What to Do When Your Wife Comes Out As Gay!

[@yurianalvarez6039]

My wife come out being gay after 3 years of marriage and 10 months old baby boy, I won’t lie my life is miserable right now.

[@Emeraldcrystal7E]

I hope you're doing better now

[@cheetgohldstein7343]

Bro leave her. You will FIND A BETTER woman... She kept something so huge away from you.... She will leave you... Forget her....

[@alexhaggerty39]

didnt you have any idea at all. i dont mean that disrespectfully . my friend came home early from a business trip caught his wife in bed with his own sister, he had a young daughter. his wife is now with his sister co parenting their little daughter. he said no way did he see this coming. him and his wife he felt had a close relationship. he was also close with his sister no way he thought she was that way inclined. he says the truth is stranger than fiction. the trouble is he still loves his wife, he only had one sister they had always been close. he said to him it was the ultimate betrayal. he was eventually advised to get help as he thought in the end he had no way of grasping the situation that his wife and sister were together in a serious lesbian relationship. he got professional help . its been two years for hi extremely difficult for him he said. but for the sake of my daughter he has tried to be civil as the situation will allow. bottom line all he wanted was a family to love and for him to be loved. find it hard from a trust stand point to move on in a relationship extremely jaded and guarded now.

[@angelvaldez9291]

@@alexhaggerty39 I’m sorry about your friend honestly I hope his sister got apologize I think he should tell his ex wife to leave alone and let his sister drop his daughter off to his house honestly his wife was being selfish and I hope he gets to forgive his sister because she is family I hope she won’t be selfish

[@danielg1680]

All woman are bisexual or lesbian.... Don't believe them

[@stacylindsey6258]

Great advice, thank you

[@Daniel-Aguilar865]

I will never understand why people do this knowing you could be gay or questioning your sexuality yet get in a straight relationship and even marrying

[@hmarie775]

Research compulsory heterosexuality

[@hedge1417]

Cop out

[@clays1507]

Your video really was fantastic ! Iwas married 14 years with two kiddos. Amicably divorced now seven year after my ex wife’s late life realization she was gay. It’s a process but it’s all good... it’s a journey. Kids are good. I’m good and she’s remarried to a woman.

[@danielg1680]

So you are a single dad ?

[@clays1507]

Yes... it’s all good

[@danielg1680]

@@clays1507 dude.... Your story makes me don't want to have relationship with woman or getting married. I think I will be single as well I'm still 18 and you probably know girls from my generation typically are

[@clays1507]

@@danielg1680 here’s the deal. I’m 58. I don’t have any regrets on decisions I’ve made in my life. Here my advice, make decisions based on fact not fear. Also if you have kids, make decisions based on what you think is best for them. It’s the hard times that shape up into men.

[@hedge1417]

I would handle this as any other break up. There would be no friendship. Co-parenting would be the only contact as necessary. Child spends time with me on my time and time with her on her time. Much like ghostbusters....you don't cross the Streams. Finally....you are wrong. You are the victim...it's not playing a role.

[@wasclit11]

You are a better man than me. During our first 20 years of marriage I almost lost my wife to another man and I can still remember the pain. We worked through it and now have been married 51 years. I hope you find love again. You're a good man Charlie Brown. I hope the kids are ok as well. I watched a lot of ya'll's videos and got to liking all three of you and now I just want to cry - I guess I am not as tough as I thought I was and I am a disabled combat Vietnam Vet who has turned into a sentimental old man.

[@alexhaggerty39]

to me you sound like a good and descent person. all the best to you

[@Red-pv7kx]

@@alexhaggerty39 well put. Same comes from me.

[@rdickerson3019]

Thank you for making this video. Recently my wife came out and it’s having a big affect on my emotions. I’m not made at her at all, I’m just sad knowing my marriage is coming to an end. I love her with all my heart and I don’t want it to end but I can’t be selfish. I want to be best friends with her, still be in her life and she wants the same. This video has helped a lot and I can’t thank you enough for this.

[@hedge1417]

Run don't walk away. If you can be friends you can do that later.. You have to get some distance to become whole again.

[@simpelman]

Well, my first reaction would be: If you knew, or slightly felt, you had gay feelings, why did you marry me in the first place and waste my and your time? And forget alimony, baby.

[@ryandooley8610]

My wife had an affair with another woman, after 10 years of marriage and two children, she has left and come out as gay, I'm not going to lie it's destroying me 😢

[@luckygezzi]

I'm here for you as im going through this right now

[@ted1091]

What a mature, well spoken, not to mention attractive young man. You're so clear about your experience. You're absolutely right that it's not your place to define someone else's sexual identity. We're just Gay. At the same, you'll come through this even stronger and you'll meet someone who loves you for the amazing man you are.

[@ziomatthewmusic4205]

I feel for you. My first girlfriend came out as a lesbian and left me. Fortunately it was after 2 years and not more years, marriage etc. It took me years to get over it. I was so confused and felt horrible about myself. I felt like I had never been attractive and had a terrible body image. I felt also like I had abused her because she never really wanted sex with me. I went anorexic and cried every day for a long time. I was only 19 and therapy is not that easy to get as a single teenager in the UK. It is not something that we brits really do or know about. I still have anger and resentment 12 years later.

[@vincentbentley1079]

Matt, it's never too late to receive the benefit of therapy. In my area it's roughly £50/hr. If you spend £200 or £1000 to work it through, you will feel it is money worth spending when you can look back on the experience and feel good about getting through it. Don't expect miracles, but do go with a mission to achieve something. It took a lot of thinking between sessions and sometimes it was mentally draining, but I guess that's how it is supposed to work - you doing the processing. If you've already been there, done that, got the T-shirt, please consider making a financial contribution to your local youth support group that provides free professional counselling to those that can't afford it. Sessions are not always free due to lack of volunteer counsellors, and meeting rooms need to be paid for. The costs of providing counselling are paid from donations.

[@danielg1680]

All woman are bisexual or lesbian but never truly straight

[@aanujdevansh139]

@@danielg1680 really how do u know this ?

[@JayDzay]

I know this is quite late but I am going through the same thing but fighting it off that she is just lesbian straight up. I cant help to think that I am unattractive and horrible about myself since I kinda experienced it first hand from a girlfriend who loved me..

[@solo-angel]

Very emotionally intelligent video!

[@luneparadox]

YOUR SOUL IS BEAUTIFUL ROB. YOU DESERVE JOY, PLEASURE, INTIMACY, AND SOMEONE PRIORITIZING YOU!! The way you prioritize everyone else in your life!! I respect your autonomy. I'm just sending you so much love and support right now bc I truly feel you need it. I've sat back before with everything else on your othet channel for years now but seeing this relationship to the next. Please know you are so worthy of EASY and yes relationships can be easy.

[@JenGrice]

Great advice for anyone facing an unwanted divorce!

[@davegraham4607]

I actually feel like killing myself as I say this 26 years with her and now she says she's gay where do I go what do I do I love her so much.

[@Reactionmiss]

Hey stay strong dude

[@danielg1680]

Don't believe women....... All of them are lesbian or bisexual but never truly straight

[@haventpickedanameyet2527]

@@danielg1680 there are straight women. Sure, a lot of women are Sapphic in some way, but there are straight women. Also, if that was true then thatd mean theres no straight men. But there is. There could be men that are into men, but not all of them are. Also, there's asexual people. Also, if a woman marries a man they can still be bisexual. Bisexual doesn't mean lesbian, straight, ace, pan, or any other sexuality. It means bisexual. I get you're likely hurting, but telling someone not to believe women could harm them and make them lose hope

[@samsimmons728]

i feel so lost. i dont know whats right or wrong.

[@sushi8042]

@@danielg1680 hello you misogynist liar

[@jasonsky3409]

Take the time feel everything let yourself be mad angry, sad upset, confused, let it all out, and then use that to move forward. Don’t let yourself be bogged down too long though because then you can get trapped in an unhealthy cycle. It will get better.

[@DAce-vu5ct]

No amount of therapy makes this okay if someone is that absolutely lacking in the self-awareness department but they destroy their entire family there's really not any coming back from that that scar will remain forever

[@thanielxj11]

This man's hair is amazing!

[@malcolmbriggs4281]

If a woman doesn't want to be with you,let her go. Social media has caused this .

[@trlyhxly]

No amount of therapy will help somebody feel better after their wife just told them I’m in love with someone else . I would be hurt too if I had a wife of 20+ years tell me she’s gay and no longer wants me . Then gives you a I’m sorry . That feels like a backhanded apology

[@giovanniionut2392]

Don't you feel abused or tricked , I mean it's a lot of years , you that can't rewind it , if you had known , woud you do the same things that you did ?

[@darkhorse7460]

Maybe he does feel that way sometimes but compulsory heterosexuality is a real thing, if someone is hiding something from their self they're not intentionally being dishonest they're doing what society has expected them to do and that's a lot of pain and pressure on both people I'm just asking you to be empathetic

[@gibblets17]

@@darkhorse7460 my empathy isn't for people who make decades of my life a theater act to hid thier own inability to be honest. Are you gay? Yes? Can't say anything or do anything about It? Then all you have to do is NOT drag some unsuspecting bystanders into it and waste thier life.

[@theviewchaser6718]

This is a horror story sorry it happened nightmare story

[@giovanniionut2392]

Ok , I level with you Rob , I perfectly understend you , but how about that you've lost 14 years of your life ???

[@willdavies8210]

Thank you for this, I'm going through this at the moment. We are in the middle of planning our wedding but she's coming to the realisation that she's gay. It's not bitter and we're not fought about it. We've just been talking it out and being honest, We've always had a great relationship and currently we're together but I think breaking up so she can explore this part of her is on the horizon. It's by far the hardest thing I've ever been through. I'm just doing whatever I can to be there for her and support her. I hope anyone in the same position is OK but if anyone needs someone to talk to drop me a message x

[@IkanariPh]

Yes people are not completely heroes or villains it's a very very complicated situation , even if is to agree on disagreement it's better going to therapy but yeah individual it's key having support for yourself instead of only being the "comprehensive part" or salty sad part , at least both would try to communicate in a healthy way in the future , obviously first anger and depression could be a natural thing and no shame bc it's also questioning themselves as well as the person who comes out

[@grimreaperts1]

I don’t know if mine are gay but she talks to her female friends all the time on the phone I remember she lied said she was on the phone with her sister but It was as her friends and when I tell her about it she get mad like when your dating somebody it’s hard to explain it but if she can’t talk to them she gets sad and she use to call me when she goes to work and she use to call me after she got off now she calls her friends

[@Smlychck15]

Excellent video!!! Thank you all for being so brave & vulnerable & for sharing your stories!!! ❤️

[@skylar2349]

How did you describe the shift to your young children? Might be an interesting video to focus on.

[@mixmastajan]

Going through this right now. Been with my wife for 9 years, the last two as husband and wife. One day she just left. Didn't say anything. She moved back in with her parents. I wanted to blame her for the pain she put me in, not realizing what she was going through. I went through the denial... And did therapy and then it just came to me. I've had close cousins who has came out before and they would talk to me about how hard it was to come out to the family. How everyone was just disappointed etc etc... And I realized that even though I am going through this pain... This person that I love is going through something even harder. And my love for her wanted me to be there for her. She is still my wife... And i wanted to help her even though it meant I'd be loosing her. Thanks for this video.

[@progressongs4346]

We love your channel and all your tips to other parents out there! We are so excited to subscribe to your channel. We believe our missions are very much aligned when it comes to inclusion.

[@maxlee6986]

Are there any ways to tell if a girlfriend is gay? I am currently dating a girl who used to be with a lesbian, I am really concerned.

[@jasonleewkd]

Be very careful. My current wife came out to me but she did tell me 6 years ago that she had same sex attraction. She's now in the exact same situation as rob and all. It's difficult for me.

[@maxlee6986]

@@jasonleewkd Thanks bro I have already broken up with her, cuz I can't stop worrying. I am sure you'll find the right one.

[@waula9948]

Dude breakup

[@ronsmith2241]

Everyone's situation is different. I am gay and my accepting wife had MS for 26 years. I cared for her almost all that time. We were married for 51 years. She passed last year 2022. I am now free to be the gay man I was created to be. But I am not looking for a husband. Too old now. All the best as you progress through your situation. The lesson is gays should not enter heterosexual marriages. The financial implications short and long term can be huge.

[@luckygezzi]

Im going through this right now. Im a wreak and literally alone. 18 years 3 kids. Im so scared.

[@kmaya1024]

OMG! I can't believe that Rob has been on this channel discussing his life and I know Rob from his current wife, Lauren's channel. This is such an important topic; I really appreciate the emotional awareness being exemplified here. . I can't believe Rob has crossed over on such different topics on my YT algorithm. If people want updates, it looks like co-parenting is going well and Rob has a new babe with his current wife Lauren who has a YT channel (Living Well w/ Schizophrenia)!

[@wasclit11]

I was wondering if there was an update. Don't see any recent videos. How has things worked out? How are the kids handling the changes? Hope all is well.

[@weakweek85]

My wife just came out saying she is bi and wants to open up our marriage. I’m not happy about the idea. I feel depressed and devastated. I kind of feel like the best bet is to leave

[@hedge1417]

Everything see on here indicates that the BI card is a stop along the way...that probably won't end well.

[@brokenheartofmexico4803]

My wife just came out today. I told her that I will be here for her and support her in her life choice. We still love each other and we're going to work through this together and take care of our child.

[@alive4627]

... unless it's a smokescreen for an affair with a male partner.

[@sethbonte5313]

Honestly I wish my wife would be true to herself. I think we could save our marriage if she was honest. I feel like we could remain married because we have a good thing but I know she doesn’t always appreciate heterosexual sex . I’m scared because she doesn’t need sex like I do and we go years without it. I really feel she is gay but we’ve built a life together. I hope it’s possible to remain married to someone who is sexually attracted to women but I feel she hasn’t been true to herself so this is weird and challenging

[@t2av159]

hahahahaha

[@shakiagriffith2898]

Rob I am so happy that you got a divorce, And I hope you find love again. But your ex wife, had manipulative and controlling attributes

[@DM-tc7ue]

why no update on them ?? it's been so long ?

[@darthvader3910]

God this shit is evil as hell. The number of families broken is just ridiculous

[@ideuseidolon]

LGBTQIA+ is meant to break the nuclear family unit after all. It is evil indeed.

[@Topsiekku]

It's sad that there is so much of this satanic work in people's hearts.

[@ryandimapilis2444]

Worst advice ever. Leave her, she's toxic. Take control of your life and start to realize that you can find someone better. Do not take her into consideration, it is all about you.

[@akillermtfa7350]

Facts bro

[@MrPTR91]

You're a lot nicer guy than I am. My ex-wife did the same thing last year. We do have a son and lucky for me he'll be a Senior in HS next year, so I won't or shouldn't have to deal with her very much more. I don't want anything to do with her. I lost my home, the home that I was paying for ( been staying in an extended stay motel for the last 6 months ) and she was obviously unfaithful as well and planned it out and I was oblivious. From what I saw she enjoyed seeing the hurt that she caused, but now wants to have a " new relationship? " Right! GTFOH! She got her freedom and I have mine, but I'm still processing this. It's for the best if we don't see each other again. Nothing good will come out of that. Trust me!

[@b0nni3.43]

Ross Geller: *I wish i had seen this sooner...*

[@donnaallgaier-lamberti3933]

How are your children? I sure hope they are well...I have watched you journey and I have been worried Abu the children all the way through....This is a LOt for children to bear....

[@themaskmandhaka3717]

I faced the similar situation.i married to my high school sweetheart and happily spent 13 years together.we have 2 kids.suddenly 2 years ago she said she's gay,she've been slept with more than 20 women during these years. now she wants divorce. I said "nah that won't happen. You are the mother of my child,i remain loyal all these years,never cheated on you and now you are sayin you're gay after all these years.you can sleep as many women as you want but definitely you'll never get divorce from me.at least not for the sake of our children.i'll make sure that they won't raise in broken family". First she hesitated but now we're fine.our kids doesn't know about it.we sleep in the same bed sometimes we do have sex but she have various girlfriends and i don't have any problem with that.

[@NiNGalaxU2]

I couldn't do it the way you handle it. Sorry for saying this but wow what a bitch. Coming out gay to your husband is already traumatizing but then also cheating on you is just beyond words. No sympathy for this woman. I hope you find someone else because you deserve it. It's not your fault and you have been loyal all this time.

[@jeremyhood1660]

Bro thank you so much for this video. My wife of almost 5 years wants a divorce after opening our marriage. She left me for the woman we were dating.

[@muradcumhur]

My partner went to a hen party 2 weeks ago and she told me that she is gay now, she just cut me out from her life all of a sudden, I do not understand she was so close to me she was calling me every day and sex was terrific too, now I am only able to see my son.

[@stevonniewolf2951]

I'm a bisexual transgender bigender. I want to transition but I'm not sure how far my personal gender identity is from being male. I'm okay with my little man down there but my chest and body hair give me emotional problems.

[@molotulo8808]

Your gay too

[@jimmadden6406]

NEED TO LOOK INTO STRAIGHT SPOUCE.ORG

[@theamazingnature2438]

Its called Lesbians not gays

[@jimmadden6406]

no its Called N.P.D.

[@darkhorse7460]

@@jimmadden6406 really? professionals don't usually ever diagnose over the internet, sounds a little biased to assume someone has a personality disorder because of their sexuality what's that called oh homophobic.

[@theamazingnature2438]

Gay wife?😅😅🤲👐

[@Topsiekku]

SHe believed Satan's lie then and rejected God.

[@jpalm500]

The government needs to do something about this. Punish the liars

[@jimmadden6406]

now that the dust has settled think about getting full custody of the uids and base it on her menrtal health issuse and the proof are on the videos that have been posted , just a way to put a little joy back in your life. and give the kids a stable homelife

[@darkhorse7460]

Bad advise. Being gay isn't a mental health issue people can still be great parents despite their sexuality if men that have affairs can still be great parents why wouldn't women who are gay be able to be a great parent that's not the children's best interest slow down and take your own self-interest or being offended out of the picture is that really the best for the kids they deserve their mom and dad

[@quinnblacklivesmatter]

Bless you for this. You're an awesome person