She won’t reach out. Even if she did… I wouldn’t take her back. I did my best and she still ran away. I’m on to better things.
@NewyJon7787Ай бұрын
I can relate, man, keep your head high, and find someone who will love you back.
@gregorystinette827123 күн бұрын
Just get a dog and be happy. Woof !
@montserratpuebla4629Ай бұрын
Yes to min. 7:50. This is my experience with my ex-husband. He jumped quickly into a new relationship and he started to manifest nostalgia (sending old photographs to our children) and complimenting me. Really weird and immature.
@rashadm.sadigov4366Ай бұрын
Again i am the first to comment. Coach I deserve 1 hour of free coaching.
@alanrodriguez210Ай бұрын
They take a while to reach out. In my current case, it's been more than three months without a beep from her. But the time is useful to think of them from a more neutral perspective. Constructive criticism coach: you really need to turn up the volume for your videos (or hire someone to do that for you)
@cfnaround158514 күн бұрын
I laid out the boundaries when she came back. She took them away, so I walked away
@vaultboy9119 күн бұрын
How long was it before she came back?
@addict70452 күн бұрын
I walked away, it hurts so much. But for some reason i feel free.
@VJ-ul1eqАй бұрын
he broke up with me two days ago, i blocked him, now he's sending me a friend request on FB? i don't understand these people...
@remyd1984Ай бұрын
You both sound young
@ld921Ай бұрын
@@remyd1984young and immature
@tabarnakopoulosАй бұрын
Tell me why should I pursue someone who discarded me out of the blue?
@cindyanne1127 күн бұрын
You shouldn't. Don't.
@Marlin-mn9xe26 күн бұрын
Why would you want to go back to a person that put you trough all That emotional Abuse
@ayomikokila271Ай бұрын
Why some avoidants are extremely into religion?
@daniele129615 күн бұрын
Because we can't hide from God (and yes, we tried and failed). Even a relationship with God is painful.
@adriennelatimer2491Ай бұрын
What are the differences between men and women avoidants
@Laura-um3ub18 күн бұрын
This makes sense, for an avoidant.
@joeskwara582321 күн бұрын
What happens if the anxious had dumped the avoidant prior for a few days?
@Greentea459113 күн бұрын
Does no contact work on a DA ex if I took a year and a half before I told him not to contact me anymore and started no contact? He sent me a breadcrumb at 30 days which I ignored and then it was his bday at 45days NC so I sent a best wishes bday message (just to be respectful because he does still pay some bills for me too) he replied thank you as I expected he would (neither of us tried to engage more) that was 3 days ago. Did that reset the clock on no contact? Do you think he is still experiencing the same things you describe in this video that apply to a more recent break up? We were together for 10yrs but never lived together before he ended it. He still pays my rent but doesn’t want to see me at all anymore (he makes excuses as to why like he is too busy or tired. He won’t say directly he doesn’t like me or want me to leave him alone he just says he cant have a healthy relationship anymore so I assume he is dating someone else and doesn’t want to tell me for some reason)
@devonjahnjez7 күн бұрын
That best wishes message during his bday messed up the NC now he has the upper hand it’s a power thing.
@Greentea45917 күн бұрын
@@devonjahnjez You think? I can see it resetting the no contact time but I don’t think he has any upper hand. He sent me a breadcrumb a few hours after I sent the bday message which I ignored, and another breadcrumb a week later which I ignored. (His breadcrumbs say he has been thinking of me and he gives updates on his life) I have not replied, so how does he have the upper hand? I feel like I breadcrumbed him with the bday message in a way.
@Amywithouse9909Ай бұрын
Can they still go through these stages if they immediately just into a new relationship?
@lukamatic5498Ай бұрын
That means that they are monkey branching. He said thaf monkey branches rarely reach out probably beacuse them num themself with new relationships
@tonygueug4342Ай бұрын
🙏🙏✨✨👍👍♥♥
@cindyanne1127 күн бұрын
Me, an avoidant, with an anxious partner who will not let me go, threatens to unalive himself if I leave, cries, begs, yells, guilt-trips, and makes me feel ike absolute shitte, thinking about showing this video to him so he'll believe that letting me finally go will actually bring me back. *wink wink .
@cindyanne1126 күн бұрын
Although the more I read about avoidants in these comments, I am starting to wonder if I'm actually normal and he's... something else. :(
@nomadhitch57917 күн бұрын
He is not normal, but neither is sending him this video to attempt to manipulate him into leaving to give him false hope. He definitely needs help though and that behavior isn't excuseable.
@cindyanne1115 күн бұрын
@@nomadhitch579 yeah, I never would actually do it, it was a desperate thought. I feel very trapped.
@Greentea459113 күн бұрын
@@cindyanne11I actually think that might be a good idea. He is addicted to you in a way and he needs no contact with you for at least 2 months I think to get a hold of himself. Sending him no contact videos that say u need 6months no contact from avoidants and you need to work on yourself to get an avoidant back might help. I don’t think its a bad idea he needs to get a hold of himself
@susannefitzpatrick9955Ай бұрын
We are literally howling with laughter - that salmon sticking out of his ears has got to be the funniest thing on KZbin. I’ve forwarded it to all my friends so they can watch with the sound turned off. Hilarious.