What to do if your doctor flirts with you

[@animallvr4]

My eye doctor hit on my when I was 17, he was in his forties. He actually called my home and asked me on a date, then held my vision prescription hostage until I agreed to meet with him. I placed a report against him and was told I was in a long line of girls to have done the same. They also told me that he was required by law to give me my prescription. It was confusing and creepy time for me, but I felt empowered by at least making a report. This was in the late 70's.

[@sharonbassett3073]

I happened to me back in 1962 by a top Collins St Melbourne, specialist. They certainly wouldn't believe back then but I have never forgotten it. Haunts me to this day. .

[@bun-bun3228]

Lies

[@animallvr4]

@@sharonbassett3073 I’m so sorry this happened to you.

[@debrjackson7431]

When my little one was being wheeled in for surgery, she was almost knocked out, but right before she told the very handsome Australian surgeon, how much she loved him. She was about 5, and the wonderful surgeon held her hand and told her he loved her too. He wasn't a perv. Just the kindest dr. I'd ever seen.

[@reettaelina]

I remember my own embarrassing moment when I was 9 year old and this happened to me but I was in love with my dad so mine was worse

[@MedicalSecrets]

What a story! How did her surgery go?

[@USMC7051]

@debrjackson7431 im so very sorry. They hope we won't report them or take civil action Do so please

[@FlowerShopGirl8]

​@USMC7051 gentle correction. Re-read the case just commented on. This mom observed her 5yr old child speak under the influence & spoke with appreciation for the compassionate response of the physician. So this was not "one of those" cases. ❤

[@beverlychillsnyc]

This is sweet. Sometimes you develop relationships with the doctors you work with. I don't see anything wrong with it unless it is unwanted.

[@kathleenglover8352]

As an RN for 30 years, I witnessed a “physician” inappropriately address a patient. I redirected, asking the physician a question- either about the diagnosis to better understand… anything appropriate at that time & saying it in a cordial way. I worked on the MBU at that time in the hospital, and reported my observations, facts and witnessed communication as well as the discussion redirect and concern. I appreciate that the Director of Woman’s Services followed up. I will Never witness inappropriate or threatening situations without ethical follow up. Thank you for being a physician that’s trustworthy & ethical.

[@MedicalSecrets]

For the most part, physicians should be speaking with patients in a way they would feel comfortable others hearing 👍 of course, there are privacy concerns that would have to be respected

[@MarjorieLevangie]

Yes, Thank you

[@soapychica1132]

It happens more often than you think. I’ve experienced it 3 times. When I reported it they didn’t believe me. Thank you for speaking on this subject. ❤

[@USMC7051]

@@soapychica1132 im so very sorry that happened Please pursue it

[@user-crpsdiaries]

@@soapychica1132 I'm so sorry.

[@wsue1038]

Oh my

[@maggiesmith6013]

The victim is often not believed

[@USMC7051]

@maggiesmith6013 so true. Just like police officers are believed over a traffic infraction or crime, doctors are given the same preferential treatment. There is a differential to the patient in regard to integrity

[@SRPA476]

You know, I was watching this for a good 5 minutes before I remembered my dentist commented on my physical maturity, molested me with a nurse present in the room, and then started giving me dirty phonecalls. I was 13! The saddest part is that I loved the male validation. I do wonder how many girls he's messed up.

[@novaaa468]

I’m a physician myself and I’ve indirectly been hit on by other doctors when i visit their clinics for some health issues ( despite having a family member with me)it’s so disgusting and overwhelming.

[@MedicalSecrets]

Yikes, I'm sorry to hear that

[@masudahmed6029]

​@@MedicalSecretscheating Is very prevelant in hospitals

[@kimmajczan7985]

When I was a youngish nurse and pregnant working in the OR there was a urologist who used to periodically come up behind me before he scrubbed in and put his hands on my uterus over my scrubs and feel for the fundal height. I spoke to the head nurse and she told me to ignore it, there was nothing she could do. Remember it vividly to this day.

[@sveronih5376]

Yikes! Predatory action on you, how creepy!

[@NeasTube]

Ignore it? Wow, so dismissive of something so disturbingly inappropriate. I'm sorry that happened to you.

[@franny5295]

Dang...

[@user-crpsdiaries]

I've had a specialist take me into a private room and thought that he was examining me further. His PA walked in & he jumped back from me. That's when I realized he was going up my shirt for other reasons. I was in such shock & disbelief. A year or so down the road, I reported it to the College of Physicians (In Canada). The burden of proof would have been on me & it would have been a long drawn out traumatic process for me, only to maybe have him watched if I could prove it at all. We also have Dr.'s up here who have been charged with not only sexually abusing their patients but also being incredibly cruel to them. They still have their licenses & are still practicing. The way I see it, is that they should be in jail. There's almost no justice. Sorry it happened to you too. Years ago, I also had a chiropractor being very inappropriate. I wish I would have spoken up, but again I was in shock & frozen. His wife was even the receptionist there at the time. There needs to be more accountability & consequences to actions. Patients need to be believed.

[@USMC7051]

@user-crpsdiaries i am sorry this happened. Time for us to speak up and take action. I will not let my case go nor will I give up Pursue it please 🙏

[@USMC7051]

@user-crpsdiaries i am appalled and so very sorry this happened. Don't let it go. This is a collective effort.

[@happycustomer3448]

I wear glasses to cover my eyes and wigs to cover my hair

[@happycustomer3448]

I ask for females to be in the room with me

[@user-crpsdiaries]

@@USMC7051 thank you so much. It's bad up here. They won't do anything about it.

[@joannek7447]

Thanks for bringing this issue to video. It is a problem.

[@julier.1902]

If you have had a doctor or nurse do something inappropriate, what do you think of announcing it in the waiting room as you leave? I'm an older woman who doesn't want to put up with stuff like that (and I'm frumpy and overweight so I don't think anyone would hit on me), so there's a chance I would speak up. I heard a story this summer of a married couple who were both sick with a cough or similar respiratory illness and went to see the same doctor. Hubby went first, then the wife. The nurse told her to undress and put on the paper gown, which was puzzling. The doctor comes in and checks her over and does a breast exam too. When she gets out in the waiting room she asked her husband if he had to take his clothes off, and he said no. Cue her becoming livid. When she saw the doctor at the front counter, she yelled at him and called him out on that and said his face got very red. That might do as much or more than trying to get him in trouble with the medical board or something. This kind of thing is just a very sore point with me.

[@LittleKitty22]

Seems like a good idea, but sadly it isn't because, here in the UK at least, the receptionist will call security who will handcuff you, physically restrain you and have you arrested, and as soon as you have been taken away the receptionist will mutter to the other patients that you are "mentally ill" and "getting taken to the mental hospital". I get abused by doctors a lot since becoming severely disabled - I have long learned to keep very quiet about the abuse if I don't want to get locked up for the rest of my life either in prison or a mental institution.

[@moniquevarallyay3126]

True pervs do not care about frumpy or weight. They hit on people who will not fight back

[@dianabrown833]

I've had three uncomfortable situations with doctors, and I never went back. I was shocked each time. Wow!

[@MedicalSecrets]

I'm so sorry to hear that :( did you ever discuss what happened with anyone?

[@dianabrown833]

@@MedicalSecrets My best friend. Never told my husband. I do not dress or present myself inappropriately. There are some very strange doctors out there.

[@PureLight11]

Very real, mine called me and asked me to lay down with himm because he thought it would be good for both of . I reported him to his board, investigation ensued. I had a voice mail apology also…. They found he did that and other verbal inappropriate sexual words. They warned him in a letter, I was told, that I didn’t get to see. They didn’t fore him because we need doctors here!!!! Damn. I had a a lot of fractures in my spine and had no pcp to help me! It took 6 months to get into a new one, and they have zero time. Rural Oklahoma here. Healthcare is broken. No one in authority cares or understands how this affected me.

[@lynnepardi828]

When I was in my early 20's, I went to a highly recommended doctor. I had a very sore throat and laryngitis, which seemed to be getting worse. He was a middle-aged man, who struck me as having a quiet, almost bland personality. I described my symptoms and got the typical, "mm-hmm." I was sitting fully dressed on the exam table, as he had directed me to sit there. Next, he told me to please undress completely to my waist. He hadn't even looked at my throat yet! I felt a little uncomfortable, but did as I was told. He proceeded to give me the longest-lasting , most thorough breast exam I had ever had. I think he listened to my heart after he finished that. He did take a quick look at my throat too, finally, and remarked that it "looked pretty angry." He gave me a prescription for it. He said I should call him again if I didn't get relief in a few days. (I was thinking, "Not a chance, Dr. HANDS!!"). I wanted to say something to him about how his "exam" made me feel; but, I was too embarrassed. I wonder how many other patients got a similar experience Today, I would definitely speak up ! After a minute-and-a-half, or thereabouts, I would ask if he found anything concerning and told him That I felt like bread dough! He should have been uncomfortable, and I should have been MAD.

[@Acer-w4e]

Did he get a boner after feeling dem ttz?

[@jamieellohengee2667]

I'm sorry you had to go through that, it sounds so awful! Even if it's been awhile, it's still worth reporting to the place he's practicing now if he still is. It's unlikely that you were the only victim of this predatory creep.

[@A---ti3zz]

I definitely do the clothes thing. I always wear a racer back tank when I go see my PMR docs for trigger point injections. It did kind of bother me when one of them lifted up my shirt once but I guess he freaked out when I told him a hot water bottle popped on me; he was worried I burned myself. But it was weird instead of asking to check to see if I had any burns he just lifted my shirt up. Also saw a chiropractor who lifts my shirt without asking and there is no reason to do it because I wore a racer back and the spot on my back was exposed. It also made me feel really uncomfortable when he was adjusting my neck and his hand was really far down on my chest. My old PCP would do the occasional hug but it never bothered me. I was really sick and I think he didn’t think I was going to live. On good days when I was doing well he would be really happy and give me a hug. On particularly bad days he would also give me a hug. I gave one of my surgeons a hug at the end of my surgery because I had been suffering so long and gaslit so long that I was so happy that she helped and it was over; I did ask if I could give her a hug. I have had both male and female nurses hug me.

[@ALaughaday1]

At my first followup after having a 12 brain surgery to remove a tumor, I asked my surgeon if I could give him a hug--to express my gratefulness for his work and the outcome. It was nothing sexual--just thankfulness--because words could not express how I felt knowing that tumor was out of my head and my facial nerve was still in tact.

[@MedicalSecrets]

That is wonderful! I'm so happy to hear that 🙏

[@A---ti3zz]

I have hugged one of my surgeons and one of my nurses. I asked both times. Same reason as you…very grateful for their help

[@HunterSeth]

Can I please ask you what a brain tumor feels like? Does it feel like a "dry ache" ? As if you have not gotten enough water but it's not too painful it's just a really weird feeling...? I've got a strange feeling in my head like that. I want to know without getting an MRI or anything. But the hospital here probably won't give me an MRI or anything anyways. I need to know.

[@ALaughaday1]

@@HunterSeth My oncologist looked in my eye during a random 6 month checkup and told me to go see a neurosurgeon. I didn't think anything of it until months later when I had an extreme case of vertigo followed by going deaf in one ear in a matter of a week. I never had a headache or head pain with the tumor in my head. I went to the ENT for the sudden hearing loss. He sent me for an MRI---bam, diagnosed with a tumor. You can't know if you have a brain tumor without having a scan.

[@HunterSeth]

@@ALaughaday1 thank you for the information and I’m sorry that happened to you although I’m glad you got diagnosed in time.

[@maureenjossick429]

Has anyone else been given a “breast exam”, when they’re not there for that reason?? 2 different doctors used the same kind of m.o- “since you’re in your forties now (I was just turning 40) and since you’re here, I’ll do a breast exam” even if I tell them I know how to do the breast exams myself, I do them regularly and have my first mammogram scheduled. and I’ve never felt anything that gave me pause- I told both doctors this, like my opinion didn’t matter!! I’ve had 2 doctors do this to me. Each time I had to get completely undressed, those paper smocks make you feel revealed and uncomfortable! I was at one of my first of many appointments for my liver disease.

[@barbarak8158]

Yes... and I told him my gynecologist does them! You're between a rock and a hard place!

[@user-gd4ri4pt8j]

Of all doctors!!!!! My OBGYN Dr. did something on me that was so inappropriate. I'm embarrassed to say what it was. I was beyond shocked and I moved that body part away from him. He got the hint BUT when he left the office I was in he slammed the door!!!! He's so very lucky that I did not report him and the only reason I did not is because even though he did what he did I don't want to ruin anyone's life. The time, money, what you have to give up in your life to become a DR I took into consideration and the path I took was just not to go back to him. Dr's are human and I'm sure they become attracted to patients BUT wait until there is a time when you can discharge them or transfer them to a colleague and wait a period of time before you call them or approach them with your feelings.

[@PamelaW-t8y]

This was in the early 1970"s, I was 20 and very innocent, inexperienced and naive. I got a spider bite just to the right of my pubic bone. I was having a significant localized allergic reaction. My own family physician was on vacation, and I saw his replacement, a rather young fellow. I had to pulI my pants down and pull my underwear to the side. I was laying on the exam table, with my legs hanging over the end. I had my eyes closed (because I was embarrassed) when I felt pressure on my hip. The physician was slowly grinding his groin area against me. I was paralyzed with shock and confusion. I did nothing. I was afraid. It wasn't until later that I realized I'd actually been assaulted. I never filed a complaint against him, I felt like too much time had passed and I couldn't remember his name, and who would believe me?

[@maddyfox8545]

Yes I’d love to know more about patients flirting with you and how you handled it. It’s all so icky but education, information and shared experiences help.

[@KarenSharin]

Not only was he grooming me for sa , he told me I had a cardiac condition that could end me in four years . He told me I did not have to go to a specialist because he could control my disorder far better than a cardiologist could . I developed a severe panic disorder as a direct result of this . When I finally did see a cardiologist he told me that my heart health was completely normal, I had no disorder and that I needed to report this doctor to the state .

[@JoanOfArgghh]

Here in Mexico, I wear a comfy, oversized "exam tank top" under my blouse, or wear a long skirt for ob-gyn exams, stretch waisted pants if I know I'm getting a shot in bum. Mexican medicine is usually very affirming of personal dignity in the exam room, and has been for years. Not having paper gowns keeps costs down for them and keeps dignity for the patient, as much as possible.

[@jenniferculpepper856]

Thank you for this message. I'm older and more mature now and I'm certain that I have flirted not with doctors, but with coworkers in the past. I want to say that I'm very embarrassed of my past actions and will not do that in the future.

[@200cdl]

Ya know, I got a back surgery coming up and am a little nervous , so í found your channel and have been checking it out, your. Awareness on the medical field is spot on. Thank you for saying it the way it is. Í think you have more potential going on than you realize. Thank you for all that you do,

[@maggiesmith6013]

An important topic. I worked with a doctor that was head of a residency program that was sexually assaulting female residents. He did it one time in front of me. He was later reported to BOMEX and fired. He is a predator and not even an adequate physician but a Yale grad. He now holds an appointed position making decisions for the healthcare policy for the state. My best friend with PTSD had her life ruined after an assault by a physician. Betrayal of trust happened on a bigger scale the last few years. That former rheumatologist and administrator that hadn't seen a patient in years we all know that guy is a Saint. MD stands for minor deity.

[@cavgrey8]

I’ve been SA’d by a surgeon. Hard pass now if anything is less than professional. Didn’t have any flags before this occurrence.

[@LittleKitty22]

I don't get hit on, but I get a lot of abuse from doctors - especially since I became severely disabled. Horrific abuse, and I get an operation that would cure me denied, all other medical help denied, told to just go into a nursing home, told to just take tranquilizers etc. I'm a young woman by the way, nowhere near nursing home age. Before I became disabled I also got abuse but it was nowhere near as bad - and I could walk out of the room then. Now I get not just verbally abused but also physically and I cannot get away from the situation, being on a stretcher and totally helpless.

[@stephenr115]

There is perhaps a reverse flirting. A friend suffered pneumonia and was unable to shower before an ER visit and he was hospitalized for a week. Needless to say, he was a bit ripe and was a larger fellow. The doctor essentially stood across room, discussed weight in a highly offensive manner and appeared disgusted by the hospitalized patient. This doc should have ordered showering or whatever and not made offensive comments. I witnessed this and could feel how this made patient feel. Proper health related comments fine but at this person’s low the doctor made him feel like a homeless person just off months of living under a tree. A reverse flirt I call this. That’s why my mother always told us to bathe before going to hospital!

[@JasminemPolyanthum]

Reverse Flirt = Abuse

[@JJ-zv4fq]

😢😢😢Went for a consultation for a colonoscopy, the Dr. told me he will be the only one doing the procedure therefore only he will see my behind, then he proceeded to try to kiss me on the lips, I turned my head, he kissed my cheek! Needless to say, I canceled my appointment with him after I slapped him and ran out!😮

[@panananananana]

I'm so sorry wtf

[@barbarak8158]

You go girl!

[@alexandrajones4991]

Choose your psychiatrist carefully. Enough said.

[@MoonLover1917]

Yes!

[@pamelalyon3264]

I had a psychiatrist hit on me. What a creep. We were both married, not to each other, of course. I heard he got in legal trouble for letting his wife practice unlicensed. I hope he lost his license. Apparently he did that with other people.

[@lizziebjl]

Ugh, I had that happen twice. First was a therapist! He would put his hand on my knee, talk about personal things and then eventually called me & asked me out. Second was a physiotherapist. I was 8 months pregnant. He asked me to face him with my blouse off and proceeded to tell me how beautiful pregnant women are. I was raised very strict and not to question authority. I think that’s why even though uncomfortable, I didn’t speak up. I’m 66 now and these scenarios still bother me. 😢

[@USMC7051]

@lizziebjl im very sorry that happened to you. You should pursue it so other patients or veteran patients don't have to encounter what happened to us. There hoping we will go away or not report it.

[@mhenderson9311]

Asked out by a therapist! omg. That's terrible. I had a psychiatrist try to rub the back of my neck; fortunately my dad was in the room and a few harsh words were exchanged. Unfortunately at the time it was the only psychiatrist I could go to be seen. At least my dad warned my to keep my eyes open. Eventually my family doctor said I could see him instead of that creep. But before that I had at least one screaming session at the shrink: one of my lines was "my dad is waiting outside in the car. "

[@maryamchudhry7238]

I'm visiting ENT from 3 years. Now my doctor is indirectly hiting me whenever i visit him alone. And its feels so disgusting that i cant say anything bcz of power difference. I Learned alot After seeing your vedio its so helpful

[@happycustomer3448]

Yes I did wear big scrubs to prevent staff from figuring my body. And my surgeon fell in love with me and I left out of state.

[@Z8Q8]

30 yrs. ago a well-known and respected NM Cosmetic Surgeon (who never asked a nurse to come in the exam rm w him) got so close to me, twice, that i could tell he had NO underwear on. i was in-shock and said nada, and he soon left the room. (he DID have a nurse during surgery tho'.) Then 10 yrs. later i went to a Dermatologist (he too never invited the nurse in). And this Dr. said something sadistic to me when we were alone! i never went back to him; but no cameras = no proof. And i bet both MDs got away w this numerous times w other patients too.

[@gloriamaryhaywood2217]

So sorry. Talk about Creepy both times!#UGH

[@christinashawgo6510]

I told my doctor I felt like I was vibrating inside. Trying to describe the nervousness I felt. He asked me if I had lost something and giggled. I picked up on meant , a vibrator. I ignored him.

[@SE45CX]

It happened to me (male) in a GP office with a female assistant. She didn't really crossed the line. I did enjoy this attention and she did her job just as well as she should.

[@HoneyHush3425]

Dr. K do you mind telling us how you ended up handling your situation?

[@MedicalSecrets]

Not with the grace I would do today, that's for sure. I just "shrugged it off" and pretended it didn't happen. Nothing really came of it, fortunately, but I advocate for myself quite differently today

[@sherilynn1310]

Over 15 years ago a handsome black guy flirted with me in a thrift shop, and asked me to go get coffee with him. Of course I told him no (though if I had been single..!) He was persistent enough to make it clear he really meant it, but desisted after a half dozen compliments. I didn't know that would be the last time someone flirted with me. At least when you're old and someone is sweet to you, it's pretty clear they're just sweet.

[@dreamervanroom]

I have commented on muscles, I see you work out. I didn’t mean it as coming onto them. I meant it as appreciation of their work. there’s a danger of looking at a normal interaction as something forbidden. I might say I like your shirt or hat… it’s the same thing.

[@MedicalSecrets]

That's a very reasonable compliment!

[@priscillapotts443]

This was good, I definitely have had issues with this like other people.

[@MedicalSecrets]

I'm sorry you've had this experience. I hope you learned something new to better advocate for yourself!

[@Diana00759]

this hits home with me , i’m feeling uncomfortable just thinking about. i’m in a wheelchair first of all. mobility is hard for me. i went in to see a stomach dr for issues i was having. so when nurse took me to exam room, i wheeled in turned around and backup to exam table by sink, more like wedged myself in between pinning my self when there was no room to move Not thinking about anyone coming on to me. Well dr came in wheeled his roller chair in front of me, where i had no escape, then touch my knee as he leaned in some, i froze and was scared and speechless i wouldn’t talk. needles to say when i got out of there i NEVER followed up with that Dr and NEVER got issue taken care of still have problems with stomach. I’ve never told anyone this.

[@KaleeinVA]

An OB-GYN hit on me at a pre-marital appointment. He also made a very sexist comment on my anatomy during the exam.

[@katella]

Premarital appointment?

[@jacquelynkinnaman7249]

all good advice,empowering ,thanks

[@DovieRuthAuthor]

Sometimes you just have to switch doctors. My on/gyn asked me to go on an overnight boat ride to Catalina. I knew his wife socially. Needless to say, his marriage didn’t last. He blew through two more marriages.

[@MedicalSecrets]

Yikes I am so sorry to hear that

[@jirachiteaminstinct4310]

Wow that’s crazy.

[@rosehenninger1594]

I said, ahead of time, "You have 4 good looking kids. You are a family man. I would never interfere with that."

[@katella]

That sounds a bit weird

[@NeasTube]

This has happened with an urgent care doctor and a neurologist. Really strange and uncomfortable, but nothing physical. I just never went back.

[@AG-ey6ds]

Before our nursing class started psych rotations at a state hospital, we received a "lecture" on not getting involved with patients (in this case patients who have committed a crime of some sort a maximum security state hospital). We all laughed and she said seriously nursing students have been involved and ended up being together or marrying after the patient was released.

[@susanroberts]

Great tip! 💝🤗

[@ml9867]

Please do another video of patients flirting with medical staff. I've had a few nurses that I clicked with and they were someone I'd love to date, but I never got weird or even asked them on a date out of respect and to keep things professional. I don't have much interaction with people in my everyday life, so it's nice to meet someone kind and caring. Is there an appropriate way to politely ask if they would like to see me out side of the office?

[@Acer-w4e]

If a doc does this unprofessional act, report it to the medical board! They could get reprimanded or have their license suspended.

[@gigiw.7650]

My doctor was caressing the inside of my leg during a pelvic exam. Ugh.

[@jsledge8557]

I was in a 7 month relationship with a surgeon. Even though we’ve since broken up I still hook up with her from from time to time. I kind of like when my doctor hits on me, it’s welcomed…

[@disneyworlddreamer]

So I found this odd. I went to the ENT a few weeks ago. Last time I had gone was when I was in my early 20s and it was regarding surgery and I had my mom come in. This time I was also having my mom come just because we all had a good relationship being in the room together before so why not? Well the nurse bringing me back said my m9m wasn't allowed to come and there is not enough room... the room was quite large and had 2 chairs plus the patient chair and the rolling chair for the doctor. I never felt uncomfortable with the doctor and he even asked about my mom and I said she was in the waiting room and he said aww she should have come in with you to say hello. I didn't tell him the nurse denied me. But I know as a patient I have the right to have someone come into an appt with me if I want. It has just kinda bothered me.

[@A---ti3zz]

You should have told the doctor. Some of these nurses are on power trips.

[@USMC7051]

What can I do DR about a Physician Assistant asking me to have intercouse with him and telling me not to tell anyone. This happened at the Veterans Affairs. I filed a complaint with the patient advocate and filed a police report with the VA police. However they won't convey what disciplinary action they took and I've been searching for a lawyer but most won't take it because they don't know how to navigate a case that's federal. I need a little help finding a lawyer that deals with the government. I've made probably over 30 calls to different lawyers

[@disqusrubbish5467]

See if you can find a lawyer that has worked as a Federal Public Defender and is now in private practice. They'll know the system.

[@USMC7051]

@@disqusrubbish5467 thank you! If you or someone else has information on a lawyer, please let me know 🙏

[@A---ti3zz]

Not sure about getting access to the VA stuff but I think you can FOIA police stuff If you have issues with a federal agency I recommend talking to your congressman. They normally have a “Need Help With a Federal Agency” section on their website.

[@USMC7051]

@@A---ti3zz thanks so much

[@USMC7051]

@herserenehighnessm thanks so much One attorney stated that I have to find an attorney in my state ( North Carolina) but I will contact him. Im grateful Thank you!

[@mirgrant]

😫 I always wanted to have a doctor hit on me! lol sorry that was insensitive

[@lizziebjl]

😡

[@Ines_23]

I needed medical care my whole life but it never happened to me. I don't know if I'm lucky or too ugly for that 😂

[@A---ti3zz]

Wouldn’t necessarily say it is either of those things. Most doctors aren’t creeps. They keep it professional.

[@Ines_23]

@@A---ti3zz yes, you're right 👍

[@USMC7051]

@@Ines_23 there's good and bad medical treatment. Bur those that cross the line need to be held accountable Im very happy this didn't happen to you

[@voyagehome5810]

I'm glad these awful things did not happen to you during any of your medical visits. I think you were truly blessed with ethical medical professionals.

[@LittleKitty22]

I'm too ugly since becoming severely disabled, so doctors just abuse me. Never been hit on since becoming a cripple.

[@aawrnnc]

Very wise advice.

[@MedicalSecrets]

Thank you! I hope you learned something new to advocate for your health 🙏

[@164procar4]

Flirting and/or having sex with a doctor is not a bad thing.... Forcing a person having sex is a problem Retaliation after denial is a problem Prescribing specific medicine for profit is a problem Overcharging patients is a problem Etc Etc

[@Straighttalk95]

I was hit on by three doctors in the past … and handled inappropriately by two !! 😢 being so young too made it that much worse for me to understand what was happening. Till now i have not done anything about it and one of the doctors who did something inappropriately passed away many years ago and later i found he had some cases done on him for similar behaviour. I find it so hard to go for certain appointments eg. Smear test i keep putting off due to fear !! And i am soon to have endometrial ablation and i am very nervous as it may be a male surgeon performing on me . 😔

[@mado.madeleine]

"THOSE stories" - oh yes, please 🙏🏽👀😆

[@squigglesquaggle6553]

I’d be delighted

[@SB-hy9iq]

There is no excuse for a physician (man or woman) who by the nature of what they do is in a position of trust/power, to try to take advantage of a patient. That said, I think one of the major issues that leads to improper relationships be it patient/physician or among married healthcare professionals is the complete lack of work/life balance. As a physician, I have seen marriages implode from adulterous behavior because of the long hours spent working. I believe this leads to physicians being flirtatious with patients because they do not spend time with those that these attentions should be directed to. This doesn’t excuse this behavior at all but rather explains why at times it may occur and the importance of having the right priorities in life. As a side note, any healthcare professional who engages in this behavior should be severely reprimanded up to and including loss of licensure. Physicians are held to a higher standard because of what we are entrusted to do, much like those in other professions such as law enforcement where if they have lied on reports, they become reportable to their state by their hiring agency and may lose their certification because of the importance of their word in court.

[@MissJane777]

Lately, I've been wondering if a doctor might be just what I need. I mean, with life feeling like a sitcom episode gone wrong, having someone to prescribe me a good laugh (and maybe a few veggies) could really do the trick! Who knew that a dose of broccoli and a side of therapy could be the ultimate recipe for sanity? 🙃🤭🤗😄

[@CarolynnScoffield]

But do not go after a Doc in a professional setting, ie , at an appointment made with the Doc you’re interested in dating!

[@MedicalSecrets]

Yes, there's a difference!

[@ninalee8625]

He's a shameless flirt, but never crosses any line. My work involves medical ethics, so I'm very aware of behaviors.

[@klattalexis]

I asked my OBGYN why he chose examining naked women's private parts, but soon realized, asking that question was a no/no when he didn't answer my question, giving me the cold shoulder. Was I in the wrong asking why he chose to specialize in this area???

[@A---ti3zz]

If you asked it that way yes. That is really rude and kind of implies that male obgyns do it because they are perverted. If you asked him why he chose obgyn then no. Do you question your other doctors? I don’t require my gastroenterologist to have my same gi issues. Don’t require my neurologist to have my same issues. Don’t require my cardiologist, rheumatologist, dermatologist, pulmonologist,…to have my same issues. Men can be obgyns. Some of the meanest, most judgmental, and worst doctors I have ever seen have been female obgyns. Don’t see a male obgyn.

[@julier.1902]

No!

[@A---ti3zz]

@@klattalexis yes!! Rude if you asked him why he chose to stair. If you asked why he became an obgyn then no. But I’m guessing you did the first which is really rude and kind of ignorant. How would you felt if he insinuated you were a p3rve for selecting a male gyn?

[@LittleKitty22]

I don't see anything wrong with that question. There's a lot wrong with a man who chooses to become a gynecologist. What's so interesting in spending his working hours ogling at womens' private parts and sticking his hands inside womens' you know what? Perfect job for perverts! Female gynecologists usually go into that profession to help and cure women, but men - nope, all perverts!

[@gloriamaryhaywood2217]

Yes! The WAY you Worded the question had to be Unsettling to him to say the Least! VERY SNARKY AND DISRESPECTFUL. Can't believe you chose to say that to your doctor!? #SMDH

[@heidi5462]

Hi Everyone!😊

[@JeffreyMcbride-v1b]

Hi 😊

[@MedicalSecrets]

Hi!

[@vegasonwheels4180]

I’ve noticed my drs keep the door open

[@rachelvillagomez5181]

How would you know the difference between being really nice and flirting?

[@lizziebjl]

I you feel really uncomfortable and violated, you know.

[@USMC7051]

@rachelvillagomez5181 gut instincts and other obvious outright indisputable evidence

[@gloriamaryhaywood2217]

Oh,.. you Know! It's such a #CreepyVibe!👀

[@BeeElle-rt8qf]

Thank you.

[@vivienleigh4640]

One way to stop the flirting is to ask "Is syphilis contageous even if you use protection?"

[@ghezlaneghezlana4178]

😂😂😂

[@irmenotu]

I think this issue is certainly more complex than what can be broken down in a KZbin video, but I prefer to go with a universal human standard of care which for me has always followed 4 rules regardless of if you're a patient, doctor, laws or any real or perceived power imbalance. It is not profession or even professional relationship specific. This applies to anyone at any time. 1. If someone's behavior is making you uncomfortable, even as a joke, you have a right to ask them to refrain from that behavior around you. 2. If they dont stop or in cases where the behavior is egregious you don't have to explain yourself, debate, or argue you can just leave. Stand up. Grab your belongings and leave. 3. You can not always regulate your emotions, and emotions can be super crazy intense. You CAN regulate your behavior. If you believe your emotions are so overwhelmingly strong they will interfere with your ability to control your behavior, it is best to end the relationship. Just be honest and say "I dont think I'm capable of using my best judgment around you and I dont want either of us to feel compromised or uncomfortable. I think it's better if we don't see each other anymore." 4. Being a human is messy and imperfect. When possible be proactive and try to discuss things before hand. If you do make a mistake just know that the best thing you can do is not to keep making it thinking, well Ive already messed up, but rather to say, this is/was a mistake and I want to ensure it doesnt happen again.

[@blondeenotsomuch]

I love when the conversation and knowledge is just flying, a bit of repartee develops between myself and providers. I find it motivating to do my best in following thru. My medical oncologist is that way. Dermatologists, aya they dont want to talk i hate when they prescribe and don't say what it is for. Pre google you didnt particularly know what it was. The rx didnt specify, the PI was not approachable. I think I am pretty good about figuring stuff out. Nevertheless, there i was with directions to use as needed on several rx. I had a couple steroids, an antibiotic, an a cleanser. She did ease my anxiety about not being perfectly shaved everywhere. No small thing.

[@disqusrubbish5467]

My dermatologist is happy and outgoing, and we've had lots of laughs - even when getting a biopsy.

[@alice13k]

Do doctors get any training in how to behave in clinical practice. Some have wonderful 'bedside manner' and others not so much. Is there any of this kind of training in continuing education for doctors?

[@MedicalSecrets]

I'm not aware of this in continuing education, at least not at a large scale, but it is a major part of medical school curriculum

[@200cdl]

And I'm not just saying in the medical field,

[@bethshultis7736]

I think it happens a LOT more than the profession realizes. For me it was a therapist. He proposed a wild and passionate affair and I was so shocked!

[@Maryam-nm5vm]

had an apt today with an orthopaedic doctor i was there bc of my knee because it had dislocated 2 weeks ago and went in to get my mri results, he asked me if im the type of person who has bendy joints and i said not really and he wanted to chek my hands i coudnt say no so i gave him my hand and he like played w them or i guess checked if they bend (idk what his intentions were but i def was unvomfy) and then he told me to lay on the bed so he can see my knee and i showed him, he was tryna bend it and stuff and then he told me when hes bending ur knee it feels like theres a bone in ur hip maybe connected or smth ( he said along the lines of that) i thought he was js talking ab some hip dips but anyway i dont see how that related to my knee, so then he proceeded to feel my hips and this was lowkey uncomfy but tbh i dont know if he had ill intentions, after that he gave more details ab mri scan and this doc was so awkward like he kept biting his lips and eyecontact then breaks it. if anyone is an orthopaedic plz lmk if he was js being genuine and not js touching my fingers and hips bc he wanted to.

[@janetmcbee]

Can I ask,, Nooo maybe I will just encourage another with me hesitating right now to speak out, ok💜 I'm too afraid

[@lushpaw1]

If a Dr mildly flirts as a way to defuse anxiety or tension in the patient.. I think this can be a good thing as it is usually obvious it is being done for the patient and not because the dr is actually a perverted letch. If the dr Is being serious in his flirting.. run. run the other way and find a same sex dr with decent reviews. Always read the reviews. Always.

[@BadBoyBobby85]

Not really the place for it. Transference and interference come into play

[@idontarguewithpeasants]

If he’s fine then I guess we go together 😂😂😂😂

[@kingkarljfs7965]

Me being an ugly guy has it's blessings I guess. Well, I wouldn't mind if someone I wasn't into flirted with me, but for normal people who are used to it, I could see it getting old.

[@sklarsklar-f3x]

I have a doctor who is flirty sometimes. I freakin love it when he’s flirty tho.

[@donnasheren6800]

Im 65 and he’s young so no he’s very professional. I did tell him I had to get a space out of the computer though.

[@hjleake]

What about when your patients flirt with you?

[@A---ti3zz]

It’s really inappropriate. Doctors are in a position of power. Patients shouldn’t be doing that and doctors shouldn’t be acting on it.

[@JasminemPolyanthum]

In a situation of Power differential in favor of the doctor, there isn't really much to do other than not acting on it. As the Doctor, They are in control of the situation from the start. As a patient, they may have fawning responses to danger and the flirting might be a result of their nerves. If the patient is persistent and it makes the doctor uncomfortable, they can always refer them to a different doctor, or a even psychiatrist or psychologist if it appears to be a symptom of a psychiatric or personality disorder. Munchausen's Syndrome comes to mind here.

[@dianapengitore8002]

Report misconduct and harassment to your state's medical board!

[@carolburnette2019]

Truth!

[@MarjorieLevangie]

“Thanks to God,” because of his help I have not been to a Dr. in 35 years. A Health Food store is where I go. Rest on Sabbath. Study the Bible

[@celestklatt5739]

I had to see an ENT and he was probably in his late 70s. He put the tube down my nose to check my vocal cords but instead of sitting up like you're supposed to he laid the table down and during the exam he kept telling me you're a very attractive woman started petting my head. What was I supposed to do I couldn't get up had a tube down my nose. When he took the tube out he told me look at me and he had his face almost pressed against mine and I knew what he was going to do I was afraid he would kiss me he said look at me and I elbowed him really hard and I got up and got my coat he tried to put my coat on and I kept pulling away from him. When I was ready to leave he said do you have a boyfriend what do you like to do would you like to go out to dinner with me. If he wasn't so old and I'm not exactly a young woman but I would have threw him up against the wall LOL it was so disgusting I was traumatized. Because not only that he hit on me but he was old. I reported him to the hospital and I even reported him to his office that he worked in and asked the girls about him. They didn't say a word nobody did anything about it.

[@kevinheard8364]

oh my goodness (all MUCH STRONGER WORDS go here; but would clearly get the YT site in trouble)

[@m.taylor]

I don't like it when the doc slowly looks at my body up and down as if trying to see through my clothes. It means he is a creep who would cheat on his wife. And the doc is usually ugly. Yuck!

[@laurafry4009]

I had a GP touch my genital area while doing an abdominal exam, was totally unnecessary, never went back!

[@Countrymusiclover424]

Hello

[@MedicalSecrets]

Hello!

[@laratheplanespotter]

What about patients hitting on their doctors?

[@stuartpierce121]

When I was in my 20s I went to a Doctor. I had stomach pain. When I was on table he unzipped my pants to do exam. I could have done it. It shocked me I just froze. Maybe he didn't mean it in abad wayitfelt strange. Thanks Jennifer 😊

[@USMC7051]

@stuartpierce121 most times when there is a sensitive issue that needs to be addressed, especially male and female Dr's. They usually have another third party from the medical field in the room. If not you can request for another person such as a nurse.

[@chrissieburke727]

I'm sorry that happened to you. U have to understand you are an exceptional looking man. Not trying to make u uncomfortable however it is the truth.

[@A---ti3zz]

It’s inappropriate and that physician should have been able to control themself. Same with the nurses. We are adults. They had no right to do that. They need to grow up. Stop making excuses for bad behavior. There is no need to say or act on every thought we have. Keep is professional

[@A---ti3zz]

Don’t make excuses for bad behavior. It was unprofessional and childish of them. They are adults and should be able to control themselves. No one deserves to be treated like a piece of meat.

[@ohcar0line]

I really need you to grasp how disgusting and inappropriate this comment is in this context. This was an inside thought, pal.

[@ohcar0line]

I acknowledge that I’m likely having a response because my nervous system has been activated by your comment. To a survivor, your comment comes across as; “This predator found you irresistible based on factors beyond your control. Instead of expecting a professional to behave better, please know that you deserved to be violated - because I may not have been able to control myself if I’d been in that position.” If you wouldn’t say this to a woman who has experienced inappropriate conduct, then please don’t say it to a man.

[@iced.autumn]

It doesn't matter what he looks like, commenting on anyone's looks like that is wrong. Also, if he was a female, everyone would think it was very inappropriate. So why is it treated differently when the doctor is male? This behavior needs to stop. This behavior is also why a lot of men don't come forward about sexual harrassment/abuse. Your comment is very insensitive!

[@charlesdeliberis239]

If a doctor did this to me,I'm going tell them back the heck off or I'm getting the police involved cuz I don't swing that way

[@richardferrara]

My psychiatrist my be slightly weird, but thankfully sane. My brain would explode. OMFG

[@AustinB.3322]

What about nurses? Is that okay?

[@A---ti3zz]

No. If they are part of your healthcare team then it is unprofessional.

[@LisaBeatsCancer]

I took my daughters to the ER with a sprained ankle and ended up marrying her Dr a year later!! I've dates 3 of my Drs now.

[@MA-zg2pz]

?

[@LisaBeatsCancer]

@MA-zg2pz ?? Do you have a question??

[@independent-network.]

In uk they're not allowed 🚫 here is law! also sometimes patients flirt with them!

[@mwilson7842]

This abuse exists in all professions, sadly. College professors were the worst predators in my experience. Sorry this happened to you.

[@GLD-hopeful]

It's incredibly wrong and disgusting.