My mom helped my ex wife bring mountain dew to the guy she cheated on me with. I recently crapped on her for it and it felt great.

say I'm expressing boundaries in a fair and reasonable way and that person won't work with me. My Partner is boundary-less and a people pleaser so his secrets are maintained by their dishonesty.

For the scapegoat men out there- I recovered from this. First step was cutting off my mom’s side of the family. All of them. It was systematic with them and narcissists bred more narcissists. After that I went to therapy, got more awareness and then jump into bad relationship after bad relationship after bad relationship. Scapegoat boys, unlike the girls, tend to go after really sweet and affectionate women in hetero relationships. The problem is most women come off as sweet and affectionate in the beginning. You need to give it time, write down your wants and needs in a relationship and make sure they can meet them, but also be with someone who makes you want to be selfless for them. You’ll find the rebellious side fades away and your guard drops down and you really heal with them. Best advice I can give is never, ever jump into moving in or marriage too quickly. Give it time. Find someone who values your needs and mental health.

This is very relevant to medical malpractice. Which happens all the time. A person trusts a surgeon to try to correct a problem and wakes up far worse than before. Now how do you trust that surgeon or any other, to try to, for an additional fee, put you back together somehow?

Horrible to work for such persons...

Revolving Door Syndrome 😢

My son has done exactly that. Smooth talking...has the counselor licking his boots. He even went to a mother's day celebration and selected his counselor to be his adoptive mother. Picture in the paper and all. I was on tears. He has threatened me and humiliated me so many times I'm just In a state of pain all the time. <>< These people must not be trusted. They lie, cheat, steal. Pure evil. Be ware

This feels pretty hopeless, knowing I'll probably get Alzheimer's.

i dont see anything wrong with that mindset. I feel like there is a healthy medium but i would rather self sufficient than a anxious mess

I like the way you break down the information. 💯

How does someone legally get a person for using an address they know how to Hussle people to get what they want and then use their name and credit. It's ridiculous they can get away with crap like that. As a matter of fact I don't think his BC is legit the race is wrong smh

In Jesus name expose all of them who are trying to bring me down for years 🙏 God knows who they are and so do I 🙏 its time for God's Judgment 🙏 🙌

Little miss Jesus 😂I resemble that comment! 😅

Hi, this is the first post I am seeing. Who is the they uou speak off? I AM HIGGsensitive to light and sound... 😮

I do have some level lf insecurity over work and school but at the same time I don't know if the non imprisoned me wants to participate more in those arenas.

Wow, all my joints are vibrating now. In my hands. Thanks karra. Yup, situational, contextual healing. Its a thing. You inspired this tim. Way to go. By now you must know i can never be turned from the force

Do you have friends? A paramour? Then congratulations! You have succeeded in your attention- and approval-seeking. I have lived my entire life without either of those. Ergo, I seek approval. I seek external validation. Next question!

Their is 27 bones in the human hand ( not that im human or anything) but sometimes i actually 💤 sleep and i actually relax. And everyone bone in each hand appears to dislocate slightly and when i wake up every bone snaps back into perfect place again. Its a symphony of snap, crackle, pop. I know i direct stress into my hands. If i didnt do reiki, i would have arthritis by now.

I once made $3500 in a day at a convention. A few days later got blackout drunk for the first time in ten years and lost my wallet with like $600 of it. I didn't like doing so well.

Trauma can shape how we see ourselves and the world

I have yet to do very well at work and get confused easily. However even unemployed I am a stay at home dad and I'm a great musician so I can't say I feel like a TOTAL failure.

Underhanded anger is the epitome of my mom and sister: They kick a dog, and when it bites, call it a mean dog.

Two weeks ago I started working through Tim Fletcher's playlist on shame, just to get started. I know I still have a long way to go, but I already feel so much better and I see signs of beginning improvements just as he describes here. I don't know how much normalcy I'll ever get back, but just not being in so much agony anymore on a daily basis is a game changer. I can actually enjoy to just be. Be inside my body, be in a present moment, without shame consuming it. From here, it is so much easier to do the other steps like mindfulness, checking in with myself, self-care grounding. I actually WANT to improve now, instead of the previous ambivalence fueled by self-hatred stemming from shame. I have a long way to go, but I feel like I can actually do the work now. And his videos are so helpful! I went from "not seeing the forest from the trees" to figuring out where I need to go. Putting together a map for my healing journey. My quality of life has improved so much just by taking that constant pain away. Tim Fletcher, if you ever read this, THANK YOU SO SO MUCH! With all my heart, thank you! I have spent 20 years trying to find something or someone that would help, only to find further trauma, blame and shame in the mental health care system cos their ill-informed methods didn't work. Your content has been priceless. I feel like you thoroughly understand what's going on, and you provide legitimate, practical information on how to overcome it. It has felt like spring-cleaning my brain, and I am amazed just how much and how rapidly things have been improving for me. Thank you so much, kind sir. May you be blessed.

Interesting

And then you find out that they have stored all that information in their phone so they never forget .. the methodical process is unreal!! Every single act is pre mediated and planned .. no one who is normal does this!!!!! I can’t even remember names let alone likes!

I cannot thank you enough for your insights , a true blessing to this world.. Thanks again

Wow! This explains a lot. I always suspected there are many people out there who are convinced narcissistic behavior is normal, and become co-dependents, acting like narcissists. It’s truly the followers who crate this status quo. Thank you!

I noticed that there's a lot of overlap between cptsd and autism symptoms, like light sensitivity and emotional disregulation just to name a few. Let's say I have both ASD and CPTSD. If I heal from trauma, are those symptoms going to stay at a lesser, more manageable level or are they only the manifestations of complex trauma (due to the very nature of the typical autistic experience in society)?

I’ve had it on and off since high school, where I had to leave halfway through my senior year. It’s awful, and brain fog “feels” like trying to walk through knee-deep mud

As soon as you say “the only way,” you’re slamming all the doors!

For few days i slept like 16hrs, recently i have eaten like a beast. Before i just survived. Im very calm now. Nothing happened, except i have been alone for a longer time

Bug eyes can also be a sign of good quality ecstacy

I’m liking this but, put your hands down and not wave them in front of the camera. Thanks and good luck with your channel and wisdom!

I trust God not man. No disrespect

After processing my childhood trauma, I started sleeping without sleeping pills for the first time in my life. It was like a miracle.

The problem is that when I let things go at their natural pace it becomes glacially slow. It can take 3 years for me to even open up. Either I force it to happen, or it doesn't happen at all.

Even worse when people then point the finger at you for being “naive”. Always blame the victim and not the demonic person who does this.

If you can actually get the narcissist to go, yes, they can manipulate. It’s the counselor’s job to stay neutral…

Yup, been there! It’s so hard when the person you’re going to for help believes the abuser’s charm. Very painful

You should do a video on how rare true narcissism is. Everyone has tendencies to act a little crazy when you push the wrong button.

I ❤️Friday Night with Tim Fletcher. I am fortunate to have taken his course. It’s easier to be me. Gratitude for Tim, and his caring staff.

Run as fast as you can once you find out the person is a narcissist. Or you are throwing your life away.

I’m 6 to all 10 questions lol- Why? Because my mother literally went out of her way to make sure I wasn’t part of a family of 12! The only reason I haven’t killed myself is the tangible experience of God who came in my life and saved me. 🙏🏽🌅💙 What 12 needs? I’ve missed his video on this. There was NONE whatsoever in my life- not complaining- just saying…

I am 64 and just realized that captivity trauma and religious abuse are why I had such a hard time getting out of a cultish church situation. I left over 30 years ago but still have some things that come up from time to time that make me fear I should never have left. I have done enough counseling to know that what they say is not true but there is still that fear in the back of my mind. And this is a somewhat mainstream church at least in Texas. I was just susceptible to the ‘cult’ mentality because of my C-PTSD as a child. I feel like now I am getting this figured out but only just in time to die. I am very sad I didn’t find your way of teaching when I was in my twenties and my world was falling apart. I realize it was not really understood then and I did get help. But all your teaching about trauma just makes everything make sense.