What to do when everything falls apart | by Ajahn Brahm | 18-05-2012

[@lordbyron3603]

Everything did fall apart …. last November 2021 , when I was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer non-Hodgkin’s Lymphoma! I went from a healthy 165 lbs to 110 lbs in 1 month. Nothing but skin and bones. I should have died ! I was in so much pain that I wanted to die ! I didn’t want to live anymore. But here I am 7 months later. Alive and well !!! My family and friends couldn’t believe it; including the doctors who treated me initially. They didn’t think I’d make it! I DID NOT EXPECT To make it ! Some of my friends even question whether I was sick or not because I look so good. One said it almost seems that my cancer was UNDONE ! My life did turn around in a dime! Another Buddhist monk who inspired me during this terrible period was Thich Hnat Hanh ! He said to meet what ever it is that faces you and not to run away, embrace it and Use the energy of Mindfulness to help you! There was nothing I can do ! I had cancer! So I calmly rested in my predicament and just allowed life to unfold itself.

[@mer4631X]

Wow that's incredible. I'm glad you are feeling better now. So things did improved in your life.

[@henryhuynh3574]

nice

[@matijasevictomislav]

'Just allowed life to unfold itsel', such a powerful statement. Must be precious insights into life. Glad that you are still with us.

[@Boris_Chang]

@@matijasevictomislav It sounds somewhat Taoist to me.

[@sachinthaherath4902]

@Lord Byron Glad to hear you've made it through...This Too Will Pass😌👍🙌 Hope you've learnt a lot throughout this 'growing pain' of life🙏💛

[@sushiguy5125]

By the grace of God and KZbin I found Ajahn Brahm and this video. I’ve probably listened to it 150X and Ajahn Brahm’s videos over a thousand times. This single presentation helped me through the darkest times in calmness that lasted for years by helping me to reframe the challenges, rid my mind of negativity, sit in neutrality and then charge forward to positive outcomes. Thank you Ajahn Brahm!

[@ihatra4756]

"if there's nothing to do, then do nothing. Enjoy yourself." such a simple notion yet it makes all the difference.

[@madhura0403]

This talk saved my life when I was going thru a very difficult time 10 years ago. I learnt the art of forgiveness and my ghosts of the past stop haunting me. No more tigers chasing me, I am now riding a tiger with compassion and healthy boundaries. Now I am teaching the same and assisting others. I learnt I cab be a rainbow🌈in someone else 's cloud. Thank you for your fun loving teaching way ❤😊

[@azn884]

I lost count on how many times I've listened to this talk :) mostly when I'm at work

[@johanvermont]

good talk.

[@qambi1]

yea, I always play it in the background while at work :D

[@TwoGrainsOfGold]

Azn88 same!! 🙏🏼

[@akalankalokubogahawatta]

Same here

[@Elegance191]

It offers me hope 🙏

[@benjithebigben5276]

The most fun-loving, kind, wise, moral and upright dhamma teacher I could find at a young, tender age struggling with severe, paralyzing illness. Eternal gratitude to this renunciant, this beautiful monk whose positivity, loving-kindness, compassion can reach across the world wide web to anyone whose hearts is open to receive. Gratitude belongs to the superior men :)) "Please lower your expectations." :))

[@mikedang3613]

The video quality may be potato-tier, but the sermon of Ajahn Brahm leaves our minds richer than the richest men on this the Earth.

[@zelk4971]

I listened to this teaching several times. But now my life actually fell apart and listening to it again today made me lift my spirit. Thank you great teacher... thank you Buddha for showing me the way...

[@andreadeans2520]

When you lose your job, think your going to lose your best friend, lose all your self confidence, sink into depression and bad habits, that’s when you come to talks like this and I pray this too shall pass 🙏🏼 in the meantime the honey is the only thing keeping me going. I’m staying hopey

[@lordbyron3603]

I did not expect Life to be so disappointing ... but it is. I’m one of those people that thought Life was a fairy tale and everything would be rosy and wonderful.

[@communistrussia]

Me too :-)

[@andiepanagaris5028]

Me three

[@SC-jh9qp]

I've always been a pessimist about the long term and I've not been disappointed.

[@angelariley5403]

Expectation is the problem.

[@ID-8491]

@@angelariley5403 So are the negative expecations.

[@lvntravels]

I will heal. I will take each day and be thankful to open each eye every a.m. I will make peace with my life. Thank you Ajahn Brahm you are my inspiration.

[@hennym10]

I just randomly spent like 2 hours going through your page and all the channels, found some gems! No idea why, but thank you

[@angelariley5403]

You are affected by what you see in your chosen path, remember the reason, let go of what you have no control over.

[@kanethompson708]

Thank you

[@sachinthaherath4902]

@Distance yourself😌

[@MrOliverTube]

It is said, the Buddhas appear where they're needed. Indeed.

[@Elegance191]

It's August 2020 and I come back to this talk still. It helps me so much. I want to be strong to help my son get well from a depression. I am guilty of the pick n mix attitude depending on what's bothering me; trying to reap some wisdom from Ajahn Brahm. 😊

[@venven809]

You will get through your difficulty. I know how you feel. Now I also have to deal with the condition of my son, who several months ago is diagnosed with epilepsy. Our difficulties just pop up like these. Nobody knows. Just enjoy our life

[@Elegance191]

@Ven Ven Thank you. your words help me have hope. You too, your son will be well, with your care. May you have peace too.

[@dmarianne6163]

"There's always honey dripping down. And your job when you're between a tiger and a snake is to enjoy the honey." :) I've just realised that in my life buddhism & teachings like this one are the honey that's currently dripping down & making tough times much more bearable. Thank you very much Ajahn Brahm for this teaching & it helped me a lot! :)

[@DelgueAdventures]

Mmmmm that's delicious!

[@bastian6173]

Don't forget that sometimes when you examine the tiger and the snake very closely, they're actually not tigers and snakes but actually just some cute rabbits and mice. Sometimes our perceptions are way off and what is a mouse in realite becomes a tiger.

[@sachinthaherath4902]

@@bastian6173 Great point👌😎

[@joycemansfield1108]

I love ajahn brahm! Ive listened to 100s of hours .he has changed my life.his teachings helped me alot.i also repeat his teachings to others.they say " I never thought of it like that."

[@ChE2003YY]

Thank you Ajahn Brahm...whenever I'm down, I always turn to your talks and they help me so much. My gratitude 🙏 🙏🙏 to you

[@robertmitchell8630]

This too will pass, life is a series of the unexpected,both good & bad. imagine how many suicides, anxiety and depression this can save countless people

[@ARdave311]

+Robert Mitchell amen man, this was a amazing talk.

[@meltingpotmeme6181]

At least delay it in the hopes that a reason to go on develops.

[@khoobe8881]

@@meltingpotmeme6181 "Be ready. Everything is impermanent!" Let matters go by -- my beloved Bhante & continue to serve mankind.

[@janetnjie5019]

Can it!! I'm so anxious right now from work expectations 😫 I struggle with with tasks due to hip arthritis and feel so unsupported right now

[@robertmitchell8630]

@@janetnjie5019 Being okay if it happens and being okay if it doesn't happen is a very powerful place to be All the best , the external world is a projection of one's internal world So create an internal world of your desires bless all even the ones who annoys you and watch the external world you desire unfolds

[@fredrikbeckker125]

The best part is probably "when you relax and be at peace you live up to everyones expectations" I Will try ro remember that♥️🌷

[@minecraftkid50978]

Thank you for sharing your wisdom. I have problems, we all do. Sometimes I dont know what to do anymore, now is one of those times and this helped me get my mind in a way that will be best for us all. I'm going to enjoy the blessings around me, be thankful for what I have, and enjoy the time I have. I cant help whats affecting me, its out of my hands. Our love can be the best and worst things. I will always love and always be thankful. Maybe a gap will open, I hope so, but im ready to take that train heading towards me dead on if it doesnt turn, im tied to the tracks and my ropes are atleast keeping me warm.

[@wedihhabte]

actually ya have no idea how many people you ar helping by sharing this wonderful talks.thankyou from the bottom of my heart. God bless ya . From UK

[@westleycharringate9526]

I love listening to these talks. I lost 10 years of my life through uncontrollable pain and sudden change. I’m better now but older and feeling cheated. This helps. Thank you so much. 😢🙂

[@lordbyron3603]

I also listen to Ajahn Martin and J. Krishnamurti. Ajahn Martin’s teachings is direct and straight. He’s a no-nonsense kinda guy. He doesn’t fool around with soft nice words for you to hear. He’s opposite from Ajahn Brahm. Sometimes I really need to face myself... face all the ways and methods we trick ourselves from seeing the truth, and Ajahn Martin’s teachings helps me with that.

[@LeePearce-wq6pv]

Whilst being abused and the imagery came across my mind that two abusers in my head were a tiger and snake... I realised if I'm dangling in a hole I have a thousand tigers above and hundreds of snakes beneath me! then I thought; if I'm holding on to a root, I'm in real trouble because I'm pretty heavy, and when I look up and see a bee hive I desperately try to avoid any honey going into my mouth because I'm Vegan! The moral is.. sometimes there is no Honey! Sometimes things are not ok, and there is NOTHING that is going to make it ok. My ADVICE ; Wait, Things Change.. And That, Unless We Die.. Is Inevitable.

[@TheBohemiansoul]

I wish people were more compassionate with Ajahn Brahm.

[@bonnieziemer749]

Thank you so much for reaching out to everyone. I am incredibly thankful that i found this. I have been in a terrible slump lately and this made me step back and realize that i need to wake up and live. This too will pass.

[@TheSkinnyFairy]

Thank you, it is 4:37 and I couldn't sleep. When ever wanted to close my eyes, my worries came to my mind. came to check my email and the email that you downloaded something popped out. thank you, it is such a comforting subject and just in time. thank you! thank you! thank you!

[@frederickstewart6217]

When everything falls apart just breathe. Life is sweet if you let go of your suffering. Just let go

[@7upkevin]

Well......in 2019, this talk still inspires me....thank you for your timeless wisdom 🙂🙏🏼

[@shaneross7428]

So very wise. Thank you. Eat the honey through every bad situations. If there's nothing to do don't do anything. If there's something to do give it everything you have.

[@qmutube]

Wonderful talk, as always. When i feel life is hard to deal with, i always turn to his talk and it makes me feel much better :)

[@Oneminuteguitarkenji]

This talk saved my life so many times.

[@elodievieilleblanchard8034]

I love Ajahn Brahm so much ! Even in the midst of chaos and suffering he brings me joy and laugh :-)

[@maralynfarber2068]

Yes, amen.

[@monus782]

My mother tells me to "not worry and be happy" at times and the tea story made me decide to take those words to heart, really appreciate that these talks are available. More than two years ago I was pretty suicidal and I realize that it was because I was left with a huge void of purpose after leaving a fundamentalist Christian lifestyle and I felt that I had nothing left to live for, I'm grateful I didn't go through it and it did come to pass. A couple of weeks ago after listening to another lecture of yours I came to realize what was probably behind my depression (it was in part because of loss of identity) and I think that I've finally seen the light at the end of the tunnel and feel more alive than before, for that you have my eternal gratitude.

[@staceyklj]

Thank you Ajahn Brahm. I have endless appreciation for your talks, especially this one.

[@matildaweerarathna8718]

Sadu sadu sadu 🙏🙏🙏I don't have enough words to explain how greatful I am to listen to venerable Ajhan Brahmawanso 🙏🙏🙏May all beings be well & happy 🤍Namo Buddhaya 🙏🪷🙏Namo Dhammaya 🙏🪷🙏Namo Sanghaaya🙏🪷🙏

[@RedMi-vt9ft]

Mi

[@CharityDeA]

so positive, reassuring and most of all comforting....thank you Ajahn Brahm!😊

[@MrMintha]

You are the symbol of wisdom. You know life so well. Everything you talked are all very true. Thank u so much.

[@angelariley5403]

We all have this ability

[@Tstaru22]

homework is not so dull when i have this played in the background =). Thank you!!!

[@IRG849]

Excellent discourse. Thank you Ajahn Brahm.

[@thudo5587]

As my routine everyday , I listen to this talk and i f eel you send me a message " don't worry,be hoppy". Thank you so much 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻. I am in difficult financial situation and I am going to see my mom in hospital 's dead bed this weekend!!! Thank Ajahn Brahm for your wisdom and compassion 🙇🙇🙇

[@LoveintheshapeofaPitBull]

Thank you for filming and sharing, it's wonderful that you can be there for me anytime I need you.🙏💕

[@danniedee1]

Thank you for a message with so much meaning & kind words to help people.

[@kuer38]

One of my favourites!! And has somehow shown up when I most needed it. Sadu sadu saaaadduuuuu

[@123chandimal]

wonderful ! Ajan brahm.Like drizzling rain in the desert.It's raining here these days .This weather encourages me do Anapanasathi meditation.I like that meditation so much.This remind me the conversation which occurred between Buddha and A farmer before the rain in a rainy evening

[@kupakralicesitarot7222]

This beautiful speech and especially the honey story reminded me of the movie "a serious man". I recommend you to watch

[@saketkhanna2713]

A most beautiful talk. Thank you dear Ajahn.

[@marydonna9607]

Thank you ajahn brahm

[@mobiusloop339]

*woof* "Yes, it's exciting isn't it? Thank you for those special effects". Gotta love this guy. He has changed my life for the better.

[@mirsadgacevic3890]

This brother is amazing!! Love you ❤️❤️

[@chrisdecker1443]

Ur a great teacher, namaste!

[@Pelagasos]

I know this story's Sufi version which is always my North Star to find my way in good days and bad days. All shows the same Universal Truth. Thanks lot for your sharing.

[@qambi1]

For my friend's birthday, I bought her a ring.. engraved in it the words "This too Will Pass". She loved it, thought it was the best pressie ever... lol

[@faisaljaveedtv]

Ive ended up here when everything im my life is falling apart n i dont know what to do

[@bhushanpatil6665]

This too will pass.

[@stephenlynch5143]

Your words my thoughts

[@bloglife5484]

Absolutely Love this lecture.. AB is the best.

[@stephenlynch5143]

Most definitely my friend Peace I've been listening to him for a few years now Peace

[@timcole100]

Thank you Ajahn Brahm.

[@LCarefortheworld]

Thank you, Ajohn Brahm. I hope I’ll get a chance to visit you In the near future.

[@vidunr4177]

I have recently broken up with my first ever girlfriend of 8 months and i was completely lost in what u was meant to do as my expectations where so high that i was thinking about marriage even, my dad linked ne this video after he found out about my situation and i want to thank him and ajam brahm for this new motivation in my life to keep fighting on.

[@allanreyes6873]

Thank you once again-- So very valuable Will use this now ❤My gratitude is like that well you described 🙏

[@jayathvidanage380]

Einstein was an Atheist ( also a German Jew ) .. …He once said I want to know God’s thoughts why he create the world Not how and other things. He also said ….The Religion of the future will be a cosmic religion. It should avoid dogma and theology. Covering both nature and the Spiritual, it should be based on a religious sense arising from the experience of all things as a meaningful unity..If there is any religion that could cope with modern scientific needs it would be Buddhism

[@georgiegirlize]

+Jayath Vidanage haha. yes the 'religion' of the age is atheism. (Buddhism is atheistic._

[@jayathvidanage380]

??how much you know in Buddhism

[@jayathvidanage380]

georgiegirlize Thank you for the comments. Buddhism knowledge that GodS exist but God ( s) not in a superior position in Buddhist teaching Please read some chapters in Buddhism ie The Discourse of Blessing .,...,A young Deities asked Buddha 'what are the good blessing' Buddha gave a wonderful reply

[@jayathvidanage380]

While Buddhism dose not ask to worship A God .. it also acknowledge the existence of gods perhaps a good example is Magala Suttra The discourse of Blessing .The Introduction to This Suttra said …There was a debate among people what are the highest Blessing were..( make people to be successful in their life “ lucky “ ) ?? .. then this debate happen to get into among gods and goddess too .. ..??so ONE DAY ….( as the introduction to this suttra ) said when the night was far spent, a certain deity(a young god ) whose surpassing splendor illuminated the entire Jeta Grove, came to the presence of the Exalted One and, drawing near, respectfully saluted him and stood at one side. Standing thus, he addressed the Exalted One in verse: "Many deities and men, yearning after good, have pondered on blessings.[4] Pray, tell me the greatest blessing!" (Some people translate it as The Great Collection of Success-Generators) Keeping away from unwise and unwholesome friends, And seeking the company only of those who are wise, Giving honour and service to those that are worthy recipients These rank among the highest success-generators. Living in an appropriate area of residence, with a record of good living in one's own past, And with perfect mastery over one's own self -- These rank among the highest success-generators.,,,so there were 32 points in Discourse of blessing

[@arnav520]

Gold, changed my life.

[@michellecheng6817]

This speech is extremely powerful, insightful, and therapeutic! Do not miss this speech for life lessons.

[@MrFrost227]

I seem to be drawn to repeated viewings of this video. I think there is something here that I need to learn very badly..

[@toreybelle1562]

The story below just turned out to be too long . I'm just in so much pain. I keep coming back to this video hoping it will lift the darkness again. Everything is gone.

[@Elegance191]

What is the problem Torrey Belle? Are you feeling better now?

[@acemany1126]

His problem was that he couldn't poop.

[@robertberganza6231]

I love you. from the bottom of my heart thank you

[@nolifeonearth9046]

my life is a series of ajahn brahm videos. unfortunately it will pass :/

[@_PM_1322]

amazing talk, amazing human

[@alllifematters]

Love you Ajahn Brahm!! 🙏

[@tommulligan5849]

Love this. Really inspired me today as I look into my financial. challenges

[@wootwootwoot32]

Ya this really helps me recently so useful to adjust the perspective when outside circumstances can’t be adjusted!!!

[@aryaravish]

Thanks a lot. Very interesting talk with so many stories involved.

[@NadeeshaniSenevirathna]

Just so wonderful as always...

[@celsothedevil]

This man helps me a lot...

[@HuyenNguyen-bb3cg]

Thank you so much, Ajahn Brahm

[@MrSushi1010]

Thank you for answering the What do you do when people push you? with Be flexible. It helps me so much 🙏❤️

[@timothymacdonnell9079]

Ajahn Brahm is awesome!

[@fra7399]

you are so special to me 🙏🏾

[@n8gard828]

I feel so stuck in my life i am 21 and i feel so behind. I have no degree i luckily can keep a job and have work experience and i love to learn. However i feel like such a loser. When i turned 21 I got bells palsy lost my job and because i lost my job i had no insurance and no i am in debt and with this covid thing it took me forever to get a job and now i am extremely depressed gaining too much wieght and i just feel stuck. I am start a new job but i just feel so defeated because the road to catch up is so long

[@madhuridas4745]

How you talk to yourself in your head is very important. Be kind and compassionate to yourself. Try to do a few things in a week that lift your mood. I'm much much older than you, and you have so much of life to live. I've learnt to learn from errors and mistakes - I made so many. And then try to gain insights from these. Don't compare with others. You are unique. Hope things work out for you X

[@Budismo7917]

Thanks Ajahn Brahm I like your explanation. I like the explanation of the party men who did not realize difficult times come in life but between difficult times we need to enjoy the honey again and party a little bit. Maybe in Thailand its a good start to find peace in Buddhist temples also.

[@Lalosalamanca6]

Thank you ajan brahm🙏🙏🙏

[@DebbieRodgers]

Thank you! I enjoyed your talk very much.

[@Toudi74]

Thank You Ajahn ❤🌹

[@letsBe-er]

this story is my favorite one i am in trouble now in every way but i feel hopy again thanks a lot

[@mariagrant7042]

Thank you for this!

[@jamesblack9382]

i really love your style of teaching. its funny and really makes you rethink life. Found you randomly while ive been listening to Sadhguru. Ive found that i like to switch between teachers / styles. Blessings to you bud. Keep up the good work.

[@tonypackham5421]

Love you AJ. Your the best.thankyou for being you x.

[@myhighest1]

I hope and pray, life is going well with you. Peace

[@deerskin4225]

Very freeing. Thank you!

[@123chandimal]

Limited amount of GB these days.I got vacation. So no enough signals to internet access ! thank u Ajan Brahm!

[@bhushanpatil6665]

Dont worry, be Hopey

[@thudo5587]

Thanks for your dharma teaching

[@theukwatcher]

i must taste the honey more and have more cups of tea

[@chitrasenaratne4966]

Don’t worry be hopeeeee 💐💐💐🙏🙏🙏🙏sadu sadu saduuuuuu

[@spiritu_alley]

Wow, I needed it. Thanks so much❤❤❤

[@Michael-Philip]

How do I look to the future with "hope" but also " lower my expectations" and " expect the unexpected" ? Is this negative thinking?

[@natu--]

I wish this could be translated to spanish so that my parents can be able to understand. My family is falling apart and I'm losing strength and words to help with this situation.

[@PhoenixProdLLC]

Yeah, well, it's NOT the Doubt that kills you Ajahn Brahm, it's the Hope. 😶 And oddly, this video just popped up on my phone - unexpectedly :P - though I hadn't browsed too the channel nor opened up KZbin 😱 Just BINK! Up it popped. I listened though.

[@jjaent]

Ditto! Well I was in you tube but wasn’t looking for it - video found me lol.

[@cartesiaLive]

This too will pass.

[@stellaschmucker3059]

Thank you!

[@bethhawkes2679]

Such goodness you give!!! Thank you!! : )))

[@shameembunsie785]

Love Ahjan Brahm