One thing that has been really helpful for me is trying to see the situation from an external perspective, trying to "get out of my own head". It makes me realize that other people probably don't see my actions as "weird" or "creepy", just as i don't look at other people being awkward and assume anything nefarious about them. Everyone has their own lives, people don't generally pay that much attention to what others are doing. In the grand scheme of things, a single awkward conversation won't ruin your life, but a great conversation will make your day and even help to create a meaningful relationship you might cherish for life.

[@taylorshymanski]

Mine is from not knowing what to say to people. I avoid people cause I don't know what to say to them.

[@JihadBunnydick]

Mine too...I can start a conversation but run out of things to say.

[@CLoysTer001]

fear of being negatively evaluated due to silence

[@travischristian9134]

You can literally talk about anything

[@nenaquarry9751]

my social anxiety definitely comes up with interviews and fears of public speaking

[@LeoGamer21]

I’ve never been diagnosed with social anxiety but I feel I may have it because of how much I relate to it more than average shyness. I’ve had all the thoughts and emotions about why I’m experiencing it in the first place, finding out that it’s been mirrored through different stages in my life. Only now am I even watching these videos on the topic because I never took the chance or was given an opportunity to reach out to my direct group. Not out of fear or judgement, but because I believed I didn’t have to because none of my friends have reached out to me about something very personal to them. Which doesn’t really make a lot of sense now that I’ve thought it through. I knew something just felt off about my own personal experience when I try initiating conversation with someone new or when I’m in a large social group. I feel I get blocks or pauses when I talk, I either stutter or I don’t think of anything to say at all. I’ve made it my New Year’s resolution to work on my social skills both in my direct connections (friends and family) and outside connections (Coworkers, classmates, friends of friends, and strangers alike) I’ve already gone through the motions and shed tears in the past, but I aim to better understand myself and build myself up as a whole. I wish the same for others, if you’re reading this and you felt you needed to read this for a whole other perspective, let’s become the best us we can be together.

[@hogsandstews]

This college kid is literally me im convinced of it. He explained to the T what i was going through living in a suite and starting off college barely ever eating being scared of seeing people and finding it easier to just isolate. I like to think im pretty funny when im not suffering from all the anxiety but turn into a brick wall when i am. So most of my anxiety comes from not being funny and not being able to think of funny things to say anymore then ruminating about it. I went through a brief stint w Xanax self prescribed to help which it did but turned every other aspect of my life upside down. After with my new confidence from Xanax lol i Went through a period where i thought things were turning around and it was getting better but a few things recently really spiraled me back to square one and i feel totally lost again.

[@POOKIE.Z]

My mind goes completely blank in front anyone, junior or seniors alike, adults or elderly too. Worst off is that teachers expect us to talk to them and get help by themselves, i cant at all, i think im going to be judged when i even walk in the front of the classroom

[@alixander9401]

My social anxiety didnt start until after high school. As a kid I was so raw, bubbly, talkative and not awkward I miss the old me

[@c.laahimooha5622]

Same

[@rmcastro99]

My struggle with social anxiety is that if anyone mentions something that I feel unconfortable talking about or something slightly mean, it will destroy me and make feel soooo bad about myself.

[@niya9948]

One of my main struggles in life right now but I know with prayer and the right therapist I can overcome it though. I’ve heard plenty of stories of people overcoming shyness or social anxiety.

[@iulianabalan8664]

Working in sales helped me a lot with social anxiety😊. I've become another person after 9 years of doing sales.

[@Ryan-rd5ol]

I’ve been thinking of doing sales for this reason

[@AzkarKhan-h8e]

Social anxiety kills everyone inside those who have😭

[@AzkarKhan-h8e]

Social anxiety kills everyone inside those who have😭

[@MintChocoOreo]

I really appreciate and enjoy these real sessions. I'm learning a lot about being a better listener and asking the right questions 😀

[@Lucidjulie]

Ugh I’m tired of never leaving the house, scared of getting attacked… I need to change. Please God help me ❤ I hope i can come back to this comment in a year, and say I’ve overcome it 😅

[@travischristian9134]

It's been 11 months how are you doing now?

[@CMoore8539]

Nobody wants to feel uncomfortable around other people but it’s very uncomfortable when we have to deal with negative people and some people are very rude.

[@skasoooretro]

It was really nice to hear this conversation. Thanks Paul for sharing! I also have social anxiety and I could really relate to a lot of what you were saying. I'm also diagnosed with avoidant personality disorder and depression. And been told that my emotional regulation isn't good enough to do exposure therapy. It's so hard.

[@HannahLouiseYT]

I rarely leave a comment (probably like many of the people who have commented below) but I was really touched by the caller and how well he articulated what social anxiety feels like. I know this video is two years old, and I really hope things have improved for him as he sounded like a lovely person who deserves great relationships and experiences in life.

[@bethprather9241]

Wow Im in tears about the kid playing pianno.. That is how we can pray and see others in love like Jesus showed.. awesome

[@franciscalillorazeto8338]

It helps to remind myself to be aware that they don’t really care as much as I do. In other words, I try to put myself in other people’s shoes and listen or watch what I say/do as an outsider and 90% of the times I realize that people don’t really care that much as I thought they would. I have had to learn I’m not the center of the universe 😂. But it’s so hard to silence the internal ‘voices’.

[@Mushroom321-]

Yes!!, there is a mis conception. the same feeling can also be with even close relationships.

[@Kimberly34584]

This was incredibly helpful. In therapy I’ve never been completely honest about what coping skills help or hurt me. I feel like this caller was so clear that rehearsal was not effective and the direction changed immediately. I’ve always stated “idk I’ve never tried it but I could” or “it used to help in the past but I haven’t been doing it recently” making my therapist try to have me repeat good coping skills for others but not me. I’m open to anything at this point but still haven’t found a set of tools effective enough. This guy seems so knowledgeable I wish I could have him as my therapist. Thankfully I changed to a new one who I think is better but for my personal experience seeing the same person for years led to the same conversations everyday trying to do ineffective coping skills

[@Veronikillah]

im going to college in a week and i cant even express how much listening to this helped me

[@peterpribula9989]

Year later I am exactly in your situation :D And I am convinced that after some time someone else will reply to me xD :D

[@kiano_84]

@@peterpribula9989 hi

[@jaylen6599]

u still have social anxiety

[@kathleenmargaret2720]

At my most social job (front desk at a hotel) I at first felt shy but being forced to talk more with others really at the time helped me overcome this fear. Running my home daycare, working solely at a medical office alone with my thoughts, then Covid, working from home has made it difficult once again for me.

[@rokshanawilliams2870]

I didn't always have what I think is social anxiety, because I haven't actually been diagnosed, but I can relate to soo many of the signs and symptoms... It's crippling my life , my romantic relationship, and friendships.. I have no idea how to over come this problem and I reallyyy want to. I don't have anyone to talk to neither so saying it here is somewhat of a relief.

[@hearditfirst8010]

Same here, same boat. I find it easier to talk about it with strangers than ppl close to me. I'm more embarrassed of being judged by people close to me. If you ever need to talk or vent, let me know. I'm at the point of surrounding myself with like minded ppl

[@NICE-lv6kk]

suffering from the same problem 😥

[@waki501]

I recommend you guys to read this book: How to Be Yourself by Ellen Hendriksen. I am half way there, and it's really on point. It gives you an explanation about why it happens and how you could overcome it.

[@eastside0434]

How does on overcome social anxiety.? Tia.

[@goldielox1997]

I've been through traumatic experiences in my life which led me to realize that I have PTSD anxiety panic attacks - if I don't face the anxiety it runs me straight into social anxiety social phobia where I always think someone's judging me or watching me even when I go outside of my house I feel that someone's watching me.... Or I feel sometimes something bad is going to happen or some One is after me and when I think like that it gives me intense anxiety panic attack which makes me want to leave my job or even quit my job and run home that's how intense my anxiety phobia could be -- I've reached out for help and that's the best thing I could do for myself I never felt like this before these traumatic experiences - I've gotten married but sometime I feel that my wife has no idea what I go through mentally even when I tell her what I'm going through she hasn't never been through this type of experience so it's scares her or runs her away to the point where she wants divorce please pray for me and my marriage one day I'll get well and overcome these anxieties phobias PTSD experiences

[@jrd8782]

We have a lot in common

[@astridcifuentes6633]

Me too :( im trying to help myself with anxiety meds I bought on Amazon

[@sheikhsultana8653]

I am seriously having this situation And I m tired whatever symptoms u just described I have everything!

[@sheikhsultana8653]

I just want to recover from this situation

[@Axel-fg4ph]

I never truly realised I had social anxiety until recently and now the more it has become tough for me to interact with people. I think I have lived like this since I was 8 years. I dont even know if there is any person I can talk about it openly. And much of the 12 years or so has passed suppressing my emotions to the fact that I don't know what to feel anymore. I do try to interact with people only with the constant fear of being judged. I always wish to live normally and for once truly feel the moments. I don't know if thats going to happen ever, but I am trying and hoping theres a way out. I wanted to try out therapy but cant afford it.

[@King.Quincyy]

I related with this student so much it's crazy, I literally feel like me and him experience social anxiety in a very similar way, it felt like I was the one in the call. I'm definitely gonna be referring back to this video from time to time.

[@coolcat3416]

Reading through these comments makes feel glad that I’m not the only one who feels this way. However I’m not glad that we’re all struggling with anxiety 😅😂

[@nataliiaperesada7550]

Same 😅

[@bbryanb2448]

Thank you for this video. I am even anxious when I comment online because one of my fears is my English.

[@drali]

Thank YOU for your kind comment!

[@sagargurung7122]

I am also having social anxiety, all the stuff he's experiencing are similar. I struggle going college and greet my college and i had presentation and i blackout and it got worst. I have been meditating and trying to do my best to and my mission right now is to overcome anxiety and be like happy and talk to people. I really want to have chat with people but its really hard😢

[@devanshusingh6117]

Hats off to Paul, the way he expressed himself was great. He sounds like an intelligent person. Also thanks to Dr. Ali for these valuable suggestions.

[@Jgreenstreet21]

I can relate to this as well, and it is difficult to explain it to someone who doesn't understand it. CBT helped me in some ways but it didn't directly improve my social anxiety, it more so helped me improve my confidence so that I could come to terms with my social phobias and work on it.

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[@KarthiK-ke7mr]

I'm sitting very comfortably inside my room all locked ,just hearing this video makes me fear a lot, I'm sweating so much, don't know why😳

[@catherineclosser8103]

I beat myself up for having social anxiety because I want to be social and meet new people, try new places and go to the store without fear. The exposure therapy seems like a good way to retrain my brain to be social again, it'll be like pull-ups for the brain learning how to be confident socializing while taking your life back too.

[@keturahwilkerson6594]

Accepting that humans are not logical helps. As someone who is usually a nice person, it drove me crazy knowing that there are people who don't like me regardless of what I do and vice versa... Also, understanding s.a. can only be tackled by putting yourself in social situations that are seen as a high chance of rejection can do wonders on building self-esteem. THE ONLY WAY OUT IS THROUGH! Praying for everyone who is suffering through this 🙏

[@sachaschuler4150]

I've really identified myself to this guy's story because I'm exactly in the same situation even though my social anxiety started during the pandemic and got pretty damn bad since then

[@sav3138]

i can’t stop over-thinking 🥴

[@CMoore8539]

I honestly believe that all the social isolation during the pandemic has increased social anxiety tremendously!! Most of us have experienced it to some decree so whatever you do Do Not feel alone. Keep trying to communicate with others and I’m sure you’ll find the people who you will feel comfortable with. Stay strong.❤

[@Olga-n2b]

I’ve just acknowledged that I have social anxiety and now I can understand why my anticipation of public speaking made me panic, where I couldn’t speak and even one time I had gone blank, after which I beat myself for about a week what made my situation worse. I’ve been in the therapy for 2 years and my therapist even didn’t tell me I was suffering of social anxiety. Therapy helped me a little bit but I still avoid some situations like job promotions, salary increase negotiations and so on. I am stuck in the basic position for years. I hope some time I won’t have this awful avoidance behavior or the anxiety which kills my future career 😢

[@christinaexplains2612]

I love how calm and articulate you are. Tips on developing that skill?

[@sketchinbeats]

Breathe

[@bethprather9241]

I hope he sees and more too.. I tell myself this when I pray too. IM a mess but there is always others that are broken or more broken too. The college community gives you a fresh start.. Change is huge when we pray to see others like Jesus or in His love. There are others out there that may need your affirmation too.. HUGE. ❤

[@user-mi2ks9so1q]

I just had my pre assessment for therapy and I swear you could have been speaking to me! The fear of being seen as stupid saying the wrong thing it’s resonates with me so strongly!

[@hooman1910]

0:49-exactly! i was on my medication for more than an year now it didn’t even help me a bit! 1:04-since i was 9yrs old. One day at school my parents came to pick me up a lil bit early than from the actual school timings i was said to go downstairs with my backpack i packed my stuff and then suddenly i spaced out like idek what am doing right there but ik that i was upto something and i actually needed to leave the class but idk i just spaced out standing there still in the middle of the class and after a couple of mins my teacher said “wyd go downstairs your parents must be waiting” and then i got back to my senses and left the place. 1:24-after the pandemic colleges started and i actually needed to leave the house and go out. i haven’t attended my college a week STRAIGHT in the entire 2 year programme without a sick leave somedays i just used to stay home cuz i don’t face people saying i was sick. No worries i passed out with 94% (Grade-A)

[@SucioPan]

We aren't alone

[@poisoneddreams2278]

Started crying not even 3 minutes in💀everything this guy says is like my situation. Avoiding so many things just because of that feeling. Its such a silly but terrifying thing. I wish him luck❤

[@rafiaomsafae9119]

I just kept feeling the shake in his voice the entire video and I actually feel it cause that s the case for me too when i have to talk about this topic

[@Finaldisaster]

My social anxiety is ridiculous. I can't use the phone properly without sweating and even talking online i feel like everyone is judging me. Eye contact is impossible and also i analyse everything i say also i run back conversations in my head constantly wondering if i messed up. Now I feel so alone and isolated from everyone else I feel trapped and my fear is I’m going to be alone forever I’m almost out of fighting energy at this point. I feel as if I’m drifting away and I can’t control it

[@workingg4772]

Go to a psychiatrist he can REALLY help you. If u do u will cover At least 40% of ur social anxiety. Or try tapping EFT (youtube videos) at home everyday 2 times for 3 month , and u will see some real results.

[@workingg4772]

Ur social life seems to be hard i have it too

[@workingg4772]

If u cant controll it at all even if u do everything. Wait untill 25 yo bc people say they were able to overcome social anxiety at that age bc of general life experiences . When we grow we change no matter who are we

[@MementoTurtle]

Try an unconventional method, relaxing into cold showers before doing phone calls. The cold shower is a hard thing to do, especially to relax in it for 5 minutes it takes some willpower

[@JW-qz4jl]

I have had social anxiety my whole life I guess, but after I caught Covid, it’s next level, I’ve never had anxiety like this, it’s getting better because I’m doing exposure things, and accepting

[@Mushroom321-]

" anxiety increases our perception of threat " . Yes!!,

[@rubi3182]

I second the reccomendation for the compliment exercise! I try to do it at least twice a week at work, it's intimidating at first but very gratifying once you get the hang of it. Do make sure your tone is audible though! I've hand more than a handful of instances where I go say hello to someone as they pass but my voice is too low and mumbled 😬😵.

[@oatmeels1880]

TY to the college student who shared his experience. I found it extremely relatable. It was nice to feel seen and heard.

[@EzekielG68w]

This is so unbelievably relatable but also so sad because its so illogical.

[@jimdavis8391]

It's very important to consider that social anxiety isn't black and white, vast numbers of people will suffer from it at some point. We're all on a personal journey to better ourselves. Preserve that growth mindset people, get out there as much as you can and above all, keep on trucking 😊

[@whiskycentral]

One thing I like to do is write down my fears and then write down a potential fix for the fear, and then the outcome I would bet money on (to help stop catastrophizing) and then write what this anxiety is trying to protect me from. I learned this from Struthless.

[@dawsoncarpenter2206]

Zoloft just made it 10 times harder and made me emotionless

[@dawsoncarpenter2206]

Adderall makes me feel sedated but it helps me focus. It makes me even more awkward

[@awakenwithjames]

I resonate so much to this. I might be late to the comment section here but I have been down this road so much myself. Hope you’re keeping well brother.

[@themme_fatale]

Also: peer support! There’s so much that can be learned from the recoveries of other people- strategies from people with lived experience

[@darrend267]

I have a problem shopping in stores. Walking past people, waiting for the cashier to scan my groceries. Talking to girls. My mind goes blank, shuts down. Even if I have a goal for the conversation, I feel like there needs to be a goal. I cant just have a conversation. Women equals sexual opportunities. People in general equals acceptance or a way out of a conversation at the least. I just stay quiet. How do I start to change?

[@anamaycuambot4320]

I've been suffering as well .. I guess I already had this way back I was in my teen-age years and being alone in the pandemic period made it severe. I'm a teacher, 32-year-old and it's been affecting my job and personal life A LOT. Thanks to this video.

[@bethprather9241]

Your advice is really a lot easier as we age. Ive practiced this for the last few years and it works.. So older people or adults you too and Myself can do this!!😊

[@tanishqsuryawanshi1276]

thanks a lot for making this video, a lot of people out there don't have access to mental health needs so you are being a way for them to get access to it, really nice video, got to learn a lot.

[@Youtubeiscool865]

I hope you make new videos soon. I’ve been watching all of your videos on repeat and they help me so much

[@drali]

Working on it!

[@kayla8192]

I have been going through these episodes this morning and I am so surprised to find something that relates to me. I’ve felt this way about my friends and roommates so intensely since Covid. I’ll also skip dinner because I don’t want to go out to get food and risk having conversations bc I don’t want to. I retreat to my room and prefer to go out with coworkers who I’m not really close with. I’m actually looking to move into a single apartment to remedy this and go to therapy. I’ve lived with one roommate for 6 years and a lot has to do with our personality differences but I’m shocked that it’s partially social anxiety.

[@djtamala]

This has been very helful, I'll try to ask myself these questions when I notice mine. I've definitely been feeling it a lot more lately

[@xyzz2999]

Bruhh i literally had the most awkwardest conversation with my senior right now 😭 and this vid popped up

[@trifectumart]

Knowing now how common and how similar the symptons are is so much more reassuring. I might've never even knew I was having these problems.

[@poohthewinnie7396]

the exact situation with roommates happened to me! i wish i saw this video while i was going through that

[@minighs]

I almost never post in the comments. I'm always afraid of any replies. I end up holding my phone away from me, looking at it out of the corner of my eye when I read them, like my phone is some terrible monster that you can't look at without dying. I think I'll start commenting now just to get better with it. Something generic to start with, like "Cool video" or something.

[@drali]

Sounds like a great way to start facing some anxiety! And it is something KZbin creators really appreciate 😀

[@rollingcoach9680]

There must be a connection between social anxiety and trauma in many cases - so EMDR is likely to be helpful.

[@atahirince]

This is the best therapy in my life apparently. I am going to finish later, but I want to share my feelings too. Life with this anxiety is horrible, and everyone has different level of it. Thank you for sharing with us Paul, I would not define it clearly like you, the worst things started when I -kind of permanently- move to abroad where they are not speaking English , and my deep anxiety problem rose. It has been always deep inside of me but hasn't affected me much until 2 years ago. Changing our comfort zone pushes us to fight for death to againts our demons.

[@Mushroom321-]

thank you !!! For this !! YOUR OPEN ended QUESTIONS HELP ME ! 🤔 Grateful for the guys calling !! 😮

[@refilwemolathwa7961]

I can definitely relate to this. God help us.

[@Kyshalise]

As someone with the worst anxiety this made me feel grest

[@marjorie67546]

SINCE MY DAUGHTER DIED LAST YEAR I HAVE BECOME ANXIOUS AND I SUFFER FROM SOCIAL ANXIETY

[@me6796]

Sorry for your loss

[@muhammadzainulabideen5345]

The most craziest thing that my social anxiety has caused me is that: i liked so many girls during my college days but wasn't not able to express my feelings due to an extreme shyness😂 my anxiety is very awkward, sometimes i am able to talk to anyone confidently specially when this conversation wasn't expected so the brain had no time to over think about the meeting. But sometimes when someone stops me, my color fades away and heartbeat goes crazy. that's where it becomes hard to control your panic attack and remain normal.

[@binbin9196]

This was so good to watch. I need to have a conversation with my therapist. I may need to find a different one to accomplish my goals.