This is for the young ladies wondering why it's hard to find a man that doesn't want to commit to a serious relationship. I'm a older lady that was watching this video and I had to respond. I know most young ladies might not want to do this but please understand what I'm about to say. LADIES if you hold off on being intimate with guys that you meet see how long they will stick around. Yes most will probably leave BUT they still might leave IF you are intimate with them. If a man is seriously into you, HE WILL Wait FOR YOU. If he leaves you then you'll know he didn't really want you from the start and you will at least still have dignity and respect for YOURSELF. 🙏☺️
@MuniEatsASMR2 жыл бұрын
❤
@ladyzakari23422 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much
@AuntieSenSen2 жыл бұрын
As an older woman I co sign this message!
@bgsonsthriving.2 жыл бұрын
Thanks
@Melaningirlie2 жыл бұрын
Exactly 💯
@aishajanki2 жыл бұрын
Another red flags with friends is when they expect you to be friends with only them and get jealous when you’re building other relationships. Toxic friendships is a thing and if you smell the gas, run for your life!
@aniyamarie83702 жыл бұрын
Definitely! Those are the people that are jealous of you befriending other people but make you feel like a burden for sticking by them 24/7. You honestly can’t win and it’s best to cut your losses with them.
@OnyxxRose2 жыл бұрын
Had to let that “friend” go. It wasn’t making me a better person at all
@queenb24502 жыл бұрын
STOP when you cried about the immigrant daughter moving out- I felt you so hard and was about to cry even though I never cry. I've never told anyone this, but one of the reasons I'm staying at my parent's house is because I'm actually helping them out while my brothers have moved out of the house. It's a bit unfair, but inshallah I will make enough money to move out and support them.
@AyshaHarun2 жыл бұрын
It’s so hard 🥺
@MuniEatsASMR2 жыл бұрын
❤
@eminaroses70052 жыл бұрын
Yes, you will. My older sister moved out and didn’t help my parents at all. I moved out at 27, bought my own house and financially help my parents. I’m 35 years old now. Me moving out helped me so much internally and professionally.
@ye23.2 жыл бұрын
The guilt for muslim women moving out comes from this idea that we cant be without a mahram on our own for a certain time period. Idk what the ruling is on that but a lot of muslim cultures have adopted this and it leads to the unfair double standards in our communities. I shouldn’t have to feel guilty for moving out and bettering myself. And hell no im not waiting to get married for that to happen. I moved out last year and it was the best decision I ever made
@eminaroses70052 жыл бұрын
@@ye23. yes
@ZED2.02 жыл бұрын
Whenever you make dua for your spouse, also make dua for good in laws!
@erigirl93582 жыл бұрын
Honey, I have asked all these questions. I have known this person for 4+ years. The minute we got living together, everything changed. My advice would be please when you first meet them, don't tell them how the man you want to be with should be. They will use that and be exactly how you want them to be until you are married.
@AyshaHarun2 жыл бұрын
1000% agree with you girl, trust me!
@erigirl93582 жыл бұрын
@Aysha Harun thanks sis for replying. I'm thinking about divorce just after being married for 3 month. I no longer know the man I'm married too. It is devastating
@zraj34332 жыл бұрын
@@erigirl9358 Sis, may I ask what expectations your husband does not meet? Did he lie about big things?
@SS-cu8se2 жыл бұрын
@@erigirl9358 I’m sorry you’re going through this sis :(
@erigirl93582 жыл бұрын
@Zra J yes u might sis I didn't have much expectation to begin with. But just days after our nikkah, I found out that he lied to me about a lot of things. He is too controlling that I can't even speak with friends for long. When we go out if someone looks at me or compliment me( I dress modest also wear hijab), he gets mad at me. He is a high-school dropout, and I'm starting my masters. He doesn't seem to support me in it even though he promised me before that he is going to be 100% supportive. The person that I had known for years and the person that I know now are two different people. There are a lot of other things, too
@eminaroses70052 жыл бұрын
Very wise advise, Aysha. I believe normalizing therapy, inner work, and professional growth is so important before marriage. It’s like most girls go from their father telling them what to do to their husband telling them what to do. My parents never raised me like this (as we were refugees and other reasons) and they said to never rely on anyone else for my own success and happiness. When I met my husband at age 32, I was so solid in my life that my husband was so at ease that he didn’t have to “babysit” me.
@895canada2 жыл бұрын
Islam puts great emphasis on cleaniness and personal hygiene. It's considered a major part of our deen. Everything is mentioned through the Quran/Sunnah, including toilet etiquette, wudu and ghusl, removal of pubic hair, circumcision, sexual hygiene etc.
@BiancaColacin2 жыл бұрын
I understand you on the first daughter in an immigrant family tidbit. It is a ridiculous amount of pressure put on is as a child. I want to move away from my family just because no matter what I say my boundaries aren't respected. I want to have that ambition that I am responsible for my own livelihood. It's a different kind of huste when you have to PAY FOR EVERYTHING on your own, I admire everyone that does.
@nadiadansani21392 жыл бұрын
I think it’s also important to note that your friends chose to be in your life versus other contractual/obligatory relationships.
@ye23.2 жыл бұрын
The immigrant muslim daughter guilt is real! I feel you on that. Its almost like we’re shamed into living with our parents but men can do as they please. I hate the double standards in our cultures
@buzzbee422 жыл бұрын
Yeah same my parents are also not allowing me to move out because of the culture, daughter has to get married first and then she can do whatever she want. But how did you find a confident to move out on your own and start supporting yourself fully financially. I feel like moving out from parents house can make you more confident and will grow internally but parents don’t understand that. My problem is to be confident on myself, courage and action to do it.
@ye23.2 жыл бұрын
@@buzzbee42 I moved to a new city for work. I have a good job so can support myself. Ive always been confident. You just have to forget what people say and do whats best for you.
@safiya17702 жыл бұрын
Thanks for reminding people to visit a gynaecologist and have a cervical smear. My cousin passed away from cervical cancer at 27 years old - may Allah rest her soul. She was unmarried and never did schedule one due to cultural stigma around virginity/ hymen.
@KL-nw9mi2 жыл бұрын
Sorry for your loss
@mazli942 жыл бұрын
Hey girl! I just wanted to say better help has proven to be breaching confidential information of their clients. I think it's something you should look into. There is a whole group of therapist and counsellors who have a subreddit thread that can't condone better help due to breach in privacy. Just wanted to let you know!
@nadiadansani21392 жыл бұрын
I think with friends not being as happy for you, I think it’s important to be mindful as to whether or not they are going through something, or if that’s how they react to everything not just with you.
@denahunter92532 жыл бұрын
Wow. I never knew there was such a thing as feeling guilty for moving out of parents home. I was kicked out of my parents home at 18 with no where to go. Today, I’m 45 and still don’t understand how my parents just made me leave for no valid reasons.
@KL-nw9mi2 жыл бұрын
I relate. So sorry you went through this. God bless
@nouraclaudina41632 жыл бұрын
It’s really sad to that. My parents wanted me to be financialy and mentally stable before leaving. I was so exited to leave.
@crystalrubbie93832 жыл бұрын
YES MORE GIRL TALK SERIESSS...THIS IS NEEEDEED AYSHAAA
@empress89712 жыл бұрын
Yesssssss🥳🥳🥳🥳
@ansaramohammed64192 жыл бұрын
Please do the living alone video!!❤️ It’s definitely a love/hate experience. Being away from family is definitely hard!
@biancacolmenares6202 жыл бұрын
2nd gen Mexican American daughter here and I feel the guilt man! I was the first to move out and left my older and younger brother at home and I it was hard. I felt bad for years! Just now realizing I deserve a life too and Can still do what I can from a distance. I’m also only an hour away but still…
@noemidiop80152 жыл бұрын
Lol same here, but I’m first generation 🇲🇽 LUCKILY my mom understands my dream and is supportive! So relieved they don’t rely on me for financial support
@SaajdahBilal2 жыл бұрын
I love the fact that you're the one who's just so open about everything you'll always be my favorite KZbinr ان شاء الله ❤️ I've been watching before I had kids......never stop being you 💕
@ZED2.02 жыл бұрын
I love that idea of dating your friends, so cute
@shaziapatel81722 жыл бұрын
Love how you keep the advice real. Sorry that you had to go through what you did but I can definitely see that it made you an amazing woman. It empowered you!
@Amina_237892 жыл бұрын
A very much needed video! Literally the perfect timing thank you Aysha🥺❤️May Allah bless you Ameen
@AyshaHarun2 жыл бұрын
Ameen, may He bless you too ❤️
@MuniEatsASMR2 жыл бұрын
Ameen
@arxshid2 жыл бұрын
ahh a new video! I’ve been binge watching you nonstop for the past couple of days even watching vids from 2017 😭 love your channel, Aysha! ❤️
@AyshaHarun2 жыл бұрын
Aww thank you!!
@nouramouctar8172 жыл бұрын
I think a video about living abroad/far from your family could be an interesting video. Would love to watch that
@rhodealexandre65832 жыл бұрын
She is living abroad alone
@sammysnow21612 жыл бұрын
Ma shaa Allah! How are you sooo mature for your age? I did not know half of the stuff you know now when I was your age, Aysha. 😂 ma shaa Allah sis! Loved your advices and tips even as a 30yr old old married woman of four kids. You’re wise beyond your age dear. Ma shaa Allah ❤️
@TosTosTV12 жыл бұрын
Awwwn! I cried too while watching yhu answer the question about parent guilt. I wish I got to live with my parents for a lot longer than I did, I wish to spend more time with them! Gosh it gets me emotional too, thats why sometimes I take leave from work just so i can go spend time at home, no matter how short!
@lifewithklc2 жыл бұрын
Bottom line, men: will only get away with what they are ALLOWED to get away with. Sometimes you have to teach ppl how to treat you. If they don’t understand the assignment…🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️
@maimounabarry37442 жыл бұрын
Aysha always looking like a beautiful doll😍😩
@nourahabona35412 жыл бұрын
it’s always so refreshing to see you’ve posted a video!! I’ve been watching you for 5 years and you’re literally like an older sister to me. I love ur vlogs and I hope you know that you have a much bigger impact on your viewers lives than you think, sending love from the dmv❤️❤️
@LatBak2 жыл бұрын
Great video. Even though we are not the same faith, I enjoyed this. There are very few sit and chat videos that one comes off feeling better or having gained some sense or direction from these days! Yours is def one of them!! Thank you! More, please!
@jamilasalaam2 жыл бұрын
💕yeah so many things are universal!!
@MiMi-js5nw2 жыл бұрын
Yes girl chat sounds good, wishing u loads of success on all areas of yr life 🙏🏽
@ilhaanf6632 жыл бұрын
That's so true. Toronto is a multicultural city and I never felt weird wearing the hijab
@NjBou2 жыл бұрын
Dang, what you said about men liking to browse through the thousands of women online is very true and so sad. I think maybe it also has to do with a lack of understanding what manhood is. I think many men remain boys into adulthood, and i don't mean to say this to demean men. I genuinely believe that there is a boy-ish culture that glorifies the immature traits of boyhood and belittles the traits of a man (to be responsible, to be family oriented, to be in love with one's wife, to sacrifice one's personal goals at times, to need a woman in their life etc.). I actually think that many women also struggle with something similar, and it looks very different on women. For women, I think it has to do with fearing having kids because of the self-sacrifice (which is very hard, trust me, I don't say that lightly). I also think many women fear aging more than ever because older women are not respected as much, so women try to dress and act younger....i think many men and women have seriously stopped wanting to get older, and marriage (especially for men) is very daunting because of that.
@valf1561152 жыл бұрын
I really admire you for many reasons, including your intelligence, ambition, modesty and perservering with your hijab. you are beautiful mashallah
@bootsmade4walking2 жыл бұрын
YES please make a video on moving out as a daughter. I may be moving away soon and struggle with the same guilt! 🥺❤️
@ye23.2 жыл бұрын
Advice from a muslim daughter who moved out last year: just do it. Dont listen to the voices telling you no. You will thank yourself for it and you will grow so much. Stop waiting for a husband for your life to begin. This is the lie theyve sold us to keep us controlled
@bootsmade4walking2 жыл бұрын
@@ye23. Wow thank you so much for your words. May Allah bless you! ❤️❤️❤️
@maryammani92142 жыл бұрын
I love you tip on newly graduated. I finished uni last year. MashAllah!!At first I was scared to join the cycle of life ( born, walk, school, work, marriage, kids, age, etc) I started thinking of jobs although I run a business; newly started last year. Back to the question, I want to travel have a healthy financial relationship with my bank etc. i can’t tho it’s not that easy as it’s is in the west. + I’m the first child I don’t even know aesthetics or beautiful places in my city ( only viewing on TikTok) so I don’t go out much but wants to travel abroad
@maryammani92142 жыл бұрын
Traveling in my country will need a lot of money and they are up to a Mill +. A 20 year old person can’t travel alone most especially if you’re a Muslim and a female. I support traveling. “What if “are always on our parents mind
@ye23.2 жыл бұрын
@@maryammani9214 our generation of muslim women need to change the tides….we’re moving out …we’re travelling alone because we want to. Stop waiting for a husband for your life to begin. Makes me sick that girls will get into these BS marriages just to have a lick of freedom but get even more trapped
@nadiadansani21392 жыл бұрын
I like this video! Yes please do the advice column/girl chat monthly!!!!
@ye23.2 жыл бұрын
100% agree with the fact that social media has led to men thinking they have heaps of options
@harmony10322 жыл бұрын
Mashalah Ayesha, you sound sooo mature and experienced in your young age Alahuma barik, its good to have role models like you for the youth and women in general as your advises are so beneficial for many x
@noemidiop80152 жыл бұрын
Yes!! 🙌🏽 💯 about traveling! Not just in your 20s but throughout life Insha’Allah 🤲🏽
@newstart41902 жыл бұрын
I always feel emotional as soon as some one ask me about my family. I feel you love 🥰
@nais3002 жыл бұрын
Can I just say how much I appreciate how I literally be having internal conversations with myself and then Aysha drops the literal gems I just needed to hear! Keep it up Queen ✨💕 Much love sista!
@Ariijiina2 жыл бұрын
I always try to be strong but I really feel down and I also don't know why and how. I feel I need to talk alot and need to be hugged but I don't know to who 😭😭😭 plz pray for me sisters
@lightlight57062 жыл бұрын
Asalamu aleikum sis, it’s going to be OK. Hugs and kisses 😘 from me. Read a lot of morning and evening du’as . It will help InshaAllah.
@Ariijiina2 жыл бұрын
@@lightlight5706 thank u so much beautiful soul❤❤❤ Insha Allah I will do that
@izram3122 жыл бұрын
Aisha babe you're literally glowing to no end omg pls do a tutorial on this look 🥺💖
@dominiquerahim2 жыл бұрын
Asalamualakium Sis
@haifaa40722 жыл бұрын
I love how REAL you are 🤍
@Rc970812 жыл бұрын
This talk was literally just what I needed 🥺 literally felt like your my big sis sharing your gems♥️🥺 May Allah bless you with joy and success 🙌🏽
@nanadiycorner2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Namesake! This came in handy. A recap of advice needed🥰🥰🥰
@chaymasou71232 жыл бұрын
You're soo wise mashaAllah 😍👌
@AyshaHarun2 жыл бұрын
❤️❤️
@omotanwa29862 жыл бұрын
Actually washing yourself down there is much much talked about in Islam because being clean there is the first requirement before your ablution is acceptable before you pray.
@faylandan55532 жыл бұрын
great video! really enjoyed this raw and vulnerable conversation x
@trrrooollfc11592 жыл бұрын
Aysha you’re so amazing girl 🤍 you’re literally my fave youtuber
@safiahanif70122 жыл бұрын
Salaam Aysha. Firstly girl Ur skin is gorgeous girl. Secondly your vlog thank you for that. Also the composure of u is just ( chefs kiss). Keep living and being U Aysha Harun xx
@Memkoh2 жыл бұрын
Really enjoyed this video, all your tips and your answer to the last question got me excited about creating content again.
@nadiadansani21392 жыл бұрын
Watching you eat a healthy snack as I am about to order half a dozen red velvet cookies
@thisisarika2 жыл бұрын
This is all such valuable advice - so glad I came across your channel ❤
@bekind30632 жыл бұрын
Yasss just on time!!! ❤️🥰
@___imhibo2 жыл бұрын
Really love these sit downs with Aysha 🥰
@MadelineDellaMora2 жыл бұрын
You are just so wise and honest. I love it!
@oumiam49532 жыл бұрын
Excellent content as usual !! We love it
@nadiadansani21392 жыл бұрын
Felt that talking stage on a spiritual level and definitely needed to hear that
@88Bionic2 жыл бұрын
Wow we’re so close to 500k girl 🥳🥳🥳
@zahraabdi14942 жыл бұрын
OMG AN AYSHA UPLOAD LEMME GET SOME TEA GOING :DDDDD
@TheBlushingGiraffe2 жыл бұрын
Yaaaas your girl chats are some of my faves ♥️♥️♥️ genuinely feels like I’m sitting down with my sistaaa
@ilhaanf6632 жыл бұрын
I was crying with you 😢 😭 I can feel it. My parents live in Toronto and I live in the US 🇺🇸. And feel the guilt all the time
@Melaningirlie2 жыл бұрын
This video just came at the right time 🥺❤️ Much love sis ❤️
@fatimaidris16522 жыл бұрын
Masha Allah so inspiring, you said it all💛Discovered your channel yest but amazingly i hv bn watching your vedios at intervals and I am all smiles😍 GOD be witu
@taraalston86972 жыл бұрын
I'm getting a divorce. After 11 years he decided to cheat. I'm so lost right now.
@somalialoves7262 жыл бұрын
Stay strong my beautiful sister and work hard on you faith, strength the relationship between you and Allah, practice self care and I swear you will be surprised 😮 how you made it ❤ 💙 💖
@cashout98602 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing dear.i love love deep conversations😢😢🥰
@mariamajallow33782 жыл бұрын
I don't know how to explain my emotions atm but I'm so down I've been really hurt. Please keep me in your duas
@AyshaHarun2 жыл бұрын
Praying you are healed soon ❤️❤️
@aishamodibbo73522 жыл бұрын
You’re so beautiful tabarakallah Masha Allah 🌷
@fatoumataaida90852 жыл бұрын
You are really appreciated ✨😘 thanks for all the advices
@heckitsbieberr2 жыл бұрын
Aysha, I loved this video so much!!
@aishadibbasy2 жыл бұрын
Wait first of all you're so beautiful Masha Allah ♥️♥️♥️♥️
@anum163muna92 жыл бұрын
May Allah Bless you both and showers his countless blessings on you may Allah keep you both safe and sound in all respects :)
@akinleyeolawale13262 жыл бұрын
Can you pls show us what you're wearing in every video...... Always love your look 😍😍✌
@Asha-zq5kx2 жыл бұрын
Any advice for an East African girl looking to move to California? I fell in love with San Diego and can’t wait to afford it. Please advise how to prepare and what to expect? How expensive? Lifestyle? Etc thank you
@eminaroses70052 жыл бұрын
HUSTLE. Get 2 jobs if you need to
@pxach63292 жыл бұрын
I love you so much I’ve watched you for so long and wish you the best always
@PinkySultana862 жыл бұрын
Always look forward to your vlogs!!♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
@aissatoubah71212 жыл бұрын
I really enjoyed watching you all I pray for is to see you one day in my life ❤❤❤❤❤
@Abak182 жыл бұрын
Thanks Aysha I really like ur videos!🥰
@halimamohammed65502 жыл бұрын
Thank you Aysha for your valuable advice
@rastawright712 жыл бұрын
Cute sweatshirt...didn't know I'd ever see you in a mini mouse and mickey tee...loving the look on you
@michellelogan91772 жыл бұрын
I love this so much 🌹
@barbarasanders39882 жыл бұрын
Good advice I never took a vacation, but I planning on it . I am still in college
@fifisiddika66052 жыл бұрын
Beautiful video🙂Ma’sha’Allah
@helpohelo16442 жыл бұрын
That looks YUMMMM
@monami42912 жыл бұрын
I am an older woman . I have a daughter about your age and I hope that she will change her mind about buying a house for the same reason as you have stated. In this time of covid some people are not paying their rent. Congratulations on your new place. Will your brother help you move this time?
@aminadaugherty8912 жыл бұрын
“Are we pen pals?” Why did that take me out 😂
@Jamalosman6652 жыл бұрын
That is amazing sister
@nadiadansani21392 жыл бұрын
I was like did she make ice cream then was like oh it’s a fruit bowl then it was gelato, so I’m kind of right
@rayansalih99962 жыл бұрын
Looool I’ve had that pen pal thought too 💀
@Hannah-ue2jn2 жыл бұрын
If u ever make a podcast omg hit me up 🤧
@pamelajohnson98102 жыл бұрын
Hi Ayesha you are beautiful with Beautiful skin you are glowing.
@kukuagrey26692 жыл бұрын
Insightful video… 🇿🇦
@pandalicious1752 жыл бұрын
Aisha we miss your cooking videos 😭😭
@be8cab2 жыл бұрын
I jump as soon as I could
@lawandinformative2 жыл бұрын
Indeed it's late here
@fardowsamusse30502 жыл бұрын
Your so gorgeous MsA.
@ugdailypop45222 жыл бұрын
This channel shd b called Aysha loves food 🤣🤣🤣much lov from Uganda
@hibomohamed87672 жыл бұрын
We all love food that is nothing knew
@Flourish_today2 жыл бұрын
@@hibomohamed8767 I think the comment came from a good place
@aishaluminsa65052 жыл бұрын
I thought I was the only Ugandan who watches and love her