What to do Before Getting Into a Relationship With Someone

Before beginning a relationship it is important and healthy to make sure you know how the other person acts outside of romantic/date-night situations. Are they reliable and safe in their regular life? Do they have integrity and good character?
This means seeing how they deal with stress and conflict. How do they treat their family, children and exes? What kind of living arrangements do they have and do they move around a lot? Do you share belief systems, views on authority and managing finances?
Learning this about anyone takes time. This kind of thinking comes from the cortex part of your brain.

[@Tucker-Man-]

I always say no to something on a first date because I need to see who you really are.

[@chrisharris6462]

A lot of times the limbic system is correct. If they do sketchy, they probably are sketchy

[@doreenlane2370]

Your being gaslighted when your spouse whistles at another person, wink, and flirt with several people and they tell you they are not. They are not safe.

[@chrisharris6462]

The limbic system is there for a reason!

[@DeniseShannon-sl6tc]

In the beginnings of getting to know anyone, especially romantically, we are not emotionally sober. Conscious decisions are difficult when we are "out of our minds" with feelings ...... Take at least 2 days of no contact to "sober up." Otherwise I am letting feelings make decisions for me. Thank you, Tim for creating these videos prayer 🙏 I appreciate your experience and expertise in relationships and what healthy relationships look like

[@stevenhuckaby2902]

That was a profound comment, I wish I had thought about that years ago,, about emotional sobriety, ect. ect.

[@janemarlo4978]

So wise, very wise!

[@amcgee0668]

Appreciation🦋

[@scouthmk2312]

Thank you Tim

[@tjskyye9409]

Yes! Thank you!

[@delublink127]

YES

[@aleksakitic5712]

Can you give me a link to source video

[@anointedone1995]

It is members only

[@charissedivittorio4291]

Excellent message ty❤

[@velando75]

The person I'm talking too told me that she feels that I have a check list for her.. I responded with we are getting to know each other.

[@simismith9093]

You're probably not good for her if it's obvious to her that there's some kind of checklist

[@Avenray19]

It's totally okay to have a checklist and standards. I do too. I want to see if honesty and integrity are more important than impulsive decisions based on the emotions felt at the time.

[@velando75]

Thanks ​@@simismith9093

[@hurricaneaquatics]

Why do you need a checklist, you're not at the grocery store.

[@crystalgreco5699]

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[@ainamaryam2619]

Uncil please relax. Same old things. Speaking again and again and again.

[@irinag6856]

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[@amygerstle2037]

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