What To Do If My Husband Is Not Affectionate Or Romantic? 16 Great Tips

[@Sunshinethroughdarkness]

He's not affectionate or romantic and I've already given him examples. He would do something soon after then revert back to the same non-affectionate and non-romantic person. I don't know if that's his nature or it's just me. Either way I've lost hope.

[@HunnyGutierrez-f1f]

I’ve lost hope too my husband is not romantic he’s not affectionate and we don’t have that emotional connection I don’t even remember when is the last time we went on a date. We been together 7 years , 6 years together and 1 year in marriage I caught him when he was out side he left his phone charging one day in the bathroom and something was telling me check his phone 📱 and I caught that he was on only fans sending money to different woman since 2020 till 2025 till now that I know of since the 7 years together he couldn’t even buy me a hair iron and when I ask him he don’t have it but he spend more than $100 bucks on different women and after that I don’t feel safe emotionally spiritually and physically and when we play sometimes he plays like I’m his homeboy we play fight like we are pretending to hit each other but nothing serious I play along with him cause I don’t want him to think that I’m just ignoring him or something I never speak to him about my feelings ever cause I don’t trust him after what he did to me I also feel like I’m his room mate too I make less than min wage and he get paid almost $19-$20 an hour making almost 80-100 hours every 2 weeks he gets paid and I get paid weekly maybe less than $350 and I have to come up with half of the rent my rent is $2000 so at this point I don’t know what to do he’s not affectionate he’s not romantic he hardly ever touches me and at this point I’m needing for his touch we don’t even hold hands. Maybe in 1 week we probably hug at least 3 times we have sex but maybe 2-3 times in a week maybe less than that he does have a temper everytime I speak to him he gets really offensive that’s why I stopped talking to him about anything for a good minute now I don’t even trust him with money because of him spending it on other women and instead of his own wife he couldn’t even give me an hair iron when I needed it we were going through ruff times going from motel to motel cause our place our roof caved in cause of the rain and we also have no accounts together we don’t have social media well me at least but him I don’t trust him at all at this point this is my second marriage right now but my last marriage was worse than this one. And also I for got he barley touches me he’s not affectionate or romantic at all he doesn’t like to cuddle he only likes to cuddle at night when it’s time for bed so at this point I think we are just roommates I really don’t know what’s going on in my marriage

[@HunnyGutierrez-f1f]

I’ve lost hope too my husband is not romantic he’s not affectionate and we don’t have that emotional connection I don’t even remember when is the last time we went on a date. We been together 7 years , 6 years together and 1 year in marriage I caught him when he was out side he left his phone charging one day in the bathroom and something was telling me check his phone 📱 and I caught that he was on only fans sending money to different woman since 2020 till 2025 till now that I know of since the 7 years together he couldn’t even buy me a hair iron and when I ask him he don’t have it but he spend more than $100 bucks on different women and after that I don’t feel safe emotionally spiritually and physically and when we play sometimes he plays like I’m his homeboy we play fight like we are pretending to hit each other but nothing serious I play along with him cause I don’t want him to think that I’m just ignoring him or something I never speak to him about my feelings ever cause I don’t trust him after what he did to me I also feel like I’m his room mate too I make less than min wage and he get paid almost $19-$20 an hour making almost 80-100 hours every 2 weeks he gets paid and I get paid weekly maybe less than $350 and I have to come up with half of the rent my rent is $2000 so at this point I don’t know what to do he’s not affectionate he’s not romantic he hardly ever touches me and at this point I’m needing for his touch we don’t even hold hands. Maybe in 1 week we probably hug at least 3 times we have sex but maybe 2-3 times in a week maybe less than that he does have a temper everytime I speak to him he gets really offensive that’s why I stopped talking to him about anything for a good minute now I don’t even trust him with money because of him spending it on other women and instead of his own wife he couldn’t even give me an hair iron when I needed it we were going through ruff times going from motel to motel cause our place our roof caved in cause of the rain and we also have no accounts together we don’t have social media well me at least but him I don’t trust him at all at this point this is my second marriage right now but my last marriage was worse than this one. And also I for got he barley touches me he’s not affectionate or romantic at all he doesn’t like to cuddle he only likes to cuddle at night when it’s time for bed so at this point I think we are just roommates I really don’t know what’s going on in my marriage