What To Do About Extreme Irritability During Pregnancy

[@rbnrly]

This video also made me cry! You’re the first person to suggest that I just stay away from people instead of trying to fix or change myself!! Just let me be. Omg, thank you.

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

Absolutely! Pregnancy is definitely the time to nurture your own needs instead of trying to please others ♥️

[@dnagoddesshealings2212]

Me too! 😩 it’s been terrible! I am trying my best not to, but my mental state does piss me off as she states as well.

[@MsLovelylindsayann]

OMG. I am so angry unless Im completely alone. I have 4 kids and Im damn near never alone but I hate everyone in the world. But this video made me cry.. You totally get it. I wanna hug you..

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

Aw I’m so glad it resonated with you. That alone time is so important and I can’t even imagine how hard that must be to come by with four kids. Wish I could give YOU a big hug!

[@terryjackson-chubick2506]

Husband here. I'm actively working to treat the wife like a queen and there's no avoiding this. Take heart that this is totally normal

[@MompreneurDiary]

Yeah my husband is the worst at dealing with a pregnant woman. He always makes it worse by acting like I don't exist for weeks on end when I need emotional support instead of emotional abandonment JUST BECAUSE I was yelling it don't even have to be at him or the kids. It can be me talking to someone about how pissed I am and he'll get pissed at me for being pissed cause that makes alot of sense NOT ‼️‼️‼️

[@alyssaodell6749]

Loveeee this.

[@dnagoddesshealings2212]

@@MompreneurDiary I FEEL THIS AND YOU! You aren’t alone. 🥺

[@PitjeMedia144]

She's driving me crazy very irritable with everything but now that I have seen this video I'm more understanding of what she is going through and I'm doing my best to make her feel calm and relaxed.

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

I’m so glad it helped you have more understanding about what she’s going through :) it’s very admirable that you’re doing what you can to help her feel calm.

[@suziemoon2244]

I’ve been so irritated I feel like fighting someone.. anyone. Thank you for caring.

[@luhlezy6460]

Me everyday now

[@donnarosemia9724]

I noticed my anger around 6 months or 24 weeks somewhere around there I am now 33 weeks and have so much anger. I feel like I am always yelling at my kids and just sick of being around them. It's really hard and half the time I just want to zone out or lie around but I have cooking, cleaning, shopping, and being a parent to deal with. When I think about going swimming it sounds nice but then I think the house needs to be clean and I'd rather lay around. It's so hard and these last 7 weeks are already so hard on me. I hurt, I barely sleep, I can barely walk, I am always out of breath, like ugh I want it to be over so I can get back to normal I feel so alone and angry and it scares me.

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

I can 100% relate. I’m 36 weeks along and am feeling almost the exact same way. As hard as it is I’m finding a bit of solace in knowing that so much of these feelings are caused by sleep deprivation and hormonal shifts. While it won’t all disappear right after the baby is born it should slowly start to resolve - at least the hormonal issues! Sending you lots of love ♥️

[@Blissfulovejourney]

Omg i feel the exact same way 😢

[@nova6marie]

All I have is anger and irritability and exhaustion

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

All so normal (and so uncomfortable) during pregnancy. So sorry that’s how you’re feeling!

[@rosalindamiamor8987]

Same 😭

[@TYsBeautyWorld]

I just got done raging and then this video made me cry because I’m like “Omg you get me”. It’s exhausting and it feels like no one around understands you’re not in control and I feel I’ve became more anxious now and I know I’m probably impacting my baby because this is a everyday thing

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through that - But glad the video made you feel less alone! I’d try to be as gentle as possible with yourself and take as much private, downtime as you can ♥️

[@avocadosbillie7113]

Thank you. I’m very happy to see this, makes me cry. Finally someone understands me and don’t make a joke out of everything I feel these days.

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

Your feelings definitely aren’t a joke. You’re not alone ♥️

[@ChelsieAnna1]

Yes!!! I feel like I’m going thru the same angry and irritable hormones as I did when I was 14 with puberty. Hate everything and everyone. 😡 I’m so over feeling like this. I’m still waiting for the unicorns and butterflies 🦋😭

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

It can feel so frustrating. How far along are you? Often, this irritability is most intense in the first trimester.

[@kenjayatomowi8895]

@@BaileyGaddisDoula really? and what about later?

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

@@kenjayatomowi8895 Many women experience less irritation in the second trimester as the body adjusts to the hormone shifts.

[@kenjayatomowi8895]

@@BaileyGaddisDoula oh good to know. thank you 😌

[@samanthasullivan5897]

Thank you!! Im drowning! 14 weeks, having a little girl!!❤️ I have been so grumpy And irritable! Im a joyful person, a nurse by trade And a caregiver always! We have 6 children between two 12 year Olds, two 9 year Olds And two 4 year Olds. Know a new sweetheart on the way! I manage my bipolar and anxiety fairly well but my irritability is just too much right now!!

[@parissimone8620]

My husband started yelling at me for not knowing if the breakfast restaurant we were going to (he picked out) had coffee. I said i didnt know and he said i should have looked it up and not respond wit an attitude but, he was using my phone for directions. He parked for 25min until i would look it up. I dont know if im just pregnant and sensitive or this is abuse of some sort. the day ended with me crying and getting emotional because he kept pushing me and refused to drive us home. He said he doesnt need to be “nice” to me. never apologizes amd expects me to work full time and cook/clean everyday while he plays Call of Duty until 3am and keeps waking me up. WTF did i get myself into. 4months pregnant. pray for me.

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

I’m so incredibly sorry to hear that. I would highly recommend seeing a therapist as soon as possible as they can help you assess the abuse and make a plan for next steps. Luckily many insurance providers now cover at least a portion of therapy fees. I would also trust your instincts. If you ever feel he’s being abusive I would go stay with a friend or family member. In addition, check out thehotline.org Sending you so much love ♥️♥️♥️

[@okay43342]

I am a high school math teacher and boy have I been feeling irritable. 2nd trimester now and 4 months to go until the end of the year. Please pray for me ... And my poor kids

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

Aw so sorry. You’re a superhero!

[@shashamarie4760]

I'm a teacher too. How long did you work? I'm only 5 weeks and can't imagine working like this. Please help.

[@TN-gi9rd]

I've been crying, and I came across this video. Thank you.

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

Hope it provided a bit of solace ♥️

[@slamberg84]

I was never felt this rageful in my life. I get triggered from little things. And this is only week 12. My survival strategy has been to isolate but I think I will add some exercise when I stop vomiting all the time. I thought this would be the happiest time of my life but so far it has been the crappiest!

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

Aw I’m so sorry. It can be such an intense experience. I think alone time and exercise (when you feel up for it) is a great strategy.

[@personaltrainer8890]

have been screaming at my kids lately, getting really irritated with my colleague, thinking everyone is so stupid, getting pissed at my partner, hating him, hating everything. im 8 weeks. i also hate social media. thanks for the tips. i downloaded games to play on my phone instead of checking fb. xxoxx

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

I can totally relate. I was like that my first trimester, and still have my moments. What a great idea to play a game on your phone instead of falling into social media! I’m going to copy you.

[@wafazohaib7385]

This video made me cry .. u understand everything!!!!! I wish people could too

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

That’s so kind of you 😊

[@ashlynmarie8523]

Me too as soon as she started talking I immediately sobbed its nice to feel understood.

[@nininpeps4649]

😭😭😭

[@kimchow9314]

Love it! My new favorite line to my husband "blame it on the hormones!" I haven't been irritable during my pregnancy. I now know how to deal with it if I do become that way. Thank you for your awesome knowledge and advice

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

KIM CHOW thanks so much! And I love that line. I still use it on my husband even though I’m no longer pregnant ;-)

[@Blackeditz-j3k]

Currently searching is mood swings during pregnancy normal, thank you for this cause I really thought something was wrong with me

[@emilygalbraith5752]

I haven't experienced much rage yet, but I find my boyfriend has been just getting on my nerves for no reason. We live together and run a business at home together, but I do usually get about 3 hours to myself each morning before he wakes up. But as soon as he's up, he's talking and putting on music and I just wish he would go away and leave me alone. I want to roll my eyes at every word that comes out of his mouth and I don't engage in any conversation with him. Sometimes I'll say something snippy otherwise he'll notice my attitude and go do his thing for a while. I feel guilty about not enjoying his company and don't want to push him away.

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

Emily Galbraith That sounds so normal, but of course it doesn’t feel good to have those feelings towards our partners. It might help to talk to him about how you’re feeling, emphasizing that you feel like pregnancy hormones are intensifying your irritation. This could help open the lines of communication and allow you to create solutions that work for you both. And all the while remember that these feelings will likely fade when your hormones even out after birth.

[@asianafrank7217]

@@BaileyGaddisDoula this happened with me and my child’s father. I’m currently 17 weeks pregnant and at first I was fine but then I started feeling the same exact way as the above comment. I tried to explain to him what was happening and that my body was going through so much change. I even sent him a link to a thread of women talking about the same exact thing so he would know it’s not just me. I told him I didn’t want to feel how I was feeling towards him but I couldn’t help it. He was so selfish about the situation and made it about him every time I tried to explain it to him. I told him I needed space and he would turn it into “what did I do” “I just want to make you happy” “why are you doing me like this” and many other things. It pushed me to the point of kicking him out and we are no longer together. And now I want absolutely nothing to do with him. My mom hates him now because of the fact that he was making the entire situation about himself and wouldn’t give me a single moment of peace. I was so stressed out. My mom said that as soon as he moved out of my apartment she could tell I seemed less stressed. It’s all a very messy situation. I resent him for being so self centered about the situation. All I wanted was a little space and he turned it into what it is now.

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

@@asianafrank7217 I’m so incredibly sorry that happened to you. It sounds so frustrating! Hoping that you find some more peace after you get through early motherhood. I’ll be thinking of you! Sending lots of love ♥️

[@ichoosetoliv2399]

Glad to know the reasons why! I really thought something was wrong with me 🥺😭💔 Hope it goes away soon.

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

Definitely nothing wrong with you!

[@alexsimone804]

Wow. Wish I was told this during my first trimester. Trying to make myself be social has been some of the biggest points of tension in my pregnancy. Now I’m in third trimester and I’m so annoyed by everything.

[@DestyneeThomas]

Was the baby okay?

[@alexsimone804]

I don’t understand why baby wouldn’t be, so I’m a little confused by your question! But yes she is a thriving, happy and adorable 1 year old 😊 She was born perfect

[@DestyneeThomas]

@@alexsimone804 just read a lot about anger making the baby have lots of issues

[@DestyneeThomas]

Was worried for myself

[@alexsimone804]

@@DestyneeThomas ohh I see. Yes I’ve heard a lot about stress effecting babies negatively. I went through the most stressful season in my life when I was pregnant and I haven’t seen any side effects in my baby that I know of.

[@TruthScopeTV]

My wife and I have been arguing more than ever since she became pregnant - she's become irrational and we're in couples therapy now. How can a husband handle a pregnant wife who is saying horrible things to him, and behaving resentful/angry each day?

[@maasooo]

I cant believe i find this video. This happens to me everytime im pregnant. And it even gets worse when im breast feeding. I also go into postpartum depression as well. Which i control with anxiety and depression meds. When i expressed these feeling with the social worker, that was working with me through my depression, she said its just all me being impatient. I got so mad at her that i left going to the anxiety groups. It made me feel like its just me being a bitch to everyone. I try my god damn best hard to not take it out on my 5 year old. But sometimes it happens. And i feel even worse after that. Dnt even ask how much angry my husband makes me. I dnt want him to look at me, touch me or talk to me. I dnt want to be angry and irritable. And i try to control my selfe. But when i do control. I feel like im about to explode. I dnt know what to do

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. The hormones coupled with fatigue and overwhelm are the perfect recipe for intense irritability. You’re definitely not alone, and you’re NOT a bitch ♥️

[@personaltrainer8890]

you are not alone!!! i have depression and anxiety, 8 weeks pregnant now. suffered post partum anxiety with my previous pregnancies. the anxiety comes everytime i breastfeed. so i read somewhere that bec the hormone that helps im milk production inceeases causing dopamine neurotransmitter to decrease. perfect explanation why women go through PPD after fiving birth. i researched on foods thatll help increase dopamine naturally. im also taking magnesium supplements now. im determined to breastfeed my baby, ill try my best to increase dopamine through food, but if i still get anxiety attacks, i will switch to formula. i dont care if other moms are successful breastfeeding their kids. i value my mental health too

[@yasmin24-u2p]

Yes! I have been so irritable & angry. I love the idea of being alone. Because I don’t feel like being around ppl. I need time alone!! I feel like that’s when I feel best lol. Thank you for this video.

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

That’s totally understandable! No shame in taking as much alone time as you need ♥️

[@tippytee]

10 weeks to go and this hits hard haha! Third baby, kids at school, house to run, Hubby to look after, pet to tend to. Life is busy and beautiful but gees the rage I have at the moment is so deep haha. I am excited to get my good balance back. When I get the rages I drink some water and watch a funny KZbin video I also have been saying no more to social demands and that's been really freeing. It helps to just sit in your pregnancy and bask in all the glory of growing a baby. Thanks for this content it's so helpful ❤️ 😘

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

Great coping strategies! Love the idea of watching funny videos. And I’m so glad you find the content helpful!

[@rosalindamiamor8987]

I literally turned into a complete introvert

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

Ditto

[@elizabethsigler9206]

I feel like this constantly. Recently I've been trying to quit smoking and its worse 😔😢 My kitchen triggers me too

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

Elizabeth Sigler I’m sure quitting smoking exaggerates it. Hope it gets better soon! (And I know what you mean about the kitchen being a trigger 😜)

[@meghnapradhan8469]

Thank you so much. I was in tears, angry and irritated... This helped

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

Sorry you’re feeling that way, but so glad this helped! Sending lots of love ♥️

[@amyzehring1503]

Really well done video thank you!

[@jessietaylor7706]

I NEED to be alone!!! I’m 7 months pregnant and I want to yell at everyone. I just need my space right now! 😡😩

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

I feel ya! It can be a common desire during pregnancy.

[@lmarshall4098]

Yes

[@parineetahazarika3298]

In my 1st trimester and no pregnancy symptoms like vomiting, fatigue, nothing.. But anger is becoming uncontrollable. When I say it's not me but my hormones, my husband says as I know it's my hormones, I should control my mind. Now that pinches me more and I am slowly shutting everyone down. I feel lonely, like nobody is on my side and all..

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

I’m so sorry to hear that. I would remind your husband that navigating what you’re going through isn’t as simple as controlling your mind. The hormones can be so intense they can feel uncontrollable. As much as possible he should give you unconditional support and understanding.

[@katieb2098]

Me too 😭I've never felt so alone in my life

[@parineetahazarika3298]

@@katieb2098 don't take stress. I lost my baby coz of this. Don't repeat my mistake please. If the world around you doesn't understand your emotions, leave it alone. Create your own peace and stay with your baby. Wish I did it..

[@alyssaodell6749]

Extremely helpful. Thank you!!!!!!!!!!

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

Glad you think so!!

[@anairamirez8667]

I was crying while watching this because I feel so desperate and I don’t want to feel like this anymore. As I was doing the breathing exercise no air came out because I’m currently super congested and it actually made me laugh at myself. 😅😅 what an emotional roller coaster but thank you for these amazing tips.

[@sr.c4006]

Thank you so so much. I'm one week away from my second trimester and I feel like I was going crazy... I'm crying one day.. then the next day I'm so mad it turns into rage.. I've never felt so angry in my life. Ive always been a high stress person... But this type of range is nothing I've ever felt before. Like I dont even know who I am when I'm having an episode.. I even broke up with my boyfriend because he just laughs at me.. he tells me to stop like its that easy. I'm have uncontrollable emotions. I really hope taking these step can relieve even just a little bit at this point. I'm just so despite and thankful to know I'm not the only one dealing with these extremely emotions

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

I’m so sorry to hear you’ve been having such a hard time. Pregnancy can trigger intense emotions. If these tips don’t offer relief I would check in with your primary care provider to see if they can connect you with additional resources ♥️

[@loveandlight339]

Pregnant after 19 yrs again with my second child ,everything gets to me.,i just want to be alone all the time..It really feels good to be understood 😢

[@carlacoura8062]

I am totally tearing right now, I just raged on my both kids that have been fighting all day. I am 4 months pregnant and I am feeling great.. but this is my third rage episode. It breaks my heart to think I am hurting the baby in any way.

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

Carla Coura I’m so sorry to hear that. That must feel so stressful. I know this is easier said than done but if possible, take about an hour everyday to meditate, nap, or do something else you find relaxing -even if it means letting the kids have some screen time ♥️ sending you so much love.

[@Beasttest-o4h]

my wife turned to another person after 1 month pregnancy and still after 5 month shes the same very rude and goes in on me without any reason off topic. and bashes me saying very hurtful things. heeeeeeeeeeelp girls. im blaming on the hormones for her. but if she was like that normaly i would move on. Ive stoped talking to her aswell. but what she doesnt know is that i love her same way. im very forgiving person. whats happening bailey someone help me

[@sarahoreka968]

I understand your pains,blame it on the hormones,but not good enough.Talk to her about it,about her she makes you feel.Keep forgiving and sometimes just give her some space

[@rosalindamiamor8987]

My poor husband thinks I'm insane this will pass I promise Im currently 5 months and can't wait till we have her so our marriage can go back to normal 🙏

[@TaylorCatherine]

For better and for worse. You have to get the hard times, to treasure the good. I don't appreciate you saying you'd just move on. Sometimes with love, you gotta choose. Choose to stay, choose to listen, choose to love. I hope you guys are still together and enjoying every moment, even the hard bits. Sincerely, a pregnancy loss mother.

[@heartmalyrics]

This period is the hardest

[@perly0153]

I'm so out of tune. I have been in a high risk pregnancy laid down in bed must of the time, I had antidepressants and lithium and all stopped abruptly, I have been feeling miserable and at the edge weekly, can't workout or dream about going to the country like I want. It's defeating, the emotions, financial stress, physical pain almost daily (kidney stones, sciatica, migrane, nosy, infections from cervical cerclage, etc, etc,.) No money for therapy and no friends coming over... I hope everything to end well and just trying to meditate.

[@ihatoon014]

I'm almost 6 weeks pregnant for the first time and I feel so so so irritable. I didn't announce my pregnancy yet, but it seems like everyone around me knows by now because of how irritable and irrational I'm being. After how weird I was in my family gathering yesterday, I decided to stop seeing them for a while until I'm ready to announce it myself. I just hate myself for being like this 😭💔

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

I’m so sorry you’re feeling down on yourself! What you’re experiencing is so incredibly normal, and no reason to feel guilty. I think it’s a great idea to take some alone time until you’re ready to share the news. At that time, you can also explain how the pregnancy is making you extra irritable.

[@angieencina2376]

I'm right with you! 4 weeks prego first time momma and yesterday I sobbed and punched a pillow hormones, quit smoking all of it together makes me want to hide in a cave 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺

[@leahhoskins3777]

@@angieencina2376 same! 6 weeks. No smoking, no monster energy drinks, no alcohol. FTM and I feel like my body is in shock! I’m so tired and irritated all the time. Not like me at all! Barely feel I know myself anymore 😢

[@kathrynonka6780]

I literally raged for 2 hours talking like a valley girl/gay guy. “Like I just so love my husband hasn’t fixed the garage disposal for 3 months and he won’t let but he’s so wonderful at filling the sink clear up with dishes and nasty food and the kids follow their dad so perfectly and it’s just my favorite thing to use buckets and buckets to dump down the toilet cause it’s so fun that’s it’s always clogged! And truly like it’s my favorite thing to have this beautiful colorful foul smelling stuff slosh in my eyes on my legs and all over me!!!!” And I just love this life! I’m so grateful all screaming sarcastically and back and fourth crying hysterically. I’m 6 weeks never done baby 4 and not seen a scan if it’s multiples. I’ve had boys and a girl and do not ever recall feeling this isane! And I just hate myself. My husband came home with a garbage disposal, a huge plant and a Dr Pepper. I want to cry and I’m glad I didn’t say any of the mean things I really really wanted to cause I was feeling them. He knew I was mad and had a bad day but not to the extent that I was really having a bad day! Everyone and everything besides me kids piss me off! Number 4 probably will be the last! Ha my body at 31 is done!

[@carlolorenzodelacruz4600]

Thank you for this…

[@michaelmcdonagh4065]

Thanks so much this really worked

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

So happy to hear it!

[@anastasiavozovik721]

It’s really important to know yourself and reflect on your ever changing state. Sometimes choosing to avoid people would be the worst choice and a much better one would be to open up and speak to someone, ask for advice, share your inner worries, etc etc. Sometimes I can sit there and fight with my own thoughts, worry myself sick about something but I’d avoid people to not be a burden. That surely helps others around me as they don’t need to deal with these issues but if you are lucky enough to have a good support bubble, don’t be afraid to use it. You deserve it and have all the rights!

[@chelsiesamuel-douglas1587]

My husband says my mood swings are a brain wash but I'm also mentally ill 🤷🏾‍♀️ this is a tough pregnancy road for me.

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

So sorry to hear it. It’s wild how much pregnancy can screw with our emotions, and exaggerate preexisting mental health conditions

[@personaltrainer8890]

same here. im on my 8th week, cold turkey on my anti depressants and benzos after finding out im pregnant.

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

@@personaltrainer8890 that must be so tough. Hoping the discomfort passes soon ♥️

[@Kelly-qv3wg]

Same. I naturally struggle with anxiety and severe depression. I'm currently 16. 5 weeks pregnant and I can barely be in the the same with my husband. Everything he does or doesn't do enrages me. It's tough. Best of luck to you.

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

@@Kelly-qv3wg really sorry you’re having such a tough time. I’m almost 16 weeks along and can definitely relate!

[@elizabethngoma2484]

Thanks for the video, am expecting my second baby, i really feel so irritable and no body jst cares. My husband doesnt seem to understand me, and he caresless. I feel so alone and depressed. And the worst part is i lost my first baby. But i feel better after this video. Am crying right now.

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

I’m so sorry that you’re going through such a hard time ♥️ but glad the video helped a bit. Sending you lots of love.

[@elizabethngoma2484]

@@BaileyGaddisDoula thank you so much.

[@angieencina2376]

Omg thank youuu I'm 4 weeks and I don't even recognize myself 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

I promise it will get better!

[@gingerl3146]

I don’t hate people by any means, but at only 5 weeks pregnant I am next level nutso. Very impatient and anxiety over 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️. I wasn’t like this with my first pregnancy. Oh, and I can’t sleep!!! Hormones ack

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

Ginger L totally get that. More than likely things will settle down after the first trimester 🤞 regarding sleep, I would ask your care provider about taking melatonin short term.

[@gingerl3146]

Bailey Gaddis I hope so! I didn’t sleep well with my first pregnancy either. I didn’t think of melatonin. I’ll ask my midwife about that- thank you!

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

Ginger L I had the exact same experience. Melatonin really helped me.

[@BubuRightHere]

I am at 5 weeks now and I’m livid at every sound., people, and just anything. I feel helpless...

[@kanikach839]

I can’t stop crying. These hormones are so real. Just called our house builder a dickhead (because, he was acting like one). But I lost my cool. Now they’ve put our whole project on hold. And everyone at home is mad at me. :((((

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

So sorry :-/ the hormones can be incredibly intense. Everyone should definitely be giving you a big pass ♥️♥️♥️

[@Verticalblinds832]

I would love to know if you have any tips for moms with small children at home? This is my third pregnancy and I have no patience right now.

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

Lacey Burbage Absolutely. I would think of one activity that typically reduces your irritability and commit to doing it each day. For example, exercise, reading, a nap, vegging out on a favorite TV show, etc. To keep your kids entertained during that time, I would pop on a movie for them or see if a friend or mother’s helper could watch them. I know that “put them in front of a screen” isn’t a PC-option, but honestly, during these crazy times, I’m all about doing whatever works to preserve your mental sanity. Throughout the rest of the day, I would practice pausing and taking three deep breathes before responding to something your children are doing that’s irritating. This certainly isn’t easy but worth trying (I’m still practicing it after 7+ years as a mom 😜) Sending you so much love and hoping the irritability subsides.

[@uholt7835]

I'm in the same situation as you Lacey, third pregnancy and very irritable, virtual learning is making things worse on me, thank you Bailey for your advice👍🏼

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

U Holt my pleasure :-) hope you find relief soon! We’re definitely living in strange times that trigger enhanced irritability.

[@LaVenderlocx]

I’m so over being pregnant, my partner is not the most supportive but to hear him say it, he does the most! I’m exhausted I haven’t slept all week. My kids are driving me crazy with typical sibling bickering. My dog staring at me sends my blood pressure thru the roof! And I can’t shit, eat, sleep, my body smells funny I feel self conscious all the time. I cannot do this. I’ve suffered from pod in the past and I’m terrified I seeking employment without any luck. I have a full plate of bullshit and nothing to be proud of. I feel like my life is over. I want it to be sometimes.

[@krystalnidaee1848]

I'm sorry you're feeling that way. I can relate. Just know you're not alone. Creating life is a hard job. This time will pass and you'll feel better afterwards. Hang in there mama! Take lots of breaks and be gentle on yourself!

[@luhlezy6460]

I’m more than irritated i been mad and this is my first pregnancy I’m 18 weeks pregnant today and I hate everything

[@Gurlonline07]

I wish I could avoid people but unfortunately my job doesn’t allow me to do this. I’m answering incoming calls.

[@tonimungin8684]

It's like I could be fine one minute and then when someone says something stupid or just disrespectful I tend to go off

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

Exactly. It’s like we have the tiniest fuse and everyone around us is a match.

[@tonimungin8684]

@@BaileyGaddisDoula lol yep and I’ll be 28 weeks on Sunday 😂😂

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

@@tonimungin8684 you got this! 🙌

[@brittbratmakeup9355]

Thanks girl that really helps because sometimes I feel like it’s like all the time like the last couple months of my pregnancy I felt just don’t even know not myself that’s for sure I get mad about stuff that maybe I shouldn’t get mad about and I don’t know but listening to you and reading some of the other people stuff on here and actually seems like I’m not going crazy that everybody is going to be on here so I appreciate this video thank you

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

I’m so glad it helped. You’re definitely not crazy :)

[@rachellemusnit424]

I feel iritable at anything and mg husvand got mad because he dont understand me i dk if im pregnant but i am experiencing symptoms and i am delay 1 month and i feel bad to my husband after shouting him😢

[@Sn-gy7wf]

I am going through lot of stress now.. I'm so sacred that this stress affects my baby's behavior..

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

I’m so sorry. I know it can be scary to experience acute stress during pregnancy but luckily it’s unlikely that it will impact baby’s health ♥️ however, it’s best to check in with your care provider if you feel like stress is impacting your health

[@MKSpeakz]

36 weeks crying because I’m irritated and then getting more irritated because I’m crying and it’s a nasty loop 😞

[@Pakistanimomvlogshk]

I have helpful partner, my husband is very supportive, ❤️❤️❤️hes trying alot to make me feel better, talking to me.. Explaining me to avoid what is not comfortable to me. Stay happy for meself and my baby. Just relax..... ❤️❤️❤️

[@LISLOVESTRUTH]

Thank you . I feel inderstood

[@Moonlight-hp7nt]

Im newly pregnant with my second pregnancy I'm only 4 weeks and I am sweating like crazy and the rage is unreal my poor husband!

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

The first trimester can be so intense! Hopefully these symptoms will lessen up in the second trimester ♥️

[@SANCHANCISCO]

This is me. And I’m a chill person before so my bf is 😢 he think i don’t like him anymore lol 😂 which is true and not at the same time. But I can’t seem to hide it well either. It’s so bad cause I’m constantly so uncomfortable

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

It’s wild how much pregnancy hormones can impact our mood and relationships. Hope you’re doing ok!

[@guiltymanners]

I am working in job that I wanted for some time, but found out that I pregnant, unexpectedly. I didn’t tell my job yet and bottled things up (morning sickness/nausea/bathroom trips/anxiety/forgetfulness, I seriously can’t think logically wth) and pretty much, lost my cool. Omg...not what I want in the workplace. I’m literally in bed by choice, I don’t want to do anything else. Ugh. 11 weeks pregnant right now.

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

That sounds so stressful! Hopefully you’ll start to feel better as you move into the second trimester ♥️

[@DelilahMatilda]

What if I can’t even do one thing that makes me happy? All I do is do what I need to do do chores and then when I have some time I just want to lay down and be quiet.

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

I’m so sorry to hear that :-/ do you feel like you’re experiencing depression? Or just don’t have much energy?

[@Pakistanimomvlogshk]

Im goingggg through the samee thinggg, im pregnant its my 3rd trimester and i get angryyyy on little things, i got super super sensitive.. My emotionsss ohh godd i cryyyyy when someone is even little rude to meee.. Or shout or dont do things as i want them to do... I feel left out... I feeel stress i already have 2 childrens and when i cry they also get upset they come and ask me mama why are u always crying.. What happened to u...... I have some people who kinda trigger my angerrrr i hate hatee them... So all i did is deleted my WhatsApp i dont wanna keep contact with such people..... And trying to get my self busy and relax..... I still believe i can come over it in sha Allah, but for now i dnt wanna see few people thats it... I am really worried for my baby so i was searching if my stress or anxiety crying would harm my baby or so.. Or how to keep calm and ignore thingsss.. KZbin is lifesaver sometimes.. THANK YOU.

[@Pakistanimomvlogshk]

It seems like in this video your only talking about me 😂.. As im going through same situation... Your new Subscriber ❤️

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

So sorry you’re experiencing this irritability! But thank you for subscribing :)

[@Pakistanimomvlogshk]

Yess😔😔but just trying to stay calm and avoid such people and negative thoughts thats all i can do is ignore. Ignoring is best solution for now for a peaceful mind

[@amandakallas8908]

I’m afraid that my husband will divorce me at this point and I’m only 6weeks along. We live in an RV and he is always there and I can’t deal.

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

I’m so sorry :-/ it must be really tricky not being able to get much alone time. Is he treating you poorly?

[@speakintothemicb]

I am 7 months pregnant and during my pregnancy I've decided to take my faith seriously (Christianity). So that meant premarital sex is off the table but it was a great stress reliever. Now I am suffering with bouts of irritability. I workout, watch comedy and read. I think my remedy will be having the baby. 😭😭😭

[@MompreneurDiary]

Girl yes, not angry at everything but definitely no nerve to put up with anything quick to let everyone have a cussing

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

Right?! On the same page 🙌

[@MPG-ub5ke]

I'm 11w along & the weirdest trying I've noticed is what a shut in I've become. I don't want to see any of my friends. Could not be bothered. Human company just seems tedious & annoying

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

Many women feel that way during pregnancy. I would recommend giving yourself being really picky about who you do and don’t spend time with

[@subhakeerthi2858]

Better we stay without marrying or get preg.

[@chelsiemilstead7329]

I’m 16 weeks and finding myself very irritated at my 2 year old. I’m always sleepy and I know that’s not her fault. I’m trying really hard to just not lose it.

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

I’m so sorry to hear you’re having a hard time. As strange as it sounds, sometimes one of the most effective wars to minimize irritation and flush out stress hormones is to drink more water ♥️ and if possible, get more sleep - but I know that’s hard with a little one

[@chelsiemilstead7329]

@@BaileyGaddisDoula I have a 2 year old and a 10 month old. I never have time to rest. I feel so bad because my babies have no idea that mommy just isn’t having a good time. I feel like a failure

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

@@chelsiemilstead7329 I’m really sorry ♥️ motherhood can be amazing, but also such an intense challenge

[@elisha2907]

Im getting hell irritated & angry after 30 weeks, day by day feeling annoyed with my family. I have never talked mean with them but now a days im being rude and harsh. Im myself struggling within, i dont want to be mean but i feel why dont they understand that i need love care attention in these days. I want them to treat me right. But they dont get it as im in different country with my husband. 😢😢😢😢

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

I’m so sorry :-/ Pregnancy can be such a vulnerable, emotional time and it can be hard for loved ones to understand where we’re coming from ♥️

[@AuntLorasHouse]

What about when you are alone. Me and my hysband have seperated Im alone 247 with 3 children 9 8 3 and I have bo patience and my 9 year old girl and her attitude Iam not well. Rage irratable and 0 patiences

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

I’m so sorry to hear that. Do you have any nearby friends or family members that can lend a hand? It must be so hard doing it all on your own.

[@AuntLorasHouse]

I wish I had someone to reach out too. U fortuantly no. It's just us all the time!

[@katherynshaw6860]

Avoid people would be nice but I’m a homeschool mom

[@kenjayatomowi8895]

Im pregnant and everything makes me iritate. Im tired

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

While it feels so overwhelming now I promise it will get better ♥️

[@kenjayatomowi8895]

@@BaileyGaddisDoula 🥰🥰

[@mia36andbeyond]

I feel really irritated this time that i am pregnant because my inlaws and husband is the worst human especially my mother in law and brother in law.:( They make me miserable.

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

Aw I’m so sorry you’re feeling so triggered by them. As much as possible give yourself alone time, and time with family and friends who lift you up ♥️

[@shekiraparata1096]

Im so irritable that it annoyed me it took 4mins for your 1st tip to start

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

Sorry! 😜

[@Corekoshe]

Wish I could breathe through my nose as well!!! 😡

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

Totally! When you’re wanting to do deep breathing pretend like you have a straw in your mouth that you’re slowly breathing in and out of.

[@samanthab5006]

I'm at 4 weeks and the sensitivity, rage, crying cycle first came out of nowhere yesterday. I've experienced this a few times with PMS when I'm not exercising regularly. During those times I'd usually have a really hard workout to release all that energy (HIIT or a hard run like race pace). I'm nervous to workout that hard so while I've been going on easy jogs where I could hold a conversation it's just not working as well.

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

So sorry you’re struggling. The good news is that for many pregnant women it’s safe to continue their regular exercise regime, as long as their care provider gives the go ahead. So I would let your care provider know how helpful more intense workouts are for your mental health and ask if there’s anything you need to adjust. Then, carry on with your pre-pregnancy work out practices! :)

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

So sorry you’re struggling. The good news is that for many pregnant women it’s safe to continue their regular exercise regime, as long as their care provider gives the go ahead. So I would let your care provider know how helpful more intense workouts are for your mental health and ask if there’s anything you need to adjust. Then, carry on with your pre-pregnancy work out practices! :)

[@MompreneurDiary]

I don't go anywhere I don't have to nor do I do anything I don't have to druing pregnancy because I already know how much I already can't do So why would I pretend I CAN DO stuff. I just tell everybody I m almost done with my pregnancy get back with you AFTER

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

Love it.

[@ajzman8123]

My wife went to indoor loud music event her is 14-15 weeks pregnant. She came home she got very angry and stressed because I told it’s was a poor decision of her. I’m worried the loins music and then her crying and yelling would affect the baby really bad. But next day she was not angry but sad. But at night she was back to normal.

[@BaileyGaddisDoula]

Loud music shouldn’t cause harm to the baby. And some stress is okay. It’s just best to avoid chronic stress during pregnancy (and always!) 😊

[@reneetetetaylor8342]

I just want yu to talk faster... I'm Soo irritated today