What to Do If Your Partner Won’t Move in Together, Relationships Made Easy Podcast, Episode 171

[@nth256]

At the end of the day, in a relationship or not, we are all individuals and responsible for our own happiness.

[@AbbyMedcalfThriving]

Amen!

[@Pernikitty]

I love this! After 3 years of me telling him I wanted to move in and him getting freaked out- I decided to take my future into my own hands and told him about my (early) plans to move. Boy did he ever appear shocked and immediately made a commitment to moving in together in the future. I really think it’s all about your energy.

[@lisapitts9518]

We are 58 & 68, we waited 6 years to move in together, it has worked great for us. We have been living together 12 years now.

[@WynneShapka]

I loved the topic of living together and one person being resistant, your question of why is this important to you? And would you still stay if we dont live together? Your advice to be direct, and non judgmental, just ask the questions. And discussion on boundaries was very helpful to me. Thanks very much for this.

[@brunabodulica4245]

Wooow!!! I love your content!!! This was eyeopening!!!

[@AbbyMedcalfThriving]

YES!!! Thank you and this comment is making my day! Let me know any topics you'd like me to cover in the future xx

[@alam6957]

This was very helpful! Thank you 🙏

[@m27ny]

What to do when my boyfriend of 2 years promised to move in with me (it is important for me) and then he broke the promise? And he doesn’t even have alternative for that plan.

[@TheMikeNan]

Might need a new boyfriend.

[@Shaolin91z]

He has a good alternative plan....stay in his own place. Good plan 🥂

[@flash12319]

I’m in the same exact situation now! What did you end up doing?

[@jerseygirljenn4155]

Thank you so much for this valuable advice! The guy I've been seeing for the last year has commitment issues bcuz of his past relationships. I'm with him at his house 5 days a week in between work but makes me go back to my other house that I'm not happy at bcuz he says he's afraid that if he feels like I'm living there that we will start arguing bcuz that's happened to him in the past...but while I'm there the other 2 days he does message me and keeps in contact with me...

[@AbbyMedcalfThriving]

I'm glad this was helpful. Always make sure you're coming from love (for yourself too). xx

[@juliecroteau2954]

I am so happy to have come across your podcast! So helpful!!! Thank you 🤍 I am subscribing ☺️

[@AbbyMedcalfThriving]

Yay! Please let me know if there are any topics you'd like covered in the future. xx

[@berleysd1935]

I feel like this caller was me but it wasn’t me!

[@kanayaeasley389]

Thank you for this!

[@kristenfuller9168]

My boyfriend wants me to move in with him. Because he's lonely he has no family I mean he has no parents. They passed away due to cancer and kidney failer. I've only been with my boyfriend since covid. My boyfriend keeps asking me when I move in with him I don't want to anytime soon. I still live with my mom. I just want to feel rushed. At the beginning of the relationship he was already talking about me wanting to move in with him. Moving out of a mom's home is a major change. But he's just going to keep feeling lonely depressed I can't really help him. I'm here because he just asked me again last night about it askkng are we ever going to live together? I answered why do you keep bringing this up me and him talked about this manytimes

[@amberdelaney4365]

I needed this

[@AbbyMedcalfThriving]

So happy this was helpful! Fills my heart. xx

[@PWoods-cd6tk]

For a family, marriage makes sense, but over 50 with no children, no. Privacy, freedom to be a slob, living in a nag free zone, the ability to work on projects and hobbies that your partner is not interested in, why would you want to cohabitate?

[@yunggolem4687]

Took me three tries to realize living with a woman is always the same & always a mistake, don't be like me... learn faster. They all follow the same programming in that environment and it is absolutely excruciating for a man. When she thinks you're locked in, trapped, she deprioritizes all the things you liked about her. 53X slows to a trickle, she nags constantly, she tries to spend your money on herself, she loses all respect for your time, and she will try to use you as a source of entertainment then start fights if you say no. She'll start fights for no reason (as all women do) and because she has you contained within the house and knows all your stuff is there, she thinks you're trapped & vulnerable, so she gets more and more aggressive. Say goodbye to peace & quiet, goodbye to peace of mind, goodbye to uninterrupted focus. Not to mention all the things you make yourself vulnerable to legally when it comes to domestic situations. She can claim anything and you're presumed guilty by the cops, judges, and juries. In some jurisdictions the legal standard for DV convictions is even changed to preponderance of evidence rather than beyond a reasonable doubt. The punishment for false DV claims is typically nothing or a slap on the wrist, so there's almost no risk to her when she inevitably gets irrationally angry and decides she wants to ruin your life.

[@ladylove4087]

What if he doesn't want to move out of his parents house he wants to stay with his for ever parents.😂😭

[@riyaadrhoda3990]

The ideal relationship is to live apart if you don't have to build a life together. Both are established in life already. He has his house and she has her's. They spend time at each other's houses and just support and love each other. Once you move in other issues start.

[@mattc9446]

Respect their decision…

[@shantavalentine9537]

I’m going through this now. I broke up with this guy for about 4 months to make a statement. He came back with some many false promises. As far as getting approved to buy a house then backing out after looking at so many. Now I’m pregnant with his child and he much rather live and take care of his mom who cries about her struggling than being concerned I may struggle alone. It’s like he’s his mom boyfriend. I’m just fed up and I was clear of my expectations before he chase me down to get me back. I’ve had to walk away pregnant this is just distasteful to me

[@AbbyMedcalfThriving]

I'm so proud of you for walking away. I think you're likely right on that his primary relationship is with his mom. You're brave and deserve someone who can meet you where you are. Sending much love to you and your baby.

[@Shaolin91z]

Why would you get pregnant before you got married? He's doing right. Men should never move in before marriage

[@Shelly00050]

Please get to the point to answer the question

[@ladylove4087]

Well they not trying to never marry you either people like that don't want to be married anyway just leave them alone.

[@Dragonfly_magictarot]

That Melissa person sounds like she’s in a dead end relationship 😬