What to do When You Are TRIGGERED

[@catmomma3119]

This gentleman should have atleast a million followers. Because this info is gold!! I havnt worked in 3 years because of fear and his videos helped me take a step and today was day 2 of working at a grocery store.

[@katiesanders96]

I agree with your opinion, and the progress you made in a single day is truly awesome! High five! 🙌

[@marieyoder1195]

Amen! Keep running to get your prize! WISDOM, PEACE, FREEDOM more….. Mark DeJesus is the man that helps u think thru these things in an understanding that’s in your mind heart and soul like I have never heard before. I have 2 of his books. Life changers! Blessings!

[@alexandriarcollins]

Praise God👏🏼🤍

[@catmomma3119]

@@marieyoder1195 thank you. Yes I just ordered my first book from amazon. I cant wait to read it

[@Flamingobear]

Praise God! Happy for you and your victory! Keep going sister!

[@janegallagher6162]

It's not so bad being 65 and alone, much better than being 65 and with the wrong person!

[@establishednlove]

Definitely!❤

[@missadug]

These videos are truly saving my life and mental health. Thank you so much!

[@laurenphillips8188]

Sir… God has GRACED AND GIFTED you for this!!! God bless you. I’m not going to say I’m glad you aren’t Pastoring anymore, but I’m glad you have this channel and you aren’t ONLY behind a pulpit. Whew… 🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@sethschannel9804]

Mark thank you for committing to helping people with mental disorders, depression and such. My buddy Kyle introduced your channel to me.

[@beautygirlsguide]

Really appreciate you and your wife’s ministry! Not very many pastors speak on these topics, so it’s so encouraging! God Bless y’all 🙌🏼

[@sharoncassell4311]

Tears. Thank you for your compassion. Redemptive...yes....I ....will....hope😢❤

[@yvettewatson1483]

Mark your videos have been a godsend in the last few yrs as i navigate trauma counseling and EMDR. I realize I am looking for ways to avoid triggers rather than looking at it as an opportunity for redemption. The last 2 yrs have been so hard. But simultaneously I've grown so much. God bless you.

[@Tyrus919]

Haven’t watch the whole video yet but this was perfect timing…wow lol

[@Liz-in8lu]

@@Tyrus919 same. Very much needed for me now. I have a short fuse (easily triggered) and would like to change that.

[@lynniepooh365]

WOW Mark! I’ve been dealing with neural circuit dizziness for nearly a year and looking for Christian emotional healing and your video "The ONE Scripture Saved My Mental Health" popped up. This is your 6th video I’ve watched, and everyone hit me right where I needed it. I'll be using all of your resources to do my needed emotional work. I’m so thankful the Lord used the YT algorithm to bring you into my life.🎉

[@Tashamacktv]

I love this video. You are seriously inspiring and I appreciate all that you do ! Your channel has changed my life for the better and I feel your words very much. God bless you and thank you for being obedient to God! 💯❤️‍🔥🙏🏾☺️

[@thenarethechildrenfree]

😂 I love how you put it in all CAPS, it's so true

[@shannonl9633]

Mark and the insight he provides is nothing short of incredible and important and timely for millions across the world. NO ONE talks about any of these topics, nor do they understand the real need that many have for these teachings. I deeply appreciate that he doesn't 'spiritualize' or use 'spiritual bypassing' to cover up and avoid these deeper areas/struggling that so many are experiencing, and with no one to help guide them due to lack of knowledge. Just about every topic that he touches upon, has been my experience for more than three decades. I kept thinking and believing that if I read more, prayed more, believed more, had more faith, did more of all the 'right things', that these things would naturally go away and resolve themselves. What a HUGE & incredible falsity. What a grave misunderstanding of how God works and how we ultimately get healed and recover and transform. 💜💜💜

[@Stefan-t3k]

God bless the body of Christ. I learn so much.

[@miggy2g]

Super wisdom in this video. 🔥 I don’t even know what super wisdom is but it feels right!

[@lukebraganzajones1662]

Thanks brother, i have suscribed now for a few months because i believe you deserve the help for all the help you are giving by sharing your experiences, its been helping to understand so much about the OCD, guilt, shame etc from the past, being a new born Christian , raised a christian but never gave my Life to christ really, but a few months ago i did and all started to change, the enemy started to attack me , through guilt, shame , lies from the past so hearing all this has helped me learn that the healing journey takes time and is a process! I trust in the Lord with all my heart and Will not allowe the enemy to win ever! Love from Spain my brother in christ ❤

[@Nightwalker25-m3u]

I think this is one of those topics where It is easier said then done. I do want to respond to myself in a more gracious and loving way unlike criticism going on in myself. I dont want to take offense so easily.

[@jt469469]

Thank you Mark. I pray God would bless you in every way and continue to use you to rescue people. Your videos give me such hope and ease so much pressure.

[@WT-nc7nj]

I am 61 alone no marriage, no friends, and no family. Church people aren't any different than the rest of the world. While there has been loneliest. I am getting to believe it's the best thing for me.

[@jwright4988]

Stay strong. I understand

[@lukebraganzajones1662]

And god bless everyone Who IS struggling, trust me God is working in US and even tho we cant see It, believe in It! This is a learning journey! Thanks brother Mark!❤

[@charlabarnett6274]

Wow what you have covered are the stages of grief. My husband and I have just gone through all of this with our adult child. It was like a tornado and hurricane all hit at once. My husband said, "How are we going to "cut through this Gordian knot!" With that statement he made was the answer. Only God can untie this Gordian knot. He is in the insanity stage of grief.(bargaining stage) and he is spirling completely out of control. (Divorce from a narcissist after 12 years of abuse) And his brokenheart resulted in a broken mind to the point at 38 years old he had a heart attack, ended up in jail with a complete psychotic break. We don't even recognize him but God does. He is a son of God and God will not forsake him! He will come out of this and be stronger or God will be merciful and deliver him from the curse of grief. Thank you for this word from God. I am so grateful you are allowing God to use you in this way. God bless! I have your book The OCD Healing Journey. Thank you!

[@daysmith5426]

This was extremely helpful to me because of where I am currently in my healing journey. This was gold from start to finish. Thank you immensely!

[@anniemoulinsteffen3465]

14:00 I want to give Glory to our Lord for all the healing you received from him.

[@holla_j]

When I get triggered it is usually done by someone who is "gaslighting" me and then i go into rage monster. I much prefer to be around people that don't know how to push my buttons. Hence, I keep to myself.

[@Nightwalker25-m3u]

Like Mark says in his videos sometimes. We weren't equipped in knowing how to deal with our emotions in a fruitful way. This is an very inspiring video indeed.

[@Mom_Luvs_Tech]

Same!! I’m and ENFP with VERY high Ne function. I know exactly what’s going on and when someone exaggerates to make me seem worse, someone distorts, someone gaslights me, projects onto me, I can tell!!!

[@smokingcrab2290]

Welcome to married life lol

[@lillymedesto]

TRUE GOLD - ALL HIS VIDEOS ARE AMAZINGLY HELPFUL & applicable immediately to our lives!!! They have been a lifeline to me! ♥Thank You Mark!!!! I have bought all your books & will donate to you when I have the funds. Your ministry blows my mind.

[@melissahay328]

I had a baaaad trauma response at my daughter’s wedding last week. Worse reaction I’ve had in quite a long time. I knew what was happening and yet I couldn’t get a handle on it. I KNEW a childhood wound was activated yet I felt like I couldn’t control it. I shut down and withdrew. Later, when I had some time to myself.. I did some tapping (EFT) and that really helped. However, at dinner I found myself getting triggered all over again. I felt shaky and full of RAGE. I basically turned on my husband who I felt wasn’t being supportive. I was dysregulated for several days after. Now I’m full of shame with how I handled it all. Agh! Healing is such a slow process! I’ve done so much work and yet have so much more to do.

[@heartfire1672]

Sending you a big hug of compassion from the Father’s heart. ❤️ He loves you so much.

[@jwright4988]

Blessings to all. I pray everyone finds peace.

[@AliA-we2uu]

Highly appreciated Mark! 🙏🙏🙏

[@martamccurdy1379]

I can’t put into words how much this helped me and the way it’s instilling hope in me. Every word and sentence made perfect sense to me and it’s what I’m currently trying to change so desperately. I’ve been praying before and today almost insistent with God for healing, and these videos came up.

[@geetha9830]

Thank you so much for this message. I was really seeking God the question,you answered. It will practice them. May God bring peace to everyone who is struggling.

[@joesoto3742]

Exactly what I needed to hear, thank you Mark 🙏

[@DonaldRPilon]

Excellent! Relevant! Thank you!

[@Tashamacktv]

Oh my gosh, I spiraled the other day and everything you decided is accurate smh I got triggered because someone asked to date me. I’m fine with not dating, being single, and seeking God. I registered it as a threat and I flipped.

[@smokingcrab2290]

That's crazy

[@julierickert2145]

Yes! This was very helpful for me, Mark. I've been trying to figure out why I bristle when one lady shares during Sunday school, book study or just speaks to me. This video showed me that the healing from a past hurt isn't completed. There are still pieces of offense and hurt to be removed by God.

[@markwilliams3994]

I can say that all the things you’ve mentioned when being triggered happen, silence, etc. Often confusion too.

[@TheNarrowPath40]

Spot on!!! Wow. 😮

[@ugoammadichinonso]

What happens when u don't react but stock in ur head, still don't know how to get out of ur head. Then conderm urself for stocking in ur head, thinking the way u are thinking

[@tamikad]

This has given me much hope, thank you!

[@WHIRLwind1923]

OMG NEED THIS

[@laifun2174]

Thank you very much. The video came at the right time for me, practical advice and tips to my triggers. I can identify with what you are saying.

[@margaretfroen777]

Thank you so much! This is soooo good and is helping me so much. It is like the other one wrote. Like GOLD! It brings light and revelation and understanding. Giving me HOPE that I will be able to overcome. You described perfectly what I have felt. All that disconnection, confusion, and panic. And now I have hope that I will be able to overcome. Thank you so much! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@jamarionw1344]

Does being triggered mean trying not to do a compulsion or being tempted to

[@CharleesCraftyLife]

I'm holding my breath.....so I don't cry.

[@ktura51]

I enjoy your videos so much. I'm sharing them with family. Thankyou. You give me hope

[@marianmears8026]

Awesome video 💞

[@jesusis-coming-soon2328]

Always a blessing!

[@rochelleh48]

This video was so informative and helpful. Thanks so much!

[@Jesusandmentalhealth]

Excellent content!! DBT is a great reminder. You've inspired me to revisit it.

[@ProCoach-su5hq]

Thank you for being my brother from another mother! lol! Love your candid talks. Triggering is new to me and you have explained it perfectly! Ohhhh I have felt it! Thank you.

[@shannonl9633]

1. Delay reaction to the trigger. Don't act on the impulse(s) to lash out or make the thing or person that triggered you the Focal point. It is Not really about that thing or person. 2. Begin practicing Unconditional love towards yourself. (begin learning to respond to yourself differently) 3. Take notice (become a witness) of your emotional life / experience. 4. Ask yourself: Is what I'm experiencing (feeling) representative of (mirroring) something similar (familiar) from my past? What is being signaled? 5. Black and white thinking is NOT helpful. Everything or Everyone is ALL good or ALL bad. Just be Aware of your tendency to think / interpret from this place. An Open perspective is much healthier and balanced because it allows room for all the gray in between. 6. Don't demand that others understand your experience (feelings). Your experiences are precious; stop 'casting your pearls before swine'. 7. Ask yourself: What am I believing about this situation/ experience that needs renewal (an alternative perspective on this experience)? What is HERE for me to learn so that I can begin practicing anew? 8. Learn to Practice (this is a process) renewed responses. Give yourself room and patience to learn practicing renewed responses. This insight and information is as precious as GOLD. Thank you, deeply, for your work and dedication, Mark. You're a gift ❤️

[@sofiamilan242]

Amazing content! Thank for your study ❤

[@frances9417]

Thank you for sharing.🙏

[@mavrosskylos2989]

this is gold

[@maryt.2067]

very helpful thank you

[@azureart5180]

thanks for this video mark! it helped me a lot. i do have a question regarding the 3rd point. i agree that sometimes people can give you helpful or good advice but deliver it in a wrong way. i have struggled with religious ocd for years, i always obsess about whether it’s sinful for me to enjoy certain things like some secular artists or movies or whatnot. my family has come down pretty hard on me recently for enjoying a secular artist & continue to say it’s wrong of me to like her music as a Christian. it’s been a very painful experience and throws me into so many spirals. because my ocd takes it to such crazy levels and makes it so hard to think logically. i guess my question is, how do i know when their advice is sound and good, even if it’s delivered harshly? is it something that you just learn in time? sorry if this doesn’t make sense. thanks for the video!

[@Nightwalker25-m3u]

I gotta get this DBT thing.

[@cindyglynn2675]

Beautiful Fruit!! Thank you!

[@FromHeavensPortals]

Hello Mark, can you please direct me to your messages on OCD? Do you have any videos or books on this subject specifically? Thank you so much!

[@aienamukanova6930]

Thank you

[@andrepotts5337]

Let him cook🔥🔥

[@StorgeAgape]

So good Mark❤✝️

[@blue62show]

CPTSD helps 🙏🏼 Suicidal Ideation helps 🙏🏼 Major Depression helps 🙏🏼 ...please, thank you

[@jugdissbheekha502]

Thanks!

[@fearitselfpinball8912]

Mark, when there’s something valid or important to communicate… how do you balance that. My partner is so uncomfortable with conflict or disagreement (or hearing feelings) that she shuts it down immediately-usually by pronouncing on the situation in a final, authoritative way that 1. invalidates and 2. stops the conversation. She then leaves or puts on headphones. It brings back the bad old scapegoating days of my FOO but it feels like confusing double duty to have to manage my own triggers and figure out when it’s OK to speak up when what’s said is valid (but auto- invalidated and urgently unwanted). It’s hard to figure out (again) what is ‘outside of me’ that needs to change in the relationship and what is ‘inside of me’ to manage…

[@markwilliams3994]

Fight or flight can also lead to control. Controlling or being controlled I believe. That’s what it sounds like.

[@smokingcrab2290]

I don't know how to control my anger (and sometimes straight up rage) that I feel that I know I cannot express when my wife psychologically abuses me and will not ever negotiate with me.

[@radioman3229]

Which one of your books cover this, showing how I can work on this?

[@rolandsalas]

I'm getting triggered right now! I need grace, now this moment. Literally, now.

[@rolandsalas]

I'm realizing that I'm really abusive towards myself... making myself do what I need to do by forcing myself... I would never treat others as badly as I treat myself.

[@debbiehaferkorn6259]

I don't hear any resolutions.

[@MargaretHeuer]

What if I struggle with drinking now and then?😢

[@rafiallakharnaior3312]

What about seeking for help from a psychiatrist?

[@lisamayo7657]

My adrenaline spikes when triggered- it seems the only thing i know to calm this adrenaline is to confront person or situation. Usually its not pretty. But it calms me down fast. But its usually inappropriate so thats not a good solution.

[@sofiyarini]

Is it wrong to avoid places that triggered us?

[@perfectionista492]

19:30 - 20:15 If it's not seasoned with God's grace, how is it helpful, even if it is technically true? What about the whole concept of the spirit of law vs. the letter of the law?

[@hannahfurcinitti7808]

If you receive the ill-spoken truth with your heart seasoned with God’s grace, it can be to your benefit even if the speaker didn’t have gracious intent. The Scriptures talk about all things being pure to those who are pure. For example, when a scientist talks about the wonder and complexity of the human body, I can receive that truth as an opportunity to praise God as Creator, even if the scientist was speaking from an evolutionist perspective. It’s like making lemonade when life gives you lemons :) Does that make sense?

[@perfectionista492]

@@hannahfurcinitti7808 Yes, it does. You can leverage the truth of what someone is saying without accepting the abusive way that they say it. Thank you for explaining. And I ask for your prayers for me to heal, so that I can receive any feedback humbly.

[@joannshannonpadayachi6934]

🙌🙌🙌🙌

[@kevinrobertjarvis2636]

It seems like you put a huge amount of emphasis on self healing and seemingly make calling out to God for rescue a weakness. I'm not sure but it feels like you put more emphasis on psychology than on the power of God. Also sometimes we do have to take every thought captive and there is such thing as very real spiritual warfare going on in people's minds, you seem to downplay this perhaps a little too much. At one point you will refer to the thoughts as harmless and to be ignored yet another time you will call them bullies that you have to stand up to and fight. You're very rarely refer to the thoughts coming from the enemy or the flesh and in fact downplay this idea. I like your channel but the contradictions and the heavy leaning towards towards relying on self....... the very self that is the problem makes it more difficult to listen to.

[@jwright4988]

Thinking. Um

[@evafagerberg1034]

Sir with all due respect…. Anxiety is The Spirit of Fear and does not belong to a believer!!!! Stop feeding in it with large words…start worshipping and ask the Lord to cleanse your mind and stop the word salad that is without meaning!!!

[@Talletc]

Don’t be triggered triggered. Stop showing your liberalism and act like a grown up